Simcha #13 - Ultimate Joy is Sense of There's Nothing besides G-d - Self Esteem & Simcha

so we're um we're now in the miami of december sim club we're getting towards the end we're on page um we're on page 124. the last nakuda the last point that the rebbe said is important to to review and recap because it's also explained in other discourses and that is there is a verse in ushaya chapter 29 verse 19. and the modest ones will increase in god they'll increase their relationship and their appreciation simcha with simcha now you would think everyone please mute yourself you would think that simcha is the opposite of humility you know why someone who's humble is usually more on the quiet side or if they're you know really a loud person or a bubbly person but they're in a mode of humility and and humbling themselves they tone down simcha is outward simcha [Music] friendliness and happiness and and and and smiling face so how did the two go together this is a verse part of a verse and this is the question so the previous our author he has his approach to it and he basically says elsewhere elaborately and hear briefly that on the contrary who can really appreciate simcha someone who really has bittle bittle is a key buzz word in chabad hasidis if you haven't heard enough of the word bittle yet you will beetle is not just you know like he grew up in yeshiva where they had the word bao gaeva okay i've run the the traditional world the word used in our yeshiva worlds was don't be a master of conceit of ego but in hebrews what's the opposite your innocence an enough a modest person like they say the the anecdote you know it was simple torah and they were giving out the hakapos and the gabba made the announcement all those that are on of him that armada should come up and get take a toll at the dance and some people rose and they went to take the torah just the opposite of humility if someone calls you anonymous you should run the other way not run to take the torah and that's the that's the fallacy that's the hypocrisy of how you think you're not and you show everyone that you're in on of so what is what is true another true anova is much deeper than just being humble that's classical judaism classical torah classical talmud another means a sense of realization that ain't there's nothing else besides god not only isn't there no other god thank you very much a froome jew believes only one god lahavdou anand you also who is a believer believes in one deity in god so what does it mean and sometimes abraham it says not only ain't nobody it says it doesn't even say milvado anoint nothing else we don't even need the word yoni novado besides him of course besides him what does it mean that there's no other reality and entity outside of god this is a very deep sense of another of humility says that when you attain and work towards this idea of another what else is there besides hashem what else is there there is what hashem wants and you know what he wants he wants happiness he wants simcha in other words unless you really have another by a shem you won't have simcha why because there's always a place in you that there is that little little yesh that little existence that little entity that peaks its ugly head up and says and me too you forgot about me how do i fit in here so that's when simcha and another contradict each other but if you strip yourself from ego and your egoless then all there is is god and god is a happy entity and a happy existence happy deity hashem right well let me ask you what do you think when you think about hashem about god you think he walks around he's hashem scary hashem has horns what is this god i don't know i think of god as a happy-go-lucky deity he's so happy and lucky that he has a world that he made and people just to to make it a better world wow so this is this is the idea of simcha um so the point is specifically via sufo i love him you want to have simcha in your life be more humble be more another the more humble the more another you have the more you have and it's practical this is a very practical thing whenever we have more needs i want this and i need this we're less passive i don't have enough greed greed this world runs on greed because we've made a run on greed how is it my mother-in-law show them i bring back the memories which she always told me as i was a child growing up how she lived with her parents and bubby and zadie in one room in poland in one room and when relatives came they came into the same room and everyone ate together and slept together and she said and we were so happy despair shabbos i went to crown heights at a family simcha and i was a hou in a house that was maybe at 20 rooms four stories with an elevator in crown heights it blew me away yeah listen you know crown heights could you imagine it's not muncie where you got a lot of property it's like flatbush yellow and they borrowed backgroundize williamsburg you know matchbox houses little properties everyone's on top of each other and thank god this guy was able to build up and i'm not of those that are against expansiveness of gas mias because this is not against it but it depends what you do with it if you need another car and another room and other this and that you're not you're never going to be happy then greed controls you if you're happy with what you have and you have that big house and you have that big property and you have all the riches and you spend and you give and you and call up we need that we need more yeshivas and we need to get the tuitions lower right then you have simcha and your this and your dad everyone bring him inside that's simple because what does that show that you're nothing nothing you're nothing you're everything but your ego is nothing you imagine hasidim would say i've rum and i share with you some deep hasidic traditions and anecdotes and lifestyle although sometimes it might sound very um foreign weird strange uh wild so hasidim sometimes would go to a house that they knew that the uh woman of the house bought a new couch and they would say to their husband who was their friend we would like to have brain in your house and the husband and his friends came and they drank quite a bit of alcohol for bringing and then one of them did what's called by us lubavitcher's hazora you know what khazara means the word hoser means to repeat or better said to reject regurgitate they excuse me vomited from so much intake of alcohol and where do they vomit on the new couch that was the introduction for the house and the new couch you want to show off your new couch we're going to make a city for bringing and we're going to mess up the couch so you don't have that pleasure from the new couch it's you know i'm not i'm not suggesting people do this i'm not saying this was done on every monday and thursday but it's an idea the idea is you know don't be caught up in the new couch yes you want to have a new couch because you're bringing over people who that's all they know about absolutely but if you're buying the new couch and the new fancy item because of you yourself then you need a good what because it's called we gotta lay down the table and apply the uh we gotta really teach you a lesson you know come on another is such a wonderful media to work on but from the not the not just the way it says in shivers the way hasidis embellishes and reveals the depth of another i think is a much healthier way to go about another and that is to come to an understanding that anoid movado this you're not going to see in shamir is dealing with not saying gossip and being modest absolutely um ethically sure see this especially this says are you sure you're an enough really why did you uh feel this way and say this this i see a little a little a little guy over there left a little eagle the anointed novado is not yet the ultimate in your life so this is what they're ever saying over here in the mirror towards the end of juan 120 for the last paragraph that when we talk about if those hashem simcha simra is predicated on another and then as avraham said before this year you can experience tainook what is pleasure so listen to this what do we think about pleasure is i have this i experience this i have pleasure from it what else has to say pleasure is not i have this god has the world god has me and god wants of me to experience him and when i allow myself to to be taken by god as his representative and his servant and i dump out my my my ugly guyver and yeshus and ego and all that then i can experience pure god and i am in a state of pleasure you cannot ex you cannot expect to experience pleasure real pleasure not like we discussed last week not just external pleasure right if the sense of guy was there i just want to for example you're innocent who spoke about yoni mentioned about dan singer isn't the person happy that that's one and a level of happiness and a beginning level and necessary but this the proof whether we're really happy is when things aren't going our way or the way we think they should be going are we happy it's trust me it's easier said than done but that is the paradigm so that when he talks about if those hashem and we learned that this is the ultimate expression coming from tynuk says that ebba you must know that another the sensation that is the only reality will trigger that that's what we learned until now any questions okay page next paragraph um however sorry we must understand when it comes to the the nature of the faculties of the soul the mind and the heart hare another modesty humility and happiness aim being your name are in opposite matters another is hashballer means to be lowering yourself down and degrading yourself i'm a nothing i'm a nobody you feel elated i love that word elation um comes because of the sense of importance the intent so his question is if so how is another a vessel and a cause for simcha seemingly they're opposite one the other this is basically what i just told you before in the beginning just in the rebels words you know the reconciliation of these of these seemingly contradictory modes it's not a lowering because he says on that fish your soul is so low i'm a bomb i'm a goof i'm a diss i'm a jerk i'm a no that's not the anova that we're talking about the aina meiji toy bias another is not that you don't find good in yourself or god forbid or i'm conducting myself in a no good way km rap