Speech: It's Power and Shortcoming, Soulfulness through speech - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

so we're learning we're at chapter 11 those that were in here the last few days you're probably amazed that we're holding chapter 11 and after we'll finish chap the last chapter which is 12 so today with Hashem we'll learn the entire chapter 11 I've been going a little quicker because a uh the idea is require so much analysis that it's beyond the pale of the this the these classes not because you guys aren't intelligent and deep hidic thinkers but it's just a a different approach and it's not one that is um you're not and you aren't able to do it in a half an hour uh people spend uh years on these chapters they're the from the hardest chapters in the entire Tanya so the balatan here explained in chapter 10 that the Spheres the aminations of God and it's appropriate because we are saying nightly in the spher which is a Mitzvah to count every day each of the seven spheres malus has seven other components hence 7 * 7 is 49 the 49 days between PES and Sh and at the end of the 49th day that's when we celebrate Shas which is next week so we're we're talking about the spheros the Al said that the sphos are also United with Hashem in a wondrous absolute unity and they're nothing separate from God why should they be considered why should we think they're separate he discussed that yesterday the chapter I have it on the the YouTube channel so for those that are interested please listen to it in today's chapter P the AL goes further with this concept addressing the 10 utterances so again in chapter nine he spoke about the unity of God's knowledge with God Yia in chapter in chapter 10 he speaks about the unity with the mid the sphos the mid the emotions the attributes in chapter 11 he's going to explain now how all of even the IUS the my moral the 10 utterances that God used as the building blocks for creation of the world are also United and what we see and experience is the manifestation of that Unity but the the unity is all one the mush that he gave yesterday and and in different sections in is like the ray of the sun within the sun globe and within the sun Globe the Ze of the sheemish within the sheemish itself has no uh validity in the sense of independent existence it it it in concept it exists because for it to come later there needs to be a source there needs to be a place where it gets itsus its importance and which better place is there than the Su Globe it's like the the master Professor who eyes his who has his eyes on a certain student and sees that this student has potential for greatness the the the the master Professor will groom that student throughout the years that he is or she is in his class with in a certain way that's different than anyone else why because he sees that this student will take it all the way because of his his understanding his knowledge his behavior his personality whatever the case and a good teacher and a good professor and a good parent should should should be sensitive to that of course to give love to all students and care to all students and we're not talking about being rude and and and and and dismissing of others but but the the the um when you locate so a student who has that potential creativity and the development and really will take your message to another level it's important to to give to to to give indications uh to that student that I see greatness in you and and therefore um you know go along with the script and and you and you'll have greatness someone is unmuted if you Canute yourself I'd appreciate it so let's learn inside it's like uh it's like uh the story just briefly the once had to do a that the previous gave him in Europe with gensi and uh he was the leader of Lithuanian jewelry and V Villa Etc and um when he came to see him label which the famous happened to be there and the Reb came in and he started to talk with him and learning and he was blown away how the great knowledge that the had in learning I'm talking about you know you know not talking about talking about nigla the talm so so he said to him this is what they say you know and it was it was repeated by someone who I believe was in the room so but I didn't hear it firsthand so I don't take responsibility on the validity of the story but I if the person is authentic and he repeats correctly I'm sharing what what he says so the person so said to the rebba if you come learn in our Yesa you come learn with with me you know in our Yesa you'll become like the next leader of the Lithuanian World or you'll become a god whatever the exact words were don't don't you know not the words the idea will make you into by the lature you know the will make you into a GLE you become like the F father figure in the lit world and the said I'm sorry I'm already committed to my father-in-law and there and he did not go to slot go to commet or here or there he was already you know committed now what does that mean his father-in-law wasn't teaching him gor and tal and ra but meaning I have my path in life I chose my path in life yes Misha do you said you said the reab said he was already committed to his father father-in-law father-in-law he he he came as a a messenger on behalf of his father-in-law for some communal issue to discuss with um on behalf of his father-in-law to discuss with and then and and which happened to be there and he and he heard him discuss T and he called him in I mean there are more details to the story I think it's on Jam you could find it and um he he was just you know beside himself that in a positive way that this is a genius you know and if you have such a student now Yeshiva he'll be surely one of the next leaders uh for the you know for the upcoming generation and the and the said so why am I saying this because was we say he had a good a good he had a good sense of smell he smell he he heard him talk and he said this guy I have I have my eyes on him I'm tell I'm saying this because I just told you the good professor eyes out the student that has the talent to take it to another level that's a whole different thing you know and and and again it doesn't contradict that every student is important and every person's important it's all good and fine and and a teacher has to find within every student their individuality and what the the potential no question about it but but at the same time there is this this thing so why am I mentioning it here because when we talk about the ass of my mothers the 10 utterances that God used to create the world let there be light let there be a firmament you hear you hear AIA all of that you could look at and say well that's already the way God embedded himself and invested himself in creation and it's kind of already a separation from God now in this chapter is going to say no it's not a separation how he does that let's learn inside pter 11 also the 10 utterances they're also called utterances from the word m to say to utter to speak but they're called my only these are the key words of this chapter they're only called utterances in in relation to cre creatures alone and says let's take for example the attributes within a man's Soul when they when you they seek to be revealed they first come when when a an emotion of the heart seeks to manifest itself Mark right the first thing it has to go through a process of what's called letters of thought you got to think about it and say for example benevolence kindness and mercy that's within a person's soul it cannot be Reve revealed in actuality only first you have to think about the importance and act of benevolence and S and charity if you don't understand that you don't think about that you're not going to give the Seda you have to think about it oh this is a poor person I was blessed to be given some money by Hashem Hashem made my business successful so therefore it's right of me to give of myself to someone else whatever or whatever other accounting one makes the point being that the mid the emotion in the heart to feel and to feel Mercy warrants thought thought let's continue for you won't do the act of unless you think about it and and for example a king who commands others people others to do the of of of the King when he he instructs that they be given is invested in the and the words of thought the words that you use in your mind to think about the issue are than invested in what we call letters words of debor I like you I love you I'm scared of you I fear you all those words are the vessel to manifest what you think about in your head we're talking about someone who's you know who's cons who's awake and conscious and you know someone who's not awake and conscious will say things not backed by and guess what guys we have plenty of that too lip service yes uh Rabbi so there there's obviously certain people that are predisposed to give it that are naturally given so what what do you call that predisposition is you call that that their soul their Nish has an orientation by genetic birth uh from from certain parents or was or because of their soul given them by God that they have a predisposition for being generous but that's not what we're talking that's not what we're talking about here here here we're talking about a a giving and a that's predicated that should be predicated on Andor and then and then that's a different type of giving yes M yeah I'm sorry I want to just go back to something you said a few minutes ago yes you know the whole concept of the teacher keeping an eye on student he see that says is gifted Etc but I just find I was thinking as you're speaking the last few minutes and I'm contrasting that with when we see so many time many many times we come into contact with someone who we think is not gifted almost the opposite and we say this person like uh I'm going to be nice to the person I'm going to try but H they're not really and then we see we meet this person years later and we see the person became a giant in this field that we thought for sure B would never you know I I and I'm just thinking because last night our our daughter was went to had her graduation farad and apparent got back to me that that one of the the speakers is a one of the teachers in the school um told a story that she had interaction uh she saw a student came up to her not long ago and said who was a very accomplished Professor now and when the student came up to her she didn't even recognize her and she said the student said do you remember me and she said I I'm S I don't and then but she quickly realized that this the student became a very very big professor in whatever field it was and and the the teacher said to the students said uh like kind of like what like how did this happen so to speak and and the students said something to the effect of you know do you you you you made one of the things that that made a big impact on me when I was in like third grade kiml you praised me on how I read to Hill you know in other words it's like this so I'm just I'm contrasting that with what you're what you just said about having looking out for the gifted student I'm thinking to myself how like there could be someone I guess I'll just share an observation the challenge I guess of been in education is you're not dealing with just oneon-one usually you're dealing with the multitude of of different students and you have to somehow write address all of them and and and and as I said both both things are necessary and they aren't they aren't M mutually exclusive of each other a teacher should be concerned about all students but at the same time within any classroom and any group of people you know there are some that are more obviously uh gifted or not even gifted you see uh certain certain behaviors that you could clearly see uh there's leadership qualities there etc etc but yes yes um a good teacher Praises every student finding an area in which the praise will make a difference and the praise is is appropriate um and you're 100% right A lot of times teachers don't see that especially when there's a classroom with 30 40 kids or even 20 30 kids and you know and it falls by the wayside and I must say the teachers that I had and re's post Holocaust you know they just came out of this hell it was sometimes difficult for them to see and and focus and concentrate on on this that what you're talking about but there's been a big shift in the last 50 years I would say say 60 50 years with the new generation of teachers and it's only getting better are more sensitive to to to everyone and there's courses and there so many things going on in allim in all groups um training teachers to to to do that and and that makes a good teacher where he's able and she's able to find in everyone their individuality let's continue thank you you're welcome in the brackets says when you speak to your friend words of kindness oh you're such a wonderful person or someone you you you have mercy on them when will that be heard when it's predicated I I've told you this before but it just I always remember it there was some fellow who who I knew and he would say oh Rabbi you're the best oh Rabbi you're the best and you know after a while it becomes redundant it means nothing it's just a nicity okay you're you're Pleasant and well I told you the story the other day R and the saying the singing Friday night night if you're going to sing you better meet it otherwise you're not I'm not allowing you to sing it either you really believe and mean the whatever that is but if you're just doing it because everyone else is doing it be quiet in these few words in the bracket says the same idea when you speak words of kindness I love you I care for you or I have mercy on you and I feel for you to your friend even to your friend especially to your friend I would say if it's not predicated words of thought and words of speech in other words there isn't a a a thought process that has gone into this and that you've uh you put yourself into the situation it's fake now you know there's a time for fake it till you make it fake you know what I mean but at the end of the day if you want it to stay longterm and you want it to be real it needs to be predicated on on the people have asked me I wrote the I wrote this book ra and rebba 400 page book 559 footnotes on the relationship between the rebba and Rabbi salvic and people always ask me they had a relationship they only met maybe two three times since they came from Europe R salvic would come twice Twi he was here for two two three days in Washington Heights the rebas in CR Heights you could take a train from one to the other in 45 minutes to an hour what kind of relationship and yet they only met two three times for 40 plus years living it in living and being in the same city one in Brooklyn one in Washington Heights and uper Manhattan what's the answer and by the way Joseph tushin asked the same question in his book rebi look it up and what's the answer the answer is that a relationship and a friendship is about quality not about quantity if I won't see you guys for 20 years and we meet in 20 years I know that when we hug each other it's going to be like we saw each other every day the heart is there and you go back right away to that closeness and relationship of childhood of youthhood of learning hood you know for whatever reason we were you're there I'm here look here we have here she for six years it's only getting better and stronger and I'm teaching through a machine it's like it's like and I think about this like look how the world is shifted but but if you think about what a relationship is it's about the quality so that's what the and to get quality you don't get it from Li lip service it it it doesn't happen it does not happen and by the way we talk about how to improve relationships marriages all kinds of relationships it's this issue here you know when our they just talk about a husband a wife talking to each other before they engage in Union this is not just lovey doy stuff out of Cosmopolitan magazines and and movies this is T why because T says you want a relationship to Blossom and to be real you need to think about the other person and you need to verbalize it then the action is demonstrative of that closeness that's what what Al says here in this one little bracket let's continue in the analog in the moral God's attributes when they come to express themselves in behavior on Earth turn on turn to page 176 this Revelation is called and this this impact is called Bame it it then gets a new name MIM an utterance a saying is and combination of letters what's being said is a combination of letters let there be light the or Al those three Hebrew letters is a combination of energies put together it is impossible for there to be any result of God's holy attributes without combination of letters which is called letters what I in order when God desired to create light which comes from the the the attribute of God known as kindness light light and kindness same idea it it it it it was drawn automatically came from God this reaction of light and it created the ability to create light and to draw down this and this is all expressed in what we Callos or the single M saying and utterance and it was expressed is expressed through the letters or let there be light [Music] for although God's utterance of course is not like our let our words of thought God forbid cuz God is God and we are we nevertheless the letters of thought of as it is in is demonstrative of the concept that God wants to have light in a in a manner called ex neilo something from nothing therefore light was created from this attribute of and power of God and there were and other things were not created from this particular kindness this particular other words like the the mid of of hem isn't just limited to create light what about water we need water to survive says th that's true but don't confuse the two light is light and water is water so when Hashem says let there be light it doesn't mean Let There Be Water that's in another day why because the way Hashem made his utterances each of the utterances has a compartment there's a compartment called light and there's a compartment called um water it's like there's a compartment for a br for a person to have wealth and there compartment to have health it's two different compartments to argue well if hasem is bestowing his his attribute is of upon us why doesn't it come in all facets of our life it doesn't work that way because once you accept that it's a utterance it's a it's a mimer a mimer is broken up specifically a saying an utterance I said this I uttered this and this I did not utter even though when I will utter that that too will come from the same quality the the M the attribute of within myself but nevertheless it's two separate things let's continue because in water the combination of letters is different than the combination of letters in light those letters words that letters that are combined create what we call water what do we understand from the above all energy and all the faculties that come from God's holy attributes to Bel to create to and to them tostain them are called so here's another Point's important to know when we learn is a concept called there's a says morning comes about so the word oos what does the word mean we Translate is as letters but the truth is comes from a root word also Al T Al what is and there a what does also mean morning is coming so the word coming means morning is manifesting itself morning is revealing itself hence letters words Reveal Your Soul so when we talk about the revelation and manifestation of the self the eye the soul the the the manifestation process is called that's what he says here continuing this is the the the drawing down of God's will his wisdom and his the attributes to create worlds and to enen them so what kind of Worlds come about from God's words one concealed worlds they created they live sustained God's kind of secretive uh energy right do do I know what you're thinking about now while you're listening to me speak no I don't know I can surmise but I really don't know why because it's all the it's in your thought so too Hashem made the world worlds what we call Hidden Worlds concealed worlds Al discussion which is analogous to to letters words of thought that is concealed within man and not revealed and he says that's one thing then made also reveal worlds they created they and they live from the revelations when the when the the letters when the words of thought are revealed to the next stage which is in which is um debor as he says in a moment then what's created is what we call in K alond this gallion the revealed worlds so both the Hidden Worlds Al right and and Al the revealed worlds are analogous to the difference between the letters of thought and the letters of speech let's continue when they reveal that's when they get the term utterances and sayings the word of God in the spirit of his mouth analogous to the letter of man's words when you speak words others can hear they can hear what was concealed in a person's heart but until that moment they were concealed now says but I don't want you to make a mistake and think that God's letter are's words are even greater than of create of creatures don't think for a moment God's words a kind of you know secondary and man's mind is higher when says let us make man in our image man was created man of intelligence or even with the superal um air top of page PES that itself created God blue within the nostrils of a living soulen the the so-called superal um breath that came that was emitted from God's mouth it becomes the source of man's intelligence because what came about from that emission of of of air when when God blew the the soul into Adam it came about man man's intelligence that's the difference between a man and an animal and it's not just the soul of Adam it's the soul of Adam that includes allim Soul which are greater than angels as we learned many times in t souls are greater than Angels this is because the words of God's of speech they are admitting the the the the attributes of God which are united in the ultimate unity an absolute bond with God God is greater from any and all level of wisdom within cre creatures and creation and again he repeats the point that he began in the beginning of chapter 11 and the only re and only time and the only reason they're called is's word letters in from our perspective but if you look from God's attributes you look on God's perspective those are the 22 ways that uses through the 22 Hebrew letters to draw bring his energy and and and kak and his power different way which creates all the upper and lower rules that are within the upper and lower world so God wants to create a world with two 22 using the 22 letters specifically 22 different letters not 23 and not 21 22 the and they are these are 22 letters that are are arranged and set within one's mouth one's language as we learned to skip the parentheses it says in the book of that also the letters of of speech and the letters of thought of one Soul they come from the from the intelligence intellect and the emotion the as it says elsewhere so basically what he said in this last part of the chapter is that yes Hashem has the 22 IES the 22 letters are are each separate and each creat a different scenario but they're all they're all United We we'll learn the next p