What's special about a Wedding? Shavous is our wedding w G-d - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

so it's the shabas before sh it happens to be that on Sunday gim the first of the three May it's my daughter's wedding so that we have a we have a merit to live and participate and bring another child to the K so for a few minutes just to reflect on this you know every parents dream is to bring their children to the to bring them to marry them off in simple English and in a way it's their choice right they're they're adults they have free will and they can choose who they want to marry when they want to marry and of course that's true but nevertheless the instinctive gut feeling of every parent is it's my responsibility to make sure that they get married and the ultimate of having children is to bring them to the that's the hope of every Jewish person's will Paradigm desire that that's what we live for the T the holy T that we that we that we learn and we're once again receiving from a new this coming sh is the same way the T was given to every single ye it's ours the t's inheritance it's our inheritance an inheritance you don't have to ear burn it's a it's automatic if you if you're a child of these parents you get an inheritance being part of the Jewish people we get the T the TOA is ours but nevertheless one can have the Tia one has the T but the taer remains in a closet the T can remain untapped the T becomes very lonely it's the responsibility of the parents and the wish of the parents to take the to out to hug the TOA to kiss the to and to learn from the TOA to learn in the TOA so it's so similar to the idea of a marriage and that's why our pages in fact call relate to the Festival of sh as the marriage between God and the Jewish people it's our wedding now to take it just one more level to take it a little deeper and to personalize it as as much as we have the to and we could take the to out the to has to teach us we have to allow the to to teach us we have to have the bit this the humility just like we have to allow our children who we bring to the and we marry them off allow them and let go let them grow let them experience life completely from their independence you're there for them you're available you'll help as much as you can but at the end of the day they have to make the call so too with the tier the tier wants us to learn the TOA but we have to study the TAA we have to take the T out so this is the message that it's around the corner shabas by midbar the shabas which theb called the shabas theb called it the shabas because the verse in says the Jews camped all together Unity it's the shabus of unity so it's a time to make resolutions it's a time to really look at life from a spiritual vantage point to make a wedding to make a Mitzvah Mitzvah and all other Jewish celebrations holy it needs to be spiritualized it's not just about good food not just about good good scotch it's not about laughing and and and and being in a good mood that's all very important but it needs to be permeated with kadus UTA Holiness and Purity it needs to be predicated on the foundation of T and practically it means when you have a SIM and this is my call and my message say Torah say words of Torah say a Jewish story of meaning don't let the event just go by with good food and drinks partying and and just having a blast it's not enough it's not adequate we need to bring Rus spirituality Torah spirituality into a celebration and we should only have more and more celebrations so this is the time of the year when we once again will celebrate the giving of the Tah on har on Mount Si which symbolizes humility we humble ourselves and we allow the tah to teach us and we ask the Torah to come into our lives and we bring it to the table at a Sim yeah we give a a bang on the table we say one moment please if I may have some quiet I'd like to share a thought and get up and say the thought man man woman child teenager senior citizen there's no excuse when you see at VAR Tor is not being said ask the host or Hostess permission I believe that almost everyone will give you permission say something you don't have to say speak long you can speak you know pretty short quick you know you want to speak a little longer and the host Hostess gives you permission no problem and say it clearly loudly artic articulate each word take a pause and break between the beginning of a word the middle of a word the end of the word breathe look at the people smile make it interesting others will then emulate you follow you and share words of Torah at every Sim at every Gathering ma ma we should all only have Simas happiness good health tremendous success and livelihood and at the end of the day sooner than later speedily nowadays will Merit to the coming of Messiah the rebuilding of the Third Temple the bik in in Jerusalem