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Practical Chasidus w Rabbi Chaim Dalfin - Maamar Coviv 1940 #7
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x i hope everyone had a wonderful
shabbos now we can learn siddhis
and um just to refresh ourselves
in the last uh qatar in the last
paragraph
we spoke about special virtue of the
nephesh
of the nephesh of the human rational
soul which is the uh which is the um
the benefit is the idea of
of of logic and intelligence which
can discern between between
something that's healthy and something
that is
unhealthy okay
um let's continue the hine this is
276 ice dalit
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is through the intermediary empire means
the middle
through the middleman the middle soul
of this human rational drive
um
explains to the nefesh habami's
godly ideas you need a middleman you
need a broker
many times we want to go straight we
want to sell a property for example
ourselves well in the long run you lose
even though you
might avoid a commission but
there is something to the art of
negotiating
something to the art of being a middle
person
and the same is the truth for shidduch
which by the way the rabbit was very
much for
having ashatrin using the shotgun
not to do it yourselves between the
parents
or other means because the middle man is
able to
speak the language of the two parties
and bring them together so so too
the nefer chassish is able to speak
the language of both the nephesh elukis
and the nephesh of bombings how because
the nephesh has
understands what the deficially kiss
wants it's not
godliness but psychologic
understands there's something more than
just
eating and sleeping and indulging
and at the same time it understands that
you need to eat and sleep
to function so it brings them together
that's why he says
the nephew is the
the intermediary that brings the two
together
and this is a also an important lesson
that those that are able
to be middle men to bring people
together
it's a it's a it's a it's a very special
uh talent a very special uh gift
and a necessary one you know in many
schools you have
like uh they call them a russia call the
head of the
congregation or a gabba or a president
someone who's able to
bridge the gap between what the
congregation wants and what the rabbi
wants what the leadership wants
and sometimes it can be a very heated
issue you know and it can
easily spin out of control
and uh someone who is um
strong in in the area of the art
in the art of negotiating will be maxlia
will succeed
in bringing the two sides together so
that's all uh an example of this idea
with our own efficacy
our nephew bomb miss moshe wants to
just rage like a bull and indulge like
excuse me a pig
so you got to get someone to say
you're not an animal you're a human
being and i understand you have
you have needs so let's let's see how we
could work
out those needs that are healthy and
they never show the case on the other
end says
i want the nepheshabamis to be only
godly and to only
look for hashem and everything and be
godly
and you're right but you've got to give
the nephesh obama some lead way because
it's not accustomed to that type of
lifestyle
so the seiko plays a
dominant role in bringing the two worlds
together
and this is a reason one second
one second and this is a reason why
at times we don't succeed
in the synthesis in the sent in in
synthesizing
the nephesh ali kisan and
because we're not adequately using our
nephesha cichlids
so basically what what i'm saying now
supports and demands a
thoughtfulness given to every issue
from from your own avoider your own
issues to your family issues to
community issues
and this is something that
even if you're not if you're not
strongly negotiating
and not everyone is in fact most people
are not
nevertheless if you take the time
to be thoughtful a you'll calm yourself
down
and you'll see that there is another way
of looking at the same thing that you
think is outrageous or is gevaldic
and then with thoughtfulness you will
hopefully make the right decision yes
sorry for interrupting um i used to work
as a as in tele sales so
a lot of people uh were making the sale
by manipulation manipulating
the customer in other words they used
the internet
in order to do that so
being that the nephesh bahamus is mostly
driven by
its main is icha thin thicker property
is the medici how does that work how
does
manipulation work well you know
again there you could call it
manipulation
or you could call it he's doing it's
he's doing his job is a car
is a car salesman a manipulator
or is it is is together is the category
of a car salesman
selling cars and using ploys of sales to
accomplish the sale of cars
so to begin with when you go to a car
one second
to begin with when you go to a car
salesman you have to know
that you're going to a car salesman so
it's not manipulation
yes if you don't know you're going to a
car salesman you think you're going
towards
then you feel very manipulated or you
feel that he's ripping you off
so frankly in that case you're at fault
because you are either foolish or not
knowledgeable and didn't do your
homework
to know the ground rules of a car
salesman
but if you know the ground rules of a
car salesman that it's all about
sales and whatever sales entails
then you're prepared and you either
go to that venue or you don't go to that
venue or you go to the venue and you
tell them
hey guy i know that you're trying to rip
me off here so tell me
i'll let you rip me off but how much he
could rip me off you know what i'm
saying
so the same as with within in your work
in telus sales and the same thing
and by the way this has also this issue
has to do
with halal issue with with them is it
considered
you know you know you know steal
someone's mind you're not allowed to
deceive them right
it's called genevas does so is being a
car
salesman and trying to sell a lemon to
someone
canadians does this
is uh this is an issue that is spoken
about in the
in the latter collected
uh responses from different you know
rabbis and rabbanim
because it could quite well be it's not
because to begin with you
you you need to know that this is the
field so
you're already pre-warned you know
already
and if you don't know you're a fool or
you just don't know i mean
i'm just saying like so when does navas
das
apply when you honestly
were told and understand that this
particular issue
is honest and then that person or that
thing
fools you and deceives you that's the
neighbor's task i'm not making a
halachic ruling
again i'm sure their rabbis are
disagreeing they say it is the neighbors
does
and maybe majority say that so please
don't walk away saying that i
said it's not the neighbors i'm not
saying that all i'm saying
is that you need to you have to be
on top of what the issue is
and this is this is exactly where segal
is so important
it's exactly what you know the rather
at times people in business would write
to the rebel for business advice
and he sent them to a very specific
person or two
to give them that advice and and we know
some of the people that he would send
people to and they were very very astute
you know whether they were very
knowledgeable in tata or not
i know one of them who was who the rebel
was sent to who was a a genius in toyota
but they never sent the the the person
the business person to him because he
had a very
it was saying a claudia he had a clear
mind
he had an unadulterate he could think
clearly and straight
not you know
that that's another type of a mind and
sometimes you need that if you're going
into a court case
and you want to you know you want to win
and you want to try to you know
to turn things upside down you need a
you know someone who can go back and
forth upside down and make make the
person
who's sitting in judgment not know where
he had his head spinning
and and ruling your favor there are such
people too
so every field requires that's the idea
but
uh the rabbit says mo shabbat is the
rabbit says go to yadidim
um when it came to business that had a
general policy over
as a general cloud go to your did them
friends
medvenen who are mavens
in other words you don't go for business
advice to a doctor
and a lawyer and a rabbi you go to them
for other things
for business you go to someone who is a
maven in business
and who's a friend so that the person
means your best
okay so so that's so going back to there
was one type of person that i was sent
was
was very very knowledgeable in toyota
but he that ever sent the person with
the business issue to him
to get clear advice
to hear the issue even though he was a
rapper he wasn't a businessman you
understand what i'm saying
sure but in that case he was so astute
and so
clear and then i know someone else who
that i was sent to
he said he had a he didn't have paranosa
so that i've
told him to go to a certain person and
the person
was a very simple person very simple
person i knew the person
i spent time with this person he had a
heart of you know he had a great heart
and you know he was a great man but
you know and and and he told this person
who didn't have business he said
he should go into the shoe business
and he said to him everyone needs shoes
this person knew nothing about the shoot
business he he had knowledge and
plumbing
and plumbing
and he he didn't listen and he the rest
of his life he had
lots of issues i'll just leave it at
that so
what i didn't mean
okay okay okay i know but no but it's an
important issue when we talk about the
netflix
it's very important to understand
practically what that means so you only
helped us clarify
the issue of seiko being
a a mammoth it's a very important point
that
i mean you know a good therapist a good
therapist or someone who
has that cycle to be able to listen to
both sides
and bring them together if you know if
possible
and even if not possible to depart
respectfully you know cycle you know and
it's it's not an easy thing because when
something is really you know
bothering you you're very emotional the
emotions
take over and you lose sight of seiju
and it's very hard to to so to to
to to have it so you by going to a third
party
going to the nether chassis who's
impartial this is the point
the neferjac is impartial to both
nefer shirley kisses and fish obama so
it says listen
you know i'll be willing to to bring
peace between you
but i'm not invested in in this you know
i only have one thing i want to
accomplish
i want to synthesize you and see how you
could be
a more godly person living in the
physical world so let's continue
and he says
he explains some of what i just said
orally since the nephesh
276 uh ice
dalit the fourth paragraph which begins
at the bottom
the second line the
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since it's natural to man
yes located after shabbat so it has a
key roof that has a closeness
to the animal soul the nephesh
and the animal soul is top of 277. do we
have that page
did moses send you page 277 yes
yeah okay
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it's connected to the eights of herder
the eight sahara has a real strong place
in the nepheshabami's mikomaki
nevertheless
the intellectual soul impacts it
to separate it from the aids of the
colettis
havana circles and it's able to absorb
the intellectual idea this goes back to
what we learned several children ago
that the
that the nefesh does not equal yates or
hara
right so this is what he says the
nephesh
can at least impact the nepheshobami's
to separate it from the yetzahara and
say to the nephews obama's you are not
yates or hara
you are the power of passion and yes is
already
an inclination of evil and you're not
that
you tend to gravitate towards that but
you're not that
and therefore at that time when the
nephew
is does that
it absorbs the intellectual idea that's
presented to it
to be more of a mensch foreign
and since we established that the the
the the modus operandi the essence of
the nephew
is intellect
although it's not godly sequel
it's human cycle this makes another
important point
can a a broker a negotiator make a
mistake
absolutely
not as though as much as i discussed the
virtue of being of being a negotiator
and a broker and all that
you could make a mistake why because
because cycle is tiffy
sekhol is natural sacral is not kaddish
holy only kedusa is beyond
mistakes you hear that anything else
outside of kedusha is
open to mistakes this is what he says
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although seijo is natural
and since it's natural it lends itself
to mistakes
nevertheless he says the fact is
that cycle tends to strive upward to
what's above it's
what's greater than itself right seiko
doesn't limit you to seiko i mean i'm
sorry
it limits you to seiko but at the same
time it understands
there's something beyond rationale and
intelligence that i don't get but i know
it's there
hine
this itself you hear this listen to this
this itself that the nephesh the human
rational soul
the drive is aware
that there's something above itself that
itself
makes it clear a vessel likable
scholar or medicine efficiency
the nephew show the case is godliness
how can the nephesh which is natural
phenomenon
be a vessel for godliness again it seems
like
it's
distant like from the east to the west
says that ever
it's true but the very fact that it can
acknowledge
i don't have the answers and there's
something greater
than me that is the tool
and receptivity for the godly
spark and the godly message
i don't know if in other words
i'll say this way the beetle of seiko
the humility not that seiko has
not the strength of seiko but the
weakness of sacral that seiko realizes
it's limited that itself is the tool
to receive a godly message because
godliness rests in one place we learn
natanya and all over
in bitter right
the place where is the seed of godliness
where do you see a godly person
in a humble person in a hearty person
there's no godliness
or at least that's not a parent right
but
but in a humble person so beethoven is
the vessel
so when we talk about the nether shelly
keys that's godliness
and we talk about the nefesha sichus
which is teva nature
rationale the mind seemingly it's a
contradiction
says that ever that aspect of seijo
is a contradiction but the aspect that
seiko is able to say
i recognize that something greater than
myself
oh that aspect in seijo
yonassen is a vessel for godliness
so we normally think of
seijo as being proactive
we don't think of seiko as being
humble in the sense that
hey i don't have all the answers and i
know
there's something greater that does have
the answers
of faith now
this is not an automatic this idea
for sale to acknowledge that i don't
have all the answers
is not is not at all a given you know
why
because so many people and so many of us
we are so driven by cycle
that we think cycle has all the answers
and if i can't
find an answer and say ho i don't
believe it i don't trust it i don't it
doesn't exist
that was the whole sheet of communism
and even in in in in in our society
the the early philosophers like
aristotle and others
that was their position that if it can
be proven
intellectually it exists and it's real
if not it doesn't and from there you
know there
they spoke about the immortality of the
soul and they disagreed with it right
that
the torah says that the shamans is
everlasting
and they say no because they said the
soul whatever that is
is only there as long as the body is
there
all of that comes
from the perspective that seiko
you have to be able to support it with
seiko if you can't
it's not ms and this is a very important
akuda that makes
tata different than other religions
and more specifically
more than the humanistic approach the
whole humanistic approach to
to to life into godliness is based on
seiko
and if you can't support it i'll be
saying who it's not true
that means that type of sexual is
lacking what
is lacking beetle
here he says when is the nephesha
cyclist a
caylee for the nephew shelley keys when
it has the beetle
when it has the humility and what's the
humility it says
i don't have the answer i've thought
about it and studied about it
and i realized i just don't get it but i
know there is an answer see the
conclusion
of seiko is where is where
um there's the difference whether
your cycle is a godly sequel
or a humanistic cycle and what's the
conclusion
the conclusion is do i conclude i don't
understand there must be an answer to
something greater than myself
greater than myself or the answer is or
the conclusion is
if i can't understand it it doesn't
exist
it's not true just last night i had
a conversation you know
late at night on the whatsapp with uh
with a rabbi a lit rabbi we were
going back and forth
i i told them certain things that i you
know
heard this week from interviewing
various people and he was refuting
everything so i wrote them i said to him
how could you refute it you weren't
there
you weren't there and the person was
there he says oh well but the person was
only 17 when he was
so he's thinking of it as a teenager all
kinds of refutations and i wrote them i
said i'm sorry this
your argument will not hold up in a
court because
you're telling me maybe and maybe and
maybe and i'm telling you the person
says i was there
i saw my own eyes what was he drunk what
what what was he
stupid a 17 year old is not a
two-year-old then a three-year-old
but that's sexual every that's exactly
like mama
went through the experience last night
at one in the morning
everything was about say a cycle and you
have people who
do this constantly that they that they
they they poo poo what you present to
them because
and use in logic and you know and the
sharper the mind
and the bread and the better the brain
the more you can argue
and there's by the way there's a time
for this type of argumentation
in halakhan when it comes to monetary
law
there's something called the turian you
know what a tien
is someone who
is what's the word in english for
italian
it's not a lawyer
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a what no
he defends you and he argues for you
an advocate okay
yeah an addict so halacha says
that when you go to a dintator
especially it comes to mumminess to
monetary
issues you're allowed to have a tie
and it becomes a whole issue who should
be the italian but you're allowed to
have italian
i know here and maybe it's this way i
just wrote too probably it is but here
people pay big bucks
for getting a good time a lot of money
because their court cases that are their
monetary issues are
in such numbers meant
and i was once at a teen tita in a
president
and i observed the turian i observed it
was a supper guy
and he knew the shocking of the laws of
christian mishap cold he
he knew them inside out and
this case was such a open and close shut
case someone also have a money
he couldn't pay and the issue was to
work out a
a system to repay the money pretty
simple right
so he came up with arguments that the
the the the oh and the person said not
only do you owe me the principal you're
over
the the interest too because they did
they did a heteriska
so he proved that they had the risk was
a something called rebus
sutra you know the rivers says
means that when you when you
arrange to have a certain amount of
ribbus pre preview
the um the loan starting
it invalidates it invalidates the rivers
i mean these are complicated laws of
faith
but so he proved that this case was a
he was and then
and then the three day on him the three
judges the rabbinic judges
they they told them that in a certain
situation that he was presenting
it requires an oath
and the gemara says that the last resort
is to take ashore
because a torah sanctioned oath
is a very serious it's like you're
playing with god
you really are it's it's the last thing
you want to do
and i remember sitting there and
one of the judges turned to this tie-in
and he said are you
ready to take an oath if i if
if i administer an oath to you will you
take it and he said i'm ready to do it
and the judge said to him
what
you're not scared to take a nose
and he said no
so
you know oh so i'm saying about italian
there is a time to have italian you know
permits it
and a good sail
can can use and make even a prognosis
from it
this is what they do these player team
they make a good living
from going to dinner it is being hired
as to your name and they they know that
they know their field they they know the
subject matter
so i understand that but at the end of
the day
there's something beyond that it's
called akades barco
and you know your logic maybe can prove
what you're arguing
but are you ready to testify and promise
and make a schwa de raisa a biblical
oath
you know there if your answer is based
on your logic
you're playing with fire it's it's it's
a very serious issue
you have to you know that's where
and again that's where the person the
titan has to ask himself is my answer
in accordance with allah and i really
believe that
or am i doing this because i got paid
for the job and i have to protect my
client
and in that case it's it's not
you know so there's the bittle i'm
getting i'm just showing another example
how
seijo is a kali for hashem if it's
if it's based on beetle humility
and if not it's not let's go back to the
text
and that's what he says yes yes
i'm sorry i'm having a little hard time
how is the toeing
again the example that you brought about
the toeing
how was that i i i brought an example
from the toeing
that that there is there
there is an acceptance
of seiko to support
in other words you are allowed to have a
toeing
to argue for you to advocate your case
and atolling his cycle he's using his
cycle to
argue the case yes or no moshe
yeah of course okay i'm just i'm just
asking myself but yeah but i wouldn't
want this
uh towing right to start
playing games advocating that i can go
through an aveira
well wait wait a minute wait a minute
who says it's in a veda
on the contrary on the contrary
list listen for a second this toeing
was saying that the person who
believes that he's old the the the
principle and the
interest is wrong he did not veda
he violated halakha by doing gribas
tsutsa
set rebus which is against that's what
he proved
so what i'm saying to you is that good
seiko
could be used it is allowed to be used
in in a in a way that torah allows but
that was one point i was making in other
words what what i'm what i'm
what i'm what i'm saying is that we're
not here to
poo poo seiko we want we want the
benefit of seiko
but yet we want to say hello with a
bittle and i was saying that in that
case
that this he was ready to swear and the
judge and and the rabbi the rev
the dying said to him you know are you
out of your mind you're going to take
ashore
that to me it felt like he was missing
the picture
i can't yeah the pickle was missing in
other words the dying was telling him
you shouldn't be doing this even though
you're ready to do it you shouldn't be
doing that
and and and for whatever reason and you
know he said otherwise now again
so i and then i added that how do you
know whether he's making
he's making the oath and it's holy or
not
it it depends on whether he's doing it
because he's getting paid
or he really believes a violation of
aloha was done by the
the plaintiff and therefore he's
presenting the case that it's
that it was it was not it was not kosher
what he did to begin with
so what i'm showing what i was trying to
show in the example is
that there's the two aspects to cycle
and not to think that you know
because some people say seiko is the
biggest
concealment of godliness there is that
position and we've actually learned it
in my mirror
and that's true on one hand sejo
blocks you from commitment
seijo is is powerful but it also
asks questions challenges
uh what motions on logic
logic based on logic yes logic
everything is logical and if it doesn't
equal i don't do it
i don't want to get involved
so on one hand you you you could say let
me not go
that course of let me not not go that
way
so what so what i'm saying is that the
trader
does want you to use your cycle the tata
gives us
examples when cycle is actually
a good thing and i gave the example of
at the same time i also said that you
have to
what he says here in the moment that
when the sinkhole
when is he a proper intermediary between
the nephilim
that he can talk to both when the
nephilim kiss
senses and seikou that the sainthood is
coming with a beetle with a humility
if the circle is coming with i am the
smartest and i'm the greatest and i'm
the best
the nephi show the key says stay with
your satellite i don't want to have
anything to do with you
but the necessary kiss and you know
i just i sort of have a bible spear
raviol khan he's a genius
literally i mean like a world's genius
i'm telling you like
you know i'll say half glam einstein a
genius okay
but his genius is so uh submerged in my
humble opinion
to his bittle for hashem and it's it's
just it's remarkable it's it's
remarkable to watch
someone who's such a genius have such
humility
or emisha feinstein was that way right
maisha feinstein i just wrote about it
in my book was such a town mclaughlin
the place that got the
the right everyone relied on his
responses
everyone mostly not everybody right
and yet he was so humble and a boy can
sit next to him and he can sit and learn
with you on the same bench
and no no you know no the shtick
you know the shtick you know what i'm
saying the rabbi the rasha shiva the
little girl goes into the
into the store and he he's buying a new
frock
and he's looking in the in the in the
mirror to see if the frock is exactly
fit is fit good on him and his wife says
to him
yankel was cooked they feel yanked
what are you looking so much in the
mirror he says
it's the cover of a safety
you understand he's the safer terror and
then the safety
has a cover on it so i say potatoes
cover has to be beautiful
has to be exactly right so he calls
himself a safe potato without saying i'm
gonna say the theta
he just says this is the cover of the
save potato you understand the point
that's not little that's yes okay sorry
to say
and by the way i take that back not just
the lit facts it could be by a hustler
too
so can you buy anyone but you don't
understand seijo the seijo
when you find a person who's a real
sabal seijo
and he's so humble it's
it it's so it's so special and it's a
person that you really want to learn
from
and and and be with because it's it's
really
reminiscent it's this thing that we're
learning here sid this and the mimer
and it's and and it's not because by
most of us
if we're really strong and seiko we lack
humility
and if we lack and if we have strong
humility we're not strong
i think of people you know in your life
i believe you come to the same
conclusion
when you find a person who has that
combination
that's a gift that's what we're learning
here
what time is it 7 40 is it already a
quarter two
okay i'm sorry
it started late today but uh but i think
it was a very important
discussion to really articulate this
engine because
it's this this is a real issue daily i'm
telling you this issue is daily
in your own personal life and your
family life your community life
how to balance bahamias
and sichus you know if someone could
write that
up in a uh psychological way i think
that would be a great piece of
a great article you know to to write up
the practicality the psychological
ramifications of this type of uh
synthesis yes
yes i'm giving you homework hillel okay
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