Purim Farbrengen, Westfield, NJ, 2024 #1- Why did G-d allow Haman to try killing Jews? RC Dalfin

so good to everybody so Rabbi black and I go back many many years from our Yeshiva days and you know Yeshiva days you imagine college fraternity houses as Happy Days same thing yeah Happy Days very good and um first of all it's a pleasure being here the last time I was here re BL says it was 20 years ago over 20 years ago oh not in this facility in another facility so um and you are I am Kim doin doin Kim doin like the Miami Dolphin spelled differently but the same sounding last name and if you paid attention to the Milla one of H's sons was D but I always say when and I got you know gied for when I was a young boy and a teenager my name isin not but anyway so we he P him together and what we're going to do is we'll speak for a few minutes we sing a niggan you're you're patient enough and interested enough maybe I'll teach you a niggan a niggan is very powerful but I want to begin with a thought that said many years ago and it's a very relevant thought for our lives and Pur so the question is why did God decree on the Jews a death sentence The Killing through hmon right what did hmon want to do get rid of the Jews why so the Milla says because we participated in the meal of AOS the king now right away when you hear that what do you think that they ate non kosher wrong because the mcgilla says that a was such a majestic King and so wealthy and understood the psychology of individuals he wanted everyone to be happy at his meal what did he do he provided for the Muslims Hollow meat and for the Jews kosher meat I'm I'm paraphrasing you understand in other words everyone had whatever they liked you like babka you got babka you like shrimp the Gentiles ate shrimp in other words there were there was Jews and Gentiles everyone got what they want now when you come to a party a celebration and you can choose from any kind of food you want you become very happy okay and we know that the Jews didn't eat the non kosher they ate the kosher so the question is if they ate the kosher why were they punished with the decree of death by Hyman right that's the question bab asked this question once and he answered and it's a fantastic thought to think about out the prop they ate kosher and and oh oh one more point one more point there is no law in Judaism that you're you you get a death penalty for eating non kosher including McDonald's cheeseburgers shrimp bacon no it doesn't say it you won't find it in the T Torah says you should eat kosher not non kosher but that you will be punished with death no way and I think it's very important for everyone to know that okay again not that we should Endeavor to eat kosher but so that's the qu so the question is if that's the case why did he allow hon to want to kill the Jews in other words the concept the idea of purm has a spiritual element to it you see just I'm I'm I'm par parenthetically speaking for a moment what happens to us in our lives isn't just random everything fits in and we need to Endeavor to try to understand it as much as we can well never we'll never understand everything but we need to Endeavor to put the pieces together as this fine woman told me how years later she put the pieces together of a of a you know a bad accident she had when she was much younger okay the Pieces come together sometimes it takes 20 years 30 years 40 years they come together if you pay attention if you're not asleep if you're awake and you think about what's going on in your life don't get don't don't worry I like you know just kidding if you're awake and you and you think about what's going on it comes together so here's the question just to put the question back on the table why did Hashem God allow a hymon to make a decree of killing all Jews because they went to the meal of they ate kosher and even if you say they didn't eat kosher which they did you're not obligated to die there's no toal commandment you get death for eating non kosher and the rebba answers the language the language in the Milla says they benefited and enjoyed the meal of what's the point eat go to a meal but know that that's not your place you're a Jew you don't really if you go to an opera a Broadway a baseball game gun hate but remember where your placees I was a rabbi like Rabbi BL I was a kabad rabbi in Marin County California from 1984 to 1992 who's been to Marin County here raise your hand anybody yeah we have okay tiberon yeah I was in San Rafel but I know tiberon well yeah my friends are in I walk the streets of TI I know tiberon and mil Valley and mil Valley and the beer Woods on and on okay anyway so I'll be back in uh in Marin County in in in in the 80s in the 70s there was a um documentary I forget by who it was called the hotb capital of the United States what did they do in the hot tubs let's not go there but they smoked weed to put it mildly okay that should be their only problem that should be their only problem exactly and Kim Dophin like Rabbi BL comes out of 770 Yesa a good Yesa boy dealing with with with this situation I mean I had just there's so much to say I had New Yorkers there who moved you know they moved to California to get away from Brooklyn to get away from New York and New Jersey and the island you know we're going to go to California we're going to explore Warner EST right right and and raising you mentioned mil Valley this one guy was living in mil Valley Jewish guy with a ponytail raising pigs and he told the rabbi he knows better what Judaism wants okay yeah that's that's part of Marin County so what's the point I'm getting at that in 1989 I don't know if you remember there was an earthquake in San Francisco during I think the World Series the Giants win the World Series so part of my sermon my drer rashash was many of you are going to the game I have one request and I said to them you're never going to hear from a from an orthodox Rabbi kabad RAB to drive to me to you're never going to hear that but what I am going to tell you is on the way to the game make us stop here to hear the shauer you want to go to the game go to the game but remember it's Ros and when you're sitting at the game you should be thinking did I hear the r the show for today in other words where is your enjoyment and this is this is the question this was the issue during puring what happened was that we Jews made materialism Indulgence our priority or in psychological terms our Paradigm and that's the problem you know they have this word called Orthodox it's such a terrible word you know why it means the right way who has a right to say his or her way is the right way when I came to Marine County 1984 I saw a flyer that another kabad Rabbi in Chicago put published it had a picture of the rabbi and it had a title and it said like this I am not reform I am not conservative I am not Orthodox I am kabad and then in smaller words what the philosophy of kabad is which you've heard I'm sure from the rabbi and the repb hundreds of time love every Jew everyone's accepted no not being judgmental all that right there were 19,000 Jews in Marine County according to the Federation Federation list so here you were married no children my wife and I my wife's from Melbourne Australia I said this is a great way this to introduce kabad to the 19,000 Jews right I'm going to print it up on beautiful cards somehow this message 5,000 of them but I did something before that be before sending it out I got had access to the list you know don't ask how but I had access to the list I sent it to the reer to my boss to Block's boss you know we work for the rebba we work for the laab rebba so if he's my boss you want to give him a report of what you did and I sent it in not thinking you know waiting but within a few hours I got a call from a secretary of the rebba rabbi dolphin the rebba made a comment on your F on your card on your flyer what was the the comment your mess message contradicts the philosophy of kabad I said to myself what and the Reb explained by saying I am not reformed I am not conservative that means you're giving a place that there is a reformed Jew a conservative Jew an orthodox Jew aidic Jew there is a Jew the fact that you belong to former conservative Orthodox Temple or yesu great but who are you a that's your essence your essence is not the temple or the sh you belong to and that's a big problem that we have today we we label ourselves the rebel was telling me basically that the labels themselves defeat the message I took the 5,000 I put him in my basket I remember like today threw him in the garbage going back to the to the answer of the rebba the problem with the purm issue and why we had this serious decree that thank God God loves us and he saved us and by the way it's the same thing today with the Hamas and all the hisbah and everything that's going on God loves us God is saving us there's no question about it but we're going through this situ situation so what's the answer the answer is the the enjoyment the satisfaction that we take from the material world so of course you should have a physical world and you should have lots of money and lots of things but remember your priorities that's the way the rebba explained the reason and and and the reason why they were punished and other why God wanted to destroy the that because when you lose your Paradigm it's all gone in other words what we understand from this and I want to conclude now what we understand is that the losing the Paradigm is worse than the action you hear that if you eat nonosa once or you or you insult someone or you embarrass someone right it's an action it's a one-time thing you get up someone tells you the rabbi tells you hey this is not right make a change improve yourself you do ftic finished phito but if you are convinced in your Paradigm that this is the right way so then that lingers on and on and on so just to conclude with what RAB black said before about filling of course it's important to put on fill but more important them putting on tness to say thill is right for me because when you will saying is right for me you're going to put oning shabas is right for me lighting the manura is light for me giving the is right for me this is who I am that's the message we should take it to heart and we should and only have good things in our lives did Rob by Dolph