Rav Gav - Chesed:The Boomerang Effect of Your Generous Choices

funny I welcome you once again to the you banette beit midrash about the shed we have a lot of good programming you guys wants our website to schedule this is too much going on we've got eight classes a week that I give but Brooke Hashem were able to have Sunday nights Tuesday nights others are the bigger speakers at me that's for sure and we're really happy and privileged to have Ragab tonight I just want to mention specifically and Vatican and happily we do have a sponsor for this evening and that is Asher and Ruth Abraham I'm very happy that they are I feel like really good partners with us and it was right the show and the choice of tonight's topic was chosen in a meeting that we had with with Asher and it was based on the idea of how can we bring down to you know existing terms to improve our lives to make our lives better and of course that's what given is all about and this is a great topic and a great and a great auditor and a lecturer and rabbi and just the history between us and seems like when I left they shatori up to 20 years this young man appeared exhale thank you smelly you serious notice the boomerang effect generous choices charity are we doing today they even forgot great okay good evening everybody thank you thank you we have one live member okay it's got a sound others good evening everybody nice actually thousands here okay so it's going to start off with an oldie but a goodie concept an idea and I don't know what you used to be here apologies I don't usually listen to things due to a severe thing called a TD but I like to talk about them so when I say something and ask a question it's not rhetorical it's a real question so therefore the I'm looking for a response this is a more discussion based than it is a next shop based okay shall we begin let's so the first thing I want to make and if you agree disagree speak up on it that is that we are very selfish we're very selfish when I save me I mean you guys as you guys are the unbelievably selfish I'll treat myself as well we are very selfish very very welcome ladies in mind a big and closing high in very selfish but we take ok see that I would venture to say and tell me if you disagree anything you've ever done in your life you have done for yourself easy travel attend she's going to group that matters heavily always always good question good question to what they may be eventually always now find out ok give me an example in your life that you've done something that's not for yourself good I'm here giving somebody a lift and guy got it away why'd you do it wouldn't you help somebody nice because I cares what a ride you care about what was that you kept on saying again you care about it who cares oh look at that it's freedom you care and you get something out of it seems we're plenty of circumstances in your life when the other opportunity to help something you didn't I shouldn't is it accurate right someone asks you to do something it's a little bit out of your way or whatever it is something to say yes somebody say no what's the why is it something sort of a yes and other circumstances you say no well what am I going to get out of this one when I'm not getting on that one this one is too much of a bother for me and it sounds less now let listen to what the greed the real question here understand that when I say the comment in the comments was anything we've ever done we do for ourselves I don't mean solely for ourselves could be you are also doing it for someone else but you can't get away from yourself they do we hear this feeling and let your thinking that and your we're always getting something but even with that game with the void here are the ultra-orthodox here I'm anything get into the fact of getting heaven and whatnot I'm talking about right over here right now you're getting something but something is either people going to look at you in a positive way or something is people are not going to look at you in a negative way you don't want to look we looked upon as a person that stingy or that it doesn't get rides or whatever I would always have a light today some came to my window and I come in don't ask so I can arrive so I personally didn't mind okay I'll give you a ride but there's some people you know that don't want to do it but when you call down and you just feel guilty so fine I'll do it yeah why because it'll look bad you don't think about think about it everybody I don't know what it's like yeah I don't know if I've seen it here but in America a lot of times when you go to I can mention that America you got in America you go to the grocery store sure and you ever experience sometimes when you're going they ask you as you're paying the bill would you like to donate a dollar for homeless children with no arms legs or business what do you say Nicholas again but the food's gonna vary didn't say fabulous it's like oh oh I see you don't say no cuz then this would it sounds like no I don't care about homeless kids no arms and legs no faces morosely it is no I don't want to I'd rather not thank you so much for offering you know I like to say to the cash person like you know what whatever you give I'd love to give what would you like to get back yeah well and then they say oh you are you don't care about them that we try to say you know what I don't need to then forget forget society okay but we feel guilty not to say we get guilted into it I'm going to go do it now we're very very selfish now if you tell you I had any say in Hebrew self just I don't know how is he selfish in focus and okay okay selfishness and I know you write the word uh no crease is not familiar to anyone with that right at the beginning of the ten commandments more accurately the ten utterances doesn't say Asura tommix vote because I said bro okay another talk which will probably never have however it says I know he's the very first word and it's very strange word vendors a little bit of etymology the miles give you the source of route of words what is the etymology of word I'm no cane or no the surest hammock or I'm a course in Milano could mean I it was about naval Seba and okay I I heard this interesting symmetric measure says something fascinating we live in Israel I always hated and I don't know you guys I live it up perhaps some loser to write welcome visitor and there's this interesting thought that some people have that you live in itself should speaker so Nicole - speaks Hebrew so first off that's an interesting stated right there Russia Lakota still in Hebrew we know that the matter here we have it's not exactly the same Hebrew that we find in the Torah lastly be telling you a story but you know once upon but Palma cots are chilly but it's a very lame or it just doesn't say that yeah in the modern period venue who the nineteen hundreds become we do certain things but interesting is when a person comes to heaven they decide they're gonna speak Hebrew because here we are we're in Hebrew this is the whole random I'm so tempted to take this to another direction I'm not going to announce perhaps however we go ahead and we speak Hebrew so there's a certain shul I don't want to see where it is but there's a shoal somewhere here in Israel and there's a big Knesset and in his bed connected to very Anglo community maybe very much not lead was really native Israelis cable coming from Penguins of Africa America Australia from all over and this particular shoe there very marked is a very very diligent very they stress the concept of what's the worst observant the observe okay we'll go back there very very much bit about making sure that all the talks are done in Hebrew can you imagine any problems that might arise with that in an Anglo synagogue extreme what would be a problem anyone well that's a nice way of saying they don't know what the heck is going on yes clarity of transmission of danke simple English they don't understand Hebrew well I don't comment in their 40s and 50s and 60s and it'll be those miss Shailaja Conti say all right that's what they know right I need Tyrone Koppel walk there just a couple of words so what happened together until I got 20 minutes Russia from in Israeli rub you know understand they're like really like but then I was going on and you wonder why people are just not growing so many people went to the rub and said hey grandpa you know maybe speak in English rather speaks English fluently maybe speak in English look and that's the puppies back to community one woman to community her side and showed up the following measures and I saw the measures based up this situation I'm no clear symbol of capital it and no he says the measures is an Egyptian word the first of the assess activist begins in Egyptian why would you start in Egyptian that's the most decadent society that they wept from and you're starting the beginning of all of Judaism with Egyptian what's the answer where were they living the test 230 years God said I want to understand me so I'm going to speak in language you get on ok let's start with the idea of language that you understand interesting the source and the root of the word selfish is one of the most selfless acts I was ever done let me speak in a way that you get it God doesn't mean anything and the entirety was just for the people to understand what's going on interesting that maybe we should learn the lesson of what a following doings of God might say don't speak on Summa coda sure Hebrew whatever you want to call it I'm saying but be aware of your surroundings know you're talking to but people understand what's happening over here the idea of selfishness now here's something interesting the best way to be selfish and every one of us is selfish shut the best way to be selfish is amazing lesson leaving trick the best way to be selfish is to be selfless when you give towards something when you give over and you invest in something how do you feel about it ok feel what do you feel better about taking a hundred dollars are giving under dollars a lot of this has to do with age and maturity circumstance yeah so there are people I don't know if any of you have kids are still are yourselves but think back to a little kid you know eight year olds nine year old what's better giving a hundred or getting aren't you okay someone like what's a hundred okay when they going here's your opportunity what do you want a life you can give or take you like all right whatever you want to give me I'm happy to give you the opportunity to give me yeah they're so sweet so kind but we really do understand that the best way to be selfish is to be selfless I heard a quote from somebody who is known to be a quite a wealthy figure within America his name is Zev wolf since and her name wolf similar foot ok wealthy fellow now you use pay as if to a few years ago still a family gives somewhere between fifty and a hundred million dollars a year to Sadako evidencing you know chump change city and a hundred million dollars a year it's a duck not an all you people here I don't think I ever will ever see in my lifetime fifty million dollars cousin being given away every single year and he said the only money I ever really made the monies that I gave away fascinated the only money I ever really made for the monies against a billionaire the only money ever really made the money gonna give away when we give we end up getting so much more we all perhaps famously no one parks as kisi so or you prefer to tease that or you prefer to keep that we haven't prizes it's that's none of anything but in fascist ISA we have we have very interesting word when it talks about sadaqa and what word is used over there which what am I looking for it rhymes with business knew did not know that's the way okay so that's the we're gonna store again for the assignment as long that is enough to know did not sin no yes or if you're from ten months did not say no with nothing there won't be nothing no they the ones idea the national Venus knew means what was Vinick Newman you to give and we all know perhaps the concept only known as a palindrome or a hero to get the hell in the home it's also Italian alençon and Status palette all good to read both ways for example in America with a famous on use for things away Anna Anna mom pas dad racecar yeah you can read that backwards and forwards the same thing what's the word Dinesen love you and toss no involved either way you read it it comes backwards and forwards teaching us interestingly that what somebody gives they get back when somebody gives they get back if we got in terms of actual sadaqa cash money we know surpass there are services that share it might mean home s by the way for those who understand what I'm talking up but only give sadaqa this is one of the things we get challenged godless and we say we can't and you can give us back afters I'm going to give it back to you amazing you give you're going to get back the nuts news idea when you get this home what you get back in par Society the beginning of the boxer such a thing by API code and yak of lived and what's right II don't know any shut them on the word by C itself what's like a it's not a challenger because trying to figure that no okay that's right so how long did yeah Cove of either list how long do they live how long did you live you're getting closer keep going the first one you're answered but you're watched the other way ten minutes off 147 147 what he died 30 listen Friday cells we take the lugs and take a look by you see what's I see and he lived what's any live the Camacho goodbye he is how much 34 by he is 34 what's 34 so we know that Jakov Aveeno hagyó says those who was taken from him at what age 17 years old and then at the end of yo sis life when Jakob Joseph reunited you said 1:30 until then was how many years had yahoo we also were together for over 17 years 17 and 17 to 34 which means that Jakob only really lived them when he had all of his children and he also had yo safe the first 17 years of his life then he suffered for those 130 - 1713 years 113 years of his lighter than episo-- whatever else at marathon accurate it wasn't positive 30 minute kid but he has a point bottom lines you suffered and then at the end of his life in the last 17 years with them by a seattle jacqueline was only when he had 17 and 17 34 these years and feel safe the developed or isabella to ferry service volunteer malsu also says another in that he says that what happened is that Yacouba vino yeah Colavito gave to - yo stayed for 17 years he took care of him he supported him he raised him and what ended up happening at the end of his life Yosef supported Yaakov for 17 years he supported live he took care in the nature that he lived we find whatever Jakob gave - yo se Co safety back to Yaakov 1717 obviously that was an actor's intent he wasn't thinking I'll take care of this kid in order that some of us do you think let's have kids when we get old okay terrible's yeah so he will have them because actually these Iraqis on place because that by the way it looks but I hope but but still that's not generally our mentality of life you know we have a child you turn to your spouse and since it's great now we're set when we're old not really hopefully than the top fatality in Circassian to give ultimately what ever again not as part of the discussion there somebody's acids less than apart - should we let's do it okay so so let's let's level it together bit further bit safer within the side area 17 years 17 years you gave 417 and got back 17 we don't even realize well we give to something there's some times in our lives but it's clear as data so we see that we get back sometimes it's less noticeable but it's guarantee that if you give something you're going to get back you give something here to get it back now this is like something particular to that concept when we say about sadaqa/charity itself we didn't even branch out a little bit which I want to do but let's try to first understand it a a fascinating story that I heard from a friend of mine this actually happened to his family I wanted to call before I came here just to get refresh in the story so it's a little bit off forgive me the main point is still there I think the guy's name was Solomon I think it was solid last name Solomon and the cellar was was in the German army now this is a World War one but were one he's in the German army and he was fighting in the Italian Alps because what I'm talking about this makes one let us say okay so it's not along with me let's say it's true so exactly Italian Alps and his job was he was a high-ranking official he was a scout and he had to do is he would go ahead and when he was find that those who there's enemies up ahead he would go back to tell his people to come back and attack the meals ok so that Germany is fighting his Italy the Jews at the time were very much on the side of the Germans at that time we're in World War one to talk about so he comes head out in the snow he helps Alice know Alice of Italy and they're going ahead and he sees a bunch of Italian troops so it cook that goes back to get his people and they come ahead and they surround us and they can now what they're meant to do is to take them back as prisoners of war that's what they're supposed to do but the guy in command over there was just like you look this is crazy you know it's freezing it like we're gonna go all the way back we're only making headway let's just shoot them here and solidly I think was the name Hey he's like whoa whoa whoa that's not what we do Stan yeah and then we have the middle nowhere Oh whatever is like you don't do that let's come out with the big deal you know we'll just we'll shoot them what we'll bury them in the snow know we'll know anything it will move on and he stood in front of them he said I'm not going to let us do that said we've listened Solomon stand down he said say what you want to shoot them a problem you get to shoot you first not letting this happen these are people of families you understand this is war but they don't have any weapons we have them now there's the presidents we put them way we don't kill them in a cold blood not happening freezing blood right up there so he didn't want a whole hearing like you have to find what happened to him afterwards when he shot the guy and actually killed him so like all right he's just fine we'll bring him back fine fast forward one two years later this guy moves to America he moves to place called Chicago commotion in Chicago moved to Chicago and he beats his living as a kind of like construction fix-it side type of thing and he's doing his thing and perhaps um you'll remember that there's a tremendous fire in Chicago in the 20s which it's a big big fire and destroyed a lot of properties one particular building which got devastated so this guy who worked the construction from this truck you know whatever you would like a small little you know fixed scare do this day or whatever is like this is a gold mine now because they're going to destroy this building now because of the fire they're going to get money from insurance maybe there's stuff in there that's salvageable that he can just for his own company so he went to the building what the building manager and he said do you mind if I go in to take some of the stuff that I could use because listen I'm getting insurance money anyway yeah take whatever you want so he goes in there faxes chalked right up to the building and he starts going taking things taking things take contains dangerous he's doing things scattering of a subculture I feel like a long day of work as he's doing his thing what happens thank you so much giving that's amazing here this is for you okay you did you get alright so so after this this long day of this doing this he's tired this hands all dirty he goes back inside you know wants to wash his hands he's like a faucet fixed terms on the faucet starts washing his hands as ins washing his hands he's looking at this water and it's realizing that it looks pretty dirty you know he was like washing his hands with dirt the water looks like yellowish whenever I figure there's a fire destroyed or whatever but then he smelled something strange it didn't smell it water smelled like alcohol he was like alcohol in the meantime as he's washing his hands he overhears two people behind them speaking in Italian now he speaks Italian because he was stationed in the Italian Alps during World War one he over here is one saying to the other oh no he found our stash what stash what was going on in the 20s in America there's prohibition prohibition so what was the Mafia doing gathering is much alcohol as they can and under that building was the reservoir of where they kept the alcohol and this was the one tab for all of the illegal alcohol has gone sky off and then yuck it washes and illegal prohibition alcohol and he overhears I'm going in Italian oh no he found our stash yet to kill him so he like you know he gets a little shudder than he realizes they're in Chicago he doesn't speak Italian so he's pretend like nothing happened such the faucet it goes oh hey guys we're just going to go now you know doesn't thank you thanks and they're like not so fast have a seat what are you talking about how to see where I don't know what you're talking why would I sit I have to go in the truck and nice try sit down and they put him down the time to this chair and they one goes to the other the big boss likes to take care of people like this that's called big boss so he said never sink I'm speaking how we gonna kill him he's like all great and I like how my life to get killed him a fiery building I was crazy enough as he's doing this thing the big boss arrives walks into the room and you know he goes Luigi Mario what's going on and he said listen it's a guy but I think about Angus I'm this upset Italian what that is is it significant that this may sound or stash stones okay I won't brag or chalant you okay doesn't it say go see me says she doesn't even look at marry Luigi he just looks at the guy sitting in the chair because I am this guy this guy fell down except he goes yes civilian and this is high voice get out here but we wanted to go get out here he can kill you if he goes to the guy he says so where were you on the night of December whenever 1914 whenever wives dad and he goes you can do this his hands were tied you mentally prevented the gala where I was I mean whatever he goes where you she goes listen I didn't want to say in Italy cuz ladies give it all he's giving up that he spoke Italian whatever and he says I don't know cuz I do speak Italian yeah because I don't know he goes I'll tell you where you were you were fighting for the Germans you were the Italian Alps because I know what you're talking about he goes yeah you know what I'm talking about Solomon because uh who opposed to metric I'll say how I know where you were because you were in the Italian Alps after just capturing a group of Italian soldiers you stood in front of them and you said if you're gonna kill them you'll kill me first you know I know this because I was standing right behind you you saved my life I'll pay what I'm gonna do for you now and then I'm only gonna chop up your fingers give yourself lucky senator Vinick says but I'm going to do this I'm going to let you go and you're going to turn and walk out here and never tell the story again when I told this to my kids ago well I guess they told the story give that we mailed authority guys so we would so you know the Don died you know who would have thought this guy saved someone's life in the Alps the enemy and by doing that what goes around comes eventually gets his life see by this very guy because he decided to go being honest my friends understand Vanessa I knew it goes both ways that's the Vilna Gaon actually points out the going from Vilnius you started it points out that if you look on top of the word Fitness anew it has the truck it's how I'm in the notes one of the note to do I know so maybe we have different tourists but in mine now you didn't find your sickle side of make a note at the back but it's the words cut the bar yeah eyes look good real estate agent so I shall be back guys so we do it by we have Alaskan Azam vid now say no right which means what Cosmo gets are thought it's important you know you guys are like you can get me going on you know it was kind of boring like that by the bearish on Shelley more hey so uh so it happens then I'll seduce come oguys welcome obvious love you look at the milk cake the shape one goes like this one goes like that which means to say it goes like this and then it goes like that it goes back and it goes forth when you go ahead or let me figure him but he goes forth and then it comes back well the person goes enemies them a certain way to start to gifts or something it alters your life a can save your life perhaps you've heard of the expression so God show me mother sadaqa have to be mother so I got to see me move it sadaqa giving charity with that man of it and I teach it all right sadaqa sees you from that look a doctor saves you from death okay so cuz I'll think of this you know this is the way it is sadaqa sees you in that this is a real deal little games people it's a serious business Hittner saves your life you just does not take exceeds your life so most of these concepts end up being the spiritual realm of us perhaps never understanding you're saying how I'll show you a story my brother share with me this is pre pre pre 1948 there was a heated living here at you living in Israel there what what what to take it away let me share with you and this Joanna's duo was walking down the street somewhere in Jerusalem predominantly Arab neighborhood where he was please call back oh no their house apparently anyway so I walking somewhere in July and the suicide they a very poor Arab man okay he's not Jewish but okay each felt he should get him to give him a couple lira or whatever it was at the time it gives them some cash the next day he's walking down the street and he does it again a couple coins job said and done this every day as he passing by one day I have to do this for about a month I was his walking bike he's walking by this alley and as he walked for the alley he feels something sweet grabs it pulls him into the alley Arab guy pulls him against the wall picks out a knife and he goes Jew he says are we talking about he says oh yes Salomon is a shows that he says don't Jew he says you don't know me but I know you he goes good when I said you've been passing by this place for quite some time now and every day you pass by I've been so angry seeing at you walking through my town every day I'm coming I'm about to kill you but as I'm about to go through with it I noticed that you give money to an old a man sitting on the floor that old iron man is my uncle and the fact that you have been supporting him all these days all these weeks that's the one thing that stopped me from doing something too but I'm going to tell you to don't show up here again her it's over baby this is what we called sadaqa that's you any mother quite literally something like would it be stories and then an angel came and swooped him up right there goes a Yamanashi and then yeah what happened over there he was saved because the fact that he gives to daughter so don't give charity to go and help out they don't even know how powerful it is how powerful so it's pretty good it's pretty powerful but interestingly the kamon bava bava says of a bhakta throughout see there's on page 9 doc tests amazing good luck so if you haven't read it read it if you read it read it again the game over there goes through series of stories also amazing tomorrow Britannic sewers of these 67 not parallel interesting hospital Dhaka this one is the duct test tough test your goes into powerful powerful power come over there discusses that if somebody gives to Dhaka they get blessed they're blessed how many blessings anyone know if you multiple choice is it a six blessings B or C [Music] a mr. X right six blessings thanks to the Thomases to get six lessons but someone who does that said says the kymaro gets 11 blessings of course goes to what they are some of the sadaqa get 6 over the discuss it gets politics does that mean why would that be the Comoros if so because a person is a sadaqa sadaqa the words the word the countries of sadaqa means with what with what with money kisses money cash and not everybody should do that not everybody has money that said is with goof it can also be cash but it's also your body anybody can do it when it comes to kazakh only the wealthy when it comes to chess it even the poor when it comes to sadaqa you can only do it for someone who's poor when it comes to that said you could do it even for someone who's rich s ed is so much bigger so much more broad the concept just opens up more how powerful that yes that's it I don't think anybody can explain it all over custody but he bun that ye bone that ye Bonin ye but yo look at ye button support you all ok console olam casa de bunda the world it's created through the act of consent unbelievable the world creams and disgusting wheeled amusement park elders chapter one Mishnah - shamone panic a yummy treat convinced because a lot boy y'all man haha three things of others created Alex's vellum or may not to be confused with chapter one mission 18 of social very mellow bomb-aimer which have any other changes to k out different them did have MSD no shell okay but here's torah ability male custody what's Torah well it's army restore me sounds good learning a little bit more than just that perhaps we could say the word tour itself what does it mean what's the definition of the authorities instructions how to live your life I vote that what's up hold up so back in the day was carbon oak but we know that wearing out tells us the eggs with Volusia ballet is zu8 Fela ideas prayer prayer what a last but not least the algae miracle you know Cassidy many people's interesting here is really you'll know more because you're familiar with the what the wording in Hebrew if you're Anglo a lot of people don't notice I've never heard of they live at a maximum for Adam asked you know the clematis they give you know things out for people need certain things your Mac is it acronym forgive me look I've said in that you've never thought about that come on to sort come on what take about the mock but a good Mattias give me Lucas Adina means has said it means giving it means kindness as quite incredible the whole idea that was give up towards creating through these ideas and not only that you get a big date of our ala you these these things are crucial without these three things the world can not exist can't stand for sure social moment so our photographs of southern I want to heard the Merrill discussions us that there is nothing in this world nothing in this world that could stand on less than three legs you need at least three legs or something sustained one of my students once raised their hand and said what about ducks ducks can stand them tonight I said why did you choose ducks not human beings like duck okay but it's an accurate point and I'll deal with your point see right now I'm standing I'm standing still but the truth is I'm not you're never standing still you're constantly balancing and if you stop balancing what happens what happens you fall you need at least three legs three right there stool has three at some tables of three if you have less than that no good you know at least three no more than that you can have one we don't need more three is what you need in order to stand that's why interestingly we know this so we have tests are suppose to code what is that called the shalash regalia what are we gonna in legs the three legs the feet pilgrimage festivals are the three legs the world stands on these three things we need these three things in order to be a one of them is classic lesson is one of the pillars of the entire existence of the world the more you give the more you get and the giver always gets more than the receiver the giver always gets one receiver sodunke Tatsumi mother right we said that charity goes and saves your life tested my friend changes the world saves the world but they're custom students and three things world stands out or a balloon stuck up is that talk about the communis are then given specific into the world don't be so selfish that just gives the data also knew that's it that's quite incredible what does that mean that set our there's so many things we can do which i need to do math some things just this small things in our different change how far does it go to change your life also perhaps I'll having to share with you a beautiful idea that I heard the summer of Tom a problem or found a blessed memory he interesting he puts on the words you know we have the youth gimel me those 13 attributes of God which we're going to assume it's coming soon people coming this summer Irish your son is coming soon it's coming back but I started doing to Larissa Shannon got the game plan D it's time to really stop buckling down a little bit not wait till the end you know like when it gets to L like oh my gosh oh my gosh oh my gosh to about you lets you start earlier like you don't have to be like oh my gosh let's just stop doing a various you know I think I don't have to worry about alright enough about me so so back to this um we're going to be saying that a lot and stardom cybers look so deep and it started also saying all the time I finish em kill a camel cut America pie and custard a me dammit the rapper cat said damn it give us nothing thought every stuff and thought what you're saying God is rock I said here Emmett put aside me what's cursor when do we do it let's put it this way what's Ament truth I I met this truth and it's when somebody is deserving of something this is the truth the truth is you deserve to get this what when do we use the words I said what's that it's a little bit more you might you know what I'll do it a cat's tip for you no you don't deserve this but I'll go fail so with guys that said or is the MS which one it's a contradiction is a crescent MMS just needs more then M s means exactly as so you're more than exactly at so this various answers to this are prime cos are actually very nice answer he says you know there are times in life when the truth is you ain't doing too well and there has to be some sort of judgment there's a judgment that in fact and a person might not merit to win that judgment it might not be good friend in that judgment but God loves us God loves us all over my shaft oh we wanted to go and treat the world and Danny said he can't do it leave it'll it's got your boob junk in that way and make sure a bald guy said and then write the concept of L okay and you keep up k guys name of judgment and and of mercy whatever that piece combo essential okay because they like until they became to a c'mon but okay CeCe what so what is it is the custard into dinners of Emmet's which one I shouldn't love us so much he only wants us to succeed so it's like a parent that loves a child the child does something wrong and the parent has to punish the child because they have to learn they can't do that and then all these consequences to their actions and they don't learn that when they're young they won't get it when they're older they'll get a gap when they're older the counselors can be much more intense than either so they're young to get it but at the same time the parent doesn't really want to punish the kid that's not the focus isn't to hurt them the focus a should learn so they'll give them opportunities you know that's it you have to go to your room unless do you want to say sorry do you want to hit it faith or anything do you want to return that which you stole do you want to get back and make right that which you did wrong I'll give you a chance that's the undercurrent but what's being said is do you want to change you have to go to you other two you must go to you what it's almost like when a shed says to Moshe a video I'm going to kill quality yourself when did that happen but the Engel is off don't ask you guys a question why did I shouldn't even bother telling him that just do it and you want to kill him kill him test his reaction or he didn't want to when everybody says I'm going to what they're saying is I don't want to do this right exactly another Jews you're basically begging they please stop me from doing this when the kids are too young they don't get it you're like I'm going to punish you like ah when they're older I'm going to punish you they get the little twinkle they look at you like am I supposed to say something and you give them that look back now's your chance this is all looks and there we go but I'm really sorry oh you're really sorry you're sure cuz I'm gonna punish you one really sign all right then Moshe I won't kill them what's up son saying something saying Moshe I'm going to kill them man see most of the eating popplers I gotta do what you got to do God all right you got a mochi I'm going to kill them another prey to me oh don't do it God fine don't do it I bro I'm going to destroy you go I'm gonna do it out bro oh oh oh what's happening oh no don't do it it didn't work out for them but let me get the point is now it's a chance sagat's is loosing and the Emma stirs you don't deserve to get out of this judgment but I want to give you a chance to get out so your bank account is low to be able to protect you from this I'm going to give you a chance to get out of it to be able to pay for this in a way they don't have to suffer ready derived SS whether some will do says or pom is assemble put us in circumstances but we have opportunities to do that set those opportunities of customs that we then fulfill fill up our bank account and then I think you know it's full enough that the FS is will be able to with the standard in reality to say the best opportunities that we have in our lives that we pass up or basically like taking free money and throwing it away nothing happens for no reason there's always a reason when the opportunity opens there's a purpose and a reason that's opening and now's your chance to grab it so you know sitting at your front of your house and let's go back to the duck I can do seductive as I said at the same time you're helping someone after this I said by giving them sadhana get an icon door open up the door care and you say get a job shut the door ha ha ha I showed them now I said no chance of overcoming this judgment sucker yes I give you the see opportunities sometimes we don't even know we're doing it what is it happening in boomerangs and it's a sort of Facebook there's a lot more to talk about so what I'm going to do now is let's do a quick recap everything we did end up with one story then we're going to bust a move here we go so we started out to lit again there and get all duality the Celtics everything will be doing was doing for a cellphone signals well but understand that the focus is mainly an OK and ok I look to you it idea what if selfishness or that comfort or the most selfless act of and don't forget a little ketchup thing Egyptian so this relax all the people even God did that so easy other thing boils yeah understand a little bit more that the best way to be suffice to be selfless getting together prices to see something us to know nothing ever you do doesn't know I said yeah what back in the fourth me like the vector one person was given exact price is my TV watcher 34th in 240 1770 the velocity of 17 he gave 17 he got back the personal to give Solomon the two times okay miles how that's okay they said Ben this is what happens the factory was this is a way so that could talk to me mother's idea much really saving his life the very fact that he gave this actually literally sifted like it everything like it's nice become about some please 910 goes to the don't forget to go ahead you look like super 7 okay amazing story but the price today goes on very so many more assaulted how I think into the cow okay they realize what's happening personal to doctors only cash what they didn't catch it with your boss a so Douglas only did you go and what is your bachelor business boy because it essentially be done with you it's or poor chuckerman with us what is read as poor even get the other one in this because officers worked a little bit for in social somewhere Olmedo three things out at all but I saw them your Mac what's the camac mark mark okay what is it it's Camille asked us up and that's really of giving he actually all okay be born a year born to evolve he born and Ebola you've owned that's what my friends we're saying right now we love this idea that a person goes to the gifts or something what's up well three things in he says what pencil sorts of culture knows we'll get it with three legs you can't send so follow us here at dot understand my friend not expand still consume see together three other the way I gather the things that giver gets bored of the receiver we think we gave that we give to ourselves arrived but I said the Emmet's which one the only money ever really own the money that I gave away understand the concept of Sam loves us so much you want to give us opportunities I'm gonna punish you nail dubbing Bhoomi pray and make sure I don't do it please quickly emotion save to do is people alright they would find it be very careful to get continuous accustomed to come around or opportunity we have in order to save us don't think you'd learn it for that realize effects you need help someone you give them a ride or you give them something at the lead or even say good morning or hello to them that everything is going to boomerang and Mail you in the face it's going to be so painful it's going to be pleasure that my friends is pointing crappy so I wanna I wanted to share with you one less story just don't remember what it was thank you all for cut okay I just remembered what it was the story goes not this 10 concept of sadaqa hello I said sometimes we don't really want to give sadaqa but we want to help so much so sailors and I'm not even interested in whenever it ok do you really want that I'll help you out try pair of shadows look I get to Mac in the story goes to the dark is a woman there please anybody new Monica Shabbos for Shabbat table Hama that mean I didn't get Rocco yes give me I need some because it listen I got okay I know that I got nothing on me lady I didn't know that every son's the only thing I have a chicken I mean that I just made for Shabbos please so chicken can I have some chicken are you kidding like really hot to the caffeine after the chicken because these please help you I need something okay something's pulling out of if yours are wouldn't he left slam the door in the face that's like my kid with no legs no space a speed you don't family together get it I'll give him another time time to think okay this is finds the weight here goes to the kitchen opens the fridge into the fridge get the Shockers life sitting in the fridge is two-year-old side and he's turning boy her son was plank then he got into the fridge and the door closed and he was stuck but the fact that he decided he's going to help this lady save his own child's life we think oh and he gave it yeah well you and Ian were giving her the kid is giving me Tyson tickle take take the whole you take the chicken I'll leave it unbelievable friends I wish I lived up to what I'm saying I'm this is not a kicker okay they try sometimes a little baby if you want to system stand we don't want to be selfish and teaching you the best way the best way to be selfish is to be selfless and whether that's in terms of the fact that we have caching can help we have your body to get help out but anything that we have if instead it's try to be as happy as we can be and God Almighty said I'm going to get I'm a giver and the more that we do that the more godlike we actually come any questions comments service attacks please give them for my physical why are you hurt when you archetype funny company's statements how you are good I did it for you for you for you that's all already you like us to normal speed alright people take you so much you're coming let's go into this you