Not only accepting but embracing G-d, Yourself & others when things go against you - Rabbi C Dalfin

we're on page you're dying and we're seven lines from the top a middle of the line where it says yesterday introduced his what we call the marketing his tagline the tagline of Tanya is if someone asks you give me a one-liner for Tanya it's those words Mind Over heart naturally or innate Mind Over heart now that our position of the altered he believes avram is true for is true for any issue not necessarily Torah Yiddish kite downtown over here is Sir says I believe and I want you to consider he says that it the mind of a person and that's why I stressed yesterday and I emphasize again any person even a gorilla have though has nothing to do with the Jew the human being as created by God in the in the way the altarapa sees the human being is and therefore when when a person is confronted with a with an urge with an Indulgence doubt that ever says hey guy you have a mind you have a brain and Hashem has given the human being the human brain the ability to control the passions of the heart today as we start learning about that episode and and this is even much more by a Jew that's what he's adding today why because by a Jew ish consists of Torah over indulgences so we talk about kedusha over Clipper there's an added feature that kadusha was given by God to overpower nonsense so what what we understand from this moisture I think is a fascinating idea that the human being any even a gorilla have deal is able to control their passions if they just want to use their brain and they need and God gave them a brain not only is it possible for you as a human being to do it but we have one one more additional idea which helps us which is kadusha kedusha Holiness has a built-in power to overpower clipper if you allow it and want it so the the argument now to the pain in the is hey Benin hey June eat you're telling me you have an urge and I agree you have an urge so number one use your mind to control your urge and number two remember that what what am I giving you what is God giving a Jew to overpower the urge kadusha immerse yourself in kadusha and you'll see the urge will dissipate or it's not going to be eradicated where it won't come again it'll come again okay that's what I told you 365 days has an urge of apostasy and guess what he gives up the last day and it becomes an apostate the tremendous it's a gamara it's not hasidis how do you how do you understand that Hillel that he was an individual who went into the Clayton shakadoshim so many times the holy of holies I'm your keeper I mean what greater Revelation is and guess what he becomes an apostate at the end of his life the last time why what happened because obviously it wasn't eradicated it was always there you have to be on guard Ian for those that remember rights rights of a person doesn't know his time we don't know when our time is up so we look at that like it's a morbid thought but it's a very it's a very positive thought in other words don't let your guard down don't tell me that at the age of 99 or you know you don't have still a taiva you still have a tither and that's the good old cusker said I'm laying in my bed I'm dying I know I'm dying and what am I thinking about what are they gonna say about the cutscore after he dies right you're dying that's what you're thinking about what they're gonna say about you after you die what are you a fool no I'm not a fool I'm a person I have an urge it's always there so the Antonette says I know it's always there but Hashem gives every individual every Jew an additional kayak to overcome so if if we connect with kiddusha not only will we have mind over matter by nature but we'll have the additional feature of caducea toppling Clipper let's that's what we're going to learn now now let's learn inside Seven Lives on the top in the middle of the line there's an advantage to wisdom May the sickness over nonsense folly and it's similar to yishun to the similarity that light has over Darkness pirush remember what I thought you have when you see the outer never say Peters you have to ask yourself what is bothering doubted ever with what's written in the verse that he says pirush and the answer is hey for this I mean for this I need the wisdom of shlima thank you uh wisdom is better than nonsense like that light is better than Darkness so what does it means it's not that dark light is stronger than darkness and it's that it's that smoke my wisdom can control Darkness and that life can control I'm sorry the hawk that can control nonsense can stop the nonsense and that light can stop the darkness that is better we know it's better you don't need to be King Solomon to tell you that but to tell you that it can control it that's a Hindus that's a novelty and look how he says it is just like light has an advantage domination and control over Darkness for a little light gosh me physical life pushes aside Harvey minute lots of Darkness put a little candle into a dark room and boom the room is like lit up there's so much darkness in the room the whole room is dark and you put in a little tiny candle boom it lights it up number two hello what's the way that it's lit up number one is that a little light lights up an entire dark room motion and in what way does it have to fight with the darkness no look at the ultimate emphasis it pushes aside the darkness automatically mamela it walks into the room the little candle is brought into the room of ramen what happens it's lit the whole room is lit all of a sudden did it fight with the darkness did it converse with the darkness did a dialogue with a darkness no this is the muscle the Morales or Harvey so too much nonsense is pushed aside shall a clip of it that finds itself in the negative side of the left ventricle skip the brackets for a second is due to the wisdom of The Godly Souls within the mind again hello the word Rich China for its will is to be the only player the to dominate alone the ID and the city referring to the body will leave slavish and to invest itself only this relationship was shown the three garment support speech in action her now which we mentioned before and it should extend itself throughout the person's body shame through the thought speech in action with up within the 613th terrorists as we said before foreign just bring light a little light to have that little song a little light a little light you know bring a little light in so you bang the knee let's go back to the context over here you banging me we banging any potential being a name We Are all uh be blustered and upset we have these urges and these Cravings says so in addition to being a human being and having a mind and a brain which can control your heart in addition to that you have kadusha you have title you have mitzvahs yeah right so just introduce title mistress and it will blow away the the Clipper and my dear friends you know it better than I that it's so true in our lives bring in light stop focusing on the negativity you bring in light and things change and it's so it's so true when you you know but you have conversations and we're arguing and debating stop for a second and change the whole approach of the conversation just bring light you know illuminate the conversation in in in it with with different good ideas and healthy ideas and and uplifting ideas and slowly the darkness will will melt away the darkness will melt away again I'm not saying the darkness will be eliminated to the point where it won't come back again it will it will but for now you'll feel what's the word that I like cathartic a cathartic experience I tomorrow maybe you feel crummy again you'll do it again and guess what what we're going to do it till 120 because that's who we are and we should be happy about doing it we're going to learn that in chapter 27 the out that ABBA says yes sir anyone complaining how is it that it comes back again if I already worked on it once twice and a hundred times out that ever basically says you're a fool and a bald Guyver you think you're exotic what are you out of your mind you think you're exotic and even that Sadiq has his issues that we discussed in Tanya containment and everything else but you know what sounding you're an average person yes you you had a schools to live in a certain area and to be around certain people it's all very nice it's not exotic get over it wake up so don't complain why there's the urge and the craving and the taiva and the same is true with issues in life you know you know that that's the world we're in Draper says already chapter six remember he quotes desire because there's that um that it's a it's a place dominates and you have to work to overcome so here we're learning is that overcoming and the work consists of bringing in light but may love but Mayla you banging me uh identify with more kadusha and kadusha has this you know this battery this energy that boom it knocks out it knocks out the darkness just like a storm we've had in storms and I you know we have big storms here to knock out the electricity Here There and Everywhere over in Montreal um say their Night in Canada you hear Mama had an ice storm they were sitting with electricity and then and days after over at the time boom knocks it out the same as with kadusha can knock out Darkness as a such a zest that's Darkness will have to rebuild you know so that's doubt that I was thinking let's continue and he says Alpha became so now right here at this point my show the alpha became that was now is addressing another rhetorical question sir if you're telling me that Maya Charlotte yes you want to say something no if Maya Shabbat even you have and a Jew has the additional power of kadusha over Clipper hey why isn't the pain in the assadic remember in thought speech and action he's not cynic the only issue is urges of the heart and here you're telling me that you can knock him out so she should be like a Sadiq says that's what he addresses here Alpha became nevertheless look the next word cloud get over it you're not exotic at all okay like wake up foreign I said a little unofficially keys because this advantage that we just mentioned that The Godly Soul has over the darkness and Folly of the neck of the negative Clipper which is which which which is a pushed aside automatically when you bring in light in the Ella those are two words right is not Ella only ain't no yellow regarding the three garments of Fort speech and F action but the lie but not regarding the well as we said earlier demidos you understand you ask a question anyways ask the question how can it be that that you know the learning and diving yet they behave this way the answer is right here because the mahusmus the essence of the person haven't changed the the practicality and result may be changed but the Raging Bull is there that's that's the difference between by the way that's the difference between outside and abandoning by the Sadiq the most the essence have also been changed and impacted but not by abandoning let's continue and he says is so elated and so excited and it feels as though he's lodged the net the essence where the essence feels more like a Sadiq that's during Thriller but after davening he's back to the same behemo he's back to the same desires she ain't responding the burning fire of love for God because God was Libre that was present in a revealed way during Bhavan and meaning the right ventricle is not there he is he you know he goes back and forth Kim he says okay wait a second you're telling me he's the same Behemoth with the same Behemoth says yes and no with the same behem as far as concerned the urge the mahus and the essence of the middle is still burning inside it's always there the difference is that since every Jew by Nature this will explain late in chapter 17 18 he every Jew but every Jew has a burning innate love for God she ever had tivis which is the natural love shepher but never shall he kissed him of the godlin swords commission which as he says later in chapter 18 because God will sleep and therefore it's possible for there to be the Folly and nonsense that's revealed in the left ventricle the Sabbath to have it happened to earn to desire indulgences turned to page 34. to desire all kinds of worldly pleasures baby Heather whether they be permissible and guess what baby is says they can desire forbidden manner it doesn't mean to do it it means I'm talking about it I'm thinking about it but not to do it right as soon as you say to do it it's a contradiction to banani because the baby pushes aside the thought I want to do it but to think to think the urge enters that yes that's what he means look what he says further keloi spiral Cloud wow can you imagine you had a great Dominique he went to Eureka he went to see them you sang the gurudev he took sharayan you will buy the dish your your mama's flying high you come home and the next day back to yourself look at out through Apple's words they're so powerful Cloud it's like he didn't die from this morning it's like he didn't go to your Rebel last night for the Tish what happened the answer is this is Who We Are this is the way God made us that we're potential bait in him and the Mela this urgent Drive is always there so to say that you're going to act on it you're not going to act on it and to say you're going to speak about it in a forbidden way you're not going to do it even think about it aggressive and you know with a will to speak about those things that are forbidden you're not going to do that but it's there let's continue this is what I said earlier when it comes to something that is forbidden in Oiler but it is it will never enter your mind to do the prohibited matter but play old Mama's got to show them in actuality God forbid Ella he refers to what he said earlier in chapter 11 thoughts of an Aveda a question which have worse May Aveda from the actual evader they could enter your mind on the valve and to disturb you miteria Aveda from the learning of Titan doing the uh Aveda um there are three sins a person is not safe for them daily which one of them are he who they Aveda right one of them is the thoughts of Aveda every person has every day hero Aveda he said and number two the young filament later those three things what's the point so if so is it if the Ghazal say so how can I avoid it so that's what drama says now therefore for this shall I said for having the urge mild it helps the impression within the mind and the fear of God Of Us in his love homo sutaris again it refers back to the hidden love behold money in the right ventricle the person which a a leftover arushimu an impression right is is a Remnant is still left over oh last night I went to a Tish last night I went to Arabia last day yesterday I went to a sheer you know hmm I don't think that I should be doing this or speaking this or thinking this because that's not it's not is it a shimo arishimo an impression is left over and it and and it makes an impact that you hold yourself back and it says was God evolutely thought uh therefore this repression will overcome and overpower the actual bed how much of a tiger that wants the Indulgence so that it should not bottom line have dominion be eaten the city to to implement its Indulgence because from potential or a whale to actual we slavish to invest itself all over the limbs of the body if I feel it and even just in the mind to think in an active way this bad thing anyway it does not have the power to think God would be in such a way why but it's showing this so that the Mind should be willing to enter into this kind of thought Chicago but Robson has shown that the Mind should willingly accept the thought here said this thought which is bad which came up to him may have lived from the heart Lim Maya to the Mind Canal now look at the next words this is why I spoke about earlier but here you have it inside out of Tanya as soon as the in a sense it really should say it should descended it it goes from the mind in I'm sorry it of course it has a sense it goes from the heart to the Mind look at the words the person pushes it out with two hands get out of here get out of here um and the person averts their mind as soon as he remains reminds himself that it's something bad give me another few moments and since the person actively pushes it away he doesn't accept this negative thought willingly even to to to actively think about it willingly he doesn't do that because surely it doesn't enter his mind to do it in actuality like I'm feeling with David boy or to speak about it because someone who willingly engages in this type of thinking necre he's called at that time in Russia but habanini and the person we're talking about at this moment the banging and the Russia I feel Shockers we learned earlier it cannot be it's not a rush even one hour in other words the Mind state of the babies is that he's not in Russia for a moment and if you actively accept berussin the the thought that came from the heart to the mind you're right away in ocean yeah because the Hassan say my ship Abram says question me a favor so therefore you're in Russia and since the pain is not in Russia we must say that even for a moment he doesn't accept it it's coming it's coming in and as soon as he feels and realizes out of here get away from me I have hurt my attention from it and he says this is all regarding issues between man and God now he speaks about man and man that came before him things between men and management as soon as there ascends from the heart to the mind and he's a teenagers some jealousy or hatred God forbids towards someone oh yeah he's a keynote because like paid to get jealousy anger or occupied that he's you know he really is upset with someone but they may in a similar ain't a problem he doesn't accept these feelings in his mind over the same name and and in his willingness and his will so after that the Mind controls and dominates over the spirit of the heart losses a heap of mamish to do just the opposite of the feeling of anger and jealousy and whatever else to conduct himself with his friend that we discuss it with kindness and to tolerate him [Music] the nudge the nudge becomes your best friend why because you make him your best friend because you've changed your attitude towards him so you know not only are you not jealous of what he has and not only are you not angry at him you Embrace him and not to show anger towards him and not to pay him back hey he did this to me I'm gonna do it to him to do an abundance of goodness commercial to learn to we should learn from Joseph and his brothers they the brothers sought to hurt him and do everything to him what did Joseph say not only I'm not angry at you but I'm gonna do so much kindness to you and get you food and not reunite you with your father with your brother who you lost on and on and on he could have just sat back and said okay guys have a good day but I don't want to and this is a very hard thing to have it the hard thing because there's one thing to say okay someone really you know did something to me and upset me and hurt me okay I don't have anything to do with you you know just go your way to go and embrace that same person that's that's so hard but that's not that ever says here without that ever says that and now you think about it we talk about about me though someone's about about Amigos their levels about needles there's one about me those who tolerates him but this level of boundaries here that's a much higher refined balmidas that not only does he tolerate but he Embraces and he discuss it with his former enemy you can imagine but but is writing this for us he's not writing this with him he's writing this for us that means he believes in us that the devil believes that the human being especially yeed can if they bring more light into their world their life to embrace the situation and a we have to be aware of it we have to understand it once we understand it we need to think about it and then as life goes on I we will see it we will see it you know and sometimes we don't see it but there are times when you sit back you're able to disattacks yourself emotionally you will see as it says later this person is you know and yes this threw me such a curveball that is outrageous but he still is God so now how am I to act so one the the first step would be disengage tolerate back off absolutely and for that you need some time you know if you rush into hey I love you I'm your best friend it's a baloney it's pure nonsense and it's gonna fail you know feelings it hurts it really does so once you kind of have given yourself the time and and and and gone through the therapy you know of you know then you work towards the embracing okay I see a dying to ask a question to make a comment s first okay Hilo just like you Moshe so uh [Music] yeah he was talking about uh but I think that you could also really apply that that uh me that we all have parts of ourselves that are really hard to accept yeah and uh sometimes and therapeutically first we have to push ourselves away from them and and then develop compassion for them uh in order to be able to reintegrate them yeah thank you for accepting that very important very good yeah I also just wanted to say I wanted to ask the Fazal that we quoted um so first of all I didn't get what's the third one I believe the third one is Bittle Terror but what's the matter mock does anyone have a Tanya with a reference you have to look it up I think it's a gamara um so I I also just wanted to say it's it's interesting that it's fascinating that you Fila is part of that yeah so um explanation that that why he says uh that uh from the toasterness I think that that nobody has that nobody has proper Helix feela so it ain't Adam Mitchell remember's got this so that's really a powerful thought okay yeah yeah yeah that's what it says that's what the gazelle said yeah [Music] okay Maisha I I I'm gonna um click yes sir uh on the spot for a second okay thanks for sharing with me I hope it won't and sharing this with everybody but he shared with me he had it on Sunday was it yeah and a very uh challenging experience with someone who did something to him that uh I it would be puzzling to understand how the person the person who is you doing I was in a traffic jam oh yeah was trying to cut behind me he has already made a few illegal uh traffic violations there's no place to go without my car being destroyed by a truck that was in front of me and he was honking honking he got out of the car pounding on my window smashed my mirror I wrote down the windows and talked to him and he stared at me and um so I was thinking about the Gamora I think there's a gamar with somebody's in a ship and uh somebody relieves himself on him I I and uh so I said okay so the guy had a bad day but I took it I was like wow now I have this opportunity to happened but then after I thought for a while I said listen it wasn't this guy this was he was just a messenger in a kind of Sparkle wants me to work on myself he's not pleased with with where I'm holding and this was you know you need a wake-up call yeah so it's it's not the I did not get out of the car and to puncture is tired yelled back with him it's it's a lesson it's a powerful lesson and uh to emulate because it's not easy it at least for me it's not easy you know and um yeah that's that's what our void is and the more we work on that you know the the better will be about me for times I certainly would have gotten okay okay so that's that's kudos to you that the title you're learning is inculcated and integrated where it's real it's not just in a book it's not just in a lecture you know it's real life this happened to you he broke your mirror or your window and then you know etc etc and you take and get like a real yead like you know so that's part of what we're learning Heaven up we'll continue with Hashem on Monday have a great Shabbos everyone take care yeah pace of shaming tonight tomorrow and it's never too late take care bye bye