Tanya #31 Teshuva for Masterbation, and making a Mammzar - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

I want to say that um the the the the the the information we're learning now in in paid Exile and Tanya is is is real it's not that the altareba wrote this for some big bow down again uh who is sitting and learning a davening and dealing with his issues and he's able to he has the time no that's also that's a given but the alternate is talking to us regular people who have jobs we'll have families who grew up in the way each of us grew up and who have normal divers that's why this Panic is relevant Every payday can Tanya you have to find in its relevance I told you I was once learning with a doctor in San Francisco and it was it was bright he was he was from Boston and his parents were from Russia you know he was a studied man gentleman he still is butter Hashem he was a good friend he was a real good friend and we were learning chapter 12 comes after chapter 12. it doesn't come one week a second week it's like all them up and I say what happened he says rabbi I'll never be abandon me I'll never be a pain in these so what's the point of learning this and I think it was issue or someone else who asked a similar question before we began Tanya so that's why I keep on pointing out to you in various ways the relevance of Tanya to our lives yes we are potential potential pain in him but let's let's put aside you know the names Russia let's talk about the Indian the idea and that's what we're talking about so let's continue now on page base 12 we're holding it's after the it's about 10 lines from the bottom the line begins with the word aim them and then it says Hulu Huli and the word afterwards is the out chew them and it's in regards this juvenile that comes from an abundant of love that we discussed yesterday it's regarding this level of chuva that the sages say that the intentional sins when you do true for them when you do true with me I'm sorry is the word excuse me not just regular chuva sugar me intense abundant chuva when you do this level of truth of this intensity of chuva that's when all of these dinos all of the intentional Sins Not The Accidental and inadvertent sins but the ones that we knew clearly were not allowed to do this and we did it anyway and I explained to you yesterday a very important thing you should never forget and teach it to your children and grandchildren and people out there what it means to know to know doesn't mean that you went to a town of Torah or you went to a Hebrew school or or someone passed the school and while you were hiding a rush over there available someone said there's something called Shabbos and then you go and you break Shabbos you don't know what Shabbos is because someone tells you Shoppers what Shabbos we're talking about someone who learned about Shoppers and understand Shoppers and learn to miss them on and on and on I'm not saying he asked the doctor go to Yeshiva to learn about Shabbos you can learn Shabbos who your parents do in a community too and of course or a book for that matter but when you're studied and you're knowledgeable and then you go against it that's called zainus that's called an intentional transgression coming from this great intense love for God it converts it transforms it changes this those intentional sins dinos turmerics to mistress the vein itself becomes a midst of me this philosophically I'm sure you have to have read swarm in books it's it's it's an awesome idea to say that the sin itself becomes a Mitzvah but that's because I'll say let's not see this that's kazal that's what the gamada says the Mishra says and believe in humans so let's continue foreign but if you do chuva not from this love perspective it's a good juvenile I've seen trooping the claim even though it's it's proper Trooper the Hashem look at the words here and God will forgive you because the actual Act of intentional sin that will not become meritorious and those intentional sins will not ascend from the clip in which it's in legomni on Ace cancer you glamorous comes when death will be when when when death will be eradicated for for eternity you need there's two levels there's regular chuva and this tuba me Ava rub and that's what he's discussing here and what he's saying is and a phenomenal thing that you have to look at it carefully when you do chuva whether it's true ah you we get forgiven for that the problem is what about the energy of rum what about the energy I used for the Aveda what about the Aveda that I did you think of it this way think of it this way don't steal and if you steal the theft if you don't you can do chuva and you and you say I promise I won't again be a kleptomaniac and I won't still the problem is you already stole and the item is by you so until you give back the item the item doesn't have an elevation by zayla by the way it's not a good example fully because byzela you don't get chuva until you return the item I just was trying to use that to show you that what if the person who stole says like this I'll never do again I'll never steal again so you say okay and and you don't get shuva you get juva but it's not full why because he didn't return yet the item it's in your basement so you have to go and give that back yeah something similar about every truva the true verb that you are granted the truth that you do and God forgives you that that can even come ye from being fearful yet uh or other regular Ava you get that but you will not reinstate the energy that was abused to become not only Powers but to become a Mitzvah because that requires children now the alternative says well let's think about the the issues of of of wasted semen nocturnal omission the energy that's wasted in the form of spilling seed for no reason at all you're not engaged in the Mitzvah now with your spouse when seed comes forth for reproduction purpose of spiritual or physical but this is just a a masturbation um plot masturbation Joy CE please those drops of semen descended into the three Realms of negativity when you wasted them harizu oil there's a way of bringing it even back that energy and the outer levels uses the word how through true through propri and proper intent Focus kavana says that the the side benefit of Krishna meat of sanctions is to re-bring to reinstate and to elevate the particularly the Hayes era they should have an Aliyah and that should be rectified that's what it says in narizo um this thought is also alluded to begin mother in the talmud quote however is Krishna properly on his bed it's like he holds us a double-edged sword to kill to destroy the extrenuous forces of the Bush we're going on to the next page page 24. which has become a garment s become a garment for the energy in the drops of semen and the energy ascends from them through kavana assume has known to those that study and this is a very very you know big bombshell because era it was wasted how can you how can you bring back something that was wasted it's wasted says there is a way so I mean again it's from the Ariza but the result articulates it here it's there is a way that's the answer that you don't need to know you don't need now more interpretations before you go to sleep you sit down and even if means don't get a shoe because when you've got time to go to sleep you just fall asleep on the couch or the table or you're exhausted and zunk so do it before take a few minutes have cavana in the words that you're saying and no you don't you don't have to go into details that this is a true but specifically for the for the zero if I told her that one was involved with throughout during their lifetime that's all to make of it an Asic you know that means to make of it a big deal is not healthy and not good and not the avoid for sure but to say that to say that it we shouldn't kind of even deal with it through this manner that the arizo says no the alternator says no now again he's not telling you to go and say Krishna and say God I want you to forgive me for the person that I did on March 17 1975. that's not what we're saying here okay let's not get what he's saying here is that the overall issue of Chris Michelle is a trigger for that now the altebra asks a rhetorical question and gives an answer because amongst all the prohibitions in the Torah foreign you won't find anywhere the data the prohibition of wasting semen like other forbidden relationships that's without the dev is addressing now therefore it has not been mentioned it's not mentioned amongst the Forbidden relationships although it's even worse Clippers with the multitude of the Tomba coming from this activity of wasting semen is a very simple thing the whole idea of masturbation is to get more pleasure from having more semen come out so the activity is such that it's it it it it it it is a really reactivity it's a it's a it's a Multiplicity so in a BS as soon as in a forbidden relationship excuse me but let's say a one night stand it's a one-night stand and you go on here it's not a white nightstand it can be every day and within every day can be many times in a day and even that each time you're looking for the more pleasure and more pleasure and today they have all these you know drugs enhancing these type of activities Etc so over here the the the the the the the the there's a there there is an aspect to my exhausted live up tall up that's that's worse than even a forbidden relationship that's why the title doesn't mention it why one second as soon as myself foreign Act and transgression is is greater than being but it's not mentioned in Taylor you know why because in the Titans mentioned only those things that are within the realm of a person to do true before even including bias forbidden relationships and the end and as we said earlier what is the way of doing true before this Ellen King he says if you do children every truth I won't forgive you for the Forbidden relationships but if you improve it from this great obvious we explain that length then you have you'll you'll also get two before four sins but that won't apply you hear this that won't apply to settlement you need specifically what the idea says which is so it's fascinating it's not mentioned in the Toyota one second yeah you said one second please it's not mentioned detained as part of forbidden yet it's it's uh it's its result is worse but nevertheless would help now here's the question that we need to think about I don't have an answer right now is does that have to be like the level of avaraba or is the kavana Suma enough to be like regular chuva me Ava he doesn't say that clearly here at least not that I see yes yes what do you want to say anything because when it comes a woman she's received to energy from the creeper and they get included in her in her sighting but when it comes to the element of a cousin is no female to receive okay equivalent which we I see you don't want to get into no no no no no no no no no no no no no I didn't mean I didn't mean it that way no I didn't mean that I'm very I'm very happy you said that I I I meant to say that thank you for saying this but one question you're saying there's a female macabo right one of the one of the female macabul is a not Jewish person or or a sister or a mother so please quiet quality but when it comes to being when it comes to uh when it comes to said quality how do you see that um spiritual energy goes out if you go down it's wasted it's wasted more quality is equality and that's one thing that's why that's why it's a double in school the double it's so mean cup and butter killed then physicals and physical and the spiritual at the same time but what what by zero vatola you're able to kill the physical and the spiritual but at the same time [Music] they say you are my father giving birth to you yes you did but I didn't realize so let's go when we do keep my we kill the energy that going through the spiritual being and we also kill the spiritual people okay I believe neither over Shabbos I'm going to look into this I really appreciate what you said I want to I want to look into some of the commentaries on Tanya to see how but but it's very very good what you said and uh yeah yeah it's it's a fascinating topic that's relevant to the to the world to people it's not just uh some kind of uh um hypothesis and the Dreamland reality you know situation this is a very real let me just finish this will explain what the sages say quote a Zell movement what are types of what are the sins that a person cannot correct in a normal way and because I'll say one of them is someone who came and someone that's shameful for him he shouldn't be living with her and they had a momzer a bastard even if you'll do this great it's impossible to elevate the highest you will get true you're here again you the person will get you even when you create a bastard the problem is with the energy the energy that was used in creating the bastard that so we're talking about the energy says that's highest you can't Elevate me and the slappers so here we seems to say just the opposite of what you're saying yeah innocent that's why I say I have to look this up here he says since the energy was already taken in by a physical body by a woman you weren't allowed to be with and you created a monster the Goof boss of a damn what could you do when the energy is released and the energy is not been captured then there's a possibility through your chuva you can reinstate that energy to Hashem but when the energy has been captured in the Goof bus of a dam he says over here it you you can't what can you do already it's created something yes Davis yeah yeah well uh that is right I didn't want I didn't want to say that but you did and uh it's it's something that is not pleasant uh not just but but it's the reality it's the reality so so so so what so one second Jameson so are you are you suggesting that we If someone knows that they created a bastard they should pray that he should die is that what you're saying what can you do yeah okay um is there in in in the Swarm adaptation that you've learned over your your life have does it talk about these these things in such a detailed way no no Tanya Tanya pretty much yeah okay I wish everyone Shabbos remember the famous word that one of the great labab said with that good up making gotta wipe them out well good get up making today also the ninth of other it's the day when the free the kid ever came to America so it's a great Sim Club because we wouldn't be here if not for him being saved from the Nazis and maximum and online they have all kinds of good videos now history people Brian Rigg and others who've studied this in the old times and and they put out swarm and it's a fascinating Story how the rebel was saved so I encourage you to to uh to listen to it you'll you'll have what to be inspired with have a great Shabbos everyone see you Monday Monday we'll learn I want to learn Monday we can learn yeah it's it's we'll learn it's before Purim the only day it won't be classed with Purim but Monday unless I mean Wednesday you guys also though uh celebrate or you're available if you're not available then we'll just go to Thursday you failed okay so only right whatever whatever we will have a class uh the only day we won't have a class Chef will be Tuesday every other day regular time zygous everyone take care bye