There's always Hope as long as you are alive - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

we're we're finishing the chapter today one way or the other your guys are not gonna stop me from finishing it today and now we're holding at our favorite character throughout the Tanya it's the Russia viralei it's a bad guy let's see how the actor Ever deals with the bad guy so we are and it's smack in the middle of the page it's three six nine ten eleven twelve twelve lines 12 lines from the bottom okay the yes the word begins with viesh yes that's right that's why in Tanya chapter 46 begins with the word v yes with above I see them say that really the verb is unnecessary it should have began the chapter with the word yesh but the balatonya didn't want to begin to pay the Cantona with the word yesh Eagle so he changed he added the buff that's a vert from it's a beautiful vert and probably a true word so that's what you said now Hillel reminds me of that but let's learn the yes there is an individual with the bad dominates even more so foreign and in this case the bed of this individual invests itself in all the three garments not just in one out of the three as we've discussed before by The Rush of the table light by the wicked one who has some Vestige of Good by him it's either he or there right by this fellow Russia verralari he has bad in thought in speech and action everywhere and anywhere the man is messed up I'll component his garments are messed up are not an appropriate place and doubted um not only does the Yates are horror the bad incarnation impact him by doing light type of sins easy-going sins like you know uh not getting up on time to say yes whatever all kinds of issues that are not so terrible sin wise but by this fellow um gets to him to do very bad avedas the most stringent and badavedis number two over eating crevice Jason and to do them closer to each other in other words we need to say by the Russia of the table that we said number one on page 30 we said that they're not done constant they're not done often and they're and there and they're the done you know from time to time they'll have employees three words three I three words denoting time because there's a gamara that says that the eight Sahara is I think it's first ahole a walker then the eight Sahara is an aura a guest and finally the eight Sahara's ish the person and what does that mean that initially the itsahara just comes in once in a while he comes to visit you he's a holic how you doing I want to check it out right then it gets more friendly the gamara says he becomes your regular guest your regularly shop as guest every Shabbos he needs a meal the eight Zahara has a place every time to go and then he Creeps in so much into the person that he becomes a if she becomes part of your home he he's taking up residence in your home so he starts off with visiting you from time to time he goes to the second stage of being a regular guest and he ends up saying I live here so down today uh when he uses those three words on page 30 when he describes the the the the the the the the the bad that there is by outside of the time like the Vestige of bad that still exists he says he comes low but to me though it's not off not constant valoy and and he says will like toddler not often from time to time that's by outside the opposite is let's go back now to Paige the Zion without the devil says now Joseph it's not like he comes once a while and he says do this hardcore sin is constantly coming to you every day and saying today do this sin tomorrow do this in much more constant nevertheless I'm sorry I told you wrong shot this is still talking about please forgive me this is talking about this is another type of Russia vitively until here we spoke about a Russian Victory who's not visited so often by the the bed now we're talking about a rush of the Tivoli who is visited much more often so we're not yet talking about a Russian finale hold on we'll get there so he says so so um nevertheless enter in between during the intervals between the visitation of the eight Sahara the person has regretto boy and he has thoughts of chuva he's not doing children yet this fellow he sang to self maybe I should do true that's called Avi hero chuva so in other words Maisha what what is the content of this individual's regret it's not that he's saying here I'm giving back the stolen money I'm stopping to speak Russian horror real Russian horror no he Saint himself you know I'm sick and tired of speaking lotion maybe I should stop that's what we're talking about okay he that's why we call it thoughts of chuva not actual Trooper where does this come from if he's a Russia and he has only a little Vestige Dr Reverend says that's exactly it it's coming from that little Vestige of good the prince it comes from the good within his soul should miss that overpowers the yeasahara from time to time Ella however he doesn't have enough strength enough dominance to overpower the bed to completely separate them separate himself from Total sins in other words this describes most of us most of us we we we we we mean well we don't want to do the Avera it bothers us but sometimes we just don't have the class to overcome and he doesn't have the clearest doctor ever says he is my there for Isaac to admit and to forsake he doesn't he cannot get over it to say I acknowledge this is no good for me and I'm leaving it I think Commando finished he doesn't have that clear yet that's why that's why avraham he's considered Russia because what is the dominance by this person the Russia part the tough part the good within the Russia is is subservient secondary is ancillary and therefore they say to say very beautiful quote that the wicked are full of regret now how do you how do you according to hazal understand that statement it's kind of a it's a negative statement they're always saying I regret it that they do it again right Dr Amber here this is look the amazing interpretation and twist that y'all today but is using it in a positive way that same statement most of the most type of most wicked people say yes they still have a Vestige of good drama saying even though they're showing at most Irish I am Millennium karates they're full of regret and that regret is great and important so Dr Evans spin on the Ghazal right is is a positive one it's not to be taken as a negative one as you understand it regularly oh here once again you know it's like you know with the kids you know how it is once again I gave you a chance I'm doing it again once again ah you don't really mean it if you really mean it you wouldn't do it again now that episode no drama says this is the inherent makeup of this individual called Rush of a timely Who We Are so in other words it's such a it's such a beautiful thought don't be down don't feel down feel I failed again Dr never saying you can expect to fail again but as long as you get up you say I want to be true but I want to I want to stop my ways that's that's a very important mindset in other words do you look just one second Avi do you look at failure as a as a as Who You Are and therefore there's no hope or do you you look at failure as a stepping stone to success Avi what do you want to say that a person feels guilty about doing wrong is very open takes it as his role to make that person not feel guilty race is the guilt for the person there's a raising the guilt of the person his bed but it feels guilty then wrong then maybe they'll want to do some kind of tuber on on that action that's making him feel guilty so so what what you're saying is that what the author rep is saying is is is is is is it's not good that's what I'm hearing you're asking is that what you're asking and he feels guilty is good because that'll make it one too but right now these psychologists to say oh I'm gonna make you not feel bad did this or don't feel badly about that and that's bad because then it throws some more balance it doesn't allow him to come back to uh the right situation right okay so and so I hear you and I understand I I I'm adding just maybe one twist and what what I'm adding to that is that there's there's another there's another position of Soul another position and that is that the purpose of of of of feeling guilty is not to make you feel that you're a loser and a failure and and gone goodbye but rather that it's a a stepping stone for that you can think about doing chuva so in other words his words but right yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah you know what you said is correct what you said is correct so we're just clarifying that okay let's continue now like if someone has a ratio of us yes and we said you weren't here before but Hillary truth it doesn't mean and Dr Reb is saying that is what's most important by the average person I.E in this case the rush of a tableau who can become abandon me foreign when we say regret you know and I don't want to spend time on this but I think everyone here understands regret means you really feel you did wrong it's not just a a a a lip service you know I'm sorry you know all that it's not a Skype now the the fact is that we fail we fail but we fail if we really do have regret then we fail once we fail twice but there's gonna be a time you're not gonna fail there'll be a time when that shovel will come from you and it will be Ms it's like the rabbit told her by JJ Hecht but he was dealing you know with um people came to him their kids you know were bearing out and you know in the 60s and 70s and during the whatever and he came to the river crying and he said Rabbi I I can't anymore I counsel and my heart goes out for the parents either should parents and and their kids and and it's and the rebel said your job is to talk to listen to listen and to talk and to listen to talk and Hashem at the right time will throw something in to your mind and to your mouth that you will share and that will get the kids to keep marrying Jewish on and on and on why am I saying that because as long as you're an active participant in his in in wanting to do chuva you will do true we will do truth and that's without to them assessor Richard is as a positive not as a negative not as though it's baloney here we go again you know no we're talking about that the person really wants to do truva and at the last moment the Yang Sahara gets to him and he doesn't I'm not next the next day get up and try again let's continue and here we talk about the Russia finale finally the last five lines most of the chapters about the rush of Italian someone who never has haroto who never does true regret they ain't buying through the cloud and it doesn't enter to his consciousness thoughts of chuva forget about actual truva even thoughts this individual we call nikra Russia of Russia and banished to him why not saying because in his state of being bad within his soul who live father initiatively it alone remains within him for it has dominated so much over the good action boy until the good has kind of left from within the person is where is this good where'd it go to Disney World no it didn't go to Disney World it's there but not the Cure blade it's not inside of Rome it's um it's standing on it's hovering over him machiavello of Milo so much a fantastic thing it's still hovering over the rush of a rally it's not as though we hear in the communities he's a guy she's a guy no there's still a yeed is not the key boy not inside meaning it's not inter being internalized it's peripheral but peripheral it is and look at the last line that we spoke about this in the first year for the state to say call Baya soda upon all ten Jews if they when they congregate together the dwells I don't care who they are and what they are and how they are Etc ten Jews in a room as long as they're born to a Jewish mother had a good conversion they're eating and therefore the screen is there how could that be how could that be the student should be there if if the if the Tafe left them if the good left them says but that's exactly the proof the Tafe didn't leave them the good that never left them it left there inside but it's always there and this is the shita of the balatanya and this is the shita of the babic right here this is where it begins you know we see it now 250 years later with putting on filling on the street and lighting the methodium and everything that labavage does but it begins right here in this chapter 11. so if you ever need to someone you know questions you wants to know you take out this chapter chapter 11 the last five lines and say read this what does it say over here so if you have a Tylen and and it's not even a time and there's no complaint what's the complaint that is so you have a timer and there's no reason for a complaint that's his point why because talking inside pick here boy nostalgic it says the word pistolic is not kind of you know he he's uh you know being what's the word his being apologetic but he's being apologetic he's making up an excuse no he's telling you loud and clear by Russia the the the time one second my shirt the good within him nostalic nostalgic means been removed but he adds the words Meek here boy from inside of its it's hovering over him so no It's associated with him and that's why as long as it's associated with the individual There's Hope and there's always hope yes my okay when there's a question controversial question please sure and there's someone who is insure was clearly a very obvious guest of somebody's and the person had an outside appearance of someone who one might think might not be fully mixed with servants okay so someone said to me the girlfriend said to me um you know went over and I asked the host to figure out who was his host he said they asked him the question what was the point of the question so yeah because that person was hinting to me the question of whether or not to give the eye it's it's looked at him in America so don't be ridiculous what difference does it make thank you so so the host the person said to me that when he asked that question of the host the host looked him in the eye and said well he is now he is today he is right now Jehovah Chavez the person who was saying this to me bringing this up to this up to listen bring it to me because I think I think he was a little bit a little bit I said to him instinctively said we're ridiculous you know yeah anyway he said the person said back to me so well why are you tell me about I'm being ridiculous so I said I just you know I just walked away anyway I came home and we have in the house that's very new um this is a collection of Charlotte's so I I went and I found this issue and I looked it up and sure enough there's many different you know a brief but very concise write-up of different types of situations so I'm bringing this up because in the Charles and children's it listed old scenarios and in order to not give the person analia he's got to be like really really like um it looked to me like it's going to be so much extreme circumstances but I'm bringing this up the whole issue up because I have for some reason in my notes here when I learned this many many a long long time ago that but I have some little star here by the last line here it says why do some and I wrote this on my handwriting obviously why do some Jews only want to make a minion with shomri Torah only so I'm raising the question I'm really bringing this up because we're just trying to understand I'm reading I I get the words obviously of what the author of is telling us but clearly somewhere somewhere there's something that says that there must be some sort because when we see that that the screen of hovers the shrinage rests upon when there's 10 Jews are there any qualifications are there any qualifications for that or what's can I just say I was asked to stop giving Alias to people wearing shorts and I said Baraka instead of playing basketball but others you know the rough ass oh I did but um I think today you know you're not learn English 20 30 years ago today you have a white it's here and I'm sure he wouldn't espouse you know like to be so yeah but but let's listen for a second today you know you're you're you're you're you're a Gabby in a in a very front shoe there's a rough in in just like uh Easter said if the love in his shoe says that he doesn't want him to give Elias to people without shorts he has two options one to not be Gabby three options two to leave the shoe or three to just listen the love establishes what the men hogim and is that's everyone knows that so number one why should the first thing is you need to talk to the rough or you and this other person should go over together to the roof now if the rebels say I leave it up to you my leave it up to the god bullion and there are some rap on them that will say that for whatever reason so then there's another issue this isn't all about your shoe this isn't a bad house and if the collective audience of the shoe once that you should only give Alias to shame the sharpest people that's a strong consideration now the question is do we know like you said right now he's saying the Shabbos I didn't see him driving here you know what I'm saying but what if what what if someone comes and says I saw him Parker's car two blocks away and this is I had this in Marine County I had I've actually even though we had a very small minion most of them most of it was about it was almost a full summer sharpest mini because they lived in in the area there were some about shooting and so maybe I had one or two people and they parked and they were from the old country from pialis Duck you know they weren't from yeah for whatever reason you know so their their meta considerations in your situation that you're echoing that I can't answer that that's something local but overall so in other words this isn't has its policies and its approach and which is by the way different than a Chabad house a Chabad house is another another excuse me animal you know there's so many uh variables here that it's not one answer for everyone and that's why you see you say it in the in the showers the truth is for this look and you see different answers but but what I could say is as a general point that a yeet should be looked at favorably the fun of we and we find dinosaurs dinosaurs and and that's a very important principle how to apply it you have to know the ground rules and and with the rabbi and it has to be worked out but overall in other words what I'm saying is the attitude that oh he's a bad shoe and you shouldn't be given nalia because he's not fully Shameless Shabbos he's not fully Shameless Shabbos but you have bad meet us and you cheat on your taxes and so when Layla you can cheat on your taxes that's not a big sin but him driving in the car who says who says there's a difference if the law of the land is not the cheat on your taxes that you do you're violating so you shouldn't be given Aaliyah again so it becomes a very sticky thing you know what I'm saying so so that's why I say there needs to be kind of uh so you as a guy by shouldn't allow an individual to to to delegate and and you know how it's between you and and and and the rough I think that's the answer between between you and the roof and as far as what yeah go ahead go ahead I was gonna say I think that there's another question in terms of the scenario is that the person who raised this question what was the question raised was it raised in the bank or did he say can you step outside so I can ask you a question privately or was the question raised in front of other people so it was raised in Sewell but in A Private Matter in A Private Matter between him and myself right again you're talking about the host but the person who approached the hosts where was that from it's sure pretty sure I I I I I want to say that I I'm what you said Mr surprised me a lot because it you'd have been in Boston and and and they allow you to give Alias to people wearing shorts no no no it's how did you even say what allow that that's it was it was on Shabbos afternoon in the Summers he was a group of boys [Music] come through our community these boys would be outside playing ball and they would stop to come to shore of the Highland Park remember yeah yeah yeah yeah oh this is oh this is not a narrative throw he took in America no no oh okay I was thinking in red Championship I was thinking about seven no no no no no no no it was it was the boss right I understand I I understand listen I I I I I you know to be to be honest to be really honest I I I I understand I understand to be honest when I'm in a shoe with everyone who's like kind of from and doing and someone comes in it you know with shorts it's it's bothersome you know it's like you know that every no one's here doing this what you do in your private do whatever you want or go to another but in this show we don't you see no one else's dream and he that comes in this way basket and I discussed this with some people on the show I'm talking about my son shul and Carl Springs and and they said look he knows our position we do not condone this but at the same time we're not going to tell him he can't come to show if he's such a you know excuse me jerk that he does cast to come to school this way that's what that's the way it is so again families are her the