Tanya siyum: Students offer their feelings - Torah Manuel for life - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

today is we conclude the I just want to read the conclusion again um this is called a seal although we don't say the traditional that we say for the gumar when you finish a ATT tractate of gar of talud nevertheless it's uh it's consider a seal so what does the AL finish with his first 53 chapters which is called saf the book for the intermediates for the average person with a concept he says the last line is that's a verse for God your God is a all consuming fire now why why does he conclude with this verse so simply speaking the idea that he mentioned towards the end of this chapter earlier was that one needs to transform or at least control their habits their tias their urges and this is very appropriate because for the average person we all have habits and tus and urges and all of that and as the gor says that who went into the he was a high priest Godly went into the so many times and on the last Kipper of his life he became an apost a heretic an apostate it's it's hard to even fathom such a gamorra but that's what it says and the gar deres the lesson that a person should never trust themselves you know I think of it and you know and the uh the professionals that deal with this uh over here someone can be if someone has a a depression or a a mental um illness of sorts they could be normal normal normal and all of a sudden they snap and and it it's like it comes out of the Belo we should we shouldn't know of such things but we do know of such things well the same is true with the the the as is called In classical habad literature is the same idea you could be a good boy for many many years and and everything is good and fine and then you you you just go elsewhere I'll tell you something that this is something that the Jewish world is experiencing today because the rebes the of the past are pretty much all finished you know the previous generation has passed on and we know a saying Israel Israel is not a widow widower no provides new leadership it's true but it's a different quality it's a different a different style a different type and those of us who had the fortune to know the previous generation which barem I still had a taste of it and because my father is a European Jew and he really has never left Europe he's been here since 1958 but he's still one piece of a ROM he's a Romanian Jew a Romanian and uh that's the way he is you know so I grew up with such a father so I I had a taste of of the past and then that of course interest got me interested in pursuing the past which I do for partially do for a living so so so we we we don't have that today and because we don't have that today there are people and this is true for people who are ffbs from from birth Bal Tru it makes no difference who for some reason they're finding yish Judaism T not addressing their life's needs at the time and uh they they take Hiatus they take or as we say they chill out okay and and this is a reality I see it I live with it I I I know I know I know the situation on the ground so the AL in t works very diligently to keep the fire burning keep the flame going I always repeat what mosha mosha told me when I when I came the first time to bemes Bish and we were talking you know once we got to know each other about the shoes and the the situation on the ground with other shs and people whatever and he said you know that he finds that a lot of people are just a stale remember use that word stale people are robotic people put on filling people do Mitzvah but there's it's stale there's no K there's no Vitality there's no animation there's no excitement the whole idea of tan in general but T in particular is to find excitement in your and I don't mean excitement you know what they call fun you know uh I'm looking for fun I need fun that's not you know we're all older you know we've had our fun already and if you haven't had your fun yet don't waste your time going for it we're looking for meaning in our life and part of and part of part of meaning is is finding on a daily basis a connection like I told you why am I here that that vital question why did God put me here and and what am I doing to fulfill that mission so that's the theme of the T so the AL says is your god not look at the language in the verse for Hashem is your god for it to be my God then I need to feel it right it's my wife it's my husband it's my son it's my daughter it's my job it's my business it's yours when can you say something is yours when you when you feel it you know I always think about how you have friends from 20 and 30 and 40 and 50 years ago and then as life goes on and people have families and people have you know all the issues of life you call them up you say hello and there isn't that same connection that you had when you were in college or in yes Shiva or when you were a boy you know and and at first I said wait a minute but I do feel it and I want to have that relationship because it feels so good but they didn't reciprocate and then you realize life has its challenges people marry people go off people do their thing and and what hit me is that unless you are now in a relationship with whoever you want to be in a relationship it's you're not going to have that that brother that Brotherhood you know the gamar says I've learned I think in Milla just recently Tinus that the gar says when you forsake Torah one day it forsakes you for two days right I think toor such a good or maybe it's with a B Med if you don't come to B medish one day it's like the B medish leaves you for two days and I think of it unless you maintain a relationship an active relationship your one day of not keeping that relationship causes the relationship not to to keep it to keep itself with you so you got two so the second day not only don't you have the relationship it doesn't have a relationship with you in other words it's TW it's a it's a a double Wham so for hasem is your a consuming fire this means that every person needs to internalize their jewishness their their their yish their Torah and finally the PK says um consuming you got you have to have the issue consumed the item where where it's a burning coal it's been it's been penetrated through and through and that's the whole whole the whole thing of the T is to show a Jew that every Jew can't do that and then the AL concluded with those words that he wrote so obviously he's telling you there's going to be a there's going to be a second part he says we've completed the first part everything that we do is with the help of God and he adds twice I don't recall now if the re ever commented why do we need to have a second time you say with the help of God not with the help of God God the help of God and God that's what it says so yes there is what we call M the the um the slogan way of talking you know it's a CT in Hebrew it's an acceptable style it's like an extra but just wondering if there's anything more to that than just the stylistic way of of writing it yes my yeah just forgive me for jumping in just in the in the English translation wait wait wait I see balloon behind you balloons I don't I don't I don't know how that happened I did not do that I someone was playing I think maybe it's because we made a see him so they are balloons very interesting go ahead in the English in the English translation in the you know in the classic um yeah says conclusion of the first part with the help of God may he be blessed and exalted okay but that's not that's not what it says in the Hebrew sorry yeah oh oh oh oh oh you're saying that it's not [Applause] it's now no cuz what you said may he be blessed and exalted to the second is not a second time is which like I thought it's isal very good but do they bring a source he brings a source for that no okay that's very interesting yeah just a translation okay well I could look it up I could look it up later uh to see later shabas I hope I'll remember but thank you for pointing that out okay so we concluded and and Monday we'll start the second but would like to hear now from everyone here where's manasha our senior is still here or he's not here okay so why don't uh Masha Masha unmute yourself now you're always wanting to unmute yourself now is your chance I guess he's off okay a why don't you say a few words about the Tanya two a few minutes okay I'll be brief so we learn that a right it's a very high level even even so all of us have the ability to become a b right yes and we should really strive to to become one right uh so so where where the B has to do T says that never really sins right in his deeds his thoughts or his actions so we know that person really has 10 Soul powers and three garments right the three you know three can solar P your meos right but they fresh through your three garments your garments can be changed right you take your suit on take it off the fight really for the B is fight in the garments H the fight way it thinks all AES leave from your thought from your thoughts you think you speak it you do it the B has to like really control his thoughts so there's a lot of ways to do that can have like a mission that to think about or some song something comes to your head you got to get rid of that thought that may lead you astray right so I think that's the main thing main fight for theity control his thoughts you got you got to guard your Gates what comes into your head your eyes your ears your nose all those things because all those things all those things are receptors that lead to the way you think to way you think you won't come to to do those other things won't come to sin Yesa thank you very much so that basic you're saying that's what the Tanya means to you yes a way to actually become a practical advice for how to become a so you so you would sign up for the B Club yeah I I try to work on it you know a lot of H to do talk about person has to guard their eyes right you guard your eyes you see things and next thing you know you're thinking about it next thing you're talking about it next thing you doing it you know you have to really guarding Gates no way around it right thank you okay took me minut to un so um you know when I think about the first of all I think that that as as a people we have which tells us how to go about our day we wake up we say we wash we etc etc etc then there is that teach us how to think but the is unique in that it's a it provides a structured framework for how to go through life how to apply what's in other books in in but to apply it to your life in every every day situation we all have ups and downs sometimes we need because we find oursel in a that we're feeling bad about ourselves so how do we address that how do we how do we become joyful and other times we need to make a and think about you know are we fulfilling what we really are we are we living up to our potential and it is a safer that provides practical practical application dayto day how to go about your life as a yid that no other safer that I've come across does so that's for me the beauty of the of the T very clear important Raa Bron a few words um well for me this is kind of an emotional time because the first time that I started to learn Tanya was when I um had just gotten married and was learning in ska and there was a one laage student in the B medish who I became friends with and even though was not aaba at all he suggested that we learn together right after when the had a he suggested we learn Tanya and I had heard about Tanya before but I never learned it and so that was my first time like 30 years ago learning Tanya and since then uh I've just had so many opportunities over the years over time to learn T but never in this way that we've done it in depth systematic Etc uh so for me personally this is a very uh it's a very emotional uh significant time for me uh just that's a very personal that's just very personal um but what is it what does it mean so I I think I like you know I just what what I'm from and what is said already you know we this has come up in class before but the the concept of as I would just say thinking like a know when we when we're thinking then whatever comes out of our mouths whatever we let's say try try to look at or don't look at or whatever we do then automatically it it's already like like you know going on you know up hopeful hopefully and so for me I just I would say this just this sort of refrain this idea of just thinking as a so to speak um as a Jew should it's it's it's a it's an every moment of the day or when we when we're go to sleep and hope when we wake up it's it's it's like a um I guess our learning has helped me to tr even concr try to even concretize that I think even more I think that that's what I would Y what do you want to say yes sir I want to add because you know MOS and I have a lot of private conversations and um you know I'm as a non labure non labure yet CLA as a closet La CLA otherz do not teach they may behave in certain ways in terms of doing and demonstrating a Hab Israel but the Tanya gives us the foundation for why not just to do but why and so this the conversation the motion I had many times just why other groups within the cidic world don't teach cidus and it's beautiful then and that's that's a void that the T fills for me I understand but I rather than commenting I'd like to go on and ask M our newest Tanya student who asked me this morning Rabbi could you keep the shear at this time so I can come every day cuz otherwise he misses minion in in Fort Lauderdale the minion is uh I think 7:30 or4 to 8 so it's a conflict to the shear so he's G he gives two days to us so he said if you leurt that a quarter to nine uh East Coast time every day you could I could come every day so that was wonderful to hear I don't think uh I'm not sure that could happen but um Moshe what do you say well that did happen gentlemen good day um and greetings from South Florida so that did happen I had some issues with my technology was moving slowly this morning so as I said to you earlier this morning by way it's perfect timing is I I don't like to miss minion especially today being a Torah day and we struggle to get 10 so today we had a good minion so for me the timing is that I'm very very close I come home have a little breakfast sign on so this timing is perfect for me um gentlemen all Alam is roia all so very well said and I surely concur 100% with all that you said now for me as this is my first go around with t um I also by virtue of an association that Rabbi dolphin put me with is have a gentleman who I learn with uh one evening one evening a week also which happens to be this evening but one thing Rabbi doin said that ring so very true is that it's a rule book it's the rule book book of how to live your life as a proper Jew as a proper man as a proper person and just as is said it's structure that's so very important that's the thing as I learned you know as I've learned you know Judaism provides the Torah you know the provides structure how do you act as a Jewish man and for me the the most important thing has been it's been validated for me no one sat me down at a young age I never went to Yesa say do this do this you know do cha no one sat me down to do that but I do that anyway so that's been so very validating for me so you know I crave the time to learn um with Rabbi dolphin with my Rabbi here with this other gentleman because again it's validating to know that I'm living my life in a proper way so that gives me know that gives me great joy so again gentlemen it's a pleasure to listen to you and listen in as you all are far more knowledgeable than I so I'm just like a sponge just trying to absorb it all so that's my that's my two cents thank you and and we we love you and we're so happy that you're on with us and uh continue um growing in your yish guite and everything else okay now we go to our yi yi was probably the number one commentator on our in our classes from the first day I'll never forget when I invited Yi to our Co right when we were learning at not is yeah yeah and um and Yi and I met and we spoke and started to come and it's been wonderful so go ahead y go ahead my my com my com my my comrade from Brooklyn so first off I mean obviously this you know we've been learning for years together and and uh you turned me on to I wouldn't only say I would say in general um starting with and then going through all the different and turned me on I think had I gone straight into Tanya I I I don't know you know how how how good the landing would have been but I think that you gave us uh at least me personally you gave me preparation um for Tanya and I I would say like what a lot of the guys that just uh talked about what they said I would say it's literally the fun it is the ABC it's the ol fundamental uh basis of it is a tragedy that is not taught like the way orau in most I say because I've ever been I don't know but I been learning T um as a kid I think I would have been uh a very different person and I think that I would not have put my head down for 18 years in yiva and slept on a gamarra for 18 years it just never spoke to me because it never had what you just said about 10 minutes ago about the enthusiasm um not not fun of learning Torah but of the enthusiasm of Yiddish kite embracing Yiddish kite and I think that that really should be the emphasis and I think that that it's it imbus on all of us to try to bring people closer forget about forget about just closer to uh learning learning T learning the the all the rebas that teach because um as you said yesterday in this year it's mind over matter it's literally using your mind in order to control um you know in order to to physically move something you can use your mind in order to do it so all the things about andam and all these things that I've asked you many times I'm finally starting to understand the difference between it's taken about five years started to understand that and um I we really appreciate it I know I do and it's really changed it's changed Mya and life like I used to care so much what people think I don't care about what people think I only care about what's good in the eyes of Hashem is only one judge I don't care about what this Rabbi judges or that Rabbi judges judges and that's it we don't have to worry about other people we just have to worry about how sees us and how judges that that's what I've taken also one of our new students what's your uh feeling and Z guys he comes from vintage from the past his I think grandfather is buried in the kabad cemetery am I right in Baltimore is that right my great-grandfather your great-grandfather so he comes from kabad St from way back so go ahead what's what do you have to say can I say and go and get away with it I just I mean I've been learning Tanya daily Tanya I don't say learning I've been reading ganya for many years and um and it's you you get you get things out of it because you learn every day but this year with you R dolphin is really opened my eyes to a lot of different things that you missing know like when you learned off learned off first time okay second time third time fourth time think you think you know a little bit so the same thing here um like I said I've been doing Tanya for many many years and I still do it every day but this is now I have I look forward to learning it again next year when it starts in kid slave so that I could uh I see exactly what what youve T me and then I I could take that and then have a much better understanding what the AL is talking about right so thank you very much and and just to conclude with that you just said there's a there's a major difference when you learn which means in depth versus you know be like you said you know you get to cover learn a page of T called the Dai it's wonderful but it's not be so the structure of this year of the is to go slower you know I I I don't go I don't want to go too slow spend you know three four weeks on one chapter CU you know people will that's too much so for that now reha you were supposed to be the first because you're the youngest so now you're the L you know what we say about go ahead I Just Want to Thank You dolphin I'm uh I think I'm a little bit ahead of mosa I'm not I think I'm the second newest in the class but I really appreciate you uh I never really learned Tanya I never really uh you know I've been to a Tanya class here T class there but I never really did anything on a regular basis and I appreciate what you're doing now and I want to thank Abby deer for introducing me to the class and thank you and uh we should all you know continue this me and and you should be gun you should be healthy for many many more years to be able to be um with us and at the same time always you know um s you know try to suggest to other people in your community to join us live or you know on YouTube um it's it's it's open you know it's not it's not about me it's about this sa you know uh it's it's um it's very helpful as to people you you all know that and and therefore you're giving a person a real gift but sometimes like y said you know 18 you know in theas they don't teach this and by the way as is said you know most cidic groups almost all don't seriously learn kasas forget about Tanya their own kidas from no you know they just read Friday night a little ver this and that a little more uh so so and you know that's not going to change easily there's been there is more and more people and I and really a lot more see this mes has really opened up this for thousands of people and barem there's now young boys who are tested on Tanya and they get prizes and they get some compensation both n and in in here in Bur Park and in M we have an entire institution doing that so you know it's going that way but it's still not at a level where they're going to teach it in the yibas as part of the curriculum not yet and by the way the rebba his his main thing that he discussed with rebes and and others was to to especially rebes to bringus the learning of kasus into their Yeshiva curriculum and they gave him a hard time they didn't agree with him you know a nice way and I and I'm talking about people who considered you know Friends of the rebba friends of kabad but they said we have a tradition and we don't do this so whatever the case whatever the case but you see and there are people walking around men and women and and young people if they if they find a good teacher a good class um it it's very helpful so always have that in mind to to suggest suggest some of you have done that and and and and the results are are are here I remember when Moshe I think suggested to iser to start coming I remember the the first questions that iser asked me then um when when before you joined then you came on to the she so and should give us the we should be healthy and emotionally healthy and and we should have shom like the said true peace not for FAL peace true peace Andes all over butes that they they finish off they need to and and and things get back to to a relatively normal situation I don't know if we can ever say that'll be the situation in there Isel cuz we Jews are fire we're fire and we're opinionated and everyone's going but you know and and and every once you see for your children and grandchildren Mark your daughters should go on the in a with a Jewish man in a Kosher Way and to being which I'm sure it'll happen soon uh my my daughter you know um is marrying in two two and a half weeks and uh it was a a while but when it happened it happens like this just you see you see Hashem you know you know so you know you got to stay calm it's hard some sometimes you know you get nervous you get upset uh why isn't happening you know I'm a good person I'm doing good things I'm a stand up right person in in the community and and and and yet you know the N it's there's a Hashem keeps score he knows the right time so with paros that way with the livelihood and know I have I have two daughters and a son that's still that's also it will happen um it it's you know trust me trust me uh I I I I got nervous a lot of times I was frustrated a lot of times you know uh I'm I'm no I'm no different than you guys you know and and and uh you just have to balance you have to balance and and and have Have and Have and and and and do the right thing and when it's time it happens like this it happens like this I'm telling you and you say wow you know where did this come from you know there wasn't a sh there wasn't you know what I'm saying and there wasn't the formalities and all of a sudden two people you know find uh compatibility and and and and what they call uh chemistry and uh they go on the you know um so it's it's it's can I make one more comment sure sorry please again is Insider Outsider comment about laich that that it's known that leich has had its critics for what they do and if anybody really wants to know why they do what they do they have to learn Tanya because the Tanya is the reason why laich is so successful in reaching out to every single year it's not something new the Al wrote this hundreds of years ago right and it it tells us what the mission ofus is I'll and if you don't know why go out to put the filling on or why they go out to the middle of nowhere to reach some isolated Jew learn the Tanya right that was I'm glad you said that because it's it's very very true and and I've said it throughout the years especially T yeah it's all based on this safer this is the this is the Bible of of ofus you know you know sometimes other get upset when you say that that this is the T but really when you learn it it's not about being aure it's about being a a Jew a Torah Jew and and and Aid if you know so it it's it's not my book is better than your book you know it's this is the content of what this rabi this sadikman wrote and I told you R he said that like like what is said he said almost the same thing that this is the only safer that he knows of in that's a manual a daily manual it's different than just having a nice comment for a paraa or things like that this is a a manual for living so I want to wish everyone a good I went to I also heard one time somebody some people critical over our hats but I don't know who said that but whoever said about the hats what hat what oh oh it's a so he got you that's all it count ah yeah this is in Russia in they didn't wear hats in Russia they wore ceton car over it yeah in Russia they wore a a sailor's cap like a CET hats but okay listen it's all good it's all good as long as there and everyone respects each other's sh and if it's good for them let them do that you know that was my message with this latest controversy here in kites about the I don't know if you're aware of it even and then I I I I said a few words about it and it had a very well was well received Live and Let Live you want to choose this SE choose this se you want to choose this SE like what you know come on anyway we got we got we got to finish with good good is that we we finish the 53 chapters and we'll start Monday have a great Shob everyone see everyone Z byebye take care byebye