Simcha #14 - Never Giving Up - Don't Brag w your Talents - You aren't G-d's gift to Humanity

so we're learning the mimer if there's hashem simcha since velvet wasn't here yesterday and avi wasn't here i'd like to re repeat just in the kuda and it's a very important dakota because a point we're on page 125 but we're going to get to the text please god later first i want to share just the general idea the mimer here has been about simcha and tainook attaining joy happiness and attaining pleasure for hakodesh borohu in many different ways that was the discussion at length towards the end of the last chapter that ever said something new he introduced the concept of another another meaning humility an enough and there ever said that the vessel the kali for having simcha is another so this is now the question what is the role of another what is the role of humility in simcha and to this he quotes a possible and the modest ones increase their connection with god through simcha and at the beginning of this chapter on the first chapter the first part of the chapter he asked the question wait a second when you're in a mode of another when you're in a mode of humility and modesty you're to yourself you're insular your inside and when you are in a mode of um you're outward you're you're expanding right so how did the two go together how can you be in a mode of expansion and simultaneously be in a mode of in yiddish we say [ __ ] fetch kite you won't find such a word in english never ever i'm probably in russian either not far fetched kite we say it is a fetchterman chavron he is what does fetch mean he is a me a person that's yani how would you say [ __ ] fetched in in english uh so i guess someone that's uh uptight uptight like you know it like he's in himself in hebrew the word is kibbutz what does kibbutz mean abby shriveled up shriveled contracted contracted yeah but for fetch i i don't like that as a translation for questions but it's like complaining a fetch but yeah but that that's not that's not that's that's not a literal meaning of the word clutch means to squeeze cretch firefight means he's squeezed up he's like him into himself you know so when you're in that mode how could and another a modest person is like crack fetched he's quiet he's humble and at the very same time by asufu hashem by november puts together another and seemingly it's two separate expressions of soul psychologically and otherwise and that ever said started explaining to us so far that that's true if your version and understanding of another is self-deprecation in hebrew lessening of self shiflus atsume lowering of self in english we call that self deprecation putting yourself down so then that says if that's your understanding of another you're 100 right you cannot be in that mode and be simple they don't go together but since that's not the real on this meaning of another but rather what is the real meaning of another it is head there herrgish atmo awareness of self is removed is not there herges awareness of self awareness of self not in the sense of not having a healthy self-esteem who am i that i should feel special because i was blessed with a a talent a gift of mind a heart hands or feet and the rabbit gave the example going on to page 125 of someone who won't a jew will not brag and say you know why i'm special because i believe in god you know why i'm special because i have mercedes nephesh potato and mitzvahs what that's a given otherwise in a way you're not a jew you wouldn't be created as a jew and i share with you a personal story from from the altar rabbit the rebel repeated the following story in 1983 purim during the fabregan and you can uh see it online you can actually see it and hear the fabregan purim 1983 i think it's called listen to me is the caption of the of that selection on gem the rebber said once the altar ebba looked through out his window and he saw hasidim throngs of hasidim were coming throughs of sedum were coming to the altar ebba's house because they wanted to hear torah from him and he turned to his rabbits and sterner and he said what do they want from me in other words who am i that they want to hear tyler from so she saw that she has to save the day here so she turned to the outlet but she said they're not coming to you they're coming to hear what you know and heard from your teachers and after the alternative said this after she said this to the alter ebba he then said to her if that's the case why they're coming i will say and say that's the end of the story then that ever brought her back home to explain the idea and intimated about it that he's speaking about himself who am i to sit purim at a fabrengan holding up people for hours including giving them admonishment he said that and the answer and what's the answer i'm sharing with you what i heard from my teachers and my father-in-law etc and if that's the case it's not about me and the same is true for everything right the terrorist says since available as a doctor will share we'll use that as an example from here we know that hashem has given permission and ability for a doctor to heal that is the classification of a doctor according to tata nothing more and nothing less of course the smile helps and knowing what you're doing helps right and the label always said when it comes to a medical issue go to a doctor who's an expert in the field and a friend right if you have a heart a heart issue you don't go to an eye doctor you go to a heart doctor but what is the fundamental fundamental fundamental issue of any and all doctors hold on why why don't i see it oh my gosh do i have issues hold on hello hello okay what's the what's the fundamental issue of any and all doctors it is the power of healing who gave you the power rape the abrasive gave the power so that ebb is saying like this in this mimer for a doctor to think that he is the healer that he did something special by healing is ridiculous god gifted you with disability and you chose to use it in the right way through your free will therefore it flows through you you're a funnel and that ever gave the examples of faith in god faith in god you're bragging with your faith or more so with your messieurs nephesh and i started to talk about this in the last year yesterday just want to add a little bit to it because i saw this by my own father-in-law who came from kharkov ukraine it was a russian cousin of a barbecue and i saw it by his great by his uncle my great uncle rabbi mental footafast and i saw these eden who every one of these jews gave their life and were ready to die for you this guy am i and guess what they didn't think they were doing anything special they didn't know anything else meaning to say this was being the eid you know i don't know about you guys but for me it's very foreign because we weren't raised this way that's why you know the american hasidim in the eyes of the old russian khasid which mostly already all gone although we have velvet and many very wonderful hasidim russian hasidim but you know they were called chocolatiness you know chuck kellockiness means chocolate nights they know how to eat a good piece of chocolate and they think they're big hussy them my wife who grew up in melbourne and with a father like that and and other kassidin she would tell me that they would you know saying that they would laugh it's not loud like come on come on you you're a little hot you're a little cold like what this is this another story there was a hosted named yahushua dubrovsky he lived in in crown heights he was a russian cluster the contemporary my father-in-law was and he came from hasidic stock from a barbecue system and he was very talented he was a gifted writer a yiddish he was like one maybe the best you this writer one of the best you know i'm on the highest level and he was a hustler the true husset so i know i have someone here in borough park who's um very bright he he he was raised in in jerusalem he was natural carter a whole story but the bottom line is it's very bright so he he got hold and he loves history and he loves knowing about hasidim about rabonim and you know about people who who we we we look up to so he went to rabbi dubrovsky and he said could you tell me about this cousin and that concert and discuss it who you met in russia and you know in samarkand and tashkent and then before you know you saw so after a while dubrovsky turns to him he says listen my friend if you want to see you if you want to see the real khasid you need to go to the cemetery in samarkanth that's where you will see the real question and he's talking about himself and his generation compared to his parents generation which didn't make it out of russia and they passed away and they're buried in samarkand he says over there you'll see some real acid us that are alive we're not the real mccoy they're the real mccoy it was such a like whamsy of an answer right into bullseye right into the oregon like you know you think i'm a husset you think i'm a special yi i'm a nothing compared to to these eden now on one end if you walk around with this thinking you can get very depressed and you won't be able to do what you need to do at the same time to walk around the feeling i'm doing something special it's foolish you're not doing anyone a favor on the contrary if you don't use your talents that hashem gave you you're you're you're you're admiring my mouth you're rebelling against the king this abraham is the sense of bitter asme the the the obliteration of self-awareness that's what we mean so therefore for these people and thereby says here yerusha he may have oceanu it's an inheritance from our ancestors what does that mean so i told you yesterday when you inherit whether it be funds or something else do you go around saying hey i'm a great guy i got an inheritance and we all know that sometimes family members get an inheritance and you look at them and they say oh my gosh they're such decrepit people and they got the inheritance like why didn't i get it and what's the answer you need what's the answer ask god ask your parent you know why they decide to leave the money over to this and this son or daughter or or you know but the fact is that the the miss garrett the whole um the whole uh environment of inheritance has nothing to do with you with us so that ebb says here that just as faith in god and having self-sacrifice for god for a jew is an inherited quality from avraham avinu so to another humility although we refine ourselves to work and having humility guess what the point is that when we have the humility true humility is feeling as though it's inherent you got an inheritance so what are you bragging about now let's look at this inside page 125. um i want to repeat i want to go back and repeat because it's up they weren't here right let's go back to um 124 actually um the the the the the paragraph that begins with um on 124 the third line the second word i'll just read it a little quickly you know the idea is that nothing has shifted another is not deprecation of the soul feeling low the animated table the batsman because one doesn't find good within himself or if he really is in a good place and that's why he feels low and and humble says that but that's not enough that's not what we're talking about kim rather what is anova whom it said i had there herger schatzman the shift was the modesty of the anova that we're talking about is the removal of self-awareness my limits has gone because the fact that a person doesn't look at himself as a as some doing something special and everything that he does that's even that's that's even good the email is going to be the selfish even though he's doing good in the learning of training doing misses and having self sacrifice there he doesn't walk away saying hey i'm a great guy they ain't said they know you're the immigration lawyer and it doesn't mean that he doesn't know that what he's doing is special quinoa daya should take a yoshi hold over he definitely knows that what he's doing is good and proper nicole malcolm nevertheless in a massive trevor liaximoy