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Perfecting Feelings: Joy and Frustration - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin
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Maamar Hahalila 1940 #9
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they page 366 were towards the end of
the of the chapter and we'll finish
today British em and tomorrow I would
like to speak a little bit about Shiva
super combos and the three weeks of give
a little sear on that okay
so we're learning here about the the
importance of having positive anxiety
and because the demurrer says secrets of
the Torah are not given only to those
that worry within themselves they're
concerned about the theta and they're
anxious in a way that they want to know
the secrets they're not happy just
knowing the outer surface they're
looking for the secrets which is the
entire schita of the Baal Shem Tov
tell us about Shem Tov so this is really
up our alley this whole important idea
let's continue now page 366 it's the end
of the first paragraph five lines the
six lines from the end of the paragraph
the third word on that line home the
line starts with the words shepherd rows
a Torah you have it yoni you got it yeah
okay so there's two words in this helm
Iceland daf care when Misha Libra died
bikini boy because I'll say Mohsen who
is given by Hashem the secrets only one
that worries within themselves they lay
the egg who engine hum birdie knows what
does it mean to have a whirring heart
that means to have frustration Fahad
aqueon I love the world Kaguya we have
got the gaya with the game is to yearn
to lie
little what and then ya hit someone
right and you're longing and yearning I
wanted I needed so they got glue him huh
boy him actually a simpler Enoch when I
got GU him are true and not false and
not contrived when it follows a simpler
and I make a joy and pleasure that you
have about her Shannon about Torah and
if you feel happy about Torah and I said
and you have pleasure from that then
you're got glee and my real and here -
I'm not gonna elaborate by should but I
just gotta finish to mindler it's a
great insight to think about and you
guys can think about it as you go on
through the day that when how do you
know someone's got glue am i real how do
you know if someone's yearning and
longing is real and it may be fake
maybe it's its wannabe it may be its
hopeful how do you know they're real so
that ever says here if they come after
simplifying dick once you have real
simcha in your life about what you
should have seen about a sin theta
kedusha
then when you're lacking that you say I
need it I must have it but if you don't
have real simple Enoch in her salmon and
Toyota and in living the life like I
need then to say I yearn for you i sham
you're full of it excuse the expression
you're a faker or you're a fool you
don't really have real gukhui in its
wannabe W it's it's contrived Kaguya but
real yearning and longing comes when you
feel something's missing from you you
use the word missing guilty right to say
something
from you you have to really be in love
with it you have to be really happy
about it you have to be really what it's
like today and we take it for granted
and all the sudden it's taken away from
us and now again round okay okay so the
difference between someone who has real
degree in for going to shul is if
they're going to shul was part of them
and it was who they are so then you know
not having it you have a great at SEMA
own a great thirst and it's a real
thirst you know and this by the way it's
it's easily said what I'm saying but to
feel this and to live it is a whole
experience this is the experience of
bonding and attaching yourself to Hashem
potato and to something that's important
or someone who you care about you know
Slade my MELAS talks about playlist
album in sheer Assyrian lovesick and he
uses the muscle of a man and a female
where the the person if the person is
not in their life they become sick out
of love because the kid loves them so
much and it's a metaphor for us IV in
our avoid the session when you don't
have something that is important to you
and who you are then you get clay masala
you get sick from from love sick meaning
it really bothers you let's continue
Rahzel CLE IV were five or six lines
from the end of the sect the list the
first paragraph in 360 c6 gazelle
clearly Nick waha Tom Shippey drazi
Taylor and this is the vessel for the
pleasure and reason
oh and of the secrets of the tailor the
alien South particle happily truly
absolutely as needless below your
Nicaragua bit is live at here is another
important bombshell line that the rebel
says to experience the infinity of God
which is bleed fool EF char is
impossible to be grasped leo snip truss
to have lo be an igloo vive not old not
just by having pleasure
and guess what for libel divas LaVon and
not just by being frustrated if you find
someone who's only in the mode of
Olenick and he says I'm all I'm all
excited than ecstatic about godliness
but he doesn't display any frustration
with his own advisor in regard to Hashem
he's not there and the same is true if
someone's only frustrated but he doesn't
display any by neg any pleasure and love
he's also not there and I said I tell
you this over and I saw this with the
rabbit the rabbit can be speaking and
one moment he's so happy
he so joyous he's clapping he's singing
is making saying behind two people and a
few minutes later he starts speaking and
he can't chokes up but he can't talk
we're still in goes how do you go from
ecstasy in God to frustration in God
what we're learning here is that's the
truth because when it comes from your
very essence they come together because
they're really one of the same that's
the point of the mindler when are they
different notions and even opposite
notions that there's no room for the
other when you're in one when you're in
one orientation there's no room from the
other orientation when it's not you but
if it's really you there's a place place
for both when you have a chance just
check out what it says at the end of
chapter 34 and Tonja the other quotes of
pieces are sadness is aged and once
the heart and happiness is edged on the
other side of the heart and they work
Simon they work simultaneously if you
plugged in the right way came back to
the text
Cunningham Jakob hurry neva said though
only when are you really on board and on
the right path when both come together
the aleena Crescenta the pleasure and
the end the joy
it's a tannish Hetson for in yuba tooth
town by feeling the essential issue here
that so delicious is so good
mohamed eaters Happiny me obamas l and
the inner frustration that's caused
because of this in other words when you
listen to this when you really
appreciate something and become one of
something it bothers you very much so
when you don't have that in your life or
it bothers you when yeah it bothers you
that that there are times when you're
not living this type of life and you
can't live with yourself and you're like
I'm happy
why why why why other times that were
unhappy so you ask an average person
will tell you because you you're not
fulfilled you're lacking this you're
lacking that city says you're unhappy
because your true self realizes how much
more potential you have and your true
self knows what's good and pleasurable
and really special and anything short of
that makes you unhappy so therefore
don't blame your unhappy unhappiness on
your wife on your kids on your job on
your rabbi I'm president Trump uncovered
blame it on yourself
because the person is living with
happiness and that's a big avoider two
very big and so difficult to fight but
if we live with happiness and we're
content then
then the frustration is coming from a
healthy perspective so in other words
frustration is not only acceptable but
frustration is obligatory that's what
we're learning in this Mimer
if anyone just you know sees themselves
in the mode of happiness and not in the
mode of frustration that's proof that he
hasn't really become one with what he's
happy about I want to make sure that you
follow am i clear what I'm saying
something that is dear and important to
you is the stimulus for the frustration
when you don't have that and so
therefore it's not coming from an
unhealthy place it's coming from a
healthy place and if it's coming from a
healthy place it's all about you not
about someone else we tend to is blame
the other person or the other thing for
what's going down and that's why I say
and then believe me I'm not there yet
but I understand what we're learning
here at least to help I do that what we
understand from this is like this listen
to this that the fact motion and I were
talking about before about the covet and
how everything's chaotic still today
it's true Hashem sent it into the world
but a sham sent it to me and to you and
therefore we need to take responsibility
in other words let's call a spade a
spade are we blaming God maybe ourselves
so I wanted to say well everything done
so much heavy on me everything's gonna
Shem we didn't have the cove it before
poram or whatever before January ever
right we didn't have it the open lean
and now it's here and look what it's
causing so Hashem you eat it
excuse the expression please I shall
forgive me for using those words
listen we're learning here in the moment
that that attitude means that you're
really not in love with fashion that
we're not really love with a chef if
we're in love with that yep what is
your question sure can we say can we say
though we know though that can't we say
I know that this is a cloud we can you
say that go to Sparkle shine me spurn
you put me in this world you gave me
talents abilities the situation that I'm
in but you but let us if you want us to
serve you know I want to say what I want
to say is if you want us to do we're
supposed to do so make the situation in
the world be one that we can do our we
can do what we're supposed to do this
world meaning meaning you know like I'm
taking this off of like you know stories
like you know you know that story what's
brought about i'm tish above i forgot
what was that sinem that we're having
that they were playing up and sitting up
in the attic and they were like they had
this rope and you know whoever walked in
the door that would pull the rope and
they would lift him up and then the red
man himself walks in the door and they
lift him up so he screams - goes bonkers
wrong clue look at you look at you look
at you consider them they're not they
they can't deal with the day so taking
away already writing just thinking can
we also use that same formula to I
wouldn't I would answer but you can if
you take responsibility you can't if you
don't take responsibility because we
responsibility what what are you what
are you what are we doing about the
situation in other words what's going to
happen is going to happen that's
his borehole and do we have a right to
ask a share of absolutely but what you
said hashem please take this away but
the the fact until it's taken away and
it's here we need to take responsibility
and in manis Friedman has a theory and
he got he was lambasted for it you know
but he doesn't have a theory and I don't
want to go I don't want to get into this
now because it's a whole separate parsha
you know with the abuse the abuse the
abused should be abused blame the abuser
or so the abused take responsibility
it's a very very touchy subject so you
know in a way but I'm extrapolating you
know in a way we're being abused I'm you
know I'm metaphorically speaking okay
we're being slapped around beaten down
broken into pieces so now it's now you
have two choices either you say what can
I do to make good out of it that's me
that's what it means taking
responsibility simultaneously you have a
right and an obligation to dive into a
sermon but you said before I said please
take it away so it's not a contradiction
mission so what I was saying is but if
you don't take responsibility and you
don't find the good within the problem
then it's a cop-out what you're just
asking us in because you just want to
get it will get off easy
so again should we search for the
terrorists absolutely not you're not
allowed to lobby but once I said for
whatever infinite reason gave you a
Sarah gave you a problem gave you a
challenge you have an obligation to make
use of it in a positive way and that's
my answer to you and I think it's clear
yes
thanks I just so just I don't know it's
like the question would never put
something it's similar to emotion that's
that's Kim is excuse me
is that a lot of the times don't we make
our own service I mean yeah shem sent us
to cope with Hashem said you know a lot
of bad things the Holocaust but a lot of
times we are we we can't get out of our
own way and we make our own service it's
a bad investment or you know that
judgment no absolutely absolutely and
you know the famous Seifert yummy on the
on Yom Kippur and the Asura see made
sugar what do we say and I'll hate you
keep outrage at the pond Allah finesse
huh I shan't forgive us for the iniquity
for the transgression b8 Sahara for me
using my yetzer Hara wait a minute
every of eras the 8th Sahara so I have a
special line item for the y8 Sahara all
the other outfits are for this sinner
for that sin for that sin right who
prompts all those sins the hor oh so
then if so why make a special line-item
Hashem please forgive me for having a
gate Sahara what a minute you came to
the gate Sahara Whitely why am I asking
for forgiveness and the the explanation
and the vert is there certain things you
Yates or Hara wouldn't think about doing
and only you with your freewill slept
the 8th saw her into it that's what you
were saying you okay you know so all the
other you know cheating and and jealousy
and and disrespect and on and on and on
those are things that is the norm for
the Yeats of horror but then there's
certain things that you bring upon
yourself you just don't stop and you
just forget the heart isn't even is not
interested in participating and you
don't let him rest and you slept the
eighths or her in I'll hate you for no
finesse
I asked uh sim forgive me even for that
mr. das that I was so wacky and cuckoo
that I brought the Yeats of her into
something that I didn't want to do but I
never heard that
that's heavy that's heavy Robin ever
heard that concept that's why that's why
you gotta come to considers but rabbi
thousand seven eight in the morning in
the afternoon you'll hear things you
never heard before and now you next
through Yom Kippur you'll stop and you
won't just but say words not know what
you're saying you'll take a half an hour
you put your towels over your head then
you'll cry your heart out about this one
line and then I promise you after Yom
Kippur you'll say that was great the
first Yom Kippur I really felt like I
cleaned my slate or at least I'm on the
road anyway but no but but it's a deep
concept than anyone should say he pushes
laughing if he should say it both in and
you only bring up good points important
ones so one hand we bring in ourselves
it's it's a by the way senator it's a
rule in class al mikeraboy wait Sahara
you know Megara boy means that you this
eviscerates done it means he he excites
his own yetzer hara to get involved in
other words stop stop here so the eight
Sahara won't antagonize you more no he
doesn't stop here so he is assisting the
eight Sahara to do its job don't do that
and by the way that's the whole idea of
the d'haran see Allah Torah the friends
avi what's the whole I did yesterday all
discussing with some others I see the
Emir but the Satmar o
satmar rebbe everyone looks as a fanatic
you know anti-israel the anti Zionist
everything else right and I explained to
them because I studied him you know when
I wrote my book on Safin Allah Babich
that I don't believe that's how who he
was in this really self he didn't want
you should get here so he made a friends
over here so if I stop you here I don't
get here like what Israelis
yes between the Arabs in there right I
don't want you to come in here so I make
a fence there but if you if if you would
not come past your border and you would
stay there I would never make a fence
but I know that you're not gonna listen
and you're going to come in I have to
make a fence there so there the whole
idea of shablow Torah is based on this
idea but let's get back to the text TM
so he says wahdahu Mikayla onion as
Eddy's dust then when a person finds
room in his heart to express both
happiness and frustration then he
reaches and add his dust
this is who he is Keith Reaser selenium
Africa's a doctor because grasping the
idea getting it having it warrants of
both noses and this is even though the
coming up tomorrow begins the three
weeks this is the cycle of Judaism it's
a cycle that that demands and has both
happy periods and sad periods and if you
mix the two and you then it's a problem
what do I mean mix the two there's a big
time for this enough time for that
that's why he said earlier that if the
tears coming from frustration from a
negative side and you're in the mode of
simcha that he says you can't really
experience that those tears but if the
steers are coming from your happiness
that's possible you know so look we
stand under the Hupa we come to a
hospital
this always Marvel's me you know this is
such such a beautiful time the hustle
and cover the relatives your marrying
off your child and what do we do at the
last moment of the Hupa and with the
hazael say how close
after I've hit them everything follows
the last thing the bottom line people
just remember what you do the last time
in your life the last rep read write
what you did 30 years ago everyone
forgets but the last thing I remember
well want you to remember 30 years ago
what's the last thing they do with the
Hopa we break a glass because we're
mourning the destruction of the base a
big dose and and I what I think about
this it's so sad that this is what I'm
left with from the whole hook now why
there was the kuba and the brushes and
the DVAR Torah and and then the whole
the band of course that the condition to
be thrown well you know me like but the
last thing the last thing is what I was
stuck in my head and what's the answer
there is no complete simpler without the
realization that the base of knickers is
not here and understand that and that
should not break you but it should get
you to move further how could I build
the base on mikdash that's the answer
that is the result that's what ascent
wants of us not to fall into a
depression class of surely but to go
further as the famous verse from the
Carlina
there's no group there's the Atlas
depression of melancholy is not a sin is
not a nivara but what it leads to no
other sin can lead to most admires
escape they don't see him in this he
should be hearing this and then and then
Moses sit down and listen you'll find
you'll hear gems and you'll have what to
work with don't escape I'm okay with you
okay so the vert is the Carlina the holy
tsadik said being depressed or being
melancholy it's not a sin that you won't
find it in the 613 I'm sorry I'm even
the seven rabbinic ones you want to be
said you're allowed to
but he said what this issue can lead to
no other synth can lead to depression
melancholy and then he said going to the
mixer there's not a Mitzvah for a man
it's found amidst a search app but what
going to the mixer can lead to no other
Mitzvah can lead to and why is that why
is that ask anyone on the street from
all of the Hasidim I bet you they won't
be able to tell you and I'm gonna tell
you what happens when you go to the
mixer you unroll your your in your
essence and you immerse yourself under
the water you say to a Shem I'm all
yours all my clothing and all my facade
and all my understanding and all my
feelings forget it for a few minutes
when I go into the mixer I am in a true
state and that true state itself I
immerse myself under the waters of
purity the waters of a shell you use you
submerge yourself actively proactively
into the waters of a shell and that is
the base of all mixes because when a
mitzvah comes along and you say it's hot
it's uncomfortable it's difficult I
can't do it I don't want to do it leave
me alone
if you were to remember that you're only
here because of a sham you would you
wouldn't say that you wouldn't feel that
you would be running to the Mitzvah the
mix experience is the embodiment of
saying I'm all yours and that's why the
holy Karolina rebus said going to the
mixer it will bring the person to such
Heights in avoidance a sham that no
other Mitzvah can bring if you have a
better explanation
use it but why am I saying this here
because you know there are certain
things that we we picked up in yeshiva
that weren't in a way mandatory but
important and one of them in our yeshiva
in the poverty Shiva was going to the
mixer
she candle everyday at least Monday and
Thursday with the Torres red air of
Shabbos and of course hopefully you know
given it's a healthy situation you know
talking about when things are are normal
and the faucet they're a bear Kahane
prep barrel hey he lived in there to
talk about he was a Russian Jew so I
heard from someone who hosted him in his
house in in my I think Moscow a Leonard
about somewhere Russia during the 30s
1930s or 40s and he was constantly on
the run because the KGB was after him so
there was a myth for nearby but the
Mitzvah was shut because the government
said all Jewish institutions need to be
shut at least the other Talmud Torah is
and the mitzvot cuz the mitzvot that saw
as a woman's Mitzvah they didn't really
see it as a men's mikvah and in women
you know goes to the mitzvah before we
have relations and having a child so
anything to do with the the the
continuation of the Jewish people
they tried stopping right so he heard
there's a mitzvah and he has to adopt
say goes to the mixer and there's the
however he saved in Hebrew but there's
the the person in charge the Travis say
says I'd like to go to intimate first he
says I'm sorry it's closed we're not
letting anyone in because if we let him
in he might any was in the winter it was
very cold freezing forget a cold he'll
have to go to the doctor the hospital
they'll interrogate him they'll check
him out they'll find out where he's
staying and it'll just cause more more
of us to be put a sent away put away so
the person who told this
his brother lives actually in in air
distribution love in his name miss you
love and he's a he's also was also so
fair but he's already 90 year old man
sells anger zone very special custody
recovered mr. lovin told me that the way
this Rebecca thing became outraged at
the sarvesh jumping up and down he said
if you don't give me the key to the mix
I'm gonna break the door open and and
and he was just added the truth and he
just gave him the key he had to go to
the mixer now that's an extreme
situation okay but it just shows you
that even though going to the mixer is
not a Mitzvah it's not like pudding I'm
feelin but for this better to say going
to the mixer was what made us fill in a
special experience so you know when we
go through a time when we have you know
a global pandemic we have you know
issues that everyone and anyone will
have the and Eden everyone agrees
there is a there's something much
greater than us that's happening we need
you know it's good to have an extra
purification so if you're able to get to
a mitzvah if you can't get to a mental
stand on to the shower and have in mind
as the water comes down that this this
these few moments that I'm standing
extra in the shower the water coming
down is my mixer because there is a
concept like that to the beauty you know
to purify this time I thought came to me
let's continue the my McCready want to
finish it may you can behave of the Year
assemblies be I thought so to love and
fear can be together collaboration da
Matta podium shame is mana hero right
the days of all our days of fear then
the crime beyond the narrator him the
cold days evolved the whole you throwing
the tacos okay
Goosen all hidden feel close to our sin
during that time
well okay Nene avoided initially people
avoid the arts means what is the avada
what are you working with our servant
keeper yoni with your essence behave of
the year to care cut love or fear
together they come together as Lu a mr.
colleano one long day next page 367
hello yes is how cuz the young velena
there is no differentiation between day
and night he inflamed careful it's all
both are one one of the same one long
day he goes back to the castle that he
quoted earlier in the mind mary zell
money houma young Malaysia the fazal
said only that whoever says Margot Sorel
I share Mel okay Noah Shem occurred
lengthens their foot gets a gift he gets
long days and long year so long years
would mean you live long
what is long days so this means giggly
honey there's the eczema nephesh he will
be blessed to have an essential
experience coming from his soul shame by
our host Billy have all of his helpers
they won't they demonstrate different
distinction rather those needles will be
in unison with each other that's the
meaning of a ríos it's all one normally
it's not one there's love and this fear
that Simpson is frustration so the
Gemara saying if you create unity
between night and day
meaning you cause it to be all one long
day avi it's the longer day and night
that's one long day it's the day
representing daily revelation shining
it's right this means that in your
expect experience in your heart will be
such that the love and fear the
frustration the simple will come
together and you'll be able to you know
live in harmony and not see them as
victory forces and he says Mazzello
hallelu now concludes the Mindlin we
began with a and she ran into
Hillard Psalm 146 where governor Malik
says I hallelu I will praise Hashem you
cave of K bhai with my life
Roselli can we as always Osama and we
explained before it went this is the
mode of serving God with what's called
your soul meaning from the perspective
of the December I will say boy you they
have dumber it only comes if you have a
preparation which is Azam but Overlake
ibid I will sing to Hashem with my mind
with my goof they'll avoid Arabic Lago
biscotti owned by first and foremost and
being active in annulling your body and
it's in its desires through subjugation
through controlling it so he whoever is
yourself the Adhan tomba das that's a
logical Aveda right everyone knows that
if you abuse yourself and this in that
way it's a big problem so it makes sense
stop don't overeat don't oversleep don't
over smoke they don't over drink etc
etcetera etcetera you don't have to be
you know a bit closer than a big diverse
receiver to understand why you should
control yourself
so it's katya the abode of discussion is
sensible is logical and hebrew LP conv
does so by first introducing that in
your life and by first acting that way
and doing practicing that activity
mcgill of leadership my limit on god us
then it helps you reach the service that
transcends logic the hyssop her by then
actually transforming and converting
car central in the later doctors delight
so the first thing in the average normal
thing for us is to control the situation
once we do that long enough and we
succeed then we're given kind of a gift
where they can act
we'll be a transformation where the
problem itself has changed to being a
springboard for good but that's a second
dive later but they said who give a
criticizing him this reveals the
essential is suing an idealist jungnam
that's a TSS youngin so if you ask at
the end of the mind mer
so what is long life I rehearse youngnam
a long days not just being an old man at
80 or 90 or 100 and as the famous
clustered up you could seal up your yoni
when the Alton ever wanted a wish him
long life he said forever
however revi nice came players Sharon
not came bores years and your blessing
me Moshe both motions if your blessing
me was a Bors years I don't want it I
don't want to live another day I only
want to live if I live like a year you
know what's worse than a fool an old
fool hey we can get white and oh and you
can be fresh and then you could be no
fool
so that ever says that when do we
experience closest acts Miam I'm sorry
when do we have a recess Youngman long
life when you get to experience the
combination of joy and frustration at
the same time and a veneer at the same
time that is the ultimate the ultimat
long day so in other words when it when
you're settled and really when you look
at someone who is an older person and
and you know that that person burned his
his years and and makes value of his old
years you see that they they learned how
to balance the good
and the bad times they found a mechanism
to really really make them work in
harmony that's that's the real are--this
young I read this young man just sitting
on the couch and and I'm playing your
Nintendo or surfing that you know the
web all day no might and just wasting
your life you know why don't you guys
start writing some of you are a little
older right your life's experiences I
was sitting my father today note is 82
years old and it's telling you that
think 65 years ago 60 years ago in
detail I was a blood listening that he
knows exactly what time he came to 770
the first time that he came in 1958 he
remembers who greeted him at the boat
what what his relatives said and what
the Labov ature said where he went when
he went to sleep who's Betty slept on I
mean why why it's not just that you know
you're blessed with a good memory and
and you know it's when something is
ingrained in you very ingrained in you
meaningful meaningful now if a Shem
Tov's to show them you know gives you an
illness god forbid her you Lucia
dementia you know worse you know that
again those are the exceptions and
that's not for us to understand that is
Hasan's Department but but the gomorian
it's a good model what I'm saying is
that the motor die turn shall tell me
this I call him the minds of the people
who learn tell you are invested and data
miss as that it comes to km as they
become ill elderly becomes sharper and
sharper and item shall army our heads
and the minds of the ignorant season
income older and older it becomes weaker
and weaker but you'll say well this guy
is 90
five and he didn't learn the word of
Torah to send an email or a fax or a
text or a Twitter to God and asked me a
question because I don't have an answer
but what I do know is that on the
average this is a true a true cloud this
is a true cloud and this foot goes into
the whole other idea you know if we're
searching for answers there's something
called reincarnation and past life
there's all kinds of things that have
taken place that we're not what anything
aware of you know where was you the
summer before maybe you're being
moussaka something from before and
that's why this is you to remember
because you have to deal with this issue
there's all kinds of new possibilities
possibilities total possibilities not
you know l ron hubbard possibilities
total possibilities may Hashem helped
evident that tomorrow mr. Shem I do want
to talk a little about Shiva Sabha
Thomas and the three weeks so please
join if you have Korea I hope you do and
and then not past kidding but I think
most of that I brought to say if you're
not well you know don't fast that you
can fastest 1/2 a day if you could do
that and then divert min file something
you know that would be a great thing but
even if you don't have Korea and don't
feel guilty and and and you know give
extra sadaqa sadaqa is a substitute for
fasting so the equivalent the out there
the equivalent of a suit yourself say if
you if you spent $5.00 on a meal you
should be giving $10 tomorrow because a
person needs to seduce a day if you're
able to you know so there are ways of
mitigating the the fast issue have a
great day lehayim
and I will see you tomorrow bye bye yes
commas in the peanut peanut gallery
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