Trauma is a cheap shot for real issues: A Response to teachers of Torah & Chasidus - RC Dalfin

just wanted to uh make a few comments about the usage of the trauma card in Kabad and other circles. Um various speakers who I respect and who are doing tremendous forabad and yiddisheskite have recently been using these this trauma card. Recently there was some kind of clip in conjunction with DBA's brother where the you know the issue was presented that DBA's brother um you know suffered from the trauma of the first and second world wars. Well even if that's true which I don't believe it is true. I don't think factually that's correct. Millions of people went through the same thing. And I'm not here to talk about the Reb's brother. Um, we once spoke about it and we know that the Reba was the one who told us exactly about his brother, the holiness of his name is in Grenaden and that's the end of that. However, to use trauma as a card for issues that might be different, deeper in in my humble opinion is is is factually wrong in this case. And also, it's it's a it's a cheap shot. It's a it's a it's a fabrication. And I I'm not here to say that the the speaker who said this is is fabricating is is making up things. But I am saying that the the overall noiser the overall topic of using the trauma card for issues that we have today is a cheap shot. Why? Because of course there is real trauma that people experience. No one denies that. But by and large, that's not what's taking place. What is taking place is a whole other discussion. And I'm not the world's opinion maker and say I can have my personal opinion. You can have yours. But if you study people and communities and times and periods, you see that it's not just the time period in which we live in. That's also part of it. But really, it's about the person themselves, it's about their parents, it's about their community, it's about their teachers, and ultimately it's about themselves. So without going into details about the particular person that was discussed, the overall issue is that trauma should be should be really distant distant from our minds as teachers, pedagogues, leaders, rabbis, mashim rashiva because that's not the issue. The issue is who is the person, where does he come from, who are his parents? I'll just give you an example. I wrote a book called The Real Schlma. Read read the book and you'll see how I tackled Carlbach. Okay? I can't give it to you in one foot now. But trauma or trauma? Yeah, he had this, he had that. I'm not going to go into it now. I'm not going to go into that. But ultimately, it was about was with everything that comes along with it. So I um you know took a few minutes to to say this because today a lot of the youth and the young couples and even people who are already married have been going back to trauma and looking at the trauma and saying trauma you are to blame and I have childhood trauma and I have this and I have that. I have trauma too. I was mugged when I was 9 years old. Okay. Living in East Flatbush. Today's Flatbush is a haven for kabadnik with shs and and mikvas. And I when I was growing up in 1969, my sister and I were mugged. I walk I walked around with trauma for I'm scared. So I'm not going to make an issue of the trauma that I had when I was 9 years old. You know it. We've gone too far. Anyway, hope you um think about what I said. You could disagree, you could agree, you could criticize, and you can add comment and explanation to your position. And I'd love to hear from you. Take care, be well, and only good. Bye-bye.