Rav Gav The Long Short Road: "How To Make Proper Decisions"

take anything off evening thank you thank you that I use too much Nigel pyramid yeah amazing like a good all right Sofia start a little bit don't be too nervous about these things over here the cameras do not see you so you can answer whatever you'd like this please practice it with your name and address phone okay and the solution okay just to start off over here I'd like to ask a question we know that in Judaism we have two different categories of people that we deal with very quite off as it comes up with going to be very soon believe in that we've Illinois in my holy days are coming up with shuttle Yom Kippur and that's going to be we may coming up when they talk about the combos out after hours the next month and then lol those right before us to shut up so maybe 13 these kinds of very very soon something known as a Sabbath which means a righteous person and then something known as a Russia do they eat evil or wicked what wicked that person I am a question is what is the difference between a sonic a righteous person and a Russia a wicked person begin who said that their intention that is one answer give me another one [Applause] good savage does let's say more follows more the things you supposed to follow the Russians let the brass focuses on not too positive of the negative things but give me another one another one what's a difference give it's a together the way you look at them right where you go look at them I do them so I'll tell you one thing which is a very big issue for those who grew up in a religious background give it to me girl religious and observe at home and I'm hoping to observe at home okay so those who grow up in observant home they've a very violent but sometimes we get a very skewed view on what is a is Isis person and what is a a wicked person so what people can see what I'm talking about what I mean it's like this there's a publication which unfortunately one of the main people from this publication it was a lot of us just passed away called our scroll their articles very well-known would have been around for 40 plus years and and they came up with a lot of books they come out with a lot of biographies of great big tourist ages and what we call telling the Cohanim or Sabean's great holy people and the mistake that some people make is that at least that somebody grew up religious a lot of times you don't observe it you're shown these righteous people and then you read books about them and you read books about them they're very not normal books whatever even that is is he talked about them as if they were born from the womb they came out look like long beards completely dressed is turning some emotion so please and get that there's not much you know and making blush name W they're like the hall things as if there were always these righteous amazing beautiful people and then when you take a look at that again if you have for those who understand the understanding those who don't they make sense if you wouldn't do even grow up the descent ality but what ends up happening is it's a big turn-off really because you end up thinking well then I basically have no hope where I could have a person that was born this way and I'm going this way therefore in that way in your on point in a way which I'm totally different so they have an opportunity to be great and I don't have an opportunity be great anymore but the mistake the reality is that that's not the case the case is that we were not not everybody was no person was born as a righteous unbelievable amazing person as or like that if I can go so far as to say if I could say something which is a little bit like it just a little Russian her like it is for sure you have negatively just a little bit about the habitat now to understand with what I just said that that is a big no-no with a misalignment straight to hell but I'll guarantee anyway so the phone excited was a very great sages we saw there a coding Tatum of making 39 to 1933 and lucite and it's known as the complex kind for very whatever the business move along great holy rabbi one of the books he wrote called coffin side it's where they have it their first all the [ __ ] time which means the desire in life based off a first fountain to Hill them Psalms chapter 34 rapidly says King David me Alicia coming trying who's the one who desires life essentially who wants to live what we speak guard the way he speak it what a book about it what a book about speech he was very careful not to speak negatively about anyone and I now that I speak negatively about him here we go I hope they're so now just to bring it in and such as news they were further you want to think of that any mentions I gotta try it spoke Russian heart it would speak negatively about people where number this wonderful time speak negative buddy bones yes Kabbalah senior yeah okay well where else will you speak negatively okay come on give me something that will you people come on be anymore there's only a lot right okay special items butcher yeah why do these the questionnaire perhaps I was not looking good when you use a little child you're a surgeon right but well then use a little child who you need to cover time came out of the woman is he's a little kid is like two years old and the other kid and that's bad at all don't think like that come on cup corn that you spoke anyone else with his little can't really work with himself an Egret Egret ego the kid realize what the difference is too excited get in Russia wicked person to the righteous person now listen why am I here why I'm asking this question because no matter which direction you look at yourself like don't don't be stuck in that place in other words if you are inside to give your righteous don't think you're so far off from becoming wicked and if you look at yourself with your wicked don't think you so far off be righteous what happens is sometimes you look at ourselves in a negative way and therefore we look at ourselves in a certain negative way we become that way right in to get that constant very simple you look at yourself away to become that way alright you see my love of personal example big praise Williams you speak which is why you know I always say that someone speaks a certain way becomes reality yeah I heard from a few different sources one from a fella named for to get everything before we made a couple of cars and before that I heard from little big savers Confucius asked a song about in the Snapple cap right that says whether you say you can you say you cannot it doesn't matter you're right everybody get the concept whether you see it Kelly synchronizes matter you're right if you say you can you be able to overcome things you never could've imagined you see cannot you shake yourself and you're done you finish the thought that have been out exactly yourself a personal want to be able to grow up this one's open to get higher and higher higher and higher don't specifically about yourself this is why I always say never say I'm so stupid ever say that you do it's true don't Satan because if it becomes more to reality so to look like that so person is all bad I do our wicked random a Russian bad person fooling let's say you are let's say you want but the more you save do where you stay that way right and what you say that we stay yeah we say the white stage and then for just what to get out of it you want to break on through to the other side moving something else you can do it you can do it but understand how could you do it you're not so far off what the difference in its havoc in a rush a wicked person and a righteous person there's not so far off well I mean of course they're their models apart but they're not so far off I mean there's so many similarities let me give you another misconception that we roof old another myth is that idea what's between Italian Russia look a person a righteous person is the very famous verse which states the following idea I'm starting to finish it t Sheva evil sobbing we come right which means what the righteous person for seven times however try and we get back up now here here's where it come back to right is did a wicked person someone says well a righteous person you know they got their thing they're always doing the right thing everything is always good they never have problems everything is greater than one applied every one of us do that right I must look at other people and we we judge was the only a great life other things could for that easy for you to say okay could you have everything going for him that when you you know you have no idea what's going on people's lives he is idea the grass is always greener on the other side right that you're in Seattle's even what they're to be involved with that but understandable wrong with the concept of reality we say Oh someone else that they're going to employ do people are going to our righteous person that we know never false correct or incorrect says the possibly share thought defaults addict become was the righteous person foggiest enough the righteous person father that's right seven times what 727 times in every day of the week tell me who knows the veloute boots say it again including the holy Sabbath up which is the Libra mr. - Libra what is strange about deposit key Shelby you books have you become welcome back what is strange about the verse key Sheva people sadly confer come what does it mean English anyway good good it's not a past tense when it says that the righteous person he follow means what is it one would have expected me that the righteous person fell seven times but he got up doesn't say that my future tense no not found Depot he will fall when's he gonna fall again and again and again what's going to happen over and over and over righteous people fall what's the difference to see the righteous and wicked people what's the difference the difference between the righteous person a wicked person is that the righteous person actually gets up everybody falls you we all fall but do you get that tough again how many times have you tried to do something your life and you fail and when you leave it back it'll be bad and you don't go back to what it was but not on goal I try it again okay and then it failed again okay it's it again you try again yeah I try to go to fail because gave up people that sadek understand something you're going to fall you're going to fall you're gonna fall you're going to fall you're going to fall you to fall I'm gonna fall I think we got seven you're gonna fall seven times but you're going to get up get up stand up Santa pull your right don't give up the fight you gotta keep pushing push it push it some more and I don't know oh yeah it's going to be hard but if you don't push you're gonna father you to stay there it's almost like to sweep me up when it's all over when I'm wiser and I'm older you know I mean like why do I go into the steps no right now he's gone get up righteous people follow the key people fall but the difference is the righteous person says I fell but I get up again how many people getting back down you get up again you're never gonna sleep again innocence how many people here know people that you grew up with that you were both involved you and then we're involved in certain projects whatever maybe and you fell off and you stopped doing it but they continued and you didn't know that they think and you meet them years later and not only do they continue they succeeded in acting levels they don't know someone like that yes enough I don't know if something like that if you know someone just look at me blankly go to jail although we all know people like that well know people that like oh he gave up learning a language we gave up learning how to play a insurance we gave up on a certain project they kept going with it we gave up on Facebook and they stole it we gave up on us we give up a certain thing that they kept going to look without today it's not a matter of this is almost like I was on a plane and I was because I was hitting next well actually I was flying from somewhere to Toronto I don't know where it was maybe Philly maybe I was I'm silly maybe I was in Montreal I don't know where I was but I know it was from somewhere to Toronto I wouldn't even remember the Toronto part it's not to the fact that I said I saw this woman I didn't say that so at first this was a senior citizen and the reason I say it like that is because she told me that so she introduced herself I am a senior citizen I said okay suppose I am it was heavy with Annie she had just turned 64 and apparently in Canada 64 senior citizen you get your card and she goes now I just play everyone as if I need things because I'm a senior citizen this isn't a senior citizen they give it to me so what would happen you're sitting at an exit row I get on the plane it was like to to like smallest okay to to and I sat in the exit row and I had the seat next to the window and then the one exit was open I was I could he grades good myself and he was like a minute later this woman systemics to me because I am a senior citizen theis fighting I am NOT yeah I don't know what to say to you hates ashamed of me she was sitting a couple of back and she said if you found a senior citizen can you move me hob but so she said it this is detecting she's like suckers things look six before like a pool Oh mister talking and she started telling me she's Jewish a secular woman but she said telling me I mean she looked at me I don't know I don't know why she thought it was religious but she started thinking this and I was trying to because me about like different things within religion or whatever size said it all and she so telling a friend and Patricia finds that she grew up with and this friend of hers started to become me so it become observance I become religious they both go but it's such a long southern some others should this is a best friend and as they got older and older she saw that her friend was becoming more and more into her Judaism and she was not and okay they haven't spoken over years nothing bad to just you know their lives parted and here she is the senior sit the ripe old age according to her of 64 and she's saying how yeah you know maybe I should have done things differently this accepts the same maybe I should have done things a little differently I guess what I could have done this I could have maybe gone to more classes like she did I guess I could have done it's just give me a whole list of things that she regrets she didn't do and I turned to her I don't remember her name because I confused it with another Toronto story but there was a woman and her name will call her a woman and I said woman she said it's a little disrespectful your senior citizens whether you wouldn't notice many women so woman see you example said you know she's helping you you sound like you're eulogizing someone it's because what you mean I said you are not dead if you really feel like you should have done certain things do them go now and do that now depending of age and stage of people's lives it becomes a little more difficult er or less difficult but it's never you can't do something and with Thunder this is all I wish I would have done such a thing it's true you wish would up and it'll be great to have done and you didn't do it let's call what is it he said you messed up according to your understanding okay so then change it can you read and really shine like a rocket something just changing the rush of the wicked person that's a heavy word wicked why don't you lick it if you give up you give up your weekend giving up for keep going push go little more and that's every single person in this room by the way in every area pick an area of your life this is the societies both of you but the interesting thing that you did point out though is that what did she do that changed her trajectory or more accurately her friend what did her friend that change the trajectory where they were like this there were tell them and now one is here and one is here what what was done what was it difficult in one speed and now I'm going to share with you another idea of the difference between its I began in Russia a wicked person a righteous person this is a wild idea beautiful see the Talmud says something very heavy the problems is found in Sudan page 52 I think you're not going to checks I can make it up the Thomas things a very fascinating idea it says that righteous people are going to look back on their lives and they're going to see events in their lives as what the caller calls it kids hooked up Sarah what about silence they're going to see it like that like like big mountains big mountains and the wicked people are going to look back in their lives and looked at their lives things that they've done the challenges as to quickness are close those are things like a hairsbreadth meaning this villainous cow if you like an idea that I once heard somewhere and then will say what I wear I saw something from the the saga from the Verity and would say for my drink Assad that brings them the next day or seducing which is literally like altering it will change your life it will change your life I'm not saying for the better but your life will change listen listen to this what are we talking about here without making a two people and they're looking back at their life challenges and looking at the things that they've done or that they haven't done or look at the measures of things in particular of the other particular challenges that they have they went through life and the wickedness and looks at the challenges in a way of like oh the small little hair it was nothing and the righteous person will take a look a huge amount when you guys that finance question has anyone here ever been faced with the challenge what they wanted to do something that they knew they shouldn't do question mark one of one person let me say that again okay maybe that's hard was that difficult should we change the language have you ever had a challenge in your life where you do you shouldn't do something but you want to do it yes it up six good we're getting closer have you have you ever had a challenge your key to the camera that woman I have you ever had a child yes to know you had a child like that give me the tell us what it was come on share with the class okay god yeah we don't we don't really but okay you had a child you got a challenge a like this in them yes have you had a challenge right and you I knew the Geoghan love okay they've had a challenge right really should yes in our back of a friend your friends would be still has a friend like that if you say have a friend a guy okay solicit you can see what happens you're standing in front of the challenge and you want to do it but you know you should what are you doing what pray you to rock okay I would say it differently run and threat right now to be more inaccurate order and the Talmud even said have you pulled many nos video clip already nice you should have run away from Sid like you run away from fire I know a friends of mine who is called friend okay does a friend of mine that once in a circumstance where he was alone with the opposite gender and he had a tremendous urge to be involved in speaking with them whatever that means translate that in your own language and there was going to be the words elevation they were going to communicate and that veterans urge at that moment and the guy yelled out yelled LF yelled fire she goes wearing the ghazal dollar you ran out of her it's actually basically Talmud the Talmud says the vgat to introduce think again it says that the story about a rabbi also another interesting 1000 to 75 inserted another so what tells you to Akina service is the opposite Engel but go back to here from 80 to inclusion it was a rabbi who saw this woman on the second floor and an addict back in the day how did they get to the Attic they had a ladder there a lift and put up and this ladder took the it took ten people to carry this ladder an orthopod up he saw this woman who's already an older man he saw this woman up on the second floor he took the letter by himself lifted it up adrenaline put it up there it starts walking up the steps to speak with her and what happened was at the moment he starts going officer when he duty stuff himself he yells out fire now back in the day what do people do do fire everyone would come running with buckets of water right that's how you did like you know it's called 9-1-1 call why please paying now you are on strike that they were having to go fire and people would come running this bucket and they all came running in and they saw it this old man on the ladder and the like where's the fire okay yours put it down that's good this one you mean because it was in my heart I fired my heart out of passion the joy he put it down good so right run scream fire and do it you gotta do it you're standing in front of the urge you have the temptation to do something wrong the fool you shouldn't be involved with the person you shouldn't be involved with the opportunity the money to cash this - whatever it is it's there you feel that urge and you're thinking I really do this I don't have that before I really shouldn't do this so what's the next sentence you say I really shouldn't have done that target I really shouldn't do this and after it's like why did I do that and tell me people let's talk about food let's talk about food is my favorite sounds it was high ground soon as they don't hear okay you better answer this question I'm going to call you after in school as you know I'm going to go one by one I didn't you ever been on a diet before and then died as a diet for none of you in this section none of you yeah write down executive Tim none of you okay fine but for life plan a bit of a life plan that better all right there is a life plan I did go to a light plane before and we staying in front of chocolate maybe doesn't talk to you it locks we make chocolate if you started hearing things for your true that's a problem but they documents shortly with it selected the peace chocolate with chocolate on it that's filled with chocolate okay now with chocolate on the side is the whole thing it is to live in chocolate is whole thing with the fondue stuff you're not talking about then they call fun do what's it called from dimple yeah you know the views of the put things like fruit or whatever yeah I put chocolate under that if I do it and then put it back on it and then you are you standing in front of it and you know you shouldn't have this you know you should but you mainly want it but you know you shouldn't have it to me no you shouldn't have it and what happens you're looking at it you're like I want it my deletion and the chocolate says back after all and we even - I will make it up to you really no I promise no so what happens you have this urge and you fall to it what happens the main to fall for the urge how do you feel so regret do any of you at that moment feel I so could have got done it does it or not I'm talking about say yeah yeah now the chocolate okay listen a company out there there's no to plenty to put that in and do it and when you finish that you do it about things that things that the hey let's say you fall to whatever that thing is yeah you falsely secondly like ah I can't believe I fell for that Berthold you can worth it because it was pirates second of all second of all something they like Claro seventy percent you know it don't go for this is gonna be all hard right right and then athletes you find that it could've I couldn't overcome we've had that feeling I couldn't overcome what does it mean when you're Thomas says and suck up what page was it this introduce unity to and suka 52 what does it mean when it says that if a person goes ahead and when they go ahead and the first time they do the wrong thing after they do it it says about that side week the righteous person looks back and he sees a mountain the wicked person looks back and sees a little Harris breath because the righteous person didn't fall to him now watch what happens to a person who has an urgent a temptation how strong is a temptation weaker strong strong good strong is strong forget their right stronger strong after you do it how we have song is a vision very weak to non-existent get it it went from unbelievably powerful to nothing it becomes like this little strains of air you couldn't just throw it away cut stepped over walk away from it get it what happens if you overcome the challenge and you don't fall to it what does that challenge look like it is no small one it remains in the same status of challenge you just put it in a box this is important to understand this small box you put it in a super good job it's adequate light reading by the cold-blooded look I've ever used to go to the net I know what is greater than the friend the greater you become the more of an evil condition you get it's like why would I hope for the louder the greater it wouldn't be better for you not to become great let me remain low and decide what small gates are evil inclination why should I want to become great I love a bigger evil inclination that's taste amount to a person saying you know that when you go ahead and you make money that the IRS can get to at any point right here it's Misaka Misaka called which happens to be the same numerical value as anomaly okay which I wish I was kidding but it's too far so they can get you at any time so do you see the following well if there is there a greater chance of let's have a chance of you being audited if you're making more money create a chance so I might as well make little honey when does it make very little money there wasn't a chance with anybody seen that yet here has more to do with your okay maybe a protective theories going on now now it's all you all right so what happens a person goes ad and the greater more influence you have moment of more chances you have in order to be able to get called up so I have an idea don't make any money or I'm better again how about make the money to illegally instead and be careful when a person goes greater their evil condition grows event but if you stay strong you're able to keep that thing in a box it's like a diet if anyone here actually stayed on a diet for longer than a day then perhaps you've experienced usually takes up few weeks until you start to then kick in to the point where you're not even tempted by that thing anymore so they get what I said yeah yes you see that thing some of you you don't get it then I see you haven't gotten past a few weeks and if you get it then I see right so that means after a few weeks you see like autumn mean that I can overcome the challenge get it I could overcome a challenge what happens though if you're at a state after a month of being on a diet you're good you have a check and you're at a party and they absolutely and you know you look at it and that's attempted you say you know are you guys have a button for all of them say no you're not even so pulled by it it's just like bored you know you're there is something else it will laundry see show me a little bit what happens if you have a little bit what happens that box had just held in that tremendous temptation explodes open tell me something never noticed when a person eats not healthy that starts eating healthy and then goes back to eating not healthy do they go back to where they work well to the NGO given much lower everybody got that you break your diet you can eat is you don't know what it is before you go [ __ ] yours what does that mean why it's just because your temptation was building things into the pot you're holding it as long as keep it in the box of five did you open up Pandora's box you dumb baby you finish you get some thoughtful explosion of chocolate so let's take a look and see the person who go there and they die I look back in the life for the challenges that they had but they didn't fall to they look back at it like whoa look at that mountain we're gonna develop them huge look at a huge mountain that they overcame the wicked person who falls to his temptation and all that mountain I became that little hair is in habit that makes any more respect those oh my gosh that was it I could overcome I didn't how foolish I feel so we get this let's take it one step team and now we get to the Sabbath of the faculty sister stallion you mentioned the city modules over you saying these planes these planes exclaims if you're watching this video don't say I mean but then when you should say I mean over that argan oil in the mountain lunch I call me a girl so the made in China night oh here we go you explain like this what's the difference between an sandy in a russia so we have you Shelby both diving for God the right is what falls when you get back up but we couldn't fall Vinnie Steve down we got a bit deeper with understand the Talmud and 52 and took up we still did I hope that's right that says it so many times when I better be right that says that what happened they look back and they see it's like this huge melting the racist people and one of the wicked people will get this little little little hairpins of these tubes you could have overcome because when you Falls in addition all of the design have dissipated it's over it was just an illusion but if you never faltered remaining that status you can have a check but our means the next status that's why those who became righteous and fall off the path they go way off everybody have no 7 you grew up in a religious home in the last two years Oh perhaps you know them personally take a look and see what happens to those people they go way off as opposed to a person you know just testing this [ __ ] whatever that's it is what it is here says the sava from the fire link the following idea what to do sin inside again Russia essentially it's the way in which we view certain things that we've done in our lives allow me to explain as anyone here ever said I will never fill in the blank so those over cement yeah we got this side this side back with the middle there anyone yes let's go to the video people I'm sorry no questions now fainted we've all had times in our lives when we said I will never tell you if any of you ever said I will never when you did it yeah he said I was having you did it give us our own that when you did it you said everything did that depend have you ever said I will never this global directions a positive or a negative you said I will never fill a it can be positive or negative and when you end up doing it now I need someone here who feels comfortable as a volunteer I'm not going to ask you what it actually was the war I'm just comfortable okay what's your name don't say it okay here we go call you Stacey woman yeah okay hold on oh you are now behind listen carry on hi I could say fortunate we're sorry okay IRA you've been in circumstances we said we'll never correct he said however you did is that correct so it probably won't get your be a little more honest I think that I should never do Wow so you're done anybody else anybody you can come on over here come on I'll see you later all the similar okay what's in it re okay Sarah Oh Ganesha okay that Sarah for the nation Sarah okay here we go I just think we're going to say it again have you said I'm never going to and you did yes and then you perhaps continued on in doing more things because of the you did yeah shaking places now hasn't happened I'm not asking you for the example I'm not doing for the circumstance can you remember what it was going all the way back that by doing this that's what brought you to be able to do you said you'd never do does that make sense what I said you can you think of what it was yeah you can so that you have the things your minds did you never do and you did and you also can bring it back to the original thing you did that opens the door to fall yes or no you think so the thing the original thing what the original sin was the original thing that said that you did was that thing a huge thing or very small thing medium it is so you went you're telling me now let's go back to the medium thing was there anything before the medium setting that allowed you to do the medium thing immediately was the very first thing is quite interesting like tell see example alright let's let's take a look I find very interesting you say medium I don't know what that means I've never heard that before but let's play it though it certainly wasn't huge you can think that could you have overcome the medium thing would it have been hard to walk away from the medium thing you could have stopped us right cuz it stopped and here is where the bottom line this is where things get very crazy all of you of assuming are familiar with the story of Adam needs is that correct the Adam and Eve okay what happens Adam and Eve Adam Eve and I allow to eat from the tree and they end up eating from the tree the snake comes along and he attempts he goes to eat he says Eve eat from the tree what does she say keep going why all happy to be touching her Eve says I can't eat from the tree not only carry from the tree I can't even touch the tree can't touch that brand because if I touch the trade bumbum you're gonna die love mom you can't touch the tree because you can touch the tree you die he says really no for those who know the storyline that true you touch the tree would you die [ __ ] no you cannot die by touching the tree so why did she say that that's because according to the sip station I called him on Raschi brings down the idea that really it was autonomy shown Adam told her and added that God said don't eat he added won't even touch and he didn't explain to her that it's just a precaution it doesn't mean the actual thing itself she understood that to mean an actual thing himself that if she touches she's going to die and she thought that is it don't touch the tree and she the state goes don't worry about it eat from it no I can't even touch it why won't happen you'll die what is a duty trip sir go on said prevents results in these industries little birdie gaining the whole day here before eldest they know that everything is pretty good the main food cook yet remain focused else's it's part of what happens goes bad and she touches the tree and what happened was she died no should have him died and now she's like oh my goodness well now she's all confused and then she ends up that the state gets to eat from the tree and she does she gives some atom and then here we are today and not such a good state for those who don't know this they were in bad today because of that all right tell me something we both what was the mistake in the story of Eve and the steak what was the mistake okay Adam something I do did you touch it good so we see something once you say if this do this something happened you see it but it happened so I'm willing to go to go to further to something even before that what was the mistake what who tell him ooh what was a mistake of you more specifically I think I said he's worth it again what was it a mistake by Eve and the snake what excellent what was the mistake of Eve and the snake the fact that Eve even entertained a conversation with someone who is trying together to do something she shouldn't be doing so video with this Apple so let me give you a little insight on what this means okay for let's say how the signal was not here but single ladies I'm going to warn you about something single gentleman I'm sorry for giveaway trade secrets where's your downfall ladies your downfall is it's let's say you're sitting in a bus stop and a guy comes to pick you up that's all for it but less he puts you down and then he wants to get you to date okay so you come to the line you're walking by as he's sitting there let's say and he goes oh hey so where are you from if you already know these scumbags and you're smart enough to ignore them but they are sly and cunning and they say oh I understand that you must be in a rush it looks like you need to redo your hair because it seems to be very frizzy and off you then turn to go excuse me you're gone now now you're toast excuse me what'd you say about my hand nothing nothing no I'm so sorry me it looked like knows your a pose with the cat how do you what you probably use Herbal Essence don't you you're like whatever why yeah and you guys know if they'll just relax miss away from everything here it has happened you've now been caught the problem and the real issue was that Eve even entertained having a conversation with this inclination which brought about the destruction and death to the world over here is that that small little of Reps medium thing indication that small little or breast medium thing that happens is the very opening that now moves everything songs you hear that why does it tell that's a when it goes that it says that that Saavik looks back and he sees this huge mountain and the wicked person sees this small little thing says the Talmud and shadows coming docile GA Zara this is the wave the evil inclination high y'all a little bit tomorrow little bit do today a little bit due to a little bit do tomorrow a little more until slightly every violation end up doing adultery come on that's crazy the Sahara the same evil village in the sense you can't get to do the wrong thing right away I mean the person again who who grew up with Liz's enemies with the dis right now anybody yeah so my toes right now go wake Shabbos it's all Chavez or Shabbat Somali you which order you them you know both okay he says go bring shibata's hey don't break this about this is hell go break it what were you saying no thanks okay thank you so much real cops to show up with whoever they are you will do it yes forget of course that it's not even to the realm of your what break shadows we talking about a group of my whole life person didn't grow up with a different story but something over your old life like what it's I don't know they can't get you by just saying now don't let it run with a married person go to go rob a bank try to think less into making sense so what do you say is that you're some peas and carrots on your plate and like you're not a big fan of peas would you like carrots so you can pick out the peas from the carrots now some of you are thinking what is he talking another background some very basic information that comes with the loss of status others are like oh no be careful hide Scylla there is a violation on Shabbos and what is not allowed to separate things that they don't want some things that they want we look at Shabbos that things they don't want some things they want things you watch you don't want you can pull apart to use now but things that you don't want you're not let it take away so for example if I teasing carrots and I want to eat the carrots so I'm allowed to take the carrots and eat them I'm not going to take the peas and put them aside and then need the cats because I took what I don't want and separated that why that is a whole lot of discussion which will probably never happen she what perfectly persico's that you think like Oh Thor we survive what does it mean doing which if I Drive a car don't kill anyone at rubato Chava they'll give you things like that robbed a beneficial but like what Pisa Cal you you later you're right wing's also our next phonetic oh my goodness okay alrighty yeah okay this is no bit like simple lots of bolaños by the beginning when I think over seven or eight whatever it is write the force of the old first eleven maluf of the behalf is Bo dare argue more inclined to drive a car on Shabbat or to separate a peon can you get it because we don't look just all depends on how I raised a lot of tax but I was I wasn't raised to see peace and character to see the driving car so let's have a car okay then onion and onions to go down you big deal two stories get a job finished on Putin big deal right but they are driving a private road just not the way I think that's right yeah okay so gradual that get too detailed over here the bottom line is Boulder excuse all right so whether it's going to be something which is going to be but I have see a graph that something which you have to cook your life for whatever it is but bad irreducible through that yeah the ball how should even like each other like we're both probably like the shop so yeah when I get involved in it right when a person will more quickly separate between character they will turn on the lightning a white men to topi don't all right amazing will be Adil you're going on okay at the end of the day so those it'll say I'm talking on let's bring back the Yangzhou Harbor understands I'm not going to get someone by going big so it's got to go a little medium I got to start the medium in order to get you once you fall to that you're welcome to do the next thing the next thing the next information the next thing let's go to the things you'd never do after you've done all the other steps and now you're at that big thing and you fall to it what you have there correct some point in your life was it a challenge well in other words did you at the time you were about to do whatever it was think you should or it was so far that stage really doesn't even matter anymore amazing makes it reviews that so far that we don't even know it's a chance I'm tellin all because of course I'm going to do all day every day is that how many of you don't have calm yourself at the moment beforehand you know I really shouldn't do this out of ten times how many of you walk oh how many of the times you walk away from it and put it out the wrong way if you fall seven times even more than that perhaps you don't the difference is it's a beginner Russians a them who come who's considered a wise person what's that I love it because I'm talkin something else now what is it Rowlett I know that somebody who looks into the future look into the future what is that that means somebody who's intelligent enough to take a moment before they make a decision and ask themselves where is this decision going to take me down the road because every step you take I believe we spoke like them about as well every move you make we'll be watching you but can't you see you love everything that you do puts you on a trajectory let's go back to woman on play these two women are living parallel lives this woman decides to make a decision that starts to ship but that ship is so my new that you don't even know this Bishop this is for better or worse of someone positivity that positive thing that say I will never do positive thing it's just more shifts more just more - you look a couple years on the line you're in a totally different lifestyle you never wake imagine do it a bit here how did I get there and one of the misery anyone in this room right now that I would have asked you a month ago or two months ago do you think you'd be sitting in this room listening to a class from some guy who looks Jewish on Judgment Day yeah any of you I was like you three months ago you'll be sitting in a room would you say yeah that except we really like our new attitude line answers yes let's not for now okay already is your perhaps have been through things years ago to sleep I mean today I can't believe it they make it he says it's just it makes perfect sense it's a decision that you need at some point in your life and that decision brought you to a whole new direction that you came to magically got it's an Alex understand what the Sabbath from thematic says you know what they're working on right is person in a tragically Russian to represent wicked that a righteous person looks at every action in his life like what like a mountain every decision is gonna make he was there and says okay here's a decision what will that be like in a few years in other words every decision you make is monumental what does a wicked person say what's a big small little thing what does this small little thing even matter what is this small little thing even matter is it a big deal if I don't want to hang out in this place or I eat that or I talk like this or address as follows etcetera does it really make a difference answer is yes because that my friends is the Gateway to take you to a whole nother life for better or worse and that depends on my new small decisions so the wicked person looks at every decision if the whole facade are like a small little hair breath and that feeds our he says it's just a small thing don't worry before you know what you're doing acknowledging and the righteous person looks at every decision no one no way I'm doing that because you know what I can take me that could take me to crazy places for example I'm gonna give you an example with a friend of mine said I thought usually give this example I don't I'm not a big fan of it I don't know enough about it that's truth I'll do an example Facebook no big deal right what's the big deal of having a Facebook accounts beautiful I want to share with you a startling statistic 43% of divorces in the United States mentioned the word Facebook 43% of divorces in the United States beware it is around that 43% of the voice of the United States mention the word Facebook you the follow now part of me part of me for this I don't know you guys the rush up says what could be the problem the Sally said are you not even know where does he take you you understand the the impact of what this can do to your life the answer some people are so confused what could include in my life I don't know maybe get a contact of old people that beautiful sometimes it's good to Cheerilee not you can get involved with old friends and who knows where that leads to 43% people know what is that lead what's the big deal if I lived my life in a way you know where they get people are crazy now like phones and things like if filters don't get filters you should know something it's not just ultra-orthodox people that discuss the house of the filters 99% of the filters are made by non-jews because they understand the impact of what the Internet can do do if you're watching it now on the Internet wonderful it does say these the impact of the Internet to duty some of you are old enough to remember a time when there was no internet there any reminisce husband-wife quite some time ago in the night but we've been around for a long time in turn experiences I'm not mistaken 19 so there is even a rather be sort of a shared key entry on since 1973 but but it wasn't gig like it was now until 93 94 1994 time what it started to explode and with you know you've got mail American all you've got you've got let you jump you've got miss right when I love that and then all of a sudden before you know you remember a time before that that's right that's I was all text it was all information now if there's no inmates what do you do you lead the page then where we become so brain-dead from this concept what's the one feel 43 percent mentioned Facebook 100 percent of life's mess-ups have something to do with that yeah Suzanne a person I have no idea what the question is what percentage of those instead of a Facebook ends up god forbid or the other way because of Facebook is it so misunderstanding this is what everyone likes the oil is like that crazy fanatic all these people's Facebook app ads so what is that a favor goodbye and say that I said it's hard I want to say to everybody what I mean by this is of course good things come from these things amazing things come from it unbelievable you know asheer's posted it on that thing right a fair share there's a beautiful self-advocate also files on this for six people and you can go in and a heal the world make it a better but there plenty of good things everything in life is going to back our house good bad question is are you monitoring or is it completely open the intelligent person but sadly says do you understand the ramifications of living your life completely and totally unfiltered your life unfiltered I don't want to go down that road a wicked person says don't be ridiculous why are you thinking so far never you will be issue right now it's a small little thick is he wrong no is right it is a small thing but that small thing if we would have stopped it when it was just medium never would have gotten to that big part well he don't need to care anymore so really get that this my friends very much connects and we're going to wrap it up with this idea that comment says we inherited for something no reason there are rigged up shake it Sarah and their kids are CDI Darrin Arouca she cansada means the long short road Derrick authority arooga means the short long route where is that has anyone here ever taken a shortcut and that shortcut ended up taking you I have a lot longer than if you just would have not taken it yes or no and has anyone here ever gone the long way but that long wait you have to be very quick quicker than you would have expected this my friends is where it comes across we like to cut corners we like to go fast lap in the fast lane but my lamb and lamb out all we like to go ahead and rip it but literally know that the faster you go doesn't mean you're going to get there any quicker you can go faster and faster and that will take you a lot longer just with a slow to battle sometimes in life and it's usually most times in life the more challenging something is in the beginning the easier it will be at the end the easier it is at the beginning the more challenge you'll be in it so you have to ask yourselves people would you say that you fall into the category of exactly where you fall into the category of a Russia we should never look at ourselves like a wicked or that if we said don't call yourself stupid right you should never look at yourself like a wookie liquid person because when you look at yourself with a wicked person you open yourself up to do everything wrong little and not only that we disregard the small little things in life and don't recognize the power they hold but if someone looks at themselves like a righteous person that they say every decision I'm going to make I don't mean like literally every like almost of a hand how high should I looked at a lot they're both my life I'm not saying you should be nuts that's help OCD and don't hide behind Judaism that right that's OCD but we're making decisions in our life what jobs were going to take which communities are living perhaps who are going to marry perhaps which which you know schools were going to be involved with or not involved with we're going to support not support which chips we're going to go on and when we're going to go and how long we're going to go stop and think for a second what will be the outcome and understand something people when I'm saying now applies to every single one of us in this room every single one of us is still a lot and if you're not you don't care me every single one of us is still a lot it means we have plenty of time to make a lot more space or we have plenty of times we take the more challenging Road the one which is a little more difficult the one which may be longer but at the end it will be much shorter much easier much less problematic and that my friends comes down to actually making decisions so from now on what we've got to do is ask ourselves you're going to have to go to a challenge that's how life works do you want to challenge now and then life will flow nicely would you prefer to have it float easy now don't go through the challenges just let it don't worry about everything just keep going and then later on that the deal with the cleanup of the mess but perhaps I could take you in a lifetime to fix that's the decision we have to ask so we go back now we exactly can we are Russia do we recognize that we're going to fall that's reality do you Rebecca I recognize the fact that every this is going to make kind of quiz there when we start to open our eyes to that thing we're going to be living a life which is not good really leverage is amazing because the outcomes of these decisions that we make are going to change everything from hearing and any questions comment story social taxes give no verbal and physical our moment of silence up yeah what if you don't know which one you are CEO of your tiger run shop like for example with the date looking right into an expect attic know that it's not looking and like a Russia but he's done like you can be myself o not applying it forever other than covered with what is the old time to think when you still have it and like it's nothing not there in it anyways yeah but the Mishna says empirica elbows I say little around who can needle the [ __ ] out there I'll say look allowed means make for yourself a mentor and acquire for yourself a friends get someone you could speak with who you can talk to somebody you trust some you develop the relationship with in the order that you can bounce ideas off them because we are so good alike for the best at lying to ourselves we got so good that we fool ourselves in it and when you have some you're bouncing it off usually they're able to see we can always see everyone else's problems and we know in their life the problem is if it's us and if we care enough at all depends of you care you don't care forget it but the fact is the question means you care if you care enough so that means that you start to listen to what's being said even if you don't agree you at least hear it out and perhaps is correct and then it's a few to decide what you want to do with it that comes to a cost-benefit analysis of getting real dad to know what to be putting in to actually make the decision as opposed to putting the wrong data and all of a sudden across benefits tell job in which case how do you know is got to get people that you trust Judaism is all of that community this is about an idea where you haven't seen someone you can speak with didn't care about this a little rap doesn't have to be no rabbi it could be a rapper to be a woman that can be made some of that you trust that you feel close a friend may be more valuable microbial on the bricks a meticulous of the villager for mr6 even more valuables to have a friend so you could valence bounce these ideas off be careful who it is unless you over at Facebook and the outreach yeah yeah it's Alec is willing to go through the challenge now in order to not have to deal with it later what would be an example of a challenge to give it an exam what do I mean by the concept let's take a look like this you're working in an office so you have a person uses foul language can use inappropriate language and you don't like that what do you do when you're in a circumstance where you're not going to be working with this person for the next bunch of years and they're in your office and they say you like nice to meet you and use inappropriate language what do you say to that is it uncomfortable good now is the challenge so you have to make a choice are you going to now just take the easy look like I'm not going to say anything or take a difficult route I'm going to say something the easier is I'm not going to say anything but you know what's going to happen then in their head it's going to be like oh it's okay from you talking like that and the next day they're going to continue is actually and then it becomes like while I can't say anything now I'm talking about you ever met someone you didn't really catch their name that's like six months you don't know their name because it has the points where you could ask them their day to get it if you want to think the difficult challenge to saying right away I'm sorry I didn't get it what was your name or take the easy road that's okay let it go I want to make them feel bad or make me feel stupid and then for six months not knowing their name and never be able to call them or ask them into then you take the challenging right now and go with only the public say you watch your language but absolutely I'm sorry I don't want to embarrass you whatever have a little comfortable Latin language if that's okay and it might be uncomfortable from that moment on they're going to be like okay here you or not or go first more add another sentence maybe like how do you pee pee pee bit maybe bitten you like to halt their movements and whenever they make but very often from City perspective you approach them in a way we're thinking in the hold wisdom and feeling listen I'm sorry so appreciate that what's your relationship and your partner your spouse says are you so stupid now you're not so comfortable person so you don't say anything I'm just going to let it go what happens in their head it's okay for me to talk like that to them the next time all you're such an idiot on you stood up and it starts to build make you feel more and more comfortable get it or do you see from your head when are you so stupid excuse me what is he just saying I did why I just said that that's a trip that's not going to happen sorry can't you kids are something downside I feel like either he'll be more aggressive and ring off or he'll say so sup you I'm so sorry and the next time you do something are you so although let me help you see the difference do you choose the easy route let things go now and that has to deal to difficulties forever how many of us have done that how many of us have taken easier would not set any things as Linda then kept going with it and now we live in pain or using a very uncomfortable route of dealing with the situation now and not having to do make sense everything else we bought yeah I don't take a long time but they've been way of assistance yeah I say local rap this is where you're stuck before find a mentor or someone who you know as one had three qualities very important of these three qualities they have knowledge they have time and they have likability now this time the likability if they have knowledge but no time even if you like them they can't help you if they have knowledge and time but you don't like them the problem if they have time and you like them but they don't know anything can't help you in this either so it's fine you get to find someone a mentor of sorts as the three thing though give the time of day has the information and you feel comfortable with and speak to things up yeah so just kind of the leverage none for me the example being I'll come home it's midnight it's 12:30 and before I'm even a late one you really are my skin I did I'm in the bridge and all who is inside me and ten minutes that really soon and it took me a long time to the point where I think even become aware that I'm very discreet it didn't help but it's aware supported I'm opening the fridge and I'm doing this and later on this day I can really mean anything the point being that you can make a decision about something but that's just an evacuee conceal something to physically count because you're going to be in a situation remember that is it specific or not welcoming more serious where you challenged with something and it eases you to say now I won't do that but that doesn't count because you have to be able to not do it when you in that situation is that totally out of the steps well before this that I said you have to know yourself which means are for you walking out you are have to be aware of the fact that I'm going to walk and go straight for the fridge so use it for you to walk in you're upsetting gameplay you have to have a little another make sure the phrygian proof right make sure to make water or this [ __ ] of the Duffing their idea something else together that's like you must understand in the first place yeah questions regarding what you said things like what if you have two friends and each of those friends is telling you totally something that's only good friend like you two close friends yeah you can find them and they tell you opposite direction to both of them you notice it says I say look around Camilla hook up there which means did they ever find any friend to be friends now this isn't me chair friends but it does mean that the column discusses we have too many cooks in the kitchen things get burnt in the stand where they don't taste as good old fridges to blow up right if you you're not meant to go ask advice from every person that you're going over their sewer people do that all the time it's a big mistake I've been feeling the issue at least VP loo speak to you Lewis lead analyst we did that looks to the other you're just going to get yourself in trouble because that could be two things you can have five little fingers but each one's we are with the other cheese actually it has to be someone in a particular direction of life that you feel is in line with what you understand to be true and consign of that we don't go to 50 people or you can do it's just going to make it's just going to make things confusing and let's say it is two people there's a primary the secondary which means you can go to the secondary and speak with them bring it back to the private so what do you think about this because they said that and then let them do the ones going to be much sweetie I'm going to be making through the decisions this doesn't mean be stupid if they're gonna care for yourself nobody said you can't think for yourself we're talking about under the circumstances when we feel it's beyond us we feel like it's a little bit challenging and I'm not really sure or even if you are short just doesn't kill hiding for Kim makes that I lose here's a little couple of long bill around noon you don't say what I'm trying to say until there's been a pleasant thing so to come they wanna see the ad goodbye [Applause]