Yud Tes Kislev Farbrengen 2025, for Anash shuls in Cleveland, OH - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

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I'm going to move up. >> One over. probably the single the whole speaker. Now she thank you. Thank you. Ever shall I give you I go high. [singing] Vi. at the end like [singing] we are [clears throat] the Maybe you could just give him an introduction. >> You have to give me a bio. No, >> if you're uncomfortable, don't do it. Glory to the [singing] mighty Oh man. Oh [singing] my. Yeah. I am the Lord. Van the valley of the Heyf. The left [singing] body [singing] after might ever [singing] I'm starts. I want to thank uh all the argan all those who organized it David and Ance and the brotherhood rais and uh I just want to I just want to quickly say I just I heard that yesterday was daughter of Abra and the following. Um and he said that there was a person that his father owned a bakery in a dilapidated area and there was barely any business. When he when he inherited the business after his father passed away, he decided to move it to a new location, an upscale area. and a friend of his sent a bouquet of flowers um with a with a card and it read the the card said rest in peace. So he was he was livid. The guy messed up the cards. It was supposed to go somewhere else. So he calls up the florist and the florist says you're upset at me. you know down the block there is a funeral going on right now and they got the bouquet that says over there congratul congratulations on your new new location [laughter] so the said that if I bring in is not supposed to be afterwards you rest in peace it's supposed to be congratulations on your new location that's what is and that's why we have rabid with us a great orator and a kabad historian who wrote how many books more than anyone's any any age or anyone here >> many many books as you can see over there and he has tremendous passion about and kite and yiddishkite and all areas of so it is our pleasure to have rabid come and bring with us inspire us for you may be inscribed in the book of life in the book of Tora and as he will explain the idea of brotherly love and together in his beautiful and inimitable way. >> Yeah. >> So good to everybody. >> A fabin is not a formal occasion. If you're sitting here and expect formalities, go home now. >> Okay, there we go. >> A fabin the whole idea of a fabang in in comparison to example a kumzit, a schmoo session, a muser session, a musermuz. This is not a fabang. if you'll stick around long enough and the energy is positive and and and upbeat and that takes three criteria. You ready? Number one, full participation through singing together the niguni and singing together with your entire being. Not like we say >> half asleep. That's number one. is a is a primary source resource and aspect of number two is saying if you can't say on mashk or wine there's water there's seltzer but you need to say because means to life to life to life Right. Number three. Number three. A fabangan requires, silence, quietness, stillness, meditation, introspection. And when you have these three ideas, no question that that will accomplish great things in your life and in your family. Now I'm talking practically. There's of course the that say that that Malik Mik the angel Michael is not able to accomplish what we accomplished sitting together. So the fact that we're sitting together that itself is already gavaldic that's unbelievable right >> but if you want it then have the faban impact you tomorrow and the day after and throughout the year these three criteria are very very essential. So I hope that with this brief introduction you will endeavor even if it's just for tonight with this type of faban another um another disclaimer at a faban especially I'm from out of town I'm from Brooklyn you probably think I'm from Kron Heights no I'm from a good old Jewish neighborhood called Burough Park and yeah there are some labaviches in Boro Park. I didn't bring my book, but I wrote a book called a labavicher in borrow park where I discussed the 29 different in borrow park. today. There's probably 50 already. But anyway, anyway, the Fabangan lends itself to at times sharp witicisms, retorts, remarks, and sometimes someone might be offended. If you want to be at the fabangan and you want to really get into the fabangan, don't allow that to disturb you because that's a part of the DNA of a real kabad faban. The previous says said and says that one should remove the negle. Negle means the fingernails, the sharpness, the sharp kite. But nevertheless, without without what Rabbi Salvich of Yeshiva University would say, without friction, there's no movement. If you want to move in life, you have to have friction. Otherwise, you're a a dud. And by the way, I wrote this in my book, Your Better Self. And Rabbi Turski endorsed the book. Dr. Rabbi Torski the idea in a niggan in a kabad niggan right what do you hear if you ask someone what's you go to other communities there are words to an inabad the real nigim have no words do you know that so what is worldless migunim and and and uh this I I this is the friction the what I'm telling you now the pre the previous writes in a letter it's not my own kesush my own novelty the friction is created through the ay once and twice and three times [snorts] so I'm going to begin tonight teaching you a niggan. I'm going to ask this gentleman here. Maybe you could hand these out to people and share so we could look in together or pass one back. There are some people here from Russia probably Ukraine. >> Yes. So my father maybe well he came he was born in Romania. He's a survivor. He's a very very good friend of Rabbi Alfski senior and my father. They grew up together in Luden Deavich on the famous Mashpia and then he came to France to and then he came to America to the Reb 1958 left and him my father's older label but they were very good friends are good friends so my father comes into 770 right you know what 770 is right if you're in this sh and you don't know what 770 is can't be you have to know what 770 is the headquarters of Kabad Lubavage. So my father comes Thursday night. He arrives off the boat and there's a whole story on the boat with the famous burger and my father, but it's not for now because I'll keep you here all night and I'm sure you want to go to sleep a little bit tonight. So my father comes into 770 and his old friends from Yeshiva, Halefki, Springer, Catsman, all these are in 770 on a Thursday night in Kabad. Thursday night we learn half of the night. I'm telling you what I did in Marstown when I was in yeshiva and then later in 770 and then the last two three hours in a night we fabang 1 2:00 we start a faban that's the kabad mish learning till about 12 1:00 and then a faban aidic faban amongst each other anyway he comes in and he hears his friends singing this song Lubilasco hold on. So he asks his friends or as my father in his good Romanian either says >> vis what does it mean and they tell him it means luba lubich Philadelphia the city of love maya my love what's my of my job, my service. I really love my job. My father says to these friends of his, he says, "I came to America for three purposes. To see the Reba, to get a job, and to get married. I can't get married before I have a job. To pay for my wife and children's needs." And of course it's all based on Akadesh Bar's blessings and the sadic that he identified with the etc. So I came for that reason. You guys as we say again in good old Yiddish are banketes. You know what banketches are? It doesn't mean a bank. A bank is a bench. a bench in in in a base medish in a shul in 770 there were benches there are benches ache what's ache squeezes but it means like he's sitting there and on the bench and he's learning fine he says but what do you know about a job you really love your job. You ain't working. You're gophers. I'm going to have I'm starting a job cuz I want to make some money. Cuz I want to get married. So they say, "No, no, no. You don't get it. The job of a ye is to serve Hashem, to serve God Almighty. That's the job of aid means we love serving Hashem and in this case we learn love serving our general thebe who helps us serve Hashem. This niggan was originally sung by Kazaks and low lives and shikurim drunkards in Russia. [snorts] Belarusia, white Russia, Alashshar when when they try when they took over when there was guerilla warfare after the Zar fell, there were these groups Gudim each one. And after a good day's purging and killing of people, they would go into the tavern into the bar. And what would they do? They would drink and drink and say, "Luba, luba, luba. I love working for Ivan and I work love working for [snorts] another These go these people who were doing their job. So the who heard this, they said, "Oh, it's a it's a lesson. It's a lesson in serving Hashem." We have to be able to say, "La, we love being aided. We love being auter." And that's the question. Can you say that? So the first thing I want to do is in your sheets the first song the words areas I want to sing it and teach it to you the right way because you know songs and many times people just there's a certain way of singing. I'm going to sing it. Don't sing with me. Listen to it once or twice and then let's sing together. Try. Okay. Oi, if you don't have that oi there, you don't know the Oi. Hey, I lit it. I I I Hey, I I I What's going on over here? Listen now carefully. The first feeling of a Jew is of a yeis I love Hashem ly. So it's a kind of a a straightforward simple uncomplicated statement. I love God. I love Hashem. Then comes the second time. Do I really love God? That's a question. It's not a statement. [clears throat] Do I really love God or is it all lip service? and then goes like this which means sometimes I love him and then goes and sometimes I don't love him and then comes the second part of the it told you we Find the kabad songs. The voice goes up and deep. I 1 2 3 I definitely love Hashem. When is that? One can you say you definitely love God? When you're coming from your soul perspective, then inshallah from the body, we got a lot of questions. We have a bomb falling here and a child, god forbid, becoming ill and there's no parosa. We have all kinds of questions that don't make sense. Right? So from the human intellectual rational side of man we have good questions and guess what we don't always have answers and if we may say even when we have an answer it's not the final answer because what do we know but when you live within the shama when you live with the soul And that's your motive with soul. There are no questions. And that's how you can be happy. Otherwise, you can't be happy. I'm missing this. I'm missing that. This is not good. That's not good. And we all go through this. A human being who doesn't experience up and downs in life. Find him for me. Show him where he is. the Reba. We're going to get to the alterb in a moment. I know it's your kiss. We'll speak about the alterba, but this is an introduction to the alter. You know, Aweba was born in 1902 and he had a very hard life [laughter] in Russia and his brother, one of his brother was murdered by the Nazis in Mim. The other brother passed away as a very young man in Liverpool, England, 1952. The Reb and the Rebbitson were childless. They have thousands of children who but biological children they didn't have. We don't understand why but that and you know whoever wrote to the complaining the common answer was get that negativity away. In Hebrew it's called my wife Z there was a Y named Zalmanski was a Russian from Kov and he came from Dis of Labid and he and four five other families were sent to Australia by the Fred Kareb in 1949 and he was the Reb's first in 1949 to Australia to Melbourne And Absalman has probably a book of letters from the Reb probably two 300 letters from the labba long letters not two three lines full page letters he developed and built a yeshiva a community etc etc right and he writes to the rebba about this person about this situation and sometimes things were hard or many times and he expresses himself and the Reb answers him and you have to understand that the Reba had such respect for him and he for the Rebba he was born 1904 the was born 1902 and many similarities I won't go into right now I'm not talking about him and the writes to him look into the letters get the negativity away is no place from I when I read these letters and I think about them it's like so hard. It's hard but that is the answer for happiness. There's a a mashia in named maybe some of you have heard of him. He's already an 80-year-old man. I was once sitting at a fab with him in you know he's an accomplished man. He you know he's a a massive he's aidic Jew. He's accomplished person very accomplished. he can match himself up with any of the Jerusalem. Okay? And he starts off the saying like this. If I get up in the morning and I think about [clears throat] my situation, I get depressed. And I'm listening to him. I'm listening to him. And I'm saying you Rabbi Dich who has hundreds maybe thousands of followers he says if I think about this son and this daughter and this grandchild and this and that I get sad but when I think about what can I do for another Jew I become I become happy and that's the answer to give yourself away for another yeed. That is the only recipe for happiness in life. Not how much intellect you have [snorts] and how how accomplished you are with regardless of how many degrees you carry on your lapel. It's all nishkite nonsense. But when you do for another yeet, you're in. You're in and you become happy. So I really love my job. When can you say it and feel it and really mean it? When you help another ye and you come and and to do that, you have to come from soul from the shama because soul has no questions. So let's let's sing together the song once or twice and I hope Rabbi uh Gans this song was I taught to many groups. One group was in PTOAC Maryland and they used it every Shabas at their Kiddish and as we say in good old Yiddish again I'm going to be throwing out a lot of Yiddish apherisms cuz I come from a that's my natural tongue and there's no replacement for good old Yiddish. >> Russian crowd is not here today. >> Your Russian crowd's not here. So, uh, there's a expression in Yiddish Hebrew, you know what that means? How do you say that in English? [gasps] It's another it's really happening. Means ascent. In other words, it's it's all, you know, really coming together. It's it's galdic. It's flowing. It's exciting. Giddeskite is exciting. Is exciting. Friendship is exciting. So let us all excite ourselves together with with reala and let's sing this niggan together. Okay. Don't be bashful. Come on. Don't be bashful now. I love it. Hey, I I I la I I Louder, louder. Louder. My I again I Say, >> so how did I get here? How did I find Cleveland? You know my last my last memory of Cleveland is Rabbi Buketabi Mayor Buket. He was a survivor. So he would say Cleveland is kev land >> the land of the dogs. [laughter] >> But that's that's that's what I heard about 20 30 years ago. But my dear friend, >> it's a land of cleaving. >> The land of cle >> cleaving to Hashem. >> Cleaving to Hashem. >> Cleaving to the >> But I I before >> it depends which area you are in Cleveland. >> Oh, let's not go. Wait, but maybe later at 2 in the morning we'll talk about that. But um how did I get here? And I I want to before I forget, I want to thank Dr. Moritz Mikol. He's the one that uh as we say to come here. So, um and uh you're new to the community. This is uh you guys have a diamond here. So, treat him well. Treat him well and he'll treat you well. and um Cleveland. The Reb had us here way back. But our reb actually started in 1947 when Kanalam came here in 1947. And you know who helped him get furniture and settle? >> Anyone know? Rabbi Gifter, Rabbi Morai Gifter, therefore that tells you yeshiva and G and Mortkai every year and the Reb told him he asked the Reb he supported nicely. Rabbi Gifter Yeshida tells then there were other labavicha families who were here in 49 and 50 the Shapiro Gazinski and several others. So I was told today I was told that um by Morai where is Morai? my my good friend who took me around Morai that uh the Samadic shul is one of the oldest labs in the country. What? That's what someone told me. Anyone who's a historian there, I'm a history buff. So, uh, at, you know, when I get back, I would love to talk to you on the phone or somehow about that, uh, to really get the history down right. And if it wouldn't be so cold and uh, I would be able to go around. When I was in Chicago last year on a semi snowy day, I went to the west side so no one was out there so I wouldn't be killed. And I actually recorded many videos. They're online of the outside of those buildings. Tremendous tremendous inab. [gasps] So uh I assume that you have some of that here in Cleveland as well. But we need a little better better weather for that and more time. But anyway, have you ever seen a ye have you ever seen a ye that when the yeed mentions the world the word baeto he starts crying? Anyone? I saw I think it was 2001 at the Utasis Malava Mal Borrow Park and the Visionniter Hall on 53rd Street off 18th Avenue was 2,000 people in the room packed packed packed and there was a one of the speakers was a ye by the name of Fishial Heshkovitz Dian Har you do him >> the Cenber Dian and they honored him. He wasn't the main speaker, just to to say a few words. And when he opened his mouth and he said the the hay and he speaks in their in his dialect, the hilar balmtov, the holy baltov, he burst out crying. I saw it with these eyes. Where is that coming from? When we say the alterb, we should be so alarmed, excited that our entire being is moved. You know who the alterba was? I don't know who he was. I know who he is. The alterb is everyone here in the room. If we can sit in 2025 in Cleveland on Utes with freezing outside and we get together foreskis and we celebrate and we say we sing a we say etc. This is alterb. You see isn't a pastime. You know, you can say right amik. It happened once upon a time. Once upon a time is fragility, apathy, coldness, kipa in the terminology of negativity. That's not once upon a time. It's right now. What did the alterb want? What does this want? The war wants that a ye should learn the alterb is not just a rabbi in Russia 20 how many years ago? 27 227 years ago in 1798 is vindicated, released from a death sentence 53 days in a hell hole, excuse the expression in Petersburg because it was he was informed on that he's supporting the Turks trying to cause a rebellion over the Zar and they find out it's bubb compromises baloney and he goes out. What does he want?ism What isism? You hear other people, what is thisidism? What is it about? And by the way, when you say there's another word many times we don't we don't say or we don't think about, we forget. It's you can't separate from and you can't separate from kabad. Not that allad no way. Like I told you there's about 50 different sets in in where I come from in borrow park. What did the what is? Here is a oneline definition. I want you to remember it, okay? Because you'll be asked this question. And if you haven't been asked, you should be asked. What is here's the answer. It's not my answer. It's Rab Emanuel Shutt's answer in one of his books and I thought it's brilliant. The study of divinity. You know what divinity is? Elus divine the study of divinity is the objective of the study of divinity is to be a mench as the reb says in the letter of 1902 that's printed in the beginning of a today right to rid oneself of the ugly demons and character traits It's so amazing with the guns on a day like uteskis in the hayim he has to quote that part of the letter it's not the entire letter and last night in bop pak fabangan which went till 4 in the morning with about uh 5 600 people thank you thank you very much um they spoke about this that the that the Reb emphasizes the part of the letter of the al of of of of the objective of isuna. Look into the language. take out our yoy those that say wellid is philosophy for those you know philos philosophers and deep thinkers and it's not relevant to the average person the average ye boy is it relevant we have ugly character midun and here we have a way of changing them and the question is how so briefly I don't want to give you lectures tonight. of but briefly briefly this is the answer wait for the rub to come in and then we'll continue oh he went somewhere else okay this idea of and [snorts] getting rid one way of doing it is in the way of muser you What muser is? Moral ethical teachings that involve cleanly cleanliness, cleanliness, elacrity, punctuality, preciseness, all that is included in muser. Mind you, way back learned muser, but that wasn't the mainstay of their learning. Muser is a of it's a part of a a holy part, a very important part. But there is a way of dealing with the same issues through what we call gil manifestation of illumination to be inspired to by something greater than yourself. So when you learnis and you talk about God's creation, how Hashem creates the world and your mind starts thinking about these ideas, guess what? Where do you find yourself? You find yourself in a different world, in a different plateau, in a different realm. You're no longer interested in just it's my problem and this is not good and that's not good. All of a sudden, Hashem is the best. But I want to understand Hashem, how does Hashem operate? What does Hashem want? What does Hashem want of a Jew, of a non-Jew? The Reb quoted once in a sing song of the alterb which is taste and you will see that God is sweet that God is galdic that Hashem is good but you have to taste if you don't taste hot garnish you have nothing you have not you have to taste Taste. How do you taste? You got to learn. You learn. You come to Ashir. Today there's so many podcasts and translations. You drive to Akran, right? Wherever you go, you put on you're on the way. You listen to there's no excuse. It's available. And when you learn, you become in your mind and in your heart. When you become in your mind and your heart, then it's a whole different ball game. took some pictures. Good. Send it to me later. How you doing? Beautiful. Say no. Okay. I go there together. Okay, we are Like I be a hallelujah. I am hide. Before I ask we get Rabikov to say a few words, I want to share a story. I probably I probably I think it's going to be a new story for most of you because I heard the story from Seelim and he heard it in the yeshiva from the Yehuda Mosha Yehudman was a son-in-law of alter No, I'm sorry. He was a son-in-law of Havlin and a brother-in-law. These were the And when you hear certain stories like I told you the before, you got to you got to take it with your head, not with your heart initially. Okay? So, it's it's going to be a sharp story, but Hashem, you're all strong and you can handle it. Here it goes. [clears throat] Roses rises rises whatever but his mother-in-law Rosa Roses this he wasn't a he was at the time they would call him a snag today they call him a liter and he became a once he became a in those days if you became aid Especially [laughter] they ostracized you and they literally sat sha for you. It's hard to believe and imagine but it did happen right wrong whatever historically not saying was by everyone but's father was known as from the city of was a b a base for that was the one of the plays a Slov Raiklover was the second in command to the of VNA. The VNA go the VNY. The Vna Voy was not just a It was a a makup. It was a mamaic. And who was the second in command? Was this Yeanover? And if becomes a of theat out right today they have OTD. What would you say this would be? Got to find an acronym for that. Get out of here. You join the cot the coat penito. I don't want to see you. I don't want to talk to you. I'm sitting shiver for you. That's the way it was. Two years go by. The alterb the [clears throat] alterb once a year would come to fab with his few inlov and they had able I don't know I think there's able here somewhere. We have here. Yeah. In certain cities, just for the record, when a kid was not the popular vote of the town, but rather the shul was the main attraction. You know what they would call the damsel? The dams. You know what Adam? There's a woman. >> Sorry women. Sorry. [laughter] Please forgive me but this is going back 200 years or 150 years. So incl was like a damsk. It was the main was the people rabbis and and the the alterba would come to inspire them once a year. You need inspiration here all year and mom from time to time you want a guest to to invigorate that's the nature of the human being the always says I remember asb said many times I remember listening you want to hear a novelty something new the alah the old things. We already heard it, right? >> Again, rabbi again when he So the would come to once a year to give his what's the to with them to sayim to d with them. So that your Pinas is walking in the street and he sees on a on a bench somewhere where he sees his father and his father notices him. Two years have gone by that they didn't speak to each other. And he goes over, he says, "Tata, father." And the father looks up and he says he sees a yid with a bird with a beard pis with a hat with a langle with a kapata aid a yid a fromid he says you mean the k the cult didn't get you you didn't become not religious ot [laughter] off the d off the derk OTD is a common word used today unfortunately without I'm not going to go into right now anyway. So can't believe it. He thought for sure that his son joining the that's it. And he sees his son is so meticulous, careful and he starts talking to him and he's talking and he's blown away by the kadusha holiness and tahara purification sensitivity of this son pinas. So he says, "My dear from how do you have this?" So he says father for my rebre the alterb the balat the ra he says I don't believe it how can I meet your rebba now you understand this the second in command to the go of this is you know as close as it gets to the up. So he says, "Tata, father, the alter comes once a year and is coming soon. I suggest you spend Shabas with us in our not with the go, not with the the lit and the but with us." And Mo Shabas, he gives you a private audience. If you'll be impressed with what you see and you want to meet with him privately, you can on mat shabas. He spends shabas. He's in awe of what he sees. the Friday night kabola shabas, the dabin together, word for word with such depth and such enthusiasm and such pleasure and gishmak and then he hears aidus which he didn't understand a half a word because he wasn't used to etc. But he saw people quiet glued to the alter while he's saying the It blew him away. Wow. Shabas morning. They're up early. Not 11, not 10, not 9, 5, 6 in the morning. They're up learning going to the mikvah. And then they d and they d and they d with kav and and then there's a kdish. And then there's a suda and a faban. And then there's shall this isn't just about right. That's very nice. But it's right. Something else happening here. There's something else going on here. He says to the son, "I must meet your rabbi, your rebi, your kidic master. Can you get me in?" He says, "Sure." And he goes into alter. But here comes the punchline. Get ready. You got to really be ready for this. He goes into the alterb and he says [clears throat] to the alterba these words accept me under your wings. Rabbi show [laughter] you here. He wants to become a of the alter the second in command of to the vil wants to become aid we can't understand this and imagine this but if you know historically what took place >> please please pay attention accept me. What do you think the alterba told him? What would rab tell him? If someone from tells comes here who was a let's see a big litfac I'm saying let's say and he comes to or he says rabbi please accept me. I know what I would tell them. >> I would tell them tell them to go to drive a dolphin. [laughter] I would tell him come let's go let's for you know come please the alterba didn't say that quoted to him a passage of a verse in a passage that we in kabad we don't say but many others do say the shabas after shuis test in a pismine it's called a poetic type of writing prayer and listen to what it says there it follows the olive base so for the test it is excuse me literally it means There is a a clay cement that from it comes forthim not in the sense of but righteous people kind people and because of that you merit to the world to come makes a spin on the on the on this passage says A teal. You know what a teel is? It's a Yiddish word for a piece of dough. So, there's a little piece of dough. Jews come out of a certain kind of dough. >> And you don't come from this dough. >> [laughter] >> Go back and do your homework. >> You know what that piece of dough is? The and the by a little stickle tick for an aite that by we give a little herring. I saw herring on the table. Herring with we don't have here but you know what I'm talking about. and a brumin, a little vodka. This isidic jewelry and you can't get that anywhere. You have to live this culture. Now, let me explain right away cuz I'm sure you're asking, "What do you mean I don't come from that place?" is saying I know you don't come in that place but if you identify and understand it and inculcate it then you are aid you understand are made of a certain piece of dough which is a little schmaltzy at times with a little vodka and we sit together and we talk and we cry and we have and we and we and we connect that's a so he tells he tells of course you can I'm paraphrasing of course you can be a you want to be aid no problem but did you think about these things did you did you do you realize what is what are so of course everyone is it and could be aid. It's that that's not what it's the mindset what we call in psychology the paradigm shift what is your paradigm in other words even learning right we spoke about learning on what's again the definition I told you the study of divinity of elus right this is not this is even deeper this is even more this is a cultural mu you that is necessary to to to live. There was a yeid first in Russian, then in Melbourne, then in Crown Heights. His name was Rabba. I'm sure Kikin knew him well. Please once saw my father-in-lawski in Melbourne by in the ansid one week of each of the another week the mimemer and the third week was who my so it wasn't taxing on any one of them they took turns so once wasing was a tal of famous and he had the at the time learned by heart the previous yiddishim their discourse is called the yiddishim from 1940 to45 I believe my I believe and probably some of his friends knew every word in that safer by heart by heart [laughter] and he would review these myim in 770 but he did the same thing in Melbourne so baba who was his father's contempor contemporary he saw that so he came to zalman said abbransky his father and he said kaim can see this know he reviews the so well and absolut says is garish [clears throat] knowing is nothing to live. So there is the study of and the the knowing knowing God understanding as we explained before that's there but something more deeper being aid being immersed in and for that you need a lot of habbrans and you have wonderful people really I'm not here to to put them on a pedestal but you're talking about jewels you just have to nooch them a a little bit. The Reb once said by Fabranga, I was at Fabbran, when your Mashia, yourasha doesn't want to give, knock on their door and don't stop. Nudge them. And trust me, when you nudge your and your and your people, they will give. The gum says, right, more than the cow wants to the calf wants to do, the cow wants to give. Just a matter of You know, help us. You want a You want to become a You want to be a real want to be a realist? Absolutely. >> Do for the become a live get together. make such fabang as once a month, not just once a year at this gizliff. Why? Why should only be once a year? Every month there should be a fab with 50, 60, 70 people. Really? Why not? What is it? Okay. It's no question about it. It's a big day. But the truth is every week, every day, every shabas, you know, there was a yulinski from the bazinski kabat family. So I I spoke to him once in Florida. I met him and you know because he was together with in Tel Aviv. So I wanted to hear about Rabio. I wrote several books about Rabiel. So I wanted to really get to his childhood because a person is developed from as a child and as a teenager. So you have to go to friends because people don't speak about themselves [snorts] anyway. So he he he he said he said to me the following. He said to me he said many things but he said one thing. He said that that when he was when he was a young boy I mean he was a gifted gifted a genius that's a that's a different but theishkite where he comes from from such parents and such community and such people you know that's [snorts] what makes you later in life today I fab had me fab with the boys I must tell you that I was so impressed. They knew they were pavich and they gim and they were singing together. I put it online. It's a beautiful thing to see. I didn't think I'm coming into Cleveland, you know. I [gasps] And they they don't have yet hopefully have a soon going to, you know, not and and dress with white shirts with short. My father taught me there's three things to be a lab. This is my father's what he got in yeshiva short haircut identifying with the and what's the third thing no not drinking vodka not at all not at all and learning learning and a short haircut [laughter] you know the frontal hair would call it chup take that off cuz you're making so fancy you have to have nice hair, right? So, Rabio came from a a stock of of and people who were so so connected. I remember he would give us a shir in Ocean Park. We're in Brooklyn in the lab in the winter like now it's freezing outside. He came in and he wore a sweater under his his capot or his jacket. used to wear a jacket during the week and he took it off the way it says first like this then the sweater and then the right you know whatever and we bak laughing like this genius of leaked cup this is what's important to him to take off the way says your jacket and sweater exactly In 1985 after I went on a I came back the first time to the to the and I was everyone's waiting thousands of people for the reb to come and sees me. He gives me a big smile to show him alim and all of a sudden he goes no with a serious face and like you know I'm I want to I want to hide amongst like what did I do he says links right over left right over left and at that time I had a jacket or what whatever was left over right for whatever >> and what amazed me is like you know, from this big smile to of of like, you know, closeness in Kiru to like, hey, what's going on here? Khan's thinking about a button right over left, not left over right cuz that's [snorts] they're inseparable. Anyway, enough said. No, it's not a I came to the power from the roof of salvation. >> Sit close. Sit. Sit. Sit. I'm save. Oh yeah. >> All right. Listen, that's the thing that I got cuz I heard he spoke beautifully. I want to hear it. Someone told me about Yeah. I want to hear it. I want to hear it. >> Yeah. Yeah. I believe >> I don't know who I'm talking about. I know you >> look I asked I I tried I asked and they told me they didn't tell me much just talk. Okay. >> Okay. I just told I don't rub anyone. You talk to yourself. >> Yeah. There's secretary plus two others. I'm not sure. You'll check on your way out. >> And then I brought another reb. I didn't know Dr. Brown was a doctor. His father was a doctor. If them does. >> [singing] >> That one is working. I can't talk to Clean my shy. [singing] Hey I yeah. Let yeah Laen police system is going to go. should be described and signed learn a year of learning act the ways of the customs of citizen we repeat things that we have already heard But we need to refresh them. As today asked me what should he say to people why we should learn. >> Take it out. >> You have to be under the table. You want the mic? >> Yeah. >> So, one of the reasons >> is because the first thing that every ye called is men and women, children have to have amunas to believe. What is Hashem? Supposed to have love. Supposed to have fear constant all hours of the day and of the night. But what does Hashem mean? This teaches you what is Hashem. It's a very good reason why we should get involved in learning series in the long letter that he wrote to his daughter. He speaks about great people, great in their level. But in says that before you d and before you dib you got to think you got to contemplate about the greatness of hashem. So this great man how what was his his boneress? He would imagine first he would look on the wall would be written shi Hashem is always in front of me and he would think about a big buffalo a big a great animal and that would bring him to hashem and hashem and that's how he would die very great we're not knocking down anybody but if you learned is is like Rabbi Dolphin said before that is sweet with God's help we made a yesterday on Tanya of all the beauty explanations and the greatness and cab and Easter and nigler whatever you find in Tanya what does Tanya finish off Shabas be careful ful in observing the shabas. No, what does that mean? Everybody here is ashame shabas. But if that's the season, now is the time to spend a few moments in observance in chabas. As we see that everybody is aid is similar to aesh boru and hashemga in a moment he doesn't need any preparations when it came shabas was shabas so many people also start shabas shabas but we know from the story that started to keep shab hours before and when they wanted to take him with the coach with the vagina didn't go. So we are also should learn that this is our neoan that we should not wait till the last minute. We should come to shul a few minutes before shabas. We should start our preparations on time. A proof that this is not a fact. It is any soan cuz you see that winter and chabas the same thing regardless what how many hours is Friday we still [clears throat] park the car after the ladies have already been sniffed no zombie is a time that we should accept on ourselves a little bit in shabasian in the spirit what Rabbi do mentioned before. I'm going to just share with you an incident of Rakiva Eager. Rakiva Eager. Every boy that studies in Aisha knows the greatness of Raakar. And Rakiva Eager had a grandson. He was called Leis which means his name was eager. No, in those days there was no zoom and there was no telephones and no videos and they came and they told a big problem. Your son is going in the der your is going they're off the derek she says what they don't put on film film they put on two pairs of film so they thought by saying that the eager will think something wrong with them no eager like them but they don't wear tes Their tits goes bamish till the floor. They sweep the floor with their tits. [laughter] The baka doesn't see this for anything wrong. But they don't do they don't wash when they eat. Aost doesn't use a bring a pale [laughter] said that's a sim of d of purity. >> [clears throat] >> Let it all I Hey yeah. Yeah. [singing] Hey. [music] Hey. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Bless it. >> That's a little more professional. Hey, you guys. [laughter] And try it again. [laughter] Yeah, Hey, hey, hey. [singing] Hey yeah. Hey yeah. Don't say >> so the alterb is greatness extend lends itself to our Reb and to us sidum. So for a few minutes I want to share a few things I heard recently that I'm still my head's still spinning. I'm thinking about there was a lab his name was Gansburg he was a brother-in-law to Khan and recently [clears throat] his son might be a of yours I think he's a little younger than you but he's a in Toronto Gansburg is his So I was interviewed and I found you know there are interviews and there are interviews. I have a podcast called meaningful interviews. An interview first of all it takes it it it's a skill to know how to interview. It's not an easy job. Number two, if the interviewee gets uncomfortable, that's good. Doesn't have to always tell you everything. But a good interview is to be able to pull out to take out to extract [clears throat] information that otherwise wouldn't be known. doesn't mean that it has to be, you know, secrets and things that are very private, but you know, so I found this interview with Rabbi Gansberg very meaningful. Seems to me like a very pineimis type of a person who doesn't, you know, talk talk much and to get him to talk is is is valuable. By the way, [clears throat] I'm saying this not as a uh a commercial, but I had a chance to speak to Bor's father today. He was a very good friend of my fathers from Lud from their youthki. And I told your mother and she agreed with me that he has such memories. He's gone through so much and of he remembers the it is imperative for someone to do what we call oral history interviews is a person he's not you know he's not an old man but he's not a youngster he has a lot of memories are we recording these people you know Steven Spielberg put in millions and millions made billions of dollars into the show a holocaust and to get the Holocaust memories. do you have to show and be a holocaust individual to there's so many people today and Barashem over the last two years I was able to sit with people who have some gone on some are still around but the family has the memories and if they want to put it out for the public it's also available but this is this is I I say this now really I'm not you know pushing my own horn because it's something that I do. But I can't tell you how many people go go to the earth without their memories being recorded. And a child knows a little bit here. I was in Cincinnati a few years ago and the family had me interview Rabbi Sha bear calm. Gems gems came out, you know. So, there are people here sitting here, young people, middle-aged people, older people. Do it for your family. Trust me, it's it's I gave your father to I gave your father a book that I wrote. My father's life, the life of my father. My father's from Romania as a survivor from the Romanian Holocaust. [clears throat] We have a treasure. I put it in writing but the first thing is you have to record it. So anyway, Ravi Gansberg told over the following in 1962 I think yeah he came on one of the charters I think with the from he was from the leaders in what's called it's a group of day schools talas initis an area specifically where there weren't other Orthodox from Yeshiva's talas he told that's what he says on the in there a lot of things you have to pick up on you if you listen carefully that's why I say it's it's diamonds if you understand the nuances of what he's saying because you know he's not going to go tell you a whole story now but he said that the rebel was very specific where should you put these kuras only in cities and places where there's nothing else happening. So one of the places is called I think I think somewhere on the border I think Egypt or somewhere somewhere out there by the border one of the borders anyway and [snorts] he was the first one he moved away from from from Ludabad wherever they were at the time or Tel Aviv Tel Aviv and they moved and it was people the didn't understand it the older like you and your wife and your kids are going to move to the secular place. The whole idea of the 1960s in was it it didn't exist. It was like a it was like outrageous. Anyway, so he's working hard, working very hard. Tish is here now. He was in addition to being a director of one of these yeshiva these rashet schools. He was also a teacher. A teacher you all know a teacher has responsibilities. I asked my wife let's we let's go here let's go there cuz I have you know a type of work where I'm not tied up. She's a teacher in Brifka special ed teacher. She says I can't leave my students. They need me every day to read ka and it's pulling teeth and she's right. She's really committed to the kinder and there's school every day except for those you know vacation times. That's a real commitment. So Rabbi Gansberg Gansberg was a teacher and he had a commitment to his his students. So what does he do? Tish because there's muva there's you know times when there's still session he hires someone else to replace him a substitute he found someone to take over he comes to the secretary's main secretary meets him and he says if you'd be an older I would we would tell you to go back but you're young so you're not going to listen to us anyway but you should know you will not be acknowledged by the reb by the fabans you will not have you don't exist you do not belong here who gave you permission to leave your post. Do you understand Rabbi? You're talking about a man who's working for the Reb and working self-sacrifice. Literally, he comes to get a little [clears throat] energy, a reboost, and he gets a substitute. And he's told by which I'm sure came from the you don't exist because you don't belong here. You understand what the what our is? There's no monkey business here. You can be a Shia and you can be a rabbi and you can be my man, but if you do something that's not in accordance with what we want. Goodbye Charlie. It's not going [snorts] accepts his edict. He accepts the Reb's message after Tish that mayor Bjinski that's the father of the Lazinski we spoke about earlier very special personality mayor mayor Bjinski goes into listen to this and he speaks up for Ichk Gunsburg and he says to the Reb, "Reb, I know this man. I know this. I know what this man does for you." I'm paraphrasing. Okay? I know this is a genuine. This is a real This person is dedicated to your work. Please forgive him and give him and give him a private audience. [snorts] I'm going to repeat what Rabbi Ganssburg says in the interview the Reb says to Rainski. You understand? He's speaking now to another and an older and the Reb says to him who's trying to defend Gansburg and the Reb says a king a mel is a king when you listen to his dictates when you listen to his commands. But if you don't listen to the melik's commands and the Reba picks himself up like this mel he's not a king and with that it ended either I'm a king or I'm not a king make up your mind say do understand that is a melik a king in the sense of do we understand what that means? Are we willing to understand that here is a gentleman a person whatever who's doing his work his work does work of course and yet because he decides with his own logic to find a substitute like you Miko imagine you would go away for your practice and you would have a replacement Dr. Weiss. Ira Weiss who did EB's doctor from when he had his heart attack did exactly that. Guess what? He lost his job. People don't know this, but he lost his job >> and he never recovered from that. Okay, he paid his price and trust me, he's going straight into [laughter and snorts] but aid listens. That's what aid does. And if not, in a sense, you're not aid. You don't want to be and that's a good thing too. But aid listens and it's hard to listen. But you have to listen. Otherwise, you're not aided. [clears throat] I once asked a passed on. You know is a different it's not just because of saying like some fools want to believe. It's not about drinking excessively. That's a wrong attitude. Simra is is is really about connecting to the holy withite and kite and warm warmth. So the pina who called him the pina was dancing in the suka of 77 the outside and I happened to be there and he h he did something that was uncharacteristic of the way I knew him. I don't want to go into what that was. I'm not going to tell you. But whatever it was it it caught me by surprise. So I said to the but this is really this this is a we call him baseball a curveball what what's going on here you doing this [snorts] don't worry it was nothing terrible okay but just something that was uncharacteristic for him so he said to me there's aim I forget at the exact place but the speaks about accepting the yoke listening. So he asks a question would ask the question he said would say [laughter] is bas basic to tell you to listen. Come on. So he told me I'm repeating to you what he told me. I I listen I hear I listen that this again I forget which it refers to that it doesn't mean listen to the that's a given it's a haste listen to old have a tradition listen and follow the traditions they share with you that's the meaning in You know, it's grown. It's grown exponentially. Barashem here. Look beautiful, right? The the the essential point that we must never forget is listening Gansburg as great and holy and special he was he didn't get permission from the to come to him for 1961. So the Reb says either I'm your king. He didn't say you're king. Either I'm a king or not a king is paraphrasing you understand either I'm a reb or not by you and if I'm a reb so this is named his safer Khan there's a safer probably you saw it's now two volumes I think the name he he didn't write the safer he had a writer wrote it he reviewed it and he he approved the writer's writing but the name of the safer I was told he name he that name something like that what is it there is a approach a style of that's what we are and that and we're and we're this way with pride Not not as a second tier. No, we are proud to be but into and that's what part of the overallis is to reconnect and reestablish our commitment to to the ways of right. the study of and the practices and behavior and culture of the culture of and that's what a faban is about and that's why by a true faban is is that is that millu I'm using the word millu it's an English word I don't know if all of you the millu the the paradigm. It's a certain gishel, you know, it's a certain attitude. And when you when you have that attitude, you're in a little more, a little less, but you're in. Well, my father came. My father, we come from my father's side. 200. I joke around with some of the we have here of the I say to them but guess what I come from stock longer than you do. I documented in my father's book we come from vision to 1820 notab but vishnit my point is there is theidic fraternity and it's a wonderful place it's really a wonderful place now the what did the rebba do the rebba said everyone's welcome but remember and this is a very important point I'm sure I'm sure there And the spoken about it. Who sets the agenda? Who sets the agenda? Theim, theim, the mashim. They set the agenda. They they were given this job, this opportunity. It's because they've gone through this and they set the agenda. And you know, I heard from the Reba myself once at a Fabangan. The Reb said, "If you're not happy, you can go elsewhere. There's a lot of places to go to was a he was a a very venerable was born in and he learned in lab and he was really aug you know there's all kinds of very fanatical ones very ones was auger a smartass he knew the score he knew the score very well he had nine children or 10 children in nine different cities running away from the KGB. Two he had in Alfka which a suburb of Moscow but at two different times. I mean this guy and and when we came back for in 1983 from Los Angeles I asked him to teach us. So Tanya, so it was he he taught us some of Tanya and then it was war stories. Amazing stories how this man outdid the communists, the Russian Maknik. He outdid them and he told us the stories of wearing these long trench coat camouflaged and how he was [laughter] he was able to get away from them. Very smart, very shrewd. Ra ones once for bringing in Lakewood. Tails is big, but Lakewood's bigger. Lakewood is Lakewood. There's 9,000 people learning a Lakewood. How do you like that today? 9,000 people between the students and the k let's let's know the score. So Abraham is fab there about 40 50 years ago. I heard this from a Talmet who was there who's a dian today about Gansf lives in B park. He's the masov son-in-law big. So he told me the story he told me like this. He said first of he told me would give and would give two different times gave the best type of you can get. But he said before he got to the he spoke to them about like mentioned and it was a it was it was a and in Lakewood they're learning heavily commentaries. So the first thing he did was he impressed them with Talmud and once he got them impressed with Talmud then he went to the to the so this said I liked his year better because you know he got me hooked through the nigler anyway. So in Lakewood's father was ne who's uh who's related to a battleman who was raaran coupler's exson-in-law so they were craven they were relatives so Abra had that inqu they didn't I'm not he didn't give the shir in the base don't worry that they were meow But you know they tolerated him coming into Lakewood and giving a shiring over there and he turns 150 people didn't sleep all night eight nights nine nights I'm sure must have tasted some of I wasn't too young whatever the case but told me that that I said there was what to listen to. He had pearls. He was talking to 150 lakeers, real litfox. And if they're not litfox, they're oriented towards that ma that approach. And you know, So he turns to them after saying he took a good you know he was able to drink and he says to them I'm looking and says what do you guys think I came here as that you should all become that's why I'm here in bringing We have enough labels in 770. We don't need more labages in 770. However, if you want to see if you want to see a Jew who's a god-fearing Jew, And he means what he says. It's not just lip service 770. Come to 770. You know, I learned and spent time at Rabiel's house many, many times, many hours. I never felt that he's imposing on others to be laburers to be a lab that you have to come to it yourself. Really, you have to you have to come to that yourself. You have to you have to feel so connected and inspired that you say I want this and believe me it's good it's delicious it's special but you have to has to come from within yourself the that's what he wants he wants for us to be realim is in other words you're born into aidic family no therefore my father was aid my grandfather was aid a story you just kiss like that Nelson who was an a greatgrandson of Maringer I believe big going right there his greatgrandson was not I don't know if he wasn't F but you know he wasn't he wasn't on the same page as his greatgrandfather in the 1920s and 30s where do you think was the hub of Feden anyone Not Chicago, not Manhattan, not Brooklyn. Actually, a part of Brooklyn called Brownsville. Brownsville. Today, I understand there's a group of abusers who've restarted there. Brownsville had hundreds of and shuls. It was called the Shalame. The Jerusalem of America was Brownsville. Rabb Nelson lived in Brownsville and he lived there before Rabbi Jacobson who came to America in 1926. Jacob started Jacusman comes, he becomes the Rev of what was known in in Brownsville and he says to Rab Jacobson, "Rav, Rabbi, we're having a Utesliff party, a party. Where's the party going to be? Could you guess? At a restaurant. Fred. Rabbi Jacobson asks Nelson, "Mr. Nelson, why are you making a party at a restaurant?" Says, "I'll tell you, Rabbi." They spoke Yiddish, of course. He says Nelson who heard from his father in the name of our great-grandfather Rabbi that whoever will celebrate by making a celebration will be blessed that his children his grandchildren and his greatgrandchildren will be Eden and we'll be connected and we'll be in a good place. So we are making a celebration for you called akislv party in a restaurant. Rabbi Jacobson looks at him and says that's beautiful but I ain't attending. Imagine you invite Rabbi Kikin to a restaurant kosher restaurant. The next year, Rabbi Jake already got Rabbi Nel, Mr. Nelson and the friends to do the party at the shul or his house. But by is a as a big day whether one looks at it as a party or one looks at it as a really you know said about you said on this day I will shle you out those that will celebrate the yumpt the hastis my yumptive from agony and distress to freedom and broadness and openness. Is there anyone here who doesn't have a mah? I I can't imagine. We all have some mah. No, celebrate. We'll get you out of this problem and agony and distress, but you have to celebrate your life. He says even more from the physical material to the spiritual this isn't just words of any Tom Dick and Harry this is the alterb's words you believe it or not ask yourself do I believe this and the answer is like I sang earlier and taught you that niggan from the g's perspective from the mind's perspective you'll ask questions but from the Mishaba's perspective there ain't any questions it's absolutely this absolutely sub you have to be afra I asked my who could be with your your with your z and your father and I asked him what did they do you in 193536 what did they How do they celebrate this? You know what he told me? They went to work. They had to go to work. When they came home, they went to the Bakess. They were the I said, "No, no talks. First talks. You think they did this what we're doing? You need to bring someone in from New York to talk to you. You dance, you hop, you skip, you drink, you're fab. You're fabis. It's It's very special. And I was preparing for this fab and myself are laying in there thinking what how can I [clears throat] excite myself about to excite others about and it's right in the middle. Kaneka's next week. Grab gun is preparing with the manus and and [clears throat] bought up with his m and and pumped in the middle comes whether you like it or not it's the energy and the and gives us the to go further really really because it's you know [clears throat] there's a a saying that Misha Rubin was the Montreal. He was a survivor. He came over to Shanghai meet him 1946. He tells over the story in Slanim. He came from Slond. I make the story. One day the mayor of Slond was visited by a dignitary and a person and they were going to decide whether to give more money for Slond and they're walking the street and they hear ah. So he asks the mayor where are these noises coming from? So he says, "Look up there. It's the top of the mountain. There's a a an old angel and there's going, you know, some people are derailed and and they're screaming, you know, like making noises." Lo and behold, the mayor finds out that this wasn't not the mayor, the the vignary, the the person coming to visit. This wasn't an old age home. It was the labbo in Slond. They called it that, like I said before, the damsel. You hear this this who were fabing and were learning and were dancing and they sounded like people who were not well. So this is what he said who heard the story. You're calling us. You're calling us cuckles, crackpots, nuts. We might be nuts, but we're together. You got it. We might be a little bit sugar, but we are together. We might sometimes do some things that are a little weird and different and you know, but we're together. Remember that. Never forget that. We are together. We're brothers and sisters together. And we dance at each other's weddings and bar mitzvah and sis, right? We might have differences, but we're together. I I let it [singing] I I let it I I I don't >> a different one. Come on. above. Hey, let Hey, is Brown here? The other Brown. H Doby is here. Call him. I want to see him. Call him. Call him. Get his number, please. Ask someone from the Grove. Hey. I [music] hey Hey d I d I Tell him to come. I want to see him. Yeah, I want to see him please. I know his father well very well from 1981. foreign. Hey [singing] d I d Dhaly in the Y tell me what you want. Well, we have here uh two opinions. Should we sing the and is now or later? >> So, we have to follow the host. The host is the host. It's his venue. The host says continue. So we'll continue at least a little bit. Anyway, we're the younger light. It's so easy to cult. It's easy to become cold, apathetic. once a year talking to myself. You think I living in Bor Park with having 500 shoes and 350,000 500,000ic Jews all around you? You think you can't be caught over there? Say a lamp lighter. You have to light your own lamp before you can light others lamps. So how do you light your lamp? What do you do? >> Where's that B Jacobs? That hast first name Jacobs. He was fabanging and we waited fab for the for the buff and he mameish he knew that the niggan I chose to sing I call I have a niggan a game called name that niggan that's what I did my kids at the table I used to sing a niggan say niggan is this so I said which is this and he said niggan [laughter] I don't know what is that's not the way I is when you when you when you hang out with real you become a that's the way to become a it's not through book learning you know mentioned Rabio told me many times that when he started to teach in the in a newly married manif that the excuse me the mistake was that left being a mashpear intim was never wanted in the bim. But what he gave those mifa boys from 1954 to whenever they talk about the big 770. He talks about those fabans when he was 13, 14, 15 years old in bedroom that all borrow park. Same thing the value of of a teacher a mashia when boys are 13 14 15 are and they have I saw the man this is what we need more such people not here they're not you know blowing his horn and all that but I'm saying people who who who dedicate themselves to see this and share it with the young people who who is the future not Rabbi Kik and I if I may say so I'm not as old as him but and not as smart as him but you know we're pretty much you know with our white beards and you know the young kids the young the teenagers the bak and they are the future and you know the rebba picked up on this in 195 50 you know had some senior heights and Gordon on and on etc etc as nice and great as they were with their white beards and the Russian background and Babage and the pedigree they wouldn't create this Mars I remember once he said like I'm telling you some some things that are under the covers. You know that once said that went into I think one of those years at that time of some of the young of France they started to go from Brunis to Paris to put on film with Ye. Maybe it was 60, maybe later in the 60s, maybe 67, I forget the year. Reb was outraged. Pis Parish. [laughter] It's like, come on. This is the seat of heamism. This is the culture that's antithetical to God. This is Clipper. This is Morai, you got it. What? Do you have something in your ear? You're blocking out the words. Uhhuh. Anyway, so went into the Reb told that he gives permission for them to go on Friday to they didn't call him yet, but to reach out whenever to reach out. Now listen to this. You see here is a venerable old and he was a a kadesh a he was a and any other community would be a rabb they would bring in fitl and so heard from in the name of theb that he he gives permission so he accept it but there's a butt and there's always a butt. Right. Now what's the but but it goes into the and he says like I accept what you would ever say and you know to be in yeshiva and is the place of negativity and kipa and heathenness and schmutz and all that to go to the streets and put on film. I heard from people I'm just repeating what he said by once with us. He said that the rabbi told him listen like this. I don't know if he said this. He said [laughter] what do you want? Mashia is going to come with who will you go towards with your few sheep your few students? That's what said that the Reb told him this could be a big but we have to listen to the Reb listen to the Reb and sometimes it doesn't it doesn't it doesn't you know from where we come from our background it doesn't make sense it doesn't equal it's like this is kabad The Reb in 195051 saw that he ain't gonna get anywhere with the old as holy as they are and their white beards and all that to create this he needs young energy. The young energy is where it's at. So everything I'm sure and myself and others speak about and you know we aim to inspire the youth cuz you guys are the future the youth and that's the way the Reb was his theidim the greatb did something phenomenal. He took young boys, young women and he made them soldiers in his army and he made them troops and he made them people who go out to the streets. You think it's easy? You think Rabbi wouldn't rather be sitting in 770 and learning a gabor this but this is the call this is the call of the hour you know I asked pos what was the reason one of the main reasons that the lake would cutler what what did he what did he he had he had some differences with the freeda what bothered Yeah. So told me one of the main there was several things. One of the things was that the took his best students etc etc and he sends them out. You're 2122. Go and open yeshiva in New Haven in Rochester and Philly in Boston. Wait a minute. What about liba sitting 770 as the literature say away learn what's this business of opening yes she is you're not married you're going out and it was 16 years older him and old time brother to the old time they learned in Berlin famous berlin I heard this from Hutner was shown was himself a special personner was very upset tok you get the best tell me go after the best they went after the best attract the best students so had grown two tremendous potential rising stars in the world of Talmud and a transfer in 1941 to the newly found beten he couldn't swallow it. So he said to the growner, the father of he said to him, nothing will come. I know you went to Texas, did you? Where'd you go? Imagine we tell you get away from Texas and come to some kind of junior college. You'd say, "No way. I'm going to be a doctor. I got to go to top university." Groner says, says to the father of rich he says to him nothing's going to become of your son you're sending him to a babage stays in my yeshiva in Berlin oh he'll become a god he'll become a a yacha madame he'll really know gamora that's what he said to the father in 194 41 they left anyway and I think they did pretty well I married my my wife's from Melbourne and we got married there and he was our I'm telling you he was there in his office we're talking at shilus on one phone and the other phone he was into learning deep learning shu learning in addition to everything else But it's a mistake. It's a mistake to think that in the chemist you can't learn. It's a look at rabbi. I'm not I don't mean this to just saying here's a ye that can learn and he learned. If you want to learn, you can learn in you can learn very well, you know, they have they have at the airport in in Benurian, they have the T stands. I'm sure you've all been seen it. So many times they go by, you know, they come from this Povich and here and there all these. And one of the people standing there is a guy I think his name is the Lapakovski or the infantskis [laughter] and they come to him and he starts talking to them and their face turns red. He what >> he he shows them that they don't know what they're talking about and these little putting up to people at Benuria. Do you understand? When we were in yeshiva the young bakr when we were in yeshiva our main limoth when we were young I told the bak today was gamarra didn't start learning it's a new phenomenon and as is we didn't really get into till later 16 17 18 we're learning bashui now I want to say about the tanya this is where I start and I forgot because it's reb there's pearls of wisdom. The Reb told Rabiel that's what I told you told me he asked the when he was we started being 1954 in the yeshiva 53 54 what should you learn with the he said and when I was in California back in the 80s I asked my I asked What should I learn with balabatin with congregants people who didn't have that background [clears throat] teaching Tanya learning Tanya teaching Tanya is a you have to really know it you have to really learn it you have to learn it well the alterba besides the what's in the proim there's the in between the lines I want to give you an example or two Just to show you the from Tanya, the richness of Tanya famous with the speaks about this the essentials for life, children, life, health and sustenance, livelihood. when someone is experiences a difficulty in these three areas tackles that in chapter 26 in Tanya 26 to 34 the what some would call the psychological parts of Tanya if we can say that but you know it's the emotional part the character part so chapter 26 he starts and he starts after talking about the issue he says the the advice and he gives you some philosophical issue the yud versus the vkeim pain trouble and hardships and punishment and all of that suffering suffering comes from the higher two letters of God's name the tetrogrammata known as the yudk vke whereas those things that are easier come from the vauv right Okay. So he says there that the advice is so and so that you should realize that it comes from the higher letters of God's name. Then that's what he's talking about what physical physical problems in life health and livelihood. Then when he starts speaking about inappropriate thoughts which come to you in the middle of David or middle of workba says the language he doesn't say he says and it's based on a certain verse in but why does he add the word and the advice not it's what is this poetry is writing poetry He's writing a good book. I think I heard from if not from someone else I don't remember. I think it was that the alter is is alluding to this at this point that things that you have difficult in spirituality should bother you more than the physical difficulties. So for the physical difficulties eight is enough advice is enough but it comes to you have to dig deeper not just one you need. So what is Dr. saying that is more relevant should be more relevant to you than gashmas. What a lesson. What a lesson. What a what an he opens up your head here to how you should look at we have this problem and that problem and we do and we shouldn't have problems in these issues. But when something when a mash comes to you when a foreign thought or inappropriate thought comes to you in the middle of dabbing or middle of working that should concern you more than the gosh mistic and the physical material distractions Tanya chapter 26 in between the lines of Zion let's go to the Zion of Zion What a pic of Zion is says you think you're the center of the universe. How is it that to me to me with this white beard this black hat who learned to was with the for 25 years I should have zus the says you're such a yesesh you're such a bgyver you're such an egoomaniac who are you who are you after all who are you los quotes and Kubz I believe right this is why you were created you were created for a challenge wow what console does the alterb give here a Jew struggle is good [screaming] struggle embrace the struggle don't reject the struggle what a lesson and so you go through I don't mean took them pump. I wrote a book called Tanya mental health. Now some think it's only for [laughter] but guess what buddies we all have mental health issues in different ways. I took the 53 chapters. I just chose one or two ideas from isolation and friendship and different things that we see from the alterbasim on approach and it's not you know it's my own thoughts based on whatever was I heard from the different things but the point is Tanya is a lifeline for healthy living. I really mean it. I really mean it. And so what the rebba told you in 1954, teach your students Tanya and what he told me in 1985 in Maring County. You know what Marine County, California is? It's north of San Francisco. Most of you probably don't even know what that is. It was the place of heathenism. Could you imagine someone arguing with me with a ponytail of ex-N New Yorker raising pigs in his backyard and telling Rabbi Dolphin how to be a Jew? what Marine County is a clipper clipper. Yeah, he knows better than me. M he's like he's from Manhattan or from Brooklyn, whatever. Meanwhile, he's raising pigs in his backyard. That's Marin County. So the Reba sends us to Marin County to this wealthy community was depicted in a 1970s documentary. What was the depiction of Marin County smoking weed in a hot tub? I don't want to pollute your minds here, you know, but it means like you know in a hot tub smoking weed. You don't be mikvite and how far you are and the rabbis sends you there. This boy from Brooklyn eyes bor park 770 comes out at 23 years old like where did I come to listen to this so funny. So I had a group of balabat someone know someone want to be balu and you know like the usual like else one of the first we get to d make a meal and how how you supposed to you guys know how by us we were taught in you're supposed to put your feet together like this like a malik right >> you're going to barak in Williamsburg they go like this I don't know why they stand like this I don't know why I never figured it out but as far as I know I can tell if I'm wrong but you're supposed to put your feet together like to look like one feet because a malik has one foot whatever Well, one of him is has his feet like this. So, dolphin goes over to him and he goes like this >> put together >> after put the feet together. >> Some of the stand like this >> they spread their feet like that. So, he went and pushing this. >> No, but but I did I did I did it to >> Babaluva. I meant well and after he gave it to me and I really you know I was coming from a good perspective but hey guy who you talking to this guy didn't know about feet together not together what we do [laughter] young schlook and they come out well-meaning make mistakes that's the name of the game you make mistakes you learn on the The Reb sent us. The Reban knew that we're going to make mistakes. No question about it. But yet, Zench, learn from your mistakes and stop that. And I did. I did. He wasn't a kay. He wasn't a vessel. He wasn't coming from Yeshiva for me to to appreciate that they wore Gart. Another example they're parking their car and driving a Shabba some of them and they're wearing a gar or am I as far as I know a gartle and driving a car to sh go together. But I was wrong. You know why? For them it [clears throat] was a fraternity home. like on college campuses they related to each other is and their identification was I'm not I'm not ruling now the make the the rulings you know but I'm just talking about the idea so the alter in the Tanya gives us a mahal he gives us an approach and when we learn Tanya and that's I I think we have to walk away with something the poan is to really learned Tanya well and and for yourself for yourself to really people have called me and said you know we learned the and we learned we don't know the Tanya we don't that's right let in with someone who knows it who gives a class in it and had a friend have a friend in Manhattan in life insurance he called once a week I took the fra from Brooklyn to Manhattan to Midtown an Now we're there is a former Manhattan 190