Nasa Na #14- Sholom Bayis greatest thing - Transformation of multiplicity - Candelabra is Amida

we're on page um page 136. so we learned in yesterday's year about the kisei the chair that the issue namaste mentioned should be made for the holy person that passes by and was setting up a room for him so we spoke about the chair the third of the four or four items that the zayarakadi says are relevant and important to make a tickle to be to be with taking the shrine that's in ghost and the representation refers to shema literally without siddhis you could also understand it because when you when you say shema is supposed to be sitting kissing but siddhis and as the rebbe here calls from his ancestors and puts it into his language says that this refers to this refers to making a kaley making a vessel so that the nepheshabamis should relate ultimately to what the nephew shall accuse his teaching it and the way to do it is through the intermediary which is called the nephesh in his language the secretary the human intelligence soul the human intelligence human intelligence which there there is where free will is as i elaborated upon yesterday so through that you you make it possible for the animal for the for the for the indulgence to calm itself and tame itself that ebber uh said that this is also the meaning of means not just to listen but to gather you need to gather together your your your your faculties you see when we dive in in the morning whatever we dive especially in the morning our faculties are all over the place why we just got up and we're going to work so you don't know are you are you do you have your pants on do you have your pants off you know you you're the gun some five amish and then you go to school and someone dives fast and someone dives slow this morning um one person wanted the door open and the other guy's banging the door and the guys inside are going crazy you let the cold air in it's 19 degrees outside so therefore the door has to be locked and i'm sitting right next to the door and i like air what do we do we got chaos brother hashem we have a good a good group of guys at the at the basic minion so uh we usually stay together but the point is there is like michigan chaos so there's a there's a there's an aftershock bomb it says no officially says i don't care i want to just be under my talos and i want to focus on halal me alone with all this stuff later in the day i can have time for to be nervous and anxious and and worried and make money and lose money and and hear about this issue and all of that i have plenty of time during the day but give me this one half hour of peace you know rashi says with joseph um yaakov yaakov wanted to sit finally in peace i've told you you know yaakov yanko yanko yaakov yanko wants to sit quiet unassuming leave me alone let me just live hashem says no way yankale if you came to this world this is not a world of peace this is a world of chaos you have to turn the chaos into the peace so rashi says krift say all kafsa all of right hashem throws the wrath of joseph onto yaakov to make him move get off your loins that ebb always repeated yelling at govalda kazakh about his defeat the cabbage tomorrow's the yard side tonight tomorrow so we might as well say in the story and a story of earth he said my father-in-law my schwere was always about you hear that he always wasn't dead you know we always want to be settled have money in the bank and be peaceful and they never said my and my father-in-law saw that as a virtue as a milo not as a sorrow not as a deficiency why not because if you have a debt you got to get up and and raise the money to clear the debt if you have the money in the bank and everything is going smooth and dandy no you you're not compelled to to act so when you're compelled to act and to move around to to pay off your debts meanwhile how does that ever suggest paying off our debts we're making greater debts because the debts are for the purpose of tata so this uh this is this for this barbecue in crown heights who who um you know didn't have much and he goes to the ramp and he says i have an opportunity to buy a building i think in manhattan on the b street over there in the lower east side and he shows that a small house or building and that ever says why why why why small why not big well the same person today owns the buildings on ebbets field in brooklyn in crown heights on bedford avenue where the brooklyn dodgers used to play before they moved to los angeles so if you think next time you're in crown heights you pass by you'll see large buildings built mama's like 30 40 right well a a a yiddle uh lubavitcher owns those buildings border hashem and that came because the rabbit told him when he said i have a little money and i have an opportunity to buy a little and ever said no no no why why not big so he went and spent found another building that was bigger and he bought it and today he's a very wealthy man and about zadoka in other words what was it ever telling him you want to satisfy you want to be satisfied with something little because you can afford that i'm telling you to buy something big you can't afford right now but hashem will help you now i'm not saying that told everyone to go into debt to buy a house or buy a building i didn't say that but he you know for example to my father and to others my father told me that you know he had this response from the river the river told him to buy a two-family house so they could have a an apartment a a a a hal a house an apartment for himself and then have an income from the second unit and and that was a shita of that in the 1960s for people like my father who were you know this was the babbage and it's it's growth you know and they were building a family and it was it was a whole you know they weren't from the babbage background they weren't russians my father was a romanian this one was a polish this one's hungarian they're coming into khabad and uh and not just not but not only them even the real carbonics they're the ones from from russia that ever had this thing of buying a two-family house in in brooklyn we have two family houses because he wants you to have an income so he gave you an intelligent way of being able to make the you know the point but but going back to our point that the idea of of the struggle and this is really what it says in chapter 27 and tanya the struggle should be embraced don't reject struggle hug it embrace it because it's for our benefit as it says love criticism for it puts you on a higher and special plateau look forward to someone who's genuine to criticize you to criticize because he's doing it for your benefits so you'll grow so why am i saying all this because when we say shima when we say shima we're sitting down we're now able to sit and think with our talos over ahead our eyes covered or just quiet and at that time we reflect on shema again from the meaning gather that's what i was telling doesn't only mean listen means gather yourself together get gather the disparate parts in your being and bring them together israel you is yasir yasser kale k refers to the middle of the never shallow kiss in this mimer that's the way he explains it and you have to make it yashar now he's going to the word yashar with a shin yashar with a shin means proper right one you have to make for multiplicity oneness unity and this is a job this is an aveda we all know one of the biggest mitzvahs that we say in indonesia when you bring peace between husband and wife you're guaranteed a box seat and gun aiden and those that have a talent in that area should should really do it because you mamish will keep yiddish families together and here i want to you know for a moment divert and say because you know my urim are heard by many people who are not you know in the class but online so it's important to share messages for the larger jewish world and that is that it's better to be in a marriage that maybe according to you or your wife isn't rosie and dozy then give giving i'm making a general statement so don't you know given that there's no abuse on and on and on then breaking it up i've seen and you probably imagine you've seen people break up many times and they're so miserable and they end their life in misery and loneliness okay your marriage wasn't the greatest right i that that that's a fact i'm not going to dispute that dispute that that could be the case but first of all if you're a believer and and especially if you got a broker from or even if you didn't you believe that god sanctified your marriage through the rabbi officiating and making a barakah with hashem's name that's from heaven you understand who says you're going to be happier on the other side it's it's it's it's it's not necessarily true could it be of course it could be and and this and the arizona by the way already talks about that second marriages second souls but i don't want to discuss that now it's a very delicate subject and i'm not prepared to talk about it but the idea that it's greener the grass is greener on the other side it is not greener on the other side okay yeah so sometimes the macholicus the screaming and the arguing and everything else dissipates but that comes with a price that ebb is shita you know if we've just listened to the rabbit followed the laboratory and he spoke and i i i documented my book rebbe's advice and every type of issue you want to ask and think about he had some advice from schizophrenia to pictures to um to intimacy to having children to investing in stocks versus real estate it's all there i'm telling you because i translated the letters i know it's all there so what's the episode advice that ever told people who didn't have a harmonious marriage wait till you chill for your children to grow up before you you divorce and i know people who did that i i know that not that they ever told them to to divorce but if they with their free will came to this determination that ever respects that i know a case i was involved in this case someone whose wife as someone who he and his wife were having a lot of discord and his wife wanted to teach him a lesson so she decided not to go to the mikveh so he comes to me he says i can't anymore i have to i have to you know it's not this this is evil rabbi do you give me the go-ahead divorce i say i i was a much younger rabbi at the time this is 30 35 years ago i said i'm not prepared to give you a green light so do what you you know what should i tell you write to the river so he listened the lucky thing is he listened to me he wrote to the rebel and within hours the rebbe answered the rebels said quote say great how great shalom bias is how great keeping a marriage together is and i will mention you at my father-in-law's gravesite the o hill which basically means the rabbi said to him stay put the next miracle is he listens to the rapper and today he's happily married with grandchildren yeah yeah she didn't go to the midfield because she was getting back at you but you were doing some jerky stuff to her that really upset her she didn't want to go to the mix before you it's a two-way street and that eva could have easily said yeah it's it's three six months you know i said what knows what i told him i didn't tell you i told him let's give it another three months so three months and three months and six months and it's still the same situation he says rabbi now grant me give me you know let me you know you bless you bless me to get divorced so you know so there's no there's no in a way there's no rules in a way there is rules you know my point is we're learning here about the take making oh take one second making of multiplicity oneness the greatest thing is to bring people together in business disputes in teenagers with their parents adults with their parents if a person has the ability to sit down with people this is such a great mitzvah they tell a story i don't know the details i don't there are details where once the the ribbon and this and the rabbits and disappeared no one knew when they found them on eastern parkway blocks away this is probably the 50s and 60s 50s and they were in someone's house they heard that there was discord and it was online i think my and the rabbit the rebecca went themselves there to try to bring showing between people yes moisha river dolphins quick question for you um based on what you've been sharing in your opinion do you feel that most marriages not all but most marriages can be uh not just saved but turned around for the good if both husband and wife are willing to roll up their sleeves and really really do the work to to improve i that that for sure i believe i i'm even saying more even if they if either doesn't want to roll up their sleeves as a general statement it's better to stay together than to break up again if there's abuse if there's you know screaming and hollering and and hitting and and and total nuts you know it's another right right but but in other words if it's just kind of uh between it's never just you know it always impacts the kids but you know that there is no the normal disagreements and discord and then there is cocoa ones you know you know i i just want to tell you i i think i've told you you know in holocaust homes you know post holocaust homes there's a lot a lot of tension you know i don't think any of you are from those homes and there's a lot of stress you know today it's less because you know we're up towards the end of the that era but this was this was common and and the pressures and and and the and the scars you know it it it it made you know like in communities like ours here boro parks williamsburg you know even flatbush you know it was um a very big reality you know and what i heard from from my grandmother who was a polish woman and a survivor you know like she was always i think it's she would quote it i think from the gemara i'm not sure if it's the gemara but it's somewhere you know if you would say if the word divorce is mentioned of this house god rises from his chair and you know she and she said it with a way of like scaring you know scaring everyone don't you ever mention but meanwhile this bickering and there's this and there's that that's normal those oh you understand that that generation and and culture it was a whole different way of looking at things now in america they're just royal today in today's free world and it's not it's not that way but you know i'm an american but i i'm very much european because my influence on my parents and grandparents and my culture i see in many americas that didn't grow up with the european uh culture impact there is this you know kind of you know formal attitude like if it doesn't work we'll go on we'll find someone else we won't there isn't the it's like not in your blood like you know the way i was raised and my friends and my culture is like it's in your blood you marry that's it for good bad of the ugly that's it it's from heaven you have to go through what you have to go through avraham avraham are you following this are you are you familiar at all with with what i'm saying uh um is this uh a new uh new thinking for you new ideas no i've been married to 33 years with my daughter beautiful no no i understand but but i know but i've been i've been through these different phases of relationships right right but but when i was in it yeah and work you know yeah what what i'm saying is so so it just hit me when the rebber speaks in this mimer about making of multiplicity of two right he speaks about um uh making uh yashar israel is your yashar kale making things that are disparate and separate making it yashar making it proper and one so this just fell into you know the importance of of shalom bayes of bringing people together i know you know moshe you know you you're you're not being in shul and you know you know you you're exposed to all kinds of things i'm just saying that you know whether it's you or someone else who has a talent in this area it's it's a tremendous horse and it's hard work and it's like again i gotta you know it but that's right people have all their life till 120 they they if they if they had us a talent and bringing people together they did it and it took away time for their family took away time for their job and and there was a headache and and but you can't imagine the great host of doing such a thing so in the mimer you're innocent the mimer that ever talks about it you know bringing from making two to one i i was recently in florida by my son and two sisters had a yard sight for their mother i had a slation i think for their mother or it was the first year i forget they and they gave after myra mildweek they gave us a sudah and the rabbi the khabad rabbi you know mentions all the mentioned that and then one of the sisters starts speaking and it was it was you know it was all we didn't know them she didn't know us she says for years my sister and i didn't speak and the sister standing there we didn't get along and it was and it ate up my mother she and her mother died not knowing that the death brought them together they were standing together and they made up to live in peace now i'm asking you you know i was thinking about it sitting there it's wonderful on one hand the other hand is very sad you need death death should death should bring you together why why couldn't you make her before so your mother could witness as she's dying her two sisters her two daughters together or maybe maybe i'd say maybe she saw them the last few weeks or months together but the point is most of the life she was she was so upset that her two daughters don't get along don't talk to each other so it's it's important to to know this and especially when it comes to wills and estates and parents leaving over uh yerushas and the fights and it's well i can tell you my friends when you make your will make it clear and and do it in a way where everyone knows ahead of time what you're doing and you call the shots don't leave it up to your kids that's what i can tell you because the best of the best have different ways of doing things and understanding and one's upset and was not upset but if you pre you know set the rules and it's in writing that's it it's like um why she and i spoke about the uh what's the rabbi the the son of the rabbi uh your rabbi his son is married to the family of the rebel saudi guard the fact that the previous rebbe of sadikor left clear instruction that he wants his youngest son to be a rabbit dispute it or not like it or not that's what he said now now it's up to the people too and to listen not to listen but he made himself clear he made himself clear so now everyone has to be honest themselves and say do i want to listen to my rebbe who i was his cousin hey see this this this is where it becomes very tricky do i listen or do i say rebbe you made a mistake you miscalculated then you thought your younger son is the one that should be because maybe he's less political maybe he has the future ahead of him whatever whatever these are these are issues to making from from multiplicity is the greatest thing let's learn some cities inside because we can keep on for bringing here we have to learn some citizens inside page 136 fahine now he goes to the fourth item that she made minera she made a candelabra for him says that ever in the name of the zayatesh the standing prayer the amidah that's why it's called amidal to stand the krishna slice of the yoshi of krishna is called the prayer of sinning prayer meditation reflection of godliness in a comprehensible way which is known as beena this is the idea of shema now here he translates mod with mind with analysis with comprehension and here he quotes the verse da bear speak kisho maya of for your servant understands listens in the sense of understanding so go ahead speak i understand what you're talking about [Music] the comprehension of god's exaltedness in the of the infinite god five days above his spirals alive and because one understands the godliness that one reflects upon [Applause] all emotionalism is exciting excitability mortgage like jonas said the other day when you're using your cycle to understand godliness it's not just saying words well when you say abram in the morning you have to stop and think not just the translation of the words but the ideas that we've been learning here the meditation the reflection and understanding subservient is is is is humble is totally annulled here mush is not the place monastery to be in the reflection mood in the meditative mood here is to be in the expert experiential mode mode sorry mode in the experiential mode you're innocent of allowing yourself to be uplifted through prayer for whatever you're doing for this monastery as it says and after the man i'm sorry and after the fire there was a silent silent sound the age he next page 137 urdish bay ace refers to a burning desired your heart's on fire you're storming i want god god is so delicious i understand him i love him i want him you're all all worked up by dying very nice but because you're in a sitting position and in a sitting mindset that means that your metsyout your being in existence is still associated with yeshua's of ego it's a very refined ego a humbled ego but it's still ego there's still an eye who wants you hear that there's an eye that wants god that's why you're all emotion charged up and and noisy you see when are you noisy and charged up when it's not you right when we breathe in the morning do we get all excited dancing and laughing and no it's natural because that's who we are breathing but imagine [Music] if you can't got to breathe well then you put on a breathing machine and things like that boy are you excited and i can tell you that from you know from from people who've had you know sleep apnea and things like that and they need oxygen and in other words it's not natural for them to have that and then yet they have it they get all excited and worked up and they see that it's the best thing since the creation of of of uh mayonnaise and um and wonder bread right so the volume is words i love these words if one's entire existence my which there because say yes his ego would be miss battle would be nullified like how you manage he wouldn't make noise oh come take a log of fire that's burnt through fire in a closed martial arts like this as long as the the fire hasn't burned through and through the log it's bustling and making noise from the fire that's that's going into every part of the of the log advocation is of course just aids but when the the physical material log has been totally consumed and burnt us in a modest cloud but if you put your finger in you get burnt and if you stick in you know you'll see a spark come out and you know when the primary heat of the log is not when it's still catching on fire and crick and crackling and making noise but rather after it's consumed and from the outside it looks like there's no fire there you touch it you're really going to burn yourself how do you like that muscle i love it [Applause] yes you still have some ego there foreign and passionate way but but so it's not you so the the yes still exists because that represents my one second that represents complete unknown on a nullification of self yes my you know previous learning didn't we um discuss that krishma is connected or representative of um there's an element of like touhou and schwann is that does that ring about my i feel like i feel like we we touched on this um okay all right i don't want to take this off if no no i i i anyway if if you could find that you know send me a no a message i'll look into it okay we'll stop him tomorrow we're going to have a fabric for you and you want to make sure to light a candle tonight learning speak to your family about the freedom and what he did there's many secrets many videos many clips and they should help jab mashiach right away did i should be back with us and uh we'll have everyone wanna mind at the oh hell let me just share them if you have a special request or any request you could what's up me and berlinette when i get to the oil we'll have it in mind have a good day thank you thank you thank you