Practical Chasidus w Rabbi Chaim Dalfin - Maamar Coviv 1940 #7

x i hope everyone had a wonderful shabbos now we can learn siddhis and um just to refresh ourselves in the last uh qatar in the last paragraph we spoke about special virtue of the nephesh of the nephesh of the human rational soul which is the uh which is the um the benefit is the idea of of of logic and intelligence which can discern between between something that's healthy and something that is unhealthy okay um let's continue the hine this is 276 ice dalit [Music] is through the intermediary empire means the middle through the middleman the middle soul of this human rational drive um explains to the nefesh habami's godly ideas you need a middleman you need a broker many times we want to go straight we want to sell a property for example ourselves well in the long run you lose even though you might avoid a commission but there is something to the art of negotiating something to the art of being a middle person and the same is the truth for shidduch which by the way the rabbit was very much for having ashatrin using the shotgun not to do it yourselves between the parents or other means because the middle man is able to speak the language of the two parties and bring them together so so too the nefer chassish is able to speak the language of both the nephesh elukis and the nephesh of bombings how because the nephesh has understands what the deficially kiss wants it's not godliness but psychologic understands there's something more than just eating and sleeping and indulging and at the same time it understands that you need to eat and sleep to function so it brings them together that's why he says the nephew is the the intermediary that brings the two together and this is a also an important lesson that those that are able to be middle men to bring people together it's a it's a it's a it's a very special uh talent a very special uh gift and a necessary one you know in many schools you have like uh they call them a russia call the head of the congregation or a gabba or a president someone who's able to bridge the gap between what the congregation wants and what the rabbi wants what the leadership wants and sometimes it can be a very heated issue you know and it can easily spin out of control and uh someone who is um strong in in the area of the art in the art of negotiating will be maxlia will succeed in bringing the two sides together so that's all uh an example of this idea with our own efficacy our nephew bomb miss moshe wants to just rage like a bull and indulge like excuse me a pig so you got to get someone to say you're not an animal you're a human being and i understand you have you have needs so let's let's see how we could work out those needs that are healthy and they never show the case on the other end says i want the nepheshabamis to be only godly and to only look for hashem and everything and be godly and you're right but you've got to give the nephesh obama some lead way because it's not accustomed to that type of lifestyle so the seiko plays a dominant role in bringing the two worlds together and this is a reason one second one second and this is a reason why at times we don't succeed in the synthesis in the sent in in synthesizing the nephesh ali kisan and because we're not adequately using our nephesha cichlids so basically what what i'm saying now supports and demands a thoughtfulness given to every issue from from your own avoider your own issues to your family issues to community issues and this is something that even if you're not if you're not strongly negotiating and not everyone is in fact most people are not nevertheless if you take the time to be thoughtful a you'll calm yourself down and you'll see that there is another way of looking at the same thing that you think is outrageous or is gevaldic and then with thoughtfulness you will hopefully make the right decision yes sorry for interrupting um i used to work as a as in tele sales so a lot of people uh were making the sale by manipulation manipulating the customer in other words they used the internet in order to do that so being that the nephesh bahamus is mostly driven by its main is icha thin thicker property is the medici how does that work how does manipulation work well you know again there you could call it manipulation or you could call it he's doing it's he's doing his job is a car is a car salesman a manipulator or is it is is together is the category of a car salesman selling cars and using ploys of sales to accomplish the sale of cars so to begin with when you go to a car one second to begin with when you go to a car salesman you have to know that you're going to a car salesman so it's not manipulation yes if you don't know you're going to a car salesman you think you're going towards then you feel very manipulated or you feel that he's ripping you off so frankly in that case you're at fault because you are either foolish or not knowledgeable and didn't do your homework to know the ground rules of a car salesman but if you know the ground rules of a car salesman that it's all about sales and whatever sales entails then you're prepared and you either go to that venue or you don't go to that venue or you go to the venue and you tell them hey guy i know that you're trying to rip me off here so tell me i'll let you rip me off but how much he could rip me off you know what i'm saying so the same as with within in your work in telus sales and the same thing and by the way this has also this issue has to do with halal issue with with them is it considered you know you know you know steal someone's mind you're not allowed to deceive them right it's called genevas does so is being a car salesman and trying to sell a lemon to someone canadians does this is uh this is an issue that is spoken about in the in the latter collected uh responses from different you know rabbis and rabbanim because it could quite well be it's not because to begin with you you you need to know that this is the field so you're already pre-warned you know already and if you don't know you're a fool or you just don't know i mean i'm just saying like so when does navas das apply when you honestly were told and understand that this particular issue is honest and then that person or that thing fools you and deceives you that's the neighbor's task i'm not making a halachic ruling again i'm sure their rabbis are disagreeing they say it is the neighbors does and maybe majority say that so please don't walk away saying that i said it's not the neighbors i'm not saying that all i'm saying is that you need to you have to be on top of what the issue is and this is this is exactly where segal is so important it's exactly what you know the rather at times people in business would write to the rebel for business advice and he sent them to a very specific person or two to give them that advice and and we know some of the people that he would send people to and they were very very astute you know whether they were very knowledgeable in tata or not i know one of them who was who the rebel was sent to who was a a genius in toyota but they never sent the the the person the business person to him because he had a very it was saying a claudia he had a clear mind he had an unadulterate he could think clearly and straight not you know that that's another type of a mind and sometimes you need that if you're going into a court case and you want to you know you want to win and you want to try to you know to turn things upside down you need a you know someone who can go back and forth upside down and make make the person who's sitting in judgment not know where he had his head spinning and and ruling your favor there are such people too so every field requires that's the idea but uh the rabbit says mo shabbat is the rabbit says go to yadidim um when it came to business that had a general policy over as a general cloud go to your did them friends medvenen who are mavens in other words you don't go for business advice to a doctor and a lawyer and a rabbi you go to them for other things for business you go to someone who is a maven in business and who's a friend so that the person means your best okay so so that's so going back to there was one type of person that i was sent was was very very knowledgeable in toyota but he that ever sent the person with the business issue to him to get clear advice to hear the issue even though he was a rapper he wasn't a businessman you understand what i'm saying sure but in that case he was so astute and so clear and then i know someone else who that i was sent to he said he had a he didn't have paranosa so that i've told him to go to a certain person and the person was a very simple person very simple person i knew the person i spent time with this person he had a heart of you know he had a great heart and you know he was a great man but you know and and and he told this person who didn't have business he said he should go into the shoe business and he said to him everyone needs shoes this person knew nothing about the shoot business he he had knowledge and plumbing and plumbing and he he didn't listen and he the rest of his life he had lots of issues i'll just leave it at that so what i didn't mean okay okay okay i know but no but it's an important issue when we talk about the netflix it's very important to understand practically what that means so you only helped us clarify the issue of seiko being a a mammoth it's a very important point that i mean you know a good therapist a good therapist or someone who has that cycle to be able to listen to both sides and bring them together if you know if possible and even if not possible to depart respectfully you know cycle you know and it's it's not an easy thing because when something is really you know bothering you you're very emotional the emotions take over and you lose sight of seiju and it's very hard to to so to to to to have it so you by going to a third party going to the nether chassis who's impartial this is the point the neferjac is impartial to both nefer shirley kisses and fish obama so it says listen you know i'll be willing to to bring peace between you but i'm not invested in in this you know i only have one thing i want to accomplish i want to synthesize you and see how you could be a more godly person living in the physical world so let's continue and he says he explains some of what i just said orally since the nephesh 276 uh ice dalit the fourth paragraph which begins at the bottom the second line the [Music] since it's natural to man yes located after shabbat so it has a key roof that has a closeness to the animal soul the nephesh and the animal soul is top of 277. do we have that page did moses send you page 277 yes yeah okay [Music] it's connected to the eights of herder the eight sahara has a real strong place in the nepheshabami's mikomaki nevertheless the intellectual soul impacts it to separate it from the aids of the colettis havana circles and it's able to absorb the intellectual idea this goes back to what we learned several children ago that the that the nefesh does not equal yates or hara right so this is what he says the nephesh can at least impact the nepheshobami's to separate it from the yetzahara and say to the nephews obama's you are not yates or hara you are the power of passion and yes is already an inclination of evil and you're not that you tend to gravitate towards that but you're not that and therefore at that time when the nephew is does that it absorbs the intellectual idea that's presented to it to be more of a mensch foreign and since we established that the the the the modus operandi the essence of the nephew is intellect although it's not godly sequel it's human cycle this makes another important point can a a broker a negotiator make a mistake absolutely not as though as much as i discussed the virtue of being of being a negotiator and a broker and all that you could make a mistake why because because cycle is tiffy sekhol is natural sacral is not kaddish holy only kedusa is beyond mistakes you hear that anything else outside of kedusha is open to mistakes this is what he says [Music] although seijo is natural and since it's natural it lends itself to mistakes nevertheless he says the fact is that cycle tends to strive upward to what's above it's what's greater than itself right seiko doesn't limit you to seiko i mean i'm sorry it limits you to seiko but at the same time it understands there's something beyond rationale and intelligence that i don't get but i know it's there hine this itself you hear this listen to this this itself that the nephesh the human rational soul the drive is aware that there's something above itself that itself makes it clear a vessel likable scholar or medicine efficiency the nephew show the case is godliness how can the nephesh which is natural phenomenon be a vessel for godliness again it seems like it's distant like from the east to the west says that ever it's true but the very fact that it can acknowledge i don't have the answers and there's something greater than me that is the tool and receptivity for the godly spark and the godly message i don't know if in other words i'll say this way the beetle of seiko the humility not that seiko has not the strength of seiko but the weakness of sacral that seiko realizes it's limited that itself is the tool to receive a godly message because godliness rests in one place we learn natanya and all over in bitter right the place where is the seed of godliness where do you see a godly person in a humble person in a hearty person there's no godliness or at least that's not a parent right but but in a humble person so beethoven is the vessel so when we talk about the nether shelly keys that's godliness and we talk about the nefesha sichus which is teva nature rationale the mind seemingly it's a contradiction says that ever that aspect of seijo is a contradiction but the aspect that seiko is able to say i recognize that something greater than myself oh that aspect in seijo yonassen is a vessel for godliness so we normally think of seijo as being proactive we don't think of seiko as being humble in the sense that hey i don't have all the answers and i know there's something greater that does have the answers of faith now this is not an automatic this idea for sale to acknowledge that i don't have all the answers is not is not at all a given you know why because so many people and so many of us we are so driven by cycle that we think cycle has all the answers and if i can't find an answer and say ho i don't believe it i don't trust it i don't it doesn't exist that was the whole sheet of communism and even in in in in in our society the the early philosophers like aristotle and others that was their position that if it can be proven intellectually it exists and it's real if not it doesn't and from there you know there they spoke about the immortality of the soul and they disagreed with it right that the torah says that the shamans is everlasting and they say no because they said the soul whatever that is is only there as long as the body is there all of that comes from the perspective that seiko you have to be able to support it with seiko if you can't it's not ms and this is a very important akuda that makes tata different than other religions and more specifically more than the humanistic approach the whole humanistic approach to to to life into godliness is based on seiko and if you can't support it i'll be saying who it's not true that means that type of sexual is lacking what is lacking beetle here he says when is the nephesha cyclist a caylee for the nephew shelley keys when it has the beetle when it has the humility and what's the humility it says i don't have the answer i've thought about it and studied about it and i realized i just don't get it but i know there is an answer see the conclusion of seiko is where is where um there's the difference whether your cycle is a godly sequel or a humanistic cycle and what's the conclusion the conclusion is do i conclude i don't understand there must be an answer to something greater than myself greater than myself or the answer is or the conclusion is if i can't understand it it doesn't exist it's not true just last night i had a conversation you know late at night on the whatsapp with uh with a rabbi a lit rabbi we were going back and forth i i told them certain things that i you know heard this week from interviewing various people and he was refuting everything so i wrote them i said to him how could you refute it you weren't there you weren't there and the person was there he says oh well but the person was only 17 when he was so he's thinking of it as a teenager all kinds of refutations and i wrote them i said i'm sorry this your argument will not hold up in a court because you're telling me maybe and maybe and maybe and i'm telling you the person says i was there i saw my own eyes what was he drunk what what what was he stupid a 17 year old is not a two-year-old then a three-year-old but that's sexual every that's exactly like mama went through the experience last night at one in the morning everything was about say a cycle and you have people who do this constantly that they that they they they poo poo what you present to them because and use in logic and you know and the sharper the mind and the bread and the better the brain the more you can argue and there's by the way there's a time for this type of argumentation in halakhan when it comes to monetary law there's something called the turian you know what a tien is someone who is what's the word in english for italian it's not a lawyer [Music] a what no he defends you and he argues for you an advocate okay yeah an addict so halacha says that when you go to a dintator especially it comes to mumminess to monetary issues you're allowed to have a tie and it becomes a whole issue who should be the italian but you're allowed to have italian i know here and maybe it's this way i just wrote too probably it is but here people pay big bucks for getting a good time a lot of money because their court cases that are their monetary issues are in such numbers meant and i was once at a teen tita in a president and i observed the turian i observed it was a supper guy and he knew the shocking of the laws of christian mishap cold he he knew them inside out and this case was such a open and close shut case someone also have a money he couldn't pay and the issue was to work out a a system to repay the money pretty simple right so he came up with arguments that the the the the oh and the person said not only do you owe me the principal you're over the the interest too because they did they did a heteriska so he proved that they had the risk was a something called rebus sutra you know the rivers says means that when you when you arrange to have a certain amount of ribbus pre preview the um the loan starting it invalidates it invalidates the rivers i mean these are complicated laws of faith but so he proved that this case was a he was and then and then the three day on him the three judges the rabbinic judges they they told them that in a certain situation that he was presenting it requires an oath and the gemara says that the last resort is to take ashore because a torah sanctioned oath is a very serious it's like you're playing with god you really are it's it's the last thing you want to do and i remember sitting there and one of the judges turned to this tie-in and he said are you ready to take an oath if i if if i administer an oath to you will you take it and he said i'm ready to do it and the judge said to him what you're not scared to take a nose and he said no so you know oh so i'm saying about italian there is a time to have italian you know permits it and a good sail can can use and make even a prognosis from it this is what they do these player team they make a good living from going to dinner it is being hired as to your name and they they know that they know their field they they know the subject matter so i understand that but at the end of the day there's something beyond that it's called akades barco and you know your logic maybe can prove what you're arguing but are you ready to testify and promise and make a schwa de raisa a biblical oath you know there if your answer is based on your logic you're playing with fire it's it's it's a very serious issue you have to you know that's where and again that's where the person the titan has to ask himself is my answer in accordance with allah and i really believe that or am i doing this because i got paid for the job and i have to protect my client and in that case it's it's not you know so there's the bittle i'm getting i'm just showing another example how seijo is a kali for hashem if it's if it's based on beetle humility and if not it's not let's go back to the text and that's what he says yes yes i'm sorry i'm having a little hard time how is the toeing again the example that you brought about the toeing how was that i i i brought an example from the toeing that that there is there there is an acceptance of seiko to support in other words you are allowed to have a toeing to argue for you to advocate your case and atolling his cycle he's using his cycle to argue the case yes or no moshe yeah of course okay i'm just i'm just asking myself but yeah but i wouldn't want this uh towing right to start playing games advocating that i can go through an aveira well wait wait a minute wait a minute who says it's in a veda on the contrary on the contrary list listen for a second this toeing was saying that the person who believes that he's old the the the principle and the interest is wrong he did not veda he violated halakha by doing gribas tsutsa set rebus which is against that's what he proved so what i'm saying to you is that good seiko could be used it is allowed to be used in in a in a way that torah allows but that was one point i was making in other words what what i'm what i'm what i'm what i'm saying is that we're not here to poo poo seiko we want we want the benefit of seiko but yet we want to say hello with a bittle and i was saying that in that case that this he was ready to swear and the judge and and the rabbi the rev the dying said to him you know are you out of your mind you're going to take ashore that to me it felt like he was missing the picture i can't yeah the pickle was missing in other words the dying was telling him you shouldn't be doing this even though you're ready to do it you shouldn't be doing that and and and for whatever reason and you know he said otherwise now again so i and then i added that how do you know whether he's making he's making the oath and it's holy or not it it depends on whether he's doing it because he's getting paid or he really believes a violation of aloha was done by the the plaintiff and therefore he's presenting the case that it's that it was it was not it was not kosher what he did to begin with so what i'm showing what i was trying to show in the example is that there's the two aspects to cycle and not to think that you know because some people say seiko is the biggest concealment of godliness there is that position and we've actually learned it in my mirror and that's true on one hand sejo blocks you from commitment seijo is is powerful but it also asks questions challenges uh what motions on logic logic based on logic yes logic everything is logical and if it doesn't equal i don't do it i don't want to get involved so on one hand you you you could say let me not go that course of let me not not go that way so what so what i'm saying is that the trader does want you to use your cycle the tata gives us examples when cycle is actually a good thing and i gave the example of at the same time i also said that you have to what he says here in the moment that when the sinkhole when is he a proper intermediary between the nephilim that he can talk to both when the nephilim kiss senses and seikou that the sainthood is coming with a beetle with a humility if the circle is coming with i am the smartest and i'm the greatest and i'm the best the nephi show the key says stay with your satellite i don't want to have anything to do with you but the necessary kiss and you know i just i sort of have a bible spear raviol khan he's a genius literally i mean like a world's genius i'm telling you like you know i'll say half glam einstein a genius okay but his genius is so uh submerged in my humble opinion to his bittle for hashem and it's it's just it's remarkable it's it's remarkable to watch someone who's such a genius have such humility or emisha feinstein was that way right maisha feinstein i just wrote about it in my book was such a town mclaughlin the place that got the the right everyone relied on his responses everyone mostly not everybody right and yet he was so humble and a boy can sit next to him and he can sit and learn with you on the same bench and no no you know no the shtick you know the shtick you know what i'm saying the rabbi the rasha shiva the little girl goes into the into the store and he he's buying a new frock and he's looking in the in the in the mirror to see if the frock is exactly fit is fit good on him and his wife says to him yankel was cooked they feel yanked what are you looking so much in the mirror he says it's the cover of a safety you understand he's the safer terror and then the safety has a cover on it so i say potatoes cover has to be beautiful has to be exactly right so he calls himself a safe potato without saying i'm gonna say the theta he just says this is the cover of the save potato you understand the point that's not little that's yes okay sorry to say and by the way i take that back not just the lit facts it could be by a hustler too so can you buy anyone but you don't understand seijo the seijo when you find a person who's a real sabal seijo and he's so humble it's it it's so it's so special and it's a person that you really want to learn from and and and be with because it's it's really reminiscent it's this thing that we're learning here sid this and the mimer and it's and and it's not because by most of us if we're really strong and seiko we lack humility and if we lack and if we have strong humility we're not strong i think of people you know in your life i believe you come to the same conclusion when you find a person who has that combination that's a gift that's what we're learning here what time is it 7 40 is it already a quarter two okay i'm sorry it started late today but uh but i think it was a very important discussion to really articulate this engine because it's this this is a real issue daily i'm telling you this issue is daily in your own personal life and your family life your community life how to balance bahamias and sichus you know if someone could write that up in a uh psychological way i think that would be a great piece of a great article you know to to write up the practicality the psychological ramifications of this type of uh synthesis yes yes i'm giving you homework hillel okay shalom everyone take care