Tribute Reb Yoel Kahan #1 - Warm Heart - Doing a Favor for Another - Shabbos Table Conversations

this is a very hard uh tribute to make because rabiot was a personal rebbe khasid's teacher mashabia and in a way a friend although i'm so much younger than him but his his his care his love his havas his goodness his good heart felt like he was a friend there's so much to say about this unique person literally a person who was blessed in all aspects of mind heart and practice and many people know about his phenomenal memory being the heiser of the rabbi remembering all the secrets and all the my mother from the first day when the rebel began sharing his holy mouth of tita with claudius roe after the historicals the passing of the fleet of cadet in january 1950 already recorded even though he came after the shiva he arrived in america but he was the one who recorded the stories that emma said during shiva which he heard from others and that ever approved them and they were later printed for eternity so from that day on his he was recording the rabbis tata and biscuit in his merit we have so much of the devastator today all of the devastated much of the demonstrator that's one aspect his his memory then there is his havana his understanding his death and his depth his hammock and of course who could forget his husband tremendous way of explaining things if i may so may say so i don't believe anyone else had a better house butter than him to explain hasidis to all especially to young budding minds teenagers high school students mrs and nan la baba check see them to be able to do brain surgery to go in to your mind and to show you how you might think this is the explanation why it should be so-and-so and he would show you know why that is not the way to understand it properly and specifically in another way and we can spend hours hours hours talking about all that and it's all true but i want to talk about the time five to six years that i spent as a student from 1978 to 1984 hanging out with him spending time with him eating privately with him and his wife rabbits and leia at his house walking down kingston avenue taking us a half an hour to go from his house on montgomery to 770 because every few steps he would stop and explain something else talk about something else and respond to something else and i had many many conversations with him not just in in hasidis trying to understand hasidis you know and he explained it and and this way in that way but also about the current events of the time both in lubavitch and outside of the bavaj we discussed that too he shared his views and he shared the way to go about understanding an issue and that you might say was another major accomplishment of his along the lines of the brain surgery that i told you about a moment ago it included teaching the student how to think and that is so important and it's very very seldom that you have a teacher who actually does that that's a real good teacher and he excelled in that area teaching us how to think and again not only in thought related ideas of intellectual i in the end in the intellectual realm but also in the emotional realm in the practical realm how to assess a situation but that's also not what i want to talk about what i want to talk about and share is the shabbos table that i married it being at many times and what i saw there and this will be the first of two parts it's hashem the respect that i saw between him and his wife was phenomenal for example whenever his wife brought food to the table for him a portion of her meat he would not begin eating until she sat down at the table now you might think that what's the big deal it's basic there are carrots it might be basic there are carrots but how many of us do that we're hungry we're tired we're nervous uh you know he you know he's there with me and he wants to converse and he wants to share he started eating you start talking no talking but no eating until she sat down the way she addressed him was with ultimate respect i remember she would say my man she's talking to him and she would say like my mom my husband but with a with with a glitch in her eye of oh i saw that and that didn't mean that she couldn't say i think that this is maybe not the way it is and maybe stop this and do this you know husband and wife they talk to each other there was no um defense mechanisms in there talking to each other yet it all felt to this 19 year old young man or awesome respectful reverence he's obviously slow people don't talk enough about his averages though so i'll share a little bit about his obvious role i know someone here in borough park who needed their daughter to go into a certain seminary seminary and she had not studied in chabad schools and the normal system was that if you didn't study in in a barbecue high school as a girl to get into a barbecue seminary took protection took paul because you know the background was missing and and the and the menial and the principle were concerned she wouldn't fit in so this person you know spoke with rubio and said could you could you help me try to get my daughter in by calling the manager and he said sure without a blink of the eye sure and he called them an ahel and they accepted the daughter now they you know without going into the the girl was a good girl and she was worthy of of that seminary but the fact that he was willing just to pick up the call phone and make the call and without any without any questions to help another year another another example i know someone who had a situation was a divorce but the husband didn't want to give the the get and ebio got involved and he tried talking to the to the husband and impacting him and convincing him influencing him he should give the get all just for the course i have a friend one of my classmates raviol told him you can come eat by me for shop he says for shabbos come come eat the sodas and he's the meals and then he said and in fact you can come eat by me every night and it wasn't just a joke that he was saying he meant it another example someone who wasn't yet religious somehow metropolitan said come live in my basement again the he lived at that time on montgomery street i don't know how he pulled it off whether he paid the rent to the uh the landlord for to use the basement i don't know those details but the person told me that rabio had known that he was seeing a non-jewish girl he had a non-jewish girlfriend nabil didn't mention anything about that just come live here meanwhile he ate with him and slowly but surely he let go of the girlfriend and angela's girlfriend and he became alaba chair of rumid etc the examples go on and on the point is that because he was a yid that goshmius that material matter honor covet was the furthest thing from from him he didn't know what that what it meant covered money he had no strikers to money he had no relation didn't care about money it doesn't mean he didn't know what a dollar bill is and you know and a coin is but the the importance and what money means to the average person into the average yield into the average cost it was beyond him and i don't say this to make him going towards i'm not coming from that we will see we're talking about refinement we're talking about edelkite this is a yid who lived with the abstract he lived with god and whatev and and the rebel the rebel for and this us for sure and to claw yourself that it is worse to understand properly that happens words and that's why when he got up and he spoke everyone listened everyone listened we could because we all believed and knew and understood that he's not fathered in the rebels works he's not changing that his words he doesn't have his own personal agenda was he perfect did he never make a mistake no one's perfect yes everyone makes mistakes but mitsihai from his side he was genuine so we look back now he was blessed with ninety one years young and particularly the last 25 years or so 27 years since gimbal thomas he married it that his fabregans and his urine and his conversations were recorded for eternity so there's so much out there but when i called them before a good skype a z skype sweetness goodness that's the type question he was a nice person a person who you could sit and joke with if you needed to you could cry with did you ever imagine that he would put his hand around someone well he did it not bragging just telling he did it to me several times out of love and not when he was sick or intoxicated you because he drank a lot of moshka just out of his his his feeling his feeling of valkite so on this video i i hope that my listeners my viewers will walk away with knowing this that this is ms and a fact not because i'm the great fashtayer it's because i'm telling you what i experienced myself and those times that people might have seen something other otherwise i don't know and i'm convinced that that's not the real burial from gimelt amazon gimmel thomas was a very difficult time for us and for him in particular and only him why because everyone else had something else they had in their life whether it was a child whether it was an agenda whether it was a business whether it's money he didn't because he didn't have children and he didn't have money and he didn't have honor so versatile so when the rebbe passed away gimble thomas it was a major issue to him and he wasn't the same rabiot that i knew in 1979 and 1881 but nevertheless the nakuda the point of him being the rebels translator interpreter funnel and the rebbe and the isha tayden all that was the same all that was the same in other words the style changed a little bit in various ways and i'm not going to go into all those details now the style changed but the mohus mahu the essence was the very same so they were helping that we should continue teaching and living with those teachings that he shared in in in the name of tyra in the name of the rabbit and the burial bender should have offered me