Yud Shevat Farbrengen 2026, #2- Are you a Mekusher or just a Friend of the Rebbe? RC Dalfin

on the key. Yeah. I am I Yeah. Yeah. La yeah. Fire. God. Am I am la. Hey, So I want to teach you a short niggan. Now I heard my father who heard it from his when he came to America in 1958 in 777. He came from through paris he was by the mashia for 6 months till he got a visa. So he got an affidavit and he came and this is the niggan that he that he that he taught that he that he told me and I maybe maybe just gave it a little extra twist. >> What' you say? >> Yeah. Hey, I I Before we sing it together, what does the song mean? No. The Russian Ukraine of heaven. No. Lyavich. Lupa means love. I really love I really LOVE MY JOB, MY SERVICE. Father comes to 770 after being for eight years from 1950 to 58 and then he's been for 6 months. He's by he's holy and great comes to the 770 and he has good friends and all of his good buddies from from and IT'S THURSDAY NIGHT. WHAT DO WE DO IN YESHIVA Thursday night after we learn from hours? We sitting with most of the night. That's the way it was in in my days in in yeshiva in the mar town. And um they say they sing the song. So he asks them what does the song mean? And they say it means I really love working. I really love my job. My father says, my father speaks the dialect is not the Russian dialect. It's the Romanian dialect. >> Mostly Ukrainian. >> Yeah. He says, "Isn't a bante liars? You're a bunch of YOU YOU BASICALLY DON'T DO ANYTHING. YOU FETCH A BIKE CUZ EXPRESSIONALLY yiddish pressing a bench but it doesn't it doesn't go in English and getish fetching a bike right you're sitting on your backside sitting and learning very nice but you don't know about work you're he says I came to America for three reasons to see that happen number one NUMBER TWO TO GET A JOB and make some money because number three I want to get married and I got to take care of a wife and kids in I got to have with them and I'm working it's not easy my father came to every every morning but he wasn't an official talented official student parathetically when the gave out guilt to the boys in yeshiva who learned my father was online and the person in charge I'm not going to came in now for the he says get out of the line you you're not an official student of my father had no choice AND HE RAISED HIS VOICE to the reb he says I come and I learn and he didn't say the other part most of the other guys WHO HAS DUTIES DON'T SHOW UP ON TIME BUT I'M THERE EVERY MORNING AT 7:30 NOT 7:35 7:30 I'M SITTING LEARNING AND AFTERWARDS I GO to work. You know what the did? The come here and he gave him a gold coin which he gave to me. I have the gold coin, the silver coin. >> They have over road. Another person he WOULD MOST HE DIDN'T come to to theidus. So the same person said get out of the line. Not for you. you don't come to. And the Reb said to THE MASHIA, HE'S WORTHY OF GETTING a silver dollar for the gar that he learns. The Reb knew the score. He knew everyone. Anyway, so my father tells his friends, "You guys are lady games. You know, I mean, you're what do you know about work?" I LOVE MY JOB. I REALLY LOVE MY JOB. WHAT JOB? WHAT JOB DO YOU HAVE? So they told him, his friends told him the job we're talking about is serving the serving God and being a having a I really love my job. And the history of the song actually would sing it a little different loop by loop by loop. It's the same. It's the same idea. In other words, when the the Zar fell and then there was a guerilla warfare in Russia, right? So every every every group was fighting for territory and after a good day's WORTH OF KILLING AND PURGING AND ALL THAT, THEY WENT INTO THE tavern to the drink and they got themselves drunk and THEY WOULD SAY LOO for my Ivan was based up in Peter. Everyone was was was parading and happy with doing the work for their particular leader. So he heard the song and they said that's a lesson for us. We have to be able to say we love working for our and they told this to my father. Now what I added to the song is that if you listen carefully to the nickan you'll see that there's a debate going on. Listen to this now for a second. The first part is a question which really means do I really love my child? >> An open question. >> An open question. When a bomb falls on Safaro on King George in Israel, or we have an October 7th, we ask ourselves, do I really love being a Jew? Do I love worshiping Hashem? Do I LOVE MY IT'S A QUESTION. The next part of the song is which is sometimes I do sometimes I don't because when you look logically with the mind as as great as it's limited but sometimes I love it and sometimes I hate it I don't want to be part of it. So the song itself presents a question G then gives the two sides yes and no. And the second time when your voice goes up and deep it's I really love my job. I really love my job. Why? Because that's the soul the soul the goof the body the mind has when they sang this song together it it it becomes a powerful tool in your so let's try to do it together whether you know those Russian words or you don't know you know the words May I If you want to rush and single it, I I I didn't therefore the answer we have to live without and that's what a faban is about here is trying TO GET TO THE WHAT DOES THE SOUL want and that's a hard AND THAT'S A HARD IT'S NOT EASY because all of these questions and dilemmas and issues and you know spending 25 years of my life listening to the from 197 early 70s when I was a boy and I was at the I was in 1970 when they wrote Mashia I was there. My father took me, God bless him, I was 9 years old and he brought me and I remember he put me up to see he put me up as a little boy and then after they did ha and gala and they went to put the san into the kesh on the other side of of of downstairs everyone ran and my father was afraid I'd be crushed because everyone's running and it's wild and chaotic but I'm here right but I REMEMBER 9 YEARS OLD. I REMEMBER LIKE now Friday afternoon. So when you comes around it evokes evokes deep feelings deep deep feelings of feelings of connection. Deep feelings of wanting to be more better. wanted to to get to stop you know the the nonsense the bustle what does it ever talk about to transform the and I I was thinking about this why isn't it adequate to change from stupidity negative stuff to normality to be a normal guy Why does the Reb and the Mr. the previous and the Why did they explain that's not enough TO BE NORMAL IS NOT ENOUGH. YOU HAVE TO be abnormal and he brings the do he did acrobats right at a wedding with women. I MEAN MY GOSH THE THE OPPOSITE OF MODESTY AT a wedding. And what does the dum say that after he passed away in Ghana there was a fire A PILLAR OF FIRE THAT DIVIDED HIM AND THE OTHER SAGES. WHY? Because he's really connected. WHY? because of so in other words what the is saying what the are saying in this m and by the way the what he said originally in 1943 par just a few things which you know the reb was there that was the first time he met hisbushk was the and he introduced him he CAME FOR THAT SHABAS THE FIRST time >> 1923 par >> I'm sorry Yeah. Yeah. No, but I'm talking about Par's boy when he came the first time to to meet his right. So that was then and that mimer that he said was given out as bosani in 1950. What's the message of that? making but part a home for Hashem on earth but not just in a normal way in an abnormal a trans a better word in English would be a transcendental way to transcend. So my question to you here why IS THAT NECESSARY? WHY DO WE NEED? >> OH, so that's the question. The answer to the question is by first explaining what isa means to go beyond rationale to go to go beyond what makes sense. So I'll give you a few examples and everyone could choose their example that they relate to. The rabbi of Fabian once told everyone to turn their hats upside down like this in the middle of you. Imagine the Bach is sitting at a fabric like this. What would you think it >> actually happened? >> It actually happened. >> It's not rhetorical. It's an actual joke. >> Yes. that was talking about this concept and he gave and and and he you and he demonstrated this as an example. In other words, that the world says YOU HAVE TO WEAR YOUR hat like this. Who says haters? It says it in the book of etiquette wears a hat like this. NO ONE WEARS A HAT LIKE THIS. And usually we don't wear our heart like this. But there are times we have to break out. Another example, but my own life staying up all night for me is a very difficult thing. Just I'm a early morning person. Like I told you before in yeshiva I worked hard certain times to break THE HABIT OF SLEEPING AND I would stay up all night just to break the habit. That's not normal. Go to sleep a normal time. Again, I've been doing this every Monday, Thursday. You understand? When you feel that you're in a rut, you're stale. A lot of people are stale. They do. They do. But they they're stale. They're stuck. And today, I just heard uh for a minute someone talking about how can you not be stuck and stale? The same routine every day. We get up in the morning and we get dressed and we go to the bathroom. We go to the m we go to shakers AND WE GO TO WORK AND WE CAN GO WITH the kids and then same routine. Where is the where is the passion and excitement that breaks the routine? Says that by doing something once in a while that goes beyond again not has to be acceptable not forbidden. We're not talking, right? And this type of behavior breaks the pattern of normality. In other words, who is truly normal? Someone who is abnormal. Someone who's normal is just normal. Someone who reaches a place of normal or abnormality is very special if he REACHES THAT PLACE. ANOTHER EXAMPLE, the rabbi asked for examples. The migill that the Reb spoke about so ELOQUENTLY AND EXPLAINED POOR. HE GETS HIM DRUNK. COME HERE. And then he GETS UP AND HE SLAUGHTER HIM. What's going on? Now the Reb explained that it you know what it means. He took him to a spiritual high. Right? In a normal situation, you don't do that. You don't intoxicate your students. It's just not normal. It's wrong. Today, they would call it abuse. You'd be locked up. The Gar says it. It's a garra. You could dance and say whatever you want. It's a garra and we believe in comes along the explains what was going on here that he wanted to lift him, uplift him to a place of which is There are times when you need to jump in and I would say with all due respect that this whole idea of Msiah as a reality is because traditional Jerusalem says wait for Mashiach anticipate pray a little more pray a LITTLE LESS I'm talking about the believers the non-believers say it's right he hasn't come during the Holocaust and why should he on that. But the believers and we are believers. There's like what are you getting excited about? Comes along that teaches us and tells us in clear words it is it is a dire situation and we have to do whatever it is and we have to break the boundaries and do whatever it is to bring Mashiah. That's what he said. Whether you understand it or you don't understand it, whether you like it or you don't like it, whether you're thinking, "What's going to be with my real estate? What's going to be WITH MY STOCKS? WHAT'S GOING TO BE MY FAMILY, who cares about your family, your stocks, your money, YOUR THIS, YOUR THAT we need what >> we need Msiah? >> Crazy for Mashiach. >> Crazy for Mashia." Then when the reporter asked him, he says, "I'm obsessed with Mashiach." What does that mean? It's not just dumb words that are, you know, it's like a a game over here. It's a little game. The Bible channel playing a game with a reporter. No, you we have to go beyond every one of us in our way and not accept the norm. That's what I'm trying to if if this is the only message that you take away with from the fab tonight, I'd be very happy not to accept the norm. Never to accept the norm. In fact, the norm IS NOT NORMAL. NOT normal is the nor it should be the norm. So here's a rabbi. He has a PROPERTY $1.9 MILLION. HOW'S HE? He leaves the money. He says in two months, how's he going to do? You go to any board, whether it be Orthodox or anything else. You go to any organization, rabbi, you're out of your mind. WHAT IF HASHEM YOU GOT THE PROPERTY? WHAT YOU GOING TO GET? $1.9 million. He can't tell you today where he's going. But he knows for sure that this is what Hashem wants. This is what the deba wants. >> We need miracle. >> What? >> We need miracle. >> You need a miracle. But you need to break out. Even a miracle, even a miracle, my friend, is limited. You need beyond a miracle. You need God's apple of his eye. And you could get it overnight. Stories after stories, online, offline, how people didn't have the money and someone walks in, he gives him the check. this the bank criticizes this is okay for five years all kinds of micesis I mean you've heard it and I've heard it so I'm not going to hypothesize now how it's going to happen but one thing's for sure it's a do it's a holy thing it's a good thing it's an important thing it's going to happen the question is whether we're going to be part of that happen are we going to stay be on the sidelines and say it's the rabbis's problem I Dear friends, it's powerful. All of us, myself included. I MAY LIVE IN BURER, BUT NOW THAT I HEAR FROM him that HE NEEDS $1.9 MILLION, I'M GOING TO START THINKING, HOW CAN I HELP THIS RABBI, THIS community raise money for this building? To buy the property. >> To buy the property. I thought it was FOR BUILDING TO BUY the property. So, the point is, I don't have answers. I'm not looking for answers. I'm not yet at the point of looking for answers. I I'm looking for the attitude what we call in English the paradigm shift for those that don't know psychology and social work to change the the rebab says in a mime he says in one mind there has to be the you know what means you have to make a change complete change that who you were before you came to this and who you'll be when you walk Yeah, tomorrow morning you're going for a walk with YOUR WIFE, WITH YOUR FRIEND, THEY'LL SAY IT'S NOT THE SAME, not the same. What happened? Oh, I went to he spoke about it's and all of a sudden, so I couldn't do that. And by the way, there are studies how people, by the way, who were able to pick up a car when they were pinned under a car. How they do that? If they don't have the how can they do it? The answer is that something greater is revealed to them. This explain the by the way which also for a moment is important to mention the importance of learning not just reading like a couch potato. You know you read on you lay on the couch and you read a book of Shabas till you fall asleep with that. That's not what I'm talking about here. What's the plan? To really learn this to think about IT TO TRY TO UNDERSTAND TO question the said I remember he SAYS BREAK THE WINDOWS OF YOUR RABBIS. I DON'T KNOW IF YOU WERE there but he said why why is going on here? you you really want to know. And when you come for a rabbi or you come for a teacher and you and you show him that you really care, guess what? He will reciprocate. He will answer. The reason why sometimes you get brushed off because you don't really care. Have faith. Like I said before, you're not a musher. YOU'RE ONLY SHOVE FRIEND OF THE RABBI, friend of the friend of the Reb. Very nice. Many friends, many friends. You have to make it part of your DNA. That's what is the story. The story I just heard from it's online, but I want to repeat it briefly. Very important story. He says this happened in Russia. A Jew came to him and the Jew was not exactly religious at the time. He comes to the and the Reb was in the middle of saying aimer and the Reb says come in. He comes in and then and then I'm making the story brief. There's a lot of details. I'm just saying it briefly. And then after the M the Reb says he goes over to the Reb excitedly and says whatever you want I want to do for you. All the were sitting around and they said, "Reb they were saying to themselves, Reb, now you got to put on film. DON'T PUT ON FILM EVERY DAY. NOT TO KEEP SHABAS kosher just tells wherever you are and you see and hear about you should go there." You saw the cliff. That's what he told. And the who was there he couldn't believe THAT YOU MISSED AN OPPORTUNITY THAT HE SHOULD BECOME KOSHER AND BLAH blah blah. What happened this ye his wife I think his wife was very sick and they came to theb and the gave him a and the blessing was fulfilled. So he was so ecstatic and they weren't religious but someone TOLD HIM THERE'S A GO TO HIM IN RUSSIA took him to Russia and he went and the fulfilled and the and the person became well so he came to the in middle of a he didn't know the saying he never heard saying whatever he said he came to thank the rebba and he was so excited that he ran over to the he says whatever you want I'll for you. What does the Reb say? Go to wherever the if you hear about it, be there. My dear friends, that's the power of is beyond everything else. I'm telling you, as much as talk about Mendel, a great uncle would say like this. Listen to this. A men had a good voice. He said like this which he said like this. He said when you learnus well it spills over cooks over. It means it it leads to it is we learn before we before we pray. So if you're learning properly after it leads you to D with focus that's the ultimate. It's not about drinking vodka and chicken and it's not what it's about. It's about connecting and if sometimes you need a little help. SO YOU SAY ONCE twice but that's not the focus it let's not lose focus writes one of the he says today we don't need mash one letter he says because since we have the his father-in-law who was celebrating tonight it's LIKE WE'RE AFTER A LOT OF mate that never writes it you could argue and interpret and make with your grub AND FINGER AND PAPA MAYBE IT'S not take the letter read it yourself and you'll see what it says I stopped from Kingston Avenue and I heard like this the reb Rabbi Sternburg married a gerari and >> yeah and and the zera was theapish another Jew who lived in lower east side in those days used to say okay I'm talking about guys and this was a kdish celebrating between a Ferrari family which is like kabad like real kabad and copishnit which is some of the guys who you know took quite a bit they opened their mouth out of drunkenness and in irresponsibility and they said some not nice things against the word got back to theb that happened and the rebba spoke publicly at chabas He forbids anyone to drink more than four little cups. Not big cups, small kishkas. And that WAS THE FIRST TIME that the Reb spoke about the first publicly what we call by us, the decree of not drinking more than four cup little cups of huh. Yeah. Wait. So, so I heard from me from his name was Eisenbach from Montreal came to Montreal show who I spoke to quite a bit. He had very few things to say. So he said that Shabas that Sunday he was in Jerusalem I think he met Rab's father Khan was another contemporary of you know and he tells him ever said SHABAS in Russia, you know, LIKE WE DRINK COCA-COLA, THEY THEY DRANK VODKA. >> So the in Brooklyn is making a decree that is not allowed to drink till 40 till the age of 40 is not allowed to drink more than four little cups. So this is what tells Fan and Fan this is what I tell you what he told me said can't be can't be this is a tradition for 200 150 years in to say and lots of WHETHER IT'S FOUR SIX 20 MAKES NO DIFFERENCE whatever it is whatever it takes to be animated to the disc should get lost and we should get to the truth. AND YOU'RE TELLING ME, "NO, WE'RE GOING TO WATCH THE CLOCK NOW FOUR AND not more." That's what I heard. Many years later, probably within 10 years of when passed away, I think I went over to he was and I was close to him and I was able to talk to him. I wrote three books about him in English which I think you'll find interesting if you read them. Anyway, um I say is this true? That's to ask on Kingston Avenue. But that's the type of relationship I you know we we had is and he he appreciated I was honest. I have a question and I want to know the answer. Whether whether it's comfortable or not, tell me. I'm here to learn. So, first he got a little upset. A little upset. You he was already older. He's 85 years old. 84. He was already in his 80s and he was slowing down. And you know the tendency is when you get older, your patience is less. Happens to everyone. Okay. Get ready. ready for Mashia. >> Ready for Mashia. Anyway, so uh Rabo then contains himself. He comes to himself and he looks at me and he says he says it again. I'll say it in English. He said, "IF MY FATHER said that, he was wrong." He was wrong. In other words, if the says something, whether you understand how it fits with the kabad ethos philosophy of 150 years, too bad. This is our reb today. And he in 1963 came out with this decree. That's the way it is. Even though for six generations before it wasn't that way a little bit different a little bit different told me that and that was the end of the conversation because as ab says goes in other words like this let me explain the fact that until theb said this it was permissible in to drink more than four little CUPS BECAUSE THE TIME NEEDED FACT THAT EVER REVEALED to us in 1963. The time doesn't need it anymore, my friends. YOU CAN GET A HIGH and you can get excited about Hashem and AND SEE THIS WITHOUT THE MASH. >> You're still operating on what wasn't Russia. Well, guess what? That's what the reveals to us. That's what is he reveals to us today what we need. what what he did yesterday is yesterday. And this ties in with the whole point that we're living in now. We're not It's 2026. It's tough of Daniel here is filming. WHAT DO WE SAY TO DANIEL? The ye the What do we say? We say, "Hey, Leb has a trajectory 200 years. It's unbelievable. Seven rebas unbelievable things. But we have to live leaves today. And how do we live leaves today? By looking at the directives and following his words and being honest ourselves a little more, a little less, but not losing focus of what the is, what the point is. Sometimes it's hard. It's not easy. You know I have friends in 770. So years ago after Gibble tamos some of them were very mushistic and I spoke to them. One in particular one says they know and I said to them I wish I would see and hear what you do. I don't see and hear it. I understand it. I can relate. I can hear it, but