Practical Chasidus w R" Chaim Dalfin - V'Im Ruah HaMoishel 1924 #9 - R' Chaim Malinowitz z"l

good morning the day were Valder continued the mine man the imbrue of emotional 1924 from the previous rabbit from page 349 and I'm dedicating today's learning to have time semolina wits was passed away and the Thursday and believe Thursday night and we're middle of a Shiva and just that a person note like I wrote in the email that I sent you the to you or the whatsapp how you doing her he he was first of all I don't I don't I don't know if Beth Shemesh knows what type of Thomas Holcomb did they had there he was not just a comic Hoffman he was a world Tom McLoughlin I am I'm convinced he could probably put any rough and any rabbi in his little back pocket in his knowledge he probably was a bookie and shafts but not only a bookie shots he knew see this I don't know if he knew Kabbalah I don't know that but I see this he learned and he knew muster and he knew huh Kiera and you see this from the shiorin that he gave if you take a look at the shearing that he gave both to men and women and I know people who attended this year and I've spoken to them when I was there he is listed as the general as one of the general editors of the arc scroll Schottenstein shafts nachos not just for the English shafts but for the Hebrew shots too now you you all understand what that means to be a general editor for Shas means you have to know shafts and the end and we could say that he came charities throughout 17 years ago which equals toe fire he Yakko Barrett's with sadaham's Rosh Hashanah Jacko's best years were in medallion and I believe we could say that his his dream was to be in there except a dish he didn't have to come to entities at all he chose to can't come he was he had a position in Muncie as a play sick as a risque lil and he was already doing anything that believed for art scroll so you know he it and he had his entire family and his and and their abundant so his comfort both spiritually and materially was in New York and nevertheless he got up and he went there too slow that's another point that I didn't point out in my letter in addition to that something else I didn't point out is that he never moved to Beth Shemesh you know that he traveled he told me he came and came by bus you know I don't know nine ten eleven in the morning or maybe for shoppers and and he would go back at night I know myself when I gave the Tongass year it started at 9:15 I saw him sometimes at you know at the nine o'clock 9:15 still in in the base the yonder feel it did the show his shoe so so he literally was all day there and he didn't want to move he wanted to live in Yerushalayim because the kaduche of yerushalayim for Shabbos he came naturally but they offered him you know housing and they would take care of him and he turned that down and I think that's a very another very special insight into a person who comes to Atticus at all and he decides not only living in that in Cicero but it makes the Civic a decision to live in your shall I him and he can easily be moved over to another city and he chooses not to that tells you a lot about the person so so so his his knowledge of theta was massive in addition to that and I think everyone will will agree anyone that knew him he was very what we call today open-minded now what do I mean open-minded I don't mean open mind in the sense of accepting all the mishegoss but I used myself and Chabad as an example the average literature of would never allow a lab arbiter to come in into a shul to give congas year and even to give ad Russia it's it's highly highly done today in the 40s and 50s it was much more easy but today everything is so compartmentalized and I used the word unfortunately divided and my sheet tonight your sheet which is interesting last night I intended rabbi Jacob Jay JJ Schachter's lecture on the rough in the river and the Talmud Torah of Coney of Flatbush he only you must have big you know right off Avenue J and Coney Island Avenue and there were 150 people mostly elderly people and because I wrote a book on it so I came and I know rubbish after I interviewed him for the book so he spoke about this issue of how the river and Erebus elevate check in they didn't allow this you know a difference in certain shittest to get in the way of their relationship anyway rabbi rapid milena wits not only so I was there I came to pass a bias in 2017 for those that remember and I was talking to small and to some other people and they said you know you're here now once you meet a little bit the people because we start to speak about a clay loss it's good to meet people so they told me that there's this rub in the shul and and and it's a prominent shul and he's a prominent love so I reached out to him and the answer the answer was not you know should you talk of course you should talk the question is when how we gonna figure into this out scrub Shabbos schedule and he said to me the the slide I have opened is between mins and Mira's on shallow shooters on Shabbos so but he said you know people go home they don't stay in sure that's the the minute over there I don't know why they go home there's no shower sugar in shul so he said but don't worry I'll take care of it I didn't know what he's gonna do so I came to shew you know I'm the only guy with a capita and a hat and you know the beard you see from all jason labarbera right so they know about mature is in their soul what's an apologist doing in a with factual form inside government code they're so so so after Mincy as soon as service members over he runs to the to the podium to the Bema whatever and he gives a bank and and and the respect that I saw that they gave him was tremendous and that's the way it should be for any love he gives a bank and he says that by sight I'd like you to stay and listen to what I'm gonna say cuz they're all starting to walk back to the door and every one of them says don't go everyone stay no one walked out that door and he starts telling them and these are words that I remember and I wrote he said I was waiting for this day this is what he said I saw I was waiting for this day when is a Labov a chair gonna come to me and asked me to speak in my shoe it seems like it never happened in in the 15 years that he was there I don't know why but that left hook he said especially Alabama sure who's a town meant of rabb-ul calm and he says I'll tell you why I'm telling you that because I had three readies this is what he says does everyone I had three readies I think he said to my chief Reinstein who gave me some me huh I'm a bear man who had a special yeshiva in Muncie for suyeon them and he was a Talmud of Mir a big time across him and then he says and I I couldn't believe it grab your I'll come I mean this is a illiterate of the greatest you know I'm saying what is the Obama chair ever Spicer it's like it's I was shocked I was waiting and he says I used to learn for several years Tania in a special Tonia double-concave for myself and other of other buckram in in in Muncie while I was at but bear Maha Shiva and then later privately told me more about that I'm not going to now get into the details there are more details about that cheer but anyway but he said the same character and therefore type I say says rabbi dolphin is here he is gonna say a few words I want you to stay and listen and then he quoted a gomorian wait into the finish there he quoted the marimba shrewdest you know the Gemara says monisha entire island lokahi sure they forsake the everlasting life for temporary life it means when you go away from trader learning for not tiring learning you know so Robin Melinda would supply it he said here you going home yes he going you want to go home to the shuttle should this but the Dolphins gonna share terror with you and and he said that the gomorrah and he didn't mince words he's not alabama sure the river wouldn't say the negative but he said what the Damaris says the governor says very severe thing when you do that like terrible punishment or death I don't forget now whatever it is and basically he threatened them but they took it they told they took it in a very positive way cuz they had a love for him and they knew him in other words he was very direct rabid Melanie woods wasn't a rabbi who was a politician I wouldn't tell you that you know many rebellion and rabbis are politicians they're careful what they say rather Molino it's what he believed he said he didn't mince words now naturally he was a comic off him and he was guided by a hollow physical marrow but but he said what he believed he wanted everyone to stay and listen to my Russia that was his introduction to me the first time I met the person in my life now you tell you Ted you tell me another love who would do that I it's hard to find if you could find him some like that everyone protects their little turf you know what I mean he was open-minded now so I started to give this year I started to give this year but not only that give this year he asked me he wants a course syllabus because he wants to advertise it in his bulletin first of all before that he paid and I don't he paid but he put he put in yes yeah he had printed and the cost money you know I don't him did the Koopa that the congregation he spent money on advertising the Tongass year and then there was a point to share was getting a little shocked and it was late at night you know and I got up very early and I was tired than nothi and and I still I gave this year but I didn't do the syllabus so he says rabbi dolphin I need the course syllabus to admin to put in the journal and he neutrally he nuts me and he notes me mama schwoz and I was like oh I couldn't believe this you know here it's a Tongass year we have like six to ten people which is wonderful but they tell you it's very good but but but it's not you know fifty people coming to a shear so what if I don't write the course syllabus you know he went to the course syllabus and he notes me about it and that was another insight into his seriousness and how he was impacted really but a bit of yokan so in his host we dedicate the learning we don't under yes yes yes one of their children and they had to be put in the school in special school in the u.s. very expensive he didn't have the money this is recently these funds of eleven and a half thousand dollars dollars a month I don't know how well it was eleven half thousand dollars a month yeah I didn't see so that's something I that's an open little thing yeah yes Malaysia yes one of the few english-speaking places to go and always you know made an effort to next to meet up mothers because connection was that we were going to do this with our came to our house I want to come to your house I don't want to do here he picked him up he came to our house and he's done with us he my wife whatever their self and trying to get therapy he he offered the tape for a little series of therapy yeah oh yeah only see when my son my son my oldest son been on the I was not easy he was 11 here the props to agenda but here you got you know all at Hebrew tomorrow he said as he got older he wanted to go back to the states and study she was Berkeley we didn't want to go rubba listen you do its best for the child who say you're busy laying though it was a great yes you want to say something good yummy oh yeah about probably about two to three so nine years ago nineteen years ago I like my kids so they were sitting next to the wife and my daughter she points that I've been going on with Susan they've got two three and she goes hey you're a rabbi she's your big brown like so he said to my they said to my daughter he goes yeah a lot of people think so but they don't really know yeah yeah he was a very fine person a very fine person nope Oh themself and talk of a ship should come and all the people that were touched by him to continue doing my Centurion learning and avidin giving sadaqa and learn English nicely this Mussoorie and that Yutaka be that that we don't understand you know his day his sleepless was finished you know you know infection infection here and infection there you know 67 you could cut it any way you want but the sleepless the mission was over they wish to said I need you back here for now so he goes back we are saddened it's it's it's it's a it's not just like we said it's a community issue of a magnitude level and we don't understand these things don't try to figure them out because you won't be able to and just go positive thinking through things with clay versus mercy like we're learning now and this week of Shiva even dismiss a so we're on page 349 and in this paragraph that ever asked the question in the beginning a contradiction between two Quezada between two Casals one cause out of a deserter the governor says the first three hours are there but this burglar sits and learns turn it up and then we have the other class I would say whenever an individual juice its and learns I got this bar who learns right there and then with him so the question is is it me the first three hours of the day or is it an every time any time but on individual studies that was his question the beginning and to answer this he began discussing oh and one other question he uses the language in the governor of a deserted show the show sort of straightness yo shave the ice sake I chefs it's any studies what's the the the word of the word the ocean what is it what does it mean he sits and he learns why is it necessary and what does it mean so that was a second question if they answer this he starts explaining the three ideas in Tara but he focuses first on the first idea of idea Efrain antara husky not swirl imitator prepare yourself shana you do Shilla because this level of Torah is not an inheritance but rather comes through effort and then he brings a prosecutor tied up and the COS I'll say Vizag tailor sir autumn this is the Torah of them he almost bit oil and regarding the laws of the ritual contamination to Montara and the has I'll say that we take the word there's a status of them Kiyomasa how can you acquire torah if other than PMS if you man will kill yourself a Torah will you sacrifice yourself a Torah and and and and and this and the explanation is Seamus ah give us my meaning the person kind of pains himself by giving away their their will and desire for gosh means for material and Kippur real matter for the sake of learning tighter and that's why it says may miss Ozma so this is what we learned last week and from there that everyone ought to explain how the eight Sahara again in other words when you look at a solution you're telling me that the issue is that I need to sacrifice myself what is the issue that I need to sacrifice myself from so that's why he starts explaining what the issue is and the issue is the answer harder the issue is the nefesh obamas and so this is we're up to in middle of 349 velocity near a tell you it's it's about 12:30 lives on top in middle of place the missouri senior HR you to the zero scale the base matters what is the advice that cuz i'll give slept the eighths of her into the shoe into the base mesh with MacLean cocktail you know to the place of Salem the basicness is McClay my fever base amygdala base admit there's MacLean Mithila a shrew the place of three lamb and a base Madras is a place of theta this is just a hollow Fiat kind of distinction between the two and by the way our hello flick differences between the two but not for now the England I'm Michelle I'm lying but vote him wet okay when you speak when you say the word well must scale the DeMars is mosque and I told you the root the etymology of the word Marseilles was measured must have mentioned Hough right slept full we translated into Munich terms as as meaning acquisition acquire acquire yourself the eight Sahara through bringing him to the base measures how do you acquire him that ever says big voted you have to talk to him if you don't put the eight Sahara if you don't talk you know you're not you're not engaging it's it's it's it's a fleeting thoughtful wish but you're not really engaging you have to talk it out and by the way let me talk it out necessarily words even in my shovel but you know if thought but to articulate the idea this is what you're doing is a telling what you're doing and this is why it's not proper and this is what I want to get the change let's see what he says but lay Malloy tell d8 Sahara so I dieted enough shape speak to it according to your own nefesh your own soul in other words be honest with yourself don't don't fake it good morning afternoon of you who them don't fake it say it the way it is because remember it's to yourself to yourself no one's listening no one's know you no no your wife your kids your friends you rabbi Noah so you could be honest at least with yourself the hello ye may eat AutoKey of it either that I didn't option cortical socket not that bothers to begin with what a person does something with his honesty of his heart his soul he does it that way to correct as Nephi Shabazz the other cop he imitates the language from this month okay so he's twisting here he's giving a little different twist to the the kazow listen to what he's saying he's saying that in other words you say like this yes ahora you want me to go and the place they go to the movies all day and play golf and sleep support it for 13 hours and waste my time I've got a problem with that you know why I have to work for a living so I can have money to buy food I need to I need to study because I want to get a degree so when I get a degree I'll get a better job and better pay but that's that's not what small in other words what's the reason jónasson what's the reason I don't want the Yates of her to disturb me it's because why it's because I won't benefit so this is what we call Hillel because surely the small bullish mark says that ever it's okay it's okay to to begin your dealings with the eighth Sahara with shillelagh Schmo because from the shillelagh tomorrow open with your commerce month the Pater foolish MA what does it mean was small with shame hot Ida now this is very important because they're different meanings of the small there's a Bryan vulajin in Ephrata Khayyam has his understanding the author ever has his understanding of a decade Tanya but the FAA says the small overall means I want to learn for the sake of learning I don't learn so my wife will say ah my husband such a great guy he's going to grow a low I don't learn because my kids to know my their father is learning I don't learn to get rabbinic ordination Smith huh those are all legitimate reasons but it's shillelaghs small it's not for the sake of theta it's for something else that later will immune to sham enhance the theta but it's still shillelaghs from up so the it says we have a rule as I'll say Mattel shillelagh Sh'ma Berlin Schmo for you begin learning not for the sake of purity of just learning tighter cuz it's a substrate up and that ultimately will lead that you will learn you will learn to them for the sake of Taylor are you here well I'm chip Laden self potato what does it mean small to learn Plato too small for the sake of theta and that ever here without saying it you know really puts the kind of abide the emphasis what it needs to learn title is smart means to draw God into the into the tater not to draw myself anything that's about myself excuse me stinks it's ego okay so when we talk about learning tighter leash more that level that idea it's not about I it's about how code is vertical that when you learn Taylor Shannon says you draw them ain't soft which means the infinite God entertainer that's the that's the Hasidic classification Elizabeth I'm tell you clearly not all the tests and methods of Torah would define it this way but the way cabacas´s indices Whismur this is what genuine Torah learning is and others like this I I want to just make just clarify a little more you could learn tighter you say I'm not learning to be a rabbi I'm not learning to get a better job I'm not learning my wife should like me better and my kids to respect me better that's not what I'm learning I'm learning so I should know more sense later that who has some ego who are you I should know who are you no no I'm learning because God wants this God will be more present in the world and he needs me to learn because if I don't open my mouth and take a safer that's the way it won't happen chuckles but now he needs me he wants me to do this so I become his longhand long mouth long hooked it's a whole different orientation versus I'm learning so I should have more knowledge that is also not with small according to the Altair ever and the lubavitcher rebbe a in the hibakusyas and well and it's a lofty it's it's it's it's a lofty objective but if you think about it I think you know who am i again but it's a really the real McCoy it's the real McCoy to learn for the sake of learning because we want God in the world it's all about a published vertical never ever lose that in the CUDA whatever we do it's about the abus did and that's why you know but I just went back to her but minimus is passing it's about God yes we humans feel a loss and the family feels a loss and it is a loss absolutely but it's only a loss because God says it's a loss and in other words and because he was a disseminator of theta and a teacher of theta and a man of theta so what what what what we are sad about is that seemingly godliness has been lessened but that's what hurts us and the and and and and the process of severe inflation in the year is such that we come save and godliness has not lessened and and therefore what how because as there ever said about his own wife episode hiya mooska raha hai eating Ali by the heart will pay what maker will be pay attention and will bring will bring the the through our good deeds and that was the rapper's message the whole year I'll take all your questions give me just one second or comments the whole year 1988 when there ever since I am mustered up his wife you you know you saw beginning specially a sadness on his face and you know his wife is so many years but what he spoke from the very first day when he spoke it was about the following words raha hai retain a living and the living retain Libra will make the heart be attentive in other words what can we do now what must we do now to make the Dead be alive how do you make the Dead be alive do something name a building after her learn later for her new Sharma you know etc etc let's go an order the only first and then Moshe and then he'll oh that's the way I saw the question that was promotion oh okay yes so yoni yo yo you go first yeah want to say yeah you're older you're older Moshe you're it's a mock-up sorry I don't accept that it's not a Jewish way of thinking it's negative and it's ridiculous I don't want to go into it now no one no one is in a position knowing that who-who is at a level that they know that this is a mocker the moshe stay away from that type of thinking cuz it'll only bring your depression finished - from me loud and clear not only sports if I had I still disagree whom I'm saying it's it's such a we know it's a loss of course it's a loss but the ghosts say it's it's a mocker kind of words is it this is like I don't want to get into you don't get me started please I'm writing a book now but abiding Linfox my next book is gonna be a best-seller it's about Habad and Linfox oh but they'll have enough information forget about citizenship forget about see it's not a healthy way of thinking and we finished that we had our mock already in the holocaust finished the ending we went we went through what we had to go through and even then the free that can ever told us October of the South were rough came to the red but the free to Kadapa our author in 48 or 49 and he said what you just said that he feels that the Holocaust was a punishment for the assimilation and the previous never said then don't make God's right okay and the shot murder was a big person and the free to kill ever was also a great person asking what does that mean what is it what does what mean in other words I said brother Holocaust we don't understand it and you're just and you're finding reasons why you brought the Holocaust it is not justified headon were killed they're all kadesha Ellendale when a mysterious death wish that some say for postions anyone that's killed in insane by the Grahame is accomplished it's a shock of the kasam safer who wasn't across it etc and in fact the Satmar of the sock bird by them that I'm safer is God himself like they go by the soccer but some safer so Sam say percent dependent care didn't say this but their ever said is a 1985 to regarding the rabbi shocking in Bnei Brak who was who said that that that the reason that there was issues that Klaas was because of the sinners and i remember that far brain i heard it while I was in California that it was storming and he quoted the shock of the Sam cipher so I'm saying to say that the Berlin Oasis passing is a mocker because of simulation this is like you know to me it's like it's what's the word I'm there's a word in English it's like when you give up well if the fatalism but it's a cool you know anyway yeah but from from from this minor when the weather is talking about how how what we've learned that whatever we supposed to do this for our chemin not for ourselves and take ourselves out of the equation I think it's a beautiful thing but I think that today we see people today that are so sucked into the low lachemann where where they want to be part of a system they want to be part of the shivoham' scene they worry about that objective because in 18 years from now the donors have to get married and you should overlook about this and so a few times people are getting sucked into the things that are wrong that are lowly schmuck and the Shema goes by the side of the road meaning people are not doing oppression think they're maybe doing it for their children and they be doing it for their own honor more or they want the neighbors or they get support you know the revela helps them the community helps them right and then they have you know it's like keeping up with batteries he finished with the joneses terminology like that dress like this dress like that you're a heavier you're Jones or whatever there is right right right right at and and I agree however the flipside is not to be a pariah and not to be an outcast that's not the answer Melinda would still wore a jacket you know and a hat you know the saying there is appropriateness you know there's something goes that accredits but you're right doing it because of the Jones it's not with small absolutely and I mean you're strengthening the point you're not arguing with the point because you're not just the Gemara says betrayed shall it's a camera of literalists didn't argue with the camera molecularly small burl is small this means that there are imposters you trainer a person as a child you give me fresh candies today they were given carrots given push Karis he had no problem with sweets so he didn't write carrots he wrote candies you know you're the right kid but that's what he meant anyway after that you give him toys and if the toys you give him honor and after an or giving something else and final and that's also a smart says that I'm bomb that's acceptable because from daddy will come to the small so what what we understand anything is that that if if a person is weak and we are big week the sense is the question I think one answer to you if your issue the issue you mentioned that your issue the issue you mentioning people want to belong people want to be long story when I came to Marin County I had a group of Bella bottom someone said in the Shabbos some were not there was three what a particular was not fully certain Shabbos he was drives to shoot at that time to stop later I mean with avid Inc and everyone's wearing the guard told these three Bala button and wait a minute to you know a Garko a guard tool is a Hasidic thing to wear outside you famous Shabbos you wear Garfield you're not true you're driving the Shabbos and you wear a guard cool like at that time in my books coming from Crown Heights from Borough Park it doesn't add up you don't wear a guard pill if you don't keep Travis and and so one of the other two guys and it bothered me really I was very upset another and he called he said to me and he called me ascites of listening we are like a a fraternity a brother a brother they reformed conserved they have the brother Brotherhood's you know you know this is where we're at you know we're not we're not you know we didn't really get Eva what coming is for us a sense of belonging is very important and I saw that he was right because the guard till eventually turned in to him keeping Shabbos people people want to belong unit you understand and and and the fact is that that why did they go to the me receiver you know Ruben has a son and then in me receiver you know and I thought okay so of the lit Fox collinear I understand this 300 I see the Shabbat current from Borough Park in Warrensburg and Muncie their fathers which triangles they have to cross them to pay us with the everything and the langar ecla and there are mere what are you doing a mirror you should be nicer to see Shiva they all doesn't have you Shiva care doesn't have a yeshiva about doesn't have the issue the answer is they want to be able to say on their resume that they learned Bhairav Ariely rabbi really is a most fantastic rough area early at mere you see Volusia lion Roth Ariely and if they could write yes that back up a little cousin flipped out for a boat why I said that that all these buck remove 300 Ksyusha buffer and they have entire huh Boris groups in the mirror and and and and mirrors illiteracy Shiva what are they doing there what bells bother Sat Birla Bhavan there's not enough of Sheba's both American and artists wrote no they want to be able to say on their of their resume when it comes to that they learned by robbery le nerevar ele is a gavel the market share teacher he is now so you gonna say y'all need they keeping up with the Jones I wanted there they are on the other hand they're learning of oil Tyra and so said what I'm saying is you have to really discern what the issue is you can't put it all in one bag and and I've seen people who go to the opposite extreme both in the film world and it also doesn't lead to good you know results like I'm gonna show you no I'm gonna show everybody that I don't I don't have to belong to a system I could do it you know the way I want then that's also not with small if you think that's the small it's not the small that's for your ego because you have a Type A or personality or whatever and you want to rebel against society you want to rebel against your parents you want to rebel against your community so you say I could dress the way I want to come to shul and in a Chabad House and hibachi no one's gonna throw me out everyone's accepted it's true everyone's accepted but don't think for a moment that in a hibachi shoe you go over to the oven you go to the Torah dress just the way you are the pale if someone comes in we we hug him and we invite him and and we work with him but is that the way the the river and the Habad rebus wanted their shoe to be no they wanted people to come in respectfully that person doesn't know we provide yarmulkes we pride shows and we help you with the brother and we hug you and if I bring with you and that were always said and I heard this from him thousands of times that when it comes to mate we're talking about the shuva from the beginning you have to tell them their 613 mitzvahs I know you're not there because you got to do the first Mitzvah number one but you should know the 613 and I could tell you that some of us worked in this field 240 years I can tell you that I've been told by people confided in me they were upset they weren't told by their rap with Ashlee up whatever that there's this and this and this and they found that only 20 years later and they were very upset so it's not something just to you know shove out the window and I'm convinced Rabbi Melilla whatsoever show them would have will agree with me I'm convinced that's not what he meant because you see from his own life on one hand he was very open-minded accepting of others and other systems at the same time he was steeped in the tradition of of your disguise and of his you describe which was basically a literature did he you know at the end of the day you know he wasn't he wasn't a faucet he was it was a little interesting you know and you know I I have stories with that too and that's and that's fine that was the tradition that he chose so so you know like I I had a few weeks ago on the clips now boys are fine steam so someone wrote in spoke so highly of the relations didn't a bunch of ricin in the river the summer road and a good friend of mine car McLaughlin reminds she was accosted so I wrote back admission was not a closet it's a fact it's factually wrong and I cited a story in 1939 with relation and an alibi but Ravi Jacobsen that's printed and I didn't write it and it was the person who was there printed and I don't want to repeat it now and the kid says he was not across it I'm sorry he was not a question he was involved in two years and I tell the clutter a basic and everything but but don't but don't you know all of a sudden create a new a new reality it's not and and the same is over here so and nevertheless this eed was committed anyway the buy-side way to go Saiga's onto everyone will put