Overcoming Weaknesses

today we're in the mayama kuntus of mine we're on page 193 in the kitchen the motherboard page which will uh refresh us it says the nature of man is to blame his own shortcomings and uh deficiencies on his friend the sea bus type of 195 is and any no good that he has he he um he prides himself that's because of him ava satsuma we learned yesterday that self love hat toys or mccoy is the reason why um we make mistakes and it's avi could you mind muting yourself please um and it's the source of blemishes deficiencies because of our self love self pity and all that the justification that the reason why we're so um upset and angry justifying it because it's natural to my uh nature says that but it's a lie it's not true you hear that ever says here so remember yesterday we spoke about moroccans moroccans persians whatever whoever the individuals are that that are hot-blooded that ever says you're able to control yourself therefore shaker it's false to blame your culture and the same is true with russian culture hungarian culture american culture you know question everything because we come from this in this country we don't trust because we come from this in this country you know and so we all walk around with what we call culture cultural biases and the rabbit says here checker it's baloney because you have the ability to control all of those negative dispositions says this is the advantage that man has over angels now my dear friends did we learn in this last chapter this last thing that the rep is referring to in the synopsis to the advantage of man over angels i don't see it until the accuser that's right and here is again a blatant proof like i've told you over and over that there are things in the kitchen that's a kids are supposed to be a synopsis of what it says in the text in the previous chapter well i here he says he's it's a kid sir for the pr for chapter pericardium alhamdulillah we didn't talk about that openly obviously actually i take that back we did talk about it but it wasn't emphasized look on page 193. actually did speak about it openly but he didn't he so he why did mentions create man and it wasn't suffice with angels because they don't have the yates and there's no novelty to their avoid them it's natural for them to serve hashem i guess you know and he says he says as explained elsewhere that what hashem is looking for avi is the kidus the kid is the novelty that's what turns god on that and the novelty comes from something that is contrary to the way the natural phenomena should be and you do it otherwise that's a hiddush so malachim it's not it's not contrary to what they are and what they do it's their abode it's their norm machine can conversely man it's not their norm and man does look to justify their wrongs and pride themselves on their good so that happened the kids are mindless in those few short words alludes to what we did actually read in the chapter now let's go to page base to further elucidate this idea the independence say the moving clause because really it's not understood it needs clarity the idea that the inefficiencies has the ability with gabriel never shabbas and why does this need clarity so he says the genic sieve it says initially the first is righteous in his quarrel to possibility or pedestrian to this david the commentator matsuda's david explains um that the first to argue his side can flavor his words and be persuasive for there is no one to dispute him he's giving the first opinion each one's argument weakens the other one's arguments i will if one comes by themselves she's he can basically pull the wool over your eye we're saying i can't drain the cup it can make you nuts confuse you why there's no one to say otherwise so how do you know he's not telling your story moshe are you with me you hear the difference between and that so that's apostate initially sati when someone argues his position first before anyone else is there to confront him right sadiq he comes out righteous because you know what you don't know better using this plastic and this idea look at the rabbit says regardless the godly drive and the animal-like drive are contrary to each other's ethos to each other's message each other's ideas when did nephew commence its activity as soon as man was born the moment when he exits his mother's womb says it says he said way for other brahmin from his youth says the medic the word nur of avi also comes from the word nina which means to shake from the moment that he is shook out from his mother's meme from his mother's womb from that moment on right away the yates of her is carrying on you hear that you would think the eight sahara gives you some time to breathe you know get acclimated to this world and then i'll make you nuts no way as soon as you exit your mother's womb yes jonason hello hello you are they say that that if the atro was given to the baby inside the mother's womb it would destroy it was what it would it would it would display the mother's womb to get out okay i never heard that but i can hear the point i hear the point but the point the fact is that the eighth of heart is not within the baby yeah please put on please put on your mute again therefore a lad is pouring while a lad who is poor and wise is better than an old and foolish king of yellow biscuits who is called a a a poor and wise child the yates are tafe the llama nikkishma yelled what do we call the aids of a yell at a child his daughter claude and because he doesn't come to men eliminate himself only at 13 he is when his his he is revealed to man and it's so that is better than melissa from an old full and old foolish king they yet why is he called an elder shall miss david lawyer because he was already in this 13 year old from birth until he until the end of his life therefore what is the rapper saying here so far that who has precedence in man it's the yates and horror the nephew shabbat is over and officially kiss welcome to the murderer right from the time of conception next page page 197 this is only in regards to it being given to man ellis it doesn't impact man you'd give us so yes the yetzer tell you if the nephesh of the kiss is within the yid from the moment of birth but that it's there in a reserved form it doesn't have a pu'ola it doesn't do an activity until bar mitzvah in kane precedes his argument his position precedes the nephesha other kiss so so the rapper's point being that that from the perspective of the nephesh holy kiss and efficiently kiss gets involved in the situation only later not as early as the nephesh obama's to our chagrin and that's why we form bad habits and that's why it's in youth and that's what's so important to educate children with good habits and good behavior and everything else those first 13 years and that is why the rebbe in the early years spoke a lot about the importance of educating children and amongst the things that he spoke about was having them learn only limudei kaidish at least until nine years old because that's the foundation and afterwards he said if you want to study secular studies afterwards no problem you know whatever it's enough but the foundation the assert needs to be tater and munna this reminds this remind this reminds this reminds me of the story with the rebel ashram actually and the previous rabbinators three daughters they freed the karabaya had three daughters right the rebels was the second one and shane was the the youngest he hired the director you know they were raised in lebanon she hired for them to teach them and the rebel ashab once asked the daughters of the degree his grandchildren like what are you learning so they said they're learning the different things and and different things and they happened to say that the malamutes said about one of the one particular thing they were learning that it's not to be taken literally when the rabbit hashab he said please let go of this malamad right away give him compensation and this i'm i'm paraphrasing you know but that's it why because a mulamite who strips the the the sincere munna doesn't see this of the of the verses of the tator in its literal form is is undermining the assad the foundation and that is not right and that's terrible for no good so you know people ask me about various things reading and if you have a yasod if you're sod if your foundation is tighter and really well grounded and tighter then everything else is water off your back okay but if you're lacking if you're lacking via sight and you introduce other disciplines and philosophies it's very dangerous i think i told you this a few weeks ago the person who wrote an article badmouthing his father for giving him at 10 years old books that were written by masculine a book that was written by a mosquito in russia or poland whatever and it left such an impression on him that today he's not religious and he's using that as an argument why my father didn't you know send me to a yeshiva where they study english right and and and overall his argument is hey if you gave me a book written by a moscow to read at 10 years old obviously you you you believe that that's what i should be reading and his question is a very good one and the father made a very big error at least at least from the way it sounds okay i happen to know the father and the person i know them both what do we see from this we see that the assad has to be a munna ava and as the alternative says in the genus of kurdish when he comforts rabble yitzhak of berdychev for losing his son mayor the famous higher sacred 28 27 and the beer if you don't have the assad you have no business looking into other philosophies because it's just going to confuse you and i would say that this is true also for an adult i mean we all have free will we can do whatever we want but we're talking about if if you want to grow the tree healthy and nice and not have issues later on not that there's any guarantee there's no guarantees however the majority of people that do this have success and this leads me to another important point once we're talking about this and briefly i have seen in my years people that allow their children and educate their children with modernity to have problems later in life now the argument is well we see many people who are very froome and very hacific and and on and on and they still have children who do things that are not what the parents wanted to do you're right so there are there might be other issues that that we need to look at and at the end of the day we're not god i'm not god no one knows but what we could say is is almost a fact is i i remember someone who's writing in emma's i remember i i knew him as a bachelor you know and i remember with the way he was to learn and he was he was totally into it then he would learn with ruby oil i remember i remember and i was like i was a younger broker and i was most impressed and then later he became a little more moderate and he got involved with um with a shleak and he was helping and became a big mocker and then he ended up marrying someone who i'm sure his parents were not happy about because she came from you know either you know a different type of family and it ended in a divorce and i saw the way he he dressed his kids i don't mean him only maybe him and his wife together and let the the frontal hair grow they had a chip what we call a chop and i saw the modernity and the next thing i knew he was divorced and luckily brother hashem and and it went downhill from there but luckily hashem he remarried towards the end of his life a few several years before he passed away and then he passed away and he became actually called mashibia what i'm saying is that you know the way we as parents raise our children what we teach them and the way we live and what we we show them is important has a big big impact you know and and by the way this is not my hidden this says in the previous level writes it in the famous letter which i hope you've read at least and have not you learned read and you should con with the previous lays out his his philosophy of how to educate both students and and children and he says clearly that there's a difference between children and students who come from a wealthy home and a or a poor home or not so wealthy students who come from a large city or a suburb he identifies my recollection is is correct four ideas that makes a difference in the student's behavior and he says a educator and a parent he's talking mostly to educators at least his languages to educators needs to focus in on the student where he or she comes from and that's the way to educate them and if you don't have that background says that ever you push it misleading the the student and hurting them for life and you can't compare all the students because they come from different backgrounds now this is such a important teaching to or set to assess properly the students so people say well how can i do that if i have 20 20 20 20 25 kids in my classroom well before you start school get the roster find out about all the children and you know deal with them accordingly so all of this i'm sharing with you based on what we're learning in the my middle ear with the rebbe says that the yetzer hora the nepheshabamis has precedence in man over the nether shall he kiss the age of 12. and that needs to be taken into consideration we are raised overall even in the best of homes like wild donkeys that's what it says in the tater the toyota says that yates from youth only that at age 13 bar and basmitsu for girl age 12 does the nephesh elokiss and the yetzer tov become active right so there's a message here and and ask yourself why did hashem do this and that's what the reputation is analyzing here in this chapter why did god do this so when we say that one has the ability to control their urgent urges and their indulgences and their behavior you have to ask yourself a question yaakov how is that i i didn't have that ability i didn't have that active in me for 13 years of my life so for 13 years i'm being raised by a nepheshop bombings by ayatsuhara and basically i'm a wild donkey so what do you want what do you expect the the it's not a full scale it's not a balanced scale it's not it's not this is what they're ever saying here so we're in the middle of the theme let's see how he he gets out of this trap let's continue now the nephews are the keys no gosh 197 third line on the page from the perspective of the body of the goof all ideas of indulgences of eating and drinking habits habit forming are rooted in the child from youth if specific more specifically if he happens to be not in a good environment that's exactly what i just told you that's drawn after the material in physical and he's raised that way and he called in all those no good habits are embedded in him as the saying goes hair gil practice habit becomes nature or second nature but it becomes part of you shikasha been oily put on a ham and then it becomes so difficult to while at the same time the nephilim kiss didn't have a chance yet to settle a man in the child in kane if so harry never shot bombings who caused a carbohydrate kiss the nephesh obama is stronger than africa is much stronger the rohingya obama's nicki minaj that's why we call in the verse which the mel the nephilim is called the old king the lavazza is to hit them tight no moisture behold in addition to him having precedence and dominating no matters in he's an old seasoned expert in convincing he's an expert in getting you to do what he wants which is indulging so the nethershock bomb is in the in the in the person is has one up seemingly on man so in addition to the fact that the nephesh obama's is the infant it comes from infancy whereas the net official accused only comes from biopics for basketball in the early 20s who miscayne b a neighbor [Music] one second have one second sorry so what he said now is deposit says he's a miscan this game is poor why is he poor because to him all spirituality is is poor that's not what's important it's bereft of what he wants him to do which is indulge in and this is his wealth and this is importance in kane this is all a long parenthesis in a way to a question here ends the question it's wondrous it's very wondrous it's a big palette so it's a big question how does that never show the kids have the kayak that's the question but you get that took the whole page and building up the question it makes sure is it clear most shares are clear yeah i think it's not it's not a difficult thing here so too from the perspective of the shadish the source how do you do it the shaders next page not 199. it says in kabbalah what is the source of the nephesh obama's it's what we call the world of void toe the shrink is never shall the kiss what's the source of the godly soul from the world of correction there's darkness and chaos and confusion so who has priority to you has priority a precedence overtaken man was created at the end of the six days moshe to take all the chaos and make of it a normal situation so the rap is saying now even from a a spiritual source perspective seemingly the nepheshop bombings has won up over the nether shelly kiss and if so how can the nefa shirley kiss overpower the nefesh before the king of israel the heinz alien malkin khadboy so it says these are the seven prime kings cadmium the toyo the cottonwood of the level of tell you which precedes taken it says there is what we call shoresh and there's something called shoresh this shoulder she doesn't say it right now openly but i'm telling you what the way it's explained elsewhere which is there is the root the source that is close to uh the application and then there is the source the way it's further removed from the application so for example you have a tree and you have the roots in the ground right so there are roots that are very close to the actual tree coming from the ground then you have even deeper down below which is not as close to the tree which is really the source of the roots themselves so this is true over here too when we say yaakov that the nephesh are bombings the shredders just tell you which is higher than thicken this is in showrush but if you go to showrish this showrush the nephew shelly kisses where it's at and this is what i've been telling you on this is godliness that's what the shaman is nephew shall accuse his godliness the placement of godliness and the development of godliness takes a secondary position to the placement the development of the nephesh obama's the eight sahara but being that in in in what is this yates or horror investing itself in a yid not in a guy in a jew a jewish godliness a jew is helicus a jew is in the shamble but the format of which this neshama develops itself and reveals itself gives precedence for the nephesh obama's date sahara of course for the reason of free will let's see how he develops the idea before we talk questions we said earlier that there is established and there's something called machiavelli me and then there is the anemias of machiavelli itself next page 201 let's let's learn the rapper's words themselves they're sweet and see how the rabbit says it before we elaborate the tikka shredders the world of tikkun sharshay its root is an atmos in the essence of god this is why we say when it comes to yaakov of the yaakov and we have a yaakov this is toyo that is expressed and developed before ticket ah so the penis laid of his goddess lava you see those words underlying those words this is only regarding [Music] you know he had that he really the first drop the first drop the seminal drop was with yaakov but the way it comes out it comes out second the yakov high notes so really yaakov's source is before so in other words when we talk about toyo and ticket and we say that the brazilian kim but it says the darkness and only man came on the sixth day who has precedence tell you chaos the answer is that's just in a manifested form that is that is the way bipol the pole in actuality the way it happened but in content an idea or better said the the true objective is tickle not toho but in order for toad to be appreciated you need another another ticket to be appreciated you need first chaos i think we can relate to that yeah this is very important this answers to me it answers a lot of issues in life when is a person strong and someone that's really when he works out his issues getting things handed on a golden platter you're a spoiled brat and it means nothing because as soon as that cat is out of the bag you run like a mouse you understand you don't know what to do you're all flustered but when you went through life and you went through situations and you went through hardship and and you and and you dealt with it oh now this is someone who we can respect this i can respect myself because i know the difficulties i had when whatever it is in my life and i work them out or at least i i you know i know how to deal with them that's that's that's gevaldic someone who was uh born to avraham yaakov you know and comes from a holy house and all that we used to say yeshiva it is he's born wholly from the womb big deal big deal you know i look at the rabbit the rapper came from wonderful parents special parents that blame because father was a blind attic and everything else and his mother was a very special but that ever had a hard life you know until he came to america he had a very hard life 1905 in russia 1914 familial issues and and and you think and you know someone yesterday oh um electricity russia shiva magazine water battery connecticut i had a clip i don't know if you guys got this clip you have to hear it you know i should forward it to you he's talking to us bucharan and this was uh i think on youtube on that day and he says we need to learn from the laboratory rabbit how to celebrate life and be happy says and you don't have to be a laboratory and he says i'm not a laboratory but when i i study and read about the laboratory represents i am blown away i've never met a person this is a lit who has rashashiva's and everything else and he says i never met a person who is so positive about life you hear and it's true it's true because the rabbit could have very easily complained believe me he could have easily had all kinds of complaints but he didn't he understood that's not the way to be aid because you become a special year and you and you help eden and yourself when you take it all in and you deal with it let me just finish the next paragraph so now he answers the question that he began yaakov at the beginning of the paragraph same as regardless of since the source of the nephilim is higher than the source of the bombings yesterday [Music] to overcome so yes you don't get it doesn't become active till 13 and 12. but when it becomes active it's retroactive you hear that when it becomes active it's retroactive to what it really is and it's able to overcome color all the babies and all the immaturity and all the nonsense and all the stupidity that it was raised in a certain way and experienced in a certain way can change from 13 12 and 13 and on and we need to share this with our youth okay in in a positive way in a bright way in a upbeat way teach them the following you are special and i don't and not your special because i want to make you feel good you're special because you have on the shuma you have a yates of tafe you have something that has the ability to overcome everything i'm sharing this with my granddaughter these days who lives in tel aviv you are special and not you're special because you're you're on sleekest for the lubavitcher in a place like tel aviv that's that's also true but you're special because hashem has given you quesos to overcome let's continue but mainly yes curcumin all of you have declared to overcome afghan foreign is and yes because and that's the answer we can overcome that's the answer to the issues so don't tell me about your mother and your grandmother your father and grandfather and your community and your rabbi and then all of your experiences in the 60s and 70s and this and that and you were born here you were born that and he's at fault and she's a fault and this is why i'm crazy and this is why i have these habits throw it all out the window you have an officially kiss focus on an official kiss and you'll go flying high everything else is literally now of course in the world of therapy and hillel's work you know you gotta you have to articulate that but the perspective hillary is that you're a diamond and by the way this isn't just for a year leaving for a guy then the shum okay the whole idea of you know contrary to what the freud and others argued i told you once that epis line in a letter that ever wrote to a psychiatrist what's the difference between freud and the alternate you can't say la havoc the flame of freud was a jew at the end of the day but the difference is that freud studied and studied and studied and what did he conclude that man is that ugly that ugly part of of man etc and the alternative the same thing and what does it conclude what is man soul great line great line two people two geniuses study the same man one concludes man is schmutz and one concludes man is holy and we're going into you that's kislif shabbos so we prepare ourselves three days before with this idea to think about this as we we go through the day and we daven tomorrow the difference that we are in the sharma anyone want to say anything i'll yes it seems it seems like the flow of this miner is uh like um uh that we start out the neshama which is like from from beyond uh tikkun from from even beyond then then the then we have the when the body when the body comes into the world the nephesh bahamas inhabits it first and that's that and then uh and then followed by the nefesher lacus who searches all of the tikkun yes that's that's a good way of summarizing the the flow make the best of your day go with simcha hashem should help everyone to have only good things in a revealed way have a great day we'll see everyone tomorrow bye