Tanya #20 Is your Love genuine? How to experience True Connection to G-d - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

so we're now learning Tanya bottom this first section of Tanya on a page Chris so yesterday the Altona taught us that in addition to the shop the the the the the nephesh Soul having faculties which are the three intellectual ones foreign in addition to that there are the tools and instruments which implement what the Mind wants and what the heart feels and I I want to before we continue learning inside the text today I want to just clarify uh one more point and that is that the difference between what we call Netflix the faculties of the Soul and what will which is pay the Kimmel chapter three if you if you want to make a a buzzword for yourself and make a note and kind of remember what is chapter three it's about fish faculties of the Soul what is chapter four about fish the garments of the Soul were better or in our context the tools and instruments of the Soul which are mashava dibrama is a thought speech in action I just want to add the following thought speech in action are are on the behavioral Specter it's the behavioral mode how do I behave the questions is not how I behave it's who I am so what's the difference between Issa seho when I'm not dividing the three just all as one and my shovel and fought Abram right we use the word makshava to think thought and then we use the word Seiko to understand what's the difference between in the context of what the outdated is teaching between the the faculties of the Soul which are seho and the garments of the Soul which are thought speech thought speech and action and right now I'm talking about thought and this is the difference this is the difference the difference is means the way you understand something not with what you understand of course you use your thought to understand but Seiko we mean in other words each and every one of us right listening to what I'm saying and I saying it understand what I'm saying in a different way why because the your processes of your mind that is who you are you think a certain way not you think sorry you understand a certain way thought is not the way you process it it's the it's a behavior it's a behavior response how do I think about something it doesn't mean that's how you will understand it and deeper for sure speech for sure is behavior mode right you could feel a certain way and guess what you speak just the opposite and we all know what that means right we're you know plenty of people they they say one thing and they do otherwise and they believe otherwise and so and mice is for sure when you act and you do something it's not indicative of Who You Are because I just wanted to clarify that this is what we're talking about here another thing I wanted it clarifies the questions I asked and I discussed it with some of my friends yesterday and this is the initial thinking I asked why is it that regarding Abbas hashems three times the word emis four times the garden level Hashem it says he says if you want it to be but Emma's you'd have to have the Abbas Hashem right if you want your Abbas Hashem to be the EMS you have to go back to the source when it comes to yira is there he doesn't use the word Amis at all over here why that was my question remember so the the the what we're thinking is the following Ava Ava love and and that what love represents the feeling of closeness and desire and attract attraction everything else it lets us it lends itself to be very misled and fooled misplaced love false love infatuated love and I'm not talking about between a man and the one I'm talking about in every situation that too in other words the tenants of Ava lend itself to making a mistake and that's why Dr devil says Be emis when it comes to love to Ava you really better make sure that the m is truthfully speaking you really love God and not you love yourself or something else that's the prompts the love for God but really it's not about loving God it's about loving something else and just take think of it in a relationship we're ready grandparents but nevertheless many of us is my relationship about a true Ava a true love or is it a convenience of a convenience relationship and I'm not suggesting if it's convenience you know walk out and divorce and get you know go on no didn't save it but nevertheless what is the relationship consist of in other words it's so easy to fool yourself and and say oh I'm in love and I'm not in in everything whether it be with with your wife or whether it be with your your safer or whether it be with your Rabbi or your employer or your doctor over there it's so easy to be fooled that's why Dr Evans says but when it comes to yitter to fear there's less room less little room to feel to fool yourself because yida is fear oh hey if you do this you're getting a beating there's not much room therefore fooling yourself you're either getting the beating or you're not getting it and if you think you're getting it you ain't gonna do it so that's why by yira although it's a deeper it's much deeper in the in the soul the feeling of awe and fear and reverence and all of that nevertheless nevertheless you know you don't need to be told not to do it because you see the whip and you see the problem and you see if I do this there's going to be bad consequences so therefore the other doesn't have to say the emus it's more automatically Ms than it is with other that's the way we we think about we thought about the explanation to the question now let's go to the page page has with seven lines from the bottom actually six lines from the bottom the third word let's learn inside these three currents these three tools of Tito Mitzvahs when I engage and invest my thoughts speech and action in the study of Titan the doing of mitzvahs although we only call them only Avi we only call them garments to the soul they're not the soul themselves nevertheless in case we're safe great and exalted Way Beyond any association are they the garments over the soul itself this is probably one the one one of the most enigmatic statements of the altar ebitanya you have a soul you have a nephesh says the balatony in chapter four on page Hess he says here that delivers the garments of the Soul thought speech in action are not only greater but look at his language wow and why how could it be that your clothing yes sir is truly nicer than who you are your clothing as you put it on until they can put on torn Rags with them where you could put on a fancy suit they're a fancy you know so it's not who I am it's what I do what I show and you're telling me that those clothing the way I think speak and and act is even greater and not even even greater but Adam for an item greater than the soul itself so this warrants an answer says I'll first quote you a zayar and then explain and he says foreign which I pointed out since chapter one and when you see the word Peter she got to stop and ask yourself what is he saying I mean I'm gonna explain petos the title is the wisdom and will of God is [Music] with his entire honor and Essence cool I had is one with dictator and he quotes in chapter one key who are you there is a knowledge is the nowhere next page type of 14. foreign listen you know why on that fish the garments and tools are garments and tools of Toyota Matrix entitled mistress is one with God whereas you with your soul it's you at the end of the day it's not God it's your soul so of course there's no comparison between your soul and the garments that you use of of with your soul which are garments of title mitzvahs so there's no comparison at all Adam finitum ain't catch yourself for sure now to extract to explain is just another moment what the altered is is saying he is he asada Foundation and the foundation is that when it's you whatever we do at the end of the day it's you it's I and guess what we as As Nice and holy as we are it's still I we have a a little little a little uh yes okay ego but when it comes to Sir potato Mitzvahs that you filter through your mind and heart sorry through your thoughts speech and action it's not you it's Hashem State it's hashem's mitzvah so when you put on Phil in the morning the act of filling is 100 pure what you do with the thrilling as far as how you process it that's already you but the act the Mitzvah you cannot contaminate the mitzvah you can contaminate yourself with your stick and your philosophies and your argumentation and your yeses but the Mitzvah the Mitzvah itself is pure and so too with title learning what what I can mess up I've run internal learning is the way I process the Torah learning but the words of Torah themselves they're like Fire and Fire doesn't accept too much contamination so to the words of 30 you can't contaminate you can contaminate yourself so if we learn Torah incorrectly or we use Tyra for inappropriate things in any way shape or form we the I the nephesh is messed up has put itself in a situation that's messed up but the Taylor is not so that's why Dr ever says here Peter Arisa is God's Will and wisdom God's wisdom the title is not a it's not about it's not you it's not Humanity that's the verdict you hear is Sir Titus not human tit is God foreign you have God so if you compare God to nephesh what's the question of course what he said a line earlier catch myself letting cats for Stuff it's Adam for nine and greater it's it's a no-brainer of course it is that's what he says here in Tanya yes yes can you hear me yes got it [Music] I was able to we were able to hit you before now we cannot hear you okay you know what the next year Monday I guess you'll have your thing Avi is what I said now clear you guys understand you have a question yeah Avi says yes Abram I understand yes that's one question If a person doesn't use the three garments for holding purposes then in that case they would be lower than the Ensemble correct that's right that's right absolutely let's continue uh and so now you're able to or you you can't we won't hear you okay let's go on ah again now on page 14 the Top Line third last third word from the end the after college this is a rhetorical remark and although God Almighty Hashem is called infinite and stuff and to his greatness there is no ability to find and no thought can grasp him at all that's regarding God himself to regarding hashem's will in hashem's wisdom as the verse says there is no searching to his wisdom in other words if you search you won't you'll never find essence of God and there's another verse which says you're supposed to read it that way if you search for God will you find them you really think you're gonna find God the essence of God and a third verse book Seven it says God says Hashem says my thoughts are not your thoughts the way I process something vis-a-vis my metaphor of thinking isn't the way you guys think so here is the rhetorical question and what is the question the question is you're telling me through the garments of the Soul you take God himself all these verses imply you can't have God you can't find the essence of God that's the rhetorical question and here comes the retort says it is it is regarding this matter that our sages says in that very place where you find God's greatness sham over there you found his you find his modesty in that very same place with symptoms God minimized he contracted his essence his will and his wisdom the thirty six hundred thirty minutes of theta over here and in all of their laws and in the combination of the letters of the tanach and there and the way they're expounded in a goddess of our sake the Blessed memory why why did God minimize himself humble himself and put himself his very essence into all these places that is within the human body should be able to comprehend God the daito beta with its mind and to fulfill whatever is possible for him to fulfill that my sin action deeper speech and thought like they said to slavish and through this through this minimum through this in clothing of God's Essence into tato and mitzvahs one can invest up to slavish all of their ten call ASAP gonna sell all the ten levels which means the 10 faculties of Chabad and him through these three garments in that very place we say God you're so awesome unbelievable over there you find this modesty which literally is Sir what does the kazal mean it is great God great Hashem and he says do that and you have me what is Tanya at one point at least one point and that is that in Tito mitzvahs because it's a place of humility it's a place of anusa news from the word of modesty because it's a place of modesty that's where you have God you don't have God in the big places and God is not God if he's in the big places only because that means he's limited he can't get to the small places to the modest places so is it a big deal for Hashem to be in Harvard no and trust me they don't have God in Harvard but anyway but anyway it's a it's it's the accomplishment is that in your very little room right now we're all sitting and learning for your homes well let me see this right there and there you have all of Hashem and you don't need to go to the kaisal you don't need to go to me wrong you don't need to go to the audio right here you have a sin of course we go there for feeling it's a holy places is it's such a very powerful thought that the mocking shot amazing not just because he lowered himself that's the that's the planes Hashem lowered himself down well saying no it's much it's not that you look that's that makes God if God wasn't found in the small things he ain't God what you think God is this great God and he can split the Red Sea and he can make a miracle and all that if that's your version of God you have no God you have a fantasy you have a Fascination you have excitement but you don't have God is in the small things of if you have God is if God is in small things but guys and great things we know it's obvious but in the small things that's what the outlet episode over here but okay let's continue name shalata lamayim that's why Tita was compared to water my mind just as water descends from a high place to a low place right from above to the ground that Reigns itself to the Tatum it descended from a place of respected which is the will and wisdom of God is grasp him um and from that very lofty Place Nosa the yard it traveled and it descended and with many in in many levels from level to level these thousands of elements with the progression of Worlds actions until it enclosed itself invested itself in physical matter matters of this physical world which compromises most of the mixes that we talk about kikulam almost all of them and all of the surahs and it includes also he says the combination of letters foreign today should the hey Cole my shovel why did Hashem do it to put himself all the way down into these things so every thought should be able every person with his thinking should be able to grasp him if I feel okay that's deeper to myself and even just speaking about God and acting in in God's way which is below the level of thinking about God right thought is more sensitive and refined nevertheless even in speech and in action threesome you should you grasp you grasp and then when the slavish behem he he invests himself with them says that's why Titus compared to Mayu just like one of the Saints from above to below so to tell you to descended from above to below and the purpose of which is that we here Below have an opportunity to grasp him Capital H and he says actually we'll stop over here here starts another nikuda which we will talk about in the next year Shabbos yesterday and uh so the Shabbos before is the yard side of the babadook episode and they have What's called the kittens look as the Gathering of the Chabad women and guests they should help that we should all have only simchas there's no computers and no phones and no appointments no cars you have time to relearn please relearn what we learned take out either in Hebrew the the safer this foreign [Music] every every translation is good but these are explained very very well so try to get a hold of them try to take some time and guess what you could invite your wife to learn with you it's all right Shabbos morning one of the things I like doing it's quiet uh my wife comes down we learn together since it's a great a great thing and trust me your wives will appreciate it okay have a great job as everyone's ideas bye