Practical Chasidus w R' Dalfin - Im Ruach HaMoishel 1924 #16 - Criticism Conditions

you have any snoring those firms oh boy okay so we're on page 355 we'll just you know mention the page and discuss the issue that we've learned what Romans done with the mind yeah and the next nightmare which I hope to start tomorrow is about husana Sturm i'ma that the the the rebus set on his Casa de which is next week their anniversary were the 14th of Kislev and and it's next week so it's that said to put my marina and it's also said by all the Habad weddings and who knows maybe one of your sons or certain laws or grandsons one day we'll say the my mur this will say oh I learned that the rabbi dolphin many years ago anyway so here it is 3:55 so we're learning here about this idea of we learned the tighter it brings in a foiler eylem now the normal shot is that if you learn toyota you're healthier you stay away from marriage right then you're healthier because all the nars kite and the stuff that exists in the world leads us to issues that's the tractor pastas but the previous Napa here takes a spin on the word little um and it by the way he's not the Mohave shove this this is from the alter rebbe but ready in in his in his my Marlin is discourses without that ever says that the word love alarm Elam is associated with the word was the word Helen Helen what does Helen mean concealment la Helene to conceal something she says traders the fool lovely love kata is a cure for concealment if you want to reveal and see what what's going on behind the scenes you learn cater because when you learn cater your luck your eyes are illuminated and the issue that you're dealing was becomes illuminated so you don't just see it at surface Val you but you see what's really behind it this is what he says over here and that's what we learnt yesterday so he goes back it goes back to them to the opening verses of mind men in blue or commercial power ll if the spirit of the eights of hundred dominates over you MacLean call Alton ah don't forsake your place key marker you're near factory MD Durham because the healing will alleviate great transgressions so the rebus says that the roll commercial goes on the 8th Sahara and we discussed yesterday that there is a regular yetzer Hara and there's a real course and grub yet to utter the difference between high chef and a fella darkness and double darkness a fellow and he said especially of his might have goals so yes Javanese recoupment everybody shall be left during the time of goals there is particular obstacles to trader and the service of the heart you know whatever they are from the outside of the inside you have to go here after go here I have to do this for my family I have you know all the obligations he did a monk in Z so that ever says in this place of difficulty in poker maneuvers there if this disgusting guide the eights are other chapters you remember I told you they were yesterday chapter he chapters you bothers you the grave of my face has a plague in baiyang Sahara in this dark world we by standing strong we Shepherd the eight Sahara we give it a ride we give it a shake and he brings the deposit ace Oscar Sherlock called on the other and he explained that there is a time when the other the the other the negative other bothers the net the other the kedusha so he says if he may URIs until though this the purpose of the of the bothering of the y8 Sahara to the HR Tove is for is to make him stronger and that's the idea of this but goalless that we went into Gaga's value not Swiss battalion we empty it out battalion says nasiha soul commit to the shame big Doug we emptied out of the spark it was like an empty nest empty net sorry that didn't have any fish left in it because the fish were all gone so we also extracted the rage Baisley truth says the 202 sparks called maca I've had a yes later so slim sober them ducharme that we have permitted nevertheless it's all true but this means that the ancient hurricane can Shepherd can bother kedusha the gum is gob Abe Lamesa kala it says Jenny over there and poke it says not only with the X of her bother you will overpower you commandant I was saying this ow as our holy rabbi say the Utes initial of them is garbled over folio you know the Casal say Boas that the H a heart of a person overpowers and daily so what's the answer okay we know now about the problem what's the answer the solution he narrates Allah said that the solution is most regular base of madness swept th the Heartless of the mother says slap him into the basement the Zell are sorry talk this means he quote is quoting from the parable on the verse of the come in in in you know how Michelle it's a swept the ate Sahara to a good place mocha Matata what does it mean good place swept them into a place of theta this element claim Mitchell nefesh Atticus within yourself where is the book place it's the domain the abode of the godly soul to the Schirmer slept the eggs of others say come for a ride with me where we going we're going to the nether surely kiss they have a signal Haigler makin bay which means what the I custom myself to stand here Clayton Clayton either like this Blake don't let go in other words grab them swept them into the place of take it out into the place of the godly soul of the shrub ma we're really he was also remember what I told you yesterday and we have the discussion Ellison said his worth I said my story no that discussion about how the answer her is only an agent like be said yesterday the story would be with the for the trillion the Cyrus sticking out know that so that means that so let it let it know let the HR heart no my dear Yates are hurt up I'm not letting go of you because really you come from here you making trouble and your job is to make trouble but who appointed you to make trouble it's Buerkle because vocal so remember that you all beat you begin what they thought is vertical and really the ultimate is to be in the basement the Schindler that's what he says about song hey little Danny what are you doing in the my you don't sell all you do is yell yes leo is very good boys very good Leo Leo is cocktail you know heretofore Lila and why is this because since we established before the Torah is a healing for the world I saw you they said through tailor learning Janiak acclaim the bail-in we accomplish that we alleviate great transgressions great evaders shatter your believes that the Karma's rotten simmer your days are potato my pseudonym for your mania socks realization that ever gets back to a basic point previous lab especially in those years in 1920 form that he suppose a lot of armor axis I mean there's an Oliver Arthas you know ignorance today those tremendous amount then as well and then ever one of the things that he pushed was basically describe basic halacha to know the laws you know so the eerie lucid he says if if if if the eight if the ye'd would know that this is this is this is forbidden then then they they would prevent themselves from doing it that was being mastic in his speech is being positive about the Jews that sin and transgress and he's saying that the reason why is because they don't know if they would have known better they would have never have done it for less I seen ya later he made a little dumb that's why Taylor illuminates a person who mouth the law sorry misciagna admin and separates him completely and totally from all the nations of the world physioline brohamer sure now he concludes the mind man this is meaning if the spirit of dominance for the age of herder overpowers you nikasha neaten lord amazing I'm sure LaVon hooker when there's been given to a person some type of dominance and control you what should you do you snide by another conduct yourself with modesty by day or another and through modesty the limit at 8'o as a learning of theta yokel is garbage I'll never shop by miss he can overpower the nefesh my body's over say yeah sure my qivana the beers are them and this will complete the purpose what man was created on earth la jolla de saw a long to illuminate the world are you they authoritative are missus so this is the end of the mind and just to recap as a summation of the entire mind my briefly he began by talking about the idea that the the Casals did magic says that's to tighten in the prosecutor how much so when it goes on the power of the eight Sahara and one of those on a person is put in a position of authority and you remember in our early discussions of the you know of the minor the first you know five or ten letters hear him we spoke about the idea that the hazael say that God will Hager Nick VOSH the oven at door that if there that the if there is in the generation who is to blame the leader the question is why so that I've explained because he's missing he was missing I know the humility and that lack of humility allowed for the availa of the city of the generation and hence he's blamed for not having the humility and they never spoke a lot about that and that's how he connected it that he went into the whole theme of giving criticism because the person in a position of authority is in a position of giving criticism that's why he's put their right what's a CEO a CEO son was hired by a board to to make sure things are going right and things aren't going right he has to open his mouth or she has to open his mouth her mouth and and they don't they are blamed and they're all to be fired you know so the position of a CEO is a position of of Guyver in a way you know of greatness exalt exaltedness however he cautioned us he cautioned us so much of this moment that's why this moment let lazy one here in the beginning but this my mother ever in her young young for the 24th of Tishrei when he talks about making a far bringin every Shabbos move or Samantha bothers and Shabbos working particularly if I bring him you sit together you say this is a words of data and inspiration so the Hasidim so the casita that I see them of old you know they would get under they would sit together they were serious guys but reputable people and they was get under their skin if you've been to national you've been to hawkish oh you've been to 217 in friends you've been to Ukraine said to the that afford all these places they're freezing freezing cold so is a big mysterious times but our students come out so therefore they would move once a month and they would all come together only once a month and they'd have to drink a lot of Oz because they have to walk Haley so so so so so the point is that they they they got under each other's skin I mean you know they they English doesn't work but I said Leland I said they really I mean you know you talking about people who were I mean there were people but they were you know interfaces are shared and by to themselves and to others it said you you you you jerk why aren't you Dominic better why are you learning better well what's with you guys uh you know your nose Taylor but you you have to you stink from Guyver and so that ever says and that how you're enjoying that that's not the approach of a facility for bringing that's not fair to go and curse each other out to the point where you a million someone is wrong in an end for bidding and not right and the rebel says there and to end to and to know the details of this learned this minor that we just finished learning that's why we were learning this minor because reddit artistry and the rebus says there you should learn to smile more well so that's my thought we learned this - oh well what do we have we have the conditions the conditions were given in this moment according to according to the previous era forgiving forgiving constructive criticism he doesn't say don't give to strap to citizen that's why I'm telling you because if you're a CEO your job is to give constructive criticism if you don't you're a failure but you have to do it number one was get this we said the expression but abacus isn't they would use the expression on neck Oh on means without neck Oh means nails sharp nails don't look to poke the guy in in the face in the head in the back you have to step get rid of that step number two never do it in public except that's that's what's that's you know it's a it's an insert to embarrass how bone is pulling of course they bury someone number three you your intent should be the issue not the who if your intent is the who it's not legitimate and if they have no right giving such criticism number four number four he said the idea is to to not be impacted insulted upset if the person hears you once twice three times and then he spits you in the face and he does it again and you say to yourself you're such a jerk I wasted so I spent so much time with you I spent hours and I spoke to you and and and at the end of the day you go you know and it really bothers you everybody says that ever if that's the result of you giving criticism you're not in a position of giving criticism that means you're doing it at the end of day for yourself you haven't you have an i I must who if the criticism is warranted by Toyota they say after here cuz I Mesa huh then whether he listens or not is between him and I cut is Burkle and I wanna remind myself or avert I think you'll enjoy this vert you know the ariza writes that every single month there is some formation of the ute cave of cave every month there's this merciless and there's also somehow through the month and there's a persik in the trader that's associated with the youth cave rough day for that month says they are resolved that the month of throught the the UK both K is formed from the letters the higher who will smother us a year in passes before Christ I were talks about the mitzvah of Tamura if you if you say an animal should be holy and then you give a look and just have a nice bigger animal that's nicer and for the base I'm it does you say the first animal that I've met that I said had a head dish its head this is holy and I'm dedicating this for the basis of meekness no I want to use that to give milk I want to use it to do whatever it is I have a nicer one so there's a cool you know how to do that's cold it's called commuter you could do it the halassi is for hire who the first animal who's smoother sorry and it's exchange here Craig that shall be holy both it's stuck not yet to be to animals because you were you made a highlights and in the in the brisket terminology of give you a yeshiva you made an impact by verbalizing that this animal should be holy not only did you make the first animal holy you also verbalized and articulated that the second animal should be claimed holy so the Torah says in both case are a clear plastic and this is the content of the entire mass after cold receptors Tamura it's not a long receptor but over there there many many details so there is a sense if you take the first four letters who are your hosts Morris a year it spells out you cave of K it shall be and its exchange shall be I was at a fibroin gate I think was 1980 that in the early eighties it was a Shabbos it was you trot it was I'm sorry the ear astray distractions over him and the rapper would always speak about the upcoming yard side of his father-in-law the author of our mind manipulation gets to defeat occur ever and they never spoke about this issue or worthier result and they have asked a question why is it that the the gematria the actor of the month is only for higher who who's morris a year so you'll tell you what is that and why is the word cold not included we know it's not that way because a cook doesn't belong if you cave of K right there's no cook we know that we understand that but ever since what's the message from their results vote you know here is just an example their house where sidess learning works in Kabbalah Kabalah is what I call the pipeline of Judaism a goes with a see what see if a goes would see it's a distinct it's like you put the pipes hot too hot cold too cold or on the battery to recharge your car you have to know exactly where to put the cables otherwise and don't go that's the technicalities of you disguise spiritually right that's Kabbalah what's cussedness hasa this is understanding this mechanism why is it this way and and this is what the Alta River began in Konya in his swaram and through the seven rivers of the barrage to use Magellan to use examples and parables from our own nefesh from our own life to understand the way it isn't godliness okay so they're ever asked the question of that for Brendon why is it that only the act that the acronym for the month of Swat is for use for us a year and the rabbit answered the idea fought is assessing the trader or the fight this has a royal moisture and enabled word and they was Vitamix says correlational of a layer this month I said told make sure to explain the player says Rashi this is the month of trapped right the template is the month of shock like the tenth month but the freighter shot there's a seeded attempt the month because the previous never defeated Kadapa his idea was to bring considers to the masses so he had things translated in English and all of that right to reach it to outreach and all that so the never said this is why the acronym of schrott is only for her Yahoo's for us a year because the heat must know that his job is to attend to make an exchange whether the exchange will be holy or not it's not your business so the Rebbe I remember it was a fascinating talk so there's ever since you guys go out you know you try to beat him Karl people your worth to be the kind of people and at the end they don't want to be from they don't want to come and learn or in our case he doesn't want to listen to you criticism so he's not the coming compass I can't save her Carlos he's not holy he's not from he's still doing the stuff and he's not learning whatever the cake whatever situation nevertheless that's not your mission you shouldn't be concerned whether hunters when he becomes holy that's between him and I said you have to attempt to to offer and to teach from guide and Torah and everything else and the same is true with this criticism business the same as idea what should be relevant to you is that there's an issue here that needs correction and these repair and and what you're doing is not proper and not because I'm telling you it's not proper because it's Burkle's has a nomicon do it whether he listens or not which is the equivalent whether it becomes holy or not it's not relevant to you and you should know this is the hardest thing especially someone who you care for who's close to you a spouse a family member a good friend you know when when you when you tell them something and you really exert yourself and you put time and and and then they basically just laugh at you and walk away and and and they don't take a word what you said to heart and they don't do anything about it it eats you up right that that's the tendency what we're learning and the mind that is that that that's that shows that your your criticism is not much smaller and I think my friends this is a very very important point that we have to knock into our heads over and over you know and it's this way with children growing up and what you do him I have it does him there's almost so much you can do the rest the person has to do and don't play Hashem you understand don't please what the rest it's between our cutters burn who and the person it's between a caucus mark on the person well it's this way we should do him you're offering your children this idea and that idea and you explain why at the end of the day they decide something totally that's between them and a college burrows and and and and and and we have to if we come to a place where we become comfortable that really this takes a lot of work in or work that we shouldn't get upset when it doesn't go my way especially if it's my spouse my children my friend and and you know and I really mean your best and then they give you a slap in the face and they do just the opposite of what you told them and you said spend so much money on you I spent so much hours on you and I put my heart and soul into it and and I'm Amish couldn't sleep at night because of you and you're going yet and yet as you say the fights made on the fights made on you spit me in the face Oh what does that hurt so what we learned in this moment that's why it's a moment that requires thinking and learning about is that a person has to sit back and say look I I gave my best the higher who or small office a year that is the UK rough game brothers is not part of the UK roughly in other words it's not you cave up gates not gladly to expect them to to become holy no that's an expectation it's an unwarranted expectation what the expectation should be is I have to do what assem wants so I made my offer I'd may I I talked I presented I did my best and then you walk away and now frankly then you'll be able to sleep at night you will be able to sleep at night why because your dealership wants now it's between them inertia my friends tomorrow we'll learn I hope we'll be back in there if not we're back at the lasers yes whatever the everies weren't enough places right that's it yeah that's it by the way by the way the sound is a lot better here okay sigh doesn't everyone