Reb Yoel & R Malinowitz of Artscroll - Chabad Lite vedio story - Litvaks & Chabad - R C Dalfin

so Alper is an old we met about 10 years ago so I don't remember more yeah about right I don't remember all the details but how did we meet he sent me an email I think abouta THS right am I am I right watched a short clip of a parion of yours on YouTube yeah and I spoke about laich light correct right right and it caught his uh fancy as we say go ahead yeah but I was in paic and I was getting into kabad and I thought I'm going to be kabad light the exact thing that Rabbi do was railing against in the video that we have M and uh people don't NE pick and choose we follow our M and uh I said I don't even have two basic things every kabad has I don't have Ru to fill in and I don't have a kabad tals I just bought a very nice non-slip uh standard Talis and uh so literally days a few days after that watching that far bringing I uh was Mo I was on mot shabus I happen to go on to Craigslist uh one of my hobbies is tropical fish and I'd recently gotten some very fancy discus fish for free from Craigslist so it's late at night in the middle of the summer and about 12 midnight and uh I go on to craigus and this time I I picked not just Northern New Jersey so I'm from pic or Manhattan because I work in Manhattan I picked the entire New York City area you know the whole area including Connecticut uh Staten Island and at the very top of the list items being given away weread Talis and toil and I said this can't be who gives this stuff away on Craigslist and it was on the Brooklyn Craigslist which I would never normally go to but because I selected everything for some unknown reason I found it so I quickly wrote to this individual who's ready he said tell me your story why she gave them to you so I wrote I was actually an opponent of kabad and I I I when I started my own law office um a couple of buam would come by every ER shabis and uh they won me over over time they worked on me and I really had to work hard uh because I you know I was I was in a goodest um so I said this is my story The the kabad won me over and these items I really appreciate them he wrote back immediately give me your address so I what I did was I initially I I highlighted the entire ad right clicked on it to copy it and I emailed it to myself which was a good thing because right after he said he' send them to me and when I was gave him my address he deleted the ad like it never existed uh in fact I offered to go out to meet him in Brooklyn because he was put on Brooklyn's Craigslist it turned out he was from Massachusetts he was not from Brooklyn that's where he posted it and uh so sure enough on following middle of the following week I got these two items and I I took the villain to a kabad soer who checked them out and said they're actually really good quality and the first time I wor kabad towels to my shoe on chabas I got an Aaliyah with for the assera sbras which would normally go to the rug I don't know what happened but and as I'm walking back to my chair a friend of mine goes you you know why you got that you know right so I had a whole bunch of incidents actually more things that happened even with Rabbi Rabbi dolphin when a few months later I remembered Robie dolphin from the video and I I found his website where he was selling his his books and he wrote a book to be a barage great everyone should buy that book by the way uh so I I I bought the book and to my surprise Rabbi dolphin responded he said thank you for buying my book but tell me how did you discover me and I told him this story that I was uh I watched his video on kabad light I got a little despondent I'm going to just be kabad light and he goes you're not going to believe this you're buying the book on the anniversary of that very same far bringing I wouldn't have known because there was no description of what F bring in it came from I know I just seemingly very coincidental and he goes you and I should learn kasas together and that started a few weeks we I went instead of going to my office Monday morning I went to Rabbi dolphin's house in burough Park and we started learning little cids together that that really started me off so you never know what can happen yeah at the same time I don't want anyone to get the impression that you have to become a laaber you want to become a the doors are open no but I'm serious I'm Ser we're all together with friends this this thinking today it's not it's in every every Community it's like like I have to be this you have to be this you have to be this no you don't have to you have to learn and Dav and connect to the ab if BB talks to you go with it if if Wu talks to you go with that if you know CU today just for another minute on this issue the whole idea of a re you know one of the probably you could say the basic issue that the the former what we called mnm then turned l l LX L was the whole concept of the Reb I want you next time when you open up an art school gamar I want you to take a look who is listed as the general editor so it's a no Sherman lot who's listed as the um T that view the sh see his name huh no talking about the art scroll gor the answer is rabim MTZ I knew from too and this was not just this was a going in sh in I found out later Ellie that all the all the I don't want to use the word nasty about and with their kids and divorces and then he handled all of those things quietly you know something that you would have bushes you know what I'm saying and he clandes quietly dealt with it he was a off in a cup a great genius anyway so this RAB MZ when I was when we opened our so I invited him the first I invited a speaker like every Thursday for a while and he was my first speaking happen to time and he came and I saidit you're not a that you're coming to speak on he says I'm not a but is a special day this Liv a special day for not just forn you know and when it came to the Reb Y and gim that same year and they had an early minion a late minion so I said to may may say a few words about giml Tas of shabas he says sure so I said so which means should I come to the first of the second he said both I said L I have to light candles at home you know I would my wonderful wife gave permission to to to to travel two three weeks at a time to set up this K and and um so you have to light the candles no if the go over and he can't take a taxi he issues to me I'll work out issu you're coming to both to speak about the reab and his yard side and his yard side that's what type of this Jew was you know no one people don't it was my so I asked him where did you where did you get this feeling to to mean you know you're you're you're a strong you learned learned and the special he got I mean I'll tell you I had three rebers he said three teachers in in in gar it was rabab bman from the Mir shankai shankai and then America in and as KH I almost dropped that I said what is my rebi my teacher by I said what do you have to do with he says we were a so we asked R was teaching a t here at 8:00 at's house over there for people can we go him and a group of K and they all topnotch mines Baba said you can't go at 8:00 it's the middle of the Seder but at 9:30 when we finish you can go at AB State especially till 10:00 and he started a with RAB MTZ and a few of the from 10: to 12 at night and he says I learned T four years and he's my four years and he's my re and I was waiting he said this what he told me I was waiting to the day when Alaba will come and ask me to speak in my sh especially it's I'm going to roll out the red carpet and say here you have the whole sh to speak to so I remember I came to M and over there the M I don't know how they go home for sh you don't have it in sh so everyone after is ready to exit he gives a bang on theing he says stop everyone stand in your place they had such he said stop they froze I'm I'm tell you I saw it the Rob said stop they stopped then heot that you you forsake temporary life for Everlasting Eternal Light eternal life in other words eternal life is what ta eating sleeping is is a temporary life and he quoted the gamor I would never do this you know I'm we we don't quote such goras it's too strong we liches you know we we we we we we have to we keep certain goras just for you know the inner crowd but RAB malinowitz is a litvak as they stating the gar you know what the gar says there heavy stuff basically if you do that you won't see your year basically finish he quoted them to them he says you all stay here and he told him the story what I told you that he he learned by and he was waiting for the day for laaba to come and when laaba come here's the red carpet and they all stayed and I spoke for 10 15 minutes what's the what am I what am I telling you my stories my my you know the the of of what a person adapts in their life whether he wants to be a or he wants to be a he wants to be it's a thing it's a soul thing the same RAB MTZ I asked him did you have any particular conversations correspondence with because I wrote about everyone knows maybe you don't know but I wrote three books about a and it was very important for me me my research to hear from other people not leiters Lait you hear what about some other so this was a m was a a great uh source for this great who had a relationship with to tell me something so he says to me I once asked him I once asked him what's the source the torous source for having a re so you know you ask your average C you go into bar park or Williamsburg or wherever May they'll tell you the source is immedate MZ knew that too he wants to know is there any you know what told me this is what he told me that told him he said there's only one source it's Tanya chapter 2 the balat is the source chapter 2 the talks about the r the souls the leaders the the rashim who are give nourishment to the everyone else and he brings the mush over there pic Bays of the child coming from the the parents and with the the process the fetus and and and the nails of the child receives K from the from the brain of the father Etc told him that is the mocker for having a re now can someone come along a good a a good litu and say ah come on I want a source in I want a source in in in yeah you could do that but if you have a and we do you see that the way to derive H is based on so many what we call clim right like you have the 13 principles right you could you could argue and unfortunately the conservative for movement years ago argued that that's all made up by rabbis smart rabbis made up I don't want to say the name but I once was listening to a program about patrilineal dissent the reform movement passed a bill that if your father is Jewish you can still be Jewish everyone knows that that's so they asked this intelligent former Yeshiva boy everyone will know his name if I said his name I don't want to say his name and they asked him and he right away brought the gamorra what I think and arguing guess what his son married a non-jew so he had to justify why patrinia scent is an acceptable form of being Jewish but in by from Jews by by Orthodox Jews what they called Orthodox observant Jews but right we know that the cland buim are part of so the brings the that you should attach yourself to right just as you are merciful so too brings that as a source for the concept of a who's bous with God who's is is in a in a a relationship with the a with God that is beyond per Beyond separation there's a line like this listen to this line is that's English a rebba is not someone who becomes a rebba he's born a Reb this might this might give more clarification to what some say hey well B never passed away in gim thas 197 1994 pick yourself a rabber what's the big deal but if you understand this concept that means that he's he what yeah yeah yeah okay so you understand from this idea that you can't go into Sears or Macy's or whatever you and pick someone out and give him a broom I knew someone in Los Angeles also remember a Big B Du in a barrel wise find you Hungarian drew a Survivor he told me himself told me this jph listen to this he says I came from a city called Ken somewhere in Hungary and I wanted there should be in America CER rebi fact the point that the C was Des was killed right you know what I did I said to this young guy in borrow Park I'm paying for I'm paying for a new house you're getting a house I'm going to give you tapes of your grandfather how to sink how to cetch how to do this I'm going to buy you a silver stick cane put on a this and a strial go that's the way works by them I don't I know I know it sounded belittling and I and I want to take that back I mean to say that's their system in laage that doesn't work why do you think talking about RAB Sal why do you think the brisker r Sal and and that mind and that approach gravitated to the balat andad even though like RAB Sal said I'm a a mnet from brisk and at the same time this mnet from brisk has Affinity with the AL learning his knowing on teaching his as I document in my in my book rebi Ren Reb at length right why you know why because the cup because is it's using the brain Rabbi normanan told me once when I interviewed him he said to me we and kabad are the closest thing which is true on one hand he meant you know outre and different things on the other hand there is a I don't want to go into it now it's a not a she but you know there are philosophical major differences but but as far as the Reb idea it's a g so how can someone tell you who your soul gravitates towards no one can tell you that yes they can tell tell you that but it's meaningless the whole idea of finding a Reb a re is not just a Riva that's great Russ a reab is not even a great R and a great Rabbi many all great uh Reb is a different quality you know what a Reb is Young these young these young boys a soul geologist you know what a geologist is ysph geologist not yet very good excellent study someone who studies rocks in those gems and can decipher and discern between a good Gem and and autz a Reba is a sociologist when you come to a rebba I'm talking about a true rebba not not a madeup rebba not a play rebba a real rebba right he doesn't see your your white shirt and your arms and your eye he sees your n he sees your soul oh boy he sees my soul you know we them he used to have an expression sure remembers the expression hide your piggish face before the rebi the Reba's looking right at you and look at this face what you saw today what you ate what you thought about you're like a pig excuse me hide it hide it now someone doesn't want to hide it don't hide it this isn't you have to do things it's not about you have to do it it's about Soul connection and that's why I heard Weinberg is in town right why is a person likea Weinberger who was a a Wu Prodigy a student you know keep us ruga and everything else and he becomes a stal wearing re whatever they call him today whatever he is right his soul spoke to him and said to him this is what I want this is what I need and I have a friend who I learned with Tanya in Manhattan 10 years took me an hour to go from burrow Park to Midtown Manhattan an hour back and we studied for an hour once a week he belonged to a reformed Temple learning we're learning Tanya slow methodical questions dialogue just an hour he's not putting on T he's not wearing he's not he wore a yamaka for the for the class but he belongs to a reformed Temple now you know when you invest in a person what's the a r person say come on what is it an exercise in just learning and studying and intellect make some kind of movement aill Aza you know get involved and my patience was running out five six years into the learning every week R was that shabas in B park for shabas with us and he shared a story of one of his teachers in Ramadan G 19 late 30s 40s who was learning with a famous poet writer named am I think I forget his name now yeah D am or something he also didn't budge and he was a Russian Jew who knew better but he dropped it all right so this Rabbi binski was his name mayor blazinski he wanted to let him have it in in other words I'm not asking for money I I just want you to to to to to do a Mitzvah and he wrote to the rebba you hear this he wrote to the rebba I feel this way and I want to do this I want to criticize him so that he moves a little bit you know the rebba said don't say a word and he didn't he had the submission we spoke about before and he listened and he didn't say a word and he became ultimately about I heard that story on shopis and I said to myself H am doin you want to criticize this fellow you're learning with Tanya Midtown Manhattan shut your mouth Z still and I kept my mouth shut my wife remembers it was very hard it was very hard a week later he says to me Rabbi my friends are asking me at the reformed Temple why are you learning with aik Torah are you out of your mind he wants you to put he wants you to cash your house he wants you to put on a muza he wants you to be a FR Jew and you're not and you're not interested and he says so I told them he's never said a word to me and he said to them as soon as he sets puts pressure on me I'm out the door the shear stops no more learning together so Hashem had mercy and I heard the story from that chabas and the next Tuesday or Wednesday when I went to see him I kept quiet today has a beer till here dobins for hours learns emis but emis a real real a who right so it's a whole different system it's not a system that you know of course you can dance and jump and sing and and it's great but if you really want to feel and that's what fa is about the experience you need to think about these things and talk about them with people and faing about them and always look higher don't look lower oh he's doing this and she's doing this and how could this be done you're not going to get anywhere I told Y and I we had many discussions about this and I told him my rule that I use and I shared it with him I Shar it with you there's The Good The Bad and The Ugly if you can't accept the ugly you can't accept the good if you want to accept the good you got to accept the ugly that's life that's it we Are Not Angels we're not malim we're regular little people but The Good the Bad and the Ugly and we that makes CLA your thr because the truth is no one is ugly everyone is galed what schma carach I wrote a book about SCH the real scha schma the carach alla's famous you know when I was a b Yesa ysf your age and a little older was a parah I don't know if you know the word means a pariah he was a disgust he was off the charts in a negative way not off the charts in a good way why I don't want to go into it now it's mixed company we're not going to talk about it but I studied him I studied him from inside out I spoke to 50 people I interviewed people and there's a lot to say it's another bring it maybe fall her belly will invite me back sometime but what I could tell you is that I came out liking him and respecting him more than before I didn't become a carb fan you know but I understand his plight I understand the difficulties and since I'm talking about it I I want to share a rule that I learned from him and another colleague of his that Ellie knows about which he might not be so happy that I wrote about him Z which refer probably you remember from your days in Montreal right he had a shom bear I know be and remember who sh Bear yeah sh bear so I just wrote about zman the real zman I wrote The Real Slim the real Z fascinating Minds Fascinating People in their own way but whatever you know the the the many people have ESS have complaints you need to have two things this this is my message not to the married people here most of you married then you got to have parosa and you got to have a family when there's a breakdown in paros in a livelihood and in marriage and family things go things go out of control depression anger and all kinds of things those are two requisites to A Healthy Living is marriage family shom and Panos and and and when those things you could be the genius of the genius and and all that but when those things are in their place it causes problems anyway we'll go on to the next topic we'll say help that we should all have and we will have a and is coming we're going to talk a little bit soon about because that's on the agenda right it's coming up and I have a secret for you from the rashab that you'll want to hear about Sim T so don't leave before you hear the secret let's sing a n a slower nigan for the rash you want to sing it or the M people know the M you know the Mim [Music] [Laughter] [Music] [Laughter] last [Music] [Laughter] a [Music] [Applause] I [Applause] [Laughter] [Music] yeah