Yom Kippur Prep and Machzor Prayer Explanations - Speciality of Kol Nidre and Neila Prayers

shmuel has joined us tonight and he's on our group now um but uh shmoo just got up from shiva not long ago a week ago or something like that approximately we should uh make the learning in memory of your father and uh liam for his nacho what is his name uh yaakov bendalli nacho ben david so very much his nashoma should keep rising and should be getting enochus from you and your family and um [Music] and the misses you do should uh really affect this michonne in a very positive way um so without further ado everybody knows rabbi dolphin no one needs an introduction there is one person who's on that is um on the iphone i see minoxidil just jumped on um mark lizzel is on a call and uh he's remaining anonymous it looks like on his iphone but uh if he wants to show his face at some point he can you'll meet rabbi dolphin face to face um but uh rabbi i'm gonna turn it over to you thank you thank you first of all maximize everyone a good convention all the thrillers of rosh hashanah should be fulfilled in the upcoming young kipper so first i want to talk a little bit about yom kippur and a few point to a few sections the master this meeting is being recorded but but i want to i want to uh begin with um a simple question so we all know call nidre is the beginning of yom kippur at least we think it's the beginning of yom kippur we'll find out soon that it's really not the beginning of yom kippur because yum kippur begins actually eravium kipper and you're probably asking and wondering well there's an error to everything error of shabbos heir of pesach arab is the day before so what's the what's the big deal about heir of yom kippur we'll talk about that in a moment but call nidre we we we say a a very uh interesting and maybe strange and actually maybe even arrogant statement but the history is important uh what's the origin of culinary this is a share for itself but briefly some say some that cole nidreh was instituted during the murano period and that if someone commute your thing because i hear background noise um during the murano period and during that time many jewish people converted to christianity officially to save their lives in their heart of hearts they were eden they were jews now halali this presents a problem halachically one needs again not everyone says so not all uh opinions agree but there very much is a consent a position that if you convert even by force to christianity you need a rabbinic conversion not a biblical conversion a guerrillas but a rabbinic one okay so when you come to school and you're sitting next to someone that went through this experience of a beca you know converted the question is are you allowed to be with him in shulk jewish law and because it's a serious question when we say ko nidrei we ask we ask god and we ask the congregation to allow us to sit with avarioni i want to i want to point that out to you look at the beginning of culinary please turn open your markers if you have masairi right right the beginning of uh of cold israel let's find the page here 36. okay 36. [Music] with the sanction of the unprecedent and with the sanction of the congregation by the authority of the heavenly tribunal and by the authority of the earthly tribunal we hereby hereby grant permission to pray with those who have transgressed and the hebrew for that transgressors is avarion from the word alvera right i've done an aveda i've transgressed now let me ask you is this the way to begin young kipper again i understand historically because young kipper because khalid ray um we're in shul annulling vows and we're sitting next to people who went through this conversion forced conversion and halal is problematic so we beseech god and say listen forgive us and we and we accept everyone and and and we're all together okay very very nice so it's a very nice halachic issue which is is wonderful and it requires the torahs to be out and and a prayer but spiritually in concept it sounds like very uh antithetical to the whole idea of young kipper to to to look at another yid as an avarion as a transgressor is a chutzpah so this is this is just a question that that that i think about and i just heard a story with the rabbit a new story fresh out of the press that i believe answers the question or at least gives us some idea it's 1979. it's right here borrow park brooklyn a family friend is 13 years old the rebbe until 1980 would grant yeshida's private audience for bar mitzvah boys for hassanim and kalas but once 1980 came because there was so the crowd was getting bigger and bigger he started to have everyone together all bar mitzvah boys in the upcoming three four months all hassan and that's the way yahidis was from 1980 on but before that myself in 1974 and everyone till 1980 was able to have a private audience with the parents and the siblings and grandparents for bar mitzvah okay so the gentleman the the the boy and his parents are going to the rabbit they have a neighbor a woman a jewish woman who's not fully from yet not fully observant she hears that they're going to the rebel for abraham for a blessing she says would you mind asking the rebel while you're sitting with him while you're with him and yeshida is in the private audience for a broken from me he said sure they're in yahidus the rebel wishes the the bar mitzvah boy and the family and bracha's blessings the father starts in middle says to the rabbi angi there she says he says i have a neighbor the word for neighbor in hebrews shahrain but for a female in the yiddish hebrew you say shah i'm not sure i don't do you know really it's not really a hebrew word is the yiddish dialect of the hebrew for a female i have a neighbor a woman and then he says who is framed a friend who is a foreign jew but again in in the yiddish dialect of where he's come from the word fred means far it means a non-observant jew and he was going to say who asks the rebel for abraham for a blessing right he didn't get a chance to finish the last words who asks the rebber for abraca because as soon as he said i have a a a jewish woman my neighbor who is firing and strange the rabbit cut him off and he said the following bayonnes listen to this in yiddish bayonnes by us is there's no such thing as a foreigner and a stranger end of the story now you could say the baba chinama was being cute baba shiraba you know was my friends there was no but sadik when he says something he means what he says and there's so much to be learned from his words the attitude that a jew who's not through him yet right or maybe i'll say it even will never be observant and fully from to call them a friend strange and foreign to yiddishkeit is not true not that it's not nice that it's not nice it's it's it's a given it's not the way to address a person but but that ev is saying i believe a lot more by oons and by owns it means the philosophy the shita of hasidis of la babbage of chabad is that the idea of that you're strange and exist which foreign parents that every single person here is by default is from is it and it's not on some level yeah on some level beard or no beard big yama care small yarmulke long hair or short hair those are all semantics and and i am to that what look i am to that now listen i you know i'll be the first one to say that this beard of mine which is unkempt you know unruly that's that's the way i was raised in in lubavitch but that's my own thing and my teachers things and the the idea of of of being a yid of being a heed and being a husset is a truism for every single person and the concept of being a stranger doesn't exist and and you know it sounds nice and maybe even easy but it's not because when it when when when push comes to shove and and and a day like young kipper is the day of reflection of going inside yourself right what does the taurus say about yom kippur apostle compasses before god purify yourself well we're always purifying ourselves before hashem why does the terror have to say uh doesn't mean just before god it means get into the paneemius of god and that's the avoid of young kipper it's not about the externalities that the cousins sing the son of tokyo with right or wrong it was a comfortable shoe because i had enough air condition or not those are all semantics and and nice but that's not panemius that's not the fna hashem you know the song is it's a beautiful with sung together and with soul so that ever you know for 10 years consecutive years he taught a negan three four in the morning simchas torah at the back of the shoe not at the front on his way out i'm sorry he went after the meal after have coffers in the sugar no not the sukkah in 770 sim castora because we don't need a suk anymore so after they finished davenink he would go upstairs have the meal by his mother-in-law right the rabbits in the medina on the third floor of 7-7 on the second floor and then come back down and everyone was waiting and he taught a until 1920 from 10 the goodness i think from 19 uh 1954 to 1964. one of these nightmares was this animes mirrors and he would always share a little bit about the so he shared the history of this negan briefly that the was that there was a yid and shoe and the yid and and the gaba came the next morning and he saw him still dancing himself around the bhima himself and singing the soul the soulful nigger's mirrors because he was so in in love with hashem that he didn't feel know the time and he couldn't separate himself from the specialty of what was going on so yom kippur is about the paneemius when it comes to the meters there's no watch and there's no clock and there's no wife and there's no husband there's no kids and there's no lawyer and there's no doctor and there's no washington and nothing all there is hashem and if you're in that state of ecstasy right in a sense you don't even know where you are the ultimate is explain the hasidis of ecstasy is where you don't even realize where you are because you you you've been swallowed by the experience for example i have a piece of art here you know with the that uh our great uncle handel um handle foot of us and liberman uh the great hasidic artist painted which is the hasidim in a wagon with a horse you know traveling it's called from hoslavic to lubavitch you must have seen it some of you i had so when when when the group of bacharam that went to los angeles in the yeshiva in 1982 my group was the third group so so we um my friends when we got married they decided they're giving us giving this picture as a gift so each one of us as we got married got this as a you know we were once together as as yeshiva students okay it's 1989 remember foot of us is at my house with rabbi raichik one night i think i told you he would come for one night so i said to him uncle why why are you coming because you know they would come to san francisco to raise money for for an institution natchez row now in san francisco at the time there weren't any big givers really so there wasn't much to do and one in one day you could you could fly in the morning in the evening you leave and you're back in los angeles where the hub of the you know jewelry is and and he decides to say and that's what he did most times and this this year he decides he calls me says can i stay over at night i said sure but i said to him what's the reason so he had a sense of humor as you know he says look i have a sister my wife's grandmother she lives in melbourne australia she's always nudging me to come see her now listen i'm an old man i'm tired it cost a lot of money and i just don't have the kayak to do this so at least i want to sleep over in your house to placate my sister and i could say to her that i stayed in your granddaughter in your granddaughter's house it's like i stayed in your house in milburn anyway so he goes over to the picture on the wall and he looks at the picture and he's looking and i'm and i'm looking at him like why and he's staring at the picture and i say to him uncle what what is it about the picture that fascinates you and he turns to me and says there's a minion i said i never counted the guy sitting in the carriage in the picture and then i started to count and there was a minion there's a million of people in the carriage so i say what made you think and ask whether there's a minion in the in the in the picture he says because when the baal shem tov traveled he always traveled with a minion and the picture he says it's origin is really the traveling although it's called from of the little chinese town called haslavic where by the way rabbi salvatrik he always spoke about that that's it yaakov has it right there that's the picture thank you i thank you so so so so he um you know as and and the qasim went from to the rebbe in the babbage but nevertheless in origin the concept of traveling by atsadik and the belsham was with together with the nine people making a minion now when he was looking at picture i'm telling you if i would have tapped him on his shoulders he would have not turned around why because he was not there what happened the picture absorbed him it swallowed him he was so moved by the art by the experience that the picture took him into the picture so although he's standing there he's really not there that leon good to see you is paneus panemius is where you become i use the word ecstasy before you become so one there's another word used that you're familiar with the veikus they could and people throw around the word vegas like it's small change you know i'm going to have a vacuous experience you know what vegas is the vegas is that you could and and i saw that we saw this with the rabbit the rapper when he was diving he didn't shuckle much he didn't make with his hands he didn't make with his face he didn't go dude all these gestures he tapping like like this like this but i'm telling you that was real to vehicles because the vehicles is that you become it's ecstasy so that you the external movements and gestures are indicative not of the vehicles of what we call the casinos enthusiasm movement uh excitement in other words the state of vehicles is much deeper than the stake the state of his pilots of movement and excitement and this is the experience that we say anyone kipper we should we we should work towards is is going into ourselves so the going back to the story that i started with to explain the call mid-ray the avarioni what we're doing when we say right on the misfollowing that we we're praying and asking god that we should be able to sit with our body on him technically there's a reason for it but in concept what we're saying is that the whole idea of avarianim is foreign to us is strange to us because it doesn't exist i'll say he has this color in this shape but he does this and he does that that you leave for before your keeper and after young kipper yom kippur ah as we say it's called yoma kudos the holy day it's all about vegas ecstasy and now let's go back even earlier in the davening and this isn't exclusive to yom kippur but we do say it and i want to share another story that the rebbe said once and explain it and i want to go to the nishmas nishmas in chakras right after right uh what's the page on that someone can you tell me and we'll it says um i have a different master than you um so i can't give you the exact page number but it's where it says for every mouth shall offer thanks to you every tongue shall swear by your name every eye shall look to you every knee shall bend to you all who stand erect shall prostrate themselves before you page 134 thank you the hulk in hebrew the holy it's 1799 it's second night of sukis the alta rebbe is together with his family the middle a rebbe in one of the sons the second rabbi who took over the leadership of chabad in 1812 after his father passed away and there in the sukkah 1799 he turns to his son right he says to his son son what did you dabble with this past rosh hashanah what did you dabble with he says i davened with the whole coma foreign excuse me my daughter's phone here is disturbing [Music] he says i darvened with the highest levels of god the most ecstatic experience of hashem but encapsulated in the word of the holy every um erect position of godliness is prostrate prostrate itself before you i thought about this i meditated on this i reflected on this okay a few minutes pass and the mithler rabbit the son turns to his father who went into a vacant state actually the rebel says this in his notes that the previous rebber share this is a story that the previous rebels shared with our rebbe so he says that the altar rebbe after hearing what the mitcheller ever said he dialed with he thought about he turned to his father and he said and father what did you dabble with yay what did you darling with and the altar ever said to his son with a sing song as he were to said many times he darmed with this tender you guys know what a standard is you have a standard shoe what's it in england what's a lecture and i a there why is there an english word for standard everybody knows what a standard is okay okay why you guys you guys have you guys have a lot of potomac a lot of standards okay every seat has a standard atonement okay so listen to this now what kind of the middle rabbit says i meditated and reflected on the i went flying high trying to inspire myself it's rosh hashanah and then when he asks his father what are you diving with expecting dr ebbing to say something unbelievable right he says i governed with a extender that happened in 1799. it's now 1962 figure out the math how many years later and two hasidim present the rebel uh at the fabregan of the era of rosh hashanah [Music] was an actual standard that was made by the students by some students of the bay safer le mancha the vocational school in krakow you know the history in 1956 there was never the the murder arabs murdered nebuchadnezzar some boys and a teacher my father actually knew the teacher because he was part of the yeshiva and and and it was the whole country was was reeling from it and the rebbe decided that the way to he wrote to shazaar president that we have to focus on the good and we have to get the mindset of the of the of the people to shift from negativity to positivity and the represents rabbi krinsky rabbi shemtov rabbi folgerman 10 i think 10 or 12 yeshiva students they were all the people who were 88 today were young 20 year olds in 770 or so and he sends them for a month i believe to tour our tour to visit eric's role and give hizuk to people 1956 my father my father remembers when they came and what how it uplifted not only the laboratories of krakow but everyone in the country it was such an exhilarating um experience okay and then they fought they they they they start yad which is the vocational school that exists still today in krakow the printing press and all that okay so that's in 1956. in 1962 some of the students some of the people working there you know they send what they made they have printing press and they have crap craft crafts and and and all kinds of things would work and the rabbit then tells over when they give him the standard to use in 770 and the rabbit tells over the story that i told you and he explains this was our effort this is how it ever where he just doesn't take a story thank you very much for his tender but he makes an entire secret and it opens up our eyes and he addresses the question that i asked you and he says what did the altar ebba say when he told his son and briefly it's printed to see and it's worth learning one day we could study it briefly it's the following the middle of rebbe eli he when asked by his father he tells him listen i was meditating i was reflecting i was contemplating i'm up in the heavens trying to creep up higher and higher past the angels the angel's not good enough for me i want to go higher says the altar rabbit to his son that's not where it's at where it's at is a physical item that's created by god like a stender that's where it's at when you take an apple and you make on a simple apple or when you give a ride in your your nice car to someone when you take a gosh miss and gosh means the physical material evan is made by god it's not and not just it's not god's manifestation that makes the gosh myth it's what we call osmos the essence of god makes the physical material and you use that for davening on rosh hashanah and the rebbe elaborated you know you can lean understand the and and and it can help you and you're davening he brought out positive things about ashlander what you've done is you've taken the raw material and show and show and show how the raw material and god are one thing and that's far greater than climbing the ladder into the angels and this meditation on that meditation and i thought of this for this class because here we are a few days a young kipper and it's a very holy day as yaakov said before this year started it's it's it's it's a serious day it's it's it's countdown it's countdown and you don't all know it's the only time we have five filos five prayers i'm gonna get to that in a moment the fifth prayer the special prayer called niela so one might think what is the focus of the day how i how removed i want to be from the physical and as i said before on one hand the lefnay hashem titaru receiving real purity requires going inside yourself and stopping to focus on the outside is not a contradiction because if you really go inside yourself you appreciate more the gospels and you'll do and and in other words you will use the physical material for the real purpose when is it when we get messed up by the material where a person gets indulges in the material it's when they're not tapping into the deepest part of their soul of toru if you're tapped into the deepest part of nayasha the torah of your soul it's synonymous with using the gospels because hashem says boracious boreal again the famous uh vert of the fourth rubber shmull of the babbage where he they said the rabbit ain't novado it is nothing besides god you so if so put me down on the table and give me pets get you you know hit me for whatever i deserve a nightmare it doesn't hurt there's nothing besides god ah it hurts the answer is the anoint nevada is a perspective and the perspective needs to be expressed in the real world and if not for the real world you're lacking in enoid movado and therefore when we come to this part of davening on one hand you could say i doubt them with these you know fascinating thoughts and then there is davening from the heart i want to ask you a question and i'm serious about this question have you have we shed a tear this ten days yet these seven days it's going to the eighth day you know the arizona says arizona says something very heavy and the reb explained it once at length arizona says if someone has not shed a tear any time during the 10 days their chuva is not complete that's not me saying it it's not the rep is saying it's the aries i'll saying it no now what does that mean simply it means if you don't cry at all from what's inside and bothering you something's missing now the rabbit explained it but together with this explanation it doesn't detract from the basic idea what is what are tears their tears of joy and their tears of you know god's a bit depression negativity hardships right to say that we're looking to make us make ourselves cry is foolishness silliness we used to call that in yeshiva crocodile tears and there was another term but i don't want to say it on the zoom how you cause yourself tears just use your imagination torah tears citizen tears comes from where a person cannot any longer take the the mind cannot take the experience because it's overwhelming only when you take time to go lefnayashem titaru and you realize that every experience and everything i've done i've done developing nice things throughout the year but it pales in comparison to where i should be you know big deal i did this and i did that come on you know the rapper and the rep is yearning for mashiach to come this was expressive of this idea here he is a person who has created a yiddish a judaism that's so much greater than just some few lubavitchers you know it's it's a yiddish guide that's opened the doors for all of judaism really i mean one of my books uh islam and i were talking called secrets of khabar secrets i forget the name when i document worldwide you see what what chabad is doing not for themselves for judaism so comes along to the prophet he should be the happiest person and the proudest person and if you heard him at fabregas at times where he couldn't talk because he choked up because mashiach is not here or during the 70s for russian jewelry and i was at these fabregas myself and now i see them on on you know on on the screen gem puts out these beautiful videos and and when i see that i just melt because it brings back those memories i was standing there at the fabranian and and now as an older adult you say why couldn't you speak reber and the answer is because the the the zenith experience of mashiach of geulah it's not here yet right and since it's not here what i'm doing is you know i'm okay i'm doing i'm doing i'm doing now to become depressed from this is terrible to put yourself down is terrible but be under your tallis right we're going under a talus and i have a story with that too about 15 no it was 19 1983 or so in 82 or 83. before i married the rabbit gives a bracha air of yom kippur to the to everyone and then before yom kippur to the bakarim to the students who because he considered his children the rabbit didn't wasn't blessed with physical children we the bakarim were considered their ebba's kids so he blesses us like we all bless our children and grandchildren before yom kippur 770 is packed even then right after the bracha the rabbit goes down to the kodesh all the way and we hundreds of us are cramming the the steps going from upstairs in 770 downstairs i think you all know what i'm talking about jam-packed and when you land downstairs you have to understand being in the room for the project or outside you were squashed like a sardine sweat through and through your new suit your old suit no matter you're coming out wet and we're going down the steps going down the steps [Music] fresh air how fresh here i'm alive i'm still alive where am i gonna end up who knows and all of a sudden i end up next to a bench towards the end of the benches in the back of 770. and who's there one of my other teachers rabbi avraham drison mayor the famous husset there's a drizzle family in and i give a look because he taught us not officially but unofficially and he was one of the ten they say who made an agreement with the previous rebbe do or die for yiddish guy in russia and by hashem's choice i end up there that's where i landed and it's called nidre and everyone's standing and his towers is over his head and i hear him sobbing like a baby sobbing and then i noticed a towel next to him from so much sobbing he would take the towel and wipe his face until he was all wet again from crying and wiped his face again that was my call introduction to cole nigeria 1982. did he make himself cry no as soon as cole midray hit and he stood up the orange is open he couldn't control himself because he was in a place of ecstasy and whatever he was thinking about just overwhelmed him overwhelmed him and that's what the arizona means the arizona means that if you don't shed a tear during the ten days of of assassination there's something lacking in your avoider that means there's something that you're not focusing on that you should be focusing on and when you will focus on you will break down with a tear because you it you won't be able to control yourself now you know this is an individual thing we're not going to make now a show or a group of guys a potomac we are the criers of the shul in chabad you know we look at that type of a a behavior as what we what we call gitzonius superficial external or in simple english you're a faker cut it out get real cut it out who are you trying to fool who trying to get you know and this is the beginning of yom kippur and now i want to go to niela the fifth twila naila is so special so unique and in classical judaism what do we think about when we think about mayer about niela the gates are about to be closed right lady what do we say we say the shemesh is descending the sun is setting the doors are closing it's the last chance to get in and that's true but there's a deeper perspective it's not the last chance lama it's the last opportunity and it's an opportunity eli that's most special only once a year in the fifth prayer in the yada kamishi's in the fifth so what do we see here so i want to go to the fila that symbolizes nila and this is in the repetition of the uh thing um open the gates of heaven open for us your bounty is treasure help and do not judge harshly but save us god our salvation then there's the and we sing following that is that the no senator could someone give me the page number on that actually it's not it's it's in the yeah it's in in the ela there's no repetition in in in in the in the kneeler yeah you extend a hand to transgressors anyone know the page page 372. thank you okay after noise you extend the hand to transgressors and your right hand is stretched forth the cable shove him to receive the penitence the rebels father ablaevic rabbi you you i think on uh you you uh cut out for half a second there when you were saying those words at least okay i'll say it again after no say you extend a hand to transgressors and your right hand is stretched out the cab will shove him to receive the penitence this prayer and the following one which i'll get to in a moment are very very significant rebel avi replace it the rebels father obliviousness has a beautiful interpretation here and he says like this the word yod hand also has another meaning which is opportunity you give an opportunity to sinners you know how free will hashem never takes away our free will you can do great things and you can goof off and you can do sins it's a free world i'm your kipper okay i don't know you i should have given man an opportunity a free will in which he use it he can use it to be a sinner and at the same time you god give you give us your hand you give us your hand to pull us out of the choice that we made through truth so the rebellion explains that the word yad is used in two ways first you're is used in the negative way in this in this situation that when one uses their free will for doing something not good i.e being a sinner apocheya at the same time hashem knows that and he says i stretch out that's why it's the word i stretch out my hand to you even to you pocheya the you hashem stretch out your right your hesit to receive us back because we are shoving we return to you and then turn the page to the next paragraph which begins with atahivdal from the beginning you have set man apart and favored him it's 1931 poland at is a suburb of warsaw i was there in 19 2019 before covet i went to find the laboratory yeshiva where my teachers in yeshiva learned they were survivors and by divine providence we found it and i was actually able to go into the building why khabar doesn't own the buildings beyond me it's owned by polish non-jews but thank god i was able to go in it's been changed so i was right there where the previous rebbe spent tishrei 1931 at fox poland i mean the history is that hasidim of poland wanted him to move the rabbit wanted to leave riga riga wasn't really uh you know conducive to hasidis and poland was the hey you know the place where orthodox judaism hasidic judaism gareth alexander was like the country site of of there so the river and he had an uncle there rabbi shaharstain who owned a big property the rebel went there and he spent their tissure and he says a mimer and then in 1959 where the rebel with the previous rabbit was weak and he couldn't say ha citizen he tells our eva take the discourses that i said in 1931 published them in now in 1949 so people can learn these discourses and the mimer matsuya yong kippur when you're supposed to say good yomtif and have a festive meal and talk about the sukkah is begins with the words nevertheless from the beginning you have set man apart and favored him to stand before you and he asked a simple question there are four terms in hebrew in jewish literature to express a human being adam and enosh you know today in hebrew modern hebrew they made a big deal of the word gether ager means evan a strong man a gebor geffer gebor you know a man but in classical writing torah writing a gether is not that way the real man is adam i heard from in lubavitch when they saw someone who was really a refined person and a a real diamond of a personality they would call him adam he is an adam adam is the gift of the mind controlling the heart and really being uh that type of person ish is a person a person who excels in middles in character in emotions very refined giver what's a giver a person who is a person a regular guy he doesn't excel in intellect he doesn't excel in emotions and character but he excels in in being a person and then there's an english is someone who's weak khalosh khalash is a verse that's that says that weak in the sense of he goofs up we make mistakes we sin sometime comes along the the rabbis who made this prayer after if doubt you have separated may rosh from the beginning of all time enough man to be the epitome of creation english it should have said if dalton adam symbolizes weakness and that's the rebels question in this miner to to to just say answer it succinctly even though i sent the mayor the the copy but i'm gonna skip looking at it inside because of time and just get to the point and the represent is a fascinating thing which really goes back to what we started and the frida karebe says that what the rabbis said they meant how do you see that if doubt from the word haveda the specialty of of a jewish person of a human being not in the adam and non the ish and non-together only specifically in the anush in the weakness you know what i counsel brides and grooms of potential brides and grooms this is my one-liner if you can't live with a person's weaknesses don't marry them she's great he's great he has this she has that great now what about their weaknesses can you live with that uh uh oh i didn't find out about that and every time i make a shitty call you know for my kids and and and i and and they having a resume you know they're the friends and i throw out this question there's silence on the phone oh i i don't i didn't think about that i don't want to think about it i said i'm not asking you to bad mouth the guy just tell me you know i want to see if this is a fit if i think it's a fit english the weakness and i want to say that it's true also in work employers in employment yeah you're looking for the best employee but if if you can't accept that employee with his shortcomings i don't think you should hire that employee but that's my opinion maybe i'm wrong the point is that we are all weak somehow we're not all strong and who is strong at all times yes sometimes we do a dumb experience and sometimes an issue experience and sometimes a gather experience but by and large we're enoish comes along the prayer and it's specifically during nila when here is the here it counts crunch time like i told you last week it's crunch time the gates are closing soon the opportunities are here are you gonna capitalize how is man special when you embrace the weakness and that's the message of yom kippur the message of yom kippur is to take the weakness and find in this weakness and favored him to stand before you god says i favor the weakness the english to stand before me that an angel could stand before me and a great intellect can stand up from it and that person has a great character because then that i know i don't need your kipper for that i truly don't need nila and that's why niela is such a devout opportunity to really get in and begin the year with finding the holiness in the weakness and then you so you might be wondering and asking well wait a minute if it's a weakness if it's a shortcoming and if it's a problem why do i want to embrace it very simple alex very simple you know why because this is who we are again if you want to fool yourself and convince yourself you're someone who you're not go ahead but then you've missed the point of yom kippur you'll keepers realizing our shortcomings let's not kid ourselves every one of us in our own way and nevertheless find within the shortcomings a beautiful connection an opportunity right i always say there is no person that hashem created that's indispensable i don't care if he or she is handicapped if he or she is people-minded there is a place for every everyone and sometimes you look back at friends and look back at situations and you say he got married she got married i don't believe it you know he is the head of a company she is um the the successful entrepreneur can't be he's the rash of shiva he's the mashbiya you know the class above my class in yeshiva they had tremendous intellect they were so sharp memory sharpness knowledge right we we were good guys but compared to their brains now who knew how to learn better we did you know why because we had more effort they had better brains better right but because they were so smart that they got things right away they didn't study as much so who ultimately picks up more information and knows more at the end the one that has what we call in yiddish means effort and diligence effort and diligence is demonstrative of a weakness and compared to a strong mind and you find in that weakness you find strength you find opportunity and that's the way i i think niela can be for every single year and every single person regardless of where they are and what they are what they're doing what they're not doing it's an opportunity to turn a negative into a positive and finally it needs to be done with simcha which is the transition into the upcoming sukis simcastora so the days of all from rosh hashanah through yom kippur 10 days go right into the next period which by the way maybe call to everyone nice so we go into we go into a period of happiness what's the happiness what's the happiness i just banged away five times okay okay okay send sin marcin martin what are you happy about i'm happy about the opportunity i'm happy about the realization that i'm human being that i'm an anemone i want to be an annoyance what do i mean i want to be an english i want to be an annoyance with the potential of becoming a ish and adam because hashem believes in us and this we experience through the symbol of sinning together in the sukkahs and dancing together with the torah where we don't open the torah and learn the torah we dance with the tiger we hug the torah and i want you this year i really want you when you when it comes to toyota and it's kind of the last day of the whole yamtiv period i want you to try to dance with the torah hold the torah and hug the tire and embrace the torah and feel this work towards feeling the torah because the terror is our life this is our life this makes us happy if you need a little time for that take a little achievement but really don't get carried away don't make it that the lachaim is making you feel that you have to work as you dance and the previous rebbe says in the name of his father it's worth mentioning that those people that will dance on simcoe torah and shemini the 48 hours with strong dances with lots of perspiration with lots of schwitzing because they're dancing and by the way even if you're not dancing i've seen people they stand in one place and they're clapping and they're moving their feet because maybe they can't they have a heart issue or this or that right we're talking about feeling happy feeling joyful whether you're dancing or whether you're singing or clapping or making you know lebanese and when you do that the rabbit ashab says it's a segula it's a remedy for better parnasso that's what he says what the connection is i don't know yet i never i haven't figured it out yet but that's what he says so that's that's about that's a brownie point you know what i'm saying that's an important one it's no small change to have better parnosa so that ashab says that dancing stronger and stronger with more intensity and more simcha on the 48 hours of shimini at serious simcastora before we go off it's your turn now to comment question please the floor is yours don't be bashful alex what do you want to say i see you shaking your head excuse me yes i am no i'm thinking about what you said about ernest why is this anus he does i've never thought about it but it makes sense and i i'm shaking my hand it's a kind of a kind of comforting thought that uh you know hashem wants us with not perfection but the way we are with our you know use awareness yeah that's exactly our deficiencies are the springboard for the ultimate growth you know and and and really to respect it in ourselves and in others because sometimes it's very hard to respect someone else's deficiencies and it really gets in the way and if this is it needs work it needs work i saw whatever i saw so many times how he and you see it on the videos how he respected every single person who gave them and believe me a lot of interesting people came to him i'm just gonna say that okay from a jew for yoshkid wanting to give him paraphernalia of yoshka okay comes to the river and he says right or from someone coming and asking why khabar doesn't sleep in the sukkah to start up with the rebber you know there were all kinds of people passing by the rabbit when he gave out those dollars sunday trust me lots of trouble makers and lots of confused people and the rebel was respectful to all there were some times that he had to share a message and he you know he took that yoshika book and he threw it away because that was something that's spiritual contamination he didn't want it in the presence but nevertheless he spoke to the person he died the person dialogue with him and the person who was who brought the arguments of the of certain lit facts against lobovich the represent spent 22 minutes with him you have to see that video it's online why what what what were you saying yoni uh there's a second part of the story of interesting yesterday yeah right right correct he ended up right right but but what i'm saying is imagine imagine someone comes to you you're a busy person and he starts nudging you and he starts draining you a cup and he starts hacking your china you say hey hey guy come on off get away leave me alone find someone else to make crazy leave me alone right has time and patience for everyone and you know why because it ever said when you count diamonds when you count your money it's like counting your diamonds when i can't when i give a dollar to a yidd when i have an experience with another yid i'm counting a diamond but he has a deficiency so what who doesn't like alex said a moment ago and i think it's it's you know it's harder for us you know community people upstanding people on and on we have to really really go into ourselves and and and appreciate god's creation you know i i dive in in the morning at a shul that's the minion factory of the united states of the of the world it's called shrimp shabbos here in borough park and there were times that i would come there three four in the morning to start my day not only because i wanted an early start because many people who didn't have where to sleep or they didn't have who to talk to would come there and just sit whether it was for the air conditioner the summer or the heat in the winter and i would engage in conversation with them and to me this was so humbling to begin the day to daven to be with people who are you know never you know they they don't have where to go they like talking to themselves and and to engage with them and make them feel that they are part of god's creation which they are because hashem created them this was the best way to start the day because here i am this is who i am this is what i know this is what i teach this is what i write i'm a big shot right you're really a big shot take a look at it another year and you humble yourself and by the way this was done throughout history when you read about people who went to different places to humble themselves so maybe yaakov when you go to yerushalayim you know and and you meet some people who have the jerusalem syndrome and they think the chauffeur is being blown a mashiach is coming pretty crazy right pretty erratic radically wild oh maybe it's a message here oh there's a message there's messages that hashem throws at us and the rapper i'm just saying there ever had that people who accused him and attacked him and said nourish kite you know you would want to like throw them out right no no no right goes and curses king david what he did for us what the suffering he went through with showa melech and his son and all the stories of tanakh and we read it in daftorus and then comes along a close manner starts cursing him and what does dublin says the altar brings us in tanya what does that mean say he's right i gotta find him myself what does it say about me that's that's um that's what it's about that's what young kipper is about anyone else everything clear yeah so we know what we need to do for young kipper we're all on the same page evan is shaking his head no evan evan what's is that true or yaako's making that up no he loves to go after me evan you hear you heard you heard the punch punchline the punchline is every either special every year every jew right every jew is special and it's an opportunity on kipper okay it's a great update eli what what are you thinking i see you're thinking what do you think there's two elise on here there's market there's monosami light is uh okay oh oh daniel i'm sorry i'm sorry i thought i thought your first name is elio so menachem and and daniel why don't you share something i want to hear from you don't be bashful i want to hear a thought something no i'll just i'll just say this there in um in my rabbi's shopping with russia whatever he went on but he said some people think that their strengths that their weaknesses are their strengths they're very strong with this and they don't see that it was very important to actually recognize what is a weakness and don't just think you can argue with people you can get them to say that's a strength so you have to really try to really figure it out properly otherwise you can't make yourself grow absolutely absolutely uh in the young yom of the rebbe there's a famous line just as it's important to know your weaknesses it's even more important to know your strengths you know that's like he quoted he quoted me a ton i think when he said he done shot us oh yeah yes evan what were you saying i think that if i reframed the word weakness into challenge it takes on more of a positive tone okay good good it's it's you know so i can go on for that but i understand good very good i'm serious very good that's a that's a good point and a good way to think about it maybe you know a better a healthier way to think about it exactly yeah you know parrots what are you thinking about over there what are you thinking about well i'm i'm thinking rabbi of uh [Music] you know this opportunity this this opportunity that uh you know we've only got a couple days left and how can i make the best of this opportunity and uh you know what do i need to do what's the what's the you know would you have a recommendation if someone had a couple days to go before the final countdown what is the best thing to focus your energy on the best thing is that when you daven take five minutes five and just reflect don't say any words j will have your twin on you if you wear a talos a palace and just think about your relationship with hashem and just think about it and become settled in those five minutes that's my humble suggestion thank you rabbi you're welcome it's a suggestion rabbi johnson are you on still or you're off probably sleeping okay after that anyway after last year he called me up and he wanted to read some of my books so i thought he's on here anyway we'll get deserved we'll get to him leon leon good to see you what's going on you always have something interesting to say i don't know about always um i'm i'm kind of like in the camp that uh that evan was was talking about i'm really this year last year has been like really hard and and uh every time someone asks me how i'm doing i've been saying and i want to get out of that i want to get into positivity i want to get into looking at you know [Music] recognizing the blessings hashem has given me through all the craziness this past year and and focusing on that and and being thankful for whatever blessings hashem bestows upon me next year beautiful absolutely every day you know when i say call on the show at the hallow in the hallelujahs every soul should give praise so the gemara says the word neshama besides meaning soul also comes from the hebrew word nishima a breath of air and my mother who passed away 16 years ago passed away because she couldn't breathe she had scoliosis and kyphosis curvature of the of the of the spine to the point where the the she couldn't breathe the doctor told me her heart is good his mind are good everything is good but we got a technicality she can't breathe so when i think i think always about calling the shaman i'll call nishima for each drop of breath be thankful to god that you could breathe so liam when you would you say you know count your blessings absolutely a wife children okay there's some you know you know some curveballs some you know sliders some fastballs that come along as we say yiddish it's nishki fair luck it ain't that bad remember i don't know if you were on liam were you on last year no no i don't think so so i'll say just briefly because i said it last time at length my great uncle said like this if a person lost their money they're still a person because they can make it up they can make it again right it's a wheel of fortune if god forbid you lose your health or part of your health you're a half of a person because we need health but if you lose your drive you're no person at all you've lost your manhood your humanity the drive the drive is here by each and every one of us so tap into the drive the fact that you had a difficult year in difficult issues are are not small change i'm not god forbid you know and it should be changed in a positive way and it should be devouting but remember that drive because the drive is there and we see that a paraplegic can be a winner of a gold medal right and and and can swim and and my one of my daughters had a girl in her class who crawled on her stomach because god didn't give her feet and she was one of the best in the class in base rifle with 2 000 girls in a in one building on left foots avenue in crown heights and a girl's crawling on her on her stomach because she doesn't have feet but she's making a life of herself did you understand so you gotta you gotta count those blessings you gotta focus on that and it will be a different year anyone else floyma yaakov mayor anything you want to say how to top that okay okay so let me wish everyone a marxism a good bench your only brachas only simchas good health better health shidduchim from the children and grandchildren and ultimately we need mashiach it's all nice and fine it's all nice and fine but we need mashiach where there'll be an end to this covet finished finished no more arguing masks no masks vaccines no vaccines and and and and there'll be peace in there to throw real peace and and and we'll have our river back and we'll have all our parents back and our friends and loved ones and um will only celebrate together and uh yaakov told me that he has scheduled they're ready for judge i think january 8th an old shabbaton so i really would like to see everyone there make it put on your calendar and i'm sure yaakov will do his best to accommodate all covert restrictions somehow i don't know how but he'll you'll deal with them on that but um really um try to put it on your calendar because i think the energy of us as a group together the fabregas the learning the singing the davening being at the holy oil of the river um on a shabbos those that have been there know that it's it's a once-in-a-lifetime experience and it's very special so um please you know join us and uh encourage others to come because it's worth the investment trust me it's worth the investment i i'll never forget when mendel mendel jacob's son metal cone and and ben hamburger they were bringing all night and they drank quite a bit of mosh kids true um but that that's not the point the point is that we were sleeping and they were for bringing and that's you won't get that and that's once in a lifetime you can't repeat it i bet you today it won't happen between mendel and ben mendel's mendel where he is the day and ben has been where he is you know when life goes on and certain things you gotta you gotta are we saying yeah this you gotta hop around you gotta grab the opportunity and and just go for it and don't make too much thinking yeah no maybe 24 hours ourselves with hashem the rabbi that's it and then it's a cathartic experience real cathartic experience so i encourage you to uh to join us and yaakov thank you very much for the opportunity for this year and everyone should only have only have good things and reports