Negativity, Pessimism & Gloominess get rid of it, change yr attitude - Chai Elul is way - RC Dalfin

so today is high yellow it's the Yama letters the birthday of the Holy belshanto and the balotanya on the same day and the tradition of Chabad is that we say conjunctive and the reason is because the first time that this became known was in 1893. in 1893 the previous reviews was a 13 year old boy he had he had his bar mitzvah he was born in 1880 so 93 was 13. and a few days before hialo or the day before I believed that ever told them to his father told him that I've asked permission from your Malamute I think whose name was reminiscence I think to allow you to come a little late to class to Haider why because today is our yumptive that's what he said today is our yamctive and that was the first time that the Frida could ever heard about how yellow being the birthday of the belchem and the altered so you you all understand well let me one second you'll understand that until then only that knew about it and it was passed on from generation to generation but for whatever reason they didn't share it with hasidu and even this date of 1893 being the first time that the rashab shared it with his son it wasn't shared with her see them either it was shared only with the previous 11. years later the previous level mentioned it out if I bring in and then when it was published I think which is his a collection of his speeches talks it became known to the public so even from 1893 when when the previous celebrity heard about it from his father because in other words if you were in Kiev if you were in Moscow if you were in in in in in all the places where there were a lot of labor but you'll see them which was basically by Larissa or Russia place that Ukraine all those areas he didn't know about Kyle he did not know about hail only through the the years later when it when it was published and the work got around it became known so what happened on that day in 1893 told the son I got permission for you to come late the crater get up earlier than usual and he got up early but earlier than usual go to the Mikvah dress in your fine Shoppers clothing and knock on my and come to see come into my room when he was davening and learning you just couldn't walk in there even his own son you know it was it was a private space and you needed permission to come in so you told them to come and and he didn't tell him why he didn't tell him why so he got up early he went to the Mikvah and he came to his father dressed and then in the shabba's clothing and then the reperto shop told him today is our yantev khayel was the birthday of the balcant of the Holy presentive and the altareth one thing the other thing is that our neighbor took this kaelo and really made it for the masses how did he do that he did that by teaching us the significance of khayel because you could ask okay it's the birthday of great sadikin fine but their their birthdays of other great why does it say anywhere on on Zion other the birthday of moishra Bailey you should get dressed in your fine clothing fast the members of Harvard because that's the day passed away as well I don't I don't remember call every hearing that you should get dressed up and Shop his clothing he jumped up clothing and say another and here the rebrashable instructs his son a 13 year old boy but uh you know the previous Le Bobby Geneva so you know you understand even at 13 he was uh already a developed holy boy and he and he tells him to get dressed up and tell him to go to the mix in other words it's seeing it it's clear there was something more significant or different in a different way than just my sharabana's birthday or anyone's birthday that's what I'm that's the point I'm making now that this isn't just a birthday celebration okay there are many birthdays to celebrate so what is special about that about this and this hour whatever for 40 plus years he's he he taught lessons and ideas about the specialty of khayelos I wanted to share one thought there are many thoughts but one thought the rebel said once that the significance of of a birthday in general is independence because until the child is born it's in the fetus it's a fetus of the mother's womb and over there whatever the mother eats and and does and listens to and is impacts the the fetus but the fetus has no Independence it's all up to the mother and that's why a mother has to be careful what she eats and when she watches and what she listens to and you know and all of that because it makes an impact but the fact is that the the child has no Independence when does the child attain Independence at the moment of birth and it ever said that the gomores says that the the little Mark that we have under our nose is from the the malach coming and and giving us like a little a little thing here to make us forget the entire title that we learned and knew before we were born so they've asked the question isn't that sad but why are we celebrating a birthday we knew the entire title at the time of birth we forgot the entire title so there should be free will wonderful but the fact is that we forgot the entire data and that's by the way one of the reasons that it's explained in this holy swarim why a baby cries a lot it's crying because I forgot to tell you right so if that's the case what are we celebrating this is a question that the river asked about any and every birthday and the answer is we're celebrating independence and Independence is greater than anything else now just to now digress and give you my own understanding of this it's an amazing thought yoini two two to say that Independence is greater than knowing the entire data is unbelievable and what's the explanation how you talking the answer is because the title that you knew from the Malik and from Hashem whatever in the mother's tomb is not a womb it's not yours and if it's not yours as far as this world is concerned it's nothing it's nothing the lesson is fascinating whatever we have from our parents whatever we have from school whatever we have from Community it's important but if you don't make something of yourself it's a big zero is it like a lot of zeros when do a lot of zeros become important when you have a one in front of it and the one is you and this that ever said is the significance of every birthday so now what's the significance of high yellow of this day so there's a famous Verdict by hasidim the Bible they would say that yellow brings highest into ello high yellow brings vitality life energy into the avoid of elbow what traditionally is the avoid of elbow you ask any Jew that's in a base mattress this is the month of making an accounting of what we did and to make a resolution not to repeat the the things that weren't good and to do only good the better because this is afraid of children but there's different ways of doing it before the belshaptive came along the way of doing chuva was in a very morbid way in a very um in Hebrew we use the word the rebel always refers to it in fact yesterday someone sent me a clip of a Robinson the daughter of a Hasidic rebbe the daughter of the capistic cerebi was married to Salman guerrari all over show them her name was and she was like the rabbits and kind she comes by the rebel she says the red bird she spoke my mother's not well my husband's going for an operation I forget what and the rabbit tells her you know you're talking here about he's talking to uh the daughter of another Hasidic rabbi that ever says it's because he is Mother Shredder because he's depressed and sad I don't mean clinical depression you know he eats down everything is dark and gloomy and and and it it you know it it it really surprised me that the rabbit is like this is a woman who's telling you that her husband's not well and the rapper shoots back at her tell him to change his attitude of from being negative to being positive I'm paraphrasing not being murdered and it won't go away and you know and I I wrote to a friend of mine yesterday briefly that I I see this pattern by several like because and activists and people who did so much for the for Chabad and foreign what's going on and what should I do with this and what should I do with that I can't raise the money I can't get the kids to school I can't open the school I don't have teachers you know all the real issues and the rapper shoots pack number one get rid of yamara Shira and you know and I'm thinking about it the ref what the rapper didn't know that life is life and problems are real he didn't know what velvel has to face every day in you know in doing surgery and dealing with his issues that he deals with of course he knew but he's telling you your attitude has to be coming from a positive side and the rabbit could speak because she was born in 1902 he had a family and he had friends and he went through the first world war the first the Russian Japanese war of 1904 1905 with four or five then the first world war 1914 then the bolshuka revolution 1917 then the second world war and communism and they're not having panosa and having to get a job he paid his dues from 1902 to 1950 48 years he paid his dues I'm telling you and even in 1950s he played his dudes but and what does he say only be upbeat so you ask Le Bobby are you for real or are you like having fantasies my husband's not well and they're every so so grab you would expect to ever say yes my dear God should bless you and he gave her the Brotherhood but he said the way to get the breakfast to get rid of your your your husband has to get rid of his negativity that's a rabbit that's Chabad khabar is not oh oh you're the best oh my poor little thing there are other systems for that if you need that and you can't take a slap on the back then if it's too hot in the kitchen get out you know and that's why Maisha sometimes you ask why are some of my friends why they didn't become Chabad and why did I become why the answer is because it's too hot for them in the kitchen so they bail out and it's fine no problem no problem but but you know there's no room here for morbidity and and sadness again I want to make it clear it doesn't mean you shouldn't cry understand I am keeper if you feel you know if you feel inside shattered and torning and doing true for that that's not the point here but the point is that whatever you see and whatever you experience the rabbit tells this rabbits in your husband's problem is Mother's clearer that's it and if we can't begin we can't begin the healing if you have a problem I don't mean you but I'm saying if one has the the negative down everything is bad and gloomy attitude you can't begin nothing will help and and it's true because it's a vicious cycle it repeats itself over and over and over and I'm talking to myself I'm talking to myself right this if I bring it so if I bring it supposed to talk to yourself right otherwise it's not a real if I'm bringing it's a show so what does that ever say that ever says the Caillou brings hyacinth you know what Kai is his life life is zest life is positive life is what can we do with this Gloomy situation that we turn it around somehow we make of it an opportunity and it's the heart of leader that's why hasidim said high yellow brings highest into yellow it brings life into evil until the balcantov came along and out the river was one big kind of problem oh my gosh rosh hashan is coming I'm gonna be judged Hashem is looking at everything I did through the year I am finished so there were those that's fasted and they cried and they gave to Dhaka and they hoped they hoped that Hashem will give them a break and give them another year and ask ask Johnny that was the way a traditionally Yeshiva raised their students that was came along said this this is what Sid this before the outdated and out and and that's why today high yellow the birthday isn't just another birthday but Sadiq even like much it's about highest they were born on the 18th of every High because highest highest life when you when you hear about Santa you become full of life I once was an event with two thousand people here in Borough Park you test Kiss Live and Rabbi official herskowitz who was a kleisenberg hasid was asked to speak and I'm telling you and I'm telling you I sold my own eyes he burst out crying I saw it Get This Kiss Live it's not it's not L it's not this ready he became so awed by the balcantas that just saying the words caused him an emotional expression now I don't see that as you know uh depression sadness I'm the contrary that's real happiness that when you you say about Santa your entire being is electrified and yes for one person it's through an emotional Outburst of Tears another person it's it's joy and dance that's up to every individual how he um how he filters belshantov but one thing's for sure belshantives about about Hyacinth life and nello do you're avoid of chuva do your avoid of independence with highest with highest so now the question is to this entire explanation right this was the bashemtiff and then I've explained that another fabbraining higher when I share it with you and that ever said the difference between the avoidable shelter the teachings of the bolshev and the teachings of the balatanya the altareba is the following the balcantas taught you how every Jew every Jew can connect with the deepest parts of God and experience Hashem Divinity on the highest level that it's possible and it to that possibility the mechanics of how to do it yeah so there is number one that you that we that the average person has a scientist has