Tanya #15 Holy Intimacy key to Children - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

so alerting Kanye modern the first section of Tanya or on page we're on page Zion actually we're actually at the bottom the last word on page 12. just to bring us up to date again just finished at length sharing a muscle a parable to understand where the meshama comes from the muscle is of a fetus who comes from the brain of the father I'm repeating what it says in in the Tanya and who and through the gestation period in the mother's womb it forms not only the brain of the fetus but also the entire body including the nails of the fetus and the nails as unlively as they are there how they they're they're there Delta remember says because of the father's brain because of the father's the the child's brain which comes from the father's brain that's what he says here that he adds not only is the nourishment of those nails while it in the mother's womb associating with the father's brain but also after this child is born and as a separate being an entity the highest the highest the vitality of the nails even the nails of the child continues to receive its sustenance from its brain which comes to the father's brain this was the muscle the moral what we walk away with what's relevant to what we're learning here in Tanya is that is that the the Jewish the never shall be kiss as he said as he calls it in the beginning of chapter two isn't Just Another Life Force to the Jew it's actually it's a part of God it's godliness in the form of body and as I said and as though as the word it's felt and realized in the most tangible way just like the nails of the fetus and then later the child continued to grow and get and get its ability to be there in existence and in a growth form only because of the brain of the father what is that in the nimsho what is that in the moral that there is what we call me law supernal wisdom or in other places it's called Silas of the world of emanation the first and highest world of the four worldsida Asia the world of emanation creation formation and action and that's where the shama comes from or in other words the out the Debbie uses he says from the thought and after that defines this kabbalistic concept in the words of the verse with the Titus says regarding the soul that God gave adam it doesn't say he gave him a soul it says he blew within him within his nostrils in the Shema Soul very strange words he blew into why he gave him a soul and doubt that episode no specifically the language why did it Blow because blowing when you exhale you get tired quickly I am tired doctor don't make me do this again right when you speak you could Yap and Yap and Yap and Yap and you don't get tired you might want to stop because you're bored already of the conversation but you know physical gets rained but when you blow when you exhale you do why because it comes from deep inside picking up air and then exhaling and again it's it's not easy work why because it comes from the premius something that comes from the very essence it's gavaldi it's great but it's work and that's as an aside it's yutra tonight tomorrow it's not it's not easy work to be accustomed last time I said not everyone wants to be husted and and Easter gave me a monkus for saying that which is great what do you mean not everyone wants to be a hustle if you look at what hasidis has brought to the world everyone wants to be accustomed but it's work to be accosted that's what I meant it's work it's not it's not just going to a sheer and keeping the and that itself is is work but this is an Avida all cities the belshant of came that we work on ourselves and where you find ourselves and we hold ourselves back from this type of this indulges and that Indulgence and that we know is a daily struggle so all of this is is demonstrative of primius if if you I prom if you want to know am I am I at pneumius am I do I have something eponymous or if you want to know about someone else do they have anemias you have to ask a very simple question to yourself very simple it's an easy work or hard work if it's easy work it's not anemius it isn't because you I I remind you what we learned on the other page on page 12 without the repossessed in the first chapter even the media's type is the good middles within a Jew of a Jew if they come by Nature they're Clipper they're not they're not show us Clippers that Mayors are not completely defiled and terrible but it it ain't great it's Clipper Clippers why Jameson why because it's easy because it's easy see them avram this is 101 in Hasidic Judaism anything that's easy run the other way and run far away don't look for the easy way out yes right okay but I I I I think had to get Beyond it Beyond nature I understand but I think for in our world today the word easy is is something that people relate to you know very you don't have to be a learned person is it easy or not can I you know in other words we want to make money the easy way we want to know how to learn the easy way right dot 101.press art scroll you know English translation English translation uh you know and all that you know how you know how hard it was for you [Applause] ask him it wasn't easy I remember how those guys learned you know we learned already how to learn a piece of gamara earlier before we came to Morristown and for youngest and his friends it was all new experience relatively speaking I'm not saying everyone in the Yeshiva but you know I remember they used to have pencils and they and when they they wanted to learn Yiddish and they learned the rappers first because volumes one to four different secrets and they had and if it's your lips girl overshadowlady I've read my lips through all that these were all his rabbis at that time you know and I remember seeing these these you know older older individuals they were all older than my friends and I and and and more learner than academic Fields than we were we were Yeshiva buffering you know but they didn't have that training and they struggled and it was so wonderful really to see I remember I remember like like now how they had you know uh translations of books in English with the words and they had the pencil and a pen and they made notes and they were on the gamer and that's how they learned a piece of Gomorrah and I think Robert fritzy lips girl in particular am I right Jonathan he was very very good in teaching Gamora am I right right right [Music] but that's my point it wasn't easy it wasn't easy it was not easy at all that's what made them that's what made them not just become from and Laboratories it gave them an understanding what Tate is and and what we're looking for what's important in life let's go back to what we're learning here the alternative says that this is this is therefore therefore in connection to what we're learning now the the the the essence of the the Shama talks about similar to the to the Father and Son relationship the band with the Supreme it comes from the essence and anything that comes from the essence is most special and significant and therefore he concludes at least this section of of chapter two everyone should know we should know that our in the summer every single Yeet religious or not religious you know etc etc every summer of a Jew ever the shama of a year comes from previous understandably sometimes the hashama goes for Hiatus and takes a vacation and gets dust on it and there's challenges we understand that because we're normal people right so down to that but doesn't address that he addresses that later on chapters 18 and 19 and Tanya but here he lays the groundwork right from the very beginning this is chapter two it's the very beginning of the foundation of Tanya and and and has said this he says you should know everyone every Eid has this this Shama you can't say that it's you that's a self-hating Jew or a Jew whose anti-judaism or a Jew who's totally ignorant doesn't have a connection to this that's why Dr Pepper says here he load the words of the column I mentioned this once but maybe you forgot I'll mention it again and if not it's worth any way mentioning I heard once a Tai Chi and he said what does Khal Sheba Khalid mean literally means Colleen amongst someone was very very doesn't care you know but what it says and what's going to be and but nothing but I heard the tides I think the Malex people all of us being Morris that I think I heard it from him he said Kyle shipment Colin did you see them with types this person is so cow is so lenient that other Colin call him a cow you know there's gradations in college Kyle shall be Colin you know how how lenient this fellow is how hello how low he doesn't care is that other column who already call him but still they care about something they say about him wow you're even worse than us you're a cow sugar cow that's a play on the words okay not the literal meaning that even a cow should be calling um and low lives they all have this the shama and they all come from of that seals below finished so you could be the tunicarta you could be software you can be licorice you can become bad it makes no difference you can be not religious you can create fantasies in your own form of Judaism whenever it's all the outer semantics the truth is there's one nation yes hello parentheses in Italian were those put in by the balotanya where they put in my uh the redactors later on on page 13 and Paige Zion when it says Etc uh I just wonder where that comes from no those are those are from the balotanya itself and and forgive me sometimes I don't I don't teach it because because I I feel it it it's going out of the context for right now and I don't want to go into the other Union but it is from the balatonya so when we say jitas we say that as well and we really should be learning it and maybe at some point uh either yeah you know yeah but the answer is okay let's now continue you're welcome bottom of 12 oversee UVA Zay Yvonne and with this thought that we just learned Dr Pepper says we will understand a very important a very important teaching from our Sages the teaching the saying the teaching of our abuse of blessed memory the sages and the verse in the Theta or the dust cowboy Hashem structures with a tough good boy cleave to him whoever Cleaves and attaches themselves to Torah Scholars Mila Oliver Kosovo the person the Torah considers it back as though you are actually connected knit back glued and attached to the shrina and again the word Manish I don't have to come out in front of me but we should look up at some point does the mother say the word mamish or is that an addition of the altaranda I don't recall now but anyway because I'll say avram we were instructed into Torah to cl to be back glued connected to the screener how because I'll say a simple simple thing bind yourself connect yourself to tell me says this teaching of the rabbis the sages will be better understood based on what we learned and he explains let's go further through being connected to the title Scholars the souls spirit and soul the levels of Soul are all of of the ignoramuses are connected and United The mohusan Horizon with the very original Essence and their Source in supernal wisdom and it says which is earlier God and his wisdom are one but who are modernist that nowhere and the knowledge and all that Etc stop and therefore and therefore when you when you are connected you we who are this nepheus our connects to the soul of the topic so what is the out that I'm adding here he will I mean we have why what's what's not understood with the hazal that you need to out to represent words an explanation so when you learn this these you have that's how you're supposed to learn a piece of Tanya with this we will understand so you have to ask yourself what's the question what's not what's not there to understand that's what because I'll say it seems to be very straightforward then go ahead and do it from the answer I believe and the answer begins with the words you can understand what he was what was bothering him and what he's adding and this is why it's a piece of sin there's not a piece of Gamora and what is that that the Vegas Jainism primarily is not about the outer trimming and forms of emulating a Sadiq um but it's primarily about the the shama relationship is your soul are you binding your soul with this with the talmud so or better set by emulating the by emulating this and connecting to them you're creating a deeper by connection that's that's really where it's at that is the soul connection between you and the the town and that he left is not the mother that's a citizen for haraya go and ask any any non-hosted and quote to them discuss out I believe they'll tell you simply you want to be you want to the Gamora means and you later tell me now that ever says here that's true but that's demonstrative of something much deeper which is the soul connection let's look at his words Etc to the people when in other words it's a reciprocal effect when we show the time that we are we want to be connected to them through giving of our soul to their soul they reciprocate and that's and that is Godly that's China is not about a a tactical area a technicality right that's not Shina says see this is Marcus is royalty and kingship right regality when do you have the state of regality of malcols of shrina when there's a union there if there's no Union between the people and the King and and the malach you don't have muscles why because he's not interested in them they're not interested in him but they pay their taxes and they greet him when he comes to the city very nice but your heart and soul is not there they're nephesh yes hello I was just wondering the rear sections in which the valves only got in trouble with the tsarist government you know like a political kind of appeal right um I'm I would have to know that I I think there is but whether this piece of Tanya was was one of the pieces that got him to trouble that you know when they uh he formed on him I I don't know um something tells me that it wasn't this it was another section that I don't it's not coming to me right now but I'll think about it and maybe tomorrow that about what the specific charges were yes there's you can see it online to just type in fact in Google probably interrogation papers of the balotania the altariba because they they they found the documents in Russian there's been nothing translated so it should it should exist yes it is fascinating so I mean I know you know uh there were accusations about us davening and there was accusations that is funding money to the Turkish government over the Tsar um but this particular um I I don't think that this was you know this was one of the accusations of the government but we have to check but it's it's good that you made that point okay now let's continue vibration now comes the brackets and now you'll see why it's in Brackets please according to what we learned now are from every true soul has an intrinsic connection to the Father the child's nails and even nails are connected to the father's brain so too even the ignoramus and and and and and and and people who are caution but Colin are connected so the doctor ever asks a rhetorical question in the brackets listen vibration those that Rebel sin those that transgress poshaya um those that rebelled against the Torah Scholars no how are they getting the nourishment they say we don't care for you go somewhere it seems to contradict what he said before now could ever says you're right I have an answer he says you know where they get the nourishments from the back side the author of The so of the Soul one way or the other everyone gets the nourishment for the atomic Hawkins but there is face to face ah here I love you I care for you here I give it to you and then there is I don't care for you I have to pay a free work here take you twenty dollars and get out of here you know says it's in a very actually it's a very important bracket Halo but since it's not directly related to the text it puts it in in Brackets that everyone included go ahead so it's kind of analogous to the uh correct [Music] correct correct good and I would say you I like the word you use I don't know if what you if you had this in mind it's kind of there is a difference but I don't want to go into it's not exactly the same it's kind of okay you know maybe at some point we should discuss that because I think it's important but not now next now comes another rhetorical question Marshall it says over there and this word the primary way the primary so the the primary soul that a person has it depends on the sanctification of the parents at the time of the Union when he was when he or she was conceived my shade can't conversely but now I'm an artist children of ignoramuses with the parents that either not know how you to conduct yourself during Union or didn't care Etc the soul that comes the child the child is born the boy or girl is born and their soul didn't have the sanctification so what's the implication from this piece of Zohar that it's not something that comes from God that comes from the human being from the mother and father so what are you telling me this is question what are you telling me every Osama comes from the paninis of Hashem and if they even if they Rebel it still comes from the acharya and the other side of God no over here the parents can play a major role in the soul that's the question the rhetorical question and here comes his retort hainu is the retort I know this statement of desires there isn't no soul there isn't any Soul she is that doesn't have a garment from the essence of the father and the mother who conceives the child it comes through that garment Etc and even all the influence that he gets from Heaven this child it all filters through this garment so therefore the India Kardashian starts me if the parents will sanctify themselves during the time of the Union they will draw a balance called The Holy garment to the child to the son the child the feeling and Dr Debbie has another point and even if the nesham itself that's that's that God sends to the parents in itself is a very holy Nisha my greatness it still needs the sanctification of the parents Avo but doubt that goes back to the position that he explains Throughout the chapter two he doesn't he doesn't Retreat from it Evelyn not delivers not the Garment the soul itself of a very great person barely is a shuffle will result in having a child that's very despicable and the other ways true too there could be parents or parents that are not great in their behavior and they're not only religiosity but everything else and that God gives them a soul and their their child their son or daughter becomes one of the greatest people amongst the Jewish people Etc but because it gives us a reference if you want to look it up more look over there is briefly what is referring to here so he's referring to what we call the levus cados the Garment the Garment is the filtration system in which the it channels the energy of the nishama practically to the child that's born so the example that we always used or one of the examples is you have two children one is able to process things very quickly and one isn't so it could be that's because the way the parents behave during Union by this child versus this child is the processing system and if there's kadusha in the relationship then the essence of the soul will have an easier way of expressing itself and a Holier way in a greater way and a better way it's not it doesn't mean it can't happen it'll take more time and if you think about this thought that it's a very very kind of interesting and lofty mystical thought it's it's it's a fascinating thought I I find I find it very fascinating because you look around you know you you see how there's some parents that are so special and yet they have children child children that aren't and vice versa what's going on here so the to the answer is that the essence of the nashama parents have no say in what type of Soul your child has sorry us parents it's so bad that's what the end we don't decide so if that you'll say so why do I have to be holy in the union and the conception process if if God can give me I can act like an animal do what I want in my in my union and God can still give me a child that becomes exotic and the answer is it makes a difference in the process of process processing stages because you don't know when your child will blossom and grow and become that special person when you act with kadusha in the relationship in in the conception relationship the union between husband and wife man a woman it causes an easier transition from Soul to to result that's what it says here so that's why Dr Edmonds that's why I say it's um is a rhetorical question in other words does not Retreat from his position and the position it's not his position the position of the Zion the Kabbalah that the Shema of a person isn't us we do not choose our kids nashonah we help we help it flourish and develop by acting like Hashem wants us to act while we're in Union and that's why it's so important I just want to hear yourself give me one second that's why it's so important especially when when someone's trying to become pregnant to to to to to be holy to be to be really refined because it makes a difference and that's why the suggestion is that when a woman is ready is conceived and that has a fetus to listen to you they should use it and tyrants that you know to duck up in other words these things make a difference later when the child is born it's going to make a difference you know yes yes you understand go ahead okay and when you told me about uh we find in other words the person's able to to think more aspect ideas and quicker because you have somebody who had a very highly discovered and it takes a long time to tell them to understand hey because you know what happened like we're looking back when somebody does Trump could give a good way of doing something I mean this isn't a way of doing something let's find ways to the country that makes death who would the Pig went with child benefit young or it's not it's not it looks like it well a lot again well a lot has to do with the parents the way they behave during the union the caducea and that was like this year it doesn't mean it has to be that way in other words even the parents behave in the corrupt way we fight we find the children that grow to be because you can work on yourself you have always free will but the question is what's kind of you will use the word natural the natural response to a grubber union in living in Union in a global way in a course way is is grab kite and then it's going to be harder for the child to develop and become a mansion really be special whereas if you if you're and and listen listen you know it's it's true this nakoda because usually parents the the more able he he always use the word able refined they are it has an impact on on the children it's not even a question not even a question but but but but but but to say to say that I listen I had you know not parents therefore I'm finished that's that's wrong it means you'll have to work harder so that's without saying the Le vous kadish parents have a say in the Le bush in the bush and by the way I just want to clarify it's not just for intellect we you know both Jonas and I refer to understanding it's not just in it's a middays too it's an everything exactly a thought speech in action okay we'll talk maybe tomorrow a little more about it we'll see yes how you doing all right