Tanya Kuntres Acharon 8f- Live w G-d & stop bickering, clothing & residence - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

So, uh Barashem um after the loss of my mother-in-law, my uh youngest daughter to marry uh last year, Barashem had a baby boy and um it's brought down inim. That's a great consolation. >> Thank you. Thank you. That's a great consolation for the family. It's broke down specifically. >> Yeah. That it's if for the loss that a family has if one of the grandchildren have a a child. Um I think in particular a boy. I think I have to relook at the the letter. Um it's a a great consolation. So Dave should help that it should be it should be so. But back to Tanya. We're going to finish this today, Mr. Hm. And then tomorrow init we'll have a little fabangan. I'm it's the last day of the shiva. So my mother-in-law's honor. Uh I want to do that. Very important. So the alterba here is in the middle of discussing the importance of feel of prayer of dabing over Torah learning in in in in the gulst period of time. This is what he calls the look at the bottom of 390 in lesson. Therefore, prayer is the main the primary service of serving God at the at the time that we call the heels of the Messiah to refine the sparks. Next line. This is the subjugation or transformation of the vivifying soul. It should be subjugated or transformed to the godly soul koida as is known. I mentioned to you in the past that when you see the word in it's not just you know like a a writer like like is it says as is known it it it has it has a a very not just symbolic meaning a profound meaning that this concept is a mainstay concept inic jewelry you understand and what is the concept as we discussed yesterday at great length based on you also your question which was so perfect at the time that is our mission that's what it's about to go out to the field and to go into New Mexico and to go into Serbia and put fill on there and learn ta and give saddaka and help people that's levvadaist to refinement of the sparks. Okay, next page 391. He quotes the Pik the verse in the for the blood is the soul and therefore the life force of man. And given that the blood is the life force of the soul, it is renewed daily through food and drink. And as I said yesterday, for someone to say, for someone to say, I ate already, I drank already. When's the last time you heard someone say that, therefore, I'm not eating or drinking today? Uh usually when that's the case, it's because of a fast or because of health or you want to cleanse yourself out. But the the average normal person eats and drinks every day. So the says, "I know that." And given that that's the case, you are impacted by the food. We are impacted by the food whether we like it or not. Okay. There was a Yehuda Kitri Rab Kitri of Tvat Seminary which Moses Mosa Brun's daughters went to I believe and Rabit had a father he lived to 106 I think I knew him I mean I saw him in 770 he was aid from Russia from Kharkov I think and when he was what did they call a senitarian when he hit 100 years old. The New York Times asked him, "Rabbi, what's your secret?" You know what he said? He said, "The food. I was always careful to eat the right food, not to indulge in food." That's what he said. Again, you know, can we say for sure it's not exercise, it's food, whatever. But definitely food is part of it. So the fact is that since we eat and drink every day and it becomes part of our bloodstream meaning it becomes part of who we are you have to refine that otherwise the food schles you down and not only you become tired or sluggish and you can't move you know like you're a big behemoth not just that it's it's the whole you know your whole mindset is is is occupied you're not free. You're not free. By directing the note on page 391, by directing his eating and drinking to the holy goals of the divine soul of one refineses and elevates the sparks found within the food and drink and that is Moshe that's what takes place when we eat when we eat properly and we make a and we and only on things that are kosher right we refine the sparks and when we refrain from eating things that are not kosher we refine the sparks by by by by by not eating those items. So and the same is true with drinking etc. Okay says man is affected and improved by his garments and his shelter. Very interesting that the alterba adds this here. Usually he doesn't add this in Tanya you know he talks about you'll find in Tanya and also in this as mentioned yesterday right you'll find the eating and drinking eating and drinking that's common but seldom do you find the mention the impact that garments clothing and residence has on a person. And just for a second, the Gar says, I forget the exact quote. Whatever the person's home, where you live, it has the ability to bring broadmindedness, you know, leisure, freedom, independence. If you live in a place which is not that I'm not even talking about lavish but you know dark and etc etc you have less of and it's true they tell the story and it's of the mitba that on his desk when people came in to see him for private consultation he had coins expensive coins and they one of the explanations is that in order to to to to relate to all the people who came to see him for advice. They came one after the other and one's coming from Johannesburg and one's coming from here and there with different issues. You have to you have to inab the idea is that the Reb has to dress himself up one second dress himself up in certain garments for Mosha brass take off those garments when Mosha exits the Reb's room and puts on other garments for Hil because of different people different backgrounds different issues now the concept and I don't mean literally dressed up the idea of spiritual investing yourself and Then extracting, taking away those garments and putting on others is a big job. And it's difficult because when you're invested, especially the way a Reb is invested in a petitioner, he's fully there. Otherwise, why are you going to him? You're wasting your time. He's fully there. If he's fully there, he feels your agony. He feels your pain. He feels your sa. But he's there. Now imagine he has to 5 minutes later another petitioner comes in who has a whole different story. He has to undress himself put on other garments for the mindset of this new person. So it's a very very um taxing experience. So what did Mitba do? One of the things he did was he had coins on his table knowing that he has kind of money coins. It helped him feel broad expansive like I'm looking down on the screen. I see Mosa with his beautiful art in the background. It it's you know look at look at my background. It's pretty simple. I'm just saying the the the the the the beauty of a house of art and different things. Of course, it's not an it's not a primary thing, but it definitely adds to the person's expansiveness. So the alterba says here that the garments that a person wears the clothing and the house the da that you have are very important and at the same time they can be abused. how to abused or you indulge you indulge indulge in lavish you know things and and and it takes away from your spirituality your and it's a it's it's over the top it's it's ostentatious and we've discussed this many many times it's a very fine line between you know having material matter for the sake of Hashem including beautiful things on and on and on right a most beautiful errich, the most mahud matzah or pumping your own ego. I have the nicest errich in town. You know that feeling. You might not say it, but you might think it, you know. And soba here in it says that in order to in order to tr to subjugate and to transform the nephis you have to also think about not only the food and drink that you consume but also the things that are what we call makif they surround the person right they don't they're not digested food and drink are digested inside inward the housing and clothing are unt it's not who I am I put I whoever I am put on a shirt on me. So, excuse me. Excuse me. So, it's Makif. It's Makif. Yes. Ma, you wanted to say something. >> Um, I just wanted to clarify. I wasn't sure if you had said the Rebba. >> Yes. >> Said the Reb. >> The Mikll Reb. >> Okay. the the Reb I I you know I I don't believe had coins in his table you know but the mitba the story is told of the rebba okay let's continue m so this this all this says is relevant in our generation now again remember our bedu doesn't start from 2025 it started way back it's called dorenu Right? That's when the aod of is an okay now. Conversely, in the earlier generations, when the divine souls were of a higher order, and it doesn't elaborate, but I would think it's not only a a um a quantitative issue, it's a qualitative issue. In other words, in the early generations, the less materialistic you are, the more the shine of the godly soul is seen in the individual. Right? Today, for example, we we we have a hard time many times seeing that that someone is living with a nephilik in a way that's very special. We're told and that we study and we but in the but in the older in the in the generations that is showing him just by kind of looking sensing a person you knew this is a holy man this is a holy man why because the nephe was on a different level both qualitatively both quantitatively right and and qualitatively you know like Rab Salvich relates how in Warsaw, you know, he he his father became a principal, a dean, a principal in a Zionist school called Tikaki in Warso, Poland in the 1920s. So naturally, he moved with his father. So he says that he would go in from time to time to the local garble of Alexander, you know, the Polish and he talks about how the nigunim and the warmth was so palpable. You have to hear it from him. I'm not I'm not doing uh any any any merit by by you have to hear it from his voice and but it's so real how and he's you know one second one second you know he as he always says he's a snag from B from the so this cold lit you know talks about how the water carrier the water carrier in Warsaw blew away everyone you know the water carrier not the not only the that's the idea that I think that the quality of the kiss in earlier generations again here it means even much earlier but I'm just saying if you compare the time period of Warsaw which I heard from my own grandfather who was from that region right and he told me about the yeden and then I read it by the way in memoirs of survivors who spoke about the city in which my uh my mother was was born and raised Makov Mazuets which is outside of Warsaw and I I interviewed in Ramadan about the last 5 years when I've been back and forth there at this a 99 year old man today he's 100 to 101 I hope he's alive the mind was working and he told me fascinating things I put it on my YouTube I mean fascinating things that he remembered from the the type of people the there modernity the Zionism so I walked away with a kind of a um a support a support for S Rabbi Salivic's position my own grandfather's position what do you want to say >> uh you just brought to mind a story I'm not sure is known um that that told the Reb told that once Uh he he was close to the panim who became the grebba before he became reb. >> Oh yes. >> And and the used to uh there used to be a place in Kyifa that the rebies would go on holiday you know get away. So um they pan aim told the told the told the rebba that um he walked into that place and uh to that home and he suddenly remembered a niggan that he had heard as a child when his father had taken him to a spa. He had heard as a child of a vishnitic niggan that and it suddenly came into his mind. So the the tone rev was curious about this you know where this memory came from. He did some research and he he was uh found out that the week before that the sid vishnet surba had stayed in that apartment and like so he sort of proposed that the so to speak like the dra had absorbed the atmosphere and that that had brought it into the reby's mind. >> Yeah. And and I I I hon I believe those things. I really do. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> I really believe that there's I mean the Reb, just to support what you're saying, the Rebel always said, >> "What makes 770 special?" He didn't, I'm paraphrasing because he didn't say those words. He we would say the fact that my father-in-law Davin then learned it for 10 years. I mean, that we heard from the Reb hundreds of times. Now, you think about it. Your father-in-law passed away in 1950. It's 1990. It's 40 years later. Like, are you kidding? Like, and what's the answer? Of course, there's a holiness and sanctity doesn't is not from its place. And the is the we we know all that. But the the the the soul of that the soul of that kazal is that in those walls and in those benches and in that exact location the the previous sadic whoever it is or reb or go whatever you know learned there and davined there and benched people and that's that's uh just uh this past uh pes when I was there. So I found I told you I found the house of the um No, what's the Reban? Katamon the the Kat Katamon Reb. Oh, what? Elo, which come from theam sofa, right? They're the only the DKAS, not not so so I I never really checked them out and I was staying in Katamon. I decided to, you know, to to go out a little bit in Kataman. And so I said we, so I was told that the Belerba used to come and stay sometimes in Kataman in in addition to um the Shamgar over there down by um no down by the you know the bus station area. I forget the name of the place but across the Shamar whatever. >> Oh. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Not here. But but anyway, so I don't I'm walking walking and I'm asking and lo and behold, I come to a corner. I think or something. I forget in Kammon. And someone says, "This is the house." And I see a building. I said, "This is the house? It's not a house, a building." That first floor is where it used to be a house before they put up the whole building. And I knocked at the door and I I I to go through there were Arabs um mauling the lawn and things and they didn't look uh very appealing to me. So I you and I quickly went the Reb's wife, the Rebbitson opened up, let me in and I told her, "Please lock that door because as far as I'm concerned, you got murderers in your in your garden there and just, you know, you should know make sure that door is locked." Any anyway and she took me into the room in which her husband sits and gives yis you know with people in the same room that the g the belleba the great kadesharak dav and lived in lived in that room this you know it was dilapitated everything was fixed up it was beautiful the house with the marble floor it had no feeling of of of a bleerba house I can tell you that But the so here she says that my husband bas greets people in this room because he hopes that the advice and brah that he gives people will have an impact that the belba was sitting lived here. So so this is a a universal inidic Judaism for sure again in kazal we have a kazal for that. Let's finish the tanya before we close the share. Okay. So he says in earlier generations there was more of more people had the their godly soul that was apparent. The refinement of the sparks was done immediately immediately. It didn't take a lot of davining and a lot of learning, a lot of davening and and and and and being spal. But as soon as he said, you were extracted the spark because you were refined. So you didn't have to break through the shell and the husk of the coarseness that we that we that we that we have. That's what he says. Um and this is and therefore immediately as he said and the blessings before and the abridged and so on which is brought down if you don't have the time next page 392. So these prayers alone then sufficed to reveal the Jewish the Jews love of Hashem and brought about the resulting Beirutim refinement of the sparks the dial maven ends this this uh this essay this will suffice for the discerning which always means basically use your use your cup you know be a maven in other words what is he alluding to what is he alluding to what is the altern kind of getting at. I mean, in other words, why does he have to say that? When you learn a piece of Tanya, it's not just if he says certain words, what does he mean with those words? What would be missing over here if he didn't say those words? Vila Maven. So again, this is just thinking out loud. I didn't see this anywhere. But the dial maven in other words although today the ikar is tila and tila is a process as we know ding ding ding ding ding ding right and and and we are more course he's saying I think that so the aod today is whereas once upon a time it was tora and once upon a time as soon as you and basish and and an a bridged version of suk zimbra you were able to get through and and accomplish and today it's not that way is saying if you'll be a maven and you'll understand that then you too can kind of adapt some of that and bring it into your life if you understand and appreciate it. In other words, just because the overall the overall period is a gulus period as we all know very well with its limitations and issues and problems. But if you live and this I think the Reba really called for if you live with a Msiach attitude in your life in gulos you're like Msiah dick. You're you're you're Of course you're not. We don't have a bikdash and we're in gull and there's death on and on. We know that. But if you change your paradigm and this is what this is the approach of the baltov the beautiful rich approach of is that don't you don't allow the gouless mentality to dictate your life and and mind you when when I say yi the the bump because before the bump or today even those those few that still don't accept the bent of you You know what I mean? Um, you know, it's like, hey, we're in Balos, just learn, just dab in, and let Hashem do everything else. No, the BMP said, "No, the BMP said we have to do make the difference. We can make the difference and we can live guladick in a redemptive state in a redemptive state in in the in the mindset of the person not to allow negativity and arguments you know we'll talk tomorrow I'm going to fra my mother-in-law because I said it's her end of Shiva but you know this was one thing in her life you know and and I saw it over and over I heard about it and hearing you She she had an opinion. She was no no slouch. You know, she had an opinion. But, you know, certain points said, "Okay, let's go on." In other words, to channel negative negativity, difference of opinion, argumentation, and to move on, but to move on not in a way where you, you know, don't want to have anything to do with the other person. Okay, that's that's your opinion. Let's now how is it relevant to what we're doing now? You know, you know, from from arguing back and forth day and night, the the the the won't have the the food that he needs. The person who doesn't know the olive bays won't get the olive bays. You want to teach the olive bays in one way, teach it in your way. You want to teach it another way. I'm not I'm not from those that you know anything goes and and I'm not saying that you know there are there is rhyme and reason okay we have a we have a but at the same time the the you know the the clever person the person sees the greater picture and guess what the a has room for everybody he's a big aish he has room for everybody and so many People come to Hashem from within and from without in so many different ways in so many different ways. you know there I have um friend who's helped me you know on some of my books you know when he was a a a student in yeshiva in a literacy yes he was a real snaggot he didn't like but you know in particular today you know without his beard he's such a fire of a and he learns and he understands and and like what happened over here the answer is he woke up at a certain point and realized the of you know my father's better than your father and all this foolish gossip narish kkite that goes around our community which is pure waste of time so he woke up yeah it took him 40 45 years 50 years but he woke up and and so now his friends from yeshiva I spoke to one of them said I I can't believe it this kid as a 70year-old was like you know saying negative things about kabad So it's, you know, we got to wake up. You got to wake up. And it's not about just it's saying for speaking negative about literature, you know, in in in a disgusting way. It's all, it's wrong. It's not right. It's and it's not true. It's not true. That's their mahal. You don't like their mahalik, don't follow their mahal. No problem. Have a great day. We'll bring tomorrow. Got to go. Shalom. Bye. Bye. Yes.