Yahrtzeit Reb S Carlebach - Thriving not Surviving - Why didn't Raayatz move to USA in 1930

today is the york site today is the 16th of hajj of replay mccarl bach the famous jewish composer singer almanagen and many other things his life story i recorded in my book called the real schleimer if you haven't read it i really urge you to read it because to understand that schleimer karl bach you need to know his background about his parents his community where did he come from where did where was he where where did he go to and everything else about this gifted individual who helped thousands and thousands of yidden do chuva and till today and i believe till mashiach comes and maybe even lemashir comes people people use his nigunim in their shoes from the most right-wing orthodox and kassidic shul they sing karl bakhtuns and melodies so whether one feels he was right he wasn't right he was wrong i'll let you decide after you read my book but one thing i can tell you is that he's in gun aidan now and everything that nila chuva has been rectified and all we're left with is the positive aspects of what he accompl what he accomplished so we ill in the shema i dedicate this talk and what i want to talk about really today is the concept of shipokshi happiness that one should have in the work they do in the marriage they have in their relationships and and we we sum it up with the concept of sipoknafshi means enough to be satiated spiritually but not only spiritually with what you're doing with who you are and what you are we've been studying in our my mother monday through thursday 7 40 new york time and i encourage those that haven't seen or heard these and heard these shiorim they're online on my youtube channel rabbi dolphin and invite you to join a very beautiful interactive sheer with intelligent people mostly out of bed shame ramachamish and others around the world actually and we study primarily the fleet of cadet yachts of vietnam which always has some psychology in it and avoid this hashem in addition to hardcore ideas of hasidis and this week we were talking a lot about tainog pleasure the light and pleasure what is it where is it how is it and who is it it's not a topic that is commonly discussed but i chose this particular mimer which starts with the words if those hashem in poland in 1938 actually and this shabbos partial so many years ago actually almost uh what is it 88 years ago or so where he he he talks about simra but to understand simra he goes into other issues and one of the main issues is taino pleasure and delight what is our pleasure what do we derive pleasure from and how can we tell whether what we're doing brings us pleasure should we seek pleasure and what is holy and pure pleasure the time is short to elaborate and i again encourage you to listen to those urine we've elaborated extensively on on on this topic want to address it through a story a story that i saw on a you on a clip with the rebbe someone came to the rebbe during the mahdi israel development fund where people gave to dhaka to the mahdi's role organization and then they had a chance to meet the rebel with their wives children and family together with their and a gentleman comes over to the rebel and he says i bought hashem have sold my business i have enough money for myself and my family how do i know when is the right time to retire to stop working that's his question and you can see the face-to-face contact that he as he asks the question into the rebels pupils of the rebbe's eyes right into right into right face to face and the rebel looks at him and he says god is infinite torah's infinite a jew is infinite i'm paraphrasing there's no such thing as retirement again the rabbit doesn't use these words i'm paraphrasing basically you need to continue working if god has gifted you and granted you that ability and especially to to be successful in making funds continue working so then he asks that but i understand what you're telling me then he says should i reinvest the money or part of the money in a similar business to what i'm doing now what i did and the business that i sold that that that line of business or should i go into a new venture something very different and here is to me the real hidden novelty of the rebbe's answer and what it to me it's not so much you shouldn't retire i mean that's pretty simple you know what are you going to do play golf all day or just walk around to surf the net all day and waste your time and go crazy then eva tells him that depends on your personality if you're the type of person that's going to get bored again i'm paraphrasing if you're the type of person that's going to get bored from doing the same type of business with you know in this way or that way don't do it if you're the type of person that will be happy reinvesting and making it larger and making more money and making something different and all that in the same type of business do it but if not find yourself another type of business that's totally new to you so you feel excited and i take from this answer of the day but the following it is important for a person being in business being in life and relationships to be fresh and not stale we have so many people today that are just surviving they're not thriving they're stale they're burnt out now i'm not suggesting give up and find greener pastures of foolishness and stupidity unhealthy for a person's spiritual situation and even physical material situation but nevertheless within the confines of tighter judaism of a healthy family relationship find something that makes you excited you need to be excited till the last day of your life this is what the rebel was telling him i also saw the same similar idea in something that i'm writing about now where the frida kerebe the joseph yitzhak tells rabbi jacobson in 1939 after he considered moving seriously to america in 1930 and the early during the 30s and actually when he came in for his visit to feed the kadaba to america in 1929 30 the activists and people who came from homes and from europe and their ancestors got involved and they were planning to bring the rabbit to america and he agreed and then he made a quick u-turn and november of 1930 he says i'm not doing it and rabbi hatcher fagin that ever secretary writes the rabbi jacobson in america before jacobs in the rebels not coming but he doesn't tell him really why he doesn't know why or doesn't tell him why in 1939 that's like eight years later when robert jacobson went to visit the frida kareva for a second time while the rebel was still in europe in poland amongst the things that he he spoke to about and he spoke them for hours he tells them that yes they were very interested in becoming and i even agreed and wanted to come but i had a change of heart why because i realized that what i did in and what i saw was that i'm a good activist i'm a good his language is an ask and see booty i'm a great activist and that ever writes there is i have a talent on them and success in that field and so the rap is acknowledging he knows about himself that he's talented in us in communal activity and he'll be successful in other words he'll he'll be able to bring the money for it and people will gather to him and all that but he says i realized my inion is that's all rabbi jacobson quotes in his safer current living page i think 174 i think anyway in other words that ebb is saying i didn't see that the american the people in america are really interested in khasi de marxidis yes they come from habad families the rabbi calls him elsewhere the fleet has ritual right r-i-t-e but they're not interested in sitting at fabregas and hearing my mother is and and and you know in that whole environment that's not there came to america to assimilate in one way or the other to make money yes to remain from and many of them you know were broken-hearted when their kids left yiddish kite or left hassiduskit but nevertheless the melting pot was so powerful that it schlepped you it sucked you in says that ever right now i need this why i'm paraphrasing because the idea of a chabad hasidis and this is phenomenal phenomenal not that the rabbit wasn't concerned about the those jews and not that the rabbit didn't understand that asconus communal activity is important which he did all his of his life but if that becomes a substitute for hasidis maybe i'm a different kind of maybe i'm a rusher shiva maybe i'm a great person it's all and and people will will kind of get around me but i'm not a rabbit and my father says the frida karebe paraphrasing and my ancestors from the outer edba of this dynasty to be khabad rebus and what's hasidis the study of hasidis and the interest and gathering of hasidim to be together with the rebbe in the venue of hasidis etc so there too what do we see that if you do something that you might be good at but there is no sibu navi for you personally it doesn't turn you on and and satiate you you need to put that aside and although this is in a way you know not pure history or the connection between chabad and other communities i think the lesson is so important for us as we become older the midlife crisis will be avoided if you're not stale if you understand and you realize and you practice what you will put on earth for which is to be always excited fresh and to summarize it not just to survive but to thrive may hashem help and this day the arts of the republic and we should take this message on this parachute which the zarya qatar says that specifically her life her years may have asked him shut up right etc her life is life compared to anyone else before as it says in the zayed kaddish why because she symbolizes this idea of freshness of thriving and when you do that you're able to take a little wine which she did as it says in the madrid and use it for something very special which is good now