Power of Nigun: Benoni- Why aren't you the way you could be? - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

is called the pain in me there's the Negan that the freed the caliber of Joseph really liked he he didn't compose it it was composed by a yeet named from the Chabad family but when the Freedia Grabber heard it he really took a liking to it and the zinc in a sack mode it goes like this if you don't know it listen then maybe you can that's okay sing along yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah really repeat it but I'll go to the next stanza good yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah foreign [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] so what's the meaning of the nigget what's the meaning of this [ __ ] no that's not the way we learn in the package every Negan has a meaning it's not just yeah every negan's octopus in the Babbage in fact we don't say in real authentically Babbage we don't say Zinga [ __ ] we say because yeah the Negan Zucker every niggan has a message to tell you what the sneaking says but I was told this by my teacher by my spear that malachible in Morristown yes again and I hi am I I was it was here and I was sitting right next to him right because next to my my teacher my my spear and he already took some mascara you know it wasn't you know she could but he was good if and right exactly and Mazika sneaking and this is that is 50 60 guys in basement Edition it's ahead and all of a sudden he takes his fists and he stops uh yeah yeah yeah and he gives me a sex in my arm he's dancing he was a tall guy he was true and I felt that I was on good to this but it came from his love you know he came from his closeness and then he said well maybe asked me Russ made the [ __ ] High my name is made the [ __ ] so he says this is what it means I do a laying face and get the [ __ ] I do a lane vase reading so if you yourself know how you should be why are you not the way you're supposed to be that's what he said he heard from Sid them is the meaning of the sneaking so you know to feel that to feel it you need to if I praying for hours and say look I am and it takes it it's not the time you know a quick fix don't have words like first of all some dude but many don't because words are limiting limiting to what the words mean if you want to if you want to experience what we call ain't soft Infinity you go in a gawka you go in a circle and the circle is it's it's it circles around so in other words yeah in other words like this um it's a beautiful [ __ ] they used to sing by fat brings by the way who made Puffin tough Shin you trust your test I forget you said that uh simchov his brother he was a lion man and he composed in practice his name was but he made that song came for marriage slopes they came to to them I think it was a CF and and they sang it and then beloved and he said became what's your first name David yes yes okay but Alpha became nevertheless that Nathan is limited to the words so in other words what's the what what's going to be the result of a living like that whatever the thought and meditation and feeling Associated be developed if you want to feel something that is kind of Beyond a limitation yeah so that's loud but but again there are plenty naguna especially Vegas there's a lot of vapors citizens that have mostly um a lot of worldless and they have tremendously put him also also with a different Natures with a different emphasis than the garbage there's a little more kind of simcha elements you're right yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah you could but but but the Babbage is is authentically Babbage the way the Bible it's the Vegas it's the Vegas and the the Vegas is not like the breast lift Vehicles that's another discussion what's the difference in the fakers impressive we won't go into everything because we won't get finished but the Isley good name are powerful so imagine if you said Shabbos at your table with your children you're all you like you're all young Lafayette and you have grown children high was telling me as a four-year-old kid a hundred and a two-year-old and it's only the beginning right and they're gonna grow you're gonna have more children with Hashem and you sing with them the goodness how did I learn when Shalom and I we used to live in these flat bushes of section in Brooklyn right today look barbages I'm gonna bring you back the white faces but when when Solomon and I were growing up it was a war zone it was really a war zone I mean I mean you know he lived in a little he lived on Remsen at Avenue a so that was still a little a little a little but where I lived in Clarks in these 50 was it was much worse there racist yeah and I had an anthology and I remember the Survivor she lived on I think Snyder or Clarkson I remember and she lived like four or five blocks so right and we I was scared we were scared to walk there so we used to drive and I have a vision till today of these big yellow lights like I'm going into a ghetto and I was a ghetto and it's very very scared I don't know if you ever mugged I was mugged at nine years old 1969 uh it's 1970 my sister Rahul and I were mugged we were mugged by a big African-American he came over to us with a great stacking he had a big stickler and he gave us your money and had them huh that's the mistake I speak in many different venues and all kinds of places you know uh I remember a story with a story there's a psychiatrist a guy from Brooklyn actually moved out to California to the Silicon Valley it's in the next to Palo Alto where you know all the big companies are Hewlett-Packard and those and I invited him yes he got his story I invited him to Marin County Marine County where I was such a liberal place I mean like it's the seat of liberalism cloudless San Francisco Bay area is very liberal and Marin was rippled but tight liberal start speaking and he was a real Brooklyn guy and this guy was uh fire and he didn't care and he says and the sharks of the dees and the schwarza did this in his talk you know and he's a psychiatrist half of my oil and walked out yeah I invited him to my house and they they walked out you you call them schwarzen it's the Rockets are saying [ __ ] you know that right it's it's not something that uh whatever anyway this is the game let's go let's go fight and then so when you're single oh so how did I learn to go how did I get a schmuck my father's uh is a Survivor front in Romania and he came to Le papuchi Shiva at age 13 1950. right the poverty was great they they were in the mabarat in the transit camps over there in near Netanya and he was walking around burvis on Zucker didn't have socks that's how poor they were foreign and this Camp had a lot of Romanian and and the organizers see this boy walking around says maybe you could do me a favor I have to make an announcement in Romania I don't know I know Yiddish Hebrew whatever my father says yes I know remaining so he says he makes an announcement that's coming this and this time come here there whatever he says to my father what can I do for you you did me a favor what can I do for you as my father says you know what you can do for me when I was in Romania my malama told me that I should go to Yeshiva and we also learned I learned by him that there's such a thing called the navi I never saw a navi I'd like to see another I want to see a Navy so he says you want to see a navi there's a Navy black how do you get there take this bus bus number 54 the same bus goes on traffic like a human Japanese over there that bus that bus takes you from here you transfer and go there and go to this address knock on the door you go to another thing my father comes home he tells by say that it was a real remainder she eat and he thinks my father's cuckoo but if his son wants to go to another vehicle gain learning uh and he gave him a few pastors that was called then piastes not calling pastors and he gave him and Mr ganga and he got on the bus and he said who am I say the way my father says it is to take an hour and with all the details I will almost vomited because of the diesel fuel I got some icing anyway he gets there he knocks on the door the Gabba of the khazan-ish comes to the door and he says yingle was wilster he says it will send the navi it was 12 years old uh 12 12 13 yeah get out of here my father and he goes back into the house my father knocks again and he comes through he says I'm going to beat you up my father says okay not a few minutes go by he knocks again on the door he knocks again on the door and he says [Applause] I heard that here there is a navi and I want to see the navi he sees now this goblet this gap of the khazreneur sees that this boy really means business and he really meant business he really want he was told as a navi here he says okay make with you a deal I'll go into the English if he wants to see you and if he wants to see you can start argument if not you have to leave my father says okay but you prom I want you I want my father my father you know my father my father's the remaining they don't take no baloney so he says to the gobble you understand the Bible wants to throw him out and beat him up and he tells the God but listen I want you to go to the Hassani she didn't know she I want you to go to this Navi here and tell the novel like this Aaron dolphin that's my father's name Adam Dauphin for Romania is Kim insane I love you so the guy this is okay comes back a few minutes comes in on the table there was some cookies and then them and then the soda I think this comes out and what's my father gonna say because yeah it's Nathan Murphy he was told to some of you no idea that's you know and Jose says he says so I'd like to learn the Yeshiva she says you want to learn the Yeshiva and it picks up only if they call something the god that goes in it from I forget what because she was called still today no I don't know another Yeshiva yeah um I'll remind myself later anyway and he comes and he takes my father from the kazoo's house to Yeshiva Maize didn't know anything about it because as far as you know he's going to is going to see uh the Navy there and that's it and uh isn't the issue two days go by emails from Yeshiva he lives what happened he was really loses so indeed she was asking us and my father got nervous you know it's not many but if you you know there are differences it made him nervous so he didn't like that second thing is he meant he met he met his cousin mendels the family divisions are known divisions of community the shelters they're really Dolphins my last name is dolphin and the chapters are all dolphins and people don't know that but they're all dolphins they is his name to from dalf of the chef did because he wanted to avoid the the draft uh the Army at that time anyway so so he said he sees that he's wearing a clean shirt and a clean jacket and clean heisen my father hasn't gone so much so he says mentally they know each other from Romania he says so he says he says Aaron he says how did you get to the English issue was he told the story went straight because I knew this house the manal came and took him in he says oh they only give you one set of clothing but I got to the Yeshiva through the valley yeshivas go to get into a Yeshiva and those days revada yeshivas they give you and sway jackets and therefore you change from merely a cleaner my father says so between the uh the nervousness that he had from the nusrah's and not having not now he has to go for hezer so mental taught him able to see us by three uh he doesn't know that Bonham and and the heading him and he's doing nicely knock on the door who comes in it was a short guy with a very short neck and he looked like a fighter and Associate was didn't see for the laboratory Shiva everyone had to representative Yeshiva and zusha came in and when he came into the room he had to talk to the Abundant the driver said what's that with the cup you have a good capital good my father told me how they asked and they tried tricking him and answered them they said oh this guy has a good cat this boy anyway and um when susha came in he said you do belong that's how he got to a Babbage we come from business from the map designs right I joke around with the Schmitz and others that come from 150 years see them I joke around I say I'm more acidic hasidish than you because most of you most not the Robot Chicken but others they don't come from 150 years the most they come is 100 years that are shove and I can give you names and dates but I don't want them because I don't want to put anyone in bed right they don't like hearing that but I know because I'm historian I know the dates and the people I know if they will probably see them and what the fighting was between the xaviors anyway this is again what's the gay is but I come from 150 years back to the Antonia never back to the customer back to the before that doesn't shave it my savings used to singers so we come from we come from we come from Amazon Yeshiva 13 years old Yeshiva 13 14 15 16 and I say they wanted them out and he took them out and then and he had payus and then they they took off the payers and and here's my spear 15 years old you're going to work he says in Europe between 15 years old he says that's Europe but that's melanin and therefore wrote them letters my father got letters from the devil how did he write his first letter to the devil listen to this he's walking in Tel Aviv Isaiah lived in Tel Aviv and it doesn't go Fairly anyway so he's walking and he comes over the vice a bird and he says jingle he says uh gingle uh so he was running the Yeshiva but in those days they you know they didn't tell boys about even in our days we didn't know much you know what I'm saying when we were boys and those days kosuke so he says Yeshiva says yes so he says right to the red ball letter so he says what am I going to oh and he told and he told them that his father wants him to leave Yeshiva I think was 14 to 15. she says write something up he says he says maybe as a munchiness the Eight of Cups Eight of Cups and Tel Aviv from the gas those gang you should go and you should write a letter to the river that's what he did that was the first letter that he wrote and they never answered in those days that have been answered and boys and young people that I was writing a lot more letters it was younger and there was more standards there wasn't so many people and he wrote and the rabbit you know wrote him and said I basically said you know you're going to go out of Yeshiva at this at this age and um that's how he became all about the children that's how I was born into Obama's family so uh I don't remember oh because I was telling you I was telling you hi about the [ __ ] so growing up in these Flatbush where we grew up so Shoppers day what does my father do he would keep us at the table and he would sing that healers he would sing him for an hour at the Shabbos table and we're kids and you know if we want to run around that my father didn't let us in those days it was a tough business you ran around and your backside felt it and we were scared and guess what from being scared to sit at the table and then getting into it I started to enjoy dinner and that's how I learned the good and I learned a lot and the good I'm sitting at the Shoppers table and my father would close his eyes and I'm talking about Vegas in a good name you're not talking about la la more freed and that's kill and baskill and hostile you're talking about you're talking about citizen a good name that he can he and he would sing it slow and it would sing that for 15 20 minutes a [ __ ] you know it's a gate of the nerves it like you know oh my gosh right that's what I grew up with so when I went to Yeshiva Morristown I got older and clicked and wiser and I started to understand more about these liquid and sing with the older bahram and it it it all came in so that's why I said yukai that when you sing that the Shabbos table in the Goodman with your children and and not not to exclude the others but also these type of negunim you should know it can make a difference it will make a difference in their life tell you another story before they hired me to be the rabbi the in the of this Marine County in 1984 so they they they asked me to come oh it was I was a Yeshiva buffer that was from the oldest looking in 1983 in the labich Yeshiva called that was Yeshiva um whose father was there and have a lot of awesome in and here Yeshiva in the L.A and he was he made Aliyah went there to Israeli opened Yeshiva there so he gave over the Yeshiva for a dollar to the Babbage to remember right and he had one tonight just please keep the name of my tattoo on the Yeshiva so they said no problem but we want to it's khabad so he said we could make a merger he said yes they never spoke about the name that here the belt of litoium the literature world and the Le babish world came together through this name of the Yeshiva Khan and I learned there as an older book of schlier in 1981 82 83. so this afternoon went back we stayed on to help another had meningitis and he needed help but the kids are the summer was the other summer and I'm in I'm in the Chabad office what was called Westwood the first Chabad house in the world was in California next to UCLA called Westwood at a time when a lot of hippies and druggies yeah and then this was a happening place meditation this was a happening place right next to this great school of medicine and others UCLA yeah yeah but not not the way it was there I remember even in my days in 1982 I was there for a Shabbos once and I Friday night they wanted to show me what's going on so I just walked down the street in Westwood Village you bumped into all the cave is just walking around you know what I mean it's like you couldn't move everyone was it was it was a place that was happening I don't necessarily have though but like uh Ben Yehuda was years ago or maybe today Amici slow anyway the kids said this is what happened what happened is the cunan had the first Chabad house he opened it in 66 or 67. he was first in Fairfax by Rabbi rice eating over there and he would come in with college students who would that tip pairs that the pants were torn they had ponytails they smelled went out and they said all right should get him out of here with his people we don't these aren't these aren't eaten for us we don't really you know they had no idea came from Hungary they came under secure sword that he here in Fairfax it's like in Williamsburg Memorial Park he ain't gonna make a Chabad house at that time you know it ain't gonna fly so he moved across town to Westwood which was the scene and he opened the first Chabad house on Gailey Avenue 741 Gailey Avenue uh not 77. he built later a 7-70 on Pico but uh yeah yeah right but this was 741 daily and it was the first Chabad house so I happen to be in 1983 I think in in Chabad I was I was there for something and there was a year named of Slimer Schwartz it's written name is he was called schwartzy and he was like the first Chabad campus rabbi he came out in 6970 to UCLA Cube and brought him out and he was a very very interesting person he can dab him for hours and at the same time he wear a psychedelic colorful shirt with with interesting words on his yamake and it was just tell you just to understand I have to say this the right way a very famous singer who one of his ways that he dealt with thinking and different things was he embraced women okay and uh and and he came over to Slammer they were good friends and he said his name was slam and his name was flame he said he said just just one time I I really I don't want to be you know you understand right if you don't you'll ask me afterwards so so he says just just just just a little a little one time actually what said shorts he said no way no way I'm not selling out my book with mine see this guy the money yes to be you know for the sake of KIRO that's the type of yidi was okay I outwardly you would think he's a hippie from from from Berkeley and and Westwood with his colorful shirt but but the boy just got fully board and again inside up stick brand fire so I knew him yeah I looked up to him he was older and he and everyone knew that he was the first Chabad Rabbi to go onto a campus you understand that this was this was this was an innovation this was a hiddish to go out to a college campus and stand on the campus the students then which was radicals and give you a story in Buffalo another Chabad Rabbi garari maybe he's coming I think the Nelson garage an uncle I think of this Ferrari here in Toms River yeah so his brother from Montreal his brother his younger brother Nelson so he he wasn't but he wasn't Buffalo they lives in Muncie anyway see he was out in the campus in 71 and buffalo was also very radical a lot of very bright phds Nobel Prize but a lot of radicalism in Buffalo the college Ithaca and Buffalo State anyway and he's there and he's a short guy so he makes Friday night and he makes Shabbos and he wants students to come so he gets on a little castle a little box starts from Castle and he starts darshaning he starts guys come we have a Shoppers program a Shabbos feel good okay students start gathering around him and they said we're gonna have fun with this guy they say Rabbi you're a rabbi yeah he says Rabbi could you tell us what the law is are you allowed to take the pill on Shabbos so he says a pillow shot this way he says the only menacing house was taking a sharp as if it's a peacock and that fish or something else yeah you're a lot of taken but otherwise you should avoid taking the pillar of Shabbos and of course the old broke out of laughter the pillow means the contraceptive pill they're not going to become pregnant right so that's how they lived that that that was the he came from 770 he had no idea what the reference of college students assemblies was to the pill that's what it referred to so this was the culture of the college campus scene in the 70s and really in the 60s and 70s it was a a very very secular grub culture anyway the kids are so Schwartz I come into the office he's on the phone you want to go to Marin County I didn't ask him where Marine county is what Marine county is they need a rabbi they need someone to play Rabbi for The shunningham Kipper you want to do it I said sure sure I had no idea I never heard I heard of San Francisco but Marin County never heard of Marin County and I went out but I needed someone to play got by and play cousin I can't do everything you know if I'm gonna give the direction and beat about the K and be the volcano I need someone to to help sing and govern for the Army and I took a boy a buffer named Mendel this buffer came from hippie parents it became about the Jeweler his parents were hippies in the 60s and they still lived like hippies he was described by Chabad in Long Beach California and he became about shuva I'm telling you this because and I taught him the gun and he was so enamored with the goodness then later I lost he lost touch with us and and I don't know where he is today but what I'm telling you this but I'm convinced because he was really a strong bowel monarching that then they couldn't have learned when we were in Yeshiva together this will pile on him to do truva wherever he is in the world I don't know I'm convinced that the negunim will talk one day to him and will give him excited us and and he'll he'll come back he'll come if it's happening because a Negan of the nishama a [ __ ] that comes from talking about a Lincoln from the Sherman not just another like like a [ __ ] that comes from the Sharma and it's and the person who makes the Negan is about the Sharma he's one of the biggest the key in manuscripts his name is laser katzman and I've laser katzman you know he's around the corner for me so he told me that he had a yeah in 1967 he was getting married I forget torador's daughter he was a tomat Hoffman and he was a town and he um he had relatives about but just he wanted they should play the author that was Negan at the wedding the balutania's naked were getting very popular we're popular so she said she wants a [ __ ] foreign but you know he had feelings and he had for stunning and relatives and he asked it but is it a minute this was he told me this himself this is the question is it a minute that you must play the outer Rebels nigging out of laborator at a wedding at a laborator wedding at a laboratory wedding so did Eva did not answer it it's a mini Chabad that you must play down to their business although you guys all know that at every liberature wedding they played out to them but that's the only [ __ ] that we play Under the Babbage but that episode like this what's a Nikki a naked is the pen of the soul the shamaret right a Nigam is how the nisham expresses itself like this as he revealed if you want the balatanya Del Caribe zionista spilled the malta Rebel sneak and play the altered as a vehicle I don't know if he said but he said as if now you have to touch up this word that ever said it's not to put down to slaymo to him the verse is that can you compare to down to them make you compare and digging from the out there but anyone from or the electricity the Negan is a tool to his nisham it's not the shot that here someone has a good musical understanding and has good Tunes the Hulu it makes a [ __ ] that's not about is and the truth is that's not what the Nagina was he had an expression I know anyone a nickel is doing a shaman pumps nope so that Kaya was a long explanation of the importance of singing good name teaching your children specifically and because you know that when if I told you the history of some of these you would be amazed these were you didn't that didn't have what to eat didn't have what to sleep where to sleep and they dabbing for four or five hours with this which is called it's unbelievable the yearning the yearning the yearnings designed foreign you know it's like a friend of mine says when's the last time excuse the expression you had a love affair with your with God you have a lot of Faith with your pillow I mean you grabbed your pillow and I flew from metal huh I grabbed the pillow when he grabbed me the pillow grab God grab the Englishman that's what we're talking about we're talking about a yeet that makes a Negan like that it's a whole different it's it's a whole different world and when you sing that [ __ ] and you was bringing on your metabolic and that nigging it rubs off and it doesn't rub off today it rubs off tomorrow and that's why I tell you when I was a child and I was growing up I didn't want to sit at the table to hear my father's but years later years later and then that's it so anyway long to Russia but that's the importance yeah