Tanya is solution for negativity and way to have Simcha in your Daily Life - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

we're learning now coming back to learning after everyone had a painless Monday break with with it with strength and kayak and we begin learning chapter 26 in Tanya and again let me give you a brief uh recap and update on on where we're at the river on the sharp blood it's called the title page of Tanya says that my book doesn't use those words I'm paraphrasing the the saferatonya is is about the posic impartials that saw him very near to you in your mouth and your heart and to act upon how is that possible when gashmir seems to be closer to us than spirituality nucleus and God and Theta because this person is not just a specific possible verse it's a general rule it's a cloud it's a cloud that makes every should make every person think regardless of he's religious she's not religious if you're Jewish and you believe in the data and that God wrote gave the data and gave this to us it's a very perplexing verse and why thou did feel that it's important to explain this verse and to really take it apart is because it's real life was a very practical person with all of the sitkis and he was at Sadiq and he was a going I don't have to tell you he wrote him and was a leader of Russia Bel Russian jewelry with a mental Victor left to Ernest is Royal they appointed him specifically to be the leader of that region and when the when the um Carlina wanted had to leave the shankovich because really bothering him and made him his life miserable so he wanted to come to the altarebus region in belarusia and Dalton gave him three conditions so number one we understand that I don't remember now if he was older than the balotany or not but truly he was a very big Sadiq and accomplished person and had a following but he knew to go in to buy larussia where that Mendel Vitae was kind of the rebbies of all these red of the altadapa and the flame and others you need permission there's a there's a there's a system to this madness Okay you just don't come in you ask for permission so he asked for permission and the alternate said my dear sir I love you and I no problem but there's three conditions and one of the conditions is you cannot teach here your approach of Sadiq bedia that the cross it will live through the Sadiq meaning you go to the subject and you get a little shirayim and you get a little brother and and you get a bracha and basically the topic will schlep you out of your Schmutz and your situation Dr never said no I see her citizen not khabad just kabbad hasidism at that time was for all of khasidism or at least for that region of khasidism as requiring available your own work your own effort and if you're willing to do that absalem up you're welcome to this region and if not I don't give you permission and guess what was agreeable to two of the uh two the two of the three I forget now the two other conditions but to this he did not agree and I understand why he didn't agree because it was a contradiction to his approach to say this yes Maisha yeah remember reached out to you with a question and the question was at what point is become formalized as a system so so the the previous rapper writes in the genealogy of him and you can all read it yourselves he gives the date if I I didn't look at it this is my memory either 1778 when remandal Victor left or 1780 a 1788 so you know I'm not going to contradict Who Am I who are we but nevertheless it seems like not just academics but even you know hasidim who have studied the all of this it seems to us that he really uh started his shitas Chabad in a public way 10 years later around you test kiss lifetime One Moment One Moment so we could say we could say that it's not a contradiction in other words writes in the genealogy is that in in in in an ideology already he formed his Chabad shita back then in 1788 but the publicity of it the manifestation of it wasn't until 10 years later in the genealogy I looked I looked it up it actually writes slightly different it's 1773 so the dollar began to put things together in terms of okay that's so I mentioned okay I told you I forgot 70 73 is when the market passed away so the Frida Kadabra is is is is is positioning is arguing that the altareba from then already started to um he took the Market's Torah and he felt that she'd be done through the chat the channels of Chabad but again it besides that reference again I'm not the world's expert but I do have a little knowledge in this field um it's difficult to find strong support or support to justify 1773. but that's what it says so for the you know so the way I reconcile the 20-year difference or so is the the there's the shita in ideology and then there's the shita as the shita becomes a public phenomenon and I think the public phenomenon not I think I believe it was not too much later and it was the out this story for example with Carlina doubted it he and and the proof is the story is one of the one of the proofs to what I'm arguing is this story if if it would have been known in the whole region of Russia and Ukraine and belarusia right that the balotanya he only wants Chabad about the Derek of then how would it Carlina even think of asking him if slayman knew that the the stolen approach of screaming and shouting and shaking it ain't gonna fly with the balotanya so why would he even ask him so it seems to me that's because it was not known it was not known as a public commodity so they're an employment didn't know about it either so he asked sincerely you asked me a question I tell you what my sheep is now um yes sir what did you want to say I I wanted to say that moshe's question I think to you came up from a conversation that we were having as we were learning the aguirus at kadish which was my question of the credit for it which is that it seems to me that when the author was writing the agarose he was writing stom 2 kasidin which which is a very large term and the question was at what point that and it may be more of a question of other branches of hasidid of hasidus as opposed to Chabad but at some point at some point had became a unique a unique uh structure and and shita but when he was writing the agira sakurdish at least to me it seems like he was writing to the masses of hasidim wherever they were so two points I hear you and it's I'm glad you made that point one is the Icarus are a compilation of different letters from different years could be 10 years apart the the first to get us a call this and the second one I think are Mama's different years right the second against which is written right after which is 1798. the first one I think is I think is early or late what I'm saying is that's number one so you have to know that so because a were written more it's clear it's written more to labavidson for example the second one is telling them again he doesn't use the word Chabad but he's telling them don't take revenge of them snag them it doesn't again it doesn't use those words that's the Kool-Aid yeah good point good point but we know we know that katanti was written right after you discus and you This Kiss Live was eurosa right for example um but yuta's Kiss Live was celebrated this everyone will agree whether they like it they don't like it but Utah became a Chabad yamtov I asked the Slender Man Robbie Weinberg it's anaku here is why his why this didn't celebrate Utah because the lechovich the holy lechovich was also imprisoned so it wasn't just I asked him the same thing he says I don't know but what what that means is that I we're right and saying that only Chabad or you know mostly Chabad was the only ones to celebrate to get This Kiss Live so that 20 is is is is is is directed it might be directed to everyone but it's really was the it was it was more to Chabad that's our tradition and and the support for that but nevertheless that maybe you're referring to where he speaks about giving slow again if they were written if that particular letter was written let's say in 1790 or seven and and and at that time down today but was already in charge uh were pointed by the mantle vedepskin for the whole uh by Belarusian region I would agree with your position that it was to all but so you have to really know when the dates are another point you have to know is that once 1798 99 yeah went above from college came out against alter River in shita it doesn't make sense that he wrote to the hasidim who are supporting because they're not going to listen to him and and and and and it was a very big disagreement and the disagreement by the way impacted and the coil where you're giving the money to so you know I don't know if anyone has studied this but it it's it's something it's a good point you're making um and we need to really know what's more uh Surety the dating of those and it could be maybe someone else has already done that I can I'll ask someone but I do want to get back to Tanya so so going back to the point over here is that the altarebus says because I feel that this idea of the Korea is relevant to each and every one of us how do we go about it so in his style of siddis which is called he says it requires two approaches one approach it calls a long way you know to get available from cologne they start into to Brussels transverapine there's a shortcut and there is a long way and out that ever says that's a good that's a lot Gamora it's means two things this Deb explained once either it's one path but it's a long short path or it's two different paths the pastors what we learned in Tanya is it's two paths what's the two paths one is the path from chapters one or better set chapters nine through 18 nine chapters and those nine chapters the outdated but develops the idea of the the Sadiq the benini and the Russia primarily the Benin so from chapter 12 through 18 six chapters I'm sorry I'm sorry not 18 17 chapters 12 through 17 five chapters he dedicates to the banana knee because that's the thrust of the safe of the Prototype the average person the potential average person he teaches us that if you refine yourself and to refine yourself he had already explained in chapters one through nine who we are what our faculties what are our tools and instruments that's all chapters one through uh nine or through eight and he explained that who we are so once we know who we are then we go to deal with um with the world we're in and that was the beginning primarily and basically says Hashem says you can speak talk is cheap action is loud and great but as far as character and personality it's not yet at demonstrative of Who You Are what's going on with your heart the Midas the emotions are you a mensch are you refined can be a fruit and tootin intellectual in a big town across them and a big professor and you're an animal but if you're about me this and you refine Bill your heart oh so then the question is to refine the heart and the Midas is such a hard thing because we lose control it's just a hard thing about the devil says I know so therefore in chapter 16 of Daniel says you know what I what I can expect of what Hashem can expect of you that's where he says that the meaning in the verse is not pure heart palpitations of love for God which is difficult and unattainable on a regular way of rum for the bainini but what's attainable for the Bengali daily is a a feeling that leads to action and he discusses that it's an intellectual feeling I don't want to go over you know that whole chapter 16. and he calls it over there Cloud Google remember I think I told you that there's three times and Tanya I believe that it says Cloud goggle twice or three times one is in chapter 16. because this idea of a rational type of Love Is it's it's a novelty now to rep is interpretation of the verse in in it's not that we're looking for pure heart but we're looking for enough of heart to stimulate action and behavior and really just as an aside that fits into today's whole psychology and now they're into what are they into inserts called the not new rules um uh neuro neuro not Neuroscience there's this latest fad that everyone's talking about all the speakers yeah neuroplasticity thank you foreign I'm sorry for laughing a little bit at it because it's like every few years we get something new to hang up on hang on and all of a sudden all the speakers are in their talks you'll hear neuroplasticity plasticity it's like what so you want to tell us what that is as much as I don't understand it it's the ability to build a brain to basically rewire cells okay the brain is plastic plastic meaning flexible flexible okay I don't know I see it as much but anyway I'm not a booking Pathways and how connections if that makes us happy and that and that answers all of our problems great anyway so this was chapter 16. then thou that comes along in chapter 18 and he says something very important it says wait a minute you're telling me that you have to use mind over matter and what if someone is weak in mind is not an intellectual he's not at the type to use his mind but rather to act on impulses how is he to control his yes so then the whole scenario Falls away so you're telling that type of a person which are plenty of people you're doomed you're doomed because you're controlled by ahr by your impulses says the altareb in chapter 18 and 19. no you're not because there's another way this he calls Yoni but there are kitsura right the first way is our because you gotta work using your mind you have to think you have to have the data it's lots of work you have to go to school and get tested and get your ba and get your ma and get your PhD and get your doctors it's Elijah mcgilla chapter 18 and 19 it says you know because you have to create something you have to create something of yourself it's work what if I don't have to create all I have to do is reveal who I am my natural self it's much easier so therefore even the person who does who's not the type to use their has to use their Seiko because they don't have they don't use it much that's not the way they're trained the wired Etc no excuse you're a mensch you're you're living you having the shama you have what's called avamos uterus hidden latent love reveal it be my gallant and that and he teaches in 1819 how and when is the Guillory as it goes on throughout the chapters so now chapter 26 the autebe says okay so now you would think we should finish the first part of Tanya and that's it there's still an issue it's called outside interferences and this is very important because I'm sure we've all asked ourselves Hashem God I'm doing what you want and I'm doing what the title says and I'm doing what my wife says and I still am stuck that's what the alternator addresses Maisha in chapters 26 through 34 nine chapters where he'll talk about the issues that interfere our avoidance Hashem and what we can do about it now I want to make it very clear that although I wrote a book Tanya mental health and I I discussed at lengthy's Chapters as well truth be said now that I've been speaking in chapter 26 through 34 to the banana knee to the person who has gone through chapters 1 through 25. doubted up is not talking at least on the out on the on the surface to someone who's still stuck and controlled by Sahara he's talking to someone who's overpowered his Gates of her in a sense he has things in control either through marriage or through the album of the Terrace but he's thrown a curveball what's the curveball sometimes it's being upset and depressed because of your past sins sometimes it's because of your ego and all these issues the altareba discusses in this chapter so therefore it must be said clearly when we talk about clinical depression for someone to wave the Tanya and say hey learn to Tanya and your clinical depression will go away that's nonsense you need a psychiatrist a psychologist a therapist a rabbi medicine whatever you need can the Tanya help absolutely it can also help but not as a substitute Dr Devin chapter 26 is not coming to address someone who has clinical depression I just want to make it clear he's coming to the press a very healthy person called a banani Yoni a person who who is who's really worked in himself on his midos on his character and all of a sudden he starts thinking but I'm not good I did this in in my life and I did this and I did that and I feel awful and he becomes upset about his avados that's what he's addressing here in the beginning you'll see soon says that since we know that the icker and avoidance Hashem is lacking you can't serve God as a rigid and frigid icicle you can't I mean you could but it's like it's very it's very it doesn't it doesn't move you it's all here it doesn't make a difference inside so here the question is I feel crummy inside because of my past and past doesn't mean only for Bali truth it means for every single yank because if you can find me a Jew that hasn't committed sin I'll give you a big star you know what I'm saying everyone goes through life and we have challenges and we have issues from the right to the left to the center and bar Hacienda we have an opportunity to grow out of it and this is saying over here going to say because I see we're almost out of time is going to teach us ways of accessing simcha so here it's another important Point clever I want you to know and remember for the rest of your lives that these chapters in Tanya are not Musser in chapter 29 for example he went we're going to hear some real what sounds muser-like stuff it's not Musser said this forget about Chabad all of hasidis it's not Musa okay Muslim learned on and on and it's very important especially during the show foreign 1648 1649 the hellmanninsky programs and padolia devastated us not just physically but mentally and spiritually we're giving up Holocaust even we're giving up what's going on here zutara we just came from tizenberg we read about the ten Martyrs this is Taylor and this is the reward says you have to change your entire way of thinking and he introduces what's called hasidism philosophy of Sinners terrorists and when you learn Terror succeeders be it impressive being in being Cuts being a Chabad being in in Boston whatever all that Sadiq they sh we share all one thing in common we tell medium of the balcantas and the bosemite says how that manifests each group has its Style today these nine chapters that's the nakuta he seeks to communicate is how to have simcha in your life and not to be depressed because of your past sins and not to be depressed because of your military thinking about what's for supper I gotta run to the studio what's going to be with this patient and my stocks up and down and then you say oh it's the way I dive in this morning disgusting what kind of Jew am I who am I fooling maybe I just continue being this you know uh Pagan uh glutton and continue living it up what do I need what do I need all this says down to them in these chapters I'll help you find ways of rejecting these negative thoughts and this is very very important because the negative thoughts are constant if someone is serious Volvo if a someone is a serious person then these thoughts bother them you understand if you're not serious and you don't care about anything and you just do what you want then all of these thoughts are garnish right but if you're serious and we're serious because we want to serve Hashem series doesn't mean that happy and depressed no that's not serious serious means you take things you're mature you know you know it makes a difference writes at the end of uh in not at the end the middle of the mime of basiligani and in other than quotes of the mother another name a person doesn't know his time when will be his last day right you can look at it and say oh how depressing right and then you could say no how uplifting so what am I doing about it today like you know there's no time to waste the there's no time to waste every moment has to be accounted for so I'm going to work how am I going to work what music am I playing in my car what do I read on the trains from Tel Aviv to your shalayam Etc now with the new train to te petite Ramadan whatever what am I reading am I looking at all everything around me which you shouldn't be looking at because there's a lot of not Kosher things to look at what are you thinking about what are you reading you know so it's in those every day issues talks to us and that's why Tanya is safe for natanya is such a valuable safer in helping the average person in his daily life deal with the curveballs that come to us the the inadequate feelings that come to us the the the ego that comes to us and says me you're gonna you know who I am on God's gift to humanity and yeah and you want to put me down right so in Chapter 30 down to that but makes wipes you away and says you're God's gift to Manatee you're such a yes and yes and you're so spoiled you were raised on the street corners you will raise the Wall Street or the Upper East Side and you think you're a big a big you know or or maybe you were a Hasidic boy I just heard I'm interviewing some um who told me that about a certain rabbit don't want to say who he was his friend when he was a little boy eight years old seven years old nine years old his father wouldn't let him go out of the house on Shabbos he didn't want him to see the grayish guy all around him okay that's that's his father's decision he becomes a rabbit he's very holy very very nice but on the other hand that I'm not I'm just saying is it's like what else should he do he didn't go out of the house he didn't see anything so what you understand who who who was more refined someone who saw the world and tasted from the world and rejected the world and becomes a true about the shuva in his eye is not ship Nima where he's disgusted with all those things that once he tasted and once he lived and once he did he says ugh it's it's not who I am right who who is who is higher says the good morning they can't compare to about and the reason is because I just said yes yes you stay in your household Shabbos great I'm not saying that that doesn't mean that the person is not Sadi today and then the person shouldn't go to him I'm not saying that but I just want you to understand it's like a friend of mine said about another friend's mother who had numbers on her arms she was a Survivor from ostrich and he said we can go to ask her for a brother is as holy as any rabbit anyone that went through the Holocaust and has a number on their hand it doesn't mean only enough but you know they they paid their dues they've paid their dues you know and I don't know if it's right saying that's not what I can say but but a soldier was in the Israeli Army he's from Monaco but he goes on the front to help Eaton remember who you're talking to he took them to Obama see the Snapfish because they can kill you right there and then as we know and the soldiers have regulate he put himself aside for omnis Royal not for Sahara for Omni Israel at the end of the day for the Jewish people is so holy and that's why that I beloved the soldiers and rabbit and say does he put until it are they sleeping together is it sneeze it didn't say any of that but didn't say that that said go give them Hanukkah guilt go give them suganyot go dance with them because at the end of the day we're sitting in bechamish and in yerushalayim and all over and there in Gaza or in Golan defending us and putting their lives on the line you know so so it's creating the mechanism here how to access this daily so when we learn these chapters we'll learn to March and begin we have ammunition to have simcha in our lives which is the icker the way to approach Ellen I want to finish I don't know if you saw the video I made this past week because I spoke to the son to three three sons of a very big literature Shiva I was researching something and I wanted to speak to one particular son who they told me might know the answer because they didn't know so one of the sons says but you can't get to him I said why not I got to all three of you he says because he doesn't speak so I said but it's not yet called disheveled it was it was the first day of Chicago Dash but it was the 30th above I said he's so from that he begins not speaking already on the first table it says I guess he's so from so I spoke about it the difference between the way Chabad as well look at how to shovel and the way literature look at how the shelves the same kind of shell but two different approaches and it's not a Chabad and hasid wanted to speak gossip my father told me that in Luke in his Yeshiva by the which he was there from 50 to 58. he I remember he telling me this like every year at all time we used to be more serious there were more but but more Glenn and we spoke less Lush and horror and we spoke Less in general I remember growing up hearing that so khabaro sold serious did that but the ques the issue is how you go about it so when the river Russia was brought this is what they say I don't have proof to it they brought the safer they told the revolution about the safest media Foundation today has made this big huge campaign of Anton Hara and time is Depot and all of that what do you say about the safer and they say that the river raft shop said it's a very good and it's very important not to speak Russian horror and to be informed of what is and what's not special emotion when it comes to him and you want to find out about parents about the girl about the boy boy can you boy can you get involved in Allah it's very easy whatever shop said by us we put the emphasis on Smita it's an attitude it's an approach both approaches are valid but it's a this is the the shop said so the L of the of course to minimize Lush and her and of course by speaking but not you know like oh you know Chinese people it's getting involved in more of Hashem in other words think find out who God is this month and learn more about Hashem learn cities and automatically you won't have time to speak and gossip and an Irish guy versus no we're just gonna put a zip on our mouth so every year you eat the path and and trust me we have to talk a bit minimize our Russian Huda special this month not to talk about people instead of the Shabbos table the easiest thing is it happens many compost them on my table the end of speaking about this person that but what did he say what is she saying and that the ultimate leads to watch to not good it's it's very luring right it's very easy to to so you have to be careful okay you would like to say anything or we'll continue tomorrow I guess we'll continue tomorrow and wonderful today yes one thing one thing go ahead [Music] I mean we and we we we wish you young we wish you happy 18th birthday [Music] it should always stay young and always and always help Eden and bring simcha to Eden and and and share your connection to to chabads with others uh and and just be a living example of of a year that that's on the right track and doesn't get involved and and stay focused and don't allow the students to interfere with your avoid we'll see everyone tomorrow take care bye bye okay