Rav Meir Eliyahu - End of Days

‏So it's always exciting to come back to New Yoran Queen special. I was a rab here in Jamaica State 20 years ago. I so scared to say it even 20 years ago. Wow. It's been so long time since then. And השם a lot of a lot of happen since then and I leave Queens and then I went to Florida. ‏I make I come back to New York to married and then I come back to Israel come back here and all the time back and for and it's nice that I see so many people came to that I can share with you today. So basically I'm very awkward here. I tell you why. ‏I understand the topic that they publish the end of the days which I make completely different dish like the topic that I make it's a completely different one but I don't want to ruin it for you. So I I have I I did in the past lecture of the end of the days and I just can can take it out from my brain. ‏So even though I prepared something else, this is fresh what I have not so fresh. The question is if you insist you want this topic I can I can do the end of the days or I can do the topic that I make for you. Buuse this is people actually came with a lot of problem with this one. It's to be married. This is the topic that I make and I think people need it. There is so many problem in this topic. ‏So the question is what do you want? I don't want to take it from you. So we will make a vote and you will tell me who want the end of the days pick up your day end. Okay. Of the days. Okay. Who want it? Oh my god. ‏F. ‏I try listen in the bottom line the end of the days it's everybody with a problem so this is why we have a problem I think there is so many problem in this in this generation people came with so many questions all the time and I'm very confused to to hear so many questions and problems problem withינוך הילדים ‏education with them to show him the people get very confused if you not stick to do you don't have a strong support community you can lost your kids לא נופל רחוק מהעץ theחזון used to say זה רק ברוח מצויה אבל in this generation there is a strong wing רוחות לא מצויות we saw a lot of apples. הרבה תפוחים from the media confusל בסדר מיבוא ואני לא אר want משיח I want to see him but I don't not quite sure that I want to be there I want the will come but going to ‏kind ofs with them with money they have people issue with the money which is the wor you can't support yourself everything so expensive used to be America I remember 20 years ago it was so cheap you would go to Casco 500s you have a nice גלה מלאה כל טוב שבעולם soy מסכת בן דוד בתכל פרוטה מן הכיסation people חינוך הילדים we have this also this angle ofה in חינוך הילדים one time they invite me to come ‏toi so i came there to my dear friend i love him so much the of in in the circle which is aventura and then i big lecture there was a lot of people there and suddenly someone came when i after i finished the lecture and he told me can you give a bra to my son i told you how many sons you have he told me i have three of them they here ‏So all of them came I [נחירות בוז] was very surprised to see them. I kind of regret that I ask him to bring them. One was so huge you can't even imagine yourself ob like I don't know 2 met 5 met something like crazy. ‏And the second was also very tall but was so strong all his body muscles crazy [כחכוח] and Arlon Schwarzeneger kind. And the third one was the worst so many tattoos with a different creature with wings and it was horrible to see how in his head all his body was tattoos. ‏me please give them the should be חמים say what he told me I want to become חמ I'm not a magician what you think he told me a no I can't promise you my will work it's like to ask me please give a to this to fly on the sky I can't he told me do your best רכה finish הגדול הגיבור והנורא one second הנורה זה עם התוז צירים kids in America בר מנן יש הרבה בעיות פה and you far away from the support if not if you not connect to ‏to somebody they give you all the time like you need to feed this body you need to feed your your cellone you need to feed your your car with a gas you have to feed all the time your soul and if you don't do it you basically you die inside of you this is what חז"ל describe it מסכת ברכות דף יח the wecked הרשעים בחייהם קרועים מתים אבל הם חיים אז איך אתה קורא להם מתים? הגמרא אומרת הנשמה שלהם מתה בפנים they saw die inside of them. So you can see people they have everything very rich people they very miserable they not happy. So obviously you see the money cannot buy happiness you need to you need something else. You need something else. ‏So this is what said that the first in the end of the days הקדוש ברוך הוא when he want to bring the he want to test you if you deserve it. So how he test you he problems one of them is problem with the kids the other problem with the money. It's not easy. פרה מיס everything becomes so expensive. ‏One time I went to to so I pray it was very good I cried and you know sometimes it's open your heart is open. And when I finished the I went down to the cemetery where is you familiar with this place? ‏So one guy came to me. He told me please can you give me a look in the packet my wallet wasn't on me but I told him sorry I have only only של 200 this is what I have. He me than you. [‏צחוק] I told him sorry I don't have a small change. This is enough. Thank you. אומר אני לוקח גם כסף גדול. >> [‏צחוק] >> ‏So I told them okay you want it but I can't I need it this is the only money that I have in my pocket what you want me to do me hungry I told him yeah but I might hungry later on and what should I do told me what will give you food then so I told him so we will do the same to you he told me right he sent me the please give me the money I told him I'm ‏you might be hungry later. ‏win situation with my friend just maybe give up on this money and I give you a do deal between us what do you rather הברכה from רב מאיר אליהו שליטה so if this is sorry I give you my I go down and then you know what you to give [‏צחוק] אליהו הנביא בכבודו עצמו [‏צחוק] with אליהו הנביא with jeans he [כחכוח] told me you don't know that you know putחפש yeah but with jeans come on i told him you don't you should be i don't know expect you to be more ‏could you how many you so sorry I don't believe you me today you pray good in the morning and this is why you got this vision so I said okay how we know that I I prayed so good this morning so I don't know how guess it so I told ‏yes and work try me if not work again [‏צחוק] so in the end of this conversation i told him come take the money please give me a what do you want i want to know the truth it's very strong something in my personality i want to know ‏me give you the truth בעזרת השם now give me the money so i give him the money מוצא שפתך תשמור ועשית went to deep in רבנו הארי and then i went to and i make few מזמורי תהילים i went up to the parking i אליהו הנביא הולך מכות עם האנשים שמה so real that notching people ‏So at least the work I know the truth that not however there is many many problems problem with with with education of the kids problem with money in the end of the days הקדוש ברוך הוא want to test test us to see if we deserve to to get to the buuse everyone of us should go in a different path that הקדוש ברוך הוא want to check him very well if he deserve ‏generation hardly not like generations we dealing with struggling with a lot of different problem and I tell you what sometimes people came with me with so much they ישראל may I say my friend I what he did so he told me he told me what he did I was socked ‏I told him what tell that how we did such a thing so he told me I didn't mean to do it. ‏Now I understand it's not his friends basically isim. However, you see there is a lot of problems. The one of the main problems in this generation is obviously the ofom. ‏There is a lot of people in בית one time came in the corona was everybody was in the houses היו בתוך הבית and one guy came and I heard them he was my neighbor and fighting with his wife they fight him so I saw this guy in I told them how are you told me what can I do this is my destination שנגזר עלי I told them what what מה שלום אשתך שתחיה? שתהיה בריאה אמר לי אשתך שתחיה השם נתן השם השם with her present you for a grave you so romantic unbelievable the grave yeah now after one here ‏I first use the present and then will however [כחכוח] חזל come with a very nice פרשת פרשה ס אות דרונה אחת oneקצ a but very very חשוב גויה she wasn't regular גויה מתרונה אחת שיסו רבי יוסי בר חלפתה רבי יוסי ‏was one of the big rab he was a brilliant and clever and sharp and wise. Everybody came to him to get he was a very tremendous and she saw him and she ask him a very simple question it's always ridiculous the simple question she asked them. So she told them לכמה ימים ברא הקדוש ברוך הוא את השמיים ואת הארץ? ‏How long it took to create this amazing universe. So he told her, you know how much the ימים עשה השם את השמיים ואת הארץ וביום השביעי שבת ונפש. So six days to him. Now she came with the second question. And what he doing since then? מה הוא עושה מאז? ‏So we told her יושב sit down ומזוג זיווגים. ‏So I never understand לשון יושב הקדוש ברוך הוא יושב אין לו גוף אין לו גוף לא ישיגו משיגי הגוף אין לו רגליים אין לו ידיים זה הכל משל ומליצה אל מלך יושב על כיסא רחמים זה הכל משלים so what the meaning יושב so basically יושב is something that took his time and to see good ‏in a make analy to see if they match if they deserve one to each other it's not something like quick office he take very very take his time to make sure that he making the right decision to give you the right יושב ומזוק זיווגים בת פלוני לפלוני בית פלוני לפלוני even your house הקדוש ברוך הוא say you deserve to get פני אשת פלוני לפוני אשת פלוני לפני obviously הקדוש ברוך הוא שידוכים office not first time also second time I was a ‏in our community he got married in the time already in the time four times he was married and she die and then she die and thenני kill them one after each other gל and he told me come on everybody the same jump to the border הקדוש ברוך הוא jump and see if deserve ifing then הקדוש ברוך הוא בפל לפני לפני לפני אשת פלוני לפני and then this go when she heard this answer she was very surprised she was skeptical i highly it if this is what doing up there since then days ‏to create the universe and 6000 years just to find one to each other. Come on. It's not supposed to be the opposite. I can do it also. So we ask her, yeah, how can you do it? I show you. And I'm sure you all familiar with this she had a thousand slaves. She had a thousand wom and she start to match. ‏The blond with the blond, the shorty with the short tall one with it. She did it one hour she finished all the and the said in the morning they came everybody [כחכוח] came to her and one was with bruises and bleeding and everybody was horrified and they said we rather to die and not come back to this to this lady or to this man that you set up for us. ‏and then come back to יוסי ברחלפתה and אמת הוא התורה אמת אלוהיכם התורה היא אמת הלכה והתגיירה והמדרש מסיים בפסוק אלוהים מושבים יחידים בית המוצא עשירים בכושרות בכי ושירות זכה השירות לא זכה בכי now this is the here now all the מפרשים was very surprised to hear ‏to read this what she saw a miracle דם צפרדי הכי כינים ערוב what she saw I understand how פרעה make תשובה זוהר ביטרו דף סז על הפסוק יודעו חמים אלוהים יודעו חמים כולם יודעו חמים אלוהים זה פרעה יודעו חמים כולם זה יתרו פרעה ראו with his own eyes 10 miracles דם צפרדינים רוב דבר שכין מכת בכורות he saw everything so then he understand הקדוש ברוך הוא is the הקדוש ברוך הוא כמוך הקדוש ברוך הוא חותן משה כהן מדיין את כל אשר עשה אלוהים לישראל מה שמוע שמה הוא בא שמ שנפתח ים סוף so מ things what she saw הקדוש ברוך הוא is better than her this is why she get confm this is ‏Je what you miracle you exactly over here and the she understand that come on I make a couldn't work 50 שוכים you know what 10 how come all the could I couldn't make it even one ‏So she realize and listen good to this one she realized that a woman and a man they will never get along if not it will never work it will never work this is why she ask him in the begin how long הקדוש take him to create this world understand that create the world and go to his buiness מחדש בטובו בכל יום מעשה בראשית me create this universe and he give him existing הוא נותן לעולם הזה קיום העמדה חיות if הקדוש ברוך הוא leave all this word destroyed so like הקדוש ברוך הוא this word to exist also with the is not just make the and leave the house he keep them together and if he the חז"ל דף יז מסכת סותטה איש ואישה זכו שכינה ביניהם למה זכו שבזכות זה ששכינה ביניהם survive together but if the house like the בית המקדש בית המקדש destroyed like the חס ושלום this universe this universe ‏ashes back to the so that not cre the and like the he still there and all them together otherwise they cann survive so you understand what was so surprised about and what she was so she exciting about and you know איך how many people days >> כמה אתם אומרים how >> אה >> ברוך אתה אדוני אלוהינו מלך העולם שהכל נהיה בדברו אמ >> how many people what you מחלוקת אחרונים [‏צחוק] מחלוקת אחרונים so there is over 60% divorce today 60 divorce today 60% divorce הרב שלמה צבן היה רבא של נתיבות and he said I was a 38 years almost 40 years and even one time I never make ארץ ישראל back then 40 years you talking ‏wrong and you know they took the 40% they ask you happy the 40% they already married you happy how much in this 40% say they happy what do you think 1% why why you miserable how many of them are אה >> כן כל מי שנשוי שמח מאושר soב so they said the quar of them was happy and i believe this quar they happy qu of them they say it just because his wife was next to him [‏צחוק] so this is why they ‏came to me and me can you give me a to forever I don't want to die I'm afraid you know angel of death and hell and fire and I don't want to be there you have any to forever I told them yeah get married [כחכוח] me what if I will get married so I will forever I told him מהר מאוד יעבור לך החשק הזה forever for the question is why people miserable it should be nice be fun the question obviously we have to understand why הקדוש make this life so hard how they say the three most dangerous places in the world first ה the second הeverest ‏people take so much wedding הם לא הייתי חייב אבל אבל הלכתי נו אז ברוך השם זכיתי לא שהלכתי אגre חס ושלום from those happy because his wife next to him [‏צחוק] but no amazing my wife amazing however the question I was in wedding in Miami now all the wedding was dairy no meat you know whaty wedding it was crazy to see you know blinches and ice creams ‏Belgi waffle and is and fish and everything was amazing one guy came to me what this I told him so what it's nice he told me yeah but I ate meat hour ago now I cannot touch anything so I I really like it you know there was a chocolate fall you know you know what I'm talking ‏aming הלוואי גמרות היית יודע ככה and there is and you deep it טבילה ראשונה להסיר את הכעס טבילה שנייה לקבל ההרת שבת unbelievable it was a nice one there was they had a bag they b it on on the place and this bag was f of f bag it was for sure for ‏How many of them? מה זה בטח ברכה אחרונה די האמת? But you know what more surprise was in this? ‏It was the actually the was wedding. In wedding, I'm not sure ifה the חן עומד ככה כמו נר לי דקיק. His wife and her mother and his mother they circle him. ‏You know it and they have a fire in the in the hand you know why he will in the hand will go to hell as they have this fire joking so and I saw thean was very very obsess with with some not what he did but he so hard you know he was so into >> [שירה] >> ‏So in the end of the came to him I told him what you say there he me forget about it I told them please no let me know no forget about it I [‏צחוק] you insist זא תהיה חליפתי, זה תהיה תמורתי, זאת תהיה כפרתי. היא תלך לגורלה ואני אלך לחיים טובים ולשלום. [‏צחוק] Horrible. The question is why people so miserable? Why they can find the right pet to go together? ‏So one time people came to me a couple came to me with the problem they have she understand something in way is on way or highway you know it's very complic you know what I want to see if there is a correlation between your definitions so please take this paper and in one line one line write to me what love mean to you what is love and now you ‏will do the same what is love for you buuse she claim she came and she said he doesn't love me and he said she doesn't love me so i want to understand what what we dealing here what's the problem over here and then i took the the paper back and now if it was ultimate situation it should be the sam but you know what it was so ridiculous she describ ‏Tom all this is how love the best husband in the world doing everything I'm working money I help with the kids learn I I have so much she will never find amazing husband as me why he feel it he give her tomatoes ‏No one could take this man the best woman in the entire world sacrificed to live with this husband and why she feel so good and he feel nothing buuse she give me cucumbers it's not what I what I explain how the sc love so you understand first of all ‏you have to give her cucumbers even though you want to get tomatoes and have to give you tomatoes even though she needs to get cucumber. ‏Now I completely sure and very convinced to understand what I want to tell you here. Don't try to live with other person with your language. You have to talk with his language and then he will be satisfied. He will be pleased. He will be happy. He want to pay back. ‏This is how it goes. So first of all the definition you have to talk a lot. If you don't and you will take it to the heart and you know you don't take out it will eventually you will see the you will see the results. It will be disaster. ‏So one time I was in you know there is there is abז give a very nice if you want your wife go next to you and do whatever you want you want I give you the some of you married yet so maybe it will work this I did it work ‏but he said immediately after the you will step on her leg and a she will go after you the rest of your life מסכת ברכותיה רכב עלגלים ותלכת אחרי האישה הולכת אחרי האיש ואין שהולך אחרי אשתו שכל הולך אחרי אשתו נקרא עם הארץ נופל בגיהינם אז אישה צריכה ללכת she need to fall in after him ok amazing so this is what I want I did על הרגre [נחירות בוז] מדdal חשב במסעדה מדdal [‏צחוק] not that desperate so in mdonald aven ‏Brooklyn and I see if work I did I did it so there was a plastic plates I throw it to the floor pick up pick up. She pick it up and she told me why you did it. I said yes it's working. She said what working? ‏I told her you know writ down in that if I will want to control you I will step and I did it and work you never did it no I heding dr in every side אני גםדה you didn't step on my leg I told her you sure she said yeah I don't know שמה דרכתי >> [‏צחוק] >> על חמתי דרכתי so I was in one time woman huge woman came to me after the I don't know something like met 3 met and she came after the don't talk with woman don't speak with the woman you told me if will step on my he will ‏me מיד אחרי החופה דרכתי לו על הרגל מסכן צולע על יריכום [‏צחוק] however the first problem that we have definitions you have to talk one with each other and to understand what was the problem between you guys if you don't talk it will be disaster so first of all tell me what you love I will give ‏You love you love midle day you have to provide whatever the other side needs. This is the first one. גמר גמרה very strange מדרש bring מנחות לז עמוד א the bring about של המלך in his time there was one woman she walk on the street suddenly a very strange guy came out from earth i don't know two strange i told you it's a strange i don't know how how it came but שים and you know דקוב מאוד if will sleep will if will sleep will talk this is מסכת קדושה קבין שיחה ירדו לעולם תשעה נטלו נשים so they got married and guess >> [כחכוח] >> ‏was heads the father passed away the mother passed away now the kids came to split the so obviously we have a problem over here the one all the sibs with the one they said you deserve one ‏and deserve to deserve to yes deser to so they went to המלך and המלך said what can i do there is no like this in יוסף אם אני רוצה לראות את ההלכה אין ילקות יוסף אין בן איש חי מה אני אעשה איפה נמצאת ההלכה הזו so what he did to check out to test if it's one unit or if it's a two ‏and take all the hot water and it was cover to scream כב לי אני כב לי so a conclusion now i understand that you won if you feel the pain ‏un ועזב שתבי ואמו ודבק באשתו והיו לבשר אחד if you can [נחירות בוז] happ with ארבין עליו השלום one time took his wife to his doctor and with her and came to כואב לנו הרגל so the surprised to exactly soבנו הרגל I feel her pain like is min if you feel the other person like it's your pain you actually won this is exactly test if you want to test it one a lot of people they don't care if the other person bleeding suffering ‏make you know in Berlin here in Brookly Island between LN ML I used to learn 20 years ago and I was a student one time משה he invited me to his house he passed away think one year ag years ‏Go and I came I I awward to say I don't like the food I don't like everything sweet special fish ישראל ישראל one time my friend call me I came in Friday from Israel and I I didn't take time to buy some stuff to so and it was always aat he told me you more than welcome ‏to come to our house now and I told him you know I'm a vegetarian I eat only fish he told me no problem I told to my mother she will make fish don't come come to our house so I came we enter in after the and I'm starving you know what this there is nothing to eat in the airplane. ‏I'm starving [נחירות בוז] I don't feel I don't smell the [כחכוח] I don't smell the fish שלב so I said maybe it's a summer it's hot they put the plata in the porch and I'm start to think and I look for nothing שלום we finish so after the told me oh mother ‏special fish for you thanks godving went she bring a jar [‏צחוק] now the jar the sticker you you can't see even what the sticker was become white and she tried to open it she give to her husband and husband tried to open it and he trying and said we save it for a special occasion I told him no it's not special I'm nobody מעשה שטן הצליח [‏צחוק] היה ניחוחות של ים סוף [‏צחוק] now he tried to take fork and try to take it out and the jelly doesn't give him to do it and he and suddenly was הוא בעל הבית געתיזה קציצה he was so happy. עונג שבת אח איזה עונג שבת איזה עונג שבת אישה באב עונג שבת so they gave me this קציצה the fish ball and i look at this he look at me i look at this he look at me he told me eat me if you got i don't now i was soed to tell them that i don't eatish my me אתה לא נוגע בחומר הזה. So I split it to PES and I said לשם קודשבר אני מקבל על עצמי ארבע מיתות בדין. [‏צחוק] I swallow it and obviously I took a coke. להעביר את רוע הגזרה. ‏And you my more [‏צחוק] you understand this is life say thank you ותכל מה שאומר לך בעל הבית עשה חוץ מזה פסחים דף פו so one time רבי אהרון משה שכתר invite me to house so not for the ‏and you know was the longest that I ever was like hours talking and talking all and I don't even understand one word and talking hours in וכולם צוחקים ואני לא מבין כלום everybody and I don't understand anything in the end of מאיר you will do the now special word in to say it and ודע את זה אני יודע ערבית אני יודע לדבר להגיד את זה איך אומרים את זה >> לא יודע [‏צחוק] and they work why you story ‏I sit over and is other student invit was a lot of them but his wife was the of table there and he was here all the all the I saw they talk with eyes ‏unbelievable how they get to understand one each other inantom they can read one each other and can they make a conversation full conversation only with eyes I know somebody can do it with oil so old man I ‏years old came to me in the ירושלים me what you need שלום בית הוא בן 80 הוא צריך שלום בית [כחכוח] how miserable it is why you want me to give you לא למך המוות כבר שיקח אותך לקוח [‏צחוק] old you know howous it ‏is need to fix over הקדוש to end of the day to deal with each other this is wasn't like in the פעם היה understanding now everyone they have a problem to find the how they said it's like a parking if you come you have a nice park if no double park יעני גרושה או אלמנה חניית נכים איפה זה נחים איך אומרים >> יופי גמרות היית יודע ככה [‏צחוק] one time there was a big reunion of woman above the singles 200 בנות רווקות מעל גיל 40 ‏and a of came to give and give to courage them you know try to help them and then they came and diamond was there and he said I'm asking for a volunteer somebody from the crown someone want to come here so you in a blue she came hey how old you are 45 what your name what you doing and start to talk with and of them no said what can I do him so he doesn't send him [כחכוח] what are you looking maybe looking something is not exist maybe this is why you single buuse you're looking for something it's not exist מישהו שם לי מישהו שיתאים לי he told her egoist שכמוך is this is the reason why you still single why buuse you looking for מישהו שיתאים לי אני עומדת פה הוא יתאים לי למה לא תחפשי מישהו שאתא לו about [כחכוח] whying that you will fix to him you will him will you this is why the reason why we break in a c under the למה כי זה הכי אסטי בעולם only take the cup when you single it's all about you happy not happy i want to do ‏break anyore this is why we breaking a cup so now this is why this is the reason why you still single you think about yourself all the time and if you understand that you will realize that this is why a lot of people have a problem to find the in this generation you know what I'm giving in the ‏Mexico and Argentina London Ves the most people ask for me after שידים שידוכים שידוך שידוכים שידוכים a מכה a [כחכוח] problem of this generation you know what the second most people ask meום בית שלום בית כנראה הברכה הראשונה לא הייתה כל כך טוב טובה. אז צריכים את הברכה עכשיו של השידוכים. [נחירות בוז] So now we have a problem. Let's say just listen to this one. This is how it goes in life. A person came to from work and he saw the house disaster disaster. The kids make in hold the house and his wife sitting with his WhatsApp. ‏Now a very trical problem very miserable if the kids will remember the mother only in this position all day long this eat eat go do like this only in this position they will not remember never in other position only like thisה אתaz busy with your need for kids when they go sleep when they wake up in the morning when you came back from school this is times that you have to be there for your kids before going to sleep close the cellone and come give them kiss. ‏Good night hug when they get morning get up in the morning. Good morning. We missed you. When they go to the school you have to tell them we hear all the time waiting for you and when you come back you have to close the cellone and to give a big. We missed you. How was your day? ‏This is people do with kids and miss them off the expect him the me all the time אסור לשון הרע אסור לשון הרע והוא שומע את אמא שלו כל היום לשון הרע בטלפון אז מה אתה רוצה so he got mixed messages come on it's ridiculous now the most ridiculous when the husband >> [כחכוח] >> ‏off make money to house כמו נפל פה דינמט כל הבית disaster all the house and he saw his wife good evening i said good evening your kids you know what your kids did to me אס אני הכפסת דולי עשיתי אותם בשיבוט לבד הרגו אותי הילדים שלך היום so what i did what you want for me i'm the sacrific what you want for me i do anything what you want me to put smile on my face i want you to put smile on your face make anything for you ‏to you I'm not the actor רוצה understand יאללה זה החיים כמה עוד נשאר לי לחיות לוקח book and see down suddenly somebody knock the door her sister came from brooklyn look how acting she jumping like a lion and open the door come show you what look this רגע רגע not מה זה ברגידו forband that supporter he give money he rais the kids help she so to him and somebody else it's she was so nice to him somebody told me that every he have to get some guests to his house otherwise terור אבל אם יש איזה ‏the guest everybody nice the actor everybody you know play the game מה שנקרא so why work like this i tell you it's a very simple very simple one she doesn't care so much like she used to and if they will be more sensitive one to each other and they talk one to each other and think one on each other it wasn't so bad you know one ‏I want it was a huge piece of Salomon I like no B I like and told me come and I said you know what I make it I leave it to my wife לה סעודה רביעית טוב I came in Sunday morning I open the fridge לא אמרתי לך לאכול אותי and you morning still there so come on what's going on why didn't eat it say I save it for you and I will save it for you we open it to split it spoiled ‏I think this is the thing this is the thing how you need to think to think about the other person it's not just about you anymore and this is one of the biggest problem people think all the time just on them יעקב חגיזר היה רבא של ירושלים חלק א' סימן ז הוא שואל האם לברך על אישה שהחיינו מתחת לחופה אפשר לברך עליה או לא אז זו אמר עד שאתה שואל אותי אם לברך שהחיינו היה לך לברך [כחכוח] אותי לשאול אותי האם לברך ברוך דיין האמת ככה אומר הלקת very interesting one however I want to give you a big tip for and this is the and here we finish with this with this lecture. I try to mix the end of the day and close it here. ‏So if you will think about the other person all the time and you will take her to date every one of two weeks and you will tell her everything that bother you and she will tell her everything bother her you will see a revolution in your marriage it's absolutely working and people came and told me it's work when you fight don't tell anything don't say ‏WhatsApp group you know everybody do it make make notes you know that's it I have notes about it now something she did something bad no you know I always said you have to give encourage to your kids you see your daughter נשאר כוח you see your son learning you know for him take 10 give her for you give him you saw your wife pray nice take 10 give her לא יודע אם 10 enough for her ‏things generation I don't know to renance restaurant I don't know to some nice restaurant you now now we didn't came just to eat we came to work on our wedning to our marriage we came to work on it how to work there ‏Take out take you want go start with all the notes she have on you and try to talk about it and will try to find the solution believe me it's working. People did it they saved the marriage. Why? ‏Buuse when you start to fight on the moment it's the worst time ever but when you take it and you talk about it in a different atmosphere in a different background you will see it's completely different it's completely will save you marriage but so now the question is יבוא המשיח there is [כחכוח] so many people diverse so many people miserable so many people with a problem of kids problem of ofית problem the question is מתי יבוא המשיח >> [כחכוח] >> מדרשמבן בסוף פירוש שלו על שיר השירים ומת לנו לא חברים מקשיבים לו כולך שמיעיני 200 לנוטרים לו 200 שנה קודם סוף האלף השישי חייב לבוא המשיח [כחכוח] ככה הוא כותב כמה שנים אנחנו לפני סוף האלף השישי כמה שנים >> אנחנו תשפ >> ו אז עוד כמה שנים להגיע ל-200 לפני 200 >> עוד 14 שנים עוד 14 שנים לשיטת הרמבן the end of the days. למה הוא 200 לנו את פריו? מי שנותר את פריו של הקדוש ברוך הוא יזכה לראות 200 שנה קודם סוף האל this is the end of בעיתה יש אחי שנה היום אם בקולות תשמעו הקדוש ברוך הוא can bring the משיח today tomorrow but the end of the day 40 years 14 years it that's it 14 years now comeח and said it's amazing butate ו עוב היוש הוא 200 לנו לו הוא 200 זה לא 200 זה הוא 200 זאת אומרת 206 שנים לפני סוף האלף השישי כמה זה 200,000 שנים עוד כמה זמן אנחנו מגיעים ל-206 שנים לפני סוף האל 14 - 6 כמה זה >> שמונה שנים so according to him in e years that sit נגמר עוד שנה שנים נגמר הקדנציה של העולם הזה. שמונה שנים. So the bring the brזר תולדות שבשנת תתבוא הגאולה. אנחנו תשפ כמה זה תת? >> לא, עוד כמה זמן אתה מגיע לת? >> 14. >> 14. זה היה לפי כמו הרמבם והוא כותב שם תצמה זמן זה תצת >> תשפו >> ארבע שנים אז יש לנו שלושה תאריכים או עוד ארבע שנים או עוד שמונה שנים או 14 שנים אבל more than that it can be יותר מ-14 שנים זה לא יכול להיות לפי פירוש אחד בזוהר זה עוד ארבע שנים לפי רבנו בחיי זה עוד שמונה ולפי הרמבן היה מגדולי רבותינו הראשונים זה עוד 14 אז לא נשאר עוד הרבה אז כדאי לך להישאר נשוי [‏צחוק] וגם כדאי לך to be good person and to make a lot of זכויות אין מזל טוב בעזרת השם גמרא מה יעשה אדם וינצל מלחיות גוג ומגוג סנהדרין צח יעסוק בתורה וגמילות חסדים אז ממילא תורה ברוך השם ישר כוח לחזק שהביאו אותנו שמשתדלים כל כך יפה ‏am activities they have here not just here in Queens in the entire America also I was in the in there is all over and they make amazing job amazing work amazing הרבים this זה גמילות חסדים אין תורה ברוך השם the spray out the lad of תורה וברוך השם צריך to help them to courage them enage them אתה לעזור להם לעודד אותם שימשיכו לעשות דברים טובים יהי רצון שהקדוש ברוך הוא יזכה אותנו לראות במרה במשיח צדקנו במרה בימינו אמן ‏amين