Rabbi Marlow 20th Yahrtzeit Reflections

a date everyone this week in Bethlehem on Friday Huff's even is the yurt site the 20th yard site or allegory Navajo said the cowman Margalo as we call them in yeshiva or in the community of Rabbi Margo all of a sudden Huff's even traditionally is known as a sad day and the Jewish calendar pogroms helman its key programs and the present of tests taught and it's a sad day for the Jewish people and on that very day this great person is the Samba return to our shell and I'd like to share with you but covered in honor of this model and this your sight my recollections of when I was in his class both in the Hebrew studies as our ninth grade Rebbe our frisbee sister Rabi at the United abhava Church even Ocean Parkway and also as my fifth-grade English teacher for the subject of mathematics you know as we discussed when I did the the clip on rabbi Shui all over Shalom he was our third nice if the Rebbe Alabama is Shiva every Rebbe every teacher has their signature their impression that they leave upon atonement a student so the the world the Chabad world and others no other model as the Rev who replaced Arabs Amish omits welcome when he passed on when there was a group of three Doug London that was chosen by the community wrote with Rabbi model being the head of the best and there's so much to talk about that and that that I'll leave for the others you know making a documentary and others will probably talk and write about that but III want to share a little bit about the the youth experience I was 19 in the first my sister I was like 14 years old or so and it was the year when when I was a year or two after maxwell's of severly a few years after she removed from Bedford and Dean to to Ocean Parkway and they opened up teen idol above achieved a new building rabbi ma who taught us the importance of being sharp witty and sharp he made such remarks in the class that sometimes we went over our heads sometimes things didn't sound exactly the way he wanted to be called he wanted to be addressed or what you thought you are what you aren't and in Malo using his Hoffman his bright sharp mind elevated us now looking back so many years I see it not as a you know a humiliation or a put down or you know he he chose to elevate the student with hokhmah and that's something that I didn't find you know by other rabi's other teachers they were the classical traditional one so let's say even have x-ray are they Garfunkel they were each one was was was was a special person of their own right but this area of cloak shaft clarity and sharpness and wittiness this datum posit possess or maybe they did but they didn't use it as a teaching educational tool he did that's one thing that comes to mind that you know I think should make us parent and educators think about you know when is it appropriate when it's not appropriate do I have it do I not have it do I wanna be should I want to be those are different types of questions that you have to analyze and and ask yourself as an educator and as a recipient of Education his fruit kite his religiosity in a holic way was very very palpable for example every Friday morning the first thing we did when we came to class at 9 o'clock was he led us in reviewing the cetera it's called mother said girl get away each plastic you do two times with once the targum which is a hollow climb sock Lenora and we didn't begin like we did every day with the Gemara we began with being matheson reviewing the cetera and even that he did in a very interesting way very unusual he did it with a sing song they say that he knew the entire tighter and the targum by heart i thought i never tested him so i can't tell you but from time to time you could see him picking up his head and just reading or looking at us and saying some words but from that day on I remember I started with mother cetera and continued the rest of my life he instilled in us a a from kite religiosity a flaw a simple a literal following of halakhah again you don't have to do Friday morning try day afternoon Friday night people do it Shabbos regard then there's the believe the hug you enjoy him with the repair shop when he did it I'm not going into all of that the idea is that he was very much supportive and led the the way in teaching us went to be mother centered and how did your mother said and gave us a dish muck in being mother said another thing that comes to mind is his his on one hand his openness and on the other hand his discipline tactics now what do I mean in in our classroom you know they're your boys you're you know you're rambunctious you have lots of energy and ramallah wasn't the type to squash that energy needless to say if you did things that were outrageous and a cause for a punishment or a cause for being told to go to the principal's office it was done but I didn't feel you know threatened by him although in our English class the fifth grade we had some very very rambunctious fine students who are today some of them you know she look him and others and good friends of mine bright but they were very wild to put it in simple English they made a lot of trouble in troublemakers there Marlowe disciplined them very strongly in a way that you know wasn't conventional but that was necessary to keep sanity in the classroom close things I saw for a Marla was in the mix it happens to be that little Babaji Shiva Ocean Parkway there is a mix in the basement today I believe its clothes been closed for years but in my days when they would just opened up that's what that's the microphone we went to and the rabi's went to and I noticed once how he went to the mixer that he immersed in a upright position and then he merged in a lying-down position and that caught my curiosity and I asked him about it in class and spoke there privately and he said that this is my recollection if someone else different they should please let me know that rabbi Tanner Bell Oliver Shaw was our principal told them that was the way the river went to the mikveh because in Cibola it says that that the first time you go when you you dip into the water should be upright and the next time should be kid dog but fish which you know lies lies flat in the water and that's the way he did it and we learned from him and that's the way I do it till today I'm no capitalist I'm the son of Kappa the capitalist but our Rebbe you know indicated that this is this is the way it should be done because it's the way the rabbit did it has transmitted by Rabbi Tenenbaum to him rabbi Marlowe to us students or to me in my case again you know unassuming he didn't make any public announcements I don't think he even spoke about it publicly in class I don't recall them believe so but when I asked him this is what he told me another amazing thing that I saw through mom this I saw a little when I was older already as a 770's Butler Friday Shabbos about an hour before Shabbos I was in 770 usually because I lived in Borough Park a cake the Crown Heights estate the dormitory whatever I didn't have much going down so I came to seven seven the early to prepare for Shabbos and pretty much 770 was empty you know at let's say shops was 7:30 at 6:30 if so it was pretty empty and then and then walks in on the model with two big towels bags I mean it was a scene you know Ramallah was a tall person a very handsome person you know he was a he had a seer some say he looked like the rabbit you know is physical force to his physique is is its body posture and everything was like you know oh whatever I think it was shorter but there were certain similarities and he walks in with these two bags and you can see the two toddlers bags are full of sorrow and heavy and he's carrying them and he went to a table either it was behind the beam and maybe I later was by his place by up you know up front thereupon I was sitting up front by the mr. quo and he put them down and he used them to learn till about I don't know ten eleven at night every Friday night and seven seventy empty it out and who was there Riley Marlowe and that left such an impression his jagiya potato his effort his diligence and his love for learning was tremendous my father told me that it's also known that when he wasn't even when he was a teenager he was he was it was a wild guy you know he was a troublemaker he was a clever man as we say you know and then he how do you see this with that ever and they never said to him that he wants them to be a rough like a rough was in Europe meaning a real time clock I'm a real serious person and from that day on from that you see this he walked out and he started to learn your mother Lila day and night and he changed and you couldn't recognize who this was this is what I was told they say that he knew the Alton episode not a word for word by heart again I didn't estimate but that he was a bookie in the Alpha debenture holder and I many other swore him for sure every year he would finish I believe at least to myself this for the three misses you just kiss live and for his parents his father as mother's York site and possibly more these were things that we saw that we observed that we spoke about in yeshiva as as young teenage students you know we lauded and looked up to our Rebbe who was this type of individual he was I heard that there ever gave him and his wife may she be well whooping condition never married them and I heard this my father as well I have no verification that he was one of the only people that they never gave him a seditious kiss at the wedding you know after the hope I assume sees the embassies in this way system but one thing's for sure its Shire why did Shia why is it possible because from where he came from you know he was from German descent yeah Koosh descent and to make the transition to becoming a full-fledged abhava chair and not just the full-fledged Lubavitch a hostility rather but committed to theater and learning with a yogya suma such effort such diligence to be a role model for us young American boys and then there was the period that I mentioned earlier when it became there of and everyone knows that after his passing they found checks on his desk that were never cashed he couldn't you couldn't bribe revenue or even if you wanted to he couldn't I know personal stories I'm not going to go into them now the private he couldn't bribe him at all when he spoke he spoke with brevity I mentioned that earlier but this was also true when he spoke there have been publicly they asked if I bring in Anna the Padre it was very very brief he didn't waste words and again he used the same sharp witty style so all in all this is 20th yard site and we reflect back on those days in which we were in yeshiva and we had him as a Rebbe and his discuss his connection to the Rebbe was very deep you know he didn't speak much about it he didn't scream him he didn't bring for hours about his cash flows in connection that that wasn't him he said a verdict he said one word and in that word there was everything and that and so too when the whole mushiya issue of came to came to be that Ramallah was on board but he didn't they didn't scream he didn't you know show you know I'm on this side I'm on that side that wasn't who he was but if you paid attention to what he said you know exactly his stance made the neshama who the count Marlo having a leader to bring more chef's already so that by the yard site Friday hovercrafts even Hough who you mail me yoga in the Simca these days shall be transformed from sorry to happiness through think it will aim a bit god of mom