Rav Meyer Yedid on Building a World of Kindness - Part 2: The Key to Blessing

[Music] all of us want something very badly in our lives it's called Ciudad Ishmael see I thought the SRAM means we want God's help in whatever endeavor that we're on any project whether it's in business we want CIT - Maya if this CI - my and our business there's going to be success is going to be peace it's going to be something good in our business if it's in our marriage we want to see I thought destroying our marriage when there's the attack - Ryan marriage this Shalom there's a beautiful happy home we want to see outside this fair with our children we want to see outside this way on our growth in Torah we want to see a dietitian when you have to fight the etc we need to see anti - Maya and everything that we do when God is with us everything we do has been AHA has blessing and if God forbid he's not with us anything that we try nothing will come up and we see it in our life sometimes you do something and it just goes they see at a - Maya and sometimes it doesn't go you feel like there's something missing but they don't lamb is not with us how does the person get sea otter - Maya back to a Bahama vino Oprah Harvin was having a hard day Avraham Avinu was old he wasn't well he was in pain and it was hot and he sees three people who he thought were strangers that they needed help he thought Avraham had every excuse in the book not to go out and help those people how many times has it happened to you when you were in a situation say you're in your office you were in your store you were involved in something and you're so busy with and you have stress from something you had a difficult day at that moment somebody comes up to you says you know I need your help I need advice I need money can you help me with something I think in those situations most of the time we say listen we're good guys we're good people but right now you picked a very difficult time it's not the time if you come back at different time I'll help you but right now I have too much of my head I'm not able to even talk to you and we turned the person away Avraham Avinu could have done the same thing but I'm really gonna say you know what today is too hard let me wait till tomorrow but what are we seeing the Torah what would have happened according to the simple Passat in the Torah if rahama vena would have not gone after his guests if he would have not ran after them and brought them into his home according to the simple reading of the Torah what would have happened those people would not have come in and if they would not have come in then the news that he's going to have a child the baraha that God sent him may not have happened and the healing that God sent him may not have happened which means that God connected the Baraka the great news that he was sending Tara hama vino he connected it through a difficult act of Hesed Hashem sent the answer he sent the issue on he sent the salvation but it was like a box that was locked and closed you need to open the box had he opened the box with an act of kindness the act of hessin is what allowed him to get the good news if he wouldn't have opened the box by not doing Hesed the news and the Baraka may never have come that's the message why God sent those three angels which is not only a message to learn about Abraham but a message for all of us how many times in life do we pray for something do we want something and then we're going to go into 120 I'm going to say God I prayed so odd I asked I was crying I was in tears why didn't you answer me I needed it what if God would answer you what I mean of course I sent it to you he sent it to me I never got it I never got the gift I never got the news so you never got it his one second do you remember on that day in shul when you were walking out and someone came and asked you for directions or someone came and asked you for your help to drive them a few blocks down you remember that yes yes and you remember what you said you said no oh that was the the answer was through that guy he was the man asked he was the angel sent to you that through him you will be able to get all the but I thought that I was sending you God sends us many many but I thought and answers us in many ways but not for free there's a package that comes it's called the package of Hesed that means when we're having a tough day specifically on that day specifically what is difficult and all of a sudden someone comes for help we should remember this could be the salvation for this day this could be the salvation not only for this day but for many things that I've been praying for when I was praying for so many years him and Sarah for a child and God the prayer but not without an act of kindness and not just a regular act of kindness it's got to be something special that means the harder the opportunity of kindness that comes our way the bigger the better huh and the bigger the box that's coming behind it perhaps that's what should that be the mail it was saying call or hot Hashim if you want the road to get to get God to be with you you won't see a Thai dish Maya you have to do hasit yes to do kindness we see this in this week's Paris channel when we see the greatness of yourself at Sadiq where he started and when he ended up this week's para shall we see he came out of jail to help but oh if someone would ask you according to the Torah Torah gives us all the points that we can be able to be able to connect all the dots according to the Torah this all started in jail what happened in jail there were two men that came in one day at the gym and one morning they woke up and their face looked said how many people do you see during your day that have a sad face maybe it's a child maybe it's a friend maybe it's a wife maybe it's a husband what they do what do we do do we ask we're afraid to ask because we're afraid what's gonna come after what if they really tell us the problem then we gotta invest more time and who knows if we could help anyway these two men are sitting in the dungeon with him and they wake up in the morning and they have a noticeably sad face and yourself tells them Madhu up in their camera mi-jung what's wrong why did you face look like that today your self is in jail with them these men are not in a vacation it's there in jail of course he's supposed to be said how us how are supposed to be and by the way even if they were said for a reason what could your self do he's been in jail longer than them he's been there for ten years so what is the purpose of the question but the purpose of the question is that I care about you most times it's not because we are able to help but just the fact that we can carry the burden with somebody else that already is help no save it all and have it all so you're safe s than the question and from that question they tell him their problem and they tell him their dreams and through the dreams he interprets the dreams and through that face forward two years went but I need someone to help him they said I'm asking so of course yourself that means according to the storyline of the Torah had yourself not asked the two men in the dungeon why does your face look the way it looks if you didn't bother then this whole story wouldn't have happened and could you imagine yourself after 120 say God I was in jail I prayed I know you will help me you're there for me how come we didn't rescue me and God would say I did what I mean you did I don't I was in jail my whole life he says don't you remember the two guys yeah remember that morning they look like they was said yeah did you see that yes did you ask them why no no that was the salvation I sent you those men to help them and by helping them that would be your salvation to get out of jail and become yourself that's a dig you become to yourself that we all know that's a message for all of us we don't even we can't imagine how many opportunities come away and what's behind them your mother asked you to do something your father says do me a favor and you're having a hard day you're tired you lay on the couch mom says can you go to the store for me come on so odd exactly because it's so hard that's the time to do it when your friend says come I need someone to talk to I was going out and she do and she broke up with me I need someone to be able to communicate with and it's hard that is the time to do it the salvation that comes behind that is unimaginable you know the purpose of this class is not to think about the pissed how many wasted opportunities that we have in the past I don't know but going forward this is something to remember going forward this is something to keep in mind that opportunities of kindness besides that alarm has said you burn it beside that it's the right thing to do besides that it helps us build our world but it's also the way God sends us I would feel odd it's the way God sends us his help whether it's in physical help whether it's in spiritual help through Hesed call or how a sham has a diamond perhaps that's what the Gomera means when the camera says yo tell me ma che ba holobyte or say Hema honey hi honey or say Ambala bite a rich man gives charity to someone whose need who needs it and of course he feels that he's helping but the given I said is not true the poor man is helping the rich man a lot more simply it means he's giving him an opportunity to do kindness but according to what we're saying it's even more than that he's actually the one that's going to open your box Hashem is sending you are better ha in your life he's sending you as she do he's sending you a customer he's sending you a new rua to serve him to learn to do the right things sometimes you want to do what's right it's hard you can't wake up you can't get yourself to beat the etc I shall be sending you through the honey the honey is a man of Hashem I'm gonna share with you a story a story of Rabbi Akiva his daughter Tamara says and myself at Shabbat the rabbi akiva had a daughter and the astrologist told him that this girl the day she would go into a hapa the day she would get married in a hash a snake is going to bite her and she will die so I can imagine her be a Kiva you want your daughter to get married but at the same time you don't want you to order to get married what do you do of course I black you I continued in his normal death appeared ever he can do or she do but of course he was concerned what would happen and the gamin are says that on the day of the hakuna the day of the wedding his daughter took out a pin from her hair and she put it on the wall and this wall behind the wall there was a Nahash there was a snake and the pin hit the snake in the eye and it died in the morning when she took out the pin she pulled out the snake her father when he saw this he told him what did you do it's not not normal the snake was obviously coming to kill you what did you do that you merited such an unbelievable miracle she told him last night it was the editor of the Hot Tuna the evening before the wedding and you any color anyone involved in a wedding could appreciate this the night before the wedding everyone is getting ready and those days they had no caterer so it's not like they were paying someone to prepare all the preparations all the food the makeup to dress the the pressure over here we lives sometimes for three months of stress before the wedding imagine the night before all the pressure of the wedding and the color herself the pressure of getting married and getting ready and all the guests are coming she says that night with all of what's going on in the house hey I need came a poor man came and knocked on the door and nobody was paying attention to him understandably so imagine the night of your daughter's wedding some guy knocks on the door who was talking now honey come back after she says I went the Calla herself she went and she gave him a plate to eat Bianchi vs. Mitzvah I said to biscuit an adult he wanted he thought that God had seen me move it you see again it wasn't just a regular opportunity of kindness it was an opportunity at the most difficult time when probably every person would say it's not the time for this I am a kind person I'm a giving person but it's not the time for this a different night a different time just when your mind says that remember Biak Eva's daughter Hashem was sending her to salvation through the honey through that poor person there's another beautiful story the stories in the zone it's a story of a bee it's Hawk repeats heart desire says was one morning going out to pray I don't know if you've seen people in the morning early morning going to pray it's very to get a smile from a guy in the morning and the morning everyone's going to pray just woke up you tired you want it you're rushing to minyan to make sure you're not late the worst time if you want to go stop somebody and say can I can I get something from you I nee stops Ruby it's hack and tells him please Herbie please I need money I have no food so in the morning when he's going to shower he did a difficult time he stops his folks he speaks to him he gives him some money that night the Zohar says that Abbey it's hack had a dream and in this dream he had some gangsters trying to push him into the river and he couldn't swim and he's trying to fight them off and he can't and they pushing it and then he saw from across the river he saw his Rebbe or be Shimon bar Yohai in this dream and I be sure Homer you're high he took his hand out and he stretched it and repeats heart was so excited his Rebbe is coming to save him from the gangsters and he goes to reach his hand and he got and he can't reach he can't get to it and that the times is happening the gangsters are successful and they throw him in the water and he's drowning in the water and his reveries hand is there but he can't reach it the Zohar says all of a sudden he sees he sees there's a little guy on a boat that rushes right in front of him and puts him on the boat and starts to take him towards his Rebbe he looks at the guy he can't believe it that's the honey that was the poor man that he saw in the morning he was able to connect him to his rabbi Woodstock at that seal me Marvin Hazzard is more than just great because it's a great Mitzvah it's the beginning and the opening of the salvation without that onion you couldn't reach the salvation coal or hot ash em Hazzard VMAs never forget an opportunity of kindness at home by the way kinda starts at home the first place it starts in your office when we think about kindness we're thinking about people outside in the street at home with your father with your mother with your wife with your children with your friends with your employees with your secretary with your partner that's where Hesed begins you don't have to go in the street that means we have opportunities all day of Hessen and who knows what we miss that on and who knows what's waiting for us if we just perform when we are at the plate and they're pitching us that bowl of hazard make sure you swing in your swing hard