Unhealthy Urges: Giving Charity beyond the norm removes them - Igeres HaKodesh 12d- RC Dalfin

so good day we're holding Ines chapter 12 page 236 this is the fourth of Fourth of for shm on this chapter we're going a little slower this way we could talk out more ideas and discuss more things so the AL in yesterday's she began explaining to us the difference between and the act of and the work of and briefly said that is is limited in other words it you have to give s how much what all those details going and even if you go a little Beyond but it's Soul within a certain framework is associated with the idea of transcending breaking out now I didn't explain yesterday but I'll share this now a when you say the word a the first thing that comes to mind in is which is brought in many discourses my refine refinement of of the tan of the Skins Tannery a tanning the in the sense not tanning the skin but you know ref taking a a piece of raw hiy and making of it parchment for muza Forin that process takes a lot of effort especially in the old days for sure and guess what when you did it you walked away with not a pleasant smell you know sometimes you see someone who's a plumber or electrician you look at their hands during the week and it's not exactly as clean as it should be well because they're not they're involved in you know grease and oils and then pipes and Schmutz it's um it's it's work avoid is work there is no y there's no shortcuts to avoid anyone who expects a short cut to Ava is is not doing Ava it doesn't exist you know I'll just say let's say iser is a physician right so maybe today he can come into his office and kind of uh you know give a diagnosis and give a prescription and go on I'm I'm not talking about um all the people he deals with which is a big aid but we forget that he sat for years in medical school he was up nights he shited right I told you I had a friend who was in medical school in the early 80s when I was in Marist toown and he wanted to learn with me he would come with his scrubs into the Yeshiva Marist toown from B Park he was you know having his residency as in Bor Park my Mones he drove all the way to marown and he came in his like we all looked at him like and he came to learn it's hard you don't sleep you this so a yes so later on you say well he's a doctor he makes a you know nice nice living and it's he just has to speak and he what does he have to do and he can come with his nice car and he can park whatever don't realize how much went into it a to accomplish is a there's a famous saying in the name of the you like this said anything that comes easy to a person run the other way it's not saying you know worked through it's not really it hasn't been you haven't sold and plowed you haven't plowed the field you drop a few seats on a field and you haven't plowed it it ain't getting it's not going anywhere a is is rich rich because it's real man it's real work you're a man you're not just a a wimp okay someone who gets thing easy they're a wimp someone who works hard that's that's a man that's a person the AL employs this concept of here so when you learn that is when you when when you when before you in go into the Nuance the the details right away we're talking about some aspect OFA that's beyond the norm and that's what Al says indeed it is and that's why it's kind of it won't be fully revealed till mhia comes but nevertheless we can and should taste it during our lifetime when when we give Seda to a poor person we need to give to and yesterday Hill asked us about you know does he have to give every time asks him for money if he gave him yesterday I'm sure you have this in the Caro and every Sho you have it in every Sho right over and over the same faces I gave you yesterday like what are you back today again again again again so today never brought give shall you give says may upon me even a 100 times you hear that 100 days in a row a will come into the and ask you for you really want to say hey get a job you know no hold yourself back give him have some coins gift try try to do that so let's go now to page 236 and let's uh learn inside the text oh so the last thing said was that the which brings shom can be experienced during daving what happens during daving during I'm a nice boy I'm a good boy my Y is is asleep you're not asleep now wake up smell the coffee thear goes to sleep during daving why because the Y are the is in control what happens after daving to use a a term used in it resurfaces because it never was eliminated the urge is always there the ti is there so now let's look at the LI about 10 12 lines in the body after the period on page 236 the second level of which is the level of in in a manner of of work God since it is precious and great Mya its quality very much so because a person during that experience a nose not only subjugate but a nose completely their nature and their will what's natural for them we discussed that yesterday the physical bodily nature and will for what does want know it for God's Will's will and the person subjugates the extru side the negative side the theer and by doing that you hear that what is revealed is the preciousness of Hashem his over here doesn't mean milus removal but it means re it appears it reveals itself in the m b learns he brings there the the and he explains that yic is also means at certain places the revelation of a greater right employs it over here as well that when we know our will to the will of Hashem we break our nature we we go beyond our nature this reveals a higher level of God a more Godly experience called the preciousness of God is revealed it's known as the advantage to light coming from Darkness Masha normally you have light you have Darkness you have a room that's dark you bring a candle in you turn on the lights that's not what we mean cuz that light is not coming from the darkness it's being added imposed upon the darkness there is advantage to a certain type of light that's created from the problem from the darkness you understand y That's the greatest type of accomplishment is when someone has an issue that they dealt with and they they struggled with and they failed and they don't give up and they and they find the way to turn that around that's real light that's a light that's says that this light this qualitatively it's a different light it's a different category it's not in the same category of someone who has light in their life they brought light into their life whoopy okay but to take darkness and to change Darkness into light that's a that's a no let's continue this is what I said earlier nevertheless the bed can still resurface easily May on its own all of a sudden you're standing and waiting for the bus and you have all kinds of inappropriate thoughts what happened over here Rock um I say a no I'm sorry I made a mistake when we experience this analment of your of our will our nature to God the the the the evil won't resurface on its own remember the first level of which is compos shom is analogous to during daving when you put to sleep the the but right after DAV Us in chapter 12 in the first section it resurface here he says the second level of that you won't have unless guess what you slep upon yourself you bring upon yourself the narish kite the there is no way to stop that you hear that a person can always look what he says UMO you can arouse and draw down this negativity upon yourself God forbid s this level s that level if you right that's what he says but if bereft of that on its own you've eliminated it because you your will to God's will explains the difference between the two latter parts of the of the verse right it says tranquility and shity is eternal says the it rests peacefully on the sediment the and he explains it's talking about now a barrel of wine where you have this the siment you know from the from the uh the Schmutz of the wine of the graves the the the thez is separated completely from the Y wine Falls below all the way the bottom of the barrel and the wine remains on top pure in the ultimate way right using this as an analogy so too it's regarding the what we call the work the the sediment theas the garbage of the wine is analogous to the mixture of bed within ourselves it will become refined and separated a little at a time until it all falls to the barrel of bottle top of page first line which means the ne will return to its source and the siment and the the and the garbage will be thrown to the depths of the waters all their sin this is a verse which was a support verse for right why is bring it over here what's his point his point is that accomplishes that the ra is nred from the to okay so let let's break this down let's review it in the in the first level of s all you have is shom what does shom mean shom means there's a war between good evil between fire and water and we're going to bring peace okay right but even after you bring peace between the two they still are fire and water then he explains that in in in in in Practical a person's practical day that would be analogous to daving when you're in the mode of is right and you're having a good davening you're able to reflect and and and be be into your ding it's like show them it's like it's it's it's okay the Y you got the Yates out while you're ding but boy do we know as we come home and we sit down to eat and we see all this food and we're starving what happens with our daving it goes out the window and then as the day goes on we have the pressures and we get nervous and sometimes we embarrass someone sometimes we we don't smile on and on and on right in other words the is mixed into the Tove it's not n it's not separated from the good then there's the the second level here it says it's Everlasting tranquility and peace how is that that is that when you want when you break out you break out from your nature as we discussed earlier in the chapter and you go beyond your comfort zone then on its own the ra the bad the evil is separated from the good analogous to a barrel of wine Yi in which the in which the uh the uh the S sentiment is at the bottom and on top you have good wine it's two separate things it's there and at the bottom so the same is true until mhia comes there's clip in the world okay everyone we must know that there's no such thing that there isn't clip in the world there is negativity there is bad in the world but it has nothing to do with me why because if I can give TOA breaking my nature that that that I'm showing myself and showing Hashem and Hashem likes what he sees you're breaking your nature you're going beyond the natural phenomenon Hashem says that that causes that shows me that you're a control and you're not controlled by your Yates or har nevertheless the Y still exists that's why the ultimate of this is Mia comes but when the AL cites the and he explains here the of causes Everlasting tranquility and peace what's theot theot is that this is because you broke loose and uh just to you know to conclude in this this idea how important it is and in a way and difficult let's not kid ourselves it's difficult to do giving act you could do we do but imagine every time you give TOA you feel it's hard for me I don't want to and you do it the when it's easier for me I like this organization I like this person I will have to give s today I'm okay so you're giving Saka but that's in the comfort zone the trick is the Kish is the novelty this is the this is why this he get us important is to really go beyond the norm so in other words if you're giving or helping within the realm of normality and comfortability you're not yet at you're and trust me it's a good beginning but we need to reach and especially the the whole the brought to yish to Judaism to Orthodoxy to the lit foox right the B brought the whole idea of in a way that maybe you're uncomfortable but you do it anyway you understand that that you know what I'm saying and and it's not fair to say my is your each and every one of us has a different one thing's for sure sure when we put our on in the morning we we have an Al or we even sitting by a Kish and we have some CH Kush cou right ask yourself am I having this because I'm just hungry or am I somehow going to make that experience Stand Out be you know break through so yes I'm going to eat it and it tastes good and I'm hungry and I'm whatever number one if you if you think of of of that while you're you're hungry and at to this sh for example you're going to eat more relaxed you're going to eat more as a a real ye you know even when you're hungry that's number one but number two the sacrifice is there you won't you know o how I have to have that last piece of cougle let let someone else take it I'll have something else or I'll come home and I'll have and the same is so when when you talk about sedoka it's hard to like we spoke about early to give always the same people and the same thing and and all of that and they say how could this be and this we have thoughts say this is a lady gay orar doesn't work for a living I remind myself I was in Los Angeles and your wife Z this uh area over there and U there's a Sho it's aabad Sho is called congregation Le that's the kabat in laa today son is the the in my days it was well not in my days but later RAB shim his father passed away the raichik family s was still in 1949 for the so um so in in in in that Sho the there all kinds of uh characters everyone comes in you know and it's next door to the Hungarian Sho to m a m a is the corner of Oakwood and Lake librea it's a big building and it's you know Hungarian money it's a beautiful building and all that and kabad is the the the satellite building to which was used I think for Kim and social events kabad bought it because a by name of um barel Weiss Han was a very big b and Mish oldtime B he gave when he didn't have you know counting on this is going to come in and that Mish and I and I spent some time with him and I remember there were times just to observe and see this man in action how he dealt with st there were times when people came to him and he really let them have it he says you know like you're you're you're like a lady gay or you don't do anything get a job get a life make some money and nevertheless he gave him the money I saw that you know he cursed him out he gave him a good portion which he needed to hear but it didn't stop him from giving I saw it I saw it once twice three times in other words he felt that you know it's important for the person do some work that just don't run run around collecting you know but nevertheless you're asking and you need I'm giving I'm giving you hang around I'm sure that's Isel I'm sure in your community maybe your shs you know you find one two people you know you find usually who are really B Soka to learn from them where they don't you know they don't uh challenge the person oh you were here and this and that and you have you know but they they give freely shabas shabas besides khek of course is a month inab we had which was The Other Day celebrated and then there's Tess the birthday yard side and and Liberation from jail of the M Reb the second Reb and then on the 14th of K was the Reb's marriage in 1928 in Warsaw and then of course Utes live which is the the so it's it's a very month um and and then there which is about oil and light and that's also associated with the concept of sheman anyway so it's it's the shab you know these shab that come up you sit in the make it meaningful you know make it meaningful if you bu aish make a little and say a ver you don't have to be a rabbi to say a ver you know um and you'll be surprised many times people listen better and walk away with something better than the rabbi say for whatever reason a rabbi sometimes goes on and on and on whatever it's not a game don't discount the ability of of of a congregant and and and take that personal right take that personal responsibility there's going to be a kidish today usually people just run and eat and they run out I'm going to ask a few of my buddies let's stay for an extra 5 10 minutes sing a nigan say a ver and then you you make the shabas more more kadic have a great chabas every Monday M have a great shabas thank you thank you bye-bye bye bye Y and everyone else take care