Rav Yitzchak Breitowitz: The Three Miracles in Sarah's Tent and the Beit HaMikdash

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connected and in any given idea there's infinite depth so like any road you choose to go down in any Dar Torah you'll always have the problem of the road not travel right there'll always be infinite roads that they know ultimately they ultimately converge because they are all the reflection of the Infinity of God's but at least in you know we're going down this road so we don't have that road Etc so I don't know why for me always this para in particular this is true for anything in Torah any gor any any any para of the it's true everything in Torah but for some reason this para has always strikes me uh even more so than other par out um I always have this great uh uncertainty of what to talk about where to focus on because there is such a richness and also there's there are many ethical problems in this par as well in which we try to reconcile uh as it were the morality of the Torah which is hashem's Will with what we feel and obviously our feelings don't count as much as's feelings but still we try to reconcile it and we run into problems in which we don't always understand uh what is going on so these are very very complicated uh part out but I want to start off really with actually a thought from last week because it is ultimately going to be connected last week we read about the sh of Rifka and right remember y was the only one of the Patriarchs who did not make his own and he was not allowed to leave ER Israel because he was Sanctified as a Corban so in a sense he was very passive in this and Rifka was brought to him and it says that after they were married Yak brought her into the tent of Sora his mother and he loved her so rers points out that we often assume and maybe in most cases it is that way that love precedes marriage right I marry somebody because I love them in the case of Y we see specifically that only after they were married and he brought her into the tent of Sarah there was love and her first points out that this is really a lesson in life that the true love comes from building a home together building a bias together meaning any love you have before marriage is in the nature of a prediction and a hope which could very well be wrong but you know you're hoping you know looks like this is going to workm it'll work sometimes not uh that's also be either way uh but the point is the true love comes from the striving to build a bias and then we love each other so that's one number that's first point that the love the ior love comes after marriage the second point is a very fascinating uh thought that Rashi communicates in the name of the medish and Rashi says that in the tent of SAR IMU there were three Miracles that existed uh there was a miracle that the naos that she lit in honor of shabas kodesh continued to burn the entire week just like right until they were relit before chabas there was a braa in her Isa in the dough that she made there was some type of characteristic that you felt full and satiated and satisfied and that was a miracle so to speak that her food just kept you going and the third was there was a Cloud of Glory over her tent that symbolized the and when saru died all of those three Sim left as great as Abraham was he could not sustain that level of kadua without Sor and when little Rifka according to kazal three years old another opinion is 14 years old when she came in all of the Miracles of SAR IMU came back there was a br in the do the n was May shabas shabas there was over thee over the O and that's the meaning of he brought her into the tent of SAR his mother that in a sense although marriage counselors will tell you A man should not marry his mother so I don't mean it in that sense but in the spiritual sense that Rifka was a sh shot she was a link in the chain that would perpetuate the kadosa of saru this is a comment that Rashi makes from the medish so I want to just extend it a little bit that some Sor point out that the three miracles of the tent of s actually correspond to three Miracles that existed in the mishan and later in the B mikdash the N the candle that was lit May of shabas of shabas remember there was a manur in the B mik that was lit every day it had seven candles it was lit every day and although we always think of the Kaneka story in which the candles burned for eight days but the truth of the matter is when we were on a Madre of Holiness there was one n that also never went out that was the n tamid one out of the seven that it would be lit the truth is they did put it out every day but it never burnt out by itself uh it was always lit lit it kept on going then they would have to blow it out and relight it but Lisa it never went out on its own and therefore the corresponds to May Shas The in the dough corresponds to the showbread the upon him that was baked on Friday it was put on the gold table thean him would not eat it until next chabas next chabas when it would be replaced by the bread by new bread and it was still warm and fresh warm and fresh that's the braa in the D and The Cloud of Glory of course corresponds to the fact that over the mishkan there was a Cloud of Glory an now what's the significance of that in other words the point is there's a correlation between the three miracles of sora's tent and the Bas of mishkan and later the B mikdash the lesson is that the true sanctuary of God the true basa mikdash is the Jewish Home and the relationship of husband and wife in other words the B mikash is just a replication it's an imitation it's a model of the Holiness of the tent of our and Sarah which means a Jewish married couple has to regard their home as the Bas Mikes you know it's not a clich I mean it is a cliche but you know the truth of the matter is uh things that are cliches are almost always true that's why they become cliches because they're said a lot because they're emis that the most important institution in Judaism is not the sh not the Yeshiva it is the home that is why Hally when a Jewish Community is established the first institution we are supposed to have is a mikah because a Mikvah enables the relationship of husband and wife now that doesn't mean I don't mean Hally you know if you're starting a new neighborhood in Baka you got to have a new Mikvah I mean there are existing mikas but if you came to a a new place in which there was nothing the first thing you got to have is a Mikvah even before a show andal tell us is when there's a husband and a wife who live with Shalom the divine presence is there we sometimes uh don't understand how elevated how holy marriage is and you have to understand that this is independent of having children yeah having children is a Mitzvah and a Braha and a wonderful wonderful thing but the kadua of marriage is not limited to the fact that there's children even in the relationship of husband and wife alone there is sanctity there is greatness there is contusion you know I sometimes uh correspond with with families that are going through the very great struggles of infertility and indeed there's there's a lot of pain there's a lot of pain I mean these are people who are righteous people people Shay you know Etc uh they keep all the Mitzvah and they struggle with the loneliness of of not having a child Etc especially when the diagnosis seems to be you know more or less final and of course there are opportunities there's adoption there different opportunities that exist in the world but part of the message I I try to communicate uh which sometimes is accepted sometimes emotionally not accepted is is that building the marriage itself is an act of creating a b Mikes that brings Hashem and joy and makes a place in this world for the to exist and we see this by the correlation between the B Mikes the mishkan and the three miracles of SOS that was one uh point that I wanted to bring out another point is so Rifka is married to y Y is 40 years old Rifka according to is either three or some say 14 uh there is a great discrepancy in age between Rifka and Y yit married a much much much younger woman just as a little aside the it siiv has a fascinating observation which is so like almost like modern psychology you know the hav he actually says that the N contrast the relationship of ab and Sarah with the relationship of and RKA you know s was very upfront SAR did not hold anything back SAR was not subtle when they had a problem with yesel SAR just goes to AR and says hey we got a problem here we got to do something about this and AR was hesitant and Hashem said whatever SAR says you got to do she is greater than you in Thea when Rifka faces almost a very very parallel situation where good son bad son bad influence and Y wants to favor you know the asov and we'll talk about that in more detail in in a few moments and uh so Rifka doesn't have a conversation with about hey you know this asab is not as good a guy as you might think he is uh maybe you ought to reconsider rather she has to create a ruse she has to create a trick he has to create a deception and again we we'll discuss in a few moments some deeper levels to that but then it was just speaking as a marriage counselor here and he's pointing out that SAR directly confronts aam about these family problems Rifka needs to do it in a very indirect way and the N suggests that RKA was in awe of Y Rifka saw number one y was much older number two y was otherworldly in a sense y was the AA y was the sacrifice of course if you remember last week I mentioned the great cabalist Malala amuk who actually says based on a zo that y was actually killed he was in Hab for three years and he came back he's like huh yeah yeah um I said last week I said two years but I actually looked at my says three years but okay uh yeah um but either two or three whatever it would be uh so came back from the Dead uh imagine so the N says Rifka was in awe of him awe of his Holiness his otherw worldliness so the N points out that uh this can sometimes give rise to different problems that husbands and wives have to be able to communicate and this was an interesting example of uh what can happen when people do not communicate so that's an interesting idea as well but be as it may Rifka was an AAR she was unable to have children and the says that and Rifka both prayed and it says Hashem listened to the prayer prayers of so Rashi points out it says they both were praying Rifka was praying and Y was praying so why does God listen to the prayers of Y more than the prayers of Rifka so Rashi says because Y is aad Ben sadik is aad the son of aad Abraham Rifka is aad she of course is a righteous woman but she comes fromia she comes from B so the prayer of a sadic the son of aad is much greater than the prayer of aad the son or the daughter of a Russia uh because essentially the sadic Ben sadic Builds on the merits of the prior generations and that's why hasem listen to the prayer of yeah it's a famous rash so the question people ask is well I would think it's the opposite sadic been sadic okay so uh you're you're righteous because your father was righteous that's how you were raised everything's fine but Rifka to be a righteous woman when she's raised in such a perverse corrupt idolatrous environment that's a greater achievement if anything we ought to say the prayer of a sadic the son or the daughter of AR Russa should be greater it's a much greater spiritual achievement so why is sadic Ben sadic better so in the name of the alter of Kellum the old man of Kellum who who is reant probably closest helmet one of the greatest of the Bali mus says Ah here is the point we know that each of Theos served KES in a different and unique way Abraham served Hashem through loving kindness y served Hashem through prayer and sacrifice a right says the three pillars are Torah and Yakov who we'll see later spent 14 years in the ISA of Shame and a without sleeping represents Torah each of our avice did not simply imitate or follow their predecessor each of their oi serves Hashem in a unique and distinct way that's why they're ofice because each one paved a unique path says the altar of Kellum if you look at the notion of a sadic as not somebody who is simply imitating uh what was done before them but who finds a new creative Pathway to serve God the aod ofad is actually harder meaning if you're born into a family of rashim as soon as you know the MS you know you got to break away and Do Your Own Thing a there's no choice there but if you're sadad the easiest thing in the world would have been for y just to follow Abraham the easiest thing in the world would have been just to be a Ben sadic so says the altar of Kum to be a sadic in your own right when your father is a sadic is even a greater accomplishment uh than to be a sadic in your own right when your father is a Russia because sadic Ben sadic right so that's an interesting point of not being an imitator you know it's interesting I heard from my own rashash very interesting story my own rashash of Yakov rudderman who was nifter a long time was nifter in the 1980s he was a very very close he and rako kineski were cousins uh and they both were very very very very close to the great altar of slatka who's one of the great greatest the column of Bal muser is almost demeaning him I mean he was really one of the greatest psychologists of the Nish just he understood what made people tick what what influenced them uh what they would be come I mean he typically would look at a kid who was 19 and say what what what is he going to be in 20 years I mean just all of those different things and he was always I mean he was always right anyway uh the alar ofat had many many disciples and one of his T became one of the dominant dominant masim in Europe pre- warit who was the Mas of Rim was a great phenomenal Baler and uh R said he once heard the alar of going to R and giving him giving for an for over an hour telling rim rim was so charismatic everybody tried to every Tom tried to be like Rim he says you're creating cookie cutters you're creating imitations of yourself that's what a rebi does that's what Abal mus does Abal mus is supposed to create clones of himself you're supposed to mold individuals you're supposed to be responsive and rman pointed out R Who himself was the the greatest Mas in Europe was listening to that muser for an hour rever him and said if I would speak to any of my t that way a fraction of that way they would walk out and leave the ISA like immediately they they they couldn't bear it they wouldn't stand for it they they you know how dare I talk to them that way and yet the great God R took that mus from the altar ofka quite quite quite amazing the truth is the sign of a great Baler is that they want they're happy to receive criticism and muser and not just give it you know it says in peros that one of the 48 qualities of acquiring Torah is you love mus you love to so some people interpret that to me oh I love to give sure the meaning of the passage is not that you love to give means you love to receive it you want to grow from it you want to take in that's a very difficult me again I I'm not suggesting uh it's easy for me I have I have difficulties as well uh but when you're that comes from a humility and a desire to grow but coming back to this thought the altar of kum's thought who is the Reby of the alter ofka himself uh is the idea that you have to serve Hashem as an individual uh there's I can talk about this for for over an hour it's not the main thing I want to talk about uh but this is a big issue in the K world where there's a there is a great emphasis for various reasons on Conformity on sameness on kind of everybody marching in the same uh in the same Rhythm to the same drummer and of course to some degree does require kind of consistency and Conformity and Community if everybody's moving in a different direction you don't have a but at the same time we have to find some way in raising our children in raising our and in our own spiritual growth how to function as individual and as individuals in which we also have the uniqueness of our path in Torah is why a sadad is even a greater accomplishment says the altar of Kellum than a sadik Ben Ben rasham okay so that's kind of uh the beginning of the marriage issue uh then later it goes through different events in the life of Y uh and I just want to mention very very quickly before I get to the main thing I want to talk about uh the story of the wells there's a whole story that uh aim the Philistines had filled up the wells that a had a Doug remember in those days you didn't have uh indoor plumbing I mean you got your water from Wells and if the wells are stopped up uh no water and uh so y was digging Wells reopening Wells digging new wells and it mentions uh there that uh he had dug a well and there was a fight over it there was a quarrel over it and the well was called asek asek means quarreling and then there was another well uh same thing they were fighting and contesting over it and it was called sitna which is hatred and then there was a third well that was dug and finally they were allowed to keep that in peace and that was called rovot just like the city rovot expansiveness because God has given us expans and we dwell in the land so I just want to point out the ramban has a very very interesting Mahal throughout the Book of braus and it's very worthwhile to look at literally story after Story based on the statement of everything that happens to our Patriarchs is kind of a prediction of what is going to happen in the future history of Amel so for example Abraham going down to MIT and leaving with great wealth is a precursor to and remember AB went because of a famine AB goes to MIT because of a famine leaves with great wealth corresponds to the Jewish people coming down to mitan because of a famine leaving with great wealth this is the famous Masa Simon Laban so the ramban again I can't say the ramban offers an explanation in every single story but but he but he often emphasizes uh this point and here he has a very interesting idea that is a remes to the B mikdash the B mikdash is described as a spring of water that rejuvenates that gives life and gives Purity and we know that we had two B mikash that were destroyed and the third B of mikash is going to last forever and never be destroyed that's the Messianic B mikash and he says this is marumo the Tyra up up front is moram there will be a double Corban and a third Temple that will never be destroyed in the beos and he says even the names are very significant The gamor Yuma tells us this is the well-known gamorra uh that uh the first B mikash was destroyed because of a gim idolatry sexual immorality murder but the primary of eror was idolatry it's very very clear that it was idolatry that gave them license to do everything else if you look in the Nim you see aara is the worst of the AOS AAR is called asak You're quarreling With God you're quarreling you're fighting against God you're trying to replace God so the first well is a Remis to the bias Reon that was destroyed because of the quarreling with God which is AAR the second Bas of mikdash destroyed by the Romans in the year 70 say that most of the Jewish people were keeping the Mitzvah but it was destroyed because of hatred polarization M what's the name of the of the second well sit The Well of hatred that's to the second bik the third bikash which will never be destroyed God has given me expansiveness just as says I call out to God from the narrow confining Straits Hashem will answer me with expensiveness and that's is so this is a very beautiful example of I would just add although I don't think the raan says it that if you look in the book of ycel the end of ycel that describes the third BAS mikash the Messianic B mikash he describes a great Fountain emerging from the kashim it's one of the one of the visions that Water of Life will come and it'll it'll start off as a very narrow trickle that leaving the kesak will be a trickle of water and it's going to get bigger and bigger and bigger and turn into a river going through yusan uh and in that River on the banks of the river there will be trees with fruits that will have medicinal properties healing the illnesses and it it talks about how the river gets bigger and bigger and bigger till it flows uh well part of it flows into the Dead Sea so the Dead Sea becomes revived becomes fresh and then into the Mediterranean even converting that into fresh water so the notion that we compare the bikash to a is actually emerges from tanak itself where we see that from the K will come out the purifying Waters of the right so uh this is a beautiful example of okay so now uh we go to uh the main act the main thing I wanted to talk about and that is the story of the Bros of akov and asov the story of of let me point out that the beginning of par toos when Yakov seemingly takes advantage of asf's hunger and buys the birthright that actually occurred when the boys were only 15 years old that was the day that aru died and that is why Yakov is cooking lentils to feed to his father y because lentils are the food that just like well today hardboiled eggs but something oval is what you feed a mourner based on the idea that the cycle of Life Changes gamova gam Yore this true will pass and the like so that happened when they were 15 they're twins they're the same age that was 15 the story of the Bros and Rashi gives you an intricate kesman happens when they are 63 years old you don't get this impression necessarily but if you do the the math and there's a very very long Rashi at the end of kar that does the math for you based onar Milla it is important to know that Yakov and ASV are not children anymore they're 63 years old and that means uh since uh Yak uh was 40 I'm sorry I'm sorry y was was 60 when yakes was born so Y is only 123 years old now y says I don't know when I'm going to die now the truth of the matter Y is going to live for many many more years but he doesn't know he doesn't know so he says he calls his son ASV and he asks ASV to get him some hunting meat Etc uh K say ASV was such a good hunter that ASA could actually she prey he could actually shoot an arrow and it would sever exactly the place where you she right so if somebody is a real good Archer they could do shita by shooting an arrow and and and the like uh and he wanted to give Bros to as he wanted to give a special BR to as and Rifka sees that's not good so she has essentially just to go over the story very quickly for a moment she has Yakov impersonate ASV and Yakov gets the Bros that y intended for ASF to get and then ASV shows up and Y says sorry too late who are you I gave the brus to whoever I gave it and apparently that is God will and I have to accept aes's will as this is the way it is he gives as a secondary and this is said to be the source of the enmity and the hatred that ASV has for Yakov because Yakov stole the Bros there are so many questions on all of this that that it's difficult uh to even know where to start but let's just start with a very very simple question why would y want to give special Bros to as what's going on does y not know that yov is the righteous one and asov is not so righteous does want to give the BR to the son that's not righteous so there are essentially three basic approaches on this fundamental question approach number one is was fooled thought asov was a much more righteous person than he was number one when it says in the beginning of the par hunting was in his mouth Rashi interprets that he could trap people with his words ASV especially showed great honor to his father y also it is said that y was so holy y came was otherworldly he could not perceive hypocrisy he could not perceive duplicity if somebody came across as a righteous person simply saw it as it was presented to him and was not familiar only Rifka who came from a house of cheating and deception and lying as well as a mother's intuition generally was able to see through pretenses y could not so that's view number one I'm just mentioning the views that basically say y was fooled yit was tricked y believed that asov was a righteous person problem with that is in fact yeah the problem with that is that we see very very clearly that y knew who ASV was we see it in a few places number one when Yakov comes with the goat skins and he feel and the famous words uh the voice is the voice of Yakov it's says you sound like yov but the hands are the hands of asov right famous famous words so Rashi explains the voice is the voice of Yakov doesn't mean Yakov had a different voice Yakov and ASA had twins their voices were exactly the same but it means the manner of speaking was yob speaking because he mentions Hashem as never mentions Hashem so knows asov doesn't mention hasem so how can you so he knows asov is not the sadic in the family that's one thing the other thing is right before this story it mentions asov married Canaanite wives which was something that was very despicable to the OS and the Torah says it was a source of bitterness to and RKA so those are two indicators that in point of fact yob I'm sorry y understood ASV was not super righteous right so that would be a question onot number one shot number two is y understands that ASV is not so righteous but he wants to give the braa to as of anyway for the following consideration a braa is ultimately a crutch I'm giving my child a br that God should give him certain abilities certain Kos now remember that Abram represents the attribute of kindness I mentioned before AB is is aod and yob is Torah that corresponds to um T but cabalistic it's represented in slightly a different way in terms of the Divine energies is the is called G Inner Strength or and Yakov is said to be the misiz the synthesis of and that is called Beauty so represents now optimally y does not want to give a crutch to the person who is capable of achieving AA on his own he says I don't want it's like it's like for example you could imagine a situation where you have a multi-millionaire I'll give you a gmas example multi-millionaire and he has two children one son is a successful businessman in his own right who has already made millions and millions of dollars the other is is a NE he's not too successful he just can't figure out what to do well a father might logically say hey the son that can take care of himself why should I give a crutch to let him become the person that he is the one that can't do it on his own I'll give him the crutch so some want to suggest that because y's personality is mid he doesn't want to give Yakov the BR he does not want to give Yakov the artificial crutch of AA he wants it to go to ASV hoping that that will bring ASV over in AEM on some level meaning it's the mid that says I want Yakov to earn it in fact the say that is sometimes why Hashem makes life harder for sikim because sadik are so great that they will serve God even when there's obstacles so God says I'll give them the obstacles and that way they will grow even greater in their AEM in a sense he wanted Yakov to have a harder life because he knew that Yakov would achieve greater spiritual Heights and this is consistent with midasin now this actually leads to a very interesting conclusion Rea kinety makes the following observation he says we find in all the lives of all of the AOS that there they go through what is called a a challenge a test and as ramban points out this is not a test even the araa that's called a test is not that God needs to know what abam is going to do Hashem knows that but the purpose of Aion is for the person himself to bring out the qualities in other words to bring out quality of devotion within AB to be Moi from the kak from the potential to the actualization but you find that the idea of nission is always going the opposite of your natural inclination right we have natural inclinations we have Tendencies we have MOS we have propensities the idea of n is to think outside the box to go outside the box to go to to a place that is not your natural comfort zone because when you serve Hashem based on what is familiar to you are you serving Hashem are you simply going on automatic pilot but if you serve Hashem going against your nature that shows you're truly devoted thus AB ainu whose primary modality was always the me of and kindness all of his nissos are forcing him in the direction of Cruelty leaving his aged father to come to where Israel sending away yes which he had difficulty doing being commanded to sacrifice his beloved Son AB a has to show that yes I serve Hashem primarily by but if God calls upon me to behave in a cruel way I will behave with cruelty with Yakov we find a similar idea that Yakov is identified in nak as the Exemplar of EMS we say OV describe truth to Yakov Yakov is emth so what does Yakov find himself doing he has to engage in deception and sheer to get theas and we'll find later with Lon that although it's not sheer per se but jakov has to engage in various types of tricks and of course buying the B from as in other words a person has to know this can be abused and you have to be very careful with this idea person has to know that sometimes I have to be willing to serve Hashem in ways that go beyond my nature that's the idea of n so the big question is what n did you have where do you find the similar idea with so some want to suggest the fact that his inclination of din would be to only give the bras to ASV and not to Yakov because Yakov should do it on his own and yet when Hashem made it happen that yov got theas was to accept that as the will of God and say I recognize that Jakob gets the what is doing Y is forced to use the mid and understand that even Yakov and maybe especially Yakov needs this BR to be able to accomplish his mission in the world that goofa is the n of and that is accepting that the bras belong toov even though the mid of would would be inclined to not give the bras uh not give the BR to yov in fact we see this interesting push and pull in in the Bros itself there are two interesting linguistic features in the bra uh the first observation about this is found in the B the balat points out that is with El God shall give you from the do of of of the heavens now elim we know is always the attribute of Justice judgment meaning even when he's giving the crutch to ASA he says meaning if you you have to try to deserve it you have to try to earn it if you don't earn it you're not going to get it so even if he's giving the bre it's like and yet the B says is hidden in the because the is 26 words if you count it 26 words 26 is the gamat of the shame meaning in the understands there has to be ra as well another interesting point remember this is when y thinks he's blessing asov but Laya all of this is going to Yakov and that is do you remember this is actually a very beautiful story you know um in um Nal kidon in the in the Little Valley between the old city and the Mount of Olives harm right you have that the Kidron Valley so there's a little Monument there that is said to be Yad Shalom the Monument of abshalom abshalom was the son of David who tried to kill his father now Thea whether that is Yad Shalom or not is bit B bit of a question some of those identifications are frankly from the Crusaders they're not even of of Jewish origin but whatever it is uh some people consider that to be the Monument of Shalom made to himself and it's not a Mak you know people go to the Cotto people go to all sorts of places uh you don't normally D in by y sh but they say used to D in by y shom he considered that to be a mo why is that because he said remember that when David's General yav killed or ordered that a be remember of got trapped in his hair he was hanging from a tree and he was killed he was stabbed and Y thought thought David would be happy with the good news because abshalom wanted to kill David he wanted to kill his father and David was broken David was crushed and he said Shalom if only I could have died instead of you sh so K say the following Shalom said the word Ben my son eight times seven times because there are seven depths of gam whatever that means each time he brought his Nish one level out of a and the eighth time he brought him to and saw this as so moving and Powerful about the love of a father for a child no matter how Wayward the child and he said can't you look at us as David looked at his son of Shalom of shom so here is a fascinating point when he thinks he's talking to ASF actually refer refers to him as Ben eight times and the apply the Shalom he knows ASV is a Russia but he wants to bring him up from the levels of and eight times just as now Lisa it turned out that he's not doing this to Asa he's doing this to Yakov but through that braa no Jew is lost meaning no matter how far a person is that braa is going to bring you is going to bring you up fact that's even the significance of the fact that in addition to the goat skins yakob is also wearing the special garments of Asa the precious garments of Asa that got from nimro and nimr got from adish exactly the exact chain is not so clear but we do know Adam nimro as because Asa killed yeah yeah we know that according to different M asov actually killed the great hunter the great ruler Nim and those garments with the cnos or the garments that ad Marisha and Hashem gave to after the but the point is that even when a yov dresses like an as that's that's external yeah he looks like an ASA but he's not an as meaning that's the of how the person goes from and that's why smelled the aroma of the garments and he said this is the field that God this is the re of the field that Hashem has blessed but have a double on Tandra the word big God do could be you know without n could be read bed saw into the future and he saw rebellious people he saw Rim but he said even those rim are ultimately holy and the gar gives an example of a person from the time of the second temple Yos Misha Yos Misha was a Russia he was a russer when the Romans destroyed the temple he collaborated with the Romans he helped them in their in their nefarious work and they offered him compensation said hey hey you go into the temple take whatever you want take a gold whatever it is take some piece of gold it belongs to you so he goes in he takes out the manur little too much the Romans wanted the manur they said no that that you don't get go go and get something little less expensive so at that point he said I'm not going I went once I'm not going to do this again and they ordered him to go and they killed him he died kesem because he did shua in his last moment they tell a very similar story uh in the Holocaust I mean it's probably more than one story remember I just remember reading about a barber who was a m shabas and he was an aorus and he really was very against anything to do with Torah and um when the Nazis desecrated a show and they took a sa for Torah and they put it on the ground ran they ordered him to know step stomp on the Torah and he didn't care he he he would have said like uh you know a year before that I would no I Spit on the Tor and he says no I'm not going to do it he said I may have been a bad Jew I'm not going to stomp on the Torah and he was tortured and he died so y said B eight times because he smelled that even the rebellious are ultimately good they're wearing the garments of a as but they're not as but the only problem is is thinks it's as he thinks all of this is about as so biter I was in this but biter uh approach number one is y was fooled and he thought ASA was righteous I mentioned that's a difficult approach approach number two is he wanted to give asov AA because yov didn't need the crutch and midin would give the braa to uh the less righteous person and the sadin would not give the BR to the more righteous person because the more righteous person should make it on his own but was to be that even needed and in's own he gives the but the 26 words is a hidden ra and the idea of eight times is just like a Shalom to be as he thinks to out of and take him to uh there is a third approach uh to this uh story which is the approach of the malim that's actually very very interesting he points out that Yakov actually gets two different Bros gets a when thinks he's as but then when Yakov leaves to go to Khan and find a wife gives him a knowing that he's blessing Yakov so Yakov gets the braa intended for asov and then Yakov gets a specific bra says the Mal the specific that gave yov knowing he's yov was always going to go to Yakov and that's the braa that you will be the success of Abraham you will be the one that has the mission of Holiness into the world but the malim says the following idea all of us know in later history we develop the two tribes of isar and Zan and as is well known Yar is the tribe that is primarily o Torah and Zan is the tribe that was involved in Commerce and business and Zulan used its sources to help and therefore Zan gets all gets equal credit with in the Torah there's even today we talk about a partnership in which I'll take a person who's learning and I'll pay for him and Etc and and right that's the idea of right so here is what y thought y knows that Yakov is the learner yakob is the is the but loves sees the good in y sees that even though ASV is not going to be the one that's going to sit in the B of medish but ASF has energy ASF has ambition ASF has initiative what can I do for asov that will enable him to have a meaning F life the answer is I will give him the of of er Israel and he'll build the Army he'll build the society he'll drain the ditches he'll plant the fields and that's going to be a wonderful thing for Yakov and for ASV it'll give Yakov the time to contemplate to think to pray to learn not to be worried about the gmas of the world and ASF who's not capable of sitting and learning but he will use his Kos to create a society where the Yakov can flourish so envisioned a partnership that is why when y thinks he's talking to asov the BR is about but the braa he gives to yov is about the spiritual Legacy of Abraham that's always yov so is there's no na here at least in a gross way he knows ASV is not the sadic but he loves asov and he wants asov to have some way of connecting to God through his talents and through his abilities and that's why he told him you're a hunter okay did you love Hunters probably not but get success use your hunting to bring me keep do a Mitzvah yeah you can still be as I'm not trying to take you away from your sports but can't you use it in a good way and this was his now the truth of the matter is this might have worked at an earlier time there's a comment from R and whenever I say it I get in trouble so I need to say it is from R her it is not for me in which at the very beginning in told when it says the young boys grew up and it says ASA became a hunter and yakob became yoshev O A dweller of the T learning Torah and the like ra says Ah this was the problem means they were raised the same way you know people like to raise twins the same way they were both both put in the B medish whatever that meant exactly both of them got to learn 12 hours problem is that wasn't asf's nature ASF needed to play basketball ASV needed to be out there ASF needed to do his things now had refer right people again people are critical how can how dare we criticize the other so you know but even if you know we're not talking about the OS this is something for children generally if you try to make an as of into a Yakov not only are you not going to get a Yakov you're not going to get the ASF who could have been an ASF ASA had K that could have been good fact in many ways and share a similarity according to the Z they're both described as admon red energy initiative forcefulness these are positive qualities there's a whole Theory out there um Rabbi Kess talks about it that Trump uh the red know the red Trump uh is kind of a manifestation of the good side of ASF along with you know along with the the bad stuff but you know there's kind of a positivity there of accomplishing things so of her said had there been more attention paid to the individual duality of ASV ASV might have accomplished so now it's kind of too little too late many years later at the age of when the kids are 63 Y is now trying to rectify okay ASF I don't expect you to sit in the Bas man go ahead make your army do all your stuff but use it to help Yakov but too little too late ASV it's a tragedy ASV is already what ASV is that's what Rifka was able to see so this is the inside of the malum very very beautiful malum combining it with refers that in a sense this is y's attempt to do what is good for both yakob and asov to recognize the individuality of ASV and again I have to say that this is a very very important in in raising our children says train a child according to their personality you try to make somebody into someone else you're not going to be successful in that but what's worse is all of the good that that person could have become is not going to happen you've destroyed them other words he's not going to become what you want him to be and he's not going to become what he could have become and that's the tragedy of Asa there are tragic dimensions in this and that's why say be will do will be there is good and bad and these different do these different forces will come out at different times but at least in the short term which is most of our history thousands of years history we're faced with all all of this right so these are kind of three perspectives on the braa again just to summarize y was fooled which is I think very difficult number two uh didn't want to give Yakov the bra because of mid he wanted yov to earn it number three y was always going to give the Bas Abraham to yob but he wanted a division of labor so that Yakov would be Pano to learn Torah and the gmas of the world would be given to ASA now he justes want to point out in some ways just make the point very very quickly so you read the paraa and you know Yakov gets the braa from ASV he takes it the question really becomes well did Yakov really get a br I mean after all uh you know Jews have been persecuted Jews have suffered me meaning the medish actually says that Yakov took the Bros that gave him and yov stored it up for theia meaning in in this world we talk Haven gotten the we haven't gotten the bre so in a sense asov won meaning in spite of yakov's theft asov has much in the world right because yov kept those br for the g g well we hope we're you know near that beautiful pivotal event and uh may all of us may all of Cl Isel be to that [Music] it