Soul Source determines your capabilities - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

we're now learning chapter 16. we're on page Huff Bays we're on the fifth line after the the DOT but just to bring you up to date some of you weren't here yesterday I'm glad to see hi Michelle hi Volvo uh Hill also uh whoever whoever is that whoever's not on mute please mute yourself be quiet thank you so what's the question between what we're learning which is how does an individual who wants to become better and and be more in control over their bad habits or even good habits but it's a habit it's natural right there are people who go to sleep every day at a certain time and to get up at a certain time and they eat the same food for 50 years of their life okay it's very very beautiful it's regulated and organized but you know what it's it's natural it's become natural even if they weren't born with that style and that habit and that behavior it became that way so the balatonya here in chapter 15 and and now in chapter 16 teaches us you have to break your habit and if you're not breaking your habit he calls it Teva if you're not breaking your Teva you're not an over Delhi Kim you still could be a good baby and believe me that's a big level it's a great accomplishment but you're not a servant of God a servant means you're serving now each time you sit down to eat even though it's at the same time that you're eating yesterday and it's the same food you ate yesterday you still feel the the struggle to eat more for Hashem we call the same shamayam or morphodiver for pleasure every time and Dr Rebecca says if you don't feel that and to feel that he he discussed in 15 you need to meditate and reflect using your mohach your cup your head which leads to a feeling of the heart which acknowledges you know the issues that we have and then you're a live wire so then then you you you you grapple you struggle you win you lose and this we see throughout the Tanya and that's why such a wonderful safer to learn and to live with not just to learn but to really live with the the the importance of struggle the importance of a challenge and we know we're a little older than the new generation and God bless them because we need a new generation but the the idea everything today is so easy it's so much easier you know when we were in school we we wrote we wrote we took notes right today who's taking notes far-fetched and taking notes we live we live on the phone and on the computer and the phone in particular and it's a bracha it really is I can tell you from my work and probably you could tell me for your work if it's mama how much more we're able to accomplish because of the the advancement in technology really is a brother but when does it become not a broker if you don't know how to pick up a piece of Gamora a Gamora and learn it without art scroll Hebrew out scroll English art scroll when I was growing up I didn't learn tomorrow with an art scroll and therefore to understand the piece of Gamora especially be able to understand the tasters and the rushing the mashonda I had to as we say again the cup which in English means to break your head but you know you have to really I mean it was it was it was and I remember in Yeshiva the question whether you're ready to go into base mattress was can you make what's called in the Yeshiva World alainan Elena Elena means are you able to read and understand the gemara without anyone helping you with any any safer helping you can you figure it out and that was the that was the test that was the first they were more more tests upon yourself to know whether you really know the gamara but today today is it a problem to make Elena before you go into your test tomorrow the night before you take out the art scroll you take out the Steins out to take out whatever you know the the you know and you you have it all from you the kahati Mishra is is like spoon fed the Tanya which the Tanya was for so many years and Away closed you have to see this movie errors which you have something you've been learning you have the hayeno you have Miller's Tanya and steins once there so on one hand at one hand it's gevaldik on the other hand it becomes natural now that ever says knee abandon me that's an over the little Kim there are various kinds of pain in these is someone that doesn't take the status quo and he doesn't accept it it's not it's nothing and and and and and you've met laborious and some of you have met old Alibaba should see them from a previous generation because you guys saw you have your white beards or half white beards and that was the that was the barometer and that's why for this has to do you know I think you only mentioned though you told the rebber you know oh I did this I did that and the river said that's all you did now what the rebel was not a nice man he wanted to stack you you're telling him you put on filling with a hundred people well you brought together 2 000 people to hear the Chris I tell you on on and he says only two thousand they are ten thousand children in gaullah and you're telling me you brought together two thousand what should I give you an ice cream or a lollipop right it's like now what the rep the rabbit didn't have the Manchester guy to acknowledge you and say oh you're great and the answer is that's against the beginning he was an over there debating over the game is not satisfied because if he got 2 000 kids last year if he only gets 2 000 kids this year he's he's done in a way for him nothing it becomes routine and this is and this is a message that comes from the Tanya we learned to chapter 15. so now in 16 episode I don't want you to feel despondent and depressed because at times you don't develop um this palpable love feeling for God when you put on your tune in the morning in hkdish as you make your Loops you're in love with Hashem you're like thirsty for God you don't you rolled out of bed you made it barely to the minion thank God and you put on your thrilling and you put them and then you take your sitter it doesn't gotta run to work I gotta run to the kids I gotta run here and it's true someone has to take the kids together but the question is what's the quality of your Dominique so doubt that ever says in this chapter I'll tell you what I have a solution you meditate and reflect on God's greatness to the point where you know that the right thing to do is a b and c and if you can accomplish that and you can if you take a few minutes of meditation reflection I will consider it as though you have a burning love from me in your heart and that's a Kiddush that's unusual we don't find such a thought anywhere in the terror except for the gemara day is going to quote and what we're going to learn today in condition that Hashem is Hashem combines your thoughts to your action now I just want to we skipped the hago on page the the footnote here kind of on page 42 and I want to learn it inside that um he says that at times a person doesn't isn't able to develop this palpable love in the heart so at that time he's working on what in computer terminology he's working on what is it called when the computer shuts down and you you have a you still have the screen what is it called oh no uh you know uh what a certain mode it's called a certain mode I forget now in other words no no not standby there's another way to in other words safety mode thank you thank you safety mode right so now Maisha they're serving Hashem in safety mode what does it mean it's safe in other words you still can operate here but it's not the Schmaltz it's not the kishkis it's not animated it's you know it's my little safe place where I go back to where I Know No One's Gonna bother me and No One's Gonna touch me and over there I'll be able to do my basics right it says the outer rabbit that that when a person isn't able to generate and motivate themselves to have this palpable love for Hashem the safety mode which should cause avamos uterus the the um uh the latent inherent love is adequate now the question is why so look in the look in the footnote on page 42 it says it's on the left side left side of the page like it's on the right page but the left hand column in in parenthesis the reason is it's because his bro his intellect ually and his nepheus his emotions they come from a level that Kabbalah calls impregnation and concealment I'll finish it and I'll explain within the within the mind but like this with goggles and they don't come from birth and Revelation as this concept is known to those that study the esoteric wisdom AI Kabbalah basically I'm not sure what's the difference between a child while the child isn't the mothers yeah and child comes out these colors child is born the difference is whether the fetus is still part of the mother eats what the mother eats and thinks with them other things and experiences right or when when the fetus is born I.E the baby is born there's Independence what's the one we call ibor the state called ibor impregnation and what we call Lay the birth says you know why one person is able to generate this passionate love for God and one person isn't it has to do with your soul with your nesham depending where your soul comes from is Sir if it comes from evil or it comes from later it would be easier or harder for you to generate the other for Hashem because or you'll be you'll only be able to access the safety mode and and that's also very comforting because that much is telling us it's not our fault it's not that I'm lazy I'm not lazy you know I'll just give you a personal example and I've been learning to see this all my life and and I remember in Yeshiva and I had some hafruses who their mind their understanding of these ideas was so deep much deeper than I and and I was wondering like but I learned more hours I was much more of a diligent student right but nevertheless their grasp of of the concept was a lot deeper about so you feel bad the answer is it's not because I wasn't trying believe me I was trying much more than them but the way Hashem created my mind he didn't give me the ability to go to to understand it deeper much deeper the way he created their mind is he gave them that ability now we don't know that so you have to try and I did try right he didn't doubt that I was talking about the same idea but on a much higher level where was your soul where does your soul your nashama come from Ebor impregnation the level of impregnation or later the pre the level of revelation of birth and this answer is another issue that's important Moshe always loves to hear something practical husband and wife spouses why is it that you know you go out before you marry you meet you talk and you find compatibility and all that and then as you marry and life goes on you have children you have a whole family and then and everything else you see that certain things talk more to you certain things don't talk more to your wife what's going on over here is that oh is that an intellectual thing so we learn kabola and you said this you you come to understand no it's much deeper than that has to do with the soul the type of Soul you have to type in the show me you have and that's why it is important to to learn even this these in young and these topics because although like like uh like someone told me and I think I told you that you know I once gave a lecture in Miami about first and second marriages according to the Ariza and someone walked out on me but some it was you know it was I see someone young and he walks out and it was noticeable that he walked out so after minha I said that I say something that offended you he says yes what did I say he says the topic itself offended me I just got married last week are you talking about second marriages you know now yeah that now now you know you know I I it was water off my back because hey guy you know uh what can I tell you I mean this I was discussing this idea but at the same time it points to in other words I didn't want to Stack him God forbid and but he was very super sensitive he just got married do you telling me sometimes your second marriage is really your zip up not your first marriage that's what it says in the Ariza whether we like it or not that's what it says now does that mean to say we should go now search a second civil you're out of your mind you're a sinner you're you're you're you're uh you're a if if there's a divorce and if that's the situation and you marry a second time and your second marriage is better than you first then you could point to this Ariza and say well this are reason I would support my second marriage why it's better than my first but that's not a reason to go and say hey honey I'm ending in my first marriage with you I'm gonna choose someone else because we know most people who do that are just gluttons and balitiva and have lust and all that okay I shouldn't say most I take back that them but there are such because they're people who end up in the divorce and legitimate divorce and there's legitimate divorce I don't want to go into it now it's a different topic but the point is it has to do in the summer two children if children same mother same father one is smart and this and one is weak in this one likes this one is envious of this what's going on here says the Arizona has to do with the sibling rivalry because you both come from the same age eights the same tree of life and you're both sucking nourishment from the same source and each one wants more nourishment these concepts are real and these Concepts these Concepts give us a better understanding of how we function and what's going on so so too I'm using that as examples so to what it says here in Tanya is the same the same point that on the shama that it comes from ibor in prednation level all one second but she always feels Masha one second always feels the mother always feels the inspiration of the mother this that soul is 75 years old and and and and feels the mother's impact on him 70 75 years later and I don't know mean only consciously you know what lessons my mother taught me I don't mean that I mean spiritually there is a there is a connection that that that this soul is kind of dependent on its source and in this case when it comes to love for Hashem when the Midas Issa when the Midas when a person's emotions feel the Moa the meditation which understands God then those meetings are on fire because the middles are are it's like when you put a a frying pan on a pit on a fire and you cook your eggs or you cook your your potatoes and then you shut it and you take it off after a while it cools down but imagine after a while it's still as hot as though the fire goes along with the pan even when you're you're taking out the edge and the potatoes you're eating them that's the same idea of these Midas these Midas are on fire because the Moab is fueling them even as they are meet us that's the Ebor experience whereas delayed The Experience following the words of the alteraban that have got here the birth experience is I'm wondering it's independent moisha right hey I'm a big boy I was born I'm independent and absolutely but at the same time you're on your own now and therefore what your mother gave you she gave it to you in in utro right when you want to feed us now you're born if you don't make it work it ain't gonna happen so that type of an ashama which we call later doesn't have the Moa fire to fuel it every moment therefore that type of nashama cannot experience the Abba his gallus and therefore relies on the safety mode I've given you numerous examples I hope one of them will resonate with each of you yes Maisha you're on be very close in age they could be close in age ages and they are so different they're so different and it's this is it could be as if they would meet each other in the street as if they didn't know each other and they wouldn't have anything to do to do with each other get yet their brother and sister or brother and brother or sister sister my questions soon to go back for a second sibling siblings I I didn't quite catch this siblings come the source of the nesham was the same yes the source the tree there's one tree there are branches on a tree so the siblings are two branches on the tree so the tree is the same tree but the branches are two different branches do you understand that or or you don't follow that I'm not and I'm not really sure I'm not sure how to how to follow it in in context of the of igboer and Leda well what one it's a different issue but one branch somehow gets more nourishments with the tree and one gets less well let's say they both get different kind of nourishment from the tree and so one one the buds are larger and nicer and one of the buds are smaller and maybe not nice whatever so so too with siblings and the Ariza the Ariza adds to that and that's why sometimes we find sibling rivalry because each is trying to nourish more from the tree and they're jealous and therefore it comes out where yeah yeah therefore comes out that as you said my they can be very different and that results adding even more they can be in a wage you know jealous of each other each one wants to say I am more of my father of my mother you know and listen this is and unfortunately you know when when after the parents pass on and they fight for the the money in the estate the ugliness comes out you know but that's not that's not that's not what the Ariza talks means that's called grubkite um greed you know Etc you know what would you say their results speaking about them their reasons speaking about you know one sibling sees in his parents more the love aspect and one sees in them more the kevura aspect the discipline aspect and one season then the more spiritual one sees in them the more material you know things like that so the way they the way they act in life they they they go back and say oh and and I see this in speaking terms with my own siblings we don't have sibling rivalry but still you know I have one perception of my parents how I grew up and another one has another perception foreign specifically is talking about rivalry a sibling rivalry that's that's very different than my understanding of my parents is this way you understand them there that's you know that's tolerable but when they're in a fight and they're jealous and they're jealous you know that's that that's a problem so the arizo says that it could be that the problem begins in the source in the in the shares in in where they come from the comparison that I I mentioned to what we're learning in this was that just as the result says this about two two brothers or two sisters or brother and sister who are jealous of each other and he says hey hey it's not the cause isn't what you think the cause is the cause is in their Source they're both nourishing from the Tree of Life the tree and and they want more for themselves they want more they want to be more um quiet no not moist it might have been more moist they want to grow better they want to have nicer buds they want to have nicer fruit right and one says to the other I mean this is a metaphorically speaking one branch says to the other hey I want to be nicer than you so I said that so so in other words what we're pointing to what the Ariza lets us know and teaches us is that the issue here is a spiritual one on the shama one that the reason why their sibling rivalry is not because who has more of the parents money and who you know has more you know who no that's just the outer manifestation it's a soul issue going on so I said so too the reason why some people are able to motivate themselves to have a revealed Ava for God and some people cannot reveal cannot develop a real palpable love but Justice latent inherent love is without there ever says in the in the is because they have two different types of Souls thank you there are two different kinds of the shows and I brought the example of my own experience and Yeshiva like you know in the beginning I was like I was more big like why can't I understand the mimer as well as my cover you know I have to spend hours in in thought and in learning to and and and this guy gets it right and the answer is because God gave him a certain type of brain he gave me a certain time of brain so that's again also that's not Soul that's brain so take take it back a step when you talk about what type of soul that that gives you an answer why one person is able to develop a a palpable love and why some are not able to answer develop that that's what I said we learned Hashem and we die a lot I like that and it's important that I want this to continue you know so that we I mean yes we have to cover ground but it's fine we need to understand you see I could have read the haggar without this and without moisture and other have this comments and and wanting to understand better and the purpose of the shear is to understand it so everyone have a great day we'll see everyone that meets Hashem tomorrow bright and early so I guess bye