Schizophrenia of the soul - Mercy: Do you use it? Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

so everyone mute yourself please good morning we're on page lamid let's do from Muhammad hey the last two words on the bottom after the period but just to recap in this chapter the alternative addresses the issue if if a person has inappropriate lustful thoughts and the like coming to him while he's governing or while he's learning what should you do to say that we should embrace them and then reject them is against Jewish law it's wrong in middle of davening in the middle of learning you're not allowed to think about inappropriate things so the the solution that the balotanya gave to such thoughts entering the person while they're working or while they're walking in the street like jaini and imagine something comes to him now and he just pushes it aside he says okay now I'm going to push you aside but he lets it enter his mind in order to fulfill the Mitzvah of Allah if you don't have the the thought in your mind you can't fulfill that mitzvah right around when it says do not close do not follow the dictates and desires of your heart and your eyes if they're not in your heart and it didn't begin Through Your Eyes that they're not in you how can you how can you fulfill that passage that verse that possuk so therefore the other says when they come to you in middle of work you know you're only working you're not learning then you're allowed to kind of allow them to enter they enter and by the way it's not that you allow them to enter they enter and what you do is you reject them but here in chapter 28 we're on a different trajectory here we're talking about the middle of davening and learning so here you're not allowed to let them enter and as soon as they enter you don't say stay a minute longer so I can reject you you stay out you say I don't want you here for a minute you're not allowed to be here I'm dampening I'm learning so what's the solution if they still enter your mind when you're diving and learning so here they altered episodes what you need to do is reject them out of hand yes divert your attention from it completely then he says later that the reason why they come to you is not because this proves that you're dominating and learning is worthless because if you're really dominant if you're really learning how is it that they come to you you you you're refining yourself how is it so the alphabet says that would be true that's what we're going to learn today that that would be true if there's only one Soul if a person has one Soul then there would be a contradiction oxymoron who are you ESO esoph or yaakov make up your mind but if there are two people there are two they're twins in the mother's womb and one is asaph and one is yaakov one desires to go to church and one desires to go to show it's natural that it's going to be a battle and guess what when one strengthens themselves the other one tries to overpower so when your Godly Soul wants to be more Godly and more holy through davening and learning the Yates the animal Drive strengthens itself to block you and put obstacles in front of you and to make it more difficult for you so as long as you know that it's coming from the second Soul within the Jewish person as we've learned in chapter one in Tanya that every Jew possesses in a chapter two he possesses and she possesses enough for sure the kids both Souls it's all clear then I call this this is not you know spiritual schizophrenia split personality make up your mind are you holy or are you secular are you Jewish or not so this let's learn inside this is that what that was the kuta that he said that that when things get tougher from it's the time not to get weak and to chicken out to cop out and to give up on the contrary it's the time to get stronger you want you to go you want to go and get stuff exactly you want to knock me down I'm going to show you who's gonna knock who down so the Yates are harder than that for sure bomb is comes to the person that says here's a nice little inappropriate thought a lustful thought so but I'm in the middle of diving in the middle of learning says Dalton exactly that's when he that's when he wants to plant it into your mind that way you're playing baseball or going to a movie or sitting on the beach at that time big deal and at that time he knows you're going to reject it you're going to embrace it for a moment and then reject it but here you're not allowed to embrace it so he says I'm Gonna Keep On shoving it into you throwing it into the prison's mind at that time you get stronger and you say get out of here go find another another place you know my my grandmother my who survived the Survivor she'd always say once when we had a bad dream I don't know if you only knew you heard this from your grandparents or people when we had a bad dream woke up in the morning very scary she would say may God throw say that God should throw all your dreams on the bad guy not not that all Guardian were bad but those Guardian those Gentiles who seek to hurt us let those bad dreams go and bother them and attach themselves to them and that's I'm not saying that that that should be the way we should educate our children today either I'm not going to go into that discussion because that's a very European uh approach after you know being persecuted but the concept is that that that we need to uh reject it out of hand and know that we have the strength to do so so now let's learn inside the first the last two words on top of 70. the truth would be like the people who argue that if an inappropriate thought comes to you it shows that your jewishness isn't isn't sincere your davening is really Meek and schwa and weak says down to them and that would be true if a person were to were to have only if a Jew were to have only one soul and lavada and here misspellis and it's that same very soul that Dominus that praise and it's that very same soul that that thinks of the that allows the inappropriate thought the lustful thought to enter and thinks about it then you could say you're a cop you're a hypocrite you have schizophrenia make up for your mom make up Who You Are available but the truth of truth is what's going on is there's a battle between the two Souls within the Jew ish um it's Waging War in man's mind each seeks to dominate to control felia is so that it fills it it and only it fills the mind now you notice he says the mindset that I'm talking about the heart the lustful thought becomes lustful when you understand what it's about sure it begins with seeing you see something but then you think about it you understand it and when you think and understand it which is in the mayak in the mind then it impacts the heart and then it impacts the action says each of the two souls seek to control its dominance over the mind the holy who they tell you the foreign worldly matters from the animal Drive Shirley cosmalubishba it's only that godliness invests itself as well into the god into the animal drive to harness and control it but who is the Navigator the Navigator and the lead role is in this case it wants to be more animal-like now down to them it gives a parable to this listen listen to this parable for who can martial law this would be similar to a person that davens with intent with focus with cavana foreign before him an idol worshiper a wicked person he speaks and he talks with him for the purpose today Le valveloy to confuse him to confuse him you're standing in your darling and all of a sudden someone who doesn't believe in God who's a vital worshiper who is wicked and he starts with saying you a cup make circles around you and tries to mess up your head you know mess with your head this and that and this you know and find all kinds of justifications for the riches for the nonsense and the wickedness in a clever way it's not just you know he says hey come let's go do a good sin he starts saying this is you know this is great and it doesn't the terror doesn't mean this exactly and maybe we can do it this way we can do it that way you know and why is he doing that you're in the middle of davening after understanding there you're dabbing to Hashem this this The Sovereign Russia this Idol worshiper this wicked person sees you praying why would he have the audacity to come to you in middle of prayer and disturb you the answer is one purpose in order to confuse you and mess and mess with you what is the advice to this problem the father surely it's not to answer him whether from good to bad but with other words to debate with him don't do that rather says make believe you're deaf and you don't hear him at all well thereby fulfilling the verse do not respond to a fool in his foolishness and Badness and evilness why not because by doing that you might become like him he sucks you in through engaging in a debate gamato also you so so by the word God begins the parable the moral sorry the moral so you too the person who is davening and learning and there enters in your mindful thought don't respond at all don't debate don't try to find any argument any position any response against this firing lustful thought that comes to you at this line the next few words is is great for one who wrangles one who wrestles with a disgusting person or a disgusting thing Miss navil gamkane he himself she herself becomes dirty you understand when you when you engage in debate even if you win the debate you become dirty Moshe do me a favor please mute yourself you understand mute yourself you thank you when when a person when a person engages in the in a debate in a response you say this I say this I'll show you and even if you win you hear this even if you win you end up soiled look at the words I want you to see those words someone who wrangles who wrestles with a disgusting with disgust Middleville is discussed deplorable something someone or something that's deplorable Miss novel gum came becomes himself herself disgusting I can't go into a dirty hole a pit and fight someone there and come out clean you're in a pit you're in Schmutz and when you're in Schmutz you're gonna get what we say we're calling Yiddish schmutzek dirty but I won I overpower it I outsmarted him I showed him that he's really outrageous you're right but some of that some of that ends up on you let's continue what should you do one one second no wait yo anyway please let me press continue please uh please make yourself what should you do pretend hey look at the words make yourself as though you don't know and you didn't hear him those lustful thoughts that entered your mind and avert them from your mind the use of elements because your entire Focus while you're doubting and that will help you so in other words when a thought comes to you don't you know and it's I wouldn't say it's that one slight second or two seconds that's it's either at that time when you say okay what am I I'm gonna outsmart you I'm gonna shove you out of here or you say you don't say anything you just go on you understand that's what he says make make believe as though you never knew but one second the thought came to you don't think about that the thought came to you by thinking about the 4K what do you say hear no evil yeah no but but by giving by by bringing that to your mind you already been caught by the thought we know the thought came to you you're diving she was obtained when all the all the Thrillers and all of a sudden something comes and you're like we know just go on just go on entertaining it for a moment is already you lost you're lost why did you lose because it says aha I can get in and I can get him to say oh I'm not so holy I'm not so good and all that let's continue for a second a few moment lines actually after that was very real yummy and he says what if it's difficult for you to remove these thoughts from your mind if nature tell you the indictment because they really are Troublesome and bothersome because they're really very strong and bothers him now that represents you know what you should do make yourself humble lower your soul in other words make yourself humble Hashem in other words have go into a mode of subservience plead please please Hashem because all your foot Hashem please have mercy on me you have such abundant Mercy just as a father has Mercy over his children which come from his brain as we learned early in chapter two foreign to save me from the evil Waters for God's benefit yes God will do this for you because a part of God is his nation is an actual part of God there's another way of explaining these last words that it's not referring to God it's the first doubt that I've been saying kind of his own his own blessing but regardless what are we learning here at the end a very powerful important thing what we're learning here is at the end that ever understands human psychology understands that there are times and maybe more than more than less that this idea of the initial suggestion don't entertain it and divert your thought it doesn't work it just doesn't work you don't have the kayak to make that happen so drama says it's at that moment of rum that you need to like not like you need to humble yourself and plead he says the word plea to Hashem Hashem please have mercy on my soul I don't want my soul to have this contamination I've had enough of it I've had enough of it and this is something that you we do we should do throughout our lifetime to the last day on Earth no man no woman no person is strong enough to to engage the yatesahara there are people who've tried it and they failed badly not just a a thousand years ago and 500 years ago but a day ago a year ago and and this is humanity the way the human condition is created by Hashem is that there's a war and a challenge happening and the purpose is to overcome so if you have the kayak to overcome it by rejecting it God bless you govaldic so when you're in middle of bargaining and learning and the thought comes to you so you say hey thought buddy this is not the time I'm davening to learning get out of here and then it comes back again it comes back again and you see you can't get rid of it it's like non-stop what am I supposed to do honey humble yourself yeah I'm a I'm Hashem I'm a little person and no one special it's nothing have mercy on me I want a dab and I want to learn and when you're diving and when you when you ask Hashem foreign abundant of Mercy they tell the story of ramnagman of Breslin you know the the bless several times one of the times when he met him he heard that ever interpret a verse into healing Capital coffee of Tess Hashem with your great Mercy do this and that the balatonya interpreted that verse excuse me Hashem upon you God is a big mercy singidish freaked out how can you say that about God you know it's such a pity on you because of what you do to us say that so then said to his and to others if it weren't the balotanya who said that I would excommunicate him but knowing that it was the the balletano said it I know that it came from the right place I don't necessarily I'm paraphrasing now I don't necessarily understand it or maybe even agree with that saying such words again but if he said it it's it's kosher and um if I may say just to to to explain what the Eldorado was saying was along the lines of what he's saying here in Tanya at the end of chapter 28. there there is you know it's like such a rahmanasan you God what you're doing to us wow God man you know like are you out of your mind what are you doing to us that's one attitude that's not what about Tanya meant is that there's a meter of rahamim there's an aspect of Mercy that's so powerful that only God knows how special that Mercy is why hello why because we human beings right someone does something to us and says please forgive us okay I forgive you give you that is the second time says please please please please forgive me a second a third time you say hey fellow you don't mean it come back in a year when when you change when you work on yourself why is that because we are not the abundance of Mercy we don't have an abundance of Mercy we have a limited amount of Mercy okay so that's why David ml says until that the mercy that we're looking for is God's mercy God is infinite Hashem is infinite Hashem doesn't get burnt out from us nudges asking him please forgive us we do truth and have mercy on us and then we do it another 25 times only someone who's Limited in their Mercy feels that way which is The Human Condition that's why we appeal to Hashem you are the you have the abundance of Mercy but Hashem upon you God it's a big rahmanas meaning you have this is my interpretation when I'm talking about my interpretation I'm interpreting without the ever meant based on what says I think this would be a proper interpretation upon you God is is Mercy because you understand Mercy you understand mercy so therefore use your mercy to help us and if you don't where's your mercy you're God you're not a human you're not human you're not conditioned so it's us that we come in with the mercy that's limited so we can't give Limitless Mercy but you can because you're the father you're the father of Mercy you're the creator of Mercy since you're the creator of Mercy bestowed upon us y'all knew you wanted to say something you have your chance now open everybody talks about saying that that you're not supposed to immerse yourself in a sewage pit right so you don't go to like the princess and to press the place you go any in the most precious place like you know India or or Thailand and you have the Shabbat haseena with a huge Chabad up in the middle you have all the getchikists and all the Buddhists and all the perversions mothers like it's a murder it is the storage pit like the ego India all these places all over um okay okay well your opening statement and assumption is incorrect so therefore the question is not a question it's a question based on an error let me tell you what your error is the way I hear it is talking to us in this Panic that when we learn in Daven not going to 47th Street and Broadway and not going to the idolatry the idolatry in in in in the ashrams in in India it's not talking about that he's talking about when I'm learning and when I'm governing and a thought comes to me he's not he's not talking about a self-contained chabadas whether it be in a building or in a storefront or in a hut which becomes the the the mode and I you know the the operation of jewishness and godliness even though everything around there right is is going she's not Jewish she's secular and is idolatry as you say he's not talking about going into those places that you would be right that would be analogous to to engaging and debating with the negativity at the same time there were exceptions that were abundant not just gave certain individuals for the purpose of saving a life to schlep them out there there were but you're right and the average it's not that way for example you know I'm going to study the New Testament to be able to refute the Jews for Josh and things like that that is not these that that is not most people most from Jews because they're not that's but are there individuals that that we we have I forget the the one that you're in there to throw there's someone to be a singer and Matt the late emmanuelski from Detroit to a new they were individuals who their purpose was they were cult Busters and they were saving Jews from these situations but overall no no you're right no one no one should be going there it no you know what I'm saying but we're not talking about that we're talking about making a shul a Chabad house say uh uh an Asia Torah Center whatever it doesn't make a difference the organization within a place where you know there are Jews there are thousands of Jews maybe some of your kids and all your kids or grandkids or future will end up going there for whatever reason and they'll need a pace of say to where they're gonna go they're gonna go to and come and do a thousand people celebrate peso that's very holy we're not talking about that so it's you know you're missing burst election you know a beat some auction over here you gotta separate you know you gotta separate the young them and focus on what the well Tanya's saying here you know I'm saying he's saying here that when I dive and you diving and those thoughts come to me it's not talking about us going you know we shouldn't be going to places we shouldn't have been if we're and if we're in a place don't look what you're not supposed to you know the other day I'm just a shopper so I was walking home in Borough Park and a a boy a young man young adult dressed with a nice suit and a tie and he's looking down down I passed him and I say he looked like I said uh you know I'm saying that it's oh I know you've been Shabbos but simple what do you like and I went on and I moved and he says thank you to Travis you know but but at the same time if he was taught to walk that way into Shore which I'm not gonna go there but if he was taught to walk that way in the street excuse me and he's following the script and he wants to be like that okay this way he doesn't see anything outside but absolutely I agree with you when we are in a situation where you know you have that to the right left so the best thing is not to be there and if you need to be there you know put blindfolders on I will drive and walk I don't know but the the is this is not what we're talking about here in Tanya what time is it clever what time is it what time is it Hey look okay hello yes I just want to say that this chapter in particular I think is um very applicable to these uh struggle with the addictions and compulsions and the well Italian is very reminiscent of the language of the 12-step program at the end we're hand when a person recognizes that that only a power greater than them can help restore them to sanitation you know the first step he's recommending here is like okay these are your co-hosts uh you can push it away when you reach the limits of your co-host then you have to ask for help yes yes absolutely I hear you I hear you I also find hello this chapter this amazing thought I call the spiritual schizophrenia I'm not to play on the on the word you know it's not a psychiatrist I wrote my book called Tanya mental health recently and a psychiatrist who saw the book we spoke he says that's not real schizophrenia I said I know it's not real schizophrenia I'm just using the idea what's the idea the idea is who are you one day I'm in the show with fill in a darling alert and one day and one day I'm full of nourish guide make so I have a split personality it's about an episode here you would be right to feel this way if you had one soul but if you have two Souls it's kind of into places there's yaakov and azes of you have a yakovanism in you and I think that's also um an important thought how that falls into the 12 steps I don't know but but you know as far as Torah is concerned this is a very revolutionary way of thinking it's not it's not a revolutionary way of thinking because therefore I can continue being bad and that's my enough and then I'll be called this Russian you keep for coming in of weeks too and I'll do my children no then you're a fool you're a hypocrite we're talking about the struggles of the good and bad and the addictions and non-dictors and all that it's coming from two places and when you become comfortable understanding that then I it's easier it's not easy but it's easier to divest yourself from these things kevra will continue tomorrow have a great day shalom