Success is Struggle - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

okay so we'll finish Hashem Today Chapter 15. and we're on page Huff where uh I'm sorry her father from page called Olive and we're at the DOT which says it's five line six three five six lines from the bottom good morning avrum so we're learning uh Tanya Tesla 15 page 12 out of six lines at the bottom yesterday Dr never brought the example of uh wacky drivers donkey drivers who give who are in a marketplace where you kind of like you choose a Shea root in there to swallow you choose a donkey driver and one gives you a ride for if you're going only 10 party if you're going um 10 piracy which is a an amount in in Persian you know Persian miles whatever mezuzah charges you one zoos you have to pay two the question was why for one extra you have to pay double the amount and the answer is because that was not the usual trip so for the unusual trip that's not that I give it's not customary therefore you pay double and this example is um is an important one of Yale I heard of you explained once that why does the doubt that ever pick what is the good Mothers pick this example well the example is very very specific it doesn't say the the the donkey drivers it says an escaring they're rented it doesn't say that that that the owner owned they could have had the same muscle and say that someone has a car he owns a car he owns a vehicle he owns a donkey and he goes 10 Parsi and and then whatever you know cost them so much and if he goes 11 parcy it costs them an extra an entire extra amount double the amount it doesn't say that so I think he said that the reason is the the idea of renting versus owning is similar to the idea of exotic and abandoning assadic owns the Yates or he doesn't have a Yates or he eliminated it he's the owner of God you know he's come to a place where he owns and his situation renting represents it's not you you yourself have a type of an urge you just control the situation that's I believe what it said is uh the possible reason why doubt that ever brings the muscle from the wacky drivers that are hired to give you a ride versus you owning the vehicle and and and doing the same thing one other point that I wanted to mention this goes back to the words over delicate you know this in this chapter in the beginning of 15 he focuses on the possible is why does it say over that little Kim I should say Ivan Hashem and you'll notice in the beginning of the chapter when the outdated makes a difference between the Sadiq and the overdila came and he says that it's Sadiq he's called an avid Hashem a servant of God in the sense of Youth cave that name of God and when explains that over Delhi came refers to the pain in the it doesn't say Hashem you should say the same thing Hashem versus Hashem doesn't say that Hashem versus eloquin what's the reason and the reason is because again we're talking about the difference between exotic and abandoning but Sadiq has attained the right and the experience of Youth kevovsky of transcendence the pain in the knee is in the struggle that's the whole verti right the struggle as we've explained at length yesterday hello Kim elokim represents the struggle why because Elohim the name of God that that's called Elohim It's associated with nature with nature nature one can argue Casa shalom it's not necessarily from God when you see a miracle like you see open godliness okay I can acknowledge there's a God but nature the sun's out the moon the mountains the rivers and everything else big deal the duck one can say who says this is from God okay we have you know the kuzari's argument and and going and all the philosophers their arguments to prove it is but I'm saying without the proofs you know you have to prove your point because one can easily argue that it's not from God the pain in the that means the godliness within nature is a hidden godliness the pain in these relationship with Hashem is a hidden one hidden in the sense of that there's a struggle it's not clear so that's why when it comes to the Sadiq it says Hashem comes to the pain and knee we address the pain with the words Ovid Elohim so that's that's another point I wanted to mention regarding something that we learned earlier in the chapter so now on page six lines on the bottom but okay after that this extra time of studying Trader the 101st time that was an earlier example the Altadena gave that in those days it was customary to study something some a piece of Taylor only a hundred times the mother says that if you study it one extra time 101 times you're considered an avid Hashem says Hey therefore Joyce have found this I may have asked as this one extra time 101st time how you say that which is more than what one is was cust was used to studying in the order of the person the person was accustomed from childhood to study something only 100 times and now he broke his nature and he studied 101 times an extra one time School of Connecticut cooling that extra one time 101 is equal to all the previous times and not only is it equal it's even greater but yes it's the A's for yesterday's with more strength and more might Leo is Nikola therefore we identify and call such a person because in order to change the Habit that's natural to the person sort of related as avalashem one needs to arouse his love for God audition is Hashem through meditating in God's greatness with his mind so that the result is flashlight to control the nature there isn't the left ventricle homologous of the animal Drive turn to the next page top of 42 Shema Clipper that comes from the negative side Clipper shimmy Manna who had ever so here the outer episodes clearly where does nature and habits come from me meno from the nephew what from foreign now these words avoid the time that we have not had in Tanya yet addressing the Benin this is the first time towards the end of chapter 15 where the altenebo uses a new term to address the pain in need and we need to understand Avi why why does doubting avoided this is the pain that I'm dressing I'm addressing the over Deli came banani the one who was who breaks their habit that's one question also why does the outlet say over here in order to break your habit you need to arouse a a love for God give me a second look at the bottom of page Olive we're talking about the entire time abandon me and we're talking about habits I'm talking about breaking habits why all of a sudden does he inject the way to break your habit is to arouse your avalashem through his abundance through meditation in other words what's the outer that was saying if you don't be misbane if you don't meditate on the greatness of God in your mind you won't be able to break your habit and that means also to be understood why why must I do that in order to accomplish breaking a habit and the answer is and the two the two questions that the answer the two questions are answered by the same answer okay so the first question I asked was why on page 42 on top does the out today but use a new term to describe debate in the avoid the Tama means you know a complete sincere he never he never used this language and what does it mean what is it what is he trying to indicate and imply and number two before that yes yes hello I just want to understand that word time my life you said complete or sincere yeah um like uh like the word Tom uh can you just expand that a little more it it's a Hebrew word and that's what it means there's a word is not with a Zion a tough member of self and and that's what it means a complete sincere avoida or you could look up the Hebrew etymology but I believe that the sharers you see that's three three letters Tom okay there is a word Tom which means simple but why is he simple Tom he's complete now this is who he is this is who he is he's uncomplicated anyway so the explanation is that in order to break a habit something that your radial regulut Something That We're accustomed to doing right it requires a thought a meditation that's that's beyond the norm if one is doing something for for a long time and one was raised this way trained this way and all of a sudden you want them when the person wants to break out of that routine they have to access something that is greater than the routine something that is that is Way Beyond the norm and that's why doubt it ever says what's Way Beyond the norm God will sashem the US the greatness of God the love for God in other words what you come to realize that Hashem is not boxed in to a habit every morning Hashem must shine really what if today he wants it to be cloudy what if he wants it to be a hurricane a earthquake in other words that's a change from the habits the norm and once you get used to storms well you know I'm not going into the political side of climate change but if Hashem decides he wants there to be a change there could be a change but not because of their argument that there must be a change naturally no because he decides now he wants a change and that's one of the arguments you know for the um the Rings and the trees for the the um the uh age of the world the Rings prove that basic you know I'm sure you guys have thought about it and read about it that the world must be millions of years old what's what's what a basic counter argument just a basic one that Hashem created the world in six days like each day was a thousand years old so each ring is a thousand of a thousand a thousand and the implication is it's Millions but really he did it in one day he's got you don't tell them what to do he decides now you know that's then the question is why would he do that so we need to discuss it he wants to fool us no he doesn't want to fool us he wants us to know that nature is comes from Supernatural they choose God's nature why am I saying that because the whole idea of regulut of customs and habits and we're used to doing that it's all a limitation and it's a good limitation it's good to be in a routine right it's really good to be a routine every day we come at this time we learn for half an hour and Tanya it's a good thing but at the same time the idea of like being up if she was supposed to be up all night or whatever till the till Dawn it's hard you want to sleep especially after a meal therefore by the way don't eat too much so you can keep your eyes open I'm talking to myself so so Breaking the Habit says on the on page cuff at the bottom this comes through his bonanos victus I'm sorry wrong page this comes from is realization through reflection contemplation and meditation how God loves us and how he cares for us and if that's the case I focus on him and if I focus on him there's no routine if he wants me to jump out of bed at 2 A.M to serve him I'm there but I'm tired makes no difference I'm used to going to sleep at 11 and getting up at six and but I'm very proper that's that's very nice but it's a limitation it's a regular it's a habit and the only way to be abandoning and to deal with a struggle and to succeed in this struggle over the Memphis who's always urging you to do the opposite is to understand that habits are part of Netflix Obama's and that's why the word on top of 42 the second word look at the it's so drama's words are so sweet and precise be Mana from the nephew who whatever happens come from the natural Obama it's not from an official accused now so again there is you know wickedness and evil then there is habits good habits but it's still a habit and therefore promise now you as a potential pain in the end someone who wants to wants to be a baby you should be abandoning me it's to break that habit too so first you need to realize that nature and habits are all for the numbers and number two the way to break that is through reflection on God and Hashem and saying that I'm in love with God and he's in love with me and if I do it his way and if he wants me to break the Habit I'm right there and that's why it's called Hillel avoid the Tama avoid the karma is not the the qualification that we identify asatic with that's the third question that he didn't ask before but I'm asking it now why shouldn't a complete to be the way we address a topic down to that episode look at the next word Liberty why because at Sonic again is at the level that there is no bad there is no yank to harder he got rid of his Yates the the idea of completion means there was something broken and you fixed it and now it is fixed it's complete who deals with a broken situation abandon me which isn't in in more common language the struggle and that's why Dr Debbie says he this avoida of overcoming your habits your Teva is considered the complete Aveda for the pain in the not for the Sadiq in other words for the Sadiq they are this avoida is a downgrade now the topic is much higher he doesn't have the issue that he has to deal with challenges he's right there he knows very well that God is everything and everything is God and and therefore I'm right there with you the pain that he doesn't the baby still has that struggle inside and the pain is always holding on foreign of breaking habits and there's a famous saying and I want you to try to remember it what does come to do not to change the the middle tibian is midostivium natural midos but rather to change Teva Medusa the nature of your medals me those typium are the implication is bad middles bad character bad right character you're not you're active for that we have a pure key others say foreign didn't come to deal with medistivium there's many other parts of Taylor that does that see this came to change the nature of your midos including your good middles that's what Delta them is saying here foreign to change the Teva the nature of all meters including good middies he's a good boy but it's natural it's nature it's a habit you have to change it you have to go One Step Up and therefore if a person you know people say I'm diving I'm learning you know but I feel stale and the solution to that is this nakuda here you're too comfortable your own skin every day the same thing you have to do something to change the nature your nature within what you're doing that's good and then you won't feel stale and you'll feel very vibrant fresh and doubt that ever says that that avoida is considered avoid the Tama for abandoning that means it's our job not the job of attack is that I think there's there's there's that's a tremendous thing that we need to know yes I'm reminded by when when Clinton would come to the river and tell the river oh I did this amazing thing in Colombia or in Argentina and I did this about open up this chabara he wouldn't say oh wonderful that's great he would always say bite their bite there what are you doing he's celebrating don't celebrate just keep going yes yes that's an excellent example absolutely let's continue I want to finish a chapter next second line spoke about a moment ago about how do you accomplished this this state state of being of avoid the trauma by the Bayern through meditation now he says oi another method I'm I'm I I'm offering you is to arouse the latent love in your heart which is going to talk about in chapter 17 and 18. here you don't have to create a love I'm going to talk more about this difference later so I'm not going to get into it now but the first love he talks about is creating a love now he talks about that's why he says oi or well you have a love for God inside yourself you just wake it up get up loaf laid it is which will through this latent inherent love that every Jew has it will control over the temperature within the left ventricle nuclear gamke avoid it says and although this love is latent in your heart I'm Still crediting You with the with it being called Aveda work why because it don't come from sleeping 15 hours a day even though one has the innate love you have to be my order it you got to do something to arouse it say okay you don't have to meditate I I don't think you to be a meditator here but I need you here to be a a realizer and guess what many times we're asleep we don't realize what we have we think the solution is I'm gonna move here I'm gonna change jobs here I'm going to change homes it's in you just wake it up and when you wake up that in the cookie within you you will be happy you will be successful that's what he says here so this is also called an activity work to battle your nature and your inclination again through arousing of that is believing the latent hidden love within your heart shank it conversely when you don't have any battle whatsoever you're coasting and floating and just doing what everyone else does [Applause] this love is not called your activity your avoida my parents raised me in a great way so I'm a nice boy I'm a nice person very nice you're gonna get a big medal from your parents but you haven't earned the Iota you didn't do anything what did you do as throughout this chapter and that's why chapter 15 is very very relevant in a daily basis the idea of avoida and when you feel and when you feel that you're not working somehow arouse that inner strength contemplate and Hashem you have to work on leaving that state so that you stay fresh and the way to stay fresh is through avoida so someone who has no Muhammad you know very nice the person never saw the other side of the world never saw the world and doesn't have the Temptations and we say wow what a person there's no wow over here big deal it's a big deal if the person has been exposed and the person controls themselves that's that's a big deal so that one second one second and that's why every about to show that I don't mean literally about the sugar but every person who employs to shuva is greater than the Sadiq and that's why it says when mashiach will come that Sadiq also asada will make the Sadiq duchova what he means that's addict why does he need to do chuva the answer is because he's coasting he has no Muhammad from that perspective the bountyshua is greater than you besides other reasons yes Maisha what do you want to say yeah I was gonna regarding what you're saying about changing a amida or a habit and so there has to be a Voda and you mentioned about love of Hashem and I'm wondering in my own I'm sure everyone comes up against us sometimes you want to make a commitment to let's say I want to do this or not do this or change this and you say yeah I want to do it for you a chef but it's a very big thing the tough list how are you saying that should be achieved in other words is it is it enough to say I do this for the love of Hashem or you know say right saying it don't do it the ones I'm using is saying it no we're not talking about saying either to meditate avoid meditation reflection is is a deep process it's not just it's a realization it's a wake-up call so that either either we we create the wake-up call or we dig deep inside and realize that there's something we have that we haven't tapped into and it doesn't it it no it doesn't just come from saying it and no the Chabad the Chabad system in general is is uh is a very internalized process it's not through oh there's a schooler today there's a school I'll give you an example sure is Hashem gives us the title right once again give us the data so many people have accustomed before they get the title they go to the mixer in the morning you know before Dawn right I just read that that um so book remastered you know uh where do we find in the Torah a source for going to the Mikvah before reading the aceres at dibrous the rapper said I'm surprised he says it's impossible there's a positive that that there was a that they that there was a river that was coming down of the water coming down that's the implication that you should go into the mixer right now someone jumps into the mix does that mean that he's 100 gonna feel like the Ten Commandments the terrorists being has been given now it's a fallacy does that mean you shouldn't go to the Midfield does that mean you shouldn't go to the Midfield of course you should go to the Midfield but if you want to experience something you need to reflect on what's going on it Hashem is giving us the title now it's like and and picture yourself and think about it I'm standing in harassing night and God through what she's giving us potato and and the more you think about it and the more you know about it the more that you you learn you know the medrusian and then the Gamora and the khasidas and the Muslim you know the more you know about it then when you think about it it's more real so that that's that's the way to change a habit myself when you realize that Hashem is not stuck to to a certain way and Hashem is not limited by a habit that either I was born with or I created in my youth or I created in my comfort zone and you see that Hashem every day he's changing one day the world he gives us the nature this way and the next day it's cold the next day it's hot the next day's on top and the next day is on the bottom hey God can't you decide what you like ha ha no what's the message don't box me in you gotta break through the habit so again but I emphasize you know to train children not to have routines is very unhealthy it's good to have routine but we must remember that routine is because Hashem wants us it's it's Hashem wants us to have routine and and therefore if it all if it's all because of Hashem the moment Hashem says now I don't want you to have routine I'm right there and and this is hard it's easy it's sad but it's very hard because when you're used in a certain way to break a habit is is the hardest thing Heaven up I have another share now I gotta go we're going to far brain tomorrow so come we're gonna have good before I bring it Shalom bye foreign