No Pain No Gain - Antidote to Youth Drug Issue

i'm sorry on youtube and his yard sign on tess kislev so mr sham thursday we'll talk about that instead of this year if i bring and talk about that and also about some of his forum so what you you know rather than having like one uh week full of uh you know discussions about the the is in this forum and you know that you you asked me to to to teach you um i'd rather do it you know will we learn to see this and then uh for a year with the pogba a special day um talk about that so that'll be mr shem thursday now we're middle over here of this uh fascinating minder of countries on page 163 we're holding the third pedic the third chapter let's review the cancer to refresh our memories before the ponemias earlier he cares someone has their mic on please muted himself [Music] when it comes to the ponemius are here when you're talking about a light an energy that its inherent orientation its inherent makeup is pneumous and we're talking about an infinite light of hashem by himself you hear that who has access to that primarily he says every words account it counted for are those that are terror mitzvahs in other words all he didn't have a cyclist they have an association but they're not that's not the primary target audience audience israel jacobson the known chabad activist who helped bring the previous rabbit to america so he writes in his memoirs he writes this there were three types of the bachelor in america in the early uh 19 20th century he said uh and and and years later there was one group of hasidim that were uh in other words they did not practice a chabad lifestyle and for that matter some of them were not even religious but they came from the geza khabad from the root from the pedigree of chabad the grandfather their grandmother their great-grandmother going back to russia and to ukraine to here and there okay and they had a feeling because they were told by the grandfather i remember this rebel and this hasid and the labavich and therefore support them give sadaka be nice to them that's those type of hasidim and he calls them a category of hasidim but were they really no but that's one category the next category is called of the nusabad all they do is they dive in from the bottom that's another category and and even today i don't know if you see this in big chambers but i see it always here people that are not habarero they're using chabad sitter and i asked him why are you using he says oh my grandpa this is the way i was taught when i was a boy when i were you know by my parents and grandparents this is our nusa but they're not the babbage at all just this morning a a big rev's grandson was diving next to me in shul and i asked him his name and he told me and i said oh i know your grandfather i interviewed him and he's a massive talmud hockham and i said to you and the boy doesn't look like a barbecue and i said you know your zade is is a laboratory he says i know so i said to him and so what are you doing about it he says i i know and i do a little meanwhile you know it's not too reflective yet but he was dominating with a lot of kavanagh and it was beautiful so and he wasn't he wasn't doubting he was diving into fart i saw the art scroll said he was using was fart so that's not what we're talking about we're talking about someone who remains keeping the nusef so it's called the rabbi jacobson calls those hasidim and then you have the third group of hasidim is the they live their lifestyle following the customs now why am i saying this because the rabbit says here in the kitchen the word ikar you have to pick up on the word ikar he says the preemies are himself who is the target ordinance primarily primarily those that keep her a mistress but not to the exclusion of others who are only for example you got it okay let's continue clinton was that was that about what he was referring to that is he talking about also like the the way that in a way split like once it came to america like with the okay you know what i'm saying like there was different branches of like what what do you mean what do you mean what do you mean the okay first what do you mean the okay so first one wasn't there after that there was some kind of i don't know it was a rift or something but there was a a difference like it was until the time of but six out of the seven or five out of six excuse me became rebels in different cities and there was a kind of there was really a heavy rift between two of the groups um but they all they all were teaching this of the altar rabbit they weren't teaching belgium but they you know had their own style that's what you're referring to but um he's not in the miami that's not i i was just giving that as an example just to understand the word haikar but in the mind where he he doesn't at all mean that at all he's talking about the orange self the orange self the infinite light that's me is it's primarily shaykh is determined to those that are involved with terror mitzvahs so i just made the point that not to exclude completely those that are not characterized they they also get but in an associated way not in a primary way let's continue the negative forces and energies in the world called clippers they receive from what's called the external machine moved abraham and the the light of hashem is separated from them so we spoke about it just declared to remind you in other words the question is when we are energized with the light of hashem are we muhad are we united with it is it become who we are or is it an adjunct to who we are and that's what he says here the earth need me by definition becomes who you are if you are a vessel to it you understand so so another in other words by a yid when the art preemie hits the heat it's like that saying if you drink too much you're going to get drunk right you know what i'm saying it's inevitable otherwise if you drink too much if you have the aurapneemi you're going to be judaized you're going to be you just you're going to be a yidd and no there's no way out of it because what the the emanation the the the flow the energy is such that it makes you a palpable gate a vibrant jew whereas with the clipper there's an important point whereas with the clipper yarn is in to begin with the oil hashem that animates the clipper is not a art that's much with the clipper that's united with the clipper the it's an arc that's an adjunct to the clipper so in other words the vitality that the clipper has there's a separation and concept between the energy and the clipper so therefore the clipper never really became god godliness it was it was antithetical to god and at times it now times and it needs in order to be antithetical it needs godliness to be antithetical so god says here's some godliness to be antithetical to me to bring free free will for people but the light the energy that it it it gets which is called him is never with it it's never one with it think of it this way motion think of it this way someone who likes you someone who cares for you someone who really is on your team they're always looking whenever whenever they they talk to you or think about you it's always like what can i do that's best for him in other words it's not that depending on how he's going to respond that's what i'm going to give and think about they're so they're so close to you they're so that they're one with you that just like they when they when they think about helping themselves when a person thinks about doing something that's good for themselves right do they do do we do do we do we think i'm now doing myself a favor i'm doing myself a favor by not uh going out in the cold freezing cold without a cold race i'm doing myself a favor by eating properly i'm doing myself a fa anyone that thinks that way in a way that you know takes time my space is not so healthy and he's making a mistake because it's it's you breathe if you breathe then you want to you want to be you want to be healthy you want to be normal so so i'm saying use that as an example to understand the difference between the way that hashem relates to the clipper and the way the australian relates to kedusha the way the rsrm relates to kadusa is exactly the way that i just described about us thinking about ourselves which basically we don't think about ourselves right when do we start thinking about ourselves when we when when what's happening to us is outside of ourselves unexpected right and then we have a problem and we say how am i going to deal with this issue so the issue that we're confronting both in the negative and the positive is outside of who we are and that's what the deputy says you know the kids with rashaab that the way the hashem unites with klippa is not in the same manner the way the uh hashem unites with kedusha in kedusha the hashem says you are i and because you are i as as whenever whatever i want to myself to be best i want for you inseparable but not inseparable listen to this not inseparable that they were two that became one they were always one they're always one that became two just like a husband and wife according to the zillion what does the holy zayer teach us husband and wife our paw will give the goofer a half of a body each being a half not desert doesn't say that a husband and wife is two bodies coming together male and female it doesn't say that in this in the holy zayer it says it's a half so that means that you're not complete without your other half and she's not complete without her other ass paul get the goof and in the same way it's with the hashem and kedusha kidusha is not kedusha without the r and r is not the r without kedusha but you can't say that about clipper clipper gets her hashem its existence kind of on its own hashem wants it that way and to animate it it gives it it gives it highest so even when it has the highest of hashem it's not the fires doesn't become one with the clipper i hope this was clear let's continue it you're not talking about we're not talking in terms of godly clippers right the clipper is is something that's that's materialistic right it's not something we are who may yeah of course we are you know who made the clip is uh the uh yankee doodle or yogi berra who made them no of course i'm asking so when you say as soon as you say as soon as you understand that the clippers were made by god they're godly anything that's made by god is godly the question is what's its purpose that's what you're referring to that's a different that's a different we're not i'm not we're not we're not thinking of that when you see this you have to learn how to focus on the the particular aspect that's relevant to the conversation and discussion so you're saying this correct but not in this context okay let's continue the kitchen because we have to get out of the kitchen to get to the chapter so he says [Music] now we can understand [Music] it's because of our transgression don't blame anybody except yourself there's martial you ain't simply traditional mocking during the time in jewish history when we did hashem's will became our terror misses by fulfilling success mana bias top of 165. oh you've been milo you're in the mid we eaten we're very very elevated special for you and guess what we were very wealthy as well everyone had his vineyard everyone had his his place of gardening when he had the figs and everything else in other words a time of slamming the the that shrap is quoting but it says in khazal the time of slaymen was a very very successful material time for the jewish people um when it came to [Music] he says and you'll see that the prophets called the jews and they say because you are vaders you ended up in such a situation so travis is saying it's not so this is what you would call reverse thinking he's asking the following question why can't we the eden be macabre from the market we established earlier guys that the market is open-ended anyone who wants come and receive right called yes like we say night so why can't we during the time of gullies get from the market and get a lot why is it why is it that the naveem are scolding the jews and telling him you know why you're suffering because of this availability says that ever wait a minute even if their bali are vaders even if they're sinners but just like the [ __ ] benefit from the market so too jews who are sinners should benefit from the market that's his question now we really answered the many this year but let's see how he says it again here and he says ella third part she is what i was saying just before that's because you're differing with it you're you're dealing with a different quality jews are being you hear moshe in essence anemias so it's like trying to feed to stuff someone with food i don't know if that's a good example but you know they have the uh biatric the operations and if you eat too much you vomit right in other words their their intestines become it's been minimized so putting in a lot of food it's just gonna just spit it out it's gonna come out in other words this is not who you are you were that way before but now you had the operation you're not that way so stuffing makif energy into into a paninis in into a panemius experience ayahid is an oxymoron it's not going to work so it works for the ghanian because they are market but it doesn't work for us that's his answer in short let's see how he puts it further okay if you follow my trailer you'll get all delicacies of material delicacies they came to mid swiss it's all because the source of the arapanemi which we jews have comes from the inner essence of god's essence and sometimes that energy is so revealed that it's it it reveals itself more than the way the the energy reveals itself in the world and that ever says the example is during the time of the basa amigdas energy shined and illuminated and more specifically to the sacrifices that were brought they brought just like this is what the rebbe is saying just like the time the base of migdash that they brought a lot of kerbonus and they did a lot of terror mitzvahs it was an abundance the result was they got a big bank account they got a lot of ashbur because they gave a lot hashem gave them a lot of good look at those four last words but it all came from anemias so his answer in a nutshell is what's that english expression you know you can't change what is a cat to a mouse a mouse to a cat you know this is what it is you're not changing a guy is a guy and i eat the heat both are needed both are valuable but don't mix the two the energy there's earn me and their market you can't say eating when they're down and out they should go and get from their market because it doesn't work that way and this is go back this is the whole thing that we saw in real life we saw eden who went to seek hashem in various pastures in various fields and at the end they came to they came to realize whether themselves or through others that this is not who i am i'm looking in the wrong area this is not who i am and and now you you if you say well so many there's so many that didn't come okay first of all they still could come they can realize it's never too late but that's not it that's because they were still unaware of it but once they become of a aware that they're a yid they're a jew there's no question that they will react in a jewish way they had another uh clip last week from a doctor who never who never spoke about his his experience with the rebber and i think he's out from philadelphia pennsylvania somewhere and he was he's a podiatrist he's so he was a world leading um professor of podiatry i forget his last name now wallach or waldman or something it's online um so they they they had him tell his story so he he got a call from a friend this is 1991 this is when the rebel was still well that the the the our friend the doctor called and said there's a rabbi schneerson in new york who was having an issue and and they would like the the the people would like that that you come and visit and and check check him out so he said what he said i should go to the rabbi i don't go to any rabbis i don't go to any people if someone wants to see me i have an office you come here so the guy says you never heard of robert schneiderson i never heard robert schneiderson and i don't care about a rabbit here's them anyway his friend nudged him and he got him to he's he was going to be in new york for a talk that he was giving a few a few weeks later he said do me a favor come in we'll pick you up whatever we'll send you coming to brooklyn so that much he was agreeable to and he tells over how from the moment he walked into the rebber's office he was like you know he was like taken by by the rubbish you know face and eyes he talks about that and the bottom line is that um he he he grew up knowing nothing you know very little about either skype the fact i think he said he didn't even know until of recent that his that his mother or grandmother had a jewish name it was very far you know very far from judaism and slowly he um i don't i don't i don't know i'm sure if he became a full bolshevik uh but he you know he started to do more and so i'm saying what i'm saying is that that you know you have to become aware you have to be cognizant you know and then he and then he started to read and find out who he who who was his patient rubbishness and and and he you know he had tremendous respect and and everything else he was honored that he had the opportunity so when the rebbe says here album you have to understand that you have to be made aware that you're dealing with premiums like i also told you once without mentioning a name someone i met in bet shemesh who told me that the way he became about the shoe was because a chabad a friend of mine met him on a college campus years ago and asked him would you like to put on twill and he said what's chilling he didn't even know what film is and you know he said we'd like to do a mitzvah would you like to do a mitzvah so he said what's a mitzvah they told my mitzvah is what god wants of us to do and he told me that that was the first time that he ever heard there's something that god wants of a person to do he never heard of such an idea and when he heard that just overnight he said i want to do what god wants me to do and it became about the shuffle now it's a very very like it's a very to me it's a very like straight it's a very unusual story that from but if you think about it's a very powerful very powerful that a person is unaware that god wants first of all there is a god number two that the god wants of me of me not of of him of me to do something and then he says i want to do it you know so that's all when the panemius of a yid is wakes up from their slumber from their dream and when that happens it's only going to ris come with a rib that's what he says here last paragraph so but we have to know that pain and suffering souring is surim that you have it also resonates implements lights are in all of their pain i hashem have pain so so so yanni if hashem says i have pain it's because of you has pain now mushy if the pain of a yid would be just external god wouldn't have pain in other words when a guy has pain hashem doesn't have pain but when i eat this pain hashem has pain why because hashem and naid their relationship is ponemias [Music] is written with an aleph right hillel don't read it with an aleph read it with a vote behold sarasam [Music] why because hashem is with them in their afflictions represents a holy place penis attic the level of arctic it's a high level of godliness and he quotes the the sources from zaya avo la tika kadisha stimulus okay let's just skip that parenthesis at the last second or last line after the parenthesis though this place is beyond all afflictions and suffering still to that exalted blame the affliction of israel attains so what he's saying is that the affliction touches the very essence next page 167. what does it mean in the hidden places does my uh does by so my nephews yeah cry naked for your pride and the rep explains i'm sorry the gamora explains the gemara there is a place that hashem has and it's called you know what it's called mysterium hidden my name what does it mean is there weeping in reference to hashem and papa says there is no con concentration country contradiction for hashem this refers to the inner and the outer chambers this is the this is what it says in the murder shirashi let's see what rashi says the bottega the inner chambers [Music] right he quoted he quoted earlier the verse in year me who top of the page from the oh you gimmel so he and over there the language is storing in the hidden recesses does my soul cry so rashi explains to gomorrah the the gemara geek is asking a question if papa's asking a question you're telling me god's weeping and there is no weeping there is no sadness for god and the gabon says answers depends where in the inside chamber or the outside chamber so rashi explains what does inside chamber mean the mysterion referring to that possibility meaning that metaphorically speaking that's where there is crying and weeping crying and weeping for what for jewish pride that was taken from them in ghosts [Music] and here we were stripped from our premiums so what's the name saying through us crying out to hashem when we cry out to hashem at the time of our service we arouse that hashem should have an abundance of mercy on us from the hard work and labor by ozaku and they screamed get me out of here [Music] asked many times on his on his own words after talking about the change in the law of media hoodie nurtures a terrible decree and other issues and he would say why am i speaking about this again and why am i screaming about this again etc etc and his answer was when something hurts you cry out you scream out it hurts oh that's what it says over here [Music] why did we say moisture like you know what was it about that day that we were saying because we couldn't take it anymore i just can't take it anymore so what do you do that's the beginning of redemption it shows that you're alive and you care so many times we look at the the crying out the screaming out you know i need help we look at it like stop already and and it's true if it's what we call crocodile tears fake tears fake news it is nonsense but when you really hurt and you have nowhere to turn and you just turn to hashem you have to help me it hurts and i can't i can't do it on my own says that here because it was that way in mitzrayim the ula began you hear the point the ula began from the screaming and shouting that it's painful here the ula didn't begin excuse me when they started to walk out of him and march out of mitsuram that wasn't already later from the moment that they they they shouted that we're in pain that's when the ula began the rap the gemara says and they haven't made this point many times it says that meshiach right it says that the mashiach is born on tish above and the commander says that as soon as the basa mikdhas was destroyed when it was destroyed the moment that the jews were crying that's when the ula began but wait a minute it's the destruction but you realize it's destruction and you cry out and you scream out i need help ula begins and the same is true the pain and suffering is is no one should have it and it's very difficult but the fact is the fact is that it happens okay so one attitude towards it is negative negative why did god make it happen i don't want to know about it the other one is it happened and that itself will get me to screen to hashem i i i i don't want it anymore i'm going to do this about it proactive that's that's redemption the ula is not sitting on the couch and being morbid the rebel writes in a letter to a teenage girl who we know is a mother today and has a family bought hashem and when she was a teenager i think in 1979 or so 76 her mother was hit by a car and passed away it was a terrible and she had all these younger all these younger siblings and she wrote to the rebber you know even after the shiver she's still a mourning and then you know and it's very hurt and she doesn't know what to do she's the oldest child and now she's asked to function like a mother and the rebber wrote her back a beautiful letter one or two pages at length in english and whoever wrote to her that just like morning if you don't mourn the shiva you're going against halacha if you mourn too long you're also going against that's why this period seven days thirty days twelve months in other words and then that ever writes there you have to understand jesus says all your siblings are looking up to you that's a fact so now of course of course it's it's painful and it's not it's not even that it's a given but we have to we have to think you know how are we going to turn this around how are we going to make ghoul out of it let me just finish the paragraph they scream they screamed to hashem when they went when they were in pain when they were hurting and shikhaliya before you have to scream from the depth of your heart not because you didn't have an ice cream today or a soft couch [Music] everyone's heart that's what the rabbit told elliot lasky in the video which he spoke about where is hashem in your heart what color is the heart does it have scissors or does it have uh does it have a ponytail what color what's the heart wearing it doesn't have neither it's the heart meaning it's who you are scream out to hashem it hurts and you see that's a universal message you talk about your universal humanism and judaism that's a message that you could share with everyone from afraid are you are you are you talking to hashem are you really communicating with your creator it's you know and and and that's and that's something that people can relate to and that's something that's another way of of being the lawyer people you know when's the last time you had a what did they call them a yoni a a dmc you know today's language you know dmc is a deep meaningful conversation my my youngest daughter i hear speaking with your friends on the phone we're gonna have a dmc tonight at the shabbaton we're gonna have a dmc it's so fun to hear say that you know it it it's true when is the last time a great praise i'm glad to know i'm going to spring it on my kids yeah when is the last time you had a dmc with hashem you don't need to be you know of a certain color and lifestyle did you talk to hashem today and if not get moving talk to him and when you start talking to hashem it's gonna work yes moshe i just want to say that you know we spoke last week last couple weeks yeah a little bit came up about rabbi sachs or jonathan oh yeah yeah and uh i saw on uh it was a thursday night or friday no thursday night i think uh you know he gave he was invited to give a ted talk i saw it and you see it and it was it was amazing his the way he spoke to a audience of non-jews right assuming most on jews unbelievable and and just rabbit dolphin what you just mentioned now it just made me think about that especially what we've been learning today the the you know but but his message how he was able to articulate faith right a healthy message for non-jews right was was amazing i'm just i think yeah yeah i understand i hear i hear you and i understand what you're saying and and you know there's one thing non-jesus then our our own our own we have to you know everything you have to bring back you know to our youth our youth is the future so you know it's important globally think about you know what i'm saying and that was rabbi saks had that position that responsibility and and of course when we were able to emulate it but i'm talking more about you know our our own cell own community and and families and you know the people because everyone's grappling they had this last shot but i just was walking home with a friend friday night from shul he wasn't sure a week ago so i said where were you he says i went to uh in the catskills uh there was a shabbaton for about 200 people and mostly hasidic people of all kinds and it was about saving their kids saving the youth the problems with drugs and issues i mean it you know he said you couldn't then he mentioned some names that are that all you know i don't want to say it's not right you know uh you know so so everyone is is is trying they brought that speaker abhishem and russell from i don't know if he lives in betchamish but uh from eric's role where does shimmer whatever they brought them out for the shabbaton so um you know it's something and and we shouldn't if i may say so we shouldn't you know say oh let the experts you know what's it called the yoni the guy from far rockaway um from priority one the the rabbi who's a big he's big in this i forget his name anyway you know anyway he's big in this anyway you know the experts the experts but every one of us can contribute especially you know with family they had a boy he told me a boy he had a teenager at home not a teenager he's now getting married in a month and he got up and he spoke and he said that he wanted to kill himself many times he wanted to commit suicide and he said to them why didn't i commit suicide and he said that and next month i'm getting married and he said because my parents loved me and my parents never gave up and they showered me with love and that's why i didn't kill myself because i couldn't do it to my parents so you understand that didn't come from stripper russell it didn't come from this rabbi didn't come from that rabbi this therapist it came from his parents so that's why i'm saying when we're learning this over here in the mimer it's it's you know that the sakura you know in other words you you could you could you could you could say oh it's screaming and crying about it but it's all negative because it is a negative experience hurting yourself with drugs and want to commit suicide is very negative or you could you could to yourselves you know it's what can i do about it and and and and be proactive and with the and it says in the mimer the oola starts from that what does that mean that the redemption of this boy coming back to health and being normal part of society and getting married and have a family begins from the parents by exactly you understand so the way you talk as long as it comes and don't cut the leap is not an easy thing it's the hardest thing to look into the mirror very hard because you have to make changes and you don't want to make changes and you think you're right but then at the same time you say and not i want to say not that i'm blaming you can't blame you know oh the parents the this and that that's why the kid turned out this way because we see that it's not always like that so whatever the reason is whether it's the parents the community hashem or the kid is born with such a soul yeah i really believe that some people are born with neshamas and it's not my belief it says in kabul and the arizona they're born with gilgal and they have to go through a lot of difficulty in trauma and it's it's unfortunate but that's the fact and they're never never gonna be peaceful that does not exempt us from doing what we can for them you know and and i think if more and more people do this and and you know to have 200 hasidim come into a room and not be embarrassed because this was used to be the biggest i mean i grew up in this community i'm telling you from growing up here this was the biggest shonda for a family here to to to even walk in the street with they would send them away to muncie and to hear and hide them and not talk about it you know what i'm saying that shame it's not completely gone but it's it's it's gone a lot even by the people here and they come to a shabbaton they want to work with each other and develop ways and um and it's interesting as i was walking home with this friend of mine his 23 year old son a 24 year old son was walking on the right and his son-in-law who newly married a year or so is on the left and he and i are having a conversation and i and and i also look to see how those two on the right the left are reacting to his father the father and father was speaking to me and i'm speaking to him and and i i in other words i feel like embarrassed i didn't want to cover their face and i i seemed to me that they were very eager to be part of the conversation although they would say you think but they did in other words it's it's become now that there's no hiding anymore we have to take and deal with things hands-on and the hiding period is very destructive and if if another son or or a son-in-law or a sibling or a relative has what to contribute and and to make a difference please but you know i don't starts from our pain remember that take care take care