The more you have, the more you want: Advice to change it - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

so good day to everybody we're learning Pedic youth gimmel on page UTS page hi the 13th chapter Tanya the altered taught us in chapter 12 that the basic difference between abandon knee and at Sadiq is that obey the knee that abandon me still has an urge in his heart and hasn't eradicated the urge at all for South Dakota has eradicated it either entirely or it's been subdued depending if it's not even timely inside of good alloying and the flip side that abating is not like a Russia which we learned about in chapter 11 of Tanya in the Russia who actually is dominated by doing bad we're a Russia where whereas at Southern obeying the conversely holds himself back in in makshava dibromiser in thought speech and action from doing anything inappropriate so now chapter 13 which is a direct chapter in connection to 12 to explain more about the essence of the Benin he says this difference that we just said it will explain uh what the Ghazal say but and this is Gamora and Prophets that the altarama brought on the first page of Tanya chapter one quote being the names there are five categories and one of the categories is called intermediates that means the Yates give their opinion I like a show fake like a a judge foreign from the judges of his soul the Posse the Posse says that there is a EV viewing and there's another person can tell him which caused the Yates the poor one the person who gets caught up in avedis is called poor every so Hashem is you remember what we learned in Tanya that where is the the by by um by a by a person where is the good part of the person Liam in the right ventricle of the person who's who's everingia to save him from the judges that seek to judge him in a bad way who are the judges there's the judge the good judges and the bad judges so when the so that so right so this is a positive I believe until it this person can to heal him supports what the Ghazal say in the gomoran brothers there is a show faith to the to the right of the beginning and to the left So based on what we learned in chapter 12 and Tanya Delta repossessed the first word of this chapter 13 over Zen you have to ask yourself when you say um and with this how is what is with this referring to and how is it an answer so the answer is that since we learned that obeying the in in thought speech in action he's perfect but as far as his heart his father still his heart is still has a passionate urge for bad so this explains why the Gamora says that abandon me has a show Faith to the right and to the left on one hand he's totally to the right Volvo how is he totally to the right because he has only good things he doesn't sin in my shop but at the same time the same individual if you go into his heart his heart is burning with a desire to do evil to do bad so he has a yeah it's the heart is still in the heart now that's the end of the good mother and the person can tell him now comes the altar Evans emphasis and Analysis of the Posse Contin ues dominate over the person why this is Donald Trump's question the wording that by the group called betanim you only write the intermediates there's two judges let me just two judges there's two two forces that dominate that control says Casper scholar why not yes yes because if the a if there is dominance and control that the eights order has over the small City that means the person's body in in in short speech and action I feel the first official column even just for a temporary while necre hey at that moment already Hill is a Russia so how can you call him abandon them we're saying this is another category called Bane wait a minute if the eight Sahara isn't just an opinion Sayer like a judge who gives an opinion but actually controls you then that means that it controls you to do bad so you're no longer obeying that you're you're doing bad whether it be in thought speech or action don't use the word meishlin Marshall means to dominate the control but rather the word um judging giving an opinion because comparatively speaking compared to commissioned vidalian to a judge and that's it that's it forever became your only yes you go to a judge what and the judge says my opinion is this one the other one says this one now because the judge says this is the opinion doesn't mean at the end that that's to be the final ruling that's why we have a chord of three right in other words it's an opinion if it's a strong opinion but it's only an opinion so Carla Mason yes therefore by the beginning since there is an another judge who disagrees with the first judge saying you're guilty and therefore we have a difference of opinion I.E between Yates between them and the law ends up being like the arbitrator but um you're right okay okay um and immediately the second judge disagrees to unnecessarily kiss which is The Godly Soul which is in the mind how much that extends itself in the right ventricles which is which is the opinion which is the place of the age of hello and who is like the arbitrator who's the arbitrator versus who make the final decision God almighty oh is today which we learned earlier in chapter 12 who's there to help our Yates as the khazan say elsewhere if God would not if Hashem would not help specifically the Yates the Yates are hard times would not be able to overcome the passions and desires of the Yates this help is an emanation of God's light which shines upon I'll never shall the kiss on The Godly Soul the ice law so that if the Godly Soul has Israel advantage or sleeper and dominance over the silliness of and Folly of the eight Sahara okay yes we said earlier like the advantage that light has over darkness by bringing a little light into a room so just let let's for a second discuss repeat what he says here it says here abandon me is someone who needs help and he gets the help from government God sees that you try you're trying your best to overcome like history and I were talking before we went online right you know Hashem says okay you're a good guy I see you're trying I know that you yourself can't do it because it's just too it's too uh it's too overwhelming for you and I understand but I'm gonna help you any and he abuse you with something that's kind of outside of you and and that helps you now let me ask you a question Kevin didn't we learn in chapter 12 that mayak Charlotte the mind can control the heart naturally why do we need to have extra help this is a question I'm asking that the rebel asks on this chapter that we learned just now what we learned now to remember says here that the yatesahari is not a um a what's it called a uh uh not a ruler right not a my show but just a chafing an opinion savior but nevertheless the low the low is so strong so you need help why why do we need help I'll use my brain and I'll say hey smoking is is killing people it's making you smell it costs money it's ridiculous stop you know Dr Robert says no in this chapter in chapter 12 he says is strong enough strong enough to help the Yates overcome the Yates or horror and all you have to do is connect with Maya to leave mind over matter in a Chapter 13 right here and says no he says you need God to help you so the rep explained the difference is simple in chapter 12 we're talking about abandon me remember he's into davening he's that it's like he's on a level his mindset is like he's diving all day now when you stop laughing as we discussed in our theorem there's there's a there's a Remnant from Dominic you know just like in shoe in the morning you have a good davening when you come to eat the chunks and the cookbook if you had a good davening you're not going to Fresh away okay trust me if a person really doesn't well they will come to the Kiddush and eat like a mensch or more more like a mensch Yeah well yeah if the davening is very quick and all that but if you take your time you haven't become and you know you go slow and all that okay whatever you got the point so so there's a Remnant left over when there's a Remnant left over your brain can control your heart you know why because it's only the heart the issue the urges in the heart it hasn't made a dent and an impact yet on the brain on the moyach but in Chapter 13 this is what I told you also when we spoke about it in Chapter 13 he's talking about when it ascended already from the heart into the brain and excuse the expression screwed up your your mind he made your mind is really excuse the expression your mind your mind is is messed up once your mind is messed up it's not gonna work it's not gonna work cause your mind is Warped that's the problem so then there's only one solution God sees you still care you still don't want to go that route I'm gonna help you so continuation first the person has to try to intellectually understand why is this bad for me why is this not good for me and hopefully you you come to a point where you're able to um say I understand and therefore control yourself but what if you can't and the the emotions and the feelings of the heart start going up and they already get into the cup oh then we have a big problem then you can't say because you think you're right you're maximum the Nazis they they in their mind Justified healing killing and murdering and purging it's very minutes of disease right so their mind was messed up once your mind is messed up it's a much worse problem so in chapter 12 the outer never talks about the pain in the and the pain being able to control his urges when it's still in the heart because the pain is still coming off this High cold babening and the mindset is that God is at everything and I'm nothing and I'm just a servant so God says decide you shouldn't do this and this is no good for you I'm ready to accept because you understand with your Maya and therefore Maya can be Charlotte but in Chapter 13 that we're learning now we're in a situation where it's already gone from the heart to the mind and the mind is messed up so over here you need to have Hashem Israel you need you need and if not you're going to fail on chapter 13 once the cup is messed up and you don't have God on your side kind of you know I have done the boxing ring you know the the coach the coach whatever he's called the manager you know hey saying you know acting on you know what I'm saying the or in a baseball game um you know it's the bottom of the ninth two out Bases Loaded then the down and and the whole crowd if it is is giving them the encouragement that all that really wants really wants to schlep himself out of Schmutz and or or doesn't mean doesn't mean by the way you know real bad Schmutz but a certain media a certain cat Hashem helps Hashem gives you something you say I'm the same guy as I was yesterday I'm a potential pain in the united Sadiq what happened the answer is Hashem Hashem says I stand next to you yes you wanted to say something I I'm correctly I'm wrong we're talking about it has been premeditated kind of you know we're trying to control our mom and try to you know you know control our thoughts but it takes a lot of you know preparation and it needs to be you know not every time something arises hate it so it could be walking in Times Square minding your own business listening to a sheer in Times Square and all of a sudden the billboard comes off and it's a very you know it's a newer picture you know and it's a sample or I'm sitting on the train on the subway and I might need my own business I'm moving to safer and a woman sits next to me and she's not dressed okay so yeah fine the issue is not the question is whether you the person whether the the the the tivists are just in the heart or they've gone from the heart already into the cup that's the question and and there's two remedies that's what we're learning chapter 12 the remedy is when if it's only in the heart but not in the head yet then if after a good governing it'll be easier for you to turn away your head from the billboard in Times Square but if it's not after a good happening if you're not in that mindset and you're coming from you know being busy and running around and not have learned and not and not being a spiritual environment then usually the heart already the mind already has wandered and has already accepted the Indulgence intellectually then it's much harder that then it's much harder just say no just say no is possible when it's when it's just in the heart and not in the head but if the head is messed up just say no won't work because in your head you don't say no you don't just say no and it had you say yes I want this I like this this is good for me and it's not so that's the answer it's not that the Billboard's not going to be there the Billboard's gonna be there and then the lack of sneeze is going to build their let's let's call it spay the Spade we live in this world this is the world we live in you know at a wedding juggling women which is you know right how could that be because he was like juggling um wood that's the level he was on he was a big topic right an average person is not allowed to do that it's it's not allowed to do that so in other words the difference is not in what you see it's it's you the difference is in you it is is it you know is it your heart that only has a taiva or is your head has a type of too and this is what the altered adventanya I think is is really offering us different than in other type of sword and that deal with similar things is because this is the whole idea of Chabad change your Chabad change your thinking elevate your thinking once you elevate your thinking you're not going to be interested in in Billboards because it doesn't add anything to you it doesn't add to your to financially it doesn't ask you practically it's simply a type of okay so get married and if you need a pretty wife like I've told you that joke the grandfather tells the grandson make sure you marry a pretty girl and he looks at him he says say the grandfather with a Long White Beard from Russia Ukraine he says what do you know about pretty girls he says you're right I don't know about pretty girls but I know you understand that's the issue I know you I don't have to know about pretty girls I know you and I know what you want so that's the whole idea of see this Chabad is to know who we are that's the Tanya that's what the alternate was working on over here who are we who are we let's not kid ourselves and and and and once we understand who we are then and and we really break it down as you see over here having how he breaks it down already in the first 13 chapters into details once you know who you are then you can go further I want to continue however now it goes to the flip side sins by a Bane in the E the evil is is is is is is invested in the left ventricle of the heart with all its potency as though from as it was from birth to have these indulgences for all indulgences that it's been I know because there's so such such a minute amount to the good but I need to have look at these words by abandoning it has not been lodged from its original place of time in the Heart Rock Only sleep to remember Charlotte doesn't have the control and the dominance we espash it by varia Groove to extend itself why the neck of this butthole easily you mean have you because as we said because God stands to the right of the poor shines Into The Godly soul here he answers the question the first question in chapter one kill Russia remember what does say don't be beneficence contradiction and the second question that he asked in chapter one and Tanya was if I feel like in Russia you'll have become despondent or I become an OCD so how am I supposed to feel today but that's why it says Russia with a huff okay even if the entire world says to you sadikata you are so holy you're so good you're so righteous you should looking in your own eyes kill Russia now hear the outdated words that that's with with the kazal ends Russia here is a conjunction like a Russia but not that you're a Russian because you're not you're abandon me or you're a potential being you should consider yourself as obeying the knee the Loyola don't believe what the world says about you that the little bear in you has been the null to the good Sadiq that's the level of assadic next page elope top of page 36 it you should be in your own eyes as though the very essence of the Badoo but talk please is is powerful it enlarges itself with all its power and strength on the left and to go Kitty as it was from birth and it didn't move at all at all and here he is what's the expression uh soul to the to the injury foreign [Music] [Laughter] [Applause] they're talking about forbidden things do you know what the good mother says you probably heard this Commander because you're all married the good mother says the more relations you have the more you want to have more relations I mean I mean like we need to go I wanted to say that duh Nakamura right don't set up and then it's not just in relations it's a food the more you eat the more you want to eat more the more you sleep the more you sleep want to sleep more the more pleasure and honor you have from people praising you when you have coveted and all that oh I know I know people I don't want to go into it they must have coven they must have honor they must have this shoe I'm sure the guy that you ain't even others could tell you they'll go crazy if you don't give them a slishy or a shishi or or a master you know who I am they won't they won't make the same right someone told me years ago it's an organization called Ezra State as a state of supports the founder was not the founder but the person was the rebel yo Hank and he was a big coin and poison he lived here in Manhattan talking about the 1950s 60s 70s 40s anyway so there are different than all over the world and special United States who got funds and they would report you know about your who actually lives today in Arch Israel was the secretary she told me the stories I'm telling you firsthand a ref calls him up from the Jersey and and it was a literature of you know in that time he still called them and snapped the I bought him but it was a real lit track ER and he says I could you do me a favor I need so and so done so he says a rabbi so-and-so he says I have to leave because the lab is for bringing tonight at 9 9 30 and you know takes time to go with the train and to get the set it can I do it tomorrow is it a rush he told me the love went into a tirade obviously he had an issue with the red butler Babbage but he says for the Obama for him you'll do it you'll do whatever he needs but when I come and I'm a Bucky of shots he says that was a bucket of shots I'm a Bucky and shots that's the way he spoke to him a serious roof bragging that he is a real town and the rep is not but forget about the part that the rep is not forget about that but where does this come from there's a serious dumb cooking on a Wednesday afternoon tells a a regular yid you know who I am what kind of cover that you're giving me when you tell me you don't have time for me but for the rapid F time because you're a classic he was electronic he wasn't a husband so he had he had a whole problem with the whole idea of of being uh accusted to a rebel okay we understand that but what went along with that was the the words and he told me mama just wanted to work tirade and it was going on and on and it left such an impression of this person they told me this 50 years later how he saw how this this idea of covet can drive a person so the outdated so what's his point his point is that's why we call him so the bang in there is not a Russia he's obeying a knee because in the thought speech in action he hasn't sinned but what's going on in the heart he's closer see when you ask someone who learns Tanya just superficially they say oh the pain in me if he's if he's perfect in thought speech in action he's almost like a topic well we'll learn just now is just the opposite he's closer to a Russia because because thought speech and action is not who the person is thought speech in action is the garments the instruments the tools right don't speak a certain way but if in your heart of hearts you want to speak a certain way it's a matter of time you're going to speak a certain way so since the banging the heart of hearts is still have very strong tiver he's kiroshima he's not in Russia but he's curious like a Russia so who is he closer to the Russia not that Sadiq and this is a phenomenal Insight not to make us feel bad but to know who we are and to know what we have to do and and when you're looking at this perspective you start asking yourself you know okay you know like so who do I know is not kid Russia she say well this person is learning all day yeah okay that's very good in practicality what's going on in his heart what is going on in the heart that's what I want to know about and that's why Maisha when we talk about all these pedophiles and all these things that happened though right because that's the answer in their heart they never got rid of the urge and their mommies killed Russia the fact that they held themselves back their for various reasons so in practicality they held himself back but in the heart of hearts they are like a rush so that explains it and that's why a person should never trust himself and a person should work on themselves you know but you know we're quick to say oh this person's learning all day this person's dabbing this person don't give me those questions they're at Sonic Dalton here he says okay you know in the books they didn't sin most of our life they're like exotic they have more reward than public they're gonna get a bigger piece of meat from the sharab bar okay but inside their hearts level they're so far and that's why you'd never know and it could be the person who who outwardly is not as you know he said like maybe they're not as from but they're more of a mensch and maybe in their heart of hearts they have less tiver than the person who's more fruminous and has more time again to go and use this and say oh therefore all fruit people are bad and and you know like some argue is of course we understand that but at the same time you know you need to really understand this and and then it's not Dr Nevis vert here is is not to make us skeptical and I don't want you to walk away from what I'm saying therefore I should always be skeptical and not trust anybody because first of all you can't live life that way and two it's not the title way it's not the title way but at the same time the tidal way is and the barometer I've said this many times is Bittle what's the barometer if someone really has worked out worked refined himself humility Bittle when you see your humility you can pretty much un see that that person is really on the right track when you don't see humility there I don't care how much they know what they've accomplished I I would I would stay far away I would do you respect them but suspect them however I have another share have a great day there's no sheer tomorrow only Wednesday have a great luck buddy mayor wherever you are yeah wherever you are it's a very special day whatever you want and connect especially with for children and should do him tomorrow is the day the second libatur would go out to the field and he gave breakfast for children and shidook him so it's a special time in that area so everyone should have that in mind your children your grandchildren you know she took him and healthy children and a fool for children in particular is it says in the sentence take care have a great day see you Wednesday morning bye bye