Unclogging Your Mind and Heart - Rabbi Dalfin

okay let's uh just do a brief recap we're in the middle of discussing and we ended actually with a powerful line that avi sent me clay reika marcik play molly in a massive uses this phrase that's brought in the gemara i believe and used in khazal to address the reason why we we we many times aren't able to understand a godly thought and surely not meditate in a godly way the rabbit said these words and he used the words tim tom hammo and we use the word yes if the clogging of the of the mind and the heart this is a big sugya this is a big discussion both in musser and in hasidis and i would say probably muslim it's even a greater discussion than hasidis but in a different way so what i'm going to tell you now is is relevant to the text of muslim facilities although here he doesn't get into it as much he's very brief but he's alluding to a lot of concepts and basically in musa it says that the more you indulge in gashmis the more you're immersed in gashmius even if the usage of gas gas mias is sanctioned and kosher and okay the fact is that it um it jades you the alta rebbe in chapter 23 i believe of tanya says it in his chabad language he says over there through ali through much use of the body using your goof so much jades you it coarsens you by osmosis it you know avi mentioned and i and i know also from my own work sitting on this chair and writing for 20 years makes you heavier because you don't get up a lot that's a fact of life no one can disagree with that but my intent is not to become bigger my intent is i have to write and i my wife says you know get out get on to the um the the the bicycle you know and and and do that i can't write that way i can't think that way for me you know this is good although there was a time when i was walking by the water about 15 years ago when i would review my urim that i had to give to my students and i remember it was great i literally walked by the shore road by you know by uh over there by the water it's not far from borough park it's the end over there and i would review and i remember i went through a lot a mental process and it was it was great you know but it was it was hard both the walk was hard i walked like two three miles i i walked i walked and walked uh you know under there and i hit i went i finally got under the rosano narrows and i said hashem what happens the bridge opens it collapses on me and you have all these thoughts and then you walk back and but it's it's it's tough it's a it's a lot of work so is anyone gonna say yell me that that i i'm sitting here because because i want to become bigger no i don't want to become bigger i want to become skinnier but the fact is that when you use gosh me as just for for good things gosh me as coarse as you that that's that's the way it is and it takes work and effort to use gas mias and not be impacted by gas mias you know like this is something you always like talking about and yoni you know a neighbor of mine he's marrying off a son so he told me i gave him a ride the other day so he says to me i had to spend 15 to 17 thousand dollars on jewelry for the color i i wanted to stop the car and throw him out and he's a friend a neighbor i mean like are you are you sure what is with you and he says and what what are you doing what do you guys do i said well you know the most would give us a fifteen hundred dollars for jewelry that's that's that was the tradition before covet and even that's a lot but the point the the the gosh me is so there is and he doesn't look at it as indulgence this is an expected issue in the community just like the many people come here to ask for money for america's role you know and and and yeah and what do you need the money for people so i have to buy an apartment that's part of the system so i don't want to continue on this this question i want to get back to the miner the point i'm making avi is the altar says when you use something more and more rov wrote more and more it coarsens you so the muslims farm speak about it dr ebba speaks about it very briefly and ultimately when a person who's serious a person who's learning for 44 years a person who went to yeshiva and a person who wants to grow in their yiddish kite and their avoidance hashem and they and they try to understand the godly concept i'm going to make it clear godly concept doesn't mean a tasteless of course it also means a toy swiss a toastmaster's godly of course but god comes because i want to understand how god creates the world yes my ex nilo what's the difference between cause and effect and ex nilo i mean that's that's a whole parasite i want to understand the vasantov's deeper meaning of i want to understand protest in its very the difference between the rambam's view of protest and earlier and earlier philos jewish philosophers i mean these are you know godly concepts because you're swimming in godliness you're trying to understand the way god thinks and you want to bring that into your mind for that for that you need to be able to focus and concentrate and ultimately become like glued and attached to goggles that like you can't sleep at night like you're barely waiting to get up you got to jump to the mimer you got to jump to the thought you know so the rapper says here the frida kadabra says that when a person is marbec fight basically even if he does you know how we say my wife wants this we blame the wife my wife wants it my wife wants not me no no i i wouldn't have the wall-to-wall carpet i wouldn't have um the uh yo nikki do me a favor moshe myers wants the password it's dolph and send it to him because i'm teaching now so thank you so uh abby um i it's not me it's my wife so that says stop kidding yourself it's you okay because isha shayna i said it you know that means a kosher woman does the will of her of her husband ishak shayna oyster in bailor so you know what says avi that um that that the the the bow the husband creates the the the the rut zone by the wife b and then she's the ishaq shayra in other words if if there's real union real togetherness and understanding between the husband and the wife between the spouses then the will of the husband is communicated automatically in a way to the woman and she does it and that's why she's an issue it's not the literal meaning but it's it's the deeper meaning so what's the point so why do we have tim too the answer why we have tim tom is because we are pursuing only our bodily needs and others bodily needs and it's all about what we need says that ebba then you're a clay molly and they're my maramavi which speaks about the prosecution there shouldn't be a baron woman and a woman that cannot give birth in your country what does it mean to be barren and can't give birth you cannot generate a feeling of love and offer hashem you try meditating you try learning and you don't have that feeling you're a nakora an akora means a woman who's barren what does it mean barren you cannot you can't you don't have that feeling you try you try what's the reason because and the rabbit says an amazing thing in a mimer that he said pasha's spot in 1952 you can find the mind where you should learn it it's a wonderful mimer rabbit says at the beginning of the ver mira begins lothian shaquille of it was towards the last day of his life and he said aina yodeya i don't know where they're going to take me to donating or the opposite all the commentators here only ask a question he doesn't know if anyone should know it's him and what's the question he's been learning day and night he's a leader a sage what do you mean if anyone knows he knows so there are many ways of looking at the gomorrah the way the rebels said in this mimer is a wonderful way the rebels said knew he had a mission to be a jewish leader he knew he had a mission to be a jewish teacher he knew he had a mission that was that that required him to dedicate to others so he never took a moment to think about himself thinking that if he does think about himself during his lifetime he's taking away a moment that he should be dedicated to others and that's the greatest rebellion you hear that when you think about yourself and you're supposed to be thinking about others it's a rebellion it's a marita and the rebel when he said this he became very emotional and he cried and he broke down and choked he couldn't talk i heard from people who were there at 770. it was very very and and the rebels said vasmirave yiddish why do i need love vasmikiro why do i need fear why do i need rotson will why do i need taino those four things meaning love for god fear for god will for god and pleasure for hashem if if any of these things are about self on any level it's a contradiction to the mission and the bureaucracy realized that throughout his life so he never thought about himself it came yeah i'll be the last day of his life when the torah that shulhan says you have to make a husband and a fish you're gonna pass on today so now it's time to say vidui and ask yourself what did i do all my life and if there's anything i didn't do i'm asking you hashem to forgive me and give me a clean slate and let me go into gunaiden so then he was obligated to make a husband so at that time he asked the question i don't know where i'm going i don't know i'm going because i was busy all my life so i never had a moment to to ponder to ponder and the fact that he gave himself away for it nevertheless according to tara you have to make a husband on the last day of your life this is a beautiful explanation that the rabbit gives to this question why is it relevant to us because clay moley a name clay raycon massive we have to work on being more and more clay raycon you know you know you know i'm going to say it even though you know avi's here but that's fine you know he's he's been learning 44 years and and he's humble about it you know he's humble why because he realizes i there's so much more to learn and there's so much more that i didn't get a chance to do in my youth so although you're learning for 44 years it's nothing it's nothing and guess what even someone is learning all his life compared to torah's infinite so hasidis has this uh expression everything in comparison to the essence of hashem osha everything in comparison to the essence of hashem is nothing the angels are yoni was asking yesterday about the malachi the angels are nothing the souls are nothing the stars are nothing the moon is nothing nada why hashem the essence oh the essence is enlightened this attitude makes you more and more of a clay raycon and when you're a clay raycon then you're able to perceive to get the godly concept then you won't have tim tim another point avi and tim tamalev are two separate issues right means the cup is for stopped the cup don't get it tim to malev means the hearts the heart doesn't feel and and and think about it we find something people that their cup is sharp but their heart is like a stone so you can have you you might not have tim tuma but the left is clogged the heart doesn't feel then yeah yes that that the the the heart that's first up it could be from food like not paulie swell or something like that hershey park yeah oh boy you're touching on raw nerves yeah yeah how do you know about that that the the story with the chernobyl the the the abnormal someone came to him and he said reverend it's ken island if a stainless so they always attribute this uh he says i i don't i don't i'm not mock business if i have holidays well of course i'll you so that's a story they attribute to her to it's interesting since you mentioned it the what what'd you say the rebbe the rabbit um in the early years pushed lebavatus who were various cities that's a cleveland cleveland that tells yeshiva was in cleveland from the early 40s but you know they didn't have hold of israel no one had called these shows it was a very hard thing to get so you know they people were they lit for sure goddamn were more makel or more makel i don't i don't even say i wouldn't even call it mako it'll be just they didn't have it right and it's not tray if it's called of stone then in the early fifties a few of the barbecues got to cleveland to live there and that ever spoke to them even to one of the wives to work together with the the robotning the lit fisher abundant the vad of the of the community and to get call of his role in and they did it and they boiled that the cleveland yeshiva and the cleveland community had access to hall of israel so quietly without kind of making a uh oh you're drinking call of akum and you know why they you know that wasn't the approach but quietly the rebbe encouraged them to really work on bringing call of duty so you mentioned call of israel as an attempt but that yoni that's true what you're saying is true but i'm talking about let's say someone who drinks call of duty israel called israel not call of stone and still the mind is clogged the mind is first stopped right so what i'm saying is that that there's a reason for it so you have but it's two things it's two separate things they don't they don't necessarily go together in other words like this can you have tim tum hamoach without him to my left can you feel something genuinely moshe in your heart but up here it doesn't register the answer is yes you can you can there are people that their heart is very awake and alert and and very uh fresh and they relate to torah to hashem to others in a very heartful way you know um you you must have seen and experienced people who are very jolly and very happy and when they hear when they when they learn or they hear a rabbi i was saying you know in the beginning he heard classes you hear rabbi say this and that you get inspired and you say i want to do it you don't really understand much of what's being said and you didn't learn about it you're not studied but you're turned on emotionally so there can be a a a a a heartfelt turn on of of of good and and kedusha to hashem and to tita but nevertheless when you try understanding it there's a blockage so that's called tim tumamoah tim tu malev is when the heart doesn't feel and you do understand it i would say that and now i i can't say i was going to say that usually there's more tim hamoach leading to tim to malev i i don't know what's more or less but the point is it's two separate issues can they both work together yes unfortunately many times we're blessed with having tim tamaya acting to malev you know we don't understand we just don't get it we're not getting and again we're not talking about understanding a piece of a mimer or understanding a piece of gemara we're not talking about that okay that's not what we're talking about when we talk about temple we're talking about he says here look at his language over here he talks about um the oily key is burning the selly key there's two things he's not a vessel to receive the godly light or really key and number two he's not a vessel to to get the his brother in the silly key the godly meditation let's go on now page 403 the next paragraph excuse me any questions before we go on moshe the a cup a coast of salvation your choice yes i will lift up over shame hashem and at the very same time in the name of hashem ekra i will call so that's why you all know when you when you pick up your cup you go like this and you say the brahma so you're fulfilling what the verse says curse yeshua and by the way you know that when you start half dollar you hold the cup right when you get to the to the saying the words kaiser says you're supposed to lift it higher and then and then afterwards you drop it back down to the way it was before this way it's clear that you f you did kiss yeshua's essa a cup of salvation i will lift up okay that's a technical thing that we do and while we do that we say baruch hashem we make the brocco machem the name of hashem ekkara we call while we lift up the cup in order for that to be a coist what's a place a cup a cup is called cliquibul it's a vessel that receives of receiving la yeshuos you want this cup that you're lifting up to be a vessel to to be able to receive salvations yeshua's both bigashmirs in all aspects of material matter and spiritual matter how do you accomplish that who are you today it's through calling the name of hashem through learning taylor and davenick so this that ever is taking the literal uh verse and the ritual of abdullah and extrapolating it for all of taito mitzvahs right for all of tyra davening each time you're in the udavan you have an opportunity to lift up the cup and get more bracha to come in and each time you learn it's that way how do we do that says that ebb i'll give you some practical ways and remember it's 1931 the rebels on the way to marimban germany and he stops in warsaw and he says this mimer and if you know your history warsaw was a place full of eden but many of them were not religious assimilation was rampant and of course you had a lot of hasidic and literate jews there as well but but there was a lot of secularism too so that ever knew exactly what to say so what does he say you have to do they spot a little bit sibora that ever says you want your cup to be full of bracha the gosh means you have to dive in with a minion fellas when you're able to of course real able to meaning when kova doesn't stop you or the rabbis don't stop you the police don't stop you feel like i eat them later and set times to learn like you're doing in the coil now these words avi are short and brief you'll need very short and then your work malacha miss barefest is blessed you see when you the background the more the background you have you understand how in these few words there's a lot of a lot of information what's the information there is a gemara i think it's a gemara magilla don't quote me but i believe it's there and the rebel has a secret on this is your torah only mishta meres watched and guarded or is your torah also ms barres blessed what's the difference the difference is status quo versus increase is what you're doing good and therefore hashem will keep you good and safe where you are right now that's mr maris you're blessed means you're gonna get more not just you'll be status quo you're gonna get an increase so there's a discussion about this in the gemara the previous rabbit uses here the words for us this is my own thinking i didn't see this anywhere and possibly he's alluding to this idea that when you kiss yeshua you lift your cup through learning tata and davenink learning and diving with a minion and learning with set times in shiurim and otherwise not only are you watched by god and protected there'll be more bracha in your house there'll be more bracha in you in your pranasa there'll be more bracha into success with your children and after all you know how much we need the bracha why do we need the broker because it's a big world out there and there's a i i don't like using the you know the whole concept of the sahara it's not the way we were trained in chabad but nevertheless there's a lot of isms out there and a lot of mischief and and people in the name of tata and david are doing all kinds of things that are you know ridiculous and thank you i'm going to send you something someone sent me today okay yes it's about issues in the nine days i saw that you don't have to you don't have to send it to me i got it already listen listen i i i also had that reaction in the beginning however however seems very uh you know very weird and strange and like that's all you have what to talk about nothing more important but um you know there is um especially through the nine days we have to be malamaz i know it's hard we have to find favor and everyone's michigan we have to work on it it's it's not an easy avoider since i mentioned that there's a story avi with with a gilgal with a d book a very you know in 1970 to what we're talking about so the the rabbit told the secretaries he wants to wash at the fabrega normally rafa brengan he made a burrito priya goffin a shabbos mentions the seven types that are so was blessed with he does the first so when you have cake and wine in front of you besides kiddish which you're you're supposed to make the kiddish first unwind but during the week you sit down on your table you want to have some wine and you have some pasta there too according to aloha the pasta takes precedence over the wine because that because during the week there's no mix with the drink wine so you follow the the category the of of the seven kinds mentioned in the torah and eretz the word comes before geffen okay so he he makes the mizonos then he makes the hagufen that was the regular style at a weekday fabregan when he came he spoke to us during the week in 1974 it was a sunday night and he said he wants to wash this was very unusual so he but that he wants to watch is because in other words it was his mother's yard site but for the last nine years he made a brain on his mother's year outside which is the sixth of tishrei love tishrei in the asari mateshiva and he didn't wash why does he want to wash now so we thought the reason he wants to watch now is because is because it's 10 years and 10 years a milestone so to celebrate the 10 year anniversary yard site of his mother's pet custom by many on the yachts that her father and a mother they make us they make a asean so he may see him a message what does the gemara speak about at the end of sukkah i'm sure some of you learned it speaks about good neighbors and bad neighbors and it's relevant to all of us because we have neighbors and the kumara says if you have a shohan taif if you have a good shotgun it's good for you and good for your shotgun but if you have a bad choking it's no good for you and it's not good for them having a bad neighbor and the gemara brings a story with a woman named miriam the daughter of bilga miriam and one of their one of the oh and miriam went astray and she married a greek legioneer you know a soldier a general she went very far the romans came in and they destroyed the basa amigdas and it's coming up the tish above should be rebuilt from halomeno amen anyway so she goes over the place animals are roaming and foxing and she takes off her sandal sandal the gemara calls is lucas lucas look into the gamer you'll see the language and she takes her sandal and she bangs it i think on the leftover remnant of the mizbayach and she says lucas lucas you know she says how can how can you how can she if she looks to hashem says hashem how can you allow this to happen to our people the same woman who married out is beseeching hashem complaining how do you do this the gemara the gemara doesn't spin it that way the gemara says that because the gemara puts the emphasis on her sin that because she married out she was punished that not only she but her family received stale bread old let him upon him right the left upon him was weakly breast baked fresh but because of her sin not only was she punished but the rest of the family was punished so what do we see that that what you do has an impact on others so if you have a bad neighbor it impacts you that's the gemara's proof and with that the gemara concludes now the river asked the question we know a rule you're not aim assignment you don't finish something in torah and it was bad with no good did you know that whenever you conclude something and it applies by the way to uh learning you should always conclude with something positive don't go to sleep and don't go away for the from the book on the safer with a negative even something negative even from torah you know that sounds negative so the question is how could how how how how can the gemara sukkah conclude the entire attracted sukkah with the story which is negative came along to the baba janet in 1974 and did a 180 degree turn on everyone and he learned the gemara in the following way and he said look how righteous miriam the daughter of bilga is that although she went so far and she's married out she when she sees the desolation and the destruction of the basa amigdas she cries to hashem and says hashem what are you doing to your tower people so the rabbit basically saying that there's a positive positive message in the gemura so the gemara is not ending with something negative the gemara is ending with something positive two weeks later simplest tolerate the fabregas this was buff t-shirt the rebbe's mother's yard site two weeks later simcastora in 1974 the rapper spoke and he said during one of the talks i've been receiving letters and notes how could i have made such an interpretation in the gomorrah which is contrary to the shot there ever said i'll answer it with the story of the altar rip and the story of the altarebe is that someone came to the altar ebb and he says help me i have a guilty book in me i'm possessed by a roaming soul that's driving me mad spiritual schizophrenia inside me i can't live who am i the authentic said relax i'll tell you who you are and we'll get rid of it he didn't say those words but that's what he meant and he said you remember during the time of novi 2 000 years ago two jewish people got up it's recorded into avi i'm sure you know this and they murdered they stabbed skarya because he was about to utter a prophecy and the law is when the rambo passes when they when when a prophet says a prophecy it must be fulfilled and they were going to say and he was going to say a bad prophecy that the jews are sinning and they're going to have destruction and all that so they quickly ran and they stabbed him shut your mouth they killed them they went into a gilgal to the book they were punished for doing that came along the rabbit two thousand years later and said wait so the alternative said your soul my friend is one of those people and since you didn't really want to kill zaharia you only did it to save the jews from having a bad experience i'm being malama's horse it's called i'm being meritorious and the altar ever said and guess what he walked out to me out forever he felt like a new man the book left him the rebels quoted this story regarding miriam bus bilga put two and two together miriam bus bilga was waiting for two thousand years for the rebel to speak about this on the yard side of his mother she's a woman and miriam's a woman so biscuits the rabbit's mother miriam buzz bilga who was hovering in a dibble for 2000 years was released and then what's hosts in the schools of being malamazus this is a long answer to yoni's not answer a response to yoni's comment motion which you missed about the rabbi in flatbush giving a fear if you're allowed to use tissues during the nine days so you know it sounds it's on the internet now and everyone's laughing about it like you have nothing better to so i told you we have to be malamba's host during the nine days and i really mean it after muhammad's course it's hard many times but this story with miriam bus bill good i wrote about this i wrote a book once called soul journeys about reincarnation of different soul experiences and and i quote and i wrote up this story because it's such an important one okay and it came from the rebel really you know to see that if you in other words this you know they say over the cuff it's hayam and hanavasserman in the 1930s took out a book you guys are aware of that story i'm not going to get into it now there's a very famous story the whole artificial world talks about and when they talk about removing the book they refer back to the khafiz khayyam and and either the 20s or 30s right how did they do it they gathered people together they said tell him and and they cried and and i pointed out the rabbit didn't do that the rebbe suggested we'd be malama the power of malamad's is so powerful that you can even take out a dybbuk so you don't have to cry you don't have to say dylan not that those are bad ways customers show them but again you see the rebbe's angle the khabar approach to an indian of taking out of the book such a difficult process because in kabbalah rabbi david botswan and i was involved with that by by interviewing the lady i told you in damona she had a book in her and he got to see what he did to gather 100 people in the room and they were crying and blowing strafer and making noise and she falls off the couch and she first speaking she sounds like a like a woman like a man in a woman's body and it's scary and freaky and he and he and the others took out the book and i interviewed him for 45 minutes and i spoke to others to authenticate what happened here and finally i got to her i found her she was in the skies and under but i found her i found her but that's a kabbalah approach then comes the lit approach from the prophet and and and then a very holy one a good one and then comes the lupovic approach the rebels approach can go so far and today we need more and more we'll finish the mimer next week um zaika zone have a great shabbos it's shabbos kazooie and the emphasis of the rebel he said was the position will be redeemed is torah the chavez emphasize the importance these days to learn extra tata and to give extra tadaka hashem should help each and every one of us we should experience it we should do this and see the ghoul of slavery take care thank you