Virtue of Listening and Receiving - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

[Music] and it's another opportunity to wake up to see this or you guys already have been up for hours and when we see this we get inspiration and when we get inspiration we feel better about ourselves so even though we're you know still amidst this uh chaos and uh the chaos only gets more chaotic especially if you listen or waste your time listening to this one saying this and that politician and trump you know this and biden this and he this and netanyahu this it only makes you more sugar and that's why if you sit back you think about it maybe the best thing to do is not to listen to these things and just do my go to my job do my work you know whatever and um just go with the flow go to flow and don't get too involved in these things because you can't make a change anyway believe me i mean yeah they say everyone should vote and your vote counts and i'm not discounting that but at the same time the neighbors have defeated the vote as we're saying you this neighbors that con leads the world and the politicians are politicians so um what we have to do is keep on the course and don't lose sight of the goal this is very very important don't lose sight of the goal even though we've been you know thrown a curveball but the batter to use baseball as an analogy the batter needs to follow where the ball is going it's going this way it's going down and up it's curving right but the batter who's a good batter follows the ball so let's follow the goal and not get lost okay that is an introduction we're on page 397 towards the bottom of the page the mirror is talking about the virtue of minha trilog being the thriller the prayer that answered the the trilos of elio navi with the story of the nivia habal over there in hara carmel and this particular segment of the rebbe discusses the idea of shame hashem youth versus revelation and shame of kim is the name of hashem that conceals right and the rabbit from here starts explaining and we spoke a lot about it yesterday and i believe it's important to really understand that that the klim have two aspects to themselves on one hand they're they they they they conceal they hide you don't see the liquid in the vessel when the vessel the cup so the kayley's man and the reason for that is so because sometimes the area is too powerful so that kaylee has to contain it unlimited at the same time there is a revealing aspect to the caylee which is it makes it possible for the macabre for the recipient to handle it because it's measured it's limited and from here from because of this aspect that ebber introduced to us uh a muscle of uh of a divreiharav a teacher and a student that if the student forgets the words of the teacher he doesn't know the idea at all whereas in isis when something is written and and it's with this that we concluded yesterday and elaborated upon that when something is written the words themselves remind you of the content of the idea and hence the importance of the written word being that the written word is megala it reveals so let's now go to page 2397 and we are one two three uh for five six lines from the bottom the the line begins with the words aval ba i see ice ava when it comes you only to the written [Music] they remind them of the idea omar behem that is being said through the words and letters the words reveal an idea so when you look at the words that are written it's a reminder of the idea so so what's the point uh hilo the point right now is this is a rhetorical remark why do you tell me that oysters are ma are are mustier that letters words conceal we see that words reveal this is this is the rhetorical remark so now he retorts he exp he answers that alabamas the truth is goofy from the very fact that the words reveal the content hari moving shaheen mali mamela edson they're simultaneously concealing the essence let's go back to the muscle of the sun we benefit from the sun how because there's a cover on the sun that means the very cover that reveals to us and makes the sun possible to benefit from conceals the the essence of the sun ball because otherwise we wouldn't get nothing from we would be burnt up it would be too too too much so the helm this is the point listen to this the helm it itself i'm sorry the ghillie the ghillie itself the ghillie of of the oceans they themselves tell you there's something deeper that i'm not revealing to you you know there's a there's a there's a saying i think it's in the mother too you reveal a tafe and you conceal twice as much which by the way this is a very good way of of speaking and writing you know i i try to follow this dictum when i write on one hand i want to reveal i want to be honest on the other hand being too honest and too much can be sometimes damaging and and and not appropriate so you you you let the reader imagine that you know oh this is what he's alluding to but you know but so there's revelation of a tefl and there's a hiding of twice as much so that evan says here that the oysters when you read words on a paper in in writing yoni right okay when you read words in writing you see from the words whatever what the idea is but the very same time those words are still limiting it tells you there is an idea some of which i understand through the words and then there's a lot more that i don't understand through the words that the words themselves conceal so this is his retort that the very same letters and words that reveal at the same time they conceal that's his point let's continue and he says if it wasn't this way you hear this moshe admires if it wasn't this way if the words would reveal everything you would have nothing let's talk practically if someone writes the way they feel and they write everything they put it all out there we know that the results aren't necessarily good it's too much it's too much it's too heavy right someone once told me a rule a fundraising rule my early career working in habat house when it comes to fundraising if it's a small donation you could solicit over the phone you want a large donation you don't do it over the phone you do it face to face you know there are certain things that are very deep and powerful and meaningful on a you know very deep level it's the face-to-face communication that's why you know i mean we're in the situation but at the end of the day uh you know this long-distance learning of all sorts be it you know ourselves or or or with children in school in particular uh the statistics are it doesn't work yeah does it work for some yeah it works for a few here a few there but overall children need to be in a classroom okay um is it easier now everyone's at home and everyone puts on their computer and you know in a way it's easier but still the bonding if we were face to face in the same room and and it's a whole different experience so that ever says if the words would not hide some of the if you wouldn't hide the essence you wouldn't have any revelation because then the words would become a see-through and if you have see-through it's too overwhelming you know we we need to to understand that not everything needs to be out there that's another issue we suffer from in society everything needs to be out there all my dirty laundry needs to be out there because i'm truthful i mean that's some of some of the thinking of the 60s and 70s counter-culture cultural movement is hey let it all hang out there what are you embarrassed with you know that whole mentality just say it the way it is you know the taylor doesn't have that attitude the tate has a very different attitude and like i told you know this um this call of the chauffeur that they had back in the early 2000s uh you know where you know uh people had issues with their parents so they got together and they badmouthed their parents and they're up on them in flatbush and other places stopped them stopped them and said it's not right whether it's idolatry because they were following you know certain um you know new age techniques it's another question but just the overall issue of getting together in a circle and talking about bad about your father or your mother it's not the jewish way you want privately you want to talk to a rabbi to a friend to to to a counselor okay that that that's acceptable we're not saying hold it all in and don't share your pain you need to share your pain and you need to work out a a way of continuing and not just continue but thriving and moving on right but why does your friend have to know about it this is not the leadership way so why am i saying this because it says here me for sure if the words were not limiting and disguising there would be nothing coming from the words but wait a minute i have words if you don't understand if the words are just a uh a see-through then it's worthless then basically you're basically getting the sun ball in its essence which is too overwhelming uh before i forget i wanted to thank avi for bringing to my attention and something that uh hillel asked about the source of osceos machimos he founded in the ulcer which is a tour and i'm really thankful uh and in the future if you you know if any you know something that's asked that i don't know or we don't have an answer to if you find something share it with us because um very interesting i would have thought it was something uh earlier thank you yeah yeah so uh okay let's go continue okay i'm a goblin make a make a mark of these words hillel okay when you find when you find in a miner you know you do uh means like it's a known fact okay you do it what is the known fact avi that is the real revelation really it's a concealment in comparison in in regard to the recipients the mccable cannot take real giveaway okay if you were to share your very essence with your kids or grandkids it's too overwhelming they're not ready yet for it they have to come to it and by our behavior they hopefully come to it and sometimes i look around and i say like why aren't the kids getting who the parents are they like they don't know who i am did you ever have that feeling that your kids don't know who you are so the rabbit says here okay it's a concealment by the recipients i can't reveal all of myself because they don't get me i'm not talking about right or wrong but whoever we are the ultimate whoever we are the macabre just are not there not yet at least okay cloud let's continue inside oklahoma and this follows a general principle a cloud you do a known principle the guillotine that revelation to oneself who helen the god is a concealment to another when we reveal ourselves it's overwhelming for the other so as far as the other is concerned it's a heller it's not a revelation in other words you have to he's talking here about in hasidic terms and you know in ideology in in in philosophy but i'm breaking it down taking it to our own and avoid this hashem if an oil let's begin with the earth let's begin with the hasidic idea if the or is my very revealed the way the r is in its own right it's overwhelming for the cayley the caleb can't handle it so the r has to conceal itself so therefore what do we do what do we do what we do is what we do is we we conceal the exit you conceal this the real self and when you conceal the real self that itself makes them a macabre receive it properly that's with me yes probably is that is that the reason what is that the whole context of spheres [Music] that the ore becomes yeah yeah yes that's right that's right so claudia dua the guillotine a gilly within himself who helen zulus the zulus means the other has there's no comparison and it can't handle it and and vice versa look at what he said the vice versa the guillory legacy the revelation for the other it's a hell em it's considered for the self a hell of a concealment shayna tay for smoking it's not so valuable in other words it's the perspective gabe you follow if you are in your own world then another doesn't have place in your own world and if you're in the other in the other person's world then your own world doesn't have any place that's the that's the natural phenomenon you know it's it's a a balancing act of combining the two which is what hashem wants of us but that ever saying that we find this phenomenon in writing that on one hand the written word tells you the story at the same time the written word conceals all of the story or the entire story continuing a similar experience we find between the two instruments of thought and speech of next page 398. the who gilui the hell in the gap the only thought is a revelation to yourself when you think you are revealing to yourself but guess what i don't know what you're thinking about it's a hell of a it's a concealment for the other person whereas the deep or when you speak you guys hear me now i'm revealing myself to you aval who held on the gabby hatsuma at the very same time it's a constrainer for myself because i'm not i'm not telling you everything i know on this matter i'm telling you what i feel you can handle so as far as my own knowledge and i'm concealing part of that at the same time that i'm revealing some to you what do we mean what is being revealed only that amount that is easily revealed that is handled properly because every power the way it's in its own self before it invests itself in a vessel before it comes to be in fruition it's in its revealed state of its essence the way the koa is the way the power is in itself it doesn't have the ability to reveal itself below kiamdasky unless kasia who misloves beckley only when it leaves its own state and it invests itself it dresses itself up to us at that time the essential life is contracted and concealed and then it's when it can shine below so what this tells us is gabe what this tells us is that the the revelation from on high is a limited experience you know sometimes you meet sometimes you meet someone or you yourself experience this that you're just quiet and you're thoughtful and you're in your own world ask yourself a question what is the position of my being at that time at that time anything that involves the the manifestat a manifestation an outside another is a contradiction to where you are you want to be in solitude you want to have quiet you're now trying to experience the very self and trying to experience the very self if you involve at that time the other and the outside it contradicts it it disturbs it noise is a disturbance to going within yourself so this is what we're learning about here that his words are avi not only does the koa in its essence not reveal itself but aina begether you have to emphasize the words in the begetter gili lamata it's incapable you hear aina bagueta means it's incapable of being experienced here from this perspective and i'm talking about only from this perspective from this perspective the ur is in its own world and at that time the earth is incapable of experiencing the outside that's what he says kim when can the or experience the other and the outside specifically when it leaves its essence and it invests itself in a vessel and the word here dave muslims is very important and abala tanya in character uses that word with regarding to hashem's unity there is there is hashem revealing himself to the world moshe myers but then there is hashem not just revealing himself from his perspective he gets dressed up and guess what what clothing metaphorically speaking is he wearing he's wearing the clothing that the world wears you know we're coming up to ella in a month or so right what do we say the kings in the field let me ask you how does the king come into the field dressed like a king or dress like a field person like a field person if the king would come into the field even though he's in a field but he's dressed like a monarch a king no one would want him they would say hey you're too holy for us sorry we're gonna play golf we're gonna enjoy life but he comes dressed up like one of the guys one of the boys and it seems like he's one of us and he's ready to party we say hey get over here god you're fun ah and then he says wait a second i'm gonna come i'm here but i have a message for you it's hello let's let's talk about partying let's talk about life let's talk about getting higher to hashem right so the recipients the people in the field the field people and we're all field people feel comfortable this is why he says here the word avi mr lobbies kaylee it's not enough for the r to be in its place and from its place to dominate and control and be a big mocker then there's no relationship between the recipient and the messiah between the macabre and the masjib for there to be a relationship between a spear and a macabre we're talking about in a you know a client and a and a therapist really it involves the therapist to address himself up to invest himself in a client to put himself in other words not only to have i'll say it this way not only to have sympathy but to have empathy sympathy means you are what you are and you're sympathetic to a situation empathy is you put on the other person's shoes and you get you you become you get into their world and and and that's why such a hard thing because you know standing from the outside and giving advice or giving money or giving help that you know is pretty it's normal it can be dumb but to get get down and dirty as they say and get involved it's so much harder for whatever many reasons so what we're learning here is that the auras here in its own world it conceals the recipient when the aurasham invest itself the hebrew word mislavish bikili he slapped and khabar there's a lot of emphasis on the word his flop shoot dressing up investing getting involved then we the lawyer the ire understands that for it to be really experienced it needs to go through the slop shoot so then the cl the clothing the dress the garments are not a concealment outwardly they are but really they're enhancing the ore because the r the iron the energy before it it invests itself it's mislab age the r is outside of the experience and it's telling the experience how to experience itself well at the end of the day you say to her hey you're not here you're not i'm not on the ground you don't know the details so you're a big talker and yeah you know you're well read and you're knowledgeable and you're well off and all that but you're not on the ground so only someone who allows themselves to vacate the domain of the self it's not only the ego self of even a healthy self and enclose themselves in the other is able to truly accomplish the therapeutic results that are necessary and that's why and we have a professional with us but in my humble opinion that's why there's a breakdown and non-success when there is when we don't succeed whether it be with a mcabel or a client i don't see it as a breakdown in the macabre i see it as a breakdown of if i use the word failure it's a harsh word in the masjid how uh in other words it's very easy to call yourself a masterpiece or a therapist or a psychologist or a counselor but if you really want to accomplish the and succeed again at the end of the day every person at the end of the day everyone has you only turn off your mutant mic please every day everyone has their free will so you could be the best counselor and and get involved and the person spits you in the face which i'm sure we've all had that experience you know you work so hard on a client and a friend and a person at the end they say they say go blow go go i don't need you or they uh you know it happens every day and if you think it's eating and you better be ready for it because if you're not ready for it you're gonna have so so many disappointments and you'll be very upset so set your clock now that this world is full of disappointments and we need to do things because we believe it's the right thing to do whether the macabre will be appreciative of not or not that's their business right what does the rabbi teach us says about the midst of temura if you have an animal that you desert designates for the basa amigners to bring as a sacrifice and then you see a better fatter animal that's nicer uh for the bass amigner so you want that one to substitute for the first one so the torah says no guess what but both have to be brought now because once you designate a status of hectis both are holy so the words in the torah is this animal the first one us and it's exchange yield kids they should be holy so the arizona expounds on those four words in in that it's the the first letter of the four words equals uk and that's the uk um of the month of shock every month arizona says somehow there's a positive that alludes to the uk buff game for that month so for sma for some rights it's a year the rebel once explained that if i bring in that what does this mean in service of hashem what it means is that a person says i worked so hard i'm helping this person get to where they where they are and they don't where they should be and they don't go that direction and you feel very disappointed so the rebels said you'll notice that the acronym of of of the youth cave buffke is and it shall be and its exchange shall be but the word kodesh holy is not part of the acronym why because whether or not the person actually becomes holy is hashem's decision it's between you and hashem we are charged to reach out to offer to get involved whether or not the recipient takes it the way we want them to take it we are you know and even if it's a total way of taking it that's between them and hashem and that's why the acronym is not kodesh rather make the exchange work hard get involved and let the chips fall where hashem wants them to fall and it's easier said of course than done because you work hard you the nature our nature is you want results and when you don't see the results you get upset so this is what uh the arizona was teaching us no reason for you to get upset if you really believe in hashem you really believe everything i've got divine prophet is just the way it's supposed to be going back to the reminder let's continue yes rabbi i was gonna say in other words you can lead a horse to water but you can't make a drink that's what you're saying yeah yeah but but not just that not just that don't get upset and disappointed when you lead the horse to the water and you really exerted yourself taking it to the water it's not just you know you know you put in all this time and all this effort and the person you know doesn't do it or you know rejects you or spits you in the face you know what i mean and you say what why did i waste my time that's not that's not a torah attitude you didn't waste your time you did what hashem wanted and and the mistake is that you had um you had a preconceived idea that's wrong which means in english a false expectation you know it shouldn't be origin there should be a shems agenda it's not our agenda that's right that's right but you know in human relations it's very hard because the closer you get to a person the more you expect of the person just think you know spouses and in relationships but and and with kids with our children and you know the fact is that they have an independent connection to a family so the fact that you you gave birth to them and you raised them and you spent and you had you know all the ups and downs you would so you expect them to follow what you want sorry chap you're going to be very disappointed and it's a hard thing it's a very hard thing as a parent to see a child you know reject your uh you know reject in different ways you know but at the end of the day codex is between hashem and the person so yeah you summed it up nicely mostly let's continue inside please so he says the eam came were five lines for the top on 398. we understand that the the level of the vessels the machine which its source is from which name of hashem elokim in the beginning god created the world which name of god is used avi elokim so the bria yoni comes initially from elokim is simpson concealment that's right in order to allow a world could be they need it to be a symptom otherwise it would be too overwhelming is not within the realm of creatures it's overwhelming for the nevrain creatures creation of kimchi in this elevator only shame of the king which conceals the light meseos establishment that can actually create there should be an actual creation this means that the very essential creation is this was just a repetition of what he said earlier pretty much but the idea being that we have shame of the king which is shame of the king which is mocker of caitlyn what happens is that shay matriarch uk birthday investors over shameless kid what do we walk away with from today's year and from what they're ever finished saying here the importance of of the kalin the importance of the limitations we are all awed by the or revelation manifestation the thrill what we learned today is to appreciate the restriction to appreciate the containment because it's in the containment and restriction that you ultimately get to experience the thrill this is a very very important idea because for many people and for many times the threa the thrill you look at the containment the restriction as stripping you from the thrill i want to thrill i want the high what does citizens teach us that the ultimate high is experienced when you can experience it from the restriction from the containment we're now contained we're confined to the houses and to the and everything else with the covenant so what is hashem giving us you know moshe admires you always asking me you know what's the message here and you talk about mashiach and moving to heritage royal and all these things which are way beyond little high in dolphins and i think beyond most people but anyway simple let me see if you are a servant of a chem on the screen in your home in the covenant situation should we ask for cope with custody should we pray which should be removed asap absolutely but until that moment let's see are you real it's restriction it's containment it's covert like yoni and i were talking before the share mask here mask there he's asking me how it's in baroque park right and i told them for me it's just i i i can't you know no masks if i have to go to florida with mass deserts it's a whole mess i ain't going to this finishes i because that's who i am for good or for bed but that's who i am you're wearing a mask you have to they don't let you into shoes no you you you you're forced and to assess yourself am i able to be the same over the chair and it's true it's true that like you said to us the other day only that you know it's just not the same diving home diving your shoe i i really 100 percent but never nevertheless meanwhile what is the message here the message is what are you made of and this was the whole idea of your basic gimbal thomas the previous level that we celebrated a few weeks ago we spoke about it for brain and what were bothered you know the previous rabbit was by everyone mr self-sacrifice mr monsieur snappers and what did labavich stand for and that's why rabbis in long island uh forget the name of the big young israels they would invite the babashika from russia to come and raise money by their donors and people because they knew what these labages did in russia and even america raising funds for jews in russia in the 70s and 80s no one else did no one that's it's not even it's not even anyone says otherwise is i'm sorry a fool and a liar okay you know trickles did a little bit a little talk about talk about this refuse there if you was think i mean lebanese was one big refuse nick not talking about one refuse another refuse to you know nathan sharansky god bless him okay you know how many nations we had hundreds and most died was shot sent away died of starvation and illness you're talking about an entire culture almost evaporating because they were all refused next in the 20s and 30s and this is the and who was the the mr the the leader the previous rabbit our author so each time we learn his mind will remind ourselves of his messiness so now ask yourself a question is what we're living through now as difficult when they wanted to kill us in russia and poland come on come on be honest it's not you know it's not hashem we have food hashem we have people but we're able to see each other and learn every morning come on so let's not get carried away that you know this is the end of the world this is crazy thinking it's not jewish thinking is it a torah yes a sorry hila yakov if it's a time of sorrow for jacob absolutely but what does the plastic say umi and from the torah itself you will find salvation in other words let's look into what the the psychology and what the ideology of what kovat is creating in in society and let us learn how to elevate it and transform it and when we do that we'll be stronger after it goes away keep shooting have a great day everyone zaikazu we'll see everyone tomorrow bye