Tanya #22 Hugging G-d - Nothing greater than Putting on Tefillin just one time - R Chaim Dalfin

so today I'm dedicating the share to my my bubba my grandmother my my mother's mother my maternal grandmother Hindu Frey the busy until never was murdered by the Nazis September 5th 1939 in Christ the Shields and the shul I was there in that show I believe he was murdered although you won't find his name there and his daughter my grandmother married 1935 in that school I believe and um she escaped to Russia and then finally made it to some account and from there over to to at its uh to Costa Rica my mother was born in Poland in 1936. she was a child during the Holocaust and um grew up in Costa Rica and then came to America in 1949 1950 and I'm sorry I came to Costa Rica in 1949 1950 I believe and then came to America at the end of the 50s 58 59 or so and married my father so it's the yard side of my my grandmother who was a Dynamo of a person very determined nothing could stop her see this little this little woman you know slept her way with her baby with my with my mother not a baby but the young child and another sister Who Never Was became million but I was stuck and was left in the hospital and never was seen again um her husband was murdered cold-bloodedly on the streets and that then because her father was murdered like the one of the first if not the first known SS attack without permissions the whole story in September 5 1939 remember when it was start September one Friday so the following but that the bombs started to fly in in Warsaw on September one or right now the actual first time I think that the the SS Vermont they went in uh into killings and burnings was uh in this Village in class the shields um September five and this has been written up and document because they didn't get orders to do that they did it on their own and they were then court-martialed so this it's interesting that unfortunately was Mike my great grandfather who was murdered as part in part of that uh you know Purge uh but it's it it's it's public I I'm still hoping one day to to get documentation from Munich my understanding is that in Munich there should be files of that night what took place because it made such a commotion and it was written about the newspapers that it was documented by them so uh I'm told that there should we should be able to you know find find out because there's about 50 names that are listed my grandmother would always say there was to be 70 80 people but I went across the Shields and I saw the the plaque they put up my grandfather great grandfather's name is not there so I have a suspicion that there were others they didn't know about or for whatever the case anyway um this is her yard site so I dedicate the sheer to her and happens to be that on the same day my daughter hinder Freda who's now made Aliyah and is the principal of my other daughter's school in Tel Aviv the international gun let's run out of the Yeshiva which of your Khan and his friends learned in a 1938-39 and 40. uh number 16 the hoveraf cook right near the ocean it used to be called the Rojo Mayim so um the uh the so my daughter hinder Hindi that's a full name it's Sergio Melendez today and she's named after my grandmother and the short story is that uh my grandmother passed away I was in the I lived in La at the time I was in the Midfield uh going to the Metro before the happening and someone comes into the Mitra and says you're the the phone um your father called for you on the public phone in the Yeshiva and that was very unusual so I knew something was up and I got nervous got dressed quickly went to Yeshiva went home and my answering machine was blinking at that time we had the answering machine still and um it was blinking and my father left a message your grandmother just passed away he already Duke because we my wife had the baby like one one in the morning the night the night that night right before the mixer 1am so somehow I guess we told my father my parents at some point and uh so he said I'm sure you'll name her after your grandmother that's that's the story so so it was literally it says Hashem as the sun sets the Sun comes this was one of these stories that mamish the sunset my grandmother passed away and then even though she passed away she passed away like five six in the morning and my daughter was born one o'clock but you know in the same 24 hours and less like four or five hour difference you know so it was literally a story of you know the sunsets and the sun rises so of course we named her after my um my grandmother so that's her yard sign is today and my daughter's young Melendez so she went uh to Harem Lucas and she put me on Whatsapp I was able to talk to my grandmother and uh that's the way life is life is a cycle you know we're all recycled Souls you know and it's a continuation and if you if you if you pay attention if you pay attention you don't get bogged down with all the michigas you can really uh you can really um sense some of these things and not many uh you know holy way I'm just saying you see it the Pieces come together you see the Pieces come together it's not only scientists who are of who have belief in God who see you know the astronomy and other oh wow it's it's all coming together and there must be a God I mean regular people if they if they stop them to think about their lives and they and they focus on it and they just think a little bit you could find a lot of uh proof in a sense to yourself that there is and everything makes sense and everything has a reason and everything works out and everything's right time Maisha Maisha leaves me a message the other day he was telling his wife that um uh he was telling his wife about something we spoke about a sheer what was it again we spoke about the uh about the rabbits and the outside and I told you that the only time I saw her was on 1980 the LA Nueva parade through the window in the window a few hours later or sometime during the day A friend of mine forwards a picture of exactly what I saw in 1980 and and it was much closer up you know I was further away so I I first of all I just love that that I soared closer up and I forwarded right to Malaysia somebody she says I was just telling it he checked the time his phone wasn't with him so later when he saw my my my WhatsApp he checked the time and says it's exactly the time I was telling my wife and then daughter about the if I bring in what you said no I'm just saying that is if you pay attention it's there it's really really there so um today is the yard side of this of this special woman who a lot more to say how she mamish her determination this little woman fought she got to the Kremlin when she ran away in 39 where did she go she went to the Kremlin could you imagine a little Yiddish or woman is not scared and she goes to the Kremlin and from there she got some more passage and she went on and and just like I saw her here you know in Borough Park schlepping and carrying in the snow in the rain and then when she when she would like the the Shabbos lift here it would take a 10 10 minutes and she would cry and talk to God it was like say trainers I mean mamish just right here right here a regular Friday night there was no uh you know no no stick and and when she passed it up probably 90 or 91 for dollars she started to wish the rebel I should send you the clip I'll find it you should be and give this that we should be well and and the rapper you know that usually would like either stop you or give you a brother you know he didn't you know warning and and and and accolades that wasn't his you know his thing when my grandmother spoke he didn't say a word and he's looking and he's like looking it's like he's taking it all in from this little polish Holocaust Survivor who was wishing him to be healthy and he is like it feels to me like he's totally hers it's like yes yes from you I am completely subservient because you are a woman of the Holocaust and and you speak from your heart and the secretary didn't tell to be quiet you got to look at the you got to look at it it's like so powerful to see this great libatur who gave everyone breakfast and all of a sudden he's quiet of course as she went on he gave her a dollar and wished her will so that this is this is her her yard site and the Nissan she raised me in the house she definitely was um very much at home and cooking cleaning and she was a Powerhouse she took over the house you know today in in our cultures it wouldn't fly you know parents in-laws you know out we want to do it our way and we had some of that but uh you couldn't roll her over if you could not throw this little lady over and uh she did a lot of good and she lived into her 80s and um she had yeah so it's uh it's a special day it's also the yard side today of Manuka Rojo schneerson the daughter of the mittler Reba was buried in in havron so just there's a lot of um a lot of special things wanted to say something that could restart learning Tanya okay page test let's go yeah yes I just wanna I don't know if I said to you earlier this week but I got a Mazel Tov too because my daughter penina and Katrina had a baby boy we're hoping to make a bridge tomorrow beautiful I was there one time it's beautiful uh wow wow okay you and your wife and family thank you for sharing thank you for sharing the pursuit of Teva okay second line page tests will finish hopefully the pain but lucky number because I'll say and pick the office your office it's better having one only one hour in England sorry the world to come sorry it's better to have one hour of Truth and good deeds in this world because then all the years in the world to come now it's a missionary it's a classical explanation why is that because this world Alum has it is full of issues problems worries anxiety stress on and on and dailymapa is bliss and peace that bit simple to shot you look at the outfit about how he explains it who here begins his explanation who shenanigan I'm sorry sorry why because over there we we benefit we enjoy we have satisfaction from the ray of God's presence called this Kingdom foreign God you know for an intellect when they understand something and understand that well they mamas have pleasure we will understand The Virtue and what happens when you put feeling on and you help someone with their groceries on and on now we just do it and we can feel good about it but we can't say we understand it so Dr never says what happens is Sir in Islam Hapa that's the seat of hasaga in the civil okay comprehending the ray of the yes he will I've been learning a safer um uh written by the Liam the balcanto and he brings uh he brings in there from the belsanto that the Balta defines the screener as that portion of godliness that we can perceive when accessed with our senses okay whether we will reject yes yes it sounds that way thank you for that it is impossible for any creature a philomelion and even of the upper supernal ones lahasik to comprehend is a mere glimpse of the light of God right why does it say ziv Abraham it should say comprehending the screen it doesn't say that much it says array and emanation of the schema that says you know why because if you think you can't you you get to comprehend the Sheena you got something else waiting for you what you understand is a mere Glimpse that yes a nomination so that's why he says Avo however Hashem in his glory in his very Core Essence last Mark shovel no one can grasp him at all Kim only when Kasher threesome is betrayed himself when he's grasped through his enclosing himself investing himself in Tito mitzvahs as I then when we learned Titan do mitrus he treats a baham we grab on to God that ends the first part so Dr never saying like this let's recap and understand he's saying that the difference between Islam Habbo and Islam has it isn't just what's waiting for me how how big of a piece of the Leviathan okay what am I gonna get up there you know is it gonna be a quarter of a of a pooka of or or a thigh or lead I hope it's a very shallow what the children right that's a very trivial infantile way of understanding Dr never says what's going on here is how much of God do you understand there's a certain amount you understand here on this Earth there's a certain amount you understand there when you're in Islam habit when you're a soul the soul returns to God and what we're saying is what hazal is saying not what the outdated was saying it's his explanation you're for sure because you know why because over here you get everything if you grab onto him if you don't grab onto him you get Baptists he get another but if you grab onto Hashem and we'll soon see what that means you get all of him you don't get all of him you only get an emanation a glim Sahara a shine a rape but in this world when you when you when you when you learn Toyota you do mitzvous you're grabbing him and all of him so here is Dr Edward speaks about what we call what I call spiritual idea of hugging hugging what is a hug listen to what he says I tell you to slap shot before him attacked him he says really although this Tiger has enclosed itself has disguised itself invested itself in in Earthly material matter so that's a rhetorical question via so how can you tell me Hillel did I get all of him and getting a piece of parchment I'm getting uh a car ride to a nursing home in other words I'm dealing with gosh means what do you mean I get all of him that's the that's the rhetorical question the off the off right so now comes the retort how they say is the response to the to the question to the rhetorical question having said this is analogous too Kim to someone who hugs the king that of muscle using this as a muscle a parable she ain't happening there's no difference in the virtue of his closeness and attaching himself to this King whether the king whether he hugs him when the king described is dressed with one garment New York day a sweater and a coat and a scarf and it's good you have layers upon layers there's no difference these words are beautiful because the body of the king is in the clothes behind the clothes so when someone hugs you you can be shirtless you can be on the beach you can be in a summer or spring without anything they could be in a winter and a freezing day with many layers but when they give you the hug they're hugging you because if they're hugging the clothing we got a problem and the symbolism of that is covered up if the Hunt is coming because you look attractive or you're smart or you got money or you're doing favors we got a problem in that relationship is the Hub coming because it's you all of you being including Good The Bad and The Ugly answers his his own question and plants within us a deep important thought that what's the difference whether you hug part of God's or all of God the answer is there's no difference as far as the hug is concerned the hebook is concerned if it's a hug to God you have all of God in you whether you understand all of God or feel all of God not necessarily so but that's not the symbolism and and the idea behind the hug o I understand this amount of time I don't understand this amount I feel this I don't feel that but if you you hug him it's the essence and you know just practically speaking you know you talk about it in a shoe a Chabad house it with within a Yeshiva when you get a hug from from a rabbi from a rough or whatever in the Yeshiva I don't mean just a hug but so many things fall aside you know it's like you break the ice and you got the person the the person already feels to have a relationship with you I I know this you know from my days as a badass Rabbi I go to my son-in-law on Tel Aviv you know everyone comes in I don't know how it's now he has 200 people there on Shabbos but it used to be he gave everyone a hug when he had 20 30 people what I so we'll see you pay some time what he's doing now these days and not in any you know I'm not talking about in a in a Slammer karma in a way with you know making a big deal out of the hug and I'm not saying that's bad I'm just saying just a guy comes in show Malaysia gives him a hug that shows the person you care for them for all of them that means you're not looking how they're dressed and how much money they have and where they were and if they have a cuckoo or you know all the stuff that's not what you're addressing you're addressing them as they eat that's it take that idea and apply it over here to all learning Italian doubt that ever says in the the title mistress that we learn and do in this world is the hug that we give to God and soon we're going to learn about God gives us whereas in Elon Harbor your innocent over there it's not about hugging over there it's about comprehending so how much do you understand well I learned this amount of Tita okay and did you understand that there's certain amount okay so now we're going to reward you for that you belong in this chamber up there you belong to this you understand there's a system to reward in Islam hablo and without that ever saying here is on Earth in this world it goes beyond the system and the order if you if you potato Mitzvahs you're hugging the Melech himself and and if you have the Melech it's like the famous matters that ever quoted um on the 11th day with Usher right that's the when you say the museum the eleventh day it happens to be the rabbit's birthday 1971 he said a mime around the on that posseque and he brought a most powerful madrish which speaks about a king who had deputies and representatives and mahars and they uh and they go to the king but they go to the king before they go into the king they they go into the palace right and they start looking and then one one one room is all art the most beautiful art another room is jewelry and the third room is music and they and they go in and some of them all of them except one never comes out of the room they're fascinated by the art by the culture by the music etc etc says the madness peacock there was one bright shrewd fellow who didn't get lost to the Fascinations on the way to the King's actual room and he gets so any any kind of passes by all these riches and fancy stuff and excitement and he goes right to the Melech ah King says you're the Picker you understood all of that are only Fascinations very nice Fascinations give out the good Fascinations but at the end of the day it's a fascination you had the brains to understand that when you get into the King's Room even though maybe it's just a desk and nothing really fancy and all that but the king is here the malice is here they never spoke about this Atlanta that's fabrina during the mimer and other times to explain to us that as great as the Fascinations are within yiddishkite within Theta don't lose sight of the exim of the essence the essence is the relationship of the neighbors to himself that's without speaking about here in Tanya the mahabica and look at his language it's like it's so beautiful ain't hefrish foreign whether he has many garments you would think there's a difference I can't feel the king he's he has a coat and a sweater and a scarf and I can't get to the king no happily when you hug him the Melech you're hugging him the fact that you're not touching his skin or his body and all that who cares it's the hug the relationship let's just finish now Dr never says not only is it from your perspective to the to him if the king hugs him with his arm s even though he's wearing his clothing commercial cost of and it brings the verse the amino God's right hand metaphorically speaking surrounds me grabs me that was given from the right side again metaphorically speaking of God she put his hands in the mind which is the kindness and water so in other words it's a two-way street there is the way we grab Grand and got grabbed Hashem and is the way Hashem reciprocates hugging us gives us the data and then we grab him okay that's another discussion but there is the reciprocation when Hashem hugs us and God's hugging is from the right side water comes from above to below has it because I'm sure is to give so the outrabba says and ends this chapter four that this idea that he began with the title Mitzvahs is greater than this itself which is the Revolutionary idea chapter four Tanya as we discussed at length unless you shoot him so now he adds to that this explains the Ghazal in pirkeovis while you're for sure sure why one hour on Earth is better than every the entire time in islamaba and the story The Classical story that I end with is um it was a famous Chabad mashpia his name was they called them but let me hold it out and hold the old one because he was yet accosted of the samacharic but he lived long and the river are sharp the fifth Rebel appointed him to be one of the must be him in his newly founded Yeshiva template so um the uh the story is told that towards the end of his life he was very sick from much scaffia that he he he subjugated himself from eating and indulging you know he was a big guy with Hashem and that his time was coming to an end and the doctors told him that uh the fact that you slept on a straw and you know and you didn't eat much and you didn't take care of yourself your life was cut short that's what they told them Nicole said if I knew that my life would be cut short by just one day which I wouldn't be able to put on film because I could have lived another day if I would have taken care of myself better and put on filling but now I can't because I'm dying and because of my escafia I wouldn't do it because one day of thrilling is greater than all these coffees so when we went Yeshiva we started about this idea that as much as it's important to refine yourself and from indulgences never lose sight that the ick it is to put on the thrilling you know to do the mitzvah but there's another after thought that hasida would add who is an individual who can make such a statement that he that all of us are very it's not worth compared to one more day of putting on filling only someone who dies because of his scoffia but for the average person he ate at that level okay it's it's only someone who spent all his life in this intensive Hashem where he feels the yakrus the the preciousness the dearness the gevaldechite of putting on fill in just one time it's because he refined himself through a Scotia that he has that feeling and both ideas both what Michelle said and what hasidim said about it Michael are true and it's that balance that we that we work on in our life I hope you uh appreciate it and understand it I know that you appreciate it I know you understand it and he'll you want to say something uh oh you're just lifting your hand so that's that's that's that's that's why it's your that's why I said the story to explain the yaphash that the altarama brings and that's why one one hour I'm Alum has it of true is better than all the fascinations so you know once one second I just want to say that we have to cherish the moments you know it's like I have a tone out of you know Connecticut this weekend and I wanted to go and I'm saying you know how much time it's going to waste from my regular things that I have to do and it's like you know it's like yeah the you know the shop of tones here they give you so much food that you can feed all of borrow prep for a week's time you know that's what I need I need so much food like first of all do I need it and second of all do we need it it's like and then they have speakers and speakers trying to you know kind of be cute and and it's like and and you know if I go there by bus I'm tied up I can't leave it's like I'm a president you know so you ask yourself the clock is ticking the clock is ticking every day and while we're here we have to make use of every moment you know and I'm not saying this as a musernik you know sounds very much these are type of words and ideas the way muserniks would would talk you know I'm saying this as a hasid you know and so you have to ask yourself whatever you do Hello's going up Hashem to cuts it in for the simple beautiful what are you gonna do driving up for three hours yeah you know sure you should go but am I going to make those three hours and of course talk to your wife and be pleasant I'm just saying this whole idea of what we call in Hebrew this pattern in the site you ever heard that expression wasting your time Pottery in the sight how much time we waste there's no time to waste so when it when you are taken away from your Norm your savior your sudarim and your family and your Rabbi and and your things you have to for a moment say how am I gonna spiritualize the moment you know and and and if you if you think this way then you will go in with Hashem and you will not only be a macabelle from the a recipient from the SIM card you will be on my spear on the simcha and you'll be on my speed on people around you yeah this shop is best Shabbos those regular shop is quiet no kitchen shoe down time I always have the urge after after diving that I'd love to have a great fabrina but most many times I don't got the players so you know you you sit down and say well hi I'm and 20 minutes later you're out it's unfortunately this is the situation in many places which we have to change right so someone went over to the uh Ahmed Aguero Custard in a laboratory School I've never seen and I told you about this guy yesterday two days ago right and and he he died and he had a very nice voice but he he made a certain mistake in the davening so he didn't think so or no so I went over to him and I said that's not our new Circle the way we do it here if you're diving a little barbecue you might want to know I'm just saying I'm not sending him privately and quietly he says I know but I'm just used to it I said no problem as long you know so we became so he really said what else what else do you have to tell me we hit it off we really hit it off we really hit it off and I said if you want um you know you dive in beautifully I I said that um and I said something else twice whatever and then he says I saw that as a Garrus so I started to speak in Baguio and so he says oh you want to know for this you have to after diving we'll have to sit down for a long time I spent an hour with him so what what I thought was going to be a waste right I'm going out of school and going home in the same routine you know turned into an hour of information that I had didn't know which for me was very important to know you know that's the the mindset you're going somewhere what me and Maisha was with his wife they went you know somewhere beautifully they you turn it into a Rookie's dick experience what can I take back what can I do with it in the future and you put it aside sometimes sometimes you won't see it it will you won't realize what it is till years later but if you put it in your computer in your head online here there it'll be worthwhile okay camera I gotta go have a great day see everyone tomorrow Shalom by