What is Life? Who's Truly Alive? Stay young by being w young people - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

high yellow the highest I want to talk for a moment about highest life what is life what does it mean to be alive Bentley a nice boat maybe a test what does it mean to be alive now of course a person who experiences a life threatening situation they know he or she knows very well what it means to be alive say and think about when we talk about hi hi why do we give High I'm giving High to its charity multiples of high we make this big issue of high life you know why very simple we want to live a normal person wants to live God forbid if someone's very ill and they're holding on they still want to live so there is a story with one of the Chabad rabbis his name the fifth rebir of Shalom bear Rabbi Shalom bear schneerson the fifth Republic was called that's an acronym for his Hebrew name rep Shalom bear so this Rabbi says like this he once was visiting somewhere in Germany and he went I think he went to the Kaiser's Palace and there is sore magnificent art pieces on the wall okay and he came back to his little Tiny Village called Lubavitch known as because our ancestors came from this town they came there in 1813. and they were there till 1915. 100 102 years and the second the third the fourth the fifth rebby we're all there even six rabbit was there but he wasn't ready yet so four out of the seven red bees were there and that's where they made a Yeshiva there in 1897. and from there came the students we were all students from this yeshivas well three of us so they asked the rebbe what did you see in the Kaiser's Palace have you ever heard the expression you know like big big oh big things big stuff what big stuff did you see in the Kaisers Palace so they never told them the hasidim in the babic and as Yeshiva said I saw this magnificent art piece over here and on the wall here and here and then the rebel says but I want to tell you something one of those pieces of art that was worth you know millions in German currency it's not the real thing in other words the Kaiser has it on the wall showing it off pay big bucks for it but the truth is it's not a real Picasso it's not master who they say in Hebrew mushroom you know why not so the rabbit tells them and this picture the artist drew beautiful Greenery and trees are shrubbery and and Pathways and and water and canals and it and then there's a few Birds that he draws and one of those birds is on a leaf on a leaf of a tree so they say that sounds like a wonderful piece he says there's a problem the problem is that when a bird is on a leaf what happens to the leaf the leaf bends doesn't fall down this it doesn't but it from the from the head from the pressure of the legs of the bird right it sags in a little bit right and the artist drew it in a way that the leaf is perfect and it's not set said is not good art good art if you're emulating the real scene then that leaf should be sadness and that ever said this is the idea of life and reality something that's real something that's real has to show and experience reality and I I many times have thought about the story and the message and one message that comes to my mind I share with you there are those that walk around with a big facade on their face and they have a difficulty showing how they feel then there are those that are always showing how they feel that needs to be a balance there are times to cry and there are times to laugh there are times to be upset and there are times to be happy real life is the way the situation is that although you could be sometimes so happy but when you hear about something that is so painful you just lose yourself in in tears there are times when you're broken-hearted about something and all of a sudden you hear some good news and you jump and you excite and you're really in a different world why is that because you're real you're MS khasidism brought to the Jewish World the ability to be Amos to know to know the score and we saw with our debate the same thing and I'll share with you what I saw as a as a 17 year old in 19 the 1970s standing at the represents in Brooklyn where he would talk if I bring us he would talk and we would sing and say lakaya at those years in the end of the 60s and early 70s there was a very great movement to bring Jews out of Russia and there were protests it was a whole the whole Jewish Community was consumed with Russian jewry those were a little older should remember this period right the rebber who's from Russia and Chabad who's you know originally from Russian Russia stock Russian knew very well the pain of the people the Jews back in Russia it was very painful I can't express the jewishness they're watched by the KGB but you know just on and on and they're tortured if they they sent away the Siberia and I'm I'm talking literally we're not talking about figuratively I have a Rel had a relative my wife's relative who sat nine years who was in siberius nine years for what forgetting passports for Jews and Lemberg to be able to go out as polish citizens because there was a period in 46 45 46 after the war he had a Polish passport they would let you out so what do they do they got passports don't ask Cal but they got passports and the one who was one of the ringleaders his name was remendo could have gone out in the beginning because he was like in charge hit them go he waited for everyone else to go on the list train car to go out they caught him and they put him away for nine years what no he was older than 15. what do you know it was for 15 years no no no maybe maybe he was sentenced for 15 but he ended up nine would be you know he didn't say it was not nice so this was real this is not not talking about you know a dream someone some Mumbai you know the pack of what they call the Pied Piper you know not the Pied Piper here this is reality right so how how does that how does a person how does a deed how does he experience happiness when he gives his life for everyone else he doesn't go out when he could have and he waits for everyone and then he's caught that he's sent away and miraculously he survives and he comes to England in 1963 and guess what happens at that time his only daughter was in a car accident and died yeah I mean God where are you what's going on here right and you would think this person would give up so that I was told that at the funeral in London he was walking behind okay he was walking behind the casket and he said I Mendel Mendel I Mendel Mendel where are you mendelum where's your house has a very famous letter which talks about accepting God in all situations it begins with the words last kill habina the 11th letter in the fourth section of the Tanya so we learn it we teach it and basically it says there you should accept everything with happiness and here is feeling destroyed says to himself where am I you understand that's reality the reality is what's the reality that he was in pain he lost his daughter after giving nine years of his life and and God miraculously saved them so he's very real about the pain at the same time he's a believer we are believers and at the same time we have issues that pain us and trouble us I said this the study of hasidus the study not just saying words but the studying you have the rabbis here we have classes you study hasidus it helps and it gives Food For Thought to overcome and to live with joy to live with high high yellow to really be alive and guess what you want to stay young younger who knows what the recipe for staying young is I'd like to hear from you people here any thoughts come on you want to hear the truth you're talking about talking the truth no you want people to express the truth yes I think what what they think is the way to stay young jogging playing tennis skincare very good and let me tell you what the truth is let me tell you what I see older people should hang around younger people and you stay young that way that way in this in our school in Borough Park we had a 75 80 year old man he was the life of the Guardian show that's my father too my father God bless and became 86 a week or two ago he's the life of 770. hangs around the young people young people are fresh young people are driven young people want to make something of themselves you know we I don't want to say it you know we are old geezers I should speak to myself what you say yeah thank you okay you said it not a height anyway right you want to have highest you want to be high to life to life where I am you want to have that in your life be with young people in a shoe in a school sometimes go out to to a Yiddish School a Jewish school and see our little children are playing you'll feel so good together with that practical tip there is the idea of working on being more and more honest it's not it's not easy to be honest it's very hard to be honest who wants to especially for you to be honest with a friend this friend that friend we have disappointments I thought she was my friend boy did I found out find out she's not my friend they have all kinds of things that happen it's true right so now I'm gonna go Spill the Beans to someone who I was misled and I thought foreign and he would say like this you have to go to the extreme to be Emma's so they said rabbi the Ramba my mandaris teaches that the middle path is the best best path extremism is no good so you know what he said when you're walking down the street in those days you know you didn't have cars or some buggy who's in the middle of the street a horse he says the horse goes in the middle you want to be a horse go in the middle he says you want to be Amos now we don't follow you know dream and to decide that you are you are in the position of being extreme that's not a healthy thing that's why you have rabbis and teachers and therapists and others you know people to guide you and but in an idea in ideology the idea of being MS is is is a tremendous thing and you know when when when when I see someone who's really MS I run to them I I because it's so unusual and it's it's what truthful completely truthful completely truthful the rapper was very amused the rubber is very Amos you couldn't buy the Bible with money with Fame with honor it meant Zero to him what what was important that is important to him is truthfulness live your life with truthfulness hasidism is a very beautiful way an entryway into the world of emis and one doesn't have to be a rabbi or a Robinson there was someone here I don't know if he's still here yeah I see him it's still there I was walking he says You must be the rabbi probably because I was wearing this black hat when I came there you know you don't have to be a rabbi you don't have to be a rabbit son you have to be a yeater a little evil there right what's that you this song they sing about a guitar anyway Hashem should help us we should be more truthful more honest in our relationships and in our relationship with God in particular open up to God speak to God sing to God laugh to God he wants to hear from you not just Rosh Hashanah keeper every day Mark I want to say lakaim to my friend Mark Rooker Mark is a wonderful friend he makes my coming to Florida I must tell you wonderful he's my real man and Mark you should have wonderful nakas for your two daughters Hashem and you should continue learning I come into the cars this rabbi I know what why you're here today you're here because there's a special birthday of two great rabbis I say how do you know that because he went to the Chabad I was in Fort Lauderdale this morning he went to minion [Laughter] that would make sense it wasn't a coincidence that you're here so I say a big thank you to you because it's not for you I wouldn't come so often to Florida you're a godsend for me you know with with Brooklyn traffic I don't go too far disastrous like come down here and I'm able to drive normally get picked up at the airport without much uh issues so yeah thank you and only only good things and Hashem will definitely definitely God will definitely send you all the breakfast in a way that will be revealed as we say in French in the bank how about this song foreign [Music] yeah yeah yeah we were machine I would like to now hear from you a little bit