Vav Tishrei Yahrtzeit Rebbetzin Chana - Farbi for Dr. Michoel Moritz Birthday - Paradigm Shift

the rebels advice that i suggest everyone get it it's true it's terrific it's terrific so so rabbi i'm going to start with a a a an introduction i always say this at any of my parties i i have a fear from a as a child it just doesn't go away uh yeah i'm going to talk about it so rabbi when i was a kid there was a boy across the street who had a birthday party and he didn't invite he didn't he was my age i'm friends with him now on facebook we still communicate and he didn't invite me or didn't invite any of my brothers we used to play all the time but he didn't invite us he just invited his friends from school and you know how many people came to his birthday party zero none none no one showed to his birthday party and that like totally gave me a fear of having like i was traumatized and i was so scared that like i would have a party and no one would come and every time i have a party i'm like there's no one that there's no way no and anyone's been coming before you know there's things there's work there's you know i just can't imagine anyone's going to come on time and it takes hours before anyone shows and i never put enough seating and boom everybody comes it's amazing everybody comes and i'm always like when people start showing up i'm like i just can't believe it people actually came to one of my parties okay is that that's the story a busy person who has to go to bed soon um no i have to still dive in my div and um have a few a very auspicious day is that you should the first first and foremost have a slogan in in uh and i say is before gosh means because in gosh means you're the all day you're working in goshmas so to a person who's involved in gash me is that you have to emphasize the ruknius a person who is let's say a rabbi a teacher you would say bagashmi subarus to emphasize the um the gospels because he's so he's not maybe so successful that's not where his head's at so you give him a breath of gosh so i'm going to introduce you to everybody because you wanted to meet everybody yes okay my son's going to try one last thing to get the bluetooth but meanwhile uh how about if we sing the [ __ ] there we go all right yes you silver you want to lead us into negan no i'm oh [Applause] davidson [Music] no no god forbid it's only for people who've passed on what oh no no then then wait then it's the other book and it's the other book uh what's the other book um we'll talk for people who are alive from 40 years ago pinterest herman my class years ago the [Music] we need simultaneous translation and i've lived here for 30 some years raised our family here and barack hashem kids they got some grandchildren beautiful beautiful and you're busy writing books and i have a family too that's what helps you motivate you to write more books that's all right it was good to see you guys you haven't changed in 40 years you haven't changed nope just got a little younger so you remember a small shapiro from palo alto yes right yeah that's right i remember your ski trip we went oh yeah but i can't see your face lower the camera lower lower lower oh hi i got it now i got it oh now i see yeah shmuel shapiro i remember yeah very nice leah nice to see you see you again very nice okay next yeah very nice who's next evening good evening you remember me from where you're not pittsburgh how do i know you're from pittsburgh thank you same here we should meet again soon oh mate not simplest [Music] this is this is this is the top the banana of pittsburgh you're a fall eisenberg the bane in the knee gotta get by over there very nice yeah yeah we're waiting to hear some good words okay in a moment let's go further nice to meet you show malaysia one of the uh leaping teachers one of the top educators time davidson nice to meet you how are i picked up some books by our house oh yes joseph how are you i'm uh you don't maverick uh stun buffer but uh do you have any connection steps in new york i mean i know hawaii you know the last name uh is it karen no anyways glad to meet you thank you [Music] daniel hi nice to meet you daniel i think we met in boston uh probably uh 20 years ago yep i was in boston that's right i've heard of your books but uh nice to see you again thank you okay joseph silverman here a native third generation pittsburgher my father his mother and father all born here in the city beautiful the sun was on campus here on the cmu and i came out of uh morristown uh ferris before him about afterwards in the members of memphis beautiful beautiful beautiful now here in this beautiful community beautiful so what's your call for writing your books it's good to meet the author thank you thank you thank you for the name all right see you later without further ado rabbi i'll let you know you can for bring with the with the with the live group we have a live group here okay so bring it want to i want to start with a story that i just heard today that uh my head is spinning it's not not even a story it's a vert from the rebel in the yajidis does everyone hear me does everyone here no you're on a loudspeaker okay okay so this happened in 1979. it happened in 79 um a local borough park uh lubavitcher boy he was 13 years old his parents and his family went into the rebbe for yehidis in those days the rapper was still giving yahidis it stopped in 1980 and that's when the rebels started to give you freedoms for all but before that you had a chance to meet individually the family with the rebbe so this uh this uh this person who today is in his 50s told me the story a few hours ago hot off the press a new story and it's one for the record for the books because i wrote a book recently and uh probably um dr moritz has it already it's called unity the balchuva world i studied the baltruva world past and present a very important work to understand the boltuva world anyway so so um it goes into ajidis they had a neighbor here in borough park an elderly woman who wasn't exactly fully from religious observant and um she asked she knew of the babaji rabbi and she heard that this this family is going into yahidis so she asked the the father would you mind asking the rebbe for abraham from me he said of course so he's in this with his family and the bar mitzvah boy and he says to the rebel military says in yiddish he says i have a neighbor whose um the word for foreign which implies you know not fully from one of the words used in your dishes framed f-r-e-m-d in english would probably be framed which means foreign strange but not in the contact with a strange person means someone who's not fully integrated in the yiddish kite in the context of that discussion so he says right like we say in the morning a bad neighbor a good neighbor etc i have a neighbor versus a friend which is a um a a a non-religious jew and she asks and that ever before he can say that she asks the rabbi for abraham for a blessing that abbott cuts him off right there and he says bayons meaning framed the there are no strangers there are no foreigners there are no jews that are non-observant now how do you like that now what do you mean that's the story that's the whole verb and you have to ask yourself as a thinking person wait a minute the babachiraba this lady was not fully from but the expression that he used was an awkward expression he didn't say z z z she doesn't yet do all the mitzvos i believe if she if he would have said that that ebb would have not made that comment but he used the yiddish word which means foreign and strange framed and the rabbi cut him off right there and said bayons our philosophy our ethos of chabad there's no such a thing so here we are for bringing for uh because birthday is lettuce so i think that and we're going towards the makotis the holy day of jim kippur the ah the holiest day of the year we have to start thinking from tonight through yom kippur there's no such a thing as a stranger now you might ask wait a minute if i don't know someone if someone comes into the community and i don't know them they're a stranger to me they're a foreigner so this is what that is teaching us and saying that a jew by definition is not a stranger that rapper wasn't just saying that as a nicety he it sounds you know cute but the truth is there is a rational explanation to it and that is that every single yid every jew religious or re-religious is not a stranger and i don't need to embellish that and elaborate because you all have are in a citizen community you learn this you know exactly what i'm talking about but just that punch line just to think about it as in the next three four days by owens is nisto kane frender by us lubavitchers there's no such a thing as a frender and today we have to say the same thing to our young people and feel that way about our young new upcoming rising generation of lubavitches stars whether they are fully as religious as we parents and grandparents are or fully as hasidic as we are etc etc they are not framed they they're not strangers and foreigners and this is talking about our own kids and our grandkids and our friends kids we have to shift what we call a psychology to make the paradigm shift you know there's a mimer of the rebel ashab that he said in 1893 the first time that he introduced the frida kareba his son to kylo he called the day before he told him i want you to get to get up early go through to the mikvah he was 13 years old he was a young a young boy and i'm going to ask permission from your malama to excuse you from school at least from the morning session and i want you to come dressed in your yum tiff clothing and come to see me so the frida keraba did that and that's when the rabbi rashaf said for the first time good yomtif it's our yomtif today is the yay is the birthday of the holy baal shemptiv and the altered until then it was not known even by the frida kiran so there's a moment that the rebel assad said set a mimer for his son in his room beginning with the world's hamish and it's already printed if you care to look at it and it's a very very avoidable in a beautiful mimer not a difficult mimer and a short mimer so everyone can learn it at some point and really should learn it anyway in that mimer the reber ashab says that once a year a ye the jews is obligated to do a chufa that's different than the chuva throughout the rest of the year and the question is what's the difference of truth true versus juventus and we're in the word seriously make sure because your birthday is not as immature so we're actively doing chufa comes young kipper we're really doing chuva says that i'm talking about that you need to do once a year at least once a year is what we call in in in english in psychology a chuva in in with a paradigm shift the terminology of the rebel ashab and the miner is a hazzaza claudius those are hebrew words hazaza means a movement and when we remind ourselves of a hazard clothes a general shift in attitude what psychology calls a paradigm shift it reminds us of a piece of zayar hakodesh you know the zarya kadesh gives us an example of what real truth is and i'll just you know verbalize it in simple english you have a chicken a rooster a rooster finds and finds itself in schmutz and filth most of the day and it really enjoys the filth and it joins camaraderie with its other roosters and they're all having a party full of dirt and schmutz right now it's time to bring the rooster into your house whether it's for cappones or you want to have a pet or whatever else i remember once parenthetically i was out in duncan oklahoma by a doctor actually a nephrologist and we made a scene that ever that year in 1984 wanted to see him around bombs and the printing tanyas and we did it with george and i the governor of oklahoma on the steps and i went to my friend who i met in marin county in california uh through his parents and all of a sudden i saw in the backyard goats and animals and chickens and don't ask duncan oklahoma you probably never even heard of this little city duncan oklahoma anyway so when you bring a a rooster into your house it's full of schmutz you you want it to be clean you want to sanitize it so you blow hair and you blow there and you give a chuckle here and chocolate you try everything and you even apply i don't know if they have them anymore today but remember those dust busters i don't know if they still have them but those dust uses like these these uh you know vacuum cleaners you can hold in your hand it was it was a portable called a dust buster so you take a dust buster and you apply it to the wings of the rooster do you think that you could get rid of every drop of dirt from that rooster absolutely not there's only one way you can get rid of every drop of dirt from the rooster the rooster has to give itself its own shake and yiddish it has to make its own shake and bake and when the rooster gets up and gives itself a shake every drop of dirt in between its feathers falls aside this analogy the the the the zayarakotis uses to explain chuva that shuva coming from the outside can only go so far the real truth comes from the person inside and that only the person can do so they're going back to the mind of the rebel the rebel ashab says that once a year you have to give yourself a hazard clothes you have to give yourself a general shake up and it's a once a year thing because to do this is more than once a year it's very difficult because who wants to face the truth who wants to face issues that need repair who wants to face difficulties anxieties stress we're in a world we all say we need to be stress free and everything else and here you're telling me to to look into myself and become uncomfortable it's not an easy job and it's a it's it's not the convenient and it's not comfortable so this is what we're saying is coming that a yid nick needs to make a resolution once a year to make the hazzaza clothes and in this way this truth is very different so we're not looking at the true verb i you know i i spoke russian harder i didn't give enough to docker uh etc etc those are all details and important ones but here we're talking about the overall attitude does your paradigm change and what's the paradigm what's the paradigm be so that's what that ever said in the story that i just told you a moment ago in the there are no foreigners and strangers in the ideology and ethos of khabad la babbage even someone who is your own flesh and blood and someone who is you know kind of a friend of yours and that friend all of a sudden rebels and and does things that are not the way they should be you still need to be their friend wholeheartedly and i'll tell you a story it's my my master and i believe khan was in 770 and in in crown heights and he was the rebels crazy i i need not say what type of jewelry was i just wrote a page about him i've been writing about him for the last 5-10 years and i just published it it's called the rapier that episode and i urge you to read it anyway so i had a friend in crown heights very bright and probably gifted someone i grew up with and you know i went out on schlitz and he did this and that i don't want i don't want to go into any details because you'll figure out who it is and it's private but the bottom line is the bottom line is i he he became a little more modern and it bothered me he was a good friend and i didn't know what to do so my gut reaction first was i gotta i gotta pull this guy over and say hey jerk who you playing around with you you know you know you come from a prominent chabad family you come from generations of from jews you are gifted you were star student we ate the same kash of time we grew up together what are you doing stop the nonsense but before i did that i decided to ask rabbi yo advice because he's the mashbiya so rabjoel told me and he knew who he was very well and he said to me zognesh came vert don't say a word and this was very surprising because you're not talking about you know you're not talking about someone who was weak and someone who you know who was going to become non-religious from me giving it to him you know what i'm saying and abjoyl still told me only positive and i'm talking i'm going back now probably 30 years a long time long time ago and i saw that the bjo's advice was very very right on he he dropped the modernity and he became back came back to himself so you know today i'm sure everyone knows and is most concerned about the future the youth us old geezers if i may be so blunt you know i see the fabregas some people with white beards penny herman's already an old sucking you compared to the guys the young guys with the with the black beards and and and and moritz's son jason and some of his friends over there you know and the truth is that it's very important for everyone to grow but we have to make it a douglas emphasis on the youth because that's the future and that's what we elders you know should invest in and and and this is um this is the call of the hour and i want to i want to share historically show you historically that this was the case and this put khabad la babbage on the map you know lubavitch khabar comes from russia rabbi it came his parents his grandparents that whole you know they're all they're all russians okay and they were about to see them from generations and and storms see them they come to america they went through a holocaust they went through stalin maximum they went through ravages starvation you know being shot and killed i mean devastation you know today's rabbits and ghana's yardside her husband yitzchak levick that his father you know he died you know in golis and that expressed himself with such pain about his father it's a reality you can you can fantasize whatever you want but that's the matsias that's the fantasy that's the reality so we paid our dues russian le bavajo see them paid their dues heavily they come to america and there are a few elders that are still around and made it to america before and then we have some that got to france or from france they came to ergis row or to america to australia a little bit here a little bit there and so and some of them settle in quran hi it's great they're tired they're tired comes a long hour in 1950 and he becomes at 48 years old he's a young man relatively speaking he has people who are 20 to 25 years older than him around him and all of a sudden he initiates in the 1950s to review citizens in this in the in the schools and the list goes on and on and on and he starts if he does sin three times a week and all night i mean like who are you gonna work with and you know and you know who he worked with the young marrieds and the bacharam yes the guidance of the elders what was there and it you know it look it looks good on a picture when you have the rabbit of a brain and behind the red but you have the white beards but who are the foot soldiers what we call the amshay moisha the men of moshe the ones walking in the field were the youth the bakrim and the younger light and they they went with the rebel 101 and they and they said in a way they kind of rebelled against their parents and grandparents i mean rebelled in the sense that we're not tired we're not tired we are going to do what this rabbit wants and we're going to create what we have today so everything that we have today barack hashem a community like yours which is a an example a real dogma of a shining community what khabad labavich has done and does in in the world it's it's mama's a showcase hashem but you have to know that historically it began somewhere so that shalom poisoner comes you know the fleeting kid ever sends him and before that a muttle all time i sit with the label old-timers schuler's father and muttle would come and i spent a lot of time and i wrote down things and he told me his humble beginnings in pittsburgh do you know about his humble beginning when he came he basically becomes a hussan and the frida kahrabi tells him i want you to go to uh to pittsburgh so he says okay that i'll go after the utes kiss it was a day before you just kiss live the rabbit says no the frida kadab 19 i think 42 or 43 i believe one of those years and that ever says no tomorrow tomorrow morning but if you just kiss live your test is keys live ahead i need you in pittsburgh and the the the there was a shoe there i forget the name of the shoe that wanted they said they wrote that they were dying out you know the members and they wanted a young rabbi to come and invigor reinvigorate the situation so he comes by train to pittsburgh and no one's there to greet him at the train station he comes to the show that they told to go to and the garbage says what are you doing here he says i i was told that you want by the that you you want a younger rabbi he says we don't need you go back to new york you understand what kind of show of that it's your community pittsburgh that's the humble beginnings and then came to show him and then the others look him and and and look what you have today but it all began because of of rabbi old time at that time was a young man was born in 1919 so he was like 23 years old or so you know it was a young man and this was the free the cadet i'm talking about hour by 1950. so because this is a great opportunity uh for for a negan and i want to teach you a [ __ ] i don't know if it's going to come through on the screen but i'm sure abby it can knows the [ __ ] so after i teach it to you later at the fabrega maybe he can really teach it to you live and this is my version of the [ __ ] he might have heard it from see them a little differently but this is the way i put the [ __ ] together in my in my mind it goes like this the words are in russian or ukrainian i'm not a russian or ukrainian so i can't tell you which language anyway this is it repco [Music] i love krepka i love my service very much history of the song the czar falls the guerrilla warfare begins every single group has a general and they're fighting for the villages after a good day's plunging and killing and working what do they do they go into the tavern to the crechema to the bar and they get themselves shaken and they sing luba luba luba that's the way the metal foot of us used to sing it and say it but i heard it's my father heard it from others and i believe that this is a good version for americans for us can we say rafael isenberg you left borough park for pittsburgh you have to ask yourself the question can you say lubil i really love my job so much and referral we're not talking about being a hasidic artist which i'm sure you love because you're from the best okay and you knew handle fatter handle mental foot of us brother was a facility artist and you you you spent time in crown heights with the rebels see them great but means can do i really love my job as serving hashem and when things go great and everything is valdic then we say of course i love being a yidd i love being the hostage but if crossfish show them there's a curveball thrown at you and what happens in iran or in serve side etc etc then you ask yourself do i really love my job and the negan reflects the the question the debate now listen how the first part of digging is a question listen to my voice that's a yearning of a question do i really love my job [Music] yes again do i really love my job and then we have two items [Music] which means sometimes i do sometimes i don't but then comes the second eye to the eye where the voice goes up and deep we call that in victory [Music] one two three i definitely love my job and why because i have an ashama amayit bayun's is nato came from the you got it so it's it's it's it's a ninja when you sing it together there was a group that came to the oil from potomac and i taught them the negan and for a year they were singing and looking at their kids from every shabbos so here we have hashem and amashbiya over there rabbi hitkin and incorporate this [ __ ] with a lit especially with a little then you guys are gonna fly you're gonna fly spiritually and you're gonna really really come to to to death to more depth i want to finish with one more vert and and then you know continue on your own this is a vert i heard from a mendel the man who happens to be my wife my wife's great uncle and mendel said the following i had the conversation with him and it's even recorded in a dvd if you haven't seen it with subtitles in english so it's worth looking at you know he came to my house in california with rabbi reichik and they spent overnight and a lot to say about that one night and experience and the morning very interesting but anyway so the mantle says like this listen to this vert it's it's it's it's a life lesson listen to this he says like this is in english if a person loses his money he had wealth he had money and for whatever reason he lost his money he's still a human being you can start again it's not comfortable it's not easy but it's as we say in hebrew mice and the whole image happens every day you're on top of this of the circle and you're the bottom of the circle and khaizr khalilah goes back up and down right so you're still a human mensch what if a person god forbid loses their health they're not well physically health wise says that mendel is at a halberman he is only a half of a human being because his health has been impacted and then he said and if a person loses his drive is an ice mensch is a nit king mensch if you lose your drive you've lost your humanity so we have money health and the drive even health if god forbid something it doesn't have good health but they have a drive they will continue rabbi avram dr twersky from your community told me when i interviewed him many years ago that he did hypnosis and we know that eva was not for that but when i'm not going into that discussion but he did do hypnosis with people and he told me he during the hypnotic state people who were never yet patients they had that illness which we don't like saying they were very sick but when they were for those few moments he told me in the hypnotic state he actually saw a relief of tension and pain and they felt better for a few moments the drive the drug case over there is through hypnosis and i don't want to go into you know a discussion how do you have a drive if you're in hypnotic state and i don't want to go into that now but the drive of a person is ultimately what we need so this year kipper you got 24 26 hours don't rush i'm sure you hit this forever it killed don't rush don't worry let the congregation do their job and daven and and everything and you darvin at your speed take a paragraph or two reflect on it think about your life think about where you are and where you can be and remember your drive is genuine and your drive is there now it's a matter of augmenting that drive accessing that drive crystallizing that drive and if you have your drive you'll make back your health and you'll make back your money and the hustlers show them you don't access your drive it's a real problem so the the the i wish uh dr moritz and that he should have uh a healthy 25th birthday he's a young man he should have the kayak to raise his his kinder side and the whole community should grow together as hawaii and and bring more people in and to bring together you should know the hasidis i'm sure you've heard this rabbi hitkin and others 10 times i'm just just speaking out loud you know you could have shi urim and and learn and you need to but the hasidis is what it what brings it all together that mendel used to say another vert which i'm sure you've heard but i'll say it again remember said like this [Music] hasidic learning a good learning of hasidis it it it boils itself it boils it it becomes expressed in what in a hasidis is [Music] is the top okay and it's you know it's such an unknown secret if developed both the cassidy belt and the lit fisher built and the modern orthodox world and the non-observant will if they would use this tool of hasidis more and more um the the the the stock this the jewish stock value would go up go up and that's what we need more cities to help we shall have a maximum children and grandchildren where are you nicole where are you i want to see your face what do you say now i already finished my russia now it's your turn what do you say all right actually you spoke about what my uh my uh speech was going to be i ivy i'm gonna i'm gonna tie it into what you would say with this original story about what the brother said and said she's not a stranger and i'm going to tie it in that actually the youth nowadays they are ahead of us they are ahead of us which is a good thing which is a good thing so i mean i'm in a teaching hospital so i get to see a lot of medical students from the younger generation and the younger generation they are very in tune with equity and how people are treated and how people are spoken to it's like a very it's a very big thing and we sort of make fun of them about that we sort of now changed the words that they're using people are mocking the government you can't say the word to say the world is homeless they're low income and there's other there's other words that they see our generation we mock that we laugh about because we laugh about that but it's not it's not it's not special it's not still it's not silly because these terms that we use are dehumanized yes we're dehumanizing terms when you say someone is a jerk that's dehumanized someone's an idiot they're lazy if you said what he said you know what he said didn't make sense but well you know so we're used to we're used to these kinds of terms but i remember we had those uh there was a professor unfortunately she got sick she had but i was at her um zoom party and someone and and she was very big about you know uh you know faculty leadership and getting people to use the right terms and whatnot and someone spoke about something that happened with her he was at a meeting and she was like a moderator at the meeting and he spoke and he said you know what when peop you know people who order this test people who do this they're idiots and she stopped them on the spot and she said he's saying he remembers what she said he said that he said you know you know people do that they're idiots and he's she stopped or he says we don't call people and you know and i think that's actually what the rebel was saying you know we don't dehumanize people we don't we don't label people that's not who they are and we're it's something that it's ingrained in us it's something that we do it's something we're used to doing but the culture is sort of changing and the younger generation is is sensitive to that and doesn't allow that we make fun of them when you know when we say something we use certain terms and they sort of you know correct us or they sort of get you know rustled you know we're very used to it but the rebel never did that and the rebel was was particular about correcting people and the rebel was particular about editing people's words and taking out you know terms like that and i think the are very ahead of that i think the rapper would be in favor of you know these changes that are happening which are which are for the better and to not they're not going to be using dehumanizing terms and not to be using terms that uh label something and uh i'm i'm personally i'm trying to change and not you know and not to do that not to use terms like that because when something happens instead of having to to deal with the problem instead of having to confront it instead of having a current trumpet person it's easier if you just label them it's easier if you just dehumanize them it's easier if you just come up with the term you know to do that and sort of you know to negate who they are instead of instead of confronting their behavior or what they said or what exactly it is that that bothered you and this young person doesn't agree with that which is okay so now let's have you say how many times in your life well i speak i speak with him at least twice a year okay but i'm asking do you have his hazard mimer in english part of a mind but you review a mimer for the anas yes yes i do excellent continue doing that continue doing that and um everyone should learn that from you to very important very very important because this is the bedrock of chabad my mercedes at sudhi's time kudos to you and now the master is right here jesse silverman he does it almost every week okay well i'm sure he'll want to share the wealth with some of the other balabatim and anash and more and more people should do it but meanwhile zygozoom and have a bench everyone marximate thank you for the opportunity okay