Rav Heshy Schwartz speaking about R' Yossi Basker z"l a member of Kollel Ohr Mevakshei (Ohr Shmuel)

right words somebody came over to me the morning Monday morning after said say something certain times a word worth a being quiet is worth double it's time to speak it's time to say that the right we still all in the State of Shock and really cannot say that anybody's able to really be something in their mind to be able to say something appropriate but if the week goes by and we don't say anything then I'm afraid that we all know says that if there's something a tragedy that happens and we move on and just say m then that's Aus so I don't want it to be interpreted that we're just moving on life as usual cuz it's not is not the same that it was a week ago not and it will never be the same let me explain what I mean tell us takes those why use the word why not cries we also find another we all know what does that mean a person could control three days Mach days now say I think that there's different types of Tears there different types of doesn't have a of it's not explain one of the talking see from the mess not why already learns that only has a it's only called a tear it comes from a li person otherwise doesn't have a it doesn't have a tear so a dead tear is a tear that's a tear of Le a live tear is a tear of B is a tear of I'm going to do something something different I'm going to something is going to happen out of this tear it's not just going to be a tear that's just going to go because the first three days the comes on the because in those tears with human beings there is a certain extent tears of years tears of how could this happen tears of P for ourselves all kinds of interesting things that come into into play That's when we're out of that now we can talk yeah with tears as long as it's that's the right time what does that mean want us to worry what's the worry push is others are going to die there been many kabas over the years not plague never passed away from a heart attack what's the what does it mean just thinking about it a little bit so the simple thing that I came to me first to every person has to take a certain limit has to take a limit from because if not that means that he didn't learn anything it's a big time on us and I think the one thing that I for myself just from being together with theti for three and a half years almost daily and he was here not only during the week he was here many times on Sundays even shabas before daving was watching a person that every minute counted in a certain sense he was nft one of the wealthiest people that I know she went through too much you didn't have packed his day from morning to night was in the morning afternoon it was packed decides every single thing when it's going to be who's going to go when first wanted the history left at age 41 we don't know when we're going to go we don't know how long we're here for nobody knows but there's only one thing that we do know for sure that we do can't control the only thing that we can't control is what's anything that's above sh m and that we do have a that we have a control that we can decide what to do when we watch a person that pack his day like that that's something that we can take if we don't take a limit whatever limit we got on us but there's something that's more important that is relevant to us this specifically then helpus everything this is too much to focus on this something means not just a bunch of that get together in a room means that there's something that unifies us together somebody makes a recipe we have a make a recipe have a bunch of different ingredients you have the flow and the water and the salt and the sugar all the different it's not just a bunch of random things that come together let's say one day you wake up in the morning you come to your shop and you see I don't have sugar okay we'll just add a little bit more salt there was unique recipe here there was a recipe that included now that is and he's not here then dag is that we have to be our recipe is now off there's something very wrong and missing over here we can't just go on with our own personal avoid the way it was until last week because now recipe as a is off it's very off so we have to be Miss what we're missing so that each of us picks upid a notch to be Mas to fill in the Gap from I think for I just look at what we saw there so much to be said just what we saw saw a person that was was here every single day doesn't matter he's always had his he came every morning when you saw [Music] him didn't have it easy there were certain things we saw with our own eyes certain things that we'll never know did anybody here ever hear one half a complaint come out of this person's I know and I was pretty close with it we had a person that we don't always get to see on with on a daily basis he slept Ador his father the times that his father was by him when his mother was sick and many times there was no night nights and no days such idle such patience such coverage such respect the things that we saw the things that we saw things that we saw to the and we all know it's not easy to every single day we all have our moods about F get to choose today call someone else every day you got to be in the mood and then you're going to have people that are not in the mood start and you hear it and he would just shrug it off and say tomorrow unbelievable this was it's incumbent upon us take whatever we can from our own AV to rebalance what this recipy is thank the we had the privilege to have him here from the beginning 3 and A2 years almost to have such a now it's on us to continue that's for his that was to his on his side to everything because we all know that do without help invested so much into them that's together