Ramadan: Jewish Response is having a boy & girl, completing Name of G-d - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

we're learning T the last chapter of we're on page 148 towards the bottom we are um I we're I'll tell you where we are soon let me just give you a recap because some of you weren't here yesterday but in this P the AL explains in continuation of his explanations in chapters 51 and 52 in 53 talks about again we learned earlier that when the Torah says and I will rest amongst them is a a particular level of God expression of God it's not just Hashem other otherwise it would say it says so explains is the level of malus in the spos in the in the order of the spos the 10 malus is the concept of indwelling resting indwelling and the what does that mean in in simple English the transition between the higher and energies of God which are aloof more removed from our reality transitioning that to reality right and and and by the way you have this and you need this in every aspect of communication and I want you to hear this because this is one of the early ideas that I heard when I began learning seriously and it left a an important uh impact on me in and understanding more there is the way a person is to themselves that's the first then there is the way a person is completely to others that's the third stage and then there's the way the person is in between what does it mean the way a person's in between in order to to to move from being within yourself to being completely for the other on the outside you need a transitional stage you can't go from being within yourself only to being o only to the other and on the outside because if you do that you try doing that you get a mess the transitional stage is where you're able to properly bring yourself in a measured way in a suitable way to the other to the other person to the other situation and speaks about this concept in various ways and I see it over here as well with we have AEM as AEM is preum right or self the Infinity of God no limitations only energy only godliness that world is is a great world but from that world you can't create a physical table chairs relationships it just don't that world is infinite it's intense then we have the third stage which is there's a chair and there's a table and this relation there's gossip and there arguments it's all about the situation on the ground right in that in that Arena on its own without any sense of spiritual ity and godliness and R is it's a big mess and we all know the mess CU we live it every day so how do you bridge the two how do you connect the two the answer is through the stage in the middle the intermediat stage where there is kind of a a contraction on God's infinity and at the same time it takes into consideration the other the outside I.E the creation of the world what is we're we're in God we're in hasem does this concept exist it's called malus malus is the 10th of the 10 spheros 10 animating forces that brings what's higher to what's lower and malus is able to do that why why it's able to do that that's another disc discussion but basically because it's its source is Essence so it's higher than than both both number one and number three but I don't want to discuss that now that's for another another time so being that malus is this is the place which Bridges the two together we call malus where was the in the in the in the holy of holies so the Al has elaborate discussion about this concept and there he says there is the the way it's in Bri and the the way in and chapter 5 53 he says but it all pales in comparison to the way the is in in the physical world we're in in the where in the within what within the so this begs interpretation telling me is able to link the higher to the lower level one to level three how is that possible if the gmas if the physical world is limited restricting concealing challenging how can we say that somehow it has the the real says this chapter that's because it rested where was the the of the physical world Ramadan started that's what we're talking about the the the the exact opposite of the clipp of Ramadan and it's in this place the holy of holies that we were not allowed to go into only the ker and what did he come in contact with with an urin with an ark and within the ark the and that's what the is by the way when we talk on Kipper about the a of umus the incense right and we say that from the incense it made the smoke and the smoke became the clouds for the Suk and all that that's not it's another concept is in in the in the says the Al and and and and therefore it's it's not that now listen to this the question was how can the gmas of the physical world how can it be the the receptacle for God when it's limited limited and the answer is we're talking about this the being in the in the L in the in the in the in the AR in the the Tyra the Tyra so it's Ty it's it's it's a physical but those are so in other words what we understand is that the reason why the in the is where it's at greater than all the other previous Revelations is because of TOA to call so this is a very interesting scenario we're talking about Mal which isina right it dwells it animates but where does it get its energy from Torah from from the says the yesterday year we learned that's a very nice idea but what about the second bik which was missing five items including the including the so seemingly asks a rhetorical question on himself my entire argument doesn't apply in the second B mikdash and to this the Al said no it does why because although physical luas were missing from the the physical what we have is we have we still we still have a remnant of the L energy in the Bas of mikdash even the second Bas of mikdash and then he went on to say once the temple the the was destroyed because the temple the destroyed all that hem has in the world are the four Cupids of Al so what do we understand from this is the embodiment of the and of and for that you don't need a b mikd at least till mhia comes when we'll have a b mikd so for that one one cannot argue wait a minute I have no relationship with the today because I have no B MDES so kazal say sorry chap yes you do why why do you do because H exists today as it as it existed even at the time when the Bas of MDES was present so this is part of what we discussed yesterday then the AL added one more point and Al said that we see that the as it expressed itself through encapsulates thought speech and action not only action of sitting and learning and but also your speech is considered action because the gar says the movement of the lips Hab is considered action and the g also speaks about the thought when one uses thought it's also associated with action but as we learned in the past that's not a substitute for actually articulating with your mouth be it in Hebrew English French Spanish the actual words of the T because that's where the mitvah of T studying T is actualized when you actually say it say the words out with your mouth and that's considered a m action and the AL says this is is why no together with the 6113 mitv the biblical obligations the 613 plus the seven Rabin equals kesser the crown tough equals 620 613 to 7 is 620 what is the what's the idea the idea is that the 63 Mitzvah together with these seven mitzvas that form the crown what's the crown R the will higher than CU is already it's a B is in the mind is already limited to knowledge will just as this will and this pleasure those powers and faculties of the Soul are are equal throughout the body my hand wants my feet wants my head wants my elbows want my nose wants so want R is equal so what's the point the point is that which we call in which you say every Friday before shabas Mal right Mal t oral Torah says what does it say that's associated with that's what we learned yesterday now please open to 148 and we are um we are four lines from the bottom the last word on the line hash there's a verse that says and God with wisdom F found find founded establishes the Earth what's the connection between this is an answer to the question right what's the connection between which is to what's the connection so first he says there's a verse god with wisdom he founded Earth okay you know that the power of vegetation of growth is in the orits not in here right so erit represents growth growth means and and and what's the process of growth the current and the seed must rot must disintegrate and once it's dis it disintegrates into the Earth what we call the the power of vegetation that God created and creates when he created the world in every moment of creation connects to the disintegrated kernel and makes it grow that's what happens in the fields of California and in the fields of veres The Growers the farmers are in touch with daily and it's miraculous but it first takes the disintegration of the kernel and the seed in order for the faculty of of of God's faculty to identify it to connect with it and make it grow so too is malus malus is also about growth growth for the Next Generation growth for the next situation so Mal ofus makes it possible for of Bri to come about or more simple words words for there to be yes for the there to be the the EXO process which means the beginning of creation right it requires first Mal like I've been telling you in all along what is the idea that only through humility and subservience can there be growth and if we had to take away something from this year in addition to everything else B this could be one of the lessons you want to grow and we want to grow if we don't want to grow then you know we're in trouble but a rational normal person wants to grow I don't care how old you are every person as long as they're alive on Earth should want to grow so you know I I asked someone I I was speaking I told you at the shop atone this weekend for the teachers of the Yesa and um they want to know the history Yesa so I shared with them the history and realized that the Reb's brother the rash in 1982 he suffered I believe a stroke 81 or 82 a debilitating stroke although he's he walked around but his speech was slurred I remember sitting next to him shabas morning atus and I would hear him learnis and he would listen and when he spoke you could barely understand him so nevertheless he was born in 19 1898 so in uh 1982 he was 84 years old or so an 84 year old man decides he's going to build a new building for laab Yeshiva in Crown in Crown Heights on Crown Street that's not the Yeshiva that I learned in I learned an Ocean Park in flat Bush that was the Yeshiva that was opened in 1969 but for whatever reason he decid so I asked he decides to to to go ahead with this project so I asked bam milski who was his right-hand man on these things like why did he do that he says he was a very ambitious person the stroke didn't stop him his age didn't stop him on and on so when you talk about growth it it's based on a humility a humility of subservience to to to hasem right so says the same thing here with he founded the Earth literally people learn this PK and they say you know God was very clever to make an Earth how Hashem made the Earth and everything on the earth boy he must be a real smart God cuz I couldn't do it Bingo right that's not the shot here that's a nice uh aism to use that if I bring him with a few cups of or wine and you can for braing about that because there's a lot to talk about but the here is Hashem the infinite God used used the element the the mode of wisdom to create Earths and here's the question how Earth is wisdom right seemingly you wisdom and intelligence contradicts subservient says if you have the true subservience then your is a genuine I've told you over and over stay away from anyone that might be very smart and a genius and all of that but they're full of themselves go the other way run a mile away but they're so smart they're so articulate on and on yeah right and then we find out that they are also messed up as you guys had that experience a year or so ago with the book writer and all of that just as one example smarts is nothing Gish as we say in yish G FS but when smarts when is isad is founded on malus on subservience on humility it's everything you understand and that's what kabad is by the way you know the famous joke the breast liver speak about Sim and they're the most oppressed the Garis speak about EMS and the biggest liars and speaks about B and the biggest Bal right it's a famous ver and there's some truth to it the but but the truth is putting that aside putting that aside that real real wisdom is humility and you look at the re and and and you have a paradigm of such individual In Our Lifetime who live that way was a a go a genius in and and in knowledge and the sciences and and and in in literature look at all the videos the people from all over scientists doctors rabbis common folk anyone everyone Jews non-jews they communicate with him in writing or in person and he's able to dialogue and talk to them and and there were people who said that they were and the didn't know a certain field he would he would like nud them to tell him he wanted to learn and be educated I don't know this field and I want to know about it right that's subservient that's B so then the becomes a genuine the is not an arrogant of a pomp oh I know so much and you're going to tell me and you know did you go to Harvard and Colombia and pavich and Lakewood come on who are you to even tell me you know that attitude that's not B that's GAA so let's continue now says this concept is the oral that comes from Super wisdom father is the foundation of his daughter very interesting piece of Z arer we welcome you and um we explain ABA the father Yad founds creates brata the daughter why not Ben so it's explained in that the Bas is the element ofel to receive the receiver ABA goes on needs a daughter and I heard from a beautiful thing in the name I think of the Reb's father and that is why the Mitzvah of according to one opinion and the accepted opinion is to have one son and one daughter at least what's the explanation you have the UT every one of us creates should be creating the K the ud is the first K is Bina the V are the six mid the Shish mid V of six and the last he is malusa and IMA are only the first two letters it's not adequate so then you make you create a v the six mid and says that's the Ben the sun that's also not adequate you must have the last hey the BR the daughter and when you have that then you have the full Y and that's why you have to have a boy and a girl how do you like that right in other words we want to create the image of God the in ourselves I.E father and mother to create it you need to make a boy and a girl at least one boy and one girl now understandably everyone you know if if one has only boys or only girls you know from God that you know send an email to God you know what I'm saying but and if God forbid someone doesn't have children you know that's the way it is that's the way it is they it's not a a it's not a negativity and deficiency in in them but this concept concept of having a boy and a girl at least to fulfill the m Vu of multiplying why because without the boy and the girl you only have the you missing the I just heard I love the explanation anyway going back to the text here says meaning to say which is creates and founds BR the daughter which is B the animation of Mal is through and so that's why we say right going back to we say Friday night the oral Torah I want you to pay attention this coming Friday night when you say you'll see is that's exactly what Al says here tomorrow we will continue cu the now finished kind of chapter 53 and from here from the last line in 53 he goes back to chapter 35 and and then he will end the whole Tanya with a certain concept the two here and we'll talk about item and the next two tell everyone to try to come Thursday we're going to make a on together right what do you mean Thursday tomorrow's Wednesday I know I know tomorrow we're learning here and between tomorrow and Thursday we'll finish Masha please mute yourself what else did someone want to say I wanted can I share this experience I had I met uh please I I met um uh somebody who was going through a challenging time in life who who uh was was from at one time was observant at one time and he went through Yesa system I learned in brisk learned in Lakewood and he was so turned off by the competition of who was smarter and who could slug up the next person that he said that the talim were even they were like locking they were knocking like raron Cutler in L like he couldn't he couldn't come up with this and and he said it was such a turnoff that he left it all and I was shooing with him at aabad uh on a Friday night in Providence Rhode Island and and it was you know it was very sad that he he he was exposed to that kind of without humility right right but I I I do want to say for the for the defense of the lisher world and that behavior it comes out is you need to know it comes out of Europe me and other pich where they had a a belief and you could see it online there's a great clip of the mirash BAM here in Brooklyn he's already passed on with another rashash Shiva they're they come to a wedding they sit down at at a table and they start discussing pmut and they Mish are like cursing each other out you know I F I I felt like I'm waiting for the guy to slug him and and they love each other but they had and I I asked some mirim from the past you know what is it and he said that was the style the style was to destroy each other in learning in public including humiliation now this is not augg up slugging yeah this is not aish Approach at all but this was in certain L an approach this student obviously um did not relate to it well and it left a very bad taste but you know for all in all fair in all fairness there are plenty of students which have gone through that system and uh um they don't take it in that negative way but it definitely feels and when you hear it and you should hear it so you just don't listen to me you hear yourself from these two rabbis like you know you would never think they're looking to demolish each other and and and humiliate each other you know like saying oh your your your your s your argument is stupid what kind of person are you to be able to say that where are your brains that type of you know but listen it's definitely not the Western Way of teaching it's not the way of teaching Etc and I want to say one other thing not all and were that way I'll give you an example and his ilk of people they were so refined they would never speak this way so it's it's it's a certain culture within the Lish world as well and what I'm saying to you is that they they had a she that was a sheet of them that you'll come out a stronger person not only more knowledgeable and more respectful of T if you knock yourself out and you knock each other out stop just I but but but but I I I I hear I hear the pain of from that person and um that's why people should learn that that you know there's a famous story would always tell over he told over to me many times but briefly in the 60s he went to give a Shear in Lakewood and there was a student there who was like the best student there and rabo befriended him he befriended because they had such deep you know great heads and they were able to talk about certain things you know understand each other so you know but he never came to the shear he never came to Rab's t one day he says he wants to have Aus with the Reb r was shocked this is the litak of the litx of Lakewood anyway he didn't tell him why but RAB arranged for him to have Yas and he was in Yas for a very long time a very long time and when he walked out wanted to you know ask he asked him so what did the say you know you share something he didn't say anything he just slammed he went out 770 that big door that Ari just came back from and he slammed it and you you didn't see him for 10 years 10 years later he was walking at Kingston Avenue and he saw RAB and he says RAB R and he looks he doesn't he realizes this the guy that was in Lakewood 10 years ago and he tells him there's a lot of details I'm just making it quick he said basically that he went into the Reba and he presented a spiritual problem that he had in his life he didn't say what it was and the Reb explained to him um that the only way this problem will go away is if he learn cu makes a person humble and he's learning and learning a lot with a lot of ego and GAA and the rebba um proved the point and pinned him against the corner you know in in in argument and he couldn't he couldn't get out of it but yet he didn't want to learn kidus so he was so upset and then the rebit told him what's going to happen to him if he doesn't learn startus now after hearing from him his dilemma the Reb said you're going to go to these and these places and meet these and these people and your yamaka is going to come off your is on and on and he says everything the rebba said happened everything to the detail so after 10 years of struggling and and and and and you know realizing first you know with anger slamming the door of 770 I don't want to have anything to do with you guys he came back and he said I'm now ready to to start learning told him to go to the Reb gave out wine after Y and if the re stops and says shom so and so yank he should stop and talk to the rebba he went by and the rebba remembered him 10 years later and he said but he was so flabbergasted that he he couldn't and he just went further and then and then he came to another faan and has purm actually I think 1975 or so he came in and when they came into 770 he he heard on the loudspeaker the Reb saying the Torah you once learned the illuminary will bring you back to do chuva which means everything you learned in Lakewood and all the toyra it'll bring you back and he flipped out it's like the Reb's talking right to him cuz he left and he became abouta and he uh I think I know who it is and he has grandchildren he comes from a prominent family you know but what was the N there answer to support your your story the same nuda learning to without humility with bit you know with G that's it we'll see everyone tomorrow have a great day Shalom bye take care thank you you're welcome