Reb Yoel's Shloshim - Elul ober Lub vider Lub - What did he say to Mendel Bartfield on 3 Tammuz 2010

i am to my beloved my beloved is to me or as the famous hostage i'd like to share another thought based on a story that i experienced with him and this was about 10 15 years ago i don't recall exactly the year and i went to the empire steeple an empire boulevard off the corner of brooklyn avenue in crown heights where rabjoyl was asked to come to fabric and there was a nice crowd of people the president of the school at the time was a yid by the name of rabbi mendel bartfield bartfield mental bartfield remendel and i found out later that mendel was a good friend of rabbi oils from the early days in yeshiva in 1953 54 those years in fact some told me that they were roommates at one point anyway remember was the president of empire steeple of the of the shul at that time and mendel was a very uh interesting person he married one of makerevich's daughters granddaughter and a mentor himself was full of grace you know not everyone is not not everyone merits to have grace grace means people enjoy talking with you people enjoy being around you you're fun you're you're you're nice you know people are comfortable in your environment it's a special bracha we ask for it may hashem give us grace that we find grace in people's eyes mendel was such a jew anyway and that made him very bright for his position as president of the show on one hand you have to deal with you know finances and structure and discipline to keep pushu moving and going at the same time you need to be liked by by the people and he fit that that bill exactly par excellence anyway i was there before brengan three three thirty in the afternoon was still fabregan shabbos of gimel thomas and rabiot turns to mendel and he says mendel he doesn't call him red mendel he says mendel me can i see her language site we know each other a long time he says let us make a a a shear let's learn together let's take some time and you and i will have a harusa a study partnership where we'll learn together and i looked at a mendel and he was like all smiles and he didn't say he didn't respond he didn't respond because this was the middle of habringen that who was his friend but yet the royal khan was the rebels crazer the genius and he didn't want to say a vert he didn't want to speak he knew that when abiol speaks the middle of her habling and you just listen and habil said again to mendel mendel um let's learn together and of course wanted a mendel to learn more siddhis i don't know what happened i don't know if they made a they didn't make us hear but i want to tell you the feelings that i had during those few moments of hearing two friends from the 1950s talk about it and to me it brought to life what labavich is what khabad is lou babbage the city of love what i felt is here's a mendel barthil the businessman and here's abyou khan who's totally and everything and totally not involved in business he doesn't know what business is it's not his world and rabbi yo with a with a uh [Music] a a smile in his eye and a and a wink to the mendel he says let's go back to the way we were in 1953 54. we were yeshiva bakrim and we had no worries whatsoever and all we had to do was learn and fabring and be with the rapper and be with siddha and he says to him let us focus on this and the way to do it there's no way better to do it than having a shirt see this and remember looks back at him startled for a moment perplexed unprepared and he takes it in he takes it in because those moments were moments of genuinity moments of sincerity moments of truth those those were moments where we were they weren't married yet they didn't have that responsibility they didn't have the responsibility of money they only had one responsibility to be in 770 and to learn and to daven and the fabring and to keep its and to joke that was their that's what i felt so you know going through life and marrying and having children and grandchildren having family and friends responsibilities and work whether you're on whether you're in business makes no difference it's all responsibilities you know they would say about certain sydney that even after they married they retained the sincerity and honesty of the way they were before they married while they were still in taiwan rabiot definitely was that way i mean a question about it and i believe that he was sharing with mendel listen if we make a share together there'll be a little time in your life where you'll have more of that and you'll reflect more on that because that is a place that's comfortable you know uh doctor avrom torskil shalom this year once told me that he did with people hypnosis with many cancer patients and he told me that he he recall he he would see that when they were in a hypnotic state he was able to bring her back to their childhood and to remember the way they grew up and the green fields and the nice mountains and the waters and it brought them during that time at least healing from the pain of the mahler of the illness by the way the rabbit wasn't for doing hypnosis but that's another conversation not for now and to go back to our youth to go back when we were students to go back to taiwan la babbage that's is a place of youthfulness it's a place that's i don't like the word fun but we'll use the word fun meaning keep it sing enjoying experiencing laughing crying saying this coming week was such a heat he was a yidd that retained his youthfulness to the last day of his life you could keep it's with him you could be serious with him you could laugh with him and you could cry with him believe me plenty of times he was emotional when he spoke about the even before gimel thomas his castros and there were plenty times that he would just sit and chat with you about whatever it was that he felt was important to you so bischusa in his hosts as we come to the shelter of such a yid who was the kaiser of the rebel and the mashpir rashi of 770 literally i've said this over and over and i can't say it enough really there was no there was no one i believe in the entire world who strengthened more than munna by any and ever any kind of yid that hurt his tape his cd his dvd hishi or him his lectures his vibraniums he was about title because the rabbit was about to [Applause] [Music] that's all he had rebj his life was the rebel and the rabbi is traitor a walking and living tighter the bureau wasn't walking the living tiger he had no gosh mirrors he didn't need kashmir she didn't know from gosh because he didn't want gosh from his physical material matter it was already relevant to him if it's important to the rapper it becomes important to him and this will in upcoming videos hashem will explain more of different issues that rose throughout his life which by the way i've documented and the book is out it's called rebjo the rebels heiser it's not expensive and i really urge all of my listeners and viewers to buy the book you go to my website www.rabbitdolphindalfin.com you scroll over there you'll see the book rabbi yo i have a special price on it now through the week for his slation so i encourage you to buy the book and we'll send it out to shem end of next week beginning the week after you'll have it before the yemen tavern it's a 300 page book with 320 footnotes 50 pictures and documents some are new and um it's worth the money trust me it's forty dollars in total right now as a sale price for the week so order your copy because they're going very fast they're able to help of the bureau that's a new one alber labavich you can't get away from the babbage there's something to think they can get away from the barbecue you cannot you can go one way or another where you will come back to lobavich because that's your blood and essence the abrasion health and it should be because with kindness and mercy and we shouldn't have to go through pain and agony till we return to the baby because lubavitch is a place of beauty a place of wholesomeness a place of growth a place of love and abuse will help that all of this will prepare us for the yamuna that everyone be written and inscribed in the book of life the ultimate sadiq and we'll also have a success that ever wishes everyone is a good and sweet year not only a good year but a sweet year because of mamas through having good health pandas good livelihood in a broad way with lots of expansiveness we'll have shidduchim taving for those video