Prep for YK - Mincha - Confession during Mincha - Speciality of Man - Neila - Opportunity

i want to talk for a few minutes about uh yom kippur and aaron young kippur and the end of yom kippur is a day that as we're saying you in yiddish it's like not young kipper but yet it's a very holy day so what what's going on here yom kippur well to begin with you know the titus says that we should fast on the ninth and tenth of the month so strictly speaking we should we should be fasting on the ninth but we don't have the say that by eating twice as much on the ninth it's likely fast and there were there were people select people who probably fasted uh the the ninth as well but most didn't then they were very from musser nicks people who followed musser they would like suck on a candy all day to be making the mitzvah all day of eating on the ninth but the both of these approaches are an exception and an extreme in a way the average drew you and i and everyone else mostly everyone else we we have two sodas on two meals on erevium kipper now the enervium kippur day that reber ashab writes the the frida krebs says in his father's name there's the the till midday and after midday and he says that till midday it's still the avoid of arsenic and it's still a serious um you know crying like avoidance it's but when midday comes you should be you should be thinking about the opportunities for the new year and the and the avoider is simcha which is very interesting because you would think um i you would think that that uh it should be the opposite you only right mid uh no and this is a very pr important perspective as you go we go into yom kippur your innocent that although yum kippur is the yayama kardashian the one day a year in the solemn day and all that you have to have your head straight on you have to have your the right perspective and the right perspective is i'm looking i i'm doing true for and regret the past because i know that the future is brighter and i know that i the yid the petitioner is above and beyond the student nonsense and all nonsense that i did was because i fell into the gates of hurricanes to my tives and i take responsibility so the the most important thing is to be able to say to yourself i take responsibility and don't blame anybody else don't blame your wife don't blame your kids don't blame your community don't blame your rabbi don't blake covet don't blame anybody just look at yourself and say i take responsibility once you once you become comfortable with that and it's not easy that's why we have these 10 days once you become comfortable and and clear about that then you've you've lost so much stuff and you and now you you feel like you know cleansed a load is off your back and you can go into your kipper the second from the second half of the day with simcha that now i have opportunity to to grow in a way that's so special specifically on your kipper and through neela that is a a uh an explanation of what that ashab said and that's why jainism [Music] the reason we say al hate is because we're concerned that maybe during the sudden meal before the young kipper we will you know drink too much and eat too much and become sluggish and we won't be able to do the algae properly later in the evening to do chuva so in order to avoid that we say it during minha and that's how logically the reason the spiritual concept is and the previous rabbi in this uh something that i sent you on whatsapp from a mimer that there ever in poland at the suburb of warsaw and it was reprinted in 1949 uh as a as a contrast uh of of my muram for rosh hashanah yom kippur suka sim kastura in the sage of my my murim of the previous rabbit 1950 tough shin yood but the my murama really from 1931. so so the the ebba says that the frida kahraba says they like this it says in the yom kippur philos in the in the nila service there's one and two paragraphs that we don't find throughout the 10 days and these are the special thrillers of yom kippur the ila you give your hand to the sinners doesn't god always give a hand to sinners by giving them a chance to do chuva what what's special about yom kippur and the elo of yom kippur that we the the the ghazal the rabbis choose a prayer of atta no saying and there's a famous explanation [Music] give man free will to make a choice and that choice is either good or the opposite or bad noise you give man a chance to be upo to be a sinner at the same time and then it says you get you stretch out your right hand to accept our chuva in other words we acknowledge that through our that peera by god giving us free choice and free will we made a decision and sometimes that decision is to be pochetta yaakov i can't see your head to be a sinner at the noise in yoga push you at the same time yad has another meaning the literal meaning a hand god gives his hand to the jew who chose through free will to sin and this is a and that's why yoni this is said specifically by neila because by niela we we recognize the devaldic the unbelievable idea of free will that only the human being and only the jew was given the purest and greatest gift of all which is called and god never strips that from a person because if he were to remove she's free will we're no longer a human we're like an animal and therefore parenthetically when a person acts like an animal who's addicted to a certain addiction they've lost their free will temporarily right because they're they're addicted they can't control themselves so here we say on one hand you give us hashem you gave me a chance and an opportunity a free will and i goofed up says hashem i understand i'm going to give you my right hand and specifically my right hand if our lefties is left in my right hand yamin shove him to receive the chuva and that that's this paragraph is an introduction to the next paragraph that we say in ila which is also only in nila do we say this and what is going on over here you have made a separation you've made abdullah and from the beginning of time you god made a clear distinction between man and all others but what word is used by this by the in this prayer it doesn't say adam it doesn't say ish like it says in the beginning of tilum use the word ish it doesn't say the word it says the fourth cinnamon for man which is english there are four words in the cas in in hebrew literature in torah literature that mean man adam ish and what's the difference the basic difference is the following adam represents a man who is unique through his intellect the difference between an animal and a man is that a human is the intel intellectual ish is the emotional that aspect of man that's emotional or a person who's governed primarily by his motions we would call in torah writing an ish so those two are virtuous either you're more intellectual or you're more emotional then comes the not such a good features of mankind gather although in hebrew i believe correctly from wrong guys the agavr means oh starker he's a giver he's a man what a giver he's like a keyboard he's like a keyboard but in in classical hazal gever refers to a weakling barely a man he's a man but he's just just a man and then there is enosh enosh means not only are you neutral just a man but you're goofed up you're messed up you you you you're weak there's a plastic that that's brought we're in from tanakh where enos refers to a weakling a weak man so listen to this you hashem have separated and made special man really by which type of man by an english other unish of strength of connection so this is the question what does it mean why the ghazal choose when they they wrote the trilogy and the previous it happened this mime of 1931 he addresses this issue and he says a fascinating thing he says it's very very big sir and uh not with much verbiage so i ask forgiveness if i'm learning wrong shot but i discussed it with someone i think this is the shot he says that this is why we have a preparation called erevium kipper and he calls the avoid of minha the first avoider of yom kippur begins with minha era of yom where we're dressed with our yum the goddamn already okay don't come at the shoe wearing your jeans i mean if someone comes in because he doesn't know any better embrace him and it's great but talking about us who know we should be redressed for milka in our yumpth of clothing or you know you know what i'm saying i'm not saying yeah you have to you have to have your kettle uh if you wear a kitten wears a kittle and onion kippur we don't wear kettle rosh hashanah but yom kippur we wear a kit like everyone else but uh i'm talking about respect right so that's then the previous rabbit says there is the avodah of the video and i've never saw this before he calls it the the the uh al hate that we say at the end of minha era of yom kippur the rabbis calls it the avoider of video chloe in other words it's the general preparation of confession pre-owned kipper and it sets the tone you know husson you all remember think back when you were all hassanim was supposed to say you know we're supposed to say at min time right so those of us who were fortunate to have the rebel sitter the rebel would loan one of the sudden to suduru i married in in australia but so even though it wasn't my majasana day before i left to australia i got the rabbit sitter and i dived milk in the cedar and you say vidoui you you confess because really the confession is out of your kipper the day of the hasanah but in this case since i i didn't have it it's my recollection so many years ago the point is that there is a a general preparation in other words this is what i'm saying just as the khasana is at night the hoopa and aereb has another day before you're not yet under the hooper so what's the big deal so we know that across them fasts because he's going to be standing under the hoop of the night and when he at the end of manchester he says he says confession for his sins so when he goes under the hoop but he's clean and pure so the same thing is to wednesday this coming wednesday out of yom kippur we're going to dive in but it's not enough to dive in you have to say vidui you have to have the avoiders of vidui clowley the overall general confession for the upcoming young kipper and that's done on heir of yom kippur and then comes cole nidreh and then comes chakras and music goes through these six things again video [Music] right which which is six things if you count airbnb keeper but onion keep itself so far it's four and then you come to the fifth prayer the ila which is unique to once a year yom kippur and it's it's brought in this for him it's says the the revelation of of energy and light in other words spiritually the concept of paro in its spiritual source is a great amount of light so that it says hamishis the fifth the fifth prayer which is the ila son the ila is the time when all gates are open so rather than looking at it hey this is the last chance and after kneeling the gates get locked and i can't get in anymore which is true but there's the other perspective that here i have the greatest opportunity the ila to be one with hashem and that's why there are people who will stand the entire neila some people will be right in front of the anki dish there probably are people who put their head in their kaidos you know it's an intense time everyone to their own you know i'm not belittling any any way anyone that feels expressive of their connection but one thing's for sure it's the fifth villa says the freedom you specifically you hear this you specifically separated man weak man sinful man from everyone else right from the beginning of creation because even sinful man during the elah is right there for truva he's gone through a whole day of davening it has gone through a whole day of fasting and has gone through out of your kipper so when it comes to ela the heart is open and therefore specifically enosh if the khazawa said adam ish or the implication would be hey i'm doing anything anyway the right things either intellectually emotionally or just being regular but when someone who you don't expect to be giving it all right someone who you look at and you hear about or you see is a sinner is it not involved is not interested there's a troublemaker i always think about one of my how early conversations with yoni when he brought up a certain jew and he said he's such a is such a bad guy he's an anti-semite even such a jew at naila the previous airbus says wants to do chivalry you can't maybe see it but that the summer on the illa wants to show it my father-in-law set up a vert that someone repeated this week he said how do you see a person's yakida you know there are five levels of soul nephes means one oneness with god which is the experience how do you see it he says you see it that throughout the year there's no no novelty what he said but it's the insight and the way he said it throughout the year they're never ensured they keep their sharp shops open on shabbos they laugh at from jews he's talking about in australia where there was the other system and then russia where he came from you know it comes the ila or konidre all of a sudden the same scoffer and the same hollow shabbos and there was there was him and shul they were thin and sure this is my grand granddaughter rifka she's learning with us from florida she's here rivka say hello anyway so we've got hi hi that's your innocent anyway so my father said that's how you see yakida what makes these people come into shul so some will say well they're scared but that itself that itself is yukida why are they scared throughout the year they're not scared they're keeping the store open are shabbos they're belittling from jews the answer is because their shrama really loves hashem and when it comes you ain't keeper where you see it and with this i tell you a story that i heard yesterday and i'm now on fire with the story i'm publicizing the story this happened in 1979 right here in brooklyn borough park and crown heights my own backyard so a friend someone who who is a family friend and reads my books he tells me the story he was 13 years old 13. he had bar mitzvah yajidis with the rebel the rabbi in 1980 stopped giving private yehidism for bar mitzvah boys and hassanim and the rebel put everyone together would come into the room all bar mitzvah boys for that season would go in and the red will give a broken give a dollar etc and and and take a letter from them but before that you had a chance to go in with your family privately to the rebels room so he wasn't that last year in 79 he made it i mean i had that in 74 when i had my bar mitzvah but this is 79. he grew up here in borough park uh there was a nape and a neighbor of theirs a woman who wasn't froome but you know she was traditional and she knew about the babbage and the river and they were neighbors and and they told her that they're going to be going to the river for abraca for their son's bar mitzvah the families going into aviars so she said can you ask the rebber for a bracha from me okay so they the father of the family says sure they go into yakidas the father says in yiddish she spoke yiddish to the rebel he says i have a neighbor is the female the feminine i have a neighbor that asked me to ask you for a brother wait but the way he said it is [Music] now the word friend is a yiddish word it means strange and foreign and it's another way of saying a non-religious jew okay so he said before he could say and she wants a broker from the river the rabbit cut him off and listen to what he said these are the words by younes by us by la babbage is nice there are no foreigners and there are no strangers that's the story [Music] that's the story there's no such a thing a year on your kipper is framed is foreign no such a thing i he he's not this he's not that he did this he did that it makes no difference first of all let's stop looking at others and look at ourselves don't look at your wives don't look at your kids don't look at your rabbis and your rebbies and your employers look at yourself that's the first place we have to begin and if we can't begin looking at ourselves we're making a left turn and we're going on a path that's very unhealthy every year should look at themselves that's number one number two when you do see another year you have to see their neshama and when you see that in shamba there is no friend there's no foreigner because we're all one hitler did not discern between a jew who came to sure young kipper and a jew it didn't he killed them both or he wanted them both killed and same it was with stalin the same it was with the spanish inquisition and the same it's it's with the amaksha minis the palestinians and everything else is the same nakuda for thousands of years till majira comes and when rashi says and rashi says it sums it up and you know people who have a hard time oh the torah is a racist rashi says hates jacob rashi says it unconditionally now rashi doesn't give any excuses rashi's not apologetic and rashi's not a racist rashi's just telling you the fact is that goyischkite secularism is antithetical to holiness and godliness a jew represents holiness and godliness and a non-jews not doing god wants a non-jew does what god wants it's not enough he's on the right page but we're talking about an angel who's not involved in that is against that hates yakov nothing's changed nothing has changed manufacturing always says it oh i'm running away from chicago uh the 60s the place became a war zone i'm going out to the suburbs i'm learning away from brooklyn i'm going to long island staten island new jersey uh-huh just wait till i get to new jersey you know there's nowhere to run and the rabbit by the way was of this opinion don't run and the rapper stayed and look at crown heights today some houses are worth more than here borrow park anyone that would have kept their real estate and there were so many from jews kai and berlin turnover does was a was a an ecumenical neighborhood of orthodoxy and conservative and jews they belong to conservatives the same was all kinds of eden and everyone ran except one group because of one person if not for the rebel or barbiturate round two and the rebels said stay put aaron richard feinstein came in 1968 or 69 69 and he spoke at that schulhauer torah and he said the babachirappa's right is forbidden to leave your neighborhood and ramosa didn't leave his neighborhood east new york although it went down the tubes that moisture could have been anywhere and he would have had could you imagine if ramosa would have moved to flatbush he would have had thousands of more people coming them weekly but instead he stays in east new york with his yeshiva trailers you shall lie him with everything that was going on because he like the rebbe believed we don't run we stay put so that young kipper yum kipper it's a time to think about this idea don't run away you can't run away from your problems you can't run away from your problems now of course if there's opportunities and chances to do more and and better and in another place and it's going to come you know it's alpha toyota and all that there's room for that but the concept you know the grass is not greener on the other side that's the point okay because wherever you are it's you wherever you are so if you if we did not don't make that interchange that chuva then the issues are going to plague us wherever we are and even if temporarily you change because of the location and the environment and the city it's a temporary thing it has to ultimately get inside now it's true sometimes a location an environment like we learned moshe in the country's kindergarten the previous rabbit depends where you were raised and where you're living now in a small city in a large city i understand that and that's true but at the end of the day it's about you so this is what you were saying in the pussic you've made a havdallah you've made a great separation by all by showing who man is and all men including the anos and this reminds us of the var that i shared with you but it's worth again mentioning because it's so important that we heard from the mental foot of us he says like this if a person lost their money there's still a person in yiddish [Music] it's a calculator it's a wheel of fortune one day you got a lot and one day you got zero one day the stock is up one day the stock is down so you don't lose your your manatee because you lost your money it's uncomfortable and we don't wish it on anyone but you're still a human what if hasta shalom you lose your health your health is no good says one is moisture half of a person because if you don't have good health it's hard to do as much so or another word in english your drive you're no longer a human being because the crux the essence of a human being is the drive and if you have your drive even if you don't have the money and even if you don't have your good health your drive will get you to accomplish and live life to the fullest and we see this from a paraplegic who is a uh go a gold medal metal swimmer or uh uh um at lehigh they don't want to say the word that was very much against the olympics and the word olympics said it's based on a very deserter rather gesture system and um long beach the day of l.a he he he he submitted his russia his bar mitzvah speech for his son and it was a law and he gave an example of the olympic torch he was telling his son that he has to carry the torch of his ancestors and he sent it into the ribbon that ever put it took a pencil and he put a big line through the word olympic and he said something like avoid azura question mark the rebel was very particular so too that ebba didn't want you should say s monica california so s t point for sure he didn't want so the hebrew thought if they're not going to say sd but they're going to say s he would accept that he didn't like that either cerebellum tan skill will show them originally from chicago the levitansky family level levitansky came up with a creative way he's called his city sim harmonica so the devil was so careful you see how froome he was that even just in writing even in just the speech you shouldn't show a mention of him so that's just a little a little into seeing how religious this person was that's an aside but let's go back to the kuda the point is that that that a person has their drive the drive and this is another focus for this yoke what is our drive let's think about what is our passion drive passion what's our passion what what do we get excited about when we help a year in a store who can't carry packages does it excite us or we do it begrudgingly what's our passion eating sleeping making money you know nebucha i was in touch with moisha there was a 45 year old man who i knew in in in the chemistry what is called olive days down the hill it is basis who went to uman with others for rosh hashanah and on the way home they had an accident there were 11 people and he died and the other 10 were there while he died in the accident and i knew him because when i was there by you guys he i i used to sometimes dive in at the division it's true because they had me on him late on him if whatever reason i had to dive in there when i sometimes i flew in late and i wanted to dive in the and i bef he be he befriended me and all of a sudden all of a sudden thursday nights you know there's no quality friday eleven at night i'm in my my apartment going about to go to sleep the phone rings it's avram abram what do you want you have to come to phabrain now and in in the sun there will be a shul across the street over there what is called vara from something across the big vision at school the minion factory you have to come to praying i said i brought my 11 at night i'm going to sleep no no no we're bringing i'm paying for your taxi get over here and i went and i was there three four in the morning numerous times i was telling my wife i reminded myself he came once here his father lives a block away such a fine person an oscar was very hard at the shiva very hard he left 10 children 45 years old hashem took his neshama so i remember he came once back to brooklyn for a simcha and he says to me uh america with the gosmius america with the goshamis he push it he couldn't take the gospels of america and and trust me he wasn't living you know off the fat of of the land here with three cars and two boats and a fancy house on the hamptons okay or in bel air and and i felt like he's like choking every day you see him florence in bar park he's not in manhattan he's not a long island he's a borough park with 500 shules three hundred thousand from eaton steve black all over i mean it's it's cautious he lives in a little apartment and i and i he invited me for shabbos i stayed elsewhere and had with him a meal and i saw amish not much food small with kinder luck and he's happy that's the drive the drive and passion that a yeed decides it's a decision he made a decision because yesterday at the shiv i saw his four or five brothers and his father sitting i was right in front of them and they were all here and barak hashem they understood that their brother is a real mavakish he really seeks god and they sent him money and they supported him but what was the drive the drive so that yakov this young kipper we have to ask ourselves that question as we put our talus over our head at konidre right and we make the broke on the talus and then we say oh forgave us no and what's my drive if my drive is not god then big deal a big deal you know my father when he was in yeshiva the famous mashpeer of castleman made a fabregan while he you know when he had a birthday i guess or sometime around there and he said in front of all the bachelor to my father he loved my father [Music] and he said to him and my father was 18 19 years old he wasn't a child he said to him excuse the expression if a birthday means that your backside your behind excuse the expression got bigger it's no big deal your birthday then we're not sell then we don't need to celebrate your birthday because you became fatter and bigger and more gashmious if a birthday is about godliness and spirituality then there's what to talk about but if it's about a big backside it's no big deal don't show off your your larger backside on your birthday you know set in the right context it has a whole insight into what's going on jacob you wanted to say something that you said about it tries but um wouldn't we say that in its simplest is that drive of course the predecessor yes of course is expressed through the drive of yes a person has to decide with their free will their priesthood is what their drive is that's exactly what i'm saying we're saying the same thing okay but but but but there's but what i'm saying is sometimes you know we feel look you know for whatever reason parnos is hard health is hard and then you're down so he has to wake up and yom kippur is a great time and as we get ready for yom kippur is i have a drive okay today i don't have the pynosa and today i don't have good health but tomorrow through my drive i will have better panaso and i will make it kaley for it and hashem will bench me and i'll and i'll improve my health how i don't know how but i'll eat better i'll i'll i'll see a doctor and if minnesota that's the that's the situation that doesn't take that shouldn't take away your drive in other words man who is real man who is real man their drive not their money and not their health even their health that's not man manage drive so that boy said i wish everyone at the maximum tavo a good adventure to go the simcha and uh right after yom kippur myself kipper it's brought and we talk about sukis but so young kipper but samuel keeper is not just another night to uh oh oh yeah i fasted all day what pain let me hit the sack and chill out might say yum kipper light candle sit down have a little meal wah say good young div speak about sukis in other words the drive of heidi's tishrei is all about holiness and the most important thing share it with your children and your grandchildren and your families because they are the future last night if i bring down zoom and it's on my youtube channel with anas from pittsburgh for 50 minutes and i shared that message the youth the rabbit accomplished what he did only because of the youth not because of us what guys with the white beards where are the old geezers okay but that ever took the bachelor in the students and the young marrieds and he energized them and they said yeah we have a chance here to do something big to do to make a difference and it exploded so rabbi uh remember that the main thing is the kids not only our children but all jewish children anyone that can do anything even on yom kippur for children gather together children say apostate with them say avert with them and so throughout the year and and and grandchildren this is the future the future because without the future it's not it's not great excuse me you know i was thinking i wanted to you know rebuild khan like i told you i must be a pastor way recently and i'm thinking like people have asked me people have asked me so who will replace him who will replace such a man in lubavitch and the answer on a simple level is no one there's no one that i know of in in khabad that's that's anywhere close to this type of personality mind and then everything else there isn't i mean they're great people great my but nothing like this this was a a gift a man was gifted by god so i wanted you can become you're innocent morbid and depressed so hashem sent me a gift where just in the last few weeks last month or so i came across someone there to throw called the yanuka have you heard about the yanuka and you guys are sitting in there just roll you don't know about the yanuka there is someone who came ahead of the woodwork from some city uh as far asher who like knows the whole torah and now there's clips on on youtube where you see him speaking and there are people with white beards rubbed on them all around like this he quotes entire torah not just gemura like it's like it's ashrae out of the woodwork where you've been hiding now i'm just saying that you know you know we think about this god who passed away and this rabbit passed away and this cause it passed away like what's gonna be remember [Music] mourners widows alone hashem always plants in every generation holy people gifted people it takes some time this guy 33 years he's been sitting and learning and unknown and one day someone exposes him finds him out and now he's so he's the most popular thomas that people are just packing to hear him so kevin it might be your son it might be your daughter next it might be your friend and it might be you it might be us yeah yeah yeah and it's not a popularity contest okay we're not going to return till rosh holders hashem in english october 6th wednesday morning it's hashem probably i'll be teaching from florida um and i'll keep you abreasted on that but um october 6th roscoe deschreson is the next sheer i'll let you know what we're learning i want to do i want to think about it cyberzone if you need anything from me i'm on whatsapp and i'll i can talk and answer communicate with me a good narrative take care bye-bye