Reb Moishe Weinberger disconnecting with technology reconnecting with spouse and hashem

what [Music] just I want to give the last time I spoke here my GD wasn't great at all some years ago in the meantime I learned a little bit more yish but I still I apologize that I have to speak in English but I'm sure that by now even then everybody understands what I'm going to be speaking about speak of it I haven't been here in a long time and I'm very very happy that she called me to come back I have one memories from when I was here I want to share with you some har goes some feelings about where we are what's going on I'm not referring to current events I'm referring to our relationship with and I feel that I could speak very openly and honestly here there and that I'm talking to people whose hearts are open to receive these things everybody here knows that Theo used to go on all kinds of mysterious trips would go he would go to the and he would and he would point to this one to this one to that one and we're going and all kinds of stories thees went some to go each time they went there was some big mus some Li that wanted them to see otherwise his comings and goings were very mysterious and private but sometimes he took along some of the so it happened that it was once such a time and it was freezing freezing cold in the winter over there it gets very very [Music] cold Andes went and he chose some of the we going and they got into a sled and they went and they didn't know where they were going and they were going for a while and they came to a big lake Big Lake some place outside of m a big lake and and didn't know what the r wanted but thees said he wanted to go there onto the lake which had frozen over was frozen now there was a minut in those years maybe the peasants in in those places still do these things there was a minut in those places that when when it was the time of the Goa holidays in the winter that they would go ice skating they would go ice skating and the children would skate and they would etch into the ice the of and this was a big inion by them that they would go ice skating and and the K was for them to make these suras of in the ice to make it Salem in the ice that's what they used to do so obviously didn't want to see his holy eyes shouldn't see such a thing and the said I want to go over there you see there a lot of people there I want to go there said it's better not to go there go there and they came to that place with the sled they came over there and even the go were very surprised that the B was there and the children was sking and they were making in the ice they're making Sal they're making Salem in the ice and shes got off for this SL and he closed his eyes and he was standing there by this by this winter activity and none of the knew why they was standing there and stood for a few minutes with his eyes closed he was sharling and then afterwards he told everybody to get back into this SL they went back to me and obviously that was the purpose of the journey that's where they went took them to see on the ice the ice skating and making of in the eyes and they couldn't understand what that was so when they came back they asked thees to explain what that was and the says he didn't understand that was the whole point of how going you don't understand what that was he said the GU skating don't understand what that was so said this he said you know before that was before that was ice it was water and the said that the water water is the source of all life in this world they made a world where the water is for growing for planting and everything that we drink and we live everything comes comes from the wood but but that's as long as the water is flowing and it's warm but what happens what happens once the water gets [Music] frozen once there's once there's a care once the water freezes theem says it's just a matter of time until are etched into the eyes and said when people get married when people get married at the beginning so there are warm feelings there are good feelings and there's a in the relationship and very often the same two people who were living in a relationship with which was alive which was healthy which was good but somehow over time that River or that Lake of that that marriage became Frozen became Frozen there was a loss of feelings tell us means also kous coldness so once the winter comes into a marriage into a relationship so the bem said it's just a matter of time until the two people who once cared for each other are now hurting each each other are destroying each other we have children have children people have children the person a couple has a child is so excited everybody's so excited and then if you look ahead 10 12 years could be that in the relationship between the parents and the child somehow the winter is also set into that relationship and there that somehow has gotten into that relationship where there was once warm feelings and the flowing Waters that were alive and that now somehow it's become Frozen and all of that of course is only a maral there only emo relationship we wanted to teach know this says that not only is there we don't know what these things mean say not only is there there also what say there's something that's called it's hard to think of right now it's hot does mean again we don't know that means we know that it's not good so the say that means the tius that a person has that are inappropriate that are wrong there's a fire that burns inside of a person and those fires that are not right those fires that are Unholy that are impure that come from the CPUs and the that those fires bring upon the person after 120 this of fire but then there's something that's called a geh a g of snow of ice and I think in our generation there are many many people who before 120 are living in this Gehan of sh it's a g of it's a gam where a husband and wife have lost feelings for each other not that they got for bit B to each other necessarily although sometimes that tum gets into the ice parents and children I I remember many years ago I went to a big s in Williamsburg to speak to him about something was bothering about my son is fine married at the time I was a little bit worried I think we've been through that many of us have been through that I was a little bit worried and I went to speak to this salic and I poured my heart out and he took me to the window and he pointed out the window and I didn't know what he was doing it took 2 3 minutes and he says you see the seed I said yeah I said this seed that just passed by the seed that just I said yes looks like a fine Jew last week this y's son hit him slapped his own father across their face this year and he says wait wait wait wait and we I stood by the window with him for 5 minutes he was quiet he said look look he says to me look give a kick look over there see this SE yeah this seat has two children that left the house that are not in the house and then he sat down he spoke to me to give me some a career is a that people live in children are growing up in a without the kind of warmth without the kind of fire that they used to feel and then when it comes to when it comes to our relationship with we're living in a big big winter a long long winter with when I say we doesn't mean everybody when it comes to I'll give an example when it comes to to D the say there are three Madre you have a Madre of a person doesn't even notice doesn't even realize that he's ding sometimes you can be on a Friday night and you're tired and you're not so tired you don't Friday night you don't remember which which parish of creation you're up to you don't know you got you know that the words sounds familiar but you're not sure which par you're not really you're not really focused at all on where you are that you're you're not thinking that you're D you could be in the middle of sh and the mind is in so many different things which the person's mind is so far away you know the gave him B welcome back from and he said I've never been outside of maybe a few little but I certainly have never been to said you you dreaming about buying and selling in the bigid in the big fair in life I just wanted to welcome you back to B you were very far away during sh you like so one m is with a person is not even thinking that he's D doesn't even think that he's d looks like this a little bit the I don't have to tell you what's going on you see what's going on some of you are holding back from taking out the machines for this few minutes and this is everywhere across the board you go to May you go you go in Manhattan you go Brooklyn everywhere it's across the board in another world in another world that's one M there's another M A person who knows that he's daving he remembers that he's daving but he's not listening to the words that he's saying or that she's saying not paying attention to the words just saying the words just saying the words that's why a person can do different things even though normally they the women say that the men don't know how to do two things at one time you know a woman can take care of the baby do other things men usually have a hard time with that I forgot what they call it there a multitasking I think something like that multitasking men have a hard time women can do a few things at the same time men usually can do only one thing at a time even that's not so good vality but multitasking for sure not for sure but when it comes to it's an amazing thing how a person can D and do different things at the same time every man can do such a thing can do can and can do different things and can think about two things at the same time like the ra the ra you know these were people that had people that could do could think about three four different things at the same time by daving everybody is a everybody is when it comes to so that's a second M but at least this at least he's daving and he knows he's standing in he's standing in ding but he's not paying attention to the words that he's saying then you have another M the S saying you have a person who's talk listening to the words this is very good he's listening to the words and you know what he might even be touching the words now days you can get all kinds of good sedor with English translating from into the English translating from the you can get all kinds of SP books in English and Hebrew and yish and Russian and French and Spanish explaining and what all the ding is all about and how beautiful is and how is you can get everything the only problem is that the person this person is already where he knows he's Ding and he's thinking of the words he might even be thinking of a good in what he's saying and he heard good he heard a good V in Ding and what it means the only problem is he's not thinking about with whom he's speaking he's not thinking of the he's thinking of a he's thinking he's thinking of what the is remember years ago I spoke here in the mountains in the bungle count to a large group of women was before TI and and there was after this it was a talk about Ding and there was a woman that came to me and she said after the she she said she wanted to say something about her mother about how her mother died and she said that when she was growing up she always noticed that when her mother her mother was a Survivor from the old alheim she saw that when her mother would D she would always have a finger in this in the s in the master she had a finger in the S and and and she was looking at the ding and she would F like this in the diving then she would every now and then when she was diving she go like this a little bit higher than the S and then she would come to and then she'll go like this she go like this and then again and when she got older she said she asked her mother what are you how are you ding like that with her what are you doing so she says that I don't every time I come to to the name of H I like to touch the name when I come to hm's name you you can't teach that in school that's that's sensitivity that feeling of being that feeling of being of a devotional my father's told me my father's from a place I don't know if you ever heard of it's called I don't know if you heard of it a place my father told me that he remembers when he was at home that there wasn't a night when he would go to sleep where he wouldn't hear his mother either saying oring and the way that she used to say it and the way that she used to talk to even during the day she would say things to she would hear he would hear how she would talk to hm's there was a very very very strong sense not only that a I'm D B I understand what I'm saying but most importantly C to whom I talk it could be that this lady's mother didn't understand didn't understand what it means now how I'm not going to test any of us on that either what does it mean the words what does it mean could be she didn't know most likely she didn't go most know most of those most of those women didn't go to some school and she didn't learn what it she didn't know what it meant but she knew who she was talking to and she felt a relationship with the one who she was talking to with the is to feel and to sense the presence of there's a beautiful sentence that's found in one of the letters of the k he wrote in a letter to a student of his it was a big lambon he wrote to him I don't think I have to T it to you everybody knows here the the main thing is remember you're sitting in your learning 12 hours a day 13 hours a day remember for who are you doing all of this for whose sake are you doing all of this why are you doing this what's the T what's the purpose of all that you're doing it's WR down that once the gave out instruction C that he wanted every single man woman and child to come to the big sh and it was like a Tuesday or something it wasn't that he hunted everybody should come to sh and is is already a larger place and and there were thousands of people in the sh outside the sh on the streets they didn't know what they ever wanted and they were afraid maybe who knows there's something bad that he saw coming up and why everybody came together and and it came to the time said and he went up to the beam and he was was wearing a tow over his head and they didn't know what was going on and the B just looked at it he looked around for a minute and he said to everybody you don't forget don't forget that there don't forget there who was he talking to he was talking to find Jews he was talking the Jews who probably put on Thomasville who went to the mikah every day who will learning who find upstanding eloh but the B was already feeling back then so long ago the coldness of that icy lake in the Ukraine in that's why why do he send the life of into the world if not if not to thow the Frozen River if not to bring us back to that relationship withes which is is what said now let me explain this a little bit let me explain a little bit how could it be the Jews who are keeping every try to keep every and not only that but they keeping old them and hugging tried to keep old them and hugging nowadays people keep much better than they keep and said that if it would say certain things that it was only if it wouldn't say only say that it was a minute of somebody's re did that it would be much better you have all kinds of schoolers like it says brought down it's brought down know himself said but when it comes to the school of not speaking says it says that's not so much that's SCH it's an easiest school to go for 30 seconds so we're living in a time where people are be all and they're very very careful when it comes to the with all they try to keep every minute and yet when it comes to what says for who are you working what's the T of all of this here there's a big problem there the the t is explaining the which we just L which means to return to come back so the over there asks what does it mean the what does it mean to return to you could only return to someone when what when it's possible to go away from someone but there is no place where hasem is not there Hashem is BR us everywhere so the T he asks a very basic question what does it mean to return to what does it mean to do CH what does it mean to come back him obviously we have an answer for this but the goes into very much into pus and the tiny explains in a very very beautiful and deep way that there are two types of relationships there are two types of relationships one relationship is called P or in yesterday's face to face that's one relationship the time he says another relationship is called back to back there's a relationship that's called p face to face but two people are looking at each other in the eyes and there's a relationship that's called back to back now the T explains over there I'm using my own M to explain the says but you look look you'll see there but I'm using my own and he speaks but the simple simple explanation of what's beneath the explanation of t for people like us is you could have L going back to relationship between people you could have two people they live in the same home they share the same address for 30 40 50 years and they have children they have a family they have and I did you take care of this did you call that but the whole relationship is is back to back it's not P because P like it says you know that when you when you care for somebody when you look when you when you love somebody you look at that person in the eyes we're living in a time where people can't do that even during a she like this right now there are people who can't even look at me in the eyes and I'm not a threat at all I'm going to leave here in a few minutes never going to see oh how will see each other good places you can't look at me in the eyes you could talk nowadays to a person and while you're talking to him I kick that H in the hair he's already looking other places and if he's not if he has nobody he knows in the room then he's ready he hear something here he's buzzing here it's going like that that if this guy would walk out in the rain he would get electrocuted he's got so much going on and and he's and he's got all those machines and why you talking to him I've seen this time while you're talking to the guy he's looking at something going up and down I seen this I don't know if you've seen this if you've ever done this yourself I've seen this already not only by this is a long time for that you see by by the which if you learn this you know what's the meaning of the biggest This World by and you see people sitting by the up and down looking CU you walk and you see the P you know it's dark and you see The Shining faces of the people sitting by the H I've seen this s by eyes the first time I saw wasn't just by I saw I saw even by the Kevin somebody stating maybe a little bit more than from the K he was like this like not from the find out there another sh you understand standing by the Kev because who knows what's going on in the stock market he's standing by the Kevin he can't even be in that place in in that time of his life he can't even be he can't even be in such a way at that time him means that you have a relationship you're able to talk to some you're able to look at the person in the eyes the person is important to you what he's saying means something to you you want to condem NE to that person there's his in the T itself talks about the difference between between a stranger or even a rebi teaching Tor to the boy and the father teaching t to the boy and the Tanya says that when the father learns with his son it's in the way of his and his means and that's how not when someone's talking to you you look at your machine you're looking in a safer when someone talks to you you look at them in their eyes that's a relationship their parents and children that they're together 10 15 20 years they love each other 100 everybody loves everybody everybody loves everybody but it's not P it's not real it's shallow it's superficial it's empty they talk about Nish K and when each one's talking they look looking here and they're looking here and where do I have to go to what I have to do but not face to face that's a relationship of a of love that's a relationship of his SC with his a not a relationship with a holding on to a Blackberry or a cell phone while you're talking to somebody or two Fones I'll be with you in a minute but to always say to the child yeah yeah yeah minut a minute a minute and to live that way and we're living our lives in a way that's not P upon that's called the says back to back could be the same two feet away but it's a world of indifference two different relationships a relationship of P upon when someone talks to you you talk you look in the eyes you talk you discuss you try to see what's that person thinking what is that person feeling you heard of the said I'll tell you I learned what it means I learned in a a bar from two drunken Russian peasants what it means to love a Jew what's that so the re said that I I was once going and I had to stop over there with the my trip and I went into a crch and I come there and these two G are drinking the two Russians are drinking and one says the other eigor Ian whatever they're called one says to the other Igor do you do you love me so he says to him friends for 25 years 30 years best friends of course I love you so they make have a drink again pour a drink he asks him again you love me I told you a friend's best friends 30 years this happens a few times they don't had to hold their liquor over there and then finally Ivan says to Ego you don't really love me he says why are you staying there I told you were're best friends for so many years he says he don't love me because if you love to me you would know right now what's hurting me what's missing in my life you don't have a mus you don't understand what's hurting me right now in my life you know how many wives feel that way you know how many times I've sat in my office in this School in New York and I have a husband wife they they come talk to me she calls me can we come to of course come they come and and while and while they're sitting in front of me I'm not saying this happened once and I'm not saying twice dozens and dozens of times over the years it doesn't always work this way I would say 90% this is how it looks 90% what happens is they sit down he's looking like this looking at my swor looking at the stor oh oh he's looking at this far and then he looks also at his thing a little bit looks at the watch and I'm waiting for somebody to say after something to say what's going on they wanted to talk to me so I'll turn to the man cuz I figured that's the most uh Snee way to start so I'll say to the guy why did you come I'm telling you the truth this is my business I do this for a living 90% of the time this what happens I don't know she wanted to come doesn't even say her name hey I don't know she wanted to come so then I go over to she okay do you know why you came if both of you don't know why you came then we finished why did you come so she can't believe it she's looking at him I can't tell if I had a camera to take pictures of this she looks at him and she says she can't believe it she say my you don't know why I wanted to come because no why don't you say why why we had to come she says you don't know why he said no no I know you're upset you're upset she's upset he says why I don't I don't take care of things I don't make a FASA I don't do what I I don't help with the children and she's just shaking her head the whole time and she'll say something like no you make a very nice pronounce and you help with the children come well be help for the children yeah you're not a bad guy but I have to tell you I was looking for something else in our relationship and that you don't understand at all you don't have a sense at all of what I'm talking about and he sits he say he gets uncomfortable he I don't know what it is I try to be nice and she and and and he doesn't get it he doesn't get it when she trying to tell him is that for the last 20 years you're nice to me we have you make a p you're good to the children but a little bit a little bit p p I'm talking to you straight I'm talking to you p p a little bit p p a little bit heart sick a little bit something real to have between us yeah pick up the kids and do this and get that you know the told us how he feels we don't need to figure it out the says the T brings a what does that mean it means that we turn our back we turn our back so T says you look the there's relation Rel that's what he's talking about doesn't mean that a Jew doesn't keep we're not talking about we're not talking about someone put every day so what does it mean means that yes you keep Shas and yes you put on Trill and you do all of the chores around the house and you give a lot of and you and you you go to the and you D every day three times a day you do what you're supposed to do just like husband wife he says I don't do what I'm supposed to do and she says yeah you do what you're supposed to do so what's wrong so says and means that I was hoping when I gave you the Torah when I gave you the Tor in such a way says I wanted to have not only that you do what I tell you not only that I do and you do and that we have jobs and chores but I want there should be Cas I want there should be a closeness there should be a Cas should be a upon upon this should be with a herish with a feeling with a connection with a drers and that's missing and that's what that woman is crying about in the office she's saying you know what I'm happy to cook I'm happy to clean I'm happy to do everything all the that it says the M that I'm supposed to do I'm happy to do everything but after a while you begin to feel like a if a person doesn't look at you p a person doesn't give you the respect the the love a feeling that there's a relationship upon Him upon him after a while you feel like a and that's for a good husband I'm not talking a bad person sometimes it's the other way I'm only saying 90% I didn't say the so it's emotial because all of our relationships in this world are emotial to our relationships they turn their backs to me they keep all the MIT they do what they're supposed to do which is you shouldn't take that for granted that's a big inion and everything goes on the scorecard the big scorecard everything goes on the scorecard but the says I was hoping for more I was hoping for a different kind of ding not only to TCH the words but to also think about who you're speaking to I was hoping that should be more a relationship upon upon him because the tell us there are two types of two basic types of there's that's called means intell and there's that's called I guess we can translate as experiential feel and when this who told me that he met a person in y who wrote a 500 page book a professor in y who wrote a 500 page book on the High original on the original you had a 500 page book a study of the original's life and teachings about a book on the Orion and it happens and this person is sh the one who wrote the book he teaches in the Hebrew University I think and he's sh Miss and he wrote a book on the so this person who I know met this fell he was introduced to him and they were talking and he said that he wrote a book on the vision wow he wrot 500 pages on the vision he says tell me something did you ever go to to a Tish we have here in there's A's a be the do you ever go to a dis he there's a you ever go to a Tish he says no no no that's not so here he writes a 500 page book about you understand like somebody writes a book that's called the Encyclopedia of love but he never loved anybody so this person writes an encyclopedia On the Origin he never even went once to a Tish he never felt once what it's like to sit there byic he never never never gave a committal you understand he's a professor in he's a professor in the original he became a maven in the original he never once never for out the original which not M the original he never once even want to sit by a dis nowadays to have even the slightest for it means which is hard for us to understand but he writes an encyclopedia on Origin because there are two types of intellectual Faith which means that you don't really feel that you don't really live with it's something that you know about and you think about the fact that you know something does not mean that you have it means that you know that this is something which is good but it doesn't mean that you feel it at all it doesn't mean that any of that ice in the relationship between you and has melted that's called it means to know something what's with a with a feeling that's point of a upon and means I'll tell you what it means the was once with a big Lambda and the L was wanted to know what the's definition of what's am what's am l call L Professor now profess so he what does it mean by you what's what's you tell me so Lon said there a she Hol like this and like that and says like this says like that and he goes through the and he gave a half hour 40 minute lecture what's and he says andab what's how do you define am and says I don't know all of these things says I'll tell you what right the feeling that I had when my mother was holding me in her arms that I trusted that she would never dropped me that I was next to her and that she loved me that's my that's what it means now you know going we knew all of that but the London the definition of what I understand what I think that's that's all good it's very good to know to know terrific but says tell me what does it mean means that feeling of trust and love that feeling that my mother's holding me and I don't have to worry about anything that's said that's what a is to me that's what a is to me so how do we cross over it's only 5 minutes left I'm talking too much how do we cross over I everybody's busy here today I know it's going I don't know what to do how do you cross over from and this will work with relationships as well but we don't have time to go into that we're talking right now so of course you don't need me to tell you any of this and everybody here knows that the give us many many AES I'm only going with what I saw and what I see by my mother and my father they should be well and I heard about and what I saw from a little bit that was to see and there's no time to go into it and to start quoting from the SW and so on and so forth we don't have time it's very simple because we're talking about something very simple when a person is about to do something instead of just saying the words he says I'm giving you an example I know that your m is here with me this second your m is here with me this second and I know that you're listening to me and I know that you love me and I know I know that if you want me to be what I'm going to do now what I'm going to do now if you want me to be I'll be and if you don't want me to be I won't be therefore asking that I should be H the I should be worthy in your eyes to be my now I've heard my parents talk this way not those exact words I made it a little bit more sophistic you also heard this I'm not the only one that heard this we come from similar places to talk a certain way says but a person during the course of a day every single day of his life doesn't go a half hour should be really shouldn't be 15 minutes a half hour out without talking to the not just the way and I'm not talking here about all that means I'm talking about just plain and simple wrote about I'm not talking about deep things the only way that one can begin to have a relationship with if you can give me if you can give me five more minutes I'm going to tell you something you know they had a big there's there's a big tumul right now about everything that's going on with the internet everybody knows this I can say and I'm proud to say in front ofes I never ever touched in my life I never touched the keyboard of a computer and I don't intend to help me I hope you doubt for me I never touched it in my life all right I'm not I'm not I'm I'm not in sales you understand I don't I don't people that have to I have to but I never touched but I deal every single day with people who are being destroyed by it and and there's a big big need obviously for all kinds of new technology and new filters to protect to protect AAS from from what's going on but I wrote an article about this and I got some people upset and I've been talking about this for the last couple of years and I find it to be unbelievably frustrating because my feeling is that's that the main point is is is being glossed over missing the main point and I'm not smarter than anybody I'm just trying to talk to people like myself to understand whether this is crazy you have to have whatever filters you can have and whatever a there is to use whatever there's no question but it says don't behave like it goes on the turn to keep all the that a person should do and live in them and then the T goes on and says then the go the of not doing things you're not allowed to do men and women so what's the question so the Torah over here is telling us the par of eyes you can't do this you can't do that why is it the gives to the why is gives to say you can in the of Shas you can you can in the of you can say any you like over here the why learns that is talking about that if you keep the youn like that telling you those talking of what meaning it's talking about this world says the next world if you be a good boy and a good girl after 120 doesn't like that says that means that in the MX that you keep in this world in the fine it's talking about this world and the to be with so why does it say that the why doesn't it say that is thing and then the whole so I think that the Torah is telling us something very very clear the Torah is telling us that if you're and you don't want to come into that not God forbidden person and not on some machine you could buy all the filters in the world you could you could have more filters than than the computer I don't even know I never saw filter is you could do all of these things and when it comes down to it it'll help it could help but when it comes down to there's only one to be a and not to fall into these things and that is what is that of what but if your is without if your is empty and dry without any life if your is it's not the same way you could have a husband or wife when it's can look at other things and other people other women because there's no but when there's listen to the ra the ra says at the end the says that a heart that is empty of that mind that heart that is empty of drifts off into the world of our eyes so for years on begging and screaming I'm talking to my I understand get all the filters but if you don't have a relationship with if yourish is boring is like the the lake back in that's frozen over [Applause] then then you can have a person who goes to the mik in the morning and an hour after the mik he's already finished ding an hour afterward he's already cheating somebody in business where's the Bon he's ready dishonest in business that by the Govern we have a reputation of being dishonest people that I had somebody told me he won't do any business in a certain Jewish neighbor unless they give him right on the spot because he has to otherwise beg for three four years to get paid a guy told this to me who was delivering something to the sh cuz I said how they were asking half the pen he says over here we could talk but I'm over there I deliver I only take cash because you know what cuz I'm it's all kinds of games I have with them all the years and so you can say that's not dis he's not in or maybe he is but that's not an argument for now how is it possible because he keeps this he goes to the there's one thing that's missing will you steal will you take where you dishonest you make all kinds of games because 80 years ago our parents were living in Europe and the Govern doing this to them and that to them therefore we're going to take from everybody and what's the explanation if you're if you're living with and you feel Mish you feel that his m is here with you you can't touch somebody else's money it's a girl you can't look at something that's not yours you can't look at the internet who would see who would look at such a thing who would look at such a thing who's interested who's interested in that the says a heart that's empty a person who's not attached to he's open to anything wide open so now we going to do what filters what about filter inside here how do you make a filter inside of here you can't buy that in the store you can't order it online a filter inside of here that's a filter inside of here that you can't buy everybody here knows with was with there's a par that came to the and and he was very very sick and you know the B was famous to cure people and the PS went to the B and said he was very sick the looked at me said listen to me he said to the P you're doing all kinds of disgusting things and that's making you sick meaning G in and it's making you sick so you know and and and RAB says you don't you're not tempted to do these things you know you don't have a TI to do these things and he was sitting there with his grandson the and said to the guy he said no I'm an old man I don't have I'm an old man the PIR understood he walked away and then the re asked his grandfather he said why did you tell why didn't you tell him the truth why did you tell the guy that you're an old man you don't have TI Why did you tell him why don't you tell him the truth that you that you m why don't you tell the truth that why don't you tell the go so said I'm going to explain a understand what it means to be a and he told us many years said and understands what a is understands but if you're not tapping into that then every fil in the world when it comes down to it if it's a bad day and you're having a hard time and it didn't go so good with the life at that time in your life and every fil in the world is not going to save you there's only one thing that's going to save you and that's a and that's that's if your is talk and you live with him every minute of the day and you care about him you think about him you talk to him every minute of the day this is what got me into trouble because it sounded like I was saying something against the filters or against yif or something so I'm not against anything that could help that's not the point the point is that our children from the time that they're little they have to feel that there a very and they have to hear their parents talk our parents spoke and to feel that and to see that and it should be part of their lives otherwise what's going to be from now if they have these machines now what's going to be come soon what's going to be with other machines and new machines every week they put on a new machine so we're running around with new filters no wait wait here's a new filter for that new machine but when it comes down to it when you buy yourself who's going to help you it was always the same thing and in early Generations they also had they didn't have it was always one answer the answer is the answer is the answer is that's why it's in the then you all come to the next let me end and tell you a story for a minute I'm sorry it's late I wrote this story in that article I heard this from my daughter s she should be well I don't think it ever happened but it's a beautiful story and it's AO many years ago the 1800s there was in London they had a big competition to recite poetry they like to do that I know they still do that Americans like to play football and the British like to recite poetry so they had a a poetry recital it means that they have people competing and they say poems the judges give them poems and each one gets up and he says you know you know how British people always s intelligent even they're saying something that's not intelligent so they have to recite a poem each one recites a poem and and then the judges decide who's the winner okay so this gone on for a long time hundreds and hundreds of people in this big Auditorium and they have this poetry each time a different poem and it comes down to it to the it comes down to a couple of finalists to a few finalists and and now it comes down to these finalists the last three the judges assigned the poem what the poem the 23rd psalm we call that the 23rd is my shepherd so they go they go oh the Lord is my shepherd I shall not want though I go in the fields of pastures they say the whole poem each one so there's a young guy and he was M he said it so beautiful and when he was finished everybody is cheering and it was clear hands down this was the win okay the judges are about to give the prize all of a sudden all of a sudden from the back of the auditorium they hear somebody calling out with a heavy Eastern European accent judges judges can you let me try and they see there was an old Jew with a Long White Beard could you let me try so you know they're very proper over there at least then they were and uh they thought it would be an interesting way to end the evening yeah so they said all right okay Rabbi you want come so the he goes over there and he stands over can't believe this these G sitting there and he starts to say in broken broken English all kinds and he says the in the beginning they had like this little smile by the time that by the time he's finished the people that are crying they're so moved by it they're crying and Silent they give the they give the prize to the uh to the young guy and and everybody's walking out and and the young guy runs after the the old Jew the winner runs after the old Jew and he says you know Rabbi the truth is that the that the prize belongs to you you're the winner so the rabbi said I wasn't in the competition you did a beautiful job you won I wasn't in the competition so the young guy said the go said tell Rabbi why is it that when I when I said the 23rd psalm why is it that when I said that everybody was clapping but when you said it the people were crying why is that so the old Jew said to him you know you did a nice job but there's a very big difference between me and you he says what's the difference so the Jew said so I know the sheph hasm Ro hasem is my shepherd I know him we have a c we have a relationship that's the difference we can live our lives either as reciting or we can live that is our Our Father our that's the choice that the whole comes down to this should help us these last few minutes of now in a good time of the year it's a time each and every one of us that we should to know the truth and to live the truth of to see that day for